#and thank you for being yourself

[cruelsister-moved2]

for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I've realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It's not about who you are inside, it's more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It's not 'Who are you?' but 'How do you want to live?'

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don't have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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#and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now #bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside #and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel #in order to like define who is Me #it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u #it's hard to summarise it was like v wordy but I thought this part was so true #for sexuality as well not to tack it on but we have really gotten into the same mindset w sexuality now as well #THANK U @VAKAVANHASAATANA for the ID it wont let me @ you in the text </33

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Assisting Acquaintance Acquired.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen ning #wei wuxian #Ignore how Wen Ning's hair looks here because I messed it up. Let's pretend he just sported a different hair style for a brief moment. #I am not exactly great at consistency but I am trying very hard to work on that (immediately messes up again). #Absolutely *love* how Wen Ning clearly remembers and admires WWX...who does *not* recognize him. #This is the best day for Wen Ning and it means *nothing* to WWX. A painful one-sided crush made worse. #It is bittersweet to realize that we care about someone more than they care about us. Sometime we pour love into a relationship- #-with someone who just can't reciprocate. It isn't always a conscious things either. Some people just aren't aware we care. #And painfully - so painfully - You can't make them aware. No act of kindness or gift or self sacrifice will make someone care about you. #You can martyr yourself for someone and they will continue on unchanged. #I think a lot about the parallels between WN and LWJ. Not foils - just reflections. A theme repeated. #People who give so much of themselves to someone who doesn't have the capacity to give any part of themself away. #I will die on the hill of 'Wen Ning would be the love triangle romance if that trope wasn't being avoided'. #And to be honest - thank the stars above that is the case. I do not know any good love triangles in media. #We are skipping some of the sad Jiang Cheng content because I really want to finish season 2 before May. #Sorry JC emo moment lovers...I'll deliver another time.

[obv10usly]

phil gently holding babies

#dan and phil #dnp #sometimes you gotta put the shitposts you wanna see into the world yourself #but really he’s so good with babies #thanks cal and k for being nerds ily

[canisalbus]

I really appriciate how often Machete is depicted struggling and feeling like a burden, while still being loved and supported by Vasco. It gives the top tier angst of "i'm not good enough, I'm not worth it" but you frame it in such a way where it's clear that's just how he *feels* and is not how things really are, but also it's so nice to see someone who struggles quite often in a loving and unique relationship that suits them. The narrative of not being able to love or be loved unless you're consistently healthy is really tiring lol.

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#ah thank you! I'm so glad these themes come through the way I intended #this touches on something that I've been thinking a lot so sorry if this gets a bit ranty #but I have massive personal beef with the sentiment “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else/someone else can love you ” #I hate it with a passion #I know it's meant to encourage positive growth and I get that self-love and healthy self-image are something you should strive for #but it also sort of sends the message that people who struggle with these sort of issues don't deserve to be loved #not until they reach some external invisible standard of “okay I'm normal and well adjusted now” #“perhaps now I'm worthy of entering a relationship without the danger of dragging the other person down with me” #people who aren't in perfect health mentally or physically already feel like they're inconveniencing others with their mere existence #depriving them of the possibility or even the idea of loving and being loved won't make them better #it's just a stupid idiom it doesn't matter but to me it just comes across as unspeakably cruel way to think #and it rustles my jimmies #answered #anonymous

[callisteios]

I have a new uquiz for you, go on a pilgrimage with me. discover who you are.

#don't you want to go on a nice medieval pilgrimage? #don't you want to rest a little? answer some questions? learn something about yourself? #this was originally a pentiment medieval quiz and now it's this #it's pretty good imo though. i had a lot of fun researching it #yes there really is a biblio. ill write it up soon but its parts of the pentiment biblio plus some stuff i found myself #really thank you to everyone who made pentiment. you know how sometimes you find a piece of art at exactly the right time? #well i discovered pentiment just as my interests perfectly intersected with it. (those interests being history historiography and grief) #have fun etc. tag your results #that's always great #quiz #uquiz #pentiment #medieval #mine #sorry for being absent for a bit. holidays kind of suck #sorry abbie i couldnt fit the saw bathroom in thisone. i couldn't think of a way to do it naturally #i listened to SAVED! and SINNER GET READY the entire time i was writing this so yeah there's a ref. sue me

[slimslamflimflam]

HERE’S OLDER AVA STUFF I FORGOT TO PUT IN WITH THE OTHER DOODLES

#you can tell it’s older because victim’s still ghost mode and also is not being a general menace #dude wait. #fanon victim being audio of person going “look at the little baby!! bgwbagwb babieee awww” #and canon victim being second part of same audio that goes “KILL YOURSELF” #OH GOD I HAVE TO TAG EVERRONE AGAIN #OH ALSO #THANK YOU TO KIND PERSON WHO POINTED OUT FANDOM NAME FOR PURPLE MOM #animator vs animation #ava #ava tsc #ava tdl #ava tco #ava yellow #ava blue #ava red #ava green #ava purple #ava king orange #ava mango #i forgot he has mango tango fandom name #that names actually so awesome #ava victim #ava gold #ava orchid #ava navy #also technically alan but as a stick figure!!! #so I guess uhh #ava alan becker #<— ??? yeah? #wait the implication of the tag that ava invented alan becker and not the other way around is kinda funny actually

[bearotonin-international]

You're sooooo silly thank you for all the bears :3 <3

we’d say we are the silliest but polar bears exist

#lethal beasts should NOT allowed to also be such silly goobers #thank you friend #we agree #We are extremely silly #and it’s very fun #some life wisdom it took us a while to learn: #life is so much better and more fun when you stop trying to be cool or ‘normal’ #and just embrace your silly child side #you don’t have to pretend or force yourself to be serious #or to act mature or ‘professional’ or just neurotypical #embrace your silliness and your silly side and you will be so much happier #you will have more fun #and even if no one else appreciates it (spoiler alert: they will) you will #and enjoying your life is way more important than what other people’s opinions #okay we’re done being serious #back to dumb puns and silly goobears 😉 #ask

[enii]

Don't push yourself too hard💕

#illustration #artists on tumblr #cute #artoftheday #digital illustration #wholesome #cat illustration #cat of tumblr #caturday #pretty cats #cats in love #you are not alone #i am here for you #thank you for always being here #i'll always be here #a gentle reminder #you can't do everything all at once #please be gentle with yourself #be gentle with yourself #small progress is still progress #so proud of you for trying #it's okay to cry #everything will be okay #its okay #rest #rest is productive #relatable #relatable art #gentle reminder #rest is important

[molesamole]

Totally didn't post a Rozin one shot on AO3 Randomly at 7:30 AM in the morning cause of Agin's Children whaaattt anyways take this kinds old art of some sillies I don't think I ever posted

#you guys have to go find it yourself 😈😈😈 #hope it's obvious that Aang and Zuko are aged up a bit in the second picture #happy 21st Aang here try some Southern Water Tribe wine #wow thanks Sokka! *Aang dies* /J #atla #atla fanart #avatar: the last airbender #atla aang #atla zuko #maybe??? zukaang??? #if you wanna count the one with them being older as a silly moment like that idk #rozin #atla rozin #atla sozin #atla roku

[sergle]

One time I saw a tumblr blogger describe themselves as a pixar mom but they had. almost no bodyfat. Absolute disturbing lack of cake.

#THANK YOU for sending me this bc it made me laugh so hard #I don't use the word cringe very much but THAT IS SO CRINGE.... #the whole thing in general but also calling YOURSELF. a pixar mom. bro... you are being cringe #I thought that was exclusively something that other people would say. to Be Annoying #as a self descriptor is so funny even w/o the context that they're not thick #sergle answers

[craycraybluejay]

yeah yeah you hate me I'm an evil disgusting perverted manwhore we have each other blocked everywhere blah blah but I know you still jerk off to me and I know it makes you hate yourself a bit because you don't have the strength to accept the darker parts of your desire. but you can't help yourself and I take pleasure in the knowledge.

#this pussy makes homosexual men hate themselves !! #this tdick makes you want to kill yourself !! #this wretched and desirous personality has captivated you so !! #pussy change your life like im god~ they always fall in love not my fault~ #im never pickin up when they call~ #<- song lyrics #you want to fuck me so bad it makes you act stupid !! #im genuinely not mad people are generally going to end up hating themselves too much to be chill #but i am having a wild laugh bc this mf who told me i'm a gross freak also told me that he has sex dreams about me regularly #like yeah ok faggot #watch this loser text me in like a year apologizing for being a judgy little bitch begging me to respond LMFAO #thank u next hoe !! #idk its extra liberating to not only decide to be more choosy but also to know they obsessed #how's the vanilla boyfriend taste? can he get you off 7 times in a row? does he make you feel free and hedonistic? #anyway yeah im just being mean here bc its a mood boost i would not say this shit to anyone lmao #trust me bro i am literally the last person to cross the line when i get emotional (usually excited sometimes angry or horny) #ok no im a little prone to excitedly infodumping for 8 hrs but i try not to offend people #making enemies for no reason is a terrible idea

[dailydegurechaff]

Today's Daily Degurechaff is… >:P

#dailydegurechaff #i need more content of tanya being a little shithead taking advantage of her age to get away with shit #“you're gonna write up a disciplinary report for a soldier because she stuck her tongue out at you for giving her stupid orders?” #“shes like 12. youre so offended by a bratty child acting her age that you're gonna write her up over it?” #“why are you being petty. youre the adult here. get over yourself” #thus tanya wins twice by not only being blatantly disrespectful but also bc she gets away with it thanks to social standards

[canisalbus]

As I sit here tending to a nosebleed I think about how that was the first picture I saw of your characters. His open, almost casual self loathing resonated with me. So much of people with "gross" physical traits seeking love is explored only in metaphor, but here is art that shows it without shame.

Your dogs make me feel like a real human being. Thank you.

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#thank you for your sweet words! #I don't mean to sound sentimental but it does mean a lot for me to hear #that there are people who relate to Machete and his multiple insecurities and weaknesses #in this case your body behaving in a way that is outside of your control is simply part of being a living being #if that makes sense #I hope you know you don't deserve to loathe yourself #I've struggled with the same thing and loathing yourself benefits no one #I hope you're doing well today anon you deserve good things #answered #anonymous

[clownsuu]

Ah, I'm a bit nervous about this but!!!!

I've been in art block for the past like 2 years (or, at least, that's what I've dubbed it as??? I haven't been able to pick up a pen and draw during that time😭😭 just haven't had the motivation) and seeing you push through it like you have been is really inspiring to me!! I decided to try again and I had a lot of fun actually! I wasn't sure if I was actually going to upload it or not and I would have rendered it more but 🤷‍♂️

Thank you for... being you!!

(P.S I just saw the human version, I'm going to die now... 😭😭)

WAA Looks so good for a artblock gamer!! But make sure to rest when your body needs it!

#Art block h e c k i n sucks and comes in different shapes and sizes #I wish ya luck on yer art experience dawg! But your health is more important! #Never force yourself if ya mentally can't take it or your body just doesn't feel it! #But anyway YEHAHAHHH LOVELIE AR T. SS. S S #Ya make them look so soft and shy! So cute!! #Also also thank you guys for being you too!! Ya gamers always brighten up my day with your asks and comments! #Always gives me motivation to be a silly lil guy!

[daily-hanamura]

#p4 #p4g #persona 4 #persona 4 golden #hanamura yosuke #yosuke hanamura #so its canon then that yosuke tends to forget to take of himself when he gets busy/stressed/etc then :) #yosuke's already a lanky ass like my guy stop making people worry about you!!! #also i like juxtaposing this against his group cafe date like of wanting to date someone he can look after because its both #bro you cant even take care of yourself #but also yosuke understanding himself enough that to be cared for is to be loved #anyway this is why you should always always have lunch with yosuke and feed him thanks for coming to my ted talk #OK BUT I also love that it's something that yu noticed about yosuke too because its so closely related to how he does. you know. #feed his friends food as a metaphor for love and all that and how yosuke hasnt had much attention (from him) lately #ok jk I'll stop being delulu but also really. #i feel a lot of Feelings about how yosuke and chie are the later members to awaken their 3rd tier #for meta reasons obviously it's also the fact that after maxing out yosuke's slink there arent as many opportunities to hang out #and there are so many good fics of that i slurp it all up #but for yosuke to point it out makes me so. SO. #anyway one final note is also yes i commented about how yosuke wasnt really doing a great job looking after himself but #i also think about his later comment that when people are relying on him it makes him want to do his best for others #and how he says he will always be there for his partner #and it makes me interpret all of that as yosuke being very roundabout in saying that he wants the two of them to look after each other #he's good with his queue

[hella1975]

hiiii haha. hello. exceptionally awkward introduction bc idrk how to start something like this so let's just jump right in. im taking a break from this account for a bit. i know i said i wanted taob out before halloween and currently im fine sticking with that deadline, but if i decide i need longer away then i will take longer away. every time ive reassured people that id never abandon a fic and updates will always come eventually i never once considered that my writing and ability to feel safe and comfortable on this site would be actively taken from me, so im not even going to apologise. i dont want this either and more importantly i dont fucking deserve it. i dont know what it is in the past year, if ive hit a certain amount of followers or 'popularity' that's made it so the natural ratio of positive to negative interactions must in turn go up, but there's been a serious uptick in weird asks for me. the annoying part is that a very small amount of them are actually objectively mean and hateful, the rest are just weird and invasive from people who seemingly dont realise that's what they're being. ive reached a point where i dont care if the intentions are good. it's not my job as a 20 year old tumblr user of all things to defend the morality of someone who couldnt even bother to come off anon. unfortunately, after blocking only one or two anons, the weird asks have decreased substantially, which says all you need to know about the fascinating and exhilarating lives led by these people, but ive also gone on to turn anon asks off entirely. this is something i actively fought against doing and had to be pushed into by my mutuals (who have been the coolest people on planet earth during this entire thing). turning off anon was a big deal to me even if it sounds silly. i felt betrayed and like id been backed into a corner because it was so vehmently something i DIDNT WANT that to feel like i had to do it anyway for my own mental health??? that sucks. so even though ive 'fixed' the problem, im still kind of reeling and uncomfortable every time i come on tumblr. i hope it's just something i need time to ease because i'll truly be devastated if this becomes 'ruined' for me. tumblr exists as the only place in the world where i am honestly every facet of myself without shame or hesitation; losing that would be insanely harmful to me. and to the people who cant appeal to the actual human behind the post, let me put that in words you can understand: we wouldn't get any more writing 😦😦😦 riots and fires and sirens, i know. so yeah. to anyone who has sent me an anon ask and you're now wondering if you were part of the problem, im firmly of the belief that you'll know if you are. when i say 'weird asks' i dont mean 'you sent me a para about your personal life just to vent or ask for advice' or 'you sent me a really deep emotional compliment about the impact me and/or my writing has had on you' - i love asks like that, so much that i put off taking a break and turning off anon solely for the joy they bring me. im sorry that it might feel like you're being punished too bc of the actions of what in reality is a HANDFUL of weird people, but this is what i feel like i have to do to feel safe and not go insane every time i log in. love you guys, hopefully ill see you soon x

#seriously another shout out to my mutuals #id particularly like to say thank you to boom who's always right there for me no matter what's happening or how insane im being #and also everyone in our little discord that wound up having to make a whole new channel for venting #bc i was there so often like 'today's weird ask isssss.... telling me about my cupsize!! rip them to shreds!!!' #hannah and theo especially being there and pushing me to finally turn off anon. war is truly over #and of course rori bc the shamelessness u show when hating on my anon asks has been genuinely really cathartic #sometimes u really do just need a rottweiler mutual to tell random people online to kill themselves 😭 #okay weird oscar acceptance speechcore gratitude over. i do just rlly love my mutuals #like i went three years not telling anyone about the worse side of internet popularity for fear of looking spoiled and ungrateful #so for the first time to open up about it and be met with outrage on my behalf and people saying in fact it's MORE fucked up #than i initially realised bc ive grown desensitised to it is. yeah cathartic i guess #they are singlehandedly reassuring me of the good this cursed app still holds #so everyone thank them and send them flowers NOW #okay im done i think. see you guys soon. i truly do want to come back asap bc like i said i NEVER EVEN WANTED TO FUCKING LEAVE #SOME ASSHOLES JUST HAD TO PUT GRENADES ON WHAT I ASSUMED WERE VERY UNIVERSAL AND OBVIOUS BOUNDARIES #if you're reading this like 'ohhh fuck i defo sent something invasive lately. i thought it was a joke/we were friends' #then 1) we arent friends if you're on anon. it immediately creates a power imbalance where you know me and any necessary context #but i have no idea who you are or how much you know about me. that's already a fucked dynamic #and 2) I HOPE YOU FEEL BAD. LIKE GENUINELY I HOPE YOU FEEL AWFUL AND HAVE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT YOURSELF #okay i think that's all. ta-ra lads??? how tf do u end something like this #ive queued this to reblog a couple more times throughout the day