#man people suck sometimes

[theminecraftbee]

okay, so in a rare moment for me, there's a discourse thing i want to bring up, and that thing is. okay. so on iskall's stream there's this thing that can happen where someone brings up a criticism of his content or vault hunters. frequently it's self-evidently wrong, but sometimes it's not. and then iskall spends the next thirty minutes shadowboxing this guy, explaining himself, and completely derailed. and this is an iskall trait we all know and sigh bemusedly about, because he cares about the community and wants people to understand his intentions! he wants the community to understand his decisions!

however, it's not the community as a whole he's fighting; he is in fact, arguing with One Guy, who often doesn't represent the wider community, and who normally won't have their mind changed. hell, sometimes it's believable that they're satisfied having just managed to upset iskall, and they'll leave, no change to their mind, perfectly pleased that iskall's responding at all (that's what i firmly believe the people who poke at the 'you don't upload enough and that means you're falling off and a bad person' wound are trying to do, at least).

in the vault hunters community, we refer to this as iskall getting One Guyed, and it's typically viewed as bad, because it ends up focusing an entire moment on a single guy's negative opinion as opposed to on the larger picture. and it's an understandable thing to have happen! but it's frustrating to watch from the outside.

and so now i am looking at that cat poll. and the way everyone is still shadowboxing someone who has since apologized. and the way i would have never ever known about any of the negative comments about jellie if it weren't for fellow mcyt fans constantly putting them on my dash to dunk on them. and it's like. if you look through the notes most of them are just... normal? it's only a tiny few of people (and the pollrunner, who has since apologized) who were being dicks. it's a very, very ignorable demographic.

but. well. there was One Guy. and we had to correct them.

and folks, i don't know how to say that i almost never see "lol mcyt is cringe" type comments unless one of you puts it on my dash. both because i don't go looking through the notes of things that are likely to have them or go looking for reasons to be upset and because it's just... not that common! very frequently these days it is, in fact, One Guy!

i have almost never seen that poll on my dash without at least one instance of the One Guy. instead of being for fun, it's mostly become about explaining ourselves to someone who will not listen and will not change their minds, and treating this as a the whole of the Other Side of that poll, when most people are being... fine. they're fine! the majority of the people voting for the other side are doing it for perfectly normal reasons that don't require fighting about.

and man. let me tell you. after spending as long as i have watching vault hunters development? it can be just as frustrating to watch a fandom get One Guyed as it is to watch iskall.

#discourse #i am immediately turning notes off for this post as a heads up because i HATE discoursing but #man. i feel like i need to point this out. #sometimes you'll be happier if you go 'that was One Guy huh. better just block them and move on. i won't change their mind.' #one day this fandom will learn. #cat of the year poll #<- for those also trying to block it #also i know in many ways this is just me contributing i'm aware of my flaws #but sometimes i think this fandom needs to step back and realize it doesn't really need to fight the world. #sometimes someone says a mean thing. that sucks! you do not need to fight them for two days about it though. #and we do this with polls but also other people's innocuous comments SO MUCH. #so here i am.

[bandtrees]

one of the most infuriating things i’ve realized about fandom spaces lately to me has been some people’s inability to just trust a story and engage with its premise and what it’s trying to express. “canon sucks i can do it better lol!!!” is one of the most annoying attitudes to me and i do kinda hate how prevalent it’s gotten (in actually good polished media that isn’t to be engaged with like that)

like between people who read things in as bad a faith as possible and ceaselessly criticize things they supposedly like, and people who only care about media for the sake of making cookie cutter self-indulgent fandom content, it feels sometimes like the most controversial thing you can do in a fandom is “actually liking the source material for what it is”

#babbles #like yeah aus n such are fun but sometimes i see things in fandoms that make me like ‘do you even LIKE the source material anymore???’ #‘just make ocs man!!!’ #rewatches of source materials should be mandatory people go too insane when they start forgetting what they’re engaging with #to say nothing of the very specific phenomena of. intentional bad faith readings of media #like people who went too damn hard in ‘be critical of what you consume’ and just look SO. MISERABLE. What About Having Fun! #like as a former dr fan. dr fans. is it great No i outgrew dr. but i think it’s better to accept outgrowing it than being #the most miserable ‘fan’ ever like UUUGHH THIS SUCKS WHY DO I LIKE IT ITS SO BAAADDD UUGGHHH #and criticizing it 24/7 like i don’t like dr much anymore but there’s a very specific… Type of dr fan #where im like ‘ykno you can just leave if you hate it so bad?’ #no need to self flagellate over it just accept you either like something kinda mediocre or just move on nobody’s keepin ya here

[moongothic]

You know we all meme about how Luffy doesn't give a shit about his parents/Dragon, how he seemingly has no interest in learning about the man or meeting him at all, and like yeah that is a Luffyism

And for a long time I figured Baby Luffy would be the same too; that Luffy in his naïvete just accepted he must've spawned from the ocean itself into Garp's care or something, not realizing he should in fact have parents, thus Luffy's seeming disinterest in them

But you know what

Luffy did spend most of his early childhood alone

Sure, he had Garp, but it seems like Garp wasn't always there to look after him every day, he had his duties as a Marine too. Had Garp been there 24/7 all year then Garp would never have allowed Luffy to interact with Shanks (a filthy pirate) to begin with. So yes, Luffy had his grandpa, but not all the time. And sure, Luffy also had Shanks, but Shanks didn't spend all his time in Fuusha Village either, he came and went whenever he pleased too until his final departure when Luffy was just six years old. And yes, there was everyone else in the village too, people who cared about Luffy and were helping look after him. But Luffy's early childhood was one without a stable family.

It wasn't until Garp yeeted the child into Dadan's care that Luffy actually gained a proper family, where after months and months of trying Luffy managed to win Ace's trust and gained Sabo as a brother too. But as we know, by that point Luffy already hated being alone

All of this to say; Luffy growing up essentially orphaned would explain why he's so afraid to be alone, the way he clings onto people

In some ways Luffy's POV is meant to be the reader's POV, to some degree Luffy's feelings and thoughts are meant to be how we the readers feel and think about whaveter is happening in the story. Not a 100% by any means, but somewhat at the very least.

Perhaps Luffy's lack of interest in Dragon isn't just "Luffy not giving a damn about blood family because chosen families are better" nor "Luffy is too stupid to understand where babies come from". Perhaps Luffy, who may have assumed he didn't have parents at all (as in "might've assumed they were dead or had intentionally abandoned him"), doesn't know what to think about the fact that he does have a father out there, one whom he has never as much as met. Because yeah, Luffy doesn't know why Dragon left him with Garp, why he never got to be with his dad. Should he be angry at Dragon, hate him for being left alone? Or did Dragon have a good reason for it, does Dragon wish things could've been different?

Perhaps Luffy's seeming disinterest in Dragon isn't because he doesn't care about blood family, but because much like us the readers, Luffy doesn't quite know what to make of Dragon, and figuring those feelings out hasn't been relevant to the plot yet.

#Moon posting #OP Meta #IDK I see people often kind of just. Overly simplify (/dumbify) One Piece's themes about family into just like #''To hell with blood relatives! Chosen family is literally all that matters! Blood relatives can eat shit!'' #And it just. Feels like such a shame because One Piece's themes around family are so much more complex than that #Yes! Chosen/adopted families are just as much families as ones tied with blood! A family isn't more real just because it's tied with blood! #Sometimes your relatives suck ass! You don't have to considder them ''family'' at all! #And sometimes your family does Questionable Things but with the well-being of their family genuinely in mind. As their priority. #Despite everything Garp really loves Luffy AND ACE. He's an idiot but genuinely only ever wanted the best for those two #Family is when people love each other and want look after one another. **That's** what matters #That's why blood family reunions have been such a big reoccuring thing in the story especially post-TS #Reuniting families that've been torn apart would not matter if they did not love each other #IDK man I have Thoughts but not the braincells to form coherent sentences

[doodlebloo]

C!Karl as a character went so crazy. Him accidentally breaking that button and swapping sides on the 16th being retroactively canonized as him time travelling so much he forgot which universe he was in and what consequences his actions would have. The In-Between. His memory issues scorning c!Quackity and in turn inadvertently worsening c!Quackity's dislike of c!Ranboo which made c!beeduo's problems worse. Oh it was so juicy

#i miss karl sometimes i was a huge fan back in the day i loved watching his stuff #in my darker moments i really do miss dtqk. obviously i now know the dteam are bad people so i wouldnt want them back #but its like man that was really fun and it sucks that they ruined such a fun thing by being pieces of shit yknow. #doodle.txt

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

Can we get a ranking of speedsters most to least likely to kill

This thing is gonna be an upside down pyramid. Jesus, okay.

Tier 1 (Have killed, will kill)

Jay, Max, Dawn, Don

Tier 2 (Have killed, will kill again but is more prone to torture when angry and/or threatened)

Barry, Bart, Wally

Tier 3 (Hasn't killed but will if needed)

Avery, Ace, Jesse, Jenni

Tier 4 (Actual child)

Irey, Jai, Wade

My explanation for this? Simple. Tier 1 is all people who have actively fought in wars. Jay fought Nazis, he killed people in WW2. That's just what happened. He doesn't feel bad about it. Jay avoids killing people now because he isn't at war currently, but he will kill and has killed if he absolutely has to.

Max has also fought in wars and he has had a long and storied past throughout history. The man has seen and done things. Not all of them good. But yeah, Max has killed. Will he kill again? Unlikely. Unless someone is threatening his daughter or Bart, in which case, yes, it's very likely.

Dawn and Don also fought in a war and killed entire platoons of Dominators. They're unlikely to kill again because they're dead. But if they weren't dead? I'm pretty sure they'd still be fine with killing people in wartime situations.

Tier 2 is a little bit more complicated. Barry, Wally and Bart have all killed people. It's a last resort for them but it's still always an option. If they have to kill the bad guy to save the civilian then they'll kill the bad guy no questions asked. Some people have to die for the time stream to function correctly? Sure. Okay. Especially bigger bads like Darksied. They had absolutely no problem killing Darksied. Oh, and you better watch out if you threaten their loved ones because the people they love are worth dying and killing for.

They don't like it. They really don't like it. But they'll do it.

(Honestly though? Bart is unnerving unfazed by it)

Tier 3. So... This may come as a surprise but I actually haven't read all the LoSH comics? So while I'm fairly certain Jenni hasn't killed anyone, I can't say that 100%. Either way, she'd be down for it if it was the only option.

Avery would 100% be down for murder. So would Ace. That's the Iris West influence right there. Those two kids are not afraid to get their hands dirty and, while I'm fairly certain they haven't yet, I have no doubt that they will. These two just inherited Iris' moral code and she's totally fine with homicide.

Jesse surprises me because she's gotta have killed someone. I'm wracking my brain and nothing comes to mind but I don't buy that for a second. She's just got that homicidal energy, you know? She's 100% done it and will again, I just can't remember when it was.

Tier 4 is the children. Now... to be clear. I'm not saying that they haven't killed anyone because they are children. No, I'm actually fairly positive they have killed a significant amount of people. I'm saying that they are children and therefore do not understand the concept of death. They don't really understand that they've killed people and I don't really think they are any more or less likely to kill again. Until they understand it they are just destructive forces of nature. No malice or intent. Just sheer raw power.

#Irey and Jai have killed a truly insane amount of people for how young they are #its inspiring honestly #Bart is wild because he's honestly like 'Oh No! Anyway-' when it comes to killing people #Barry is like 'Dang that sucks... going to jail i guess?' The man is fine with it. not happy but doesn't really regret it either #but also he can and will turn himself in. like... hes aware of the consequences and he's ready to face them when he kills #meanwhile Wally handles it the worst out of all of them #well. sometimes. he did throw Eobard into space one time hoping that he would die #so... it's a case by case basis #dc #dc comics #the flash #kid flash #wally west #impulse #bart allen #barry allen #speedsters #jay garrick #max mercury #jai west #surge #irey west #thunderheart #ace west #wade west #jesse chambers #jesse quick #avery ho #dawn allen #don allen

[sweetest-honeybee]

Some people do kinda suck but I find a lot of joy in giving people really specifics compliments at my job and it makes their whole day sometimes c: 💛

#I had a very enthusiastic conversation about a lady’s hair and the way it was cut #she cut it herself! #I often like to tell some women that their purse is very nice and they’re usually very proud of their purses I’ve found #I will tell some people sometimes that the color of their shirt is so fitting for their skin tone and was a great choice that day #I expressed once to a customer that I loved the prints of his shirts and he came by one day in this one particular shirt #hoping I’d be there apparently because he wanted me to see the shirt because I love his style! #it’s so nice #I had a lady blushing once from head to toe because I said she looks like the perfect example of a woman #that face every artist draws for that reference #she was so beautiful #haha I like compliments on men’s facial hair too! #they’re proud of their facial hair a lot of the time #even soemthing as simple as they look amazing for their age which I’ve said many many times #like I said some people suck and I have yet to truly meet the bad eggs but man I just really like seeing them light up #when you compliment the littlest things they put hardly any effort into and think maybe nobody will even notice #I like pointing out those things

[useramor]

>:/

#okay hello having a bit of a dilemma here advice would be welcome and appreciated #i don't want taylor swift on my dash #i don't like her for many valid reasons but above everything else #she irritates me deeply #unfortunately so many mutuals that i'm close with and love are big swifties #and i don't want to unfollow them and break the mutual and no longer see the content they post that i DO like #but also like. i hate when taylor does something and then my whole dash is just. filtered post after filtered post. #because everyone is talking about it #it ruins my fun on here a little bit #and most of my mutuals who are big swifties tag the posts but sometimes it's a silly text post #so they'll just reblog #and i can't even blame them because i do the same thing i don't tag every single post i make #but goddddddd it's driving me crazy #idk what to do about it #like these are my FRIENDS i don't want to unfollow my friends :( especially because i don't text everyone outside of tumblr #so i'd lose contact with a lot of people and that would suck :/ #ugh idk man #anyway #be quiet bia

[qtubbo]

I feel like people need to remember the phrase, its not banter its bullying, when it comes to Sunny and Phil, whether or not he’s intended it he’s been way more aggressive towards this egg he doesn’t know, and without directing these “jokes” to any of the other eggs. That is a child he is an adult and if he is making this literal baby feel bad with his comments (mind you ones he makes without the kid even being there sometimes) maybe he shouldn’t be making them, maybe thats something to look into and analyze. Going actually this toddler needs to just get used to Phil’s jokes and he’s doing nothing wrong, ignores Phils own attempts to rp a more morally complex character and blames a child for being hurt.

Let characters have flaws, do I need to give you a qtubbo character flaw involving his “jokes” to make you understand this isn’t a personal attack. Tubbo has huge self-doubt and self-confidence issues which stems from feeling of never being able to do what he really set out for, because of this he tries to talk himself up. Generally though he is unable to see himself in a better light so he instead talks down his friends in an extreme and exaggerated ways. While the comments are joke-y they are still unfair to the people he’s directing them to especially since he always says this stuff in private. Making a joke out of your friends to feel better about yourself isn’t evil but it’s still a character flaw.

Also if you’re gonna make a response to my other post don’t add in argument I didn’t make about Phil and Tubbo’s relationship so you can feel smart. It just shows that you had nothing to stand on in the first place, and most likely agree with what Im saying. (Reference to multiple tweets and posts)

#Val ramblings #Fandom neg #qsmp fandom neg #discourse #Fandom annoys me sometimes its so hard to enjoy characters with flaws when people are just unable to admit they are there #Or downplay them to a degree were it’s impossible to really talk about them #Qphil is just some guy and so is qtubbo but ignoring that hes been going far past joking about tubbo is just not it #Tubbo says wow your old old man and phil responds wow everything you have ever built for your child sucks a train cart could never be home #Your kid must be suffering in your care??? Like do you not see the difference #Qsmp #i waited to tag that last one because I didn’t want it to be at the top of the tags

[jrueships]

sometimes i'll think abt a Fandom and wish it were bigger, and sometimes i'll read something from a fandom.. and wish it were smaller

#ppl seeing a confident black man : FINALLY! A PERFECT ANTAGONIST FOR OUR STORY! #THE CORRUPTOR!! THE ASSHOLE! MR KNOWS ALL! #i want to be bigger into football. i rlly do #but . omg. sometimes seeing just So Much . side eye shit is . like imagine my exhaustion #and this isnt me trying to be the behavior police like let ppl write but sometimes seeing such. Fun. patterns can be like #idk man it's sad like damn thats rlly how the world is and obvs i KNOW how it can be but it's real wack #real wack being reminded even in ur supposed happy place ur supposed lighthearted little break from the world #it's still not . idk. it's just not #oh the poor pale blond qb just a little anxious baby oh and his evil zany teammates trying to corrupt him oh theyre so terrible for my angel #:/ #.. that is. a Grown. Man . #it's like replaying my 2nd grade teacher ******** me bcs i was a troublesome kid and it made her feel young and alive and bad again #like wtf am i corrupting you with maam? skibbity toliet ? leave me alone !! #listen. if it were smthing like 'x rlly likes tomatoes' when he actually likes idk carrots? i would not give a fuck. infact i prefer carrots #but bad patterns have smthing more to say bcs patterns in general have a story #it's more than 'he would not fucking say that' it's 'WHY tf are YOU making HIM say THAT of ALL people & THINGS???' #like i love having asshole characters in my stories too. and they can be poc ! NO ONE is a saint! #but having one just to fuel the only one u actually care abt? having their problems solely be for plot?? & making that one #a SPECIFIC kind of person ?? is kinda giving me 'u dont view x as a human which could mean you dont view x race as humans' #WHICH IS !! IT SUCKS ! THAT SUCKS! #i know i need to just suck it up and ignore it but thats like the life quote of being poc isnt it #ugh #it sucks

[wibble-wobbegong]

“non-transphobes” after asking trans men why they would EVER choose to be a man when they could be a woman: im such an ally

#more so: asking gay men why they would ever want to date men when they could be dating women #bc you know. men are all disgusting and horrible and there’s nothing attractive about them beyond looks Sometimes #its really really annoying when cool people start making terf and radfem comments #it fucking sucks #ik the oppressed has a right to hating their oppressor but MAN

[uncanny-tranny]

I think multiple things can (and are) true and important to recognize:

1. Cis people are trans people will more often than not have a ton in common. Trans women and cis women, for example, can have a ton of experiences in common as women

2. Trans people oftentimes do have very different experiences from cis people, and it can be irresponsible to say that trans people have to have the exact experiences as cis people of the same gender identity. The experiences of transness can overlap with experiences of cisness, but by no means does that require them to overlap in every instance. Trans people don't need to be the same as cis people in order to be authentically their gender.

3. Trans people aren't solely responsible for "saving" their gender, or for making people better men/women/people.

4. For the love of all that is holy, cisness is not the default. It is simply one human experience of gender and/or sex, and transness isn't an anomaly - it is just as much a human experience as being cis.

These are complex conversations, and I know it can be hard to navigate sometimes. I'm not here to condemn people for not being the most Nuanced about trans topics, in fact I want to invite more people to the table. We all have something to contribute to making the world a better place for trans and cis (and those beyond or inbetween) people

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #i notice as a trans man that people /expect/ me to be the exact same as cis men otherwise my manhood isn't 'real'... #...or that people sometimes /expect/ me to save manhood and be a better man than every other (cis) man... #...and it's just hard sometimes to navigate because i do have a lot in common with cis men... #...but i also have very different experiences because of transphobia and queerphobia... #...so yes i am the same 'amount' of man as a cishet man or whomever else... #...but that doesn't mean that i'm not going to have differences... #...basically my point is that trans people and cis people can have common ground but to not lose sight of dismantling transphobia... #...because it's GREAT that trans and cis people can relate with one another but that doesn't necessarily solve transphobia #i wish i went into more depth with my thoughts on that post #because this is a complex topic and there aren't simple answers and that sucks - people want simple answers #and i don't blame people for wanting simple answers. but that's not where we are at right now i think #*screaming* DOES THIS MAKE SENSE /nm

[chloeseyeliner]

another afternoon goes by. another evening is coming soon. another day is already inviting us to get lost in it; yet, i am still stuck on the same torturing question.

who is one of the most beautiful men you have seen in your life and why is it omar rudberg?

#it sucks that i don't have photo evidence #but there are plently omar photos around here #just fyi #i am not attracted to omar because i am ✨asexual✨ so i naturally cannot lol #aesthetic attraction is going places with this man though #if someone asks me about my sexuality every i'll just say #i am romantically attracted to wonderful girls i become close with #black cat and golden retriever boys #cool people with amazing personalities in between #and ALSO aesthetically attracted to omar rudberg in moving like that mv because DAMN i wanna be this pretty #and he is so beautiful and talented and confident #so yeah thanks for reading this rant if you did #sometimes i wonder #should i have a podcast? #because i have too many words inside my head that never come out and i want them to ugh #lol #i mean not just for fandoms #words as regards life and the sociology analysis behind things and politics and books and- #omar rudberg #young royals #*plenty of (for the first tag)

[philyaoi]

ok hi ill be honest for the past few days ive been having a pretty awful OCD Moment working myself up abt stanning dnp when they havent done xyz and “is what theyve done rly enough” etc. but seeing ur posts abt this whole thing helped me ground myself and get back to a more functional state just wanted to say ty for always sharing nuanced perspectives on these things <3

this is so sweet to hear i am so glad i could be of help in some way <3 i had pretty similar thoughts growing up on this website, becoming hypervigilant about my media consumption and how problematic (by 2014 tumblr standards) it is and things like that to the point where to this day it's hard for me to talk about the things im interested in (uh besides on here i guess lol). i think i kinda figured out that like it's up to me how i want to engage with any media including youtube, how much i want to let a creators actions speak for me. if that makes sense lol

#also wrt whether or not theyre doing enough is like #honestly for those of us that live in the US and UK is it ever gonna be enough? ykwim? #which fucking sucks to say and like we ARE seeing change happen but like. we live in the places that are funding the bombs #and sometimes it really feels like we can't do much about it #but we can do our fuckin best man #we can attend protests we can be mindful of our spending power we can donate we can volunteer #we can share resources we can keep going #fretting over whether a celebrity is doing enough for a movement is like well it will never be 'enough' #bc the power that we have doesn't lie in their hands it lies in the hands of the people #i hope i am making any sense it is 2 am idk

[evilkitten3]

i have a lot of thoughts on fandoms and treatment of female characters but i do not seem to have the words to put said thoughts into. frustrating.

#personal #vent post? #idk #fandom crit #like when you're scrolling through an art blog and the only time the girl characters show up is in group images #or when people are willing to bend over backwards to talk about male character but dismiss the female characters altogether #like on the one hand there's plenty of examples of male authors failing miserably to write female characters #but so so often i see fans act like badly-written female characters aren't like. symptomatic of a bigger issue #it's hard for me to explain but i think people have like. a difficult time admitting that misogyny exists in media #at least when it concerns female characters they don't like #bc it's fine to not like badly written characters imo #but it does seem sometimes that people would rather tell themselves that the author intended the character to be unlikable #ofc it's pretty much impossible to give a solid ''this is what the author was thinking'' without the author's commentary #or without being a mind reader i guess #so it's all speculation #but i do feel as though people have an easier time with ''she just sucks'' than ''this man can't write women and it shows'' #idk i don't really have the words for it #to be clear i'm not innocent of this either #it's just. idk something i've been thinking about lately

[hidingoutbackstage]

I literally have no idea why people love MK1 Bi-han/Sareena so much. Do I know where it came from in concept? Yes. But Mythologies: Sub-zero is a completely different timeline thank MK1 (fucking obviously) and Bi-han fucking sucks and deserves no love in MK1 and I refuse to allow him to feel the touch of a woman, least of all Ashrah’s sister whom I adore

#sid rants #sid bitches #like. people ONLY talk about sareena rn in regards to her being with bi-han (something that doesn’t exist in mk1) #when what we ACTUALLY know about her is that ashrah is trying to help absolve sareena as well as herself #bc she’s her sister and ashrah loves her #like come on! talk about that! #tbh i HAVE seen a little content of ashrah and sareena being sisters #but WAY less than ship stuff with her and bi-han #and sometimes it’s both. i don’t want both #also everyone only talks about the ship in the context of sareena ‘redeeming’ bi-han #like. i don’t care! can sareena be redeemed like. literally in the context of her universe #before she has to save a man from being evil? #also also bi-han fucking sucks! he’s always sucked! why do we need him redeemed?