#and i need to remind it to myself often

[thedisablednaturalist]

I think when people think of mental illness and what helps, especially with things like anxiety and depression, the treatment involves pushing yourself. Pushing yourself to get out of bed, to exercise, to take a shower, to go out in public, to order your own food from the cashier, etc.

And because the mental health movement has grown so much, people think that's the default of ALL illnesses. That the only way someone will get better is if they push themselves. That practice makes perfect. That you'll become more comfortable or strong over time the more you do something.

But what people need to realize is, with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, pushing yourself in most cases is DETRIMENTAL. Pushing yourself past your limits can lead to flare ups or further injury. That's why it's important to know your limits, how certain activities may affect your condition, and learn how to either adapt or get help to complete the activity in question.

Also, most of us are already pushing ourselves. Most of us don't have access to the help or equipment we need. Most of us live in places where we frequently encounter inaccessible obstacles. Most of us NEED to rest.

So please don't try to be our physical therapists or doctors. There are people specifically trained to help us navigate our own conditions and limitations. There are people trained to help us strengthen our body's resilience without causing flare-ups or injury. Do not tell us "it'll be good for you" or "you need the exercise" when we say something is too heavy or too far or when we say we need our mobility aid(s). Your friend with depression may need to be encouraged to get out of bed, but your friend with chronic illness definitely doesn't.

Respect our rest.

#wrenfea.exe #DISCLAIMER: dont take this as me saying you should be pushing your mentally ill friends #this is more about how physical conditions often differ in how they are treated #also dont like. force your friends or anyone with anxiety to do things they dont want to #thats what therapists are for #also most mental illnesses require medication alongside therapy before they can get better #but even chronic illnesses and disabilities that benefit from exercise still require knowing your limits #and not being pressured to push past them #ive noticed some professionals who help both mentally and physically ill patients tend towards the push method #like my therapist and sometimes my counselors fall back on that method #and i have to remind them i am already pushing myself #and i need to adapt rather than push forward #chronic disability #chronic pain #spoonie #disability #chronic illness #cripple punk #cripplepunk #cpunk

[stuckinapril]

Well it may seem like the end of the world but tomorrow’s a new day & the sun will shine just a little brighter with each moment that spring inches closer & you will find the people who cocoon you like a warm wool blanket & you won’t have to cling so hard to those who strip you bare anymore

#I promise. And I love you #Don’t be desperate for love & connection when the shoe doesn’t fit and it ends up just #Squeezing you so tight you no longer feel your toes #There’s no point in that #Either the shoe fits or it doesn’t but either way u will find the perfect shoe #What the fuck am I saying . I’m getting a therapist soon but I mean this I love u #I think I need to remind myself of this so often that it’s important to write it down and put it out in this world and do right by it #All of you are divine angels and you only deserve the BEST and I mean that. I adore u dearly

[soaked-ghost]

horror themed nightmare doodles as a treat :]]]]

#every so often I remind myself that he is supposed to be scary #I tried to give him this almost childish boogieman vibe to him #he's like 'ohhh I'm gonna getcha :D' while he's hunting u down to kill u #nightmare sans #sans au #utmv #unsettling #horror #art #myart #let me know if this needs other tags!!

[episims]

Luke Uh, corn? Why the hell... this isn't the nutritious lunch I need to shine at the rehearsal!

Luke "Wha—what are you doing?! That's a wolf!"

Felix "Hey, Luke. Yeah, he wanted to play."

Luke "Are you a fool? You're teaching it to get used to humans!"

Felix "Eh, chill. This boy's harmless! Aren't you?"

Aries *growls*

Luke "I-if that thing ends up biting you, your dads will hear about it!!"

#ts2 #ts2 gameplay #the sims 2 #the sims 2 gameplay #sims 2 #sims 2 gameplay #foxfire forest #playing foxfire forest #luke wisher #felix howl #random wolf #lately i've really needed to stop to think who knows who #like i nearly forgot that mel and judi must've met when judi lived at cedric's place #and i often need to remind myself that of course these gen 2 kids know any close friends of their parents #i guess that's understandable with 40 sims

[meltylove97]

i want to live

#oc #anju #these quotes twirl around in my mind so often. ever since i started writing anjus character theyve been a central inspiration for her and #i feel like they sum up her journeys message so well. im glad i could finally get myself to execute a sequential piece based off it #because ive wanted to since a long time. and also i feel like i couldve used a reminder of what im saying here at the moment #at the end of the day theres people and things you need to survive for #ffxiv

[gurorori]

tbh it's still crazy 2 see progressive (ie western slash european & american i guess? yanno wat i mean. places wher we r nawt radicalised & illegalised into it oblivion) audiences have such (understandably) high standards 4 queer media or even queer representation as a whole & won't take less than. like i understand it's cause ya can expect better so ya will, in sum cases ya can even demand better. but it's simply nawt an option 4 many of us.

like idk perhaps a bit too harsh of me 2 say but regardless of the political atmosphere there's still a difference between livin' in a place where ya still have rights, have pride & can walk into a store etc & find queer literature & rep & even merch, have resources 2 support yrself & find yr community. & a place where as much as wavin' a pride flag or even havin' a pride pin, OR G-D FORBID holdin' yer partner's hand WILL get ya arrested & jailed. an' yr lucky if ya don' get assaulted or killed be4 dat can happen 🫥

#mika caws #i TRY 2 have higher standards 4 lgbt shit i rly try but the bar is NONEXISTENT here. #sumtimes i rly need a minute 2 step outta the tumblr sphere (dat is undeniably very us-centric) & remind myself dat all these things i talk #ab r nawt even an afterthought here. they simply don' exist here 2 begin with. 'm talkin' nothin'. #an' like obviously. fully aware dat these rights r nawt jus' given. they r earned. but i think ppl in better places often forget themselves #a lil & like 2 feign ignorance ab the rest of the world. or act like us bein' stuck in these places is sum kinda moral failin' too like #it's so bad here but if we really wanted 2 we'd protest too & get our rights dat we deserve #as if we still ain't actively bein' hunted & outlawed here. jus' cause y'all gawt it a century early doesn' mean everyone else can #idk but there's a difference & i think ppl shld b very conscious of it #ok i momentarily felt bad cause obvs queer rights r still under attack in progressive places too esp the us but hey they don' even blink #when smth happens here. ay. i naw longer feel bad i said it

[sitzfleischh]

Final Ghosts thoughts cause I really need to sleep but am still thinking about it--

Choice to end with Alison and Mike taking the hotel deal at the Ghosts' suggestion, and having them return regularly like visiting family: GREAT ❤️

Execution of this plotline in the episode/series itself: not so great.

The immensely rewatchable 5 series as a whole: SO great, very happy to continue loving this show for a long long time.

#bbc ghosts #bbc ghosts spoilers #also to everyone else also in their feelings about this: #reminding myself it's ok to need to work on emotionally regulating when something i like a lot doesnt live up to my hopes for it! #when i was a younger fan I often felt (and still sometimes have to work against the impulse to do this) i needed to #defend the perfection of something i loved #or pretend that i wasn't didappointed by something when I was #it can be really hard to teach yourself to be ok with and learn to process negative feelings #because it's like the big happy loving feelings are so good!!! but sometimes that means negativity can feel similarly huge #so any criticism of something you like-- even if it's your own criticism-- feels like an attack you have to protect against #so that you dont tip hard in the opposite direction and suddenly find you cant enjoy the thing anymore #but learning to find the middle ground is a practice just like anything else #and you can keep loving something even if there are parts of it that didnt work for you #or were imperfect etc #anyway now i really have to go to sleep

[leafdragon16]

Sketchbook Friday #22

Alternate Title: Megatron Monday but on Friday

Hooo boy all of these are old because I can never get myself to post! I’m pretty sure most of these were drawn before S1B of Earthspark came out for reference

Anyway bring on the villains

Starting off with Mandroid because I have literally two pictures of him and the rest is all Megs! I wanted to get a feel for his character design because I want to make a short animatic (shitpost of course because I am incapable of drawing anything serious) involving him.

Turns out, he’s actually kinda fun to draw. (Maybe that’s just because I’ve been losing my mind trying to draw robots.)

HIM!! I redrew one of my favorite screenshots of him. Perspective didn’t turn out as well as I wanted it to (mainly since I’m still learning perspective akmsksjskd) but otherwise I think it looks great!!

Played around with markers in class and made this. I don’t know if I used a ref either, so I’m pretty proud of this one too!

Angry man. Angry.

And finally, my personal favorite one! Playing with expressions is fun :D

Peace!

#tfe mandroid #earthspark mandroid #tfe dr. meridian #earthspark dr. meridian #transformers prime megatron #tfp megatron #transformers earthspark #earthspark #tfe #transformers prime #tfp #transformers #maccadam #sketchbook friday #my art #the title is Megatron Monday but it’s coming out on Friday but I’m drafting it on Sunday because my ADHD ass won’t post it otherwise #I really need to draw TFE Megs more often #I love him #especially after this recent batch of episodes #this my attempt to remind myself to draw him more #and to draw more Earthspark stuff in general #my brain is occupied by 2 alien warlords and a dog at the moment

[justablah56]

hi guys this is my way of announcing that my Taylor now has glasses , thanks

#my art #yeah im posting this at like 1 am whatcha gonna do abt it #just means im gonna rb it again when i wake up tomorrow #anyways #ive caved to the glasses taylor agenda #also not me going to post this . forgetting taylors cane . realizing i had forgotten it . and then spending like 20 minutes to add it #i need to like . set a reminder for myself to fucking remember Taylor's cane #i forget his cane too often and i am so sorry #but hey i remebered this time #my baby boy #dndads #dndaddies #dungeons and daddies #dndads taylor swift #taylor swift dndads

[exoexid]

ykw? even tho dangerous romance is not exactly going as i expected it'd go, i find myself enjoying this series immensely!! it brings me so much happiness and anticipation, specially after today's episode because we're slowly getting closer to The Drama. but what we saw today made me think real hard about why i like the show so much and i think it's because they're really taking their time to show us how good of a team sailom and kanghan are (or can be) :)

#like it's a romance because well. they like e/o. but i love the way they show us the time they spend together #and i like how it's done well :-) idk how to explain myself!!!! #but basically atp they remind me of some of the relationships that some of my friends have with their partners #in which they've become some sort of besties and are building it all on top of that and aaaa to me that's sailom and kanghan :') #and i like it because it's something that doesn't get portrayed this clearly that often basically #oh and also. we need the nawa and guy subplot NOW!!! because they were teammates omg they were teammates #and let's not forget the subplot in which they explain wtf is up with kang's dad.... #sir do you have some kind of childhood trauma or something like that because um have you ever heard about trying to break the abuse circle. #i always end up rambling istg like girl get it together!!!!!! #dara.t #dangerous romance

[skitskatdacat63]

I need to remind myself often it's okay to take as long as I need to work on projects/drawings

#dangerous grind mindset territory >:( #i get so weird abt wips like #unless its extremely relevant no one is gonna care rly how long it takes #like if someone shared a wip with *me* and they took a while to finish it or never finished it #id still be like ahhhh so cool #but then i get into a weird mindset of like: you need to finish this TONIGHT #and then it never happens lol #as i said its only random occurrences when i can sit down and finish smth in one night #i need to remind myself: these things take time #i think my brain is sometimes running on a deadline that doesn't exist #theres a weird point btwn: #enjoying encouragement bcs it makes you feel more motivated to finish smth #but also feeling this odd sense of guilt and obligation #i draw for myself but literally for my whoel time drawing i often feel obligation towards a nonexistent audience #some imaginary force thats gonna be disappointed if i dont finish smth in [illogical period of time] #its good to have some sense of motivation obv bcs how would you ever finish anything #but its weird to start feeling the same thoughts abt schoolwork for your hobby #basically: I hate setting deadlines for myself bcs it just never works out #if i say 'you must work on this tonight!' i will absolutely not be working on this tonight #funny feeling when you start being like 'aaaahhh everyone is gonna hate me if i dont post this soon' #i think its nice when i can post smth i talk about in a quick turn-around #but rationally i know that if people are interested they wont care how long it takes <3 bcs id feel the same #also i guess i get put out some times seeing how fast other people can create :/ #catie has 3 moods(for creation): #a. complete and utter burnout #b. not burnt out but finishing smth takes more than just one day. maybe a wk or more #c. can finish a piece in one day or even one sitting. often draws several things right after the other #C is truly the goat 🙏 i feel blessed when i get into that mindset #blah blah blah please stop feeling beholden to something that doesnt exist. thanks catie. #catie.rambling.txt

[littlewigglers]

Do you plan on getting any non millipede friends

I do! I’d love to get some more isopods and raise some beetles from larva again. I’d also LOVE to get back into fish keeping my faves are bettas, shrimps, corydoras and kuhli loaches! Maybe a snake or gecko further down the line? But those are what I know the least about and would be most hesitant to get as I want any creatures I get to have the best care I can give them.

I’d say the only creatures on my never list are spiders, roaches, centipede, anything else that moves overly fast or has a bad bite/is venomous/poisonous. Probably turtles too just due to their life spans.

But millipedes and isopods are what I’m able to keep right now as I’d have to get some new tanks for anything else, as well as all the research I’d need to do to be comfortable keeping them.

Oh also I do have two cats I just don’t post about them here, and I plan to possibly get a third next year but we’ll see :3

#bug babbles #I’m pretty much up to keep anything once #but I’m also very aware of myself and I get excited about new things and then often get board about 4 months later #which is when I was fine getting isopods and millipedes as I thought ‘we’ll bugs only live like a year right #so even if I lost interest I’d only need to care for them a few months more I know now that some millipedes can 10 years but that’s alright #as Millipedes have become a key interest of mine so I feel comfortable getting more long lived species and more in general #for fish it’s just the money investment of all the stuff and then the time it takes to set up a planted tank as I just love them more than #fake plants I’ve done it twice before successfully and probably failed about the last 4 times #so I’ve not gotten to the actual grtting fish part yet due to that #I know I could fork out £200 and get the tank and fish tomorrow but that’s not what I want I want a planted tank so it’ll be on going #as for why no spiders my dad used to catch them and out them in my bed as a kid for years so I just can’t handle them as an adult #he thought it was funny and would toughen me up it sadly only made me nearly cry anytime I see one now #for roaches I’m just not interested #centipedes can have a nasty bite so I’d like to avoid them and anything that moves fast reminds me of spiders so it’s a no go

[morgenlich]

this is also why i take issue with a lot of this sites “oh i’m a hater” attitude. it can be fun to kvetch about stuff with your friends but when complaining, even humorously, becomes your primary mode of engaging with something. it’s exhausting to be around. go find stuff that brings you joy instead

#things i need to remind myself often to be fair but i try not to make it my whole persona #and i am not trying to /seek out/ misery

[the-lights-are-loud]

Lived in

There are crinkles around your eyes when you smile.

The dimple on your cheekbone from a childhood injury.

Gray hair that sprouts around the crown of your head.

Healed over piercings and small tattoos on collarbones.

Stretchmarks on your thighs from a growth spurt in your teens.

Scars on your hands from a clumsy knife.

Chipped nail polish and broken nails.

Dry skin that splits at your knuckles.

Crooked teeth that your braces have yet to fix.

Cracked and parched lips.

Tight back muscles that never loosen.

Cellulite that clings to your hips.

Acne marks and blemishes that spring up every few days.

Freckles that splatter on your face and shoulders.

Moles and birthmarks that outlast memory.

Oh, how such things are hated.

And oh, how they are loved.

They show that you've grown.

They show that you have lived in your body.

And oh, how I love that you have.

#There are certain things that I get frustrated about with my body #like everyone does #but i have to remind myself that it's just a sign #a sign that I'm living #My body has been lived in #It has been loved #and i think that sometimes i just need that reminder a little more often #poetry #body image #body neutrality #poets on tumblr #writing #poem #mental health

[orangetintedglasses]

( if you saw the last repost, no you didn't-- I don't feel like clogging up the dash with two whole reblogs, so repost! Current outfit (minus glasses but he does have them) and scar ref (with the neck scar and the 'bite' from his Nai, which I WILL get around to finishing sometime to explain what I mean when I say that--) )

#curtains up ✧〗( ic ) #drawing of the suspect ✧〗( mun scrib ) #scar tw #( hecked up and forgot 1: I stopped drawing the shooting glove on the right hand ) #( 2: I wanted to make the notched earlobe more prominent/properly placed ) #( so I updated it LMAO ) #( i often need to remind myself that just because *I* know something doesn't mean everyone knows it ) #( this is the last time I plan on reposting/reblogging anything with this coat because I want to update/destroy it )

[deathxproof]

BURN MY HEART BABY, TAKE A PIECE, I DON’T NEED ALL OF IT

Indie Canon, AU + OC 18+ Doctor Who RP Blog playing fast & loose with canon. Offering up dramatic Time Lords and their friends on tumblr since 2013.

Sporadic activity, low formatting, VERY headcanon based & somewhat AU based, text-heavy, mildly selective. Multi-ship, multi-verse, AU, OC, crossover, etc etc friendly. Incredibly queer in here. Main Muses: (Regenerated)Susan Foreman, The Master, Rory Williams, AU! Theta & Koschei, && the Doctor. ft. AU Rory/Darvill!Master & Susan Foreman 5! &lt;333

written and maintained by Andrew Rose (25+, he/they), active for roleplay or just to chat or plot on discord too (almondmilkofficial)

#seeing a lot of promos today reminded me i still needed to repost mine >:3c #about; deathxproof #cut down on muses for now so I don’t lose my complete mind and overwhelm myself further. #The promo still fucks though #sorry for how often I’ll reblog it guys #doctor who rp #dr who rp #doctor who roleplay #dr who roleplay #susan foreman #the master #the doctor #thoschei #thoschei rp #rory williams #self promo ; #ooc !