#i’m basically asexual…

[leechs]

do u watch porn?

porn is disgusting

#i’m basically asexual… #so no.

[sketchyface]

Friendly reminder that on AO3 ‘character A/character B’ is for ROMANTIC relationships and ‘character A & character B’ is for PLATONIC relationships, which includes QUEERPLATONIC ones cuz there’s no specific tag for it and is PLATONIC

Edit: Rule of thumb I use for tagging fics is if someone was looking through a specific tag, does your fic fulfil that? Like, if 1% of your fic is Angst and the rest of it is fluff you should not use the Angst tag, as someone looking through that tag probably doesn’t want to read your fic

Also, your tags NEED to be clear on what’s in the fic. So if anyone has blocked a certain tag, they won’t accidentally stumble into your fanfic

Using the character/character tag for queerplatonic relationships makes it hard for people who want to read your fanfics to know it’s queerplatonic and will immediately think it’s romantic and skip it

Like, I don’t want to read fanfics where Alastor is in romantic relationships. But because of how many people tag Alastor being in a queerplatonic relationship as character/character I can’t filter them out cuz I might miss some good misstagged fics. It makes finding fics I ACTUALLY want to read so fucking hard

Sincerely, an irritated AroAce person

#it’s so hard to filter tags when people tag queerplatonic relationships that involve Alastor with the romantic relationship tag #cuz now I have to read the tags to see if it’s romantic or misstaged queerplatonic and it complicates everything #PLEASE learn the basics of tagging on AO3 if you’re gonna post fanfics there #I hope I’m not the only one bothered by this! #hazbin hotel #ao3 #archive of our own #aroace alastor #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #rant

[lionblaze03-2]

mousefur and longtail are both asexual aromantic in some sort of qpr relationship with one another. Do you get it do you see my vision

#They’re life partners. One does not want to be without the other. But romantic and. The other kind of feeling are totally void from it #Is it still a queer platonic relationship if it’s a man and a woman that are ace/aro? I THINK so because the ace aro is the queer part #So that’s what I’m calling it! #when I was a kid I saw them as a romantic couple because I was very. Dense and basic on my views of things #(Ie I didn’t know gay people existed until I saw it in Undertale) #BUT. Mousefur is very obviously ace aro. And longtail also never takes a mate or has any romantic involvements or kits #So as an informed adult™️ I think this fits much better #Also I had forgotten about the fact mousefur was the one who first mentioned wasting prey. And that’s what made longtail go back #And get crushed by the falling tree. FUCK dude that’s so heavy #Imagine accidentally killing ur life partner because you said out loud you didn’t want to waste food #All this over a shrew? Was it worth it? I miss you. I’m so sorry. #HHHHHHHH #AND they’re both vaguely xenophobic! Made for each other 😔💖 #I can’t remember if longtail gets better or not post. Getting his shit kicked in by baby firestar #About like. OTHER kittypets. But I KNOW Mousefur doesn’t #Is it still asexual awareness week? It is right?? Happy week aces!! I bring you… qpr cats #warriors #warrior cats #mousefur #longtail

[mossy-aro]

kinda frustrating how so much aspec content (esp stuff published in like mainstream outlets) is literally just made for allos. like it’s always some article that’s just going over aspec 101 terminology and explaining various concepts and words aimed at a clearly allo audience.

i’m not saying those aren’t important because part of the issue aspecs face is how invisibilised we are and yes! it’s super important to raise awareness and let people know we exist! but it’s also kind of frustrating how it feels like 99% of not only our time but also all wider coverage about us is spent explaining our identities and giving ted talks to allos instead of like . discussing aspec issues and identity with any sort of depth or nuance.

Angela Chen (who wrote a book on asexuality) talked about thinking about aro/ace-ness not just as an identity but also a viewpoint or a ‘lens’ to examine issues through which i thought was interesting! like how does aro/ace identity intersect with our ideas of feminism, or of race? how does aromanticism inform our critique of the nuclear family and the institution of marriage?? how does asexuality play into our view of sexual politics? how does lovelessness deconstruct our ideas of ‘humanity’? there is so much to get into and so much ground that has never been covered but we are stuck!! on giving definitions!!

idk i don’t really have a solution here! because i know that on the one hand we need these kinds of articles that give streams of ‘aspec 101’ definitions because any visibility helps, but also i am so tired of having to dumb everything down instead of having actual discussions about aspec identities and what they can tell us. like hopefully we’ll get to a point eventually where we don’t have to do this but i’m still just. kinda tired :/

#aro #aromantic #aroace #asexual #ace #aspec #amatonormativity #leftist #sorry for this ranty post #also #this isn’t a slam on those articles btw !!! they’re important and absolutely have their place #im just tired of every single one being for allos and ONLY discussing the most basic concepts possible lol #it ends up leaving people with a very surface level understanding of a very complex community #and doesn’t really inform people about the issues that tangibly affect our lives #like compulsory sexuality and the pervasiveness of amatonormativity. #like if ur gonna talk about aros talk about amatonormativity. talk about relationship anarchy and qprs #talk about loveless aros + alloaros and not just aroaces and alloaces! #idk if I’m being 100% coherent and clear here sorry #tldr what im saying is that it’s frustrating how most discussion abt us is so surface level and doesn’t really get into anything beyond that #bc the aspec community has infinitely more to offer and is also infinitely more complex than presented in these articles

[soulless-bex]

being aroace/aspec is watching a show and absolutely loving the dynamic of that of duo (generally a girl-boy duo) but knowing that they’re most likely going to end up in a romantic relationship than to remain friends

that’s one way to ruin my fun like any other i guess

#i’m currently watching the national treasure series #and i absolutely love how oren and tash interact #they have such a chaotic friendship i love it #but the chances that they stay FRIENDS are basically nonexistent #gotta love amonormativity #aroace #aro #ace #aromantism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace struggles #aro struggles #ace struggles #national treasure series #aspec #aspec community

[kit-the-hetero]

I’m probably overreacting because two 18+ nsfw blogs interacted with me, but like I feel like I had made it clear beforehand that I am a minor and now I just want to put it in a bunch of places to make sure everyone knows that I am a minor and you should not interact with me if you are a porn blog.

So if you’re wondering why that’s on my account, I just wanna make it clear that I am under the age of 18, a minor, not a legal adult, and would like it if any porn/ 18+ nsfw blogs did not interact with me.

#The owner of this account is a minor #So please respect that #I’m also asexual which I feel like I have made clear #So I don’t know why that happened… Twice?? #And one of the first things that happened to me on here was someone sending me something for a dating website #So basically now it’s my goal for everyone to know I’m a minor and that shit makes me hella uncomfortable

[slow-clap-processors]

you guys…

ITS DONE!!!

(my chelldos fanfic)

(and it’s 144 pages?!)

that being said, I probably won’t post it until

a) AO3 approves my account invitation request and

b) I can actually proofread this thing (if anyone has the time and energy to beta read/consult on half-life lore, ASL, crow behavior or computer science- I will be indebted to you for life.)

edit: it’s here (<- link to the series on AO3)

#chelldos #portal #cheshi slow claps #portal 2 #if you want to know what it’s about: #it’s basically your typical post-canon return to aperture #glados is in her chassis #there’s a lot of fluff but also a lot of angst! so #and also they’re both asexual because i said so #i’m going to start a tag watch: #you monster (affectionate) #(that’s the name) #i’m literally dancing around rn this took SO LONG

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads / storygraph

Moonlight Love and Witchcraft

urban fantasy slice of life

romance between a vampire musician, their werewolf bartender girlfriend, and a young witch who shows up in town with her sister while on the run from their witch community

very little plot, she/they nonbinary MC, ace MC, bi MC

#Moonlight Love and Witchcraft #aroaessidhe 2023 reads #Well. first up this is so fucking long. #I was mostly enjoying it but by the second half my patience was wearing thin. #Like it very much says on the tin that this is 0 plot just cute romance but it’s so repetitive? #There’s a few interesting background plot threads at times but it basically just turns into cuddling and going on dates and cuddling a… #LOVE a 200yo beefy butch ace werewolf swordswoman who’s a big softie. #Logan I’m mostly neutral about they’re interesting enough up until the point she starts getting interested in Nemo….. #who. she’s 24 but reads more like a 15yo than the actual 15yo lmao. #I feel like there is a way to write a bubbly hyper character without them being so insufferably juvenile? tried my hardest but yeah nah #I simply just do not buy either of the others having romantic feelings about her lmao. and considering that's 90% of the plot.... #anyway I have a few more paragraphs of thoughts that are at the storygraph link above #I did only read this because it had an ace character & kinda expected it was gonna be something like this. glad the ace character was the #only character I liked I guess #sapphic books #asexual books

[arthur-r]

testosterone meeting complete?!?!?!?!???!!!

#it went well the doctor was so much better than any doctor i’ve met ever in my life #treated me like a human being?? was familiar with my pre-existing conditions?? #saw autism on my chart and just acknowledged it and moved on?? no ‘‘are you sure you’re trans you’re just a confused autistic kid’’ ??!! #i have an informed consent paper to look at now but it’s all stuff i’ve already researched #i have officially decided that T is more important to me than biological children so we got this #(i was already basically there but i had an anxiety spiral a couple months ago about freezing my eggs which i’ve confirmed was just anxiety #‘​‘just anxiety’’ i sound like a fucking evil doctor but like. intrusive-thoughts-anxiety vs thing-i-should-listen-to. i don’t want bio kids #the one thing i’m nervous about is my singing voice i wanna make sure i get some recordings in before my voice changes #cause my voice isn’t mine but i’ve sure worked hard on it shdhdf and it has a high pitched anxious quality to it that you can’t often find #shdhdhf i just feel like the voice i have now is more unique than wherever i’m gonna end up. and i really want to sound like my favorite cis #men musicians but i feel like my anxious songs just won’t hit the same if it sounds like some guy is singing them #so i’m gonna make some recordings within the next month to put out pre-T demo versions of my songs (real demos not what i’m always posting) #and then i’ll be ready. cause i want to sound like some weird shitty man SO BAD. please just let me be some off-key guy with voice cracks #TO BE CLEAR i would sure like to be a talented singer on testosterone. which has happened for one of my dearest friends and can probably #also happen for me. if i keep working on my voice all the time. BUT i would rather have a shitty low voice than a beautiful high one #which i did a lot of thinking about and grappling with since i’m a vocalist and it’s kind of really important to me #but half the male musicians i listen to can’t even hold a tune. so I CAN HANDLE IT #anyway!! i’m going to latin now!! and then i have work and then asexual club and then heading home and maybe laundry #i hope everybody has a good day and i love you dearly #me. my post. mine. #delete later #medical cw #(? ask to tag)

[doggaro]

[yells from the rooftops] TELL ME ABOUT CHARACTERS YOU THINK ARE ASPEC PLS PLS PLS

#i am so fucking serious right now you all better rb this and explain your headcanons in EXTENSIVE detail #i’ll go first! ive done this before but a refresher is always nice :) #charlie kelly is so fucking aroace. the ace part is basically confirmed by some deleted scenes and the aro part is like. i mean have u seen #his relationship w the waitress. c’mon now. speaking of sitcoms #jeff winger is aroallo! i think this is very sexy of him and also explains a lot and also also allows me to ignore jeffannie. yippee! #medic tf2 is aroace. that’s right. i said it. yes im leaning into the weird little aspec mad scientist trope. what of it. #(additionally i also think sniper and engie are probably aspec somehow :)) #i’m the no. 1 aro joey tribbiani truther. we all know this #ellie sattler is asexual because she is the first strong lady character i ever looked up to and this is the highest honor i can give her #JO MARCH AROACE REAL. she made me cry in that movie fr she’s jusy like ME !!!!!!!!! #this is such a deep cut but holland march is arospec and jackson heely is acespec #cameron frye is aroace-spec. he’s literally me fr. god. #aro #actually aro #aromantic #arospec #dogg.txt #asexual #aspec #ace #ace community #aroace #alloaro #alloace #acespec #adding to this: roman roy is aroace(spec?) as well. this is bc i said so. and also have you seen him #the writing is on the wall and this is my interpretation <3

[heartbreakfeelsogood]

being asexual and sex repulsed is actually really hard because everyone acts like you’re a freak and doesn’t take you seriously when you say you don’t want to talk about sex and half of y’all reading this can’t act like you would never do that because you can’t even tag your nsfw or put a warning before your explicit tags on how you wanna fuck that guy 👍🏼

#i make jokes sometimes so i’m really not trying to seem like a hypocrite but some of y’all get really detailed #and I Am Repulsed By Sex. so when you get Detailed About Sex i actually feel physically sick and usually have anxiety attacks #like that’s what we’re dealing with here! i’m not just being immature or a prude or whatever the fuck #i have anything labeled mature hidden too so if you’d prefer to use community labels knock yourself out #just. god i don’t know how else to explain this #and it’s not just a matter of unfollowing people. because people will reblog things from me with the grossest fucking tags. #and yes i can block or whatever but it still doesn’t stop and like i’m begging y’all??? #also there’s some people i don’t wanna lose as mutuals when they could tag four letters. idk #sorry i’m just. upset tonight #i feel like a freak for being asexual basically because it’s everyone acts like this is such an insane request #and i feel so isolated because of it #op

[stew4]

Slight ROW spoiler

not a major plot point but like if you’re worried-

It takes a lot to be an absolute shit bf and still be in my top ten characters. Hoid you’ve accomplished something 👏

but also fuck you

#hoid cosmere #hoid #stormlight #the stormlight archive #rhythm of war spoilers #jasnah kholin #canon asexual character #ARE YOU SERIOUSLY TELLING ME THAT IN LIKE A BILLION YEARS HOID HAS NEVER MET AN ASEXUAL PERSON #also Adolin and Kaladin do technically qualify Ig #But adolins bad bf behaviour was mostly off screen #And we get only one scene with tarah #So I’m disqualifying them #Lyn doesn’t count he was basically forced into it and she’s gay and they’re still friends so all is good

[hellerscape]

My Most BafflingTM arcoace moment was when I found out people don’t just play ‘fuck, marry, kill’ for fun…Like people give the options and from them you’re supposed to choose who you want to have sex with. But I never knew (for over 20 years) people actually wanted to have sex with the option they picked. So I always gave funny options otherwise it’s boring because who would actually want to fuck *insert random celebrity*

So I’d ask “fuck, marry, kill: a dust pan, an apple and a swimming pool?” And people would REFUSE to answer on the basis that they don’t want to fuck a swimming pool. Like babes, you’re not actually fucking a swimming pool…it’s a joke…that’s the whole point of this game (right?)

#I only have 1 friend left who is single and I’m feeling isolated so I made this post #wrote this at 10pm which is basically 1am for a morning person like me #I Hope someone sees this and laughs or feels validated or gets something out of it #grayromantic #but maybe I’m actually aromantic #aroace #asexual #aromantic

[insomniaposts13]

Please someone talk to me about asexuality. I don’t know how to talk to anyone I know in my life. I feel like maybe it fits? But I also just feel confused. And kinda scared.

#I could go the rest of my life and never miss sex #that doesn’t seem normal #it’s like laundry I guess? #I’m going to do it because it’s necessary #but it’s basically a chore #is that asexual? #I’m such a mess #asexual #asexuality

[confused-bi-queer]

I had a conversation with my family about the buzzlightyear movie’s gay kiss and, as expected, there were a few religious comments that “it not what god wants” and it just shattered me. Like- I just want to fall in love and be happy with a girl, why is that so bad?

#i had my why am i like this moment #🥲 #i never dealt with internalized homophobia while growing up because i didn’t know i was queer #but now i am #i hate that now I’m dealing with it #why do people even care? genuinely #pride is not only rainbows please it’s about people screaming for human basic rights #I’m so fucking scared of someone commitimg a hate crime to me at school #this shouldn’t fucking happen #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtq #asexual #bisexual #pride month #queer community

[kuramocheese]

i posted this before however HOWEVER i am going to do it again. this is a byler song 10000000%

#byler #mike to will or will to mike??? #it looks so basic looking at the lyrics but actually listening the the song makes it hit #i’ve cried to this song and i’m ASEXUAL LOL