#THEIR SMILE IS SO GOOD

[valleynix]

im at schoo so i cant send it you on discord but heres the silly

AKDBAKDJA LOOK AT THAT FELLA!!! THE MUSCLES???? BRO IS ABSOLUTELY HANDSOME

#asks #fan art <3 #the ‘autism silly’ is taking me OUT #PLS I LOVE #THEIR SMILE IS SO GOOD #THEIR TOOTHY GRIN IS SO GOOD #mmm now i’m debating actually going to the gym or writing instead…….

[wombywoo]

just checking...

#call of duty #cod #simon ghost riley #john soap mactavish #ghostsoap #mw3 spoilers #my art #👉😌👈 lalala what new game you say?? #never heard of it 🤷‍♀️ #special shoutout to the anon who sent me a message about sam's smile #literally as I was drawing this so... #same wavelength~ #please enjoy your dose of Mister Simon Riley smiling #it's good for the immune system apparently~

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[beif0ngs]

ONE PIECE EGGHEAD OPENING ✖ TITLE CARDS

#One Piece #opgraphics #Straw Hat Pirates #Monkey D. Luffy #Roronoa Zoro #Nami #Usopp #Sanji #Chopper #Nico Robin #Franky #Brook #Jinbei #Jewelry Bonney #*mine #seriously can't get over how pretty the animation is in the new opening!! #the art direction the animation style and the COLORSSS!!! #like everything about it is just so f*cking good #and Jinbei's smile in that first title card is SO cute uwu #he and Sanji are bonding over their Hawaiian shirts!!

[softiedingo]

neck + chest appreciation post ✨️

#jose pedro balmaceda pascal #pedro pascal fandom #pedro pascal #pedropascal #ppascaledit #sag awards #THAT NECK #i would sell my soul for a bite 😭😭 #he looks like he came straight out of a romance novel #looking this good should be illegal #also his smile is so 🥹🤏🏻🤏🏻 #hes such a cutie #i'm SO happy and SO proud that he won #my boy deserves all the awards 😌💅🏻 #softiedingo

[chip-the-dip]

(Screenshot redraw :3 )

#hermitcraft #gtws #gtws fanart #hermitcraft fanart #impulsesv #impulse fanart #solidaritygaming #jimmy solidarity #hc tango #tango fanart #geminitay #geminitay fanart #hc zedaph #zedaph fanart #joe hills #hermitcraft joe hills #THIS STREAM WAS SO FREAKING GOOD I LITERALLY COULDNT STOP SMILING

[rottinginwonderland]

McD's work doodles.

#smiling friends #charlie smiling friends #pim smiling friends #the first episode was so fucking good #fanart #my art

[acewithapaintbrush]

Very brave of opla to make Sanji hopelessly enarmoured with Luffy from his very first episode and give Zoro and Sanji a "jealous of the new/other guy" dialogue in the same season. Very brave indeed

#opla #one piece #one piece live action #Luffy just has to smile #And the crew is mush for him #Like seriously they are all so whipped and I'm living for it #Sanlu #Zolu #Sanzolu #We are feeding good here

[mitwodlemi]

In the archives. Straight up beholding it. And what do I mean by it? Heh... well let's justr say... my statements.

#tma #the magnus archives #mimi makes art #fanart #digital art #theyre so sillay #tma spoilers #tma podcast #johnathan sims #martin blackwood #timothy stoker #tim stoker #annabelle cane #good omens kinda??? #also featuring me and my sister #jonathan sims #jmart #jonmartin #teaholding #smiling friends kinda?!?! #look pim meme #tweet #twitter #cross posted on twitter #i can imagine anything #tma shitpost #alright enough of my yammering #hope you all have a nice weekend :^)

[paimt]

smiting_friends.psd

#art #smiling friends #fanart #comic art #brought to you by a discussion with my coworker that i originally wanted to turn into a comic but couldnt make funny #love drawing hands with big stubby fingers its so easy to make look good

[grammatically-incoherent]

thank you mr. braugher. you did it right. and it was perfect.

#b99 #b99daily #jokeperalta #youngsambergs #userbbelcher #tvandfilm #this one hurt to make #the way they smile like that it's so andy and andre #goddamn it #if this gifset makes you cry GOOD bc i cried making it #andre braugher #andy samberg #captain holt #jake peralta #ohheycool #250 #500 #1k

[chloesimaginationthings]

LOV THE WAY UI DRAW VANNY IN HER FURSUIT she looks so cute im fully with vannessa on this one, she is channeling me in that recent comic

Silly murder bunny girl,,

#ask reply #I FR love drawing Vanny in her full costume #the design is just so good #the giant eyes big smile and stitches #SO GOOD I love her #Vanessa is right she is the cutest ever

[smileyaly]

"Nice Granny bag, Little Jack"

It's a small moment but I love the scene where Kitty insults Jack Horner's bag because even in a serious and worrying moment, Puss still found her comment funny and even smiled a bit.

#dreamworks #puss in boots #puss in boots the last wish #kitty softpaws #puss in boots kitty #shrek #animation #lil meow meow #still finds a way to smile at his wifes insults #proud husband #GET MARRIED!! #soulmates #i said this would be my last dreamworks post but #this movie is too good #also im busy atm so i cant draw fanart and post much

[tenthrees]

just leaving these here

#theyre in love in the book too #good omens #book omens #good omens book #ineffable husbands #the 'and smiled' gets me every time #its just two words but it says so much

[funky-bird]

bidgit..

#funky!art #bridget guilty gear #guilty gear #I LOVE HERRRRRR! #Im so happy with how this one turned out I keep thinking about it and smiling it’s so good..This pose was so fun to do #gotta draw moreeeee….

[civetside]

hello guys it's me miss consistent art style!!! wrestling AU????? sorry i am smashing my 2 current interests together as ya do, gideons trying to be a cool pro wrestler and harrow is her manager

#tlt #griddlehark #the locked tomb #gideon the ninth #harrowhark nonagesimus #gideon nav #camilla hect #ianthe tridentarius #idk im not tagging ALL of them you know the guys #i been watching a lotta wwe and wow lately good shit lemme tell you what #i need somebody to like wrestling like i do so i can yell at them about WOW like please that shit is CRAZY #anyways i have so many ideas for this AU you have no idea #i have plans for most characters okay it all fits perfectly just give me another 100 pages to tell you about it #i will be drawing more homosexual wrestling if you all are interested in seeing more #i love being cringe smiles real big