#And there are sex-positive asexuals who don't mind or even enjoy sex

[eggcats]

I'm still (always) thinking about my Housewife Vox AU, so here are my sexuality/history/etc headcanons for Alastor and Vox in it

(I kind of have more for Alastor here, bc almost all of my Hazbin ships involve him so he's the one I've thought about more - I kind of keep similar headcanons no matter what ship I'm thinking of, tbh).

I'm also going to write Alastor being in a rut in this AU, because those fics are always fun, and he will be having sex but it'll be more in a "my mate is aroused and I must please them" kind of way, if that makes sense? I kind of see him as sex-neutral/positive asexual, even in a rut, but the rut makes him a little (lot) more feral and in less control of his instincts. (This is why, before he got into a relationship with Vox, he's never really been affected by the sexual aspects of a rut, because he's only interested in sex as far as his mate is).

(I know my fic kind of tiptoes around any possible consent issues, but I think having Alastor react like this kind of solves it in a way, because he's only interested in making his mate feel good so if Vox didn't want something or began to not like it, Alastor would immediately stop to comfort his mate. However, since he's never before had ANY of his deer/demonic instincts really show before, none of them are sure how he'll react this time, hence the concern).

(I don't mean this in a way to insult any other Alastor-rut fics, trust me I love them, this is just how I'm writing mine here).

I put a readmore here bc I realized how many words I was writing and didn't want to clog your dash, lol.

Alastor:

Asexual - is generally so uninterested he has never masturbated or even considered doing so; knows and understands sex (in a baseline level) but doesn't know anything further as he never wanted to engage or see it; still is only interested in it in a way to experience/watch Vox enjoy himself, wouldn't engage on his own otherwise

Possibly aromantic - the line between "romantic love" and "this person belongs to me" is essentially the same to him, could not tell you the difference (side note: neither can I)

Doesn't know either of those things

Just thinks "I'm the only normal motherfucker alive/in hell when it comes to relationships" and has not had a single question in regards to himself since

Doesn't really understand the difference between being friends/roommates and being in a relationship (hence when he found out that Vox liked him, he was like ah, okay. I don't need to change anything here, since he thinks we're in a relationship, this must be what people DO in a relationship. No need to mention any of this to Vox, surely)

When eventually I do make him have sex, he doesn't really have a preference in position. Generally, I'll include him as the more dominant partner (especially with Vox), but that's more because that's what VOX wants, and Alastor is being intimate for Vox. He has no real preference on who tops and who bottoms, as long as Vox is enjoying himself (and Alastor gets enjoyment out of the act when Vox is)

The same applies to dancing - Alastor teaches Vox how to swing dance, but once Vox learns and becomes more comfortable, a lot of their dancing has them constantly switching the lead and following position, based on whatever they feel like doing at the time

Despite living in the 20s/30s is fairly open minded about a lot of things relating to gender and sexuality, because he lived in the vice district in New Orleans and was exposed to a lot of that (either growing up, or living there as a serial killer, or both).

Some parts of me think that after he murdered his father when he was only around 13-15 (another headcanon of mine), his mother needed a way to make money and so they moved to the vice district, and so Alastor knew and grew up with sex workers and cross-dressers and saw how they were treated by police/society, and so has no issues with them.

Living there when he was a serial killer was also useful, because no one bothers anyone to avoid the risk of setting the police on you.

He doesn't know a lot of more modern terms for things, but Vox wanting to wear a dress doesn't concern him, nor does being in a relationship with a man, since those were things he not only had experienced/seen when he was alive, he's also been in hell for 20 years which is, as a whole, a lot more open minded about things. (I did try to keep him ignorant of more modern things, tho, like he doesn't know anything about things he would have only seen/experienced in hell because he doesn't care about people or relationships, really).

Probably some form of autistic (same, bestie) and takes a lot of cues about how their relationship should be from Vox (which is why he originally didn't feel the need to change his behavior even when he found out Vox was interested in him, because it didn't occur to him at all, and only discovered Vox was sexually interested when it was shoved in his face - however, now that he knows, he's taken a much more active/possessive role in their relationship, including a sexual aspect)

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Vox:

(Previously) closeted bisexual

Grew up/lived/married/died in middle Americana, white picket fence, 2.5 children, all the houses looking identical, 1950s desperate housewives edition, the whole shebang

DID have a cult, but I'm thinking less Manson, and more "televangelist who extorts his flock for money/power" - this is why he has his hypnosis powers (he doesn't really have them/have discovered them yet, but that's because he's never really had a chance to explore his powers in any real capacity - he basically showed up in hell and then was kidnapped and wifed up immediately)

Did have a wife and children, but wasn't interested in either of them - had them more so because he "had" to and it would look bad for his image, not out of any attraction or love to his wife

All of this contributes to him doing everything he can to try to hide his attraction to Alastor, because he had to do so in life

He's Really Bad At Hiding It tho, because living with Alastor (who, even before he learned Vox was interested in him, has very little boundaries to physical space and just grabs and touches him all the time) is different than being a little attracted to your neighbor

Also, no one in hell calls him out on it, so he never quite realizes how obvious he comes across

Does eventually start his side of the media business, with the help of Alastor, to combine both radio and television to take over the airwaves entirely - becomes the Television/Video Demon, to complete the Radio Demon

Stops Alastor from murdering any and all other media demons/demons who have similar powers over the airwaves, and instead makes deals for their souls to work for him - this is where a lot of his initial power/dealmaking comes from as he rises to also be an Overlord; even when Alastor is the one who finds a media demon he basically just kidnaps them and drops them at Vox's feet like a cat presenting a half-dead mouse to it's owner

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(Note: I'm aware that Alastor is canonically asexual and he's still in my AU, and I've heard back and forth about him being canonically aromantic and I'm unsure if you'd classify him as aro here too. I'm ace, and I think (maybe?) I might be on the aro spectrum, but regardless I kind of write Alastor like how I'd see relationships/would develop into one in a similar way. I'm not interested in sex or anything, and I've been interested in people/relationships very rarely (and those I am, once I become close friends I'm usually like, oh cool, yay), so I'm kind of using myself as a baseline to figure out how Al feels about things here.

That being said, I don't agree with people harassing other creators who DON'T make Alastor ace or aro in their fics or art, bc it's fan content and so it doesn't matter. Changing a sexuality in a fanfic isn't the same as Actual Erasure and it's wild that people claim that, because I've been reading fanfic since I was 13 and I PROMISE you none of those characters were as queer as I was reading them, lmao. Despite all evidence to the contrary, when they grew up Naruto and Sasuke did NOT fuck nasty in the Hokage office, no matter how much they should have.

Sorry rant, over.)

#hazbin hotel #housewife vox #fic #mine #alastor #vox #long post #like i said i'm using myself as a baseline for a lot of Al's feelings towards sex and relationships here #radiostatic

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

going to format this like a reddit post because it’s the only way. i (transmasc) don’t know if i’m sexually attracted to the girl (transfem) im having sex with. i’ve known for a while that i’m asexual and fuck for fun, and when i see my friend who i’m fucking, i don’t have any immediate overwhelming desire to have sex with her, unless we’re like, in the moment yknow? like i totally forget that it’s even an option bc i could just sit there and talk to her for hours as my friend bc i love (platonic) her dearly and we have a lot of stuff in common. my only quip is that like, is that sexual attraction ???? being in her bed and having our hands on each other and kinda feeling it then? but not at other times? is sexual attraction constant?? maybe im bisexual and aromantic. or maybe i’m regular bisexual and i just dont like romantic relationships. makenzie why are human minds so goddamn difficult to parse the emotions of? i want to be her friend but im confused by my emotions towards her. how am i consistently having sex with someone im not literally sexually attracted to? and liking it? i mean that kinda has to be sexual attraction right? idk. help girl (gender neutral)

hi anon,

have a seat. drink some water. take a deep breath. we're wildly overthinking this.

what you call yourself - asexual, aro bi, bi but not into romance, whatever - that doesn't actually matter.

here are the things I'm worried about here: are you feeling at all pressured or coerced here? given the choice would you want to stop having sex with this person? do you feel comfortable setting boundaries and saying no when you have sex? you don't need to be overcome with raw sexual yearning for your sexual buddy, but do you enjoy and look forward to having sex with her? is this a positive experience for you?

it's fine to have sex even if you don't walk around thinking about it drooling like a horny cartoon wolf, whether it's because you're asexual or just allosexual without a particularly vigorous sex drive. (the line between those things can be pretty blurry and is pretty up to you to define, by the way.) sex can be fun and feel great; it's fine to want to do that even if you don't have a longing in your loins for it.

think of it this way? I don't particularly like most vegetables, but I like how my body will feel when I eat them, so I make a point of doing that as much as I can. and when I cook them they'll usually come out pretty tasty, and I'll enjoy or at least fell neutral about them. and still doesn't mean I like vegetables, or at least I don't particularly identify as someone who likes vegetables, but I did. eat those vegetables.

the sex is vegetables.

I can't tell you if this is sexual attraction. but also it doesn't matter very much as long as you're being safe and having fun.

#sex edventures 2024

[gabessquishytum]

I am feeling Ace!Dream in this Chili's tonight, so-

Can be human au or canon, but Dream and Hob get talking about sexuality stuff, and Dream mentions he's ace and Hob, in honest curiosity and also so he can avoid making Dream uncomfortable in the future, is like "oh rad, so are you sex averse? neutral? positive?" And Dream sort of narrows his eyes and is like "Why would I have sex if I don't feel sexual attraction?" because Dream has had a million experiences of people trying to convince him that they could "change his mind" or that he hasn't found the right one yet, etc. and he's expecting a similar answer from Hob- to tell him that he should have sex just in case he's not REALLY asexual.

But Hob just shrugs and is like, "For fun I guess."

Dream blinks at him. "For... fun?"

"I mean, yeah? Sex is supposed to be fun! But if you don't like it there's nothing wrong with that, I was just curious. Let me know if talking about it makes you uncomfortable, so sorry if I pushed just now."

And Dream. Isn't sex averse. He was just averse to having sex with people who had messed up motives about it and just wanted to "prove something" to him.

But. If SOMEONE *looks pointedly at Hob* just wanted to have sex to have fun and feel good? And would still fully respect Dream's identity without hesitation afterwards?

Well. Sign Dream up 👀👀👀

🦇

This is so great!!! I'm very much vibing with this ace Dream representation!!!

I feel like the concept of fun is generally a bit of a mystery to Dream. He feels like he can't or shouldn't enjoy himself. He's seen sex as a means of reproduction, a means of expressing sexual attraction, even a means of manipulation. But he's never heard sex described as something that could be fun or... recreational? Just something to enjoy for the sake of enjoyment?

Now, Hob does experience sexual attraction but he also enjoys sex because the endorphins feel great, he likes how it makes his body feel and also he enjoys having a silly goofy time?? And he would like to do those things with Dream!! But only if Dream would also like this.

Dream is hesitant, but it is... fun. And interesting, and generally pleasant. When Dream focuses on what he does feel, instead of all the things that he thinks he SHOULD be feeling, sex becomes something that he can enjoy. He doesn't feel like a bad partner. He feels a connection with Hob that goes beyond attraction. A closeness that he hasn't had the opportunity to feel before.

He can't wait to feel it again.

#🦇 anon #the sandman #dreamling #nsft

[graylinesspam]

When having discussions about MY OWN Asexuality these are some graphics and anectdotes that have made it easier for me to explain it to them.

Since I have had so many curious people on my Ace poll, I'm gonna give it a shot and complie it together in a post.

Firstly, the basic deffinition of Asexuality:

As stated in the graphic, libido, or a hormonal urge for sex is not the same thing as an attraction to another person. In basic terms being horny does not equal having a want to have sex with another person.

I'd like to acknowledge that there is more to the Ace spectrum than just flat ace before I make my next point, so here's my favorite graphic.

These are just three of the many sub-identities on the ace spectrum with some basic definitions but they get the point across about differing levels of the lack of sexual attraction.

Because sex can look different to a lot of asexuals. There are plenty of asexuals that despite missing the initial spark of attraction that mighty motivates an allosexual person, don't mind or even enjoy having sex, for the romantic intimacy with a partner or even just for the endorphin release.

But there are many more asexuals that have a more complicated relationship with sex that can intersect with other aspects of their life like their personal relationships (see demi), their past traumas, their romantic orientation, or their sexual kinks.

One of the basic struggles of Asexuality is determining what qualifies as "sexual attraction"

When you rarely or never experience sexual attraction it may be hard to distinguish between different attractions.

Anecdotally, I base my concept of someone being sexually attractive on my Aesthetic and Sensual attraction. I do this for a shorthand to relate to other people in my life who experience sexual attraction. Partly because I find the concept of sex fascinating to discuss and partially because I love collecting my little group of fictional characters that I project my sexuality onto. I choose them based on whether I enjoy looking at them (which trust me, does not adhere to societal beauty standards) and whether I think being physically close to them (sensually) might be pleasant.

I say this because I think it is a common experience for Asexual people. I am honestly astonished that my poll had such an even distribution of answers. It was really just for fun and not a well-thought-out series of answers. Most people noted that multiple of the answers suited them. But the most common comments I got on that poll were that interms of fiction or media of some kind, they were sex positive. But when it came to any reality where they themselves would engage in sex, that was an entirely different answer.

Well, here's my personal reflections on that same concept within myself that others may or may not relate to.

When I was still in the process of figuring out my own Asexuality, I was confused by the concept of having an extremely high libido and a collection of fictional crushes, but no irl attraction.

At the time I was also heavily into dissecting other social tangles such as the way that men view women through their own societal lens of sexuality. And the biggest argument at the time was "If you only find big boob, flawless skin, totally obedient hentai women sexually attractive, then you're probably not actually into women. Because none of the real ones look like that." Which is true.

This made me think about why I found specifically onky fictional people attractive. Which boiled down to a set of ideals that I could never expect a real person to live up to. If the only way I can even consider being sexually attracted to a person is with them following a humanly impossible set of ideals, then I'm probably just not actually attracted to anyone.

And that's fine. It sounded scary at first. But I grew used to it.

When you take the attraction factor out of sex many people will lose interest entirely. Sex can be a really complicated and messy buissness. There's so many factors you have to consider like, location, time, partner, physical discomfort, physical and emotional vulnerability, body fluids, contraception, std testing, and a plethora of other things that can be really overwhealming even if you are really motivated to have sex. If you arent? Many people don't see a point in it.

But some do and having sexual experiences and even enjoying them doesn't make you any less asexual. There are whole kink groups that are ran and populated by asexual people because kinks gives a structure to the otherwise chaotic buisness of sex and makes it more appealing to them. On top of that kinks can be arousing reguardless of your sexual orrientation and may make it easier to engage in sex.

I'd like to add, for my own peace of mind, that asexuality can feel very isolating. Many people want a partner that finds them sexualy appealing. And that's understandable. But try not to think of your sexuality as limiting. Because asexuality can open so many doors in the queer community that you may not have considered yet.

Being Asexual means you don't have attraction to any gender, meaning that you may be open to dating or having a QPR with others regardless of their gender.

Sex repulsed? You certainly may be able to meet the needs of another asexual person especially if they are sex repulsed too. Having the pressure of sex removed from a relationship can be so relieving.

Asexual people also occupy a space outside of the societal norms of what is considered sexually appealing. And may often completely disagree with general society about what they find attractive. There's a lot of ace people I know personally that are with their partners purely for domestic compatibility and not for appearances at all. This may actually lead to stronger relationships. Even though the process of vetting others looks a bit sterile or like a buisness deal, it's more effective in finding somone you genuinly like and agree with. Someone you can spend forever with.

It also opens doors to people of all types of physicalities.

These are really just anecdotes, but I feel there's so much us ace get put down for. I'd like to lift the community up for once.

Final thoughts on the matter (unless I am asked to elaborate) are that Asexuality is a hugely varied expirience. It affects people in many different ways. And it can be really confusing to figure out. But the point of the poll I made was to point out how many ace people there are just in my orbit on Tumblr. We are not alone. There are so many more of us than you might think. Thousands. And I for one am so excited about that.

(I didn't credit the graphics bc i've had them saved for years and honestly fon't remember where they came from.)

#asexuality #asexual #aspec #aspectrum #queer stuff #queer community #lgbtq community #lgbt

[marshmallowprotection]

What if saeyoung's mc is asexual??

To me Saeyoung always seemed like a person with high sexual drive but as much as i love him i am asexual and that means we will have problems in an important part of the relationship

I am open to TRYING thing and sometimes i even want intimacy (maybe once every month at most)

How do you think Saeyoung will handle this?

Is it a deal breaker for him?? You can be brutaly honest i don't mind crying 🥲

This is not a deal breaker, Anon, and I'm sorry that you feel like Saeyoung would love you any less for being who you are. Love is about so much more than sexual intimacy. Sure, there are some relationships in this world where sexual intimacy is important to partners involved, but that does not mean every relationship will somehow hold the same value. Every relationship is different!

It's important to talk to your partner about their desires as well as your own.

Always communicate with your partner when it comes to what you're comfortable doing and what you're not. You need to be on the same page when it comes to what you want. A relationship is a two-way street, and you have to work together to figure out what you enjoy doing together and what you don't.

Do not feel like you have to put yourself into any position where you do something that you're not comfortable with for the sake of your partner. A good partner would never want you to force yourself to do anything you're uncomfortable with their sake. Even if you're open to exploring sexual intimacy, don't assume you have to agree with every part of it. Communicate with your partner. Full stop.

Are you okay in one type of sexual intimacy over another?

Are you comfortable giving or receiving?

These are questions to ask yourself regardless of your sexuality, actually. Always make sure you've got a system of comfort, safe words (contrary to popular belief, you should have them for any kind of sexual intimacy, not just kink.) After all, anybody can engage in sexual intimacy if they choose to do so, sex-positive aces are valid. They’re not any less asexual because they engage in sexual intimacy now and again. Just as valid as the sex-neutral or sex-repulsed aces are.

Saeyoung loves you.

Full stop.

He loves you for who you are and what you've done for him. Please do not feel like you would never be able to have a relationship with him because you are asexual. You can, and you will be with him because he loves you. He is happy you love him, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

He doesn't need to have sexual intimacy with you to be happy for the rest of his life. If you don't want that in your relationship with him, he isn't going to be upset or feel like he's lost out on something. As long as you stand by his side and hold his hand whenever he feels like he can't fight his old demons, that is all he could ever ask for.

He has gone through so much pain in his life. Pain that he can't even begin to describe to himself, much less other people. However, being with you truly washes away that pain. He never thought he would be able to be loved by another person, and experiencing you looking into his eyes is all the pleasure he could ever want. 

Marry him. He wants a lifetime of holding you in his arms, laughing with you in his car, and celebrating life every year on a new star.

Listen, if you tell him that you want to be intimate with him, he will want to make sure that it is something you want. He wouldn't want you to do something for his sake. You two would need to have a long conversation about boundaries and what you want out of it. There are plenty of things he wouldn't be comfort doing in an intimate setting!

He may be somebody who enjoys that kind of intimacy now and again, but he doesn't need that to be happy in his relationship. If you want to explore that with him, sure, he'd be happy to do so, but only because it's you. Doing anything with you makes him happy.

If that doesn't make you happy or comfortable, he would never want to ask that of you. He wants a relationship where your wants and desires are respected just as much as his are.

You can find communication, compromise, and understanding as long as you talk to each other about what you want and don't want. He wouldn't feel like he was missing out on anything. He wants a lifetime with you and you alone, and that means doing everything with you that makes you both happy. 

If you want to explore intimacy of that nature with him, he would be happy to share that experience with you, but if you don't want to do that, don't you dare think for a second he would want to end the relationship then and there. He's comfortable taking care of those needs by himself if they spring up, frankly. 

So, yeah, you can settle comfortably into a relationship with him no matter what you want. Just make sure you sit down and talk to him about what you want and what he wants. It is as simple as that. Sex or not, he's happy with you and he always will be. He loves his asexual partner and he always will.

Do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

#as a frank reminder asexual MCs are valid as hell and if someone tells you otherwise let me know #i will bite them #the same goes for aromantic MCs

[yukidragon]

Hi, first of all I'd like to say that I love your fics and theories/hcs/asks and I can't wait for The Phantom of Sunny Day Jack knowing that you were also working on it.

Secondly, there's something I've always been wondering. Since all characters with routes are male and the MC dated Ian it's kind of a given that (and necessary for the story to progress) that Sunshine is attracted both romantically and sexually to men. But what if Jack wasn't that lucky and MC was asexual? Since sex is kinda what lovers do so in Jack's mind so it seems to make him more sure of their love/feel secure in the relationship.

And what if they were asexual and aromantic and just couldn't love him back so friendship is all Jack will ever have. He's not their only friend either, and MC has known Shaun longer so his position as someone most important in his Sunshine's life is even more threatened, how would he deal with those feelings and the jealousy?

Or even worse, what if MC was attracted to women exclusively? In aroace friendship you can still technically make him #1 very best friend or something, but here Sunshine would actually LOVE someone else without him having the chance to win them over because it's impossible for them to ever reciprocate and naturally they'd be dating someone eventually, perhaps even married a woman, and naturally most people put their spouse above all. They don't neglect other relationships, but this one is simply the most important. How would he cope with that? Since whether he even gets to exist depends solely on whether MC wants him to. Would he get involved or just let his Sunshine be happy?

Ah... you really flatter me. Thank you! It makes me happy to know that you enjoy my writing and ideas so much that it makes you look forward to the Phantom of Sunny Day Jack more. I'm still blown away whenever someone tells me that. Thank you for being so kind.

Anyway, onto the ask...

You do raise an interesting question about an MC who simply isn't attracted to men. While we have evidence that the MC is attracted emotionally/romantically/physically to men, that doesn't mean that we can't go the AU route, or examine a scenario where they realize that it's not truly what they want after breaking things off with Ian.

I have touched on MC being asexual/aromantic in a previous post and how Jack might deal with that. I believe that if MC simply was incapable of romantic and/or physical attraction, that would Jack some worries, not because he's not supportive, but I think that Jack finds love to be the closest bond people can have. I also talked about how I believe he feels that sex is closely tied to that.

The fact of the matter is that Jack needs MC. From what we've seen on the "no" route in the demo, if they stop needing him, he'll become less real and will probably disappear. In that case he'll most likely return to a place that he described as hell.

That's why I think Jack insists on MC remembering him. If he stops being important in their mind, if they stop caring about his existence... then he's gone. Not to mention the fact that it hurts like hell when the person you love doesn't love you back.

If MC was incapable of feeling romantic love, that would be painful for Jack. Still, I imagine he would hold out hope that maybe someday that could change, especially if we're still talking about a continuity where they were in a relationship with someone before they met.

I can imagine that Jack wants the relationship Ian and MC had, which I'm sure is one of the many reasons why he probably dislikes Ian. Ian wasn't satisfied with the person Jack loves and needs so desperately. Jack can't lose MC, but Ian threw them away for a fling. It's kind of a maddening thought if you think about it.

If the relationship with Ian played a part in MC realizing that they weren't sexually or romantically attracted to men, it might be just another reason for Jack to not like Ian, to be honest. Not that Jack needs even more reasons to want to take care of Ian at this point.

Anyway, since you brought up a lot of different possibilities about MC's orientation that Jack could potentially deal with, I'm going to break them down one at a time. Let's keep going with the assumption that MC figured out this aspect about themselves after breaking up with Ian rather than it always being the case for the sake of simplicity.

First, let's go with an asexual MC who is sex repulsed. They don't want sex at all, but they still can feel attracted to men romantically. It's less than ideal for Jack considering his high libido and how he associates sex with love. However, he cares about MC's happiness and consent, so he won't do anything they don't want.

A quick reminder here - the "no" route was not intended to be a case of non/dubious consent. The team behind the game have repeatedly stated that Jack cannot do anything MC doesn't want. He can't even touch them they don't want him to. The intention in the narrative seems to be for MC to be reluctant about having sex, but still making the conscious choice to have sex with Jack in that route. The option to turn down sex altogether in either route is something that the team said will be added in a future update to the demo.

That said, I think Jack could accept not having sex with MC, provided that they showed him that they love and need him in other ways. I think he'll only truly feel secure if he's convinced that he's the most important person to MC, and they'll never stop loving him. As long as they could get together romantically, and MC could show him love other ways, I think he could be happy and eventually feel secure that a strong relationship doesn't need sex to solidify a strong bond of love.

With an aromantic MC, that's a different beast, especially if they have any sort of desire to have sex with people. I have a bad feeling that if MC was incapable of romantic love, Jack would continue to pine for them. He would no doubt consent to being friends with benefits in a heartbeat. After all, it's something he can give them that they want. I think that the mood would in a lot of ways be like the "no" route, since that is a prime example of MC and Jack having sex while MC doesn't want him romantically. The sex would be him desperately giving them what they desire just to make sure they never stop needing him... while he keeps loving them one-sidedly. He might even hope that one day things will change and they'll eventually love him as long as he just keeps giving them whatever they want. It would make for a pretty depressing situation, not going to lie.

It would make things worse if the aromantic and sexually active MC wants to have multiple sexual experiences with different partners without emotional attachment. I'm sure that would fuck Jack up mentally, and we'd see his worst yandere tendencies come out. I'd expect more and more people would be getting the Nick treatment, and even wind up killing themselves because of his manipulation.

After all, MC can't choose someone else if there's no one else left to choose.

With that thought in mind, an asexual/aromantic MC might be a little easier on Jack's state of mind, at least relatively. If MC doesn't want anyone else, romantically or physically, there's no one else who they're pursuing as a lover or partner. Jack, unfortunately, is no doubt going to remain constantly insecure, especially if MC has other friends, and he might start chasing them away and encouraging MC that they don't need anyone else but him, their best friend in the world.

I believe that Jack needs to feel like he's the most important person to MC. If he can't have reassurance that they'll always care about him and want him around, then he's going to have to make sure to do something about it himself.

Now... when it comes to MC not being romantically attracted to men... it would likely be the same functionally as just not being attracted to Jack in general. It doesn't matter who the person is or their sexuality - if they become more important than Jack to MC, then he can't feel secure in his existence. He might lose them. I'm sure he can live with being their best friend if not their lover, but not if they take someone else as a lover.

Jack seems willing to be whatever MC wants him to be, give them whatever they want as long as they'll always remember him.

That isn't to say that Jack would change into a woman to suit their desires if that's the only type of person they can feel attraction towards. His body might be affected by supernatural powers given the hints we've been given, but that would be pretty messed up.

Rather, I think Jack would try to figure out what about women that MC finds so appealing in a partner. Sometimes people with strong sexual preferences have exceptions despite their sexuality. He could potentially bank on becoming that exception by giving MC everything they could ever want in a relationship with a woman. Sure they might sigh and wish they knew a woman like him, but as long as he made sure no women get close to MC, then maybe eventually they'll change their mind.

It's a foolish hope, but it might be all Jack has at that point.

Of course... this is all speculation based off the idea that MC never really realizes that Jack is insecure about his relationship with them or why he needs them so badly. Not that he's going to tell them since that might risk losing them. It's possible if MC could find other ways to reassure Jack, maybe even help him deal with his issues and his tenuous grip on reality, then maybe he could become less insecure. Maybe he could accept just being friends with MC and accept his beloved being happy with someone else romantically, even if it breaks his heart.

Naturally, since the name of the game is Something's Wrong with Sunny Day Jack, that's probably far easier said than done.

@channydraws @earthgirlaesthetic @sai-of-the-7-stars @cheriihoney @illary-kore @okamiliqueur

#Sunny Day Jack #Something's Wrong With Sunny Day Jack #SunnyDayJack #sdj #swwsdj #Headcanon Ramblings #Ask #yeesh this post got depressing

[beach-him-off-until-he-kens]

You don't have to answer if it's too personal but what is it like to have sex when you're asexual? You said it's just work. What does it mean? Why would you have sex if it doesn't do anything for you? (I'm not judging you in any way. Just curious.)

Hi! Thank you for asking respectfully! I don't mind talking about it.

My wording is gonna be really messy here because I am Not Good At Wording Things but bear with me: being on the asexuality spectrum is like... eating food, if food were sex, and sexual attraction is like being hungry. Someone who is sex repulsed will say "I never get hungry, I hate food, I will not touch it because I feel grossed out by it", someone sex neutral will say "I don't get hungry at all, but I can eat food if I feel like it, and not mind it at all" and someone sex positive will say "I don't get hungry, but I rather enjoy eating food, and I'll go out of my way to eat it even if I don't necessarily crave it."

I fall in the sex neutral category... I wanna say I'm also sometimes sex repulsed, but repulsed isn't the right word for me - I think I'm just rarely in the right mindset to "do the work" because I'm on such low energy 24/7. In regards to the analogy I used to think "I'm never hungry, but I'll eat food sometimes!" but nowadays I'm more like "I'm never hungry and I still don't exactly mind food, but damn I really just don't feel like eating... almost ever"

And hey, you bring up a good point there - I don't get turned on or aroused by real ppl, so honestly what is the point of me having sex? Well, when I'd date someone for a long time and I feel comfortable with them, if they wanted to have sex, I'd try to make some time + reserve a bit of my social battery for it, because I want them to be happy. I say "I get nothing out of it" physically at least, but I do get to hear my partner moaning with pleasure, and feeling good knowing I'm the person who is doing that for them, which is rly my main reason - I want them to be happy and to feel good and safe with me.

#anonymous #asks #but actually ive been thinking if i start dating again i dont think ill have sex anymore LOL #im too exhausted to fuck anyone who isnt fictional #i mean ill never say never. its just so tiring. and i get so drained #but maybe if i love someone ill feel emotionally energized enough to do that again #right now at this point in my life tho i am so goddamn tired all the time LOL;;;

[afreakingdork]

I know this isn't a reaction blog or whatever those type of blogs are called, but im really curious, how would WS!Donnie feel if reader was asexual and not very interested in sex? As an ace myself who enjoys smut but has never really thought about it for irl, it gets me thinking. Especially so since our beloved Donald is very much sex-positive. My first thought would be that he's a bit conflicted but is understanding and fine with it, along with some minor slip-ups. But idk! What do you think? (Sorry if this question is off or odd, feell free to pass if you're not comfortable answering! :3)

So I've actually thought about this! I love doing thought exercises within the bounds of characters and I don't think that edges into reactions/whatever blogs! I know I've been pretty vocal about that and I still can't describe the flavor, but that's not what you're here for!

Anyway! As sexually charged as their relationship is, I truly don't think WS!Donnie would mind if his partner was ace. Sex isn't something that is make or break it for him. He likes having it, but when he doesn't, it's not like he's thinking about getting his dick wet. For one, he barely had the time before and now he's got a ton of others things to catch up on with that being a very low priority. He would probably still have the same touchy need though. For what he doesn't crave in sex, he absolutely craves intimacy (whether he even realizes or would admit it).

A huge component in sex for him is pleasing his partner. Despite all the differences, at his core he's still Rise!Donatello. He's a people pleaser and wants praise. Knowing his partner is getting pleasure from something he's done or that's solely by his hand is what's most attractive to him~

So yeah, I doubt he'd be conflicted at all! Thanks for giving me the chance to throw these thoughts out there!

#ask

[qlventingspace]

Buckle up darlings, because I'm gonna expose you to my weird ramblings and sorta self-exploratory shit regarding asexuality and kink.

(this is your cue to leave if you don't wanna hear that)

After a chat with my dear friend I realized that it baffles me (in a good way, like wow this is so interesting!) how many differences there are in acespec people. How many factors are influencing our view on sexuality and how many details are often needed to explain our sexuality and our unique take on relationship with sexual stuff and relationship stuff.

You could generalize and say, asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. And it sorta is...but then... it also isn't, not always.

It's little to zero sexual attraction or it is 100% sexual attraction with the right emotional investment for a particular person or it is anywhere from 1% to 100% just under very specific circumstances or it's very randomly and unexpectedly sexual attraction or it's attraction only to fictional people and not real people or it's attraction to person as long as they don't reciprocate or...

I'm not even sure how many more different and unique details there can be that are all very different and specific but at the end of the day it just all boils down to asexuality.

I think most aces either knowingly or unknowingly doubt their aceness.

And if you throw in some confusing stuff which is not usually stated as the "universal asexual experience" then you come out of it even more confused.

Am I ace if...?

Okay, so we handled sexual attraction. How about some views on sex?

The usual: sex-positive, sex-negative, sex-indifferent, sex-favorable, ... Describing your view on sex in general, your view on others having sex, or how you yourself feel about participating.

Not confused enough yet?

Throw in some libido, then.

Masturbate just because your body needs an outlet? To relieve stress? Just cause you're curious? Or do you also enjoy it? Seek it out? You like to look at some nsfw pictures? Like to get horny? Imaginary situation to get you off is fine but not real life? And what about your special someone, real life is not okay unless it's about them?

You still with me? Still not confused enough?

Alright then, throw in Kink.

How is it that you have kink while being ace? How can you be ace if you enjoy certain kinks? *horrified gasp* Kinks while masturbating?! *clutches pearls* Are you still ace? Are you not just pretending or scared of relationships? (imagine annoying inner voice)

And now to me.

It surprised me how many people who are engrossed in VegasPete and absolutely adore and love and identify with kinky king Pete are asexuals.

I'm not saying all of you are kinky and it's none of my business. Fiction is fiction and we often love characters we do not identify one bit with.

But...

For me, Pete was kinda revelation. Distant memory. And longing.

And oh boy it had led me into another fit of re-discovering myself and re-discovering or perhaps also reshaping my view of my own asexuality.

Often people see aces as innocent, naive and awkward regarding sex and sexual situations.

So to see people headcanoning Pete (kinky and incredibly not innocent Pete!) as demi might not make sense to many people. It does to me.

I am not immune to the deep-rooted view I adopted through my more than 20 years of living "heavy kissing inherently leads to sex" and "engaging in kink is also inseparable from sex"-

I still struggle with the thought that kink doesn't need to be linked to sex. I am baffled by the thought that people do kink with other people. Or in front of other people. My mind just don't wanna grasp that.

But at the same time I understand that some things feel good on their own. And some things feel good with the added bonus of slightly different kinds of pleasure.

There is also a very clear distinction for me when I think about doing this things alone vs. doing them with imaginary someone in imaginary situation vs. doing them with someone in real life.

Bit lacking still good, good plus longing and get this away from me.

Many experiences like this seem to be in stark contrast from the experiences of the ace majority (or at least most talked about experiences that seem to be complete nah or mostly indifference towards sex, masturbation and kink). It has lead me to questioning if I am actually ace, when I have this weird relationship with sexual stuff and yet...somehow, I never felt anything but asexual.

M' point is, I don't think I had a point.

BUT I wanna spread different ace experiences and if this helps at least one ace to find themselves or to stop doubting themselves than it is worth it.

Unless tumblr decides again that my posts are not worth sharing in the assigned tags in searches, lol.

#I wanted to get this out #like it is soo weird but so interesting #can't believe I'm finally posting this #and on a bl blog at that #but it has pete in it #and my beautiful cupcake was the reason for my trip down the memory lane so yeah #I wanted to write about this for the longest of times #guess the end of the year is the best time #wanted to be even more personal but nobody signed for this #I can have my mandatory “I need to express myself very clearly out loud so I can understand myself better” in the safety of my mind #where I don't bother anyone xD #pete phongsakorn #asexual character #asexuality #asexual #acespec #lgbtq+ #pondering

[outeremissary]

Ohh Balthazar and Daeran. Somone ask that already, right? 😂

(for the alternate love interest)

Well, someone did ask that... in 2021, two weeks before Wrath released. My college friends noticed some conspicuous similarities between Balthazar and what we all knew about Daeran at the time, haha. You'll have to forgive me for working with imperfect knowledge even now- you know about the status of me and Wrath.

Despite the obvious resonances, I feel like I don't have a straightforward answer! I do think there's a lot of chemistry there. Balthazar would enjoy Daeran's sense of humor and his lavish lifestyle, and I think Daeran would appreciate his playful wit and sharpness in turn. They both have a similar cynicism about the world that would be an easy point to bond over, and they're both beautiful people- surely there is attraction there (I say with asexual confidence). I can easily see there being a spark that drew them to one another very quickly. There's even some empathy I imagine Balthazar would feel with Daeran's position and struggle with the Other.

Balthazar prefers to be the one doing the courting, but he's no stranger to having admirers. When Daeran began to make his grander romantic overtures I think it would be generally amusing or flattering, so long as he didn't feel belittled or made the subject of a joke (and his moods on these things can be somewhat capricious). If nothing else, the scandal would bring a smile to his face. He might make a game out of answering with gestures of his own. The thrill and romance of such a game would, I think, be compelling to Daeran. But I think it might be unfortunate for Daeran if he did truly fall for Balthazar...

You see, Daeran is someone who would feel very familiar to Balthazar. His lifestyle, his style of romance, his way of seeing the world... they're all not far from the types of patrons Balthazar found for himself when he still lived in Absalom. He had a talent for insinuating himself into the lives of the idle young rich, latching onto people who were naive or morally curious enough to always be seeking exotic, scandalous, or dangerous thrills. Many of Balthazar's former friends and lovers did have casually cruel personalities the same way that Daeran does at times. So there's a script for dealing with these people, and there's a thing that one gets out of being involved with them: access to power and wealth. Balthazar's never been above using sex or romance to pull himself up the social ladder. A count who's already so careless with his position? That's an opportunity for anyone smart enough to find a way to use it. Even if he did have some genuine fondness for Daeran, that would always be lurking somewhere under the surface or at the back of his mind- along with the reason he was forced to leave Absalom for the north in the first place, and the dangers of being too close with people like the Count Arendae.

I have to imagine it would be terribly devastating for Daeran to learn of such schemes were he invested in the relationship. Learning the one you cared for was really only using you, that everything really was only a game? I'm sure the end of that would be devastating. Not that Balthazar would care all that much. Though at the same time, Balthazar's good at hiding, and he really would enjoy spending time with together. So perhaps he would never be discovered after all.

At any rate, I don't think it's a relationship that would significantly change either person involved whether it lasted or not (well, maybe it could change Daeran for the worse). Balthazar would love to encourage Daeran's worst impulses to see where they go, and he might break his heart along the way. It's all a game- he can be with Daeran and be fond of him and even kill for him without any particular remorse (Liotr would absolutely not survive this), but he could never be Daeran's true love, the person Daeran can rely on through everything. Perhaps something lesser can still be satisfying, but it seems a hollow satisfaction for all involved. And Daeran is so much like the sorts of people Balthazar has known and courted in the past- it would be more like falling back into old habits than anything. Daeran can be as loving and as lovely as you could possibly imagine, but without something more challenging than a romantic streak, he'll never reach be able to make something truly special with Balthazar. But it will be fun while it lasts, won't it?

#the summer 2021 reaction from my friends to learning about daeran fell into one of two categories: #“oh god they put balthazar in the game” or “so that's balthazar's love interest right” #I was admittedly surprised by the degree to which neither thing was quite true! #I know that I had the daeran romance active on the short lived balthazar wrath playthrough #although I was going through and flipping every romance available to be active I was fooling around in every direction #galfrey. sosiel. daeran. would've done cam if I'd made it far enough and wendu if she hadn't gotten mad at him #the slutty slutty freedom of Not Playing Carmen for a while #though that's all neither here nor there #ask me emithing #ask game #dmagedgoods #balthazar lucienne #balthazar and daeran #you never know when you might want a tag again. #“moral of the story: don't fuck balthazar” used to be something of a joke with my college friends

[sflow-er]

Hi Sflow! Hope your having a good writing day :)

May I ask you 14, 30 and 39? (If you don't like or don't feel comfortable with any of these feel free to skip/ignore them).

Thank you!

Hi!! <3 I am, thank you. Lost a bit of time on a couple of unexpected things but most of it has been productive. And these are really interesting questions, thank you so much for the ask! :)

14. Are there any tropes you would only read if written by a trusted friend or writer?

Honestly? Anything too dark (e.g. abusive relationships), or even just super explicit smut. I generally steer clear of such content, but I might make an exception for a writer who I know is really excellent and/or a close friend. There's also other stuff I don't particularly enjoy, such as love triangles and cheating, so those can sometimes fall into this category too.

30. Have you ever written something that was out of your comfort zone? If so, what was it, and how did it affect your approach to writing fic thereafter?

God yeah. I think everyone who's read 'Other people's secrets' or seen me rambling about it here knows all the stuff about asexuality was extremely personal to me and putting it out there was therefore well out of my comfort zone. It profoundly changed my writing, as I'm no longer afraid of writing about it (or other personal stuff), and I will probably keep doing that in some form.

But I'm sure you'd like to learn something new that was out of my comfort zone to even write, so... I can also reveal that I once wrote kind of graphic smut. I was 18/19 and it felt like the story I was writing needed it and the readers probably expected it - so I went ahead and wrote some, basically just emulating stories I'd seen and read. At the time, I still thought the parts I felt disconnected from would make sense to me one day, and in a way, writing it was fine. It really did fit the story, and the feedback was extremely positive. But I also knew I never wanted to do it again, so all my stories since then have either faded to black or just not included sex at all.

Right now, I'm at a place where I'm open to including sex in some form if the story demands it, but I don't think I'll ever write anything even remotely explicit again.

39. Is any aspect of your writing process inspired by other writers or people? If so, who?

Wow, what an interesting question! Maybe my compulsive planning, research and obsession with detail. It's partly inspired by my work as a translator, but I'd say part of it has definitely been affected by authors I've read. I'm sure there are many, but only two come to mind right now.

One of them was an author I don't want to name because she's an awful, toxic, dangerous person. She doesn't deserve the credit, but her ability to hide hints about future events in the series in the early books really impressed me when I was young (it seemed to demonstrate some serious planning). I must stress that I had no idea what she was like, and I was completely blind to all the problematic aspects of the books at the time. I'm sorry to even allude to her now.

On a more positive note, I'd say Don Rosa has also been a pretty big influence! Not sure if you know him, but he's a now-retired comic book artist whose history/adventure stories are some of the most meticulously researched and detailed I've ever enjoyed in any medium. Through that realism, he manages to create levels of suspense, drama, and sometimes even emotional tension that are simply incredible (for example, I get goosebumps just thinking about this one scene set in a burning saloon). This is all particularly impressive because Rosa's protagonist is none other than (a young version of) Disney's Scrooge McDuck! So in a way he's actually a pretty good idol for fanfic writers, haha.

Thank you so, so much for the ask! I hope you're having a lovely night. <3

Ask list for reference.

#ask #scatteredpiecesofme #ask game #fic writing

[juiceboxerr]

earlier i was thinking about all the different things that have brought me to realizing i'm aroace, and one moment that was the most obvious, in hindsight, was my senior year of hs. that was the only time i had a "crush" without someone else pointing out that i "liked" someone, but in reality i've never liked anyone in my life haha. the boy i picked in my senior year was one of my classmates, we became friends throughout the year and i never really put much thought into liking him besides the fact that he was nice and a really good friend, but also thoughts like "this is what people my age are supposed to feel, right?" would often cross my mind. i imagine what it would be like if we dated but it was never something that just crossed my mind, i had to make an effort to actively think about such scenarios. once i graduated and didn't see him anymore the feelings vanished almost immediately, and i didn't think twice about it, i simply thought that was what everyone else experienced because i never talked to anyone about it.

my first year in college is when i discovered aromantism, before then i only know that asexuality was a thing. at the time i was living in my dorm alone and spent weeks researching and having a lot of issues with coming to terms with myself and being aromantic. before then i had tried so many labels, i've identified as bi, gay, pan, and lesbian, but none of them ever stuck for too long. so when i found aromantic it was like someone hit me with a bus. it took me a few weeks more before i could even muster up the courage tell any of my friends, which in the end proved pointless because they still accept me no matter what. i still struggled for a while because all those "what if" scenarios and feeling like i'm missing out on a huge part of life by not being able to feel what everyone else feels, which isn't the case. i can live my life just as fully as anyone else, i don't need romance or sex to be content with myself and my life. i never realized until then that i always fantasized of living on my own for my whole life anyway. i wouldn't say i'm romance replused, as i still enjoy such things in media, but more of feeling vaguely uncomfortable with thinking about romance in reality in terms of myself.

being asexual was something that crossed my mind a few years ago, and identified with graysexual specifically for a while until i thought "nah, there's no evidence that i'm ace in the first place"; however, there was no evidence that i wasn't either. it took my longer to come to terms with being asexual the second time around because by then i had already realized i was aromantic, and i thought that i could at least be "normal" in the sexual area if i was aro. i came to realize that doesn't matter and being normal isn't really a thing anyway. sexual feelings and urges have always been something i never experienced for myself and i shied away from such topics, whether about me or anyone. i was always uncomfortable with sex scene on tv and and talking about such things in a non-joking manner, but i was okay with reading it so i thought that meant i couldn't be asexual (which was before i really researched). but now nothing of the sort really bothers me as long as it isn't directed at me in any form. as of now i think of myself in terms of a sex positive but personally sex repulsed asexual.

identifying as aroace might seem simple at face value because it's asexual aromantic, right? well yes, but for me it's more complicated than that. i am aroace but i resonate more with my aromantism, in a way that's complicated to explain. being asexual is a no-brainer for me, it's just an intrinsic part of who i am and it's not something i have to think about, there's never been another option. sex is also a topic that can be easily avoided, more so if you aren't in a romantic relationship, but dating and being in a romantic relationship are topics that are harder to get out of. so while my ace identity feels like it is just me, and it would be baffling to me for someone to ever think i'm allosexual, my aro identity is me in a different sense, in a way i haven't figured out how to say yet.

geez, i kinda went off on a rant there. this might not be helpful to anyone but on the off chance it is i like sharing my story. being aro, ace, or aroace isn't a linear thing, it can stay the same or change over time. you can identify with it now but maybe later you won't. no one can tell you what you can and cannot feel or identify with, you're the only person who can decide that for yourself.

#asexual #aromantic #aroace #aromantic asexual #aro #ace #lgbtqia #cal's ramblings

[sixstepsaway]

Great post about purity culture in fandom! If you don't mind me adding on, I think another major contributor is Baby's First Literary Criticism. It as been common online to see people critiquing media through queer, feminist, etc. perspectives, and a push for diversity and positive representation of marginalized groups. Problem is, they use that purity culture framing instead of viewing these issues at the complicated, nuanced matters they are. It doesn't allow room for a particular piece of media to be good in one way or lacking in another. It doesn't take into account that one person from a marginalized group's real experience is another's tired trope. If you try hard enough you can make everything problematic. For example, is it reasonable to argue that Ed is a problematic stereotype of as moc because he is a violent pirate? Well, it's a pirate show about pirates. Lucius might be considered the 'gay best friend' for constantly giving advice, but does that really count when all his friends are also gay? And this stuff is so nuanced it's easy to pick and choose what argument is affective against your least favorite show/character/ship/etc. Voila, now everyone who likes, uh, Blackhands is a racist, homophobic, misogynistic abuse apologist. -dd anon

Oh you are absolutely right and you should say it.

I saw someone saying how nice it is to have OFMD because until OFMD the only queer shows we had were things like Queer as Folk and they said how Queer as Folk was bad rep and cringe and bad

and I wanted to scream because Queer as Folk is not bad rep! QaF was representative of a lot of gay communities. Queer people didn't have marriage equality and couldn't adopt, so they didn't ride the heterosexual relationship escalator instinctively, and so their lives ended up looking entirely different. Club culture and promiscuity was a big part of queer culture even as recently as 2005 (and I would argue it still is) and a lot of that is to do with the conversations that go on at those places about consent or just because going to a gay club you are surrounded by other queer people, instead of having to hope and pray someone is like you at a coffee shop.

Good rep vs bad rep is a reductive argument, in my eyes. The issue is quantity rather than quality, which I realize is backwards to how it usually is, but... in a show like OFMD, where you have [frantic finger counting] I'm willing to say fourteen main characters all of which are stated word of god to be queer in some way? One of them bodying the trope of 'gay best friend' doesn't actually matter

because he's just one among many. I'm-- Okay, my labels are many because my brain is a mess, but to boil it down to something simple I'm a bi ace agender/maybe genderfluid person (idk i havent dug enough into my gender stuff yet i've been putting it off like a knitting project), and I do not fucking care about the discourse around Toni Topaz or Jughead Jones

let me explain: in Riverdale there are two characters I just mentioned. Toni Topaz is bisexual and Jughead Jones in the original comics was asexual but has been in sexual and romantic relationships in the TV show.

Lots of people yell that Jughead isn't rep and he could've been, how upset they are he wasn't made ace like the comics, etc etc

I don't because I am an ace person who has had sex and relationships and plans to do so in the future

so Jughead boning Betty in s1 does not bad ace rep make. He's never looked at Betty or whoever and gone (as far as I know, I'm behind on the show), "Man, I am so cishet. I am so sexually attracted to you in an allosexual manner." though I wouldn't put it past the writers to have him say something like that lmao

so maybe he isn't sexually attracted to her but enjoys sex with her anyway. Maybe he isn't romantically attracted to her but loves her anyway (though asexual =/= aromantic but that's beside the point)

and Toni Topaz has been criticized for being a "slutty bisexual stereotype" or whatever, but... she's fine? She's just... a person living her life? She fucks Jughead, she fucks her girlfriend, she fucks... idk, I think she has a boyfriend now I'M BEHIND OKAY

to me that isn't bad rep it's just... a character. Potentially not a well-written character because Riverdale (again, I am behind, maybe it's not as bad as I imagine) but still just... a character

When the 100 killed off Lexa, the issue wasn't that they killed A Lesbian, the issue was they killed the only lesbian, thus taking away 100% of the lesbians from that show at the time (though I think Niylah became a main character later? I don't know. She was just a one or two-off at the time iirc). plus the writer was a toxic piece of shit about lexa and wielded her as a way of getting his follower count up on twitter and then killed her off but that too is beside the point

We don't need good rep or to delete all bad rep from the universe. We need more rep, period. We need more lesbians and more gays and more bis and more queers and more people of color and so on. We need shows with diverse casts to be so common we don't have a metric fucktonne of people looking at OFMD and hoping for Perfect Rep because it's all they're getting.

Queer as Folk's characters felt real. They felt like real people. Brian's fear of getting old (I had the realization the other day that he was, in fact, 29, and I nearly cried), Mikey's fear of being alone, Ben's fear of bringing Mikey down with him, Justin's fear of never being loved, etc etc. None of them were good or bad rep, they just were, much like the characters in OFMD.

Assuming the party line of 'Izzy is a homophobic homosexual', are (general) you telling me you've never met a homophobic homosexual in your life? Bet you have. Lots of us have. Izzy isn't good or bad rep, he's just a guy, and a guy who could easily exist in real life, flaws and warts and all. Violent men of color exist just as much as cute lute-playing men of color do.

Good rep is not a goal we will ever achieve because the goalposts will always change. The quantity of rep, the variety of characters of color, the variety of queer characters, the variety of queer characters of color are what matters the most.

We need more rep, not to be cherrypicking and pruning the rep that looks a little ugly on the outside to some people.

Real people look ugly on the outside to some people, too.

#fandom discourse #purity culture #izzy's dd anon #also anon do you ever sleep #i feel like you're always around #are you hydrated? #take care of yourself please nonnie #we care about you #ask

[pipstr]

Hello i recently started following you and i consumed most of your blog and i can say i relly enjoy it, thank you ! i have the following question: what fo you think about shunsui and aizen relationship ? Like not necessary in the romantic way.( but i don't mind for

(Because i feel like i eant to see more of their dynamic , idk why, i just like it)

first of all, thank you for your kind words! I am very pleased :3 now to the question. I like their interactions, their dynamic and even how they look together kjkjkjkajdsak

I have two positions on this: one is rational, based on logical conclusions, and the second is purely horny, satisfying for my carnal needs.

1)Kyoraku wants Aizen executed as soon as possible. He is aware that Aizen is dangerous not only as the owner of one of the strongest zanpakuto in Gotei and as the best (probably) kido master, but also as a wordsmith. We have seen several times how much Aizen's words affect the thoughts and actions of other people (Kaname, Hinamori, Komamura, Hisagi and others). Aizen is a first-class provocateur and manipulator, and therefore any weak or lost people looking for support can easily become his puppets. Do not forget about those who remotely, without meeting the man in person, began to admire the strength of Aizen and even recognized him as superior and most worthy. And therefore, simply depriving him of his strength (even if we assume that it is possible) will not help much. Because if Aizen opens his mouth, he will instantly involve everyone in the whirlpool of his thoughts and plans.

However, despite this dislike, Kyoraku is still ready to interact with Aizen. It is he who frees him from muken, while saying that their plans coincide. That is, Kyoraku is ready to close his eyes to the fact that Aizen is evil, because he is interested in defeating an even greater evil. Aizen, in turn, considers Kyoraku an interesting person.

I think that they are both quite deep characters, with a lot of thoughts and certain views on the world. Perhaps they have more similarities than differences. But the main stumbling block is “the end justifies the means", part of Aizen’s worldview that causes such a strong dislike from Kyoraku. Though, at the same time, after freeing Aizen, Kyoraku himself resorted to this rule and therefore (it seems to me) once again drew Aizen's attention to himself.

In general, Kyoraku would be at peace (primarily on behalf of others) if Aizen was executed. Aizen is interested in probing deeper into the ground of Kyoraku, so he is ready to provoke him in every possible way, to uncover what may lie underneath his regular person.

This view on this relationship turns out to have no romantic subtext, because in my "logical and ingenious perception of bleach", Aizen is asexual and perhaps if he resorts to flirting (which I VERY MUCH doubt), it will be only a way to achieve his goals.

2)In the second view, everything is more basic. Pure love-hate. Kyoraku just uses Aizen when he is under too much stress, just to distract himself and let off some steam. He resorts to any methods that come to his mind. Tags like "rough sex", "dub/non-con", "suffocation (up to death because Aizen can't die. One of the reasons why Kyoraku is upset :c )", and so on. Aizen is, if I may say so, "entertained?". He takes the opportunity, prying the information on the affairs of the Society of Souls (unsuccessfully), and trying to find out how to take over the mind and goodwill of Kyoraku, luring him to his side. Everything they experience is mutual. Hate. A strange, hardly explicable attraction.

#askbox pipstr #kyorai

[girlthings48pt2]

A li'l about me:

What am I looking for?

I have begun posting pictures of myself recently, and I love hearing people's reactions to them. Definitely feel free to send them through. Not a fan of dick pics so please refrain from sending those (the ones who've asked so far have been absolutely respectful when I've said no, please follow their suit). If you, like me, are a woman with a MASSSIVE (or even slight) oral fixation, please feel free to message me. i would love to hear from you! and maybe we can play together in front of @tsfj. i adore making out with other girls, and we can get up to super depraved things together to entertain Him. i do understand how uncomfortable it can feel to have someone with that goal in mind approach you, so if i message you and make you uncomfortable, please don't hesitate to (politely) inform me. i also have a cuckquean fetish so finding someone who might also be willing to fulfill that role would be very nice. Definitely be over 18.

Relationship wise?

I was in an M/s dynamic for 6 years. 4.5years of that was long-distance. We were engaged and that also ended with the end of our dynamic. it was abusive and not a great example of M/s or D/s, though I still learned a lot from it, thankfully. Definitely in a much better place now. I've had other relationships than that, both kink & vanilla but that's unfortunately the most impactful one thus far. Currently serving TSFJ and very much enjoying how that's going

Me-wise?

I used to run a TNG group (the next generation) for newbies in the kink scene when I lived in Australia. I'm sort of distancing myself from the kink communities as I don't believe they're what I'm looking for at the moment.

I enjoy history, reading, writing, and going on walks with my dog. Trying to be more active and work out more. Recently discovered a surprising & unexpected enjoyment of hikes (both when there's use of my mouth on the trail and just in general... I'll let you guess which one I slightly prefer though) Otherwise I'm just a nerdy little weirdo just trying to make it through life relatively unscathed.

I believe BLM, everyone deserves healthcare, housing, and livable wages. I'm a massive feminist, so anyone who truly* believes women are inferior can take a dive off this page. Hella leftist.

My bi-romantic asexuality?

I have gotten quite a few messages about my asexuality. I'll try to explain it here for more people, and hopefully it'll make a little more sense. I can't promise to have every answer but I can tell you how it works for me and how I understand asexuality, which might differ from another asexual person. Asexuality isn't necessarily lack of libido, or not wanting to have sex. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction to other people. I can still tell when people are supposed to be attractive, for example through the media and other such avenues. For me, I realized this is probably where I fit into most. I thought about myself growing up: I read a lot and always wanted to experience the great loves in my books. I wanted that for myself in real life. Chalk it up to my hyper-Christian upbringing or whatever, but I can't ever really remember getting "turned on" over someone. I never desired to have sex with someone. The first g who kissed me definitely wanted to have sex with me. I could tell because... Well, sometimes you just know these things I definitely got that "tingly feeling" lots of people get when I was fooling around with guys, but I never wanted it to go any further than that. I have since had many different sexual experiences. I was even a sugar baby for a period of time, which sometimes included that as part of our time together. Many other aces are what's called "sex-repulsed" meaning they want nothing to do with sex and it icks them out. Me, I am a pretty sex-positive person & don't mind it occasionally. I don't enjoy people going down on me or anal, though I can sometimes enjoy p in v sex & definitely enjoy fingering when it's done right. That's where a lot of my oral fixation comes from. I've just always preferred to make the other person feel good. Plus it's just hot to have someone's fingers or other body part in your mouth I adore it. I can (sexually) play nicely with most anyone though regardless of my being ace. And the bi-romantic part comes from the fact that I could see myself falling in love with someone of any gender. Some may call that pan, but I don't identify as strongly with that for whatever reason. Hopefully that clears things up a bit if anyone else w curious. Feel free to ask me any othe questions.

#me #personal #ace

[theunrealinsomniac]

Just want to say, it's great to see someone talk so openly about characters sexual urges as completely natural things and parts of the characters (because that's what they are). I mean, young adults are freaking horny and think about sex very often and there's nothing wrong with it, that's just how our bodies and minds work, especially at this age range (but of course it's not limited to this range). Like, while I love many YA novels one of my suspension of disbelief is that many of them at this age are so freaking prude or pure. Yeah, I get why (audience/people don't want such content in not 18+ books) but still, it's unrealistic. Of course, not every single person in the world is like this (not to mention asexual people), but I'm referring to the existing majority. So, my main point is that sex, being horny and masturbating is completely normal and common and it's great to have someone who treats it all exactly like this. So thank you.

You're so very welcome. Honestly I'm just glad people want to ask me about my ideas for my stories.

I've been an active writer for fifteen years this summer and speaking as someone who was writing teenagers be teenagers even when he was one ... I have kinda gotta agree on the sanitisation of young adult experiences.

There is nothing wrong with two consenting adults taking off their clothes and consensually doing things that make stuffy old people mad. I really do hate how such a basic thing that the majority of us do and almost all of us only exist because of, has been vilified by people who ... don't know how to make their wives orgasm or have never had an orgasm.

Personally, I am of the opinion that if you can't find the clit, you don't get to talk about sex. And yes, it is okay to ask for help from the lady you are trying to please. Encouraged even.

However!

You're quite right, sex is not something all people have an interest in, all the respect to my sex-repulsed people out there, if you're still following my blog you must really be hanging in there lol, and indeed we don't want our literal tiny children to be exposed to hardcore sex in their media but well ...

Teenagers fuck. Young adults fuck. Adults fuck.

And drink and swear and smoke and do drugs and to pretend like they don't has always left me feeling a touch disconnected from characters I was meant to be relating to as a teenager.

But I think most people get that feeling, And let's not forget that a lot of our media comes from funding that might be from brands and companies that don't want to be known as the company that own the show where teens fuck on the screen lol.

Plus let's be real, you talk to someone on the internet and they yell at you for writing a teenage boy staring at boobs and enjoying it ... we all know where that person is from.

And it ain't Europe.

I swear, for people who like to claim others are the repressed ones, there's no one who's up in my comments calling me for all sorts like some uptight American who's mad I let a teenager touch a boob lol.

Not to get too personal or TMI, but my earliest sexual experiences were around my mid teens. And from my understanding, in most cases that's quite typical. Maybe a little earlier than some but certainly not concerningly early.

So I get real eyerolly at people telling me I'm being unrealistic with how much teenagers, boys and girls you bunch of prudes, think and talk about sex.

I dunno, it's a big issue and while I myself have always been immensely sex-positive and would love to really talk about why so many people are scared of admitting sex is natural and if you're doing it right and it's what you're in to, the most fun you can have with your partner ...

I get that I'm a minority there. And it's a shame.

Imma keep going though, there's so much untouched ground to cover and a mess of characters to explore the stories of!

Thanks for asking!

#ask theunrealinsomniac #sex positivity #teenagers fuck and it's okay #young adults fuck and it's okay #adults fuck and it's okay