It's terrible knowing that if I ever show sadness or show anything emotion that's not positive towards anything whether it's my fault or not I'll either get blamed for it or told that my emotions are irrational.
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Being homeschooled as a way to prevent any contact with the outside world was a wild trip. Not a fun trip. No, it was abusive, alienating, extremely lonely, and with absolutely no escape possible. I couldn't find refuge in friends, because I had none. I couldn't get help from a counselor, because there were none. I absolutely could not tell a mandated reporter what I was going through, because there were none. I couldn't get help from child services, because I didn't know they existed. I couldn't get help from anyone. No one came and saved me. No one.
You controlled everything about me. My clothes, my hair, my relationships, where I went and how long I was there. You made one ultimate and stupid assumption, and it will haunt you later. You could control who I was with, the environments around me, etc...
You made a big mistake in thinking you could truly control my thoughts. You made a big mistake in allowing me internet access at 13. You made a big mistake in allowing me to go to community college. I thank you for these.
I dreamed of my life without you. I dreamed of my life: without you.
THE ENTIRE TIME.
You'll be left behind. I won't look back. I won't help you. I won't save you. I won't talk to you. I won't be near you. I won't answer you.
You're lucky I have three siblings who care about you in the way you want them to.
Good luck.
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i was watching psych with mom and during one of the flashback scenes she was like “you know since this show is presented from shawns point of view and hes such an unreliable narrator, maybe all of these scenes are exaggerations? these could just be a misremembered caricature of his father because hes so much more mellow in the present day of the show” and i went on like. i gave a whole fucking presentation about how shawn is a liar but hes not a compulsive liar and he has no reason to lie to himself or to the viewers, he has an eidetic memory and his dad is still the kind of person to save an unfinished doghouse for decades just as an “i told you so” no matter how much more mellow you think he seems and so many of the characters are so over the top on their own anyways and she was like wow that was a really insightful and well thought out analysis and then 20 minutes later shawn made a joke about being into nurses and i actually paused the show to try and convert her to me and my siblings conspiracy theory that the other reason shawn spencer is Like That is because he watched a lot of mash and imprinted on hawkeye pierce at a very young age and i literally watched her expectations lower themselves back down to their earlier position in real time
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theme of the month really is "here are the cycles of pain and suffering that people get trapped in due to generational poverty and the mental illness and addictions that naturally arise from the anguish caused by that. watch as it eats people you love. you can't save them because this is greater than yourself. they can't save themself either because the system is so stacked against them. no one else can save them either, or anyone really, on an individual level, because the cause of these problems go far deeper than that and the wheels were set into motion so long ago that there is no other path anymore. all you can do is witness."
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One of my favorite anxiety tips i read, was this: if you tend to fear the worst outcome will happen or be very stressed about something (like say going to the grocery store, a party, going to the doctor visit, riding the bus, whatever)
Before you go, take a moment to think out a few things. 1. Think the worst case, that you're possibly fearing, and what you might do if it happened or what consequences it might have. Say you're worried about going to the grocery store. For me, I may be worried worst case they won't have what I need, I'll forget what I need, the cashier tries to talk to me and i royally fuck up what I say, they call me a bitch, maybe I run into an ex at the store who tries to follow me. For me maybe I'd plan to just leave asap if any of those things happen: just go straight home, never go to that specific grocery store again, do my shopping online next time from a different store. Basically I think of what I'm scared of, and what my plan maybe is if it happens.
2. Think of your best case scenario. Really be indulgent, whatever is your personal best case. For me, if I don't want to see anyone, my best case is the grocery store is quite empty and I don't have to look at anyone, everything I need is there and easy to get to AND the Jean jacket I really want is there for sale for like $6 and in my exact size, and maybe when I check out I get complimented on my hair (or the cashier barely notices me). For you, it might be that you get tons of compliments on your cute clothes, everything is cheaper than usual, you meet the love of your life in the baked goods isle and they get your number and ask you on a date, you run into your best friend there and she talks to the cashier for you (if you don't like talking to the cashier), and you get to pet a puppy outside the store (if you like puppies). You can make the best case scenario as awesome as you want it to be. (And honestly you'd be surprised how potentially awesome the actual outing could be... I did my "best case dream scenario" for a vacation I was worried about once and 90% of my unrealistic best case stuff happened).
3. Now think of a realistic case of what will probably happen. Something in between your worst fear and best hopes. For me, for grocery shopping, the realistic case I'd think about would be: I go, some stuff is for sale and somes expensive but I mostly end up spending what I planned, it's a bit busy but no one talks to me because I don't talk to them, if I see anyone who lives around here i dont want to talk to then i just walk away from the area they're in, I get most of what I went for but maybe forget a couple things or they don't have them, I check out and maybe say "have a nice day" to the cashier and feel stupid but I leave and the cashier forgets what I said because they don't know me and see hundreds of people a day. I leave. It's not a super great time but it's not super awful.
When you actually go, the realistic case you thought of is the closest to how it will probably actually go. The realistic case is usually something that can be gotten through. (And if you thought of worst, best, and realistic cases, and the realistic is still "i get physically hurt badly" or "I have a panic attack and have no safe escape and try to kill myself" then it's probably fair to just Not Do it even if people are pressuring you to).
If something worse happens, you might already have a plan for it (my plan is to leave immediately if something I really dislike happens and pick a different grocery store in town in the future), if something better happens (like if you love puppies and get to pet one) then maybe scary outing had some parts you enjoyed.
This doesn't work for everything. It's helped me with some everyday situations though.
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Sometimes i just.. think about how every single family member or adult/guardian etc in my life ranged from being clearly annoyed or uninterested in me; just sorta tolerating my existence at best to physically assaulting me and verbally abusing me day in and day out at worse. I don't think I had a single positive influence growing up. No one loved me or found worth in my existence. I'd show people my heart and they'd throw it to the ground and stomp on it. I'd show people my artwork and they'd tear it up in front of me, my comfort objects confiscated and destroyed, my special interest mocked. I couldn't just be "normal". Everything about me was an annoyance. Something worth punishing me over..... I can't... Think of a single person who showed me unconditional kindness. I don't understand what I did to deserve that kind of treatment.. I really don't ..
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Love the idea that once Luz is home and with her mom she goes into “I’m fine I’m fine I’m fine do not look at me I will shatter I’m fine I’m fine I’m fine” mode in OVERDRIVE. What I want though? Camilla doesn’t notice. She’s just so happy Luz is home and out of danger, and most importantly acting like she always did that she doesn’t register that Luz is that badly effected. She obviously knows Luz needs help and is trying to help her, but focuses on the other kids because Luz has always been her rock just as much as she’s been Luz’s and she thinks she can handle it for the most part. Especially when she’s home, she should be fine, and all these other kids, the poor things, are displaced and far from home, their parents must be so worried, she needs to take good care of them, make sure their ok. Luz will be alright, she’s always been strong emotionally. After all… she was fine after her dad died.
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Don’t wanna examine why playing hide and seek ignited my fight or flight so much
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