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jgoddesstarot · 7 months

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Pick-A-Pile: Autumnal Affection: How Will You Meet Your Future Spouse During The Fall Season?

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Pile 1

Tarot Cards: 9 of Wands, King of Pentacles, Queen of Swords, Ace of Swords, The High Priestess, 5 of Wands

Oracle Card: Rose Quartz: Open Up Your Heart

My dear Pile 1's, as autumn leaves begin to fall, a unique love story unfolds, painted with the warm hues of the season. Your reading opens with the 9 of Wands, signaling anticipation and resilience. It seems you've been through a tough journey in love, perhaps testing your faith in true companionship. But remember, my Pile 1's, perseverance is what shapes us and readies us for the love we truly deserve.

Next, the King of Pentacles graces your spread, embodying a partner who is reliable, practical, and grounded - a true reflection of Autumn's stability. This person brings not just love, but also a sense of security and consistency. You may meet this person in a setting related to work or financial endeavors, symbolizing their strong and dependable nature.

The Queen of Swords in your spread adds an exciting depth to your narrative. This card represents clear communication, independence, and intellectual energy. Your future spouse may be someone who admires your wit and engages you in stimulating conversations, a true meeting of minds.

The Ace of Swords, cutting through the autumn air, brings a fresh start, triumph over difficulties, and mental clarity. This suggests that your meeting might occur when you least expect it, when you've achieved clarity about what you want from a relationship. The High Priestess then steps in, asking you to trust your intuition. You'll feel a deep, unexplainable connection when you meet your future spouse.

The 5 of Wands hints at a bit of initial tension and competition, perhaps some playful banter and intellectual challenges that will stoke the fires of mutual attraction. And finally, the oracle card, Rose Quartz, calls for you to open your heart. This emotional crystal resonates with the heart chakra, promoting love, forgiveness, and healing.

In essence, my captivating Pile 1's, your autumnal affection will be a beautiful blend of resilience, intellectual companionship, intuitive connections, and heart-opening love. Your future spouse will be someone who matches your energy, challenges you, and provides a comforting sense of security. The journey might test your faith, but remember, it's all part of your path to deep, enduring love. So, brace yourself for a love as cozy as a warm autumn afternoon, as secure as the King of Pentacles, and as emotionally enriching as the Rose Quartz.

Pile 2

Tarot Cards: 7 of Pentacles, Judgement, The Hanged Man, 2 of Pentacles, Knight of Swords

Oracle Card: Children: Your love life is being affected by children

My intriguing Pile 2's, your journey to autumnal love starts with the 7 of Pentacles, signaling a time of patience and reflection. As the leaves fall, you are likely to find yourself evaluating your past relationships and learning from them. You're poised for growth, but remember, it will require time and patience, just as a seed requires time to sprout.

Then comes the Judgement card, hinting towards a spiritual awakening and renewed self-understanding. You might meet your future spouse during a moment of personal transformation, where you are ready to embrace a new phase of life. This meeting could be the result of a significant personal decision or a change in life direction.

The Hanged Man follows, signaling a change in perspective. In the context of love, this could mean stepping out of your comfort zone and looking at potential relationships from a different angle. Maybe your future spouse isn't someone you'd typically consider, but don't worry, this card assures you that this fresh perspective will be beneficial.

Up next is the 2 of Pentacles, suggesting a balance between multiple priorities. This card in your spread indicates that when you meet your future spouse, you may be juggling various aspects of your life, but your ability to balance makes you attractive. They will admire your resilience and how you manage life's ups and downs.

Finally, the Knight of Swords races into your reading, symbolizing that your future spouse will come into your life quickly and unexpectedly, perhaps during a community event or a sudden trip during the fall. You may first connect through spirited intellectual debates, a clear sign that you've found someone who can match your pace.

The Oracle card, Children, adds an intriguing twist. It suggests that children might play a critical role in how you meet your future spouse. Perhaps it's through a shared responsibility or a chance encounter at a children's event that you cross paths.

In conclusion, my captivating Pile 2's, your autumnal love story is one of patience, personal growth, new perspectives, dynamic balance, and rapid developments. Your future spouse will be someone who appreciates your complexities and matches your intellectual vigor. As you navigate this journey, remember to embrace the playful spirit of the Children card. Your autumnal affection calls for a love that is patient, transformative, balanced, and, most importantly, as exciting and unpredictable as a whirl of falling leaves.

Pile 3

Tarot Cards: Page of Wands, 2 of Cups, The Chariot, Page of Pentacles, The Fool, The Moon, Queen of Cups

Oracle Card: Deception: Someone is wearing a false self-mask in this relationship

My lovely Pile 3's, your autumnal journey of love begins with the charismatic Page of Wands. This card signifies enthusiasm and exploration. Your path to meeting your future spouse might be through an unexpected adventure or a passionate pursuit. This could be a new hobby or an exciting project that ignites your spirit.

Next, we have the 2 of Cups, a card that exudes mutual attraction and emotional bonding. It suggests that there may be an immediate connection when you encounter your future spouse. An emotionally charged moment could spark a profound bond that brings you two together.

The Chariot then gallops into your reading, bringing a sense of control and determination. It indicates that despite any obstacles that may stand in your way, your willpower and dedication will triumph. Your journey to find love may involve some challenges, but you have what it takes to overcome them.

The Page of Pentacles makes an appearance next, hinting at a tangible opportunity. Perhaps your future spouse comes into your life through a professional or financial endeavour. The Fool follows, suggesting that taking a leap of faith could lead you to your destined partner.

The mysterious Moon then rises in your reading, implying that things may not be as they seem. This is echoed by your Oracle card, Deception. It warns that someone may be presenting a false self. Be cautious and trust your intuition. Remember, through the deceptive darkness, the moon also provides illumination.

Finally, the Queen of Cups swims into your spread, symbolizing empathy, care, and emotional security. Your future spouse might be someone who provides emotional comfort and understands your deepest feelings.

In conclusion, my captivating Pile 3's, your autumnal affair is one of passion, emotional connections, determination, tangible opportunities, leaps of faith, intuition, and emotional security. The journey may involve some deception, but your intuition and emotional intelligence will guide you. Remember, the most vibrant autumnal colors come after the harshest changes. Embrace the journey with an open mind and heart.

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hearthem00n · 9 months

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The Researcher Archetype (145) - Part1

It's been a long time since I've been studying the Enneagram and its tritypes. But I find few references about the variations of certain tritypes, particularly the "The Researcher" type. Some of the references I find are on the Personality Database Wiki and Personality Cafe, as well as Katherine Fauvre's official website. I'll break it down into parts to make it more accessible. If you can share your experience through this post or by tagging me, I would be delighted.

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"Tritype® 145, 154, 415, 451, 514, 541-The Researcher If you are a 145, you are diligent, intuitive, and knowledgeable. You want to be ethical, original, and wise. Highly intellectual, you are focused on what you perceive is correct and above reproach. Motivated to be informed, you are research-oriented. You seek and quote the opinions of experts to avoid being uncertain and seen as ignorant. You like to learn and will deeply study whatever captures your interest."

-Katerine Fauvre

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[Personality Database Wiki]:

1+4: The Humanist

Double frustration.

Enhances the natural line of connection to ONE and FOUR.

Pairing that is the most focused on refining their ideals, pursuing higher standards.

Whatever the instinctual stacking or the head type, there is a strong push toward what is considered tasteful, decent and grotesque, vulgar.

Want to bring its intuition and imagination front and center but with certain standards and guidelines.

This is a very persnickety and particular pairing that needs to do things a certain way, even when it isn’t practical.

Subtle (or not so subtle) disdain for what is considered subpar, plain, normal or mediocre.

They are often hard to truly please and are even very critical of themselves.

Conflictual relationship with their emotions: refrain from feeling, then let go.

Wants to experience life in all its depth and glory, but the ONE fix wants to keep that within certain rules and boundaries of decency.

May cultivate spiritual and/or religious outlook on life.

Can bring out new standards of excellence, unparalleled visions of beauty.

Can be attached to certain aspects of art and/or culture.

Often quite philosophical and adamant about setting certain standards.

In very low levels of health may run the risk of emotional and mental exhaustion by restricting themselves from continuously harsh standards.

May unintendedly castrate their own emotional experience by repeated superego blockage.

Invertedly, may also sabotage their ability to think critically and rationally with their emotional tidal waves.

The 4 fix helps the core 1 to experience life through a more intuitive and spiritual way so to search for meaning.

The 1 fix helps the core 4 to bring structure and order in its emotional musings and bring out its internal desires to fruition.

1+5: The Rational

Double competency.

Pairing that is the most focused on accuracy and scientific methods of reasoning.

Most cerebral combination.

Usually display tastes for intellectual pursuits and a deep hunger for knowledge.

Not easily satisfied with the superficial answers; knows what and how to search for them.

Usually very focused mind that can home in on what to extract from books and sources of information.

Can give extremely detailed and structured information about a subject that they have studied.

Probably one of the most aloof and emotionally distant pairing there is. A TWO wing or fix can help alleviate that tendency.

Very curious mind. They want to know everything that something or someone has to offer.

There is always an effort to be exhaustive and precise in their speech while avoiding rambling if possible.

Pairing that is the most uncomfortable with superficial chat and can be awkward in social situations.

It’s hard for them to let go of the formalities and be more open-minded for one.

They can be stuck with their way of thinking and not welcome new situations because of this.

Can be frustrated by the lack of standards and in-depth knowledge that others cannot display.

Can be easily seen by others as know-it-alls, since they like to correct people on having accurate information.

This pairing can suffer from mental exhaustion because of the level of accuracy and methodical search that they abide by on a daily basis.

The 5 fix helps the core 1 to withhold judgment before complete exhaustivity and having a more objective outlook on a subject.

The 1 fix helps the core 5 weighing which information is worthful or not and become more structured in its analysis.

4+5: The Introspective

Double withdrawn.

Paring that is the most introspective and focused on its inner life.

Enhances the natural wings of FOUR and FIVE.

This is the deep divers of their own personal abyss.

People with this pairing are deep thinkers and feelers.

Often feel like a drop in the ocean, like they could be easily swallowed by the outside world.

Feel tired very quickly when interacting with people, especially in new environment.

Genuinely feel different and separate from the crowd.

Generally, prefer written communication over spoken one.

Seek depth in everything and often cannot tolerate daily conversations because of this.

Often engrossed in interests far more than other pairings.

They have a hard time communicating their feelings if they are caught up in them.

Often have a capacity for forming mental maps in which they can intuitively navigate.

Seek beauty and authenticity in the pursuit of knowledge.

Often have odd or unusual interests.

Can be shut ins and live in their own fantasy realm.

Can be emotionally moved and not overtly showing it at all.

Often have a hidden self that very few people are aware of.

Want to be known for their artistic complexity and ingenuity.

It can take them enormous amount of time to produce something because they always prioritize quality over quantity.

Feelings can be a source of anxiety, but they still want to experience them.

Often amass vast amount of knowledge and are often wise beyond their years.

The 5 fix helps the core 4 seek out logical causes to their feelings of inferiority and pursue intellectual hobbies.

The 4 fix helps the core 5 break out of the cerebral mindset and allow intuitive and emotional depth to seep into the self.

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[Personality Cafe]

Harmonic triads: Single reactive Double competency No positive outlook Hornevian triads: Single compliant Double withdraw No assertive Object relation: Double Frustration No attachment No rejection That said: (1)45 - the withdrawn 1 1(4)5 - the competency 4 14(5) - the idealistic 5

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pcttrailsidereader · 1 year

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Dimensions of Wellness

As we enter the start of what looks to be a challenging hiking season it is important to optimize one's mental and physical health. Given the potential for some extraordinary conditions all along the PCT this year, here are eight dimensions of overall wellness. These come from Dr. Margaret Swarbrick. (Northwestern.edu/wellness/8-dimensions).

Emotional-Emotional wellness is defined as coping effectively with life and creating satisfying relationships.

Spiritual-Spiritual wellness is defined as expanding a sense of purpose and meaning in life, including one's morals and ethics. It may or may not involve religious activities.

Intellectual-Intellectual wellness is defined as recognizing one's creative abilities and finding ways to expand knowledge and skills.

Physical-Physical wellness consists of recognizing the need for physical activity, healthy foods, and sleep, as well as preventing illness and injury or managing chronic health conditions.

Environmental-Environmental wellness is defined as occupying pleasant, stimulating environments that support well-being.

Financial-Financial wellness is defined as satisfaction with current and future financial situations.

Occupational-Occupational wellness is defined as gaining personal satisfaction and enrichment from one’s work, whether that be academic work while in college or a job after graduation (or retirement).

Social-Social wellness is defined as developing a sense of connection, belonging, and a well-developed support system.

As you read through these you may find it difficult to relate these dimensions to time on the trail. Whether you are a thru hiker, section hiker , or day hiker, we go into nature for our health mental and/or physical and the potential rewards that follow. It makes sense that our time in nature has a direct relationship with our overall wellness.

As I considered each dimension and my time on the PCT I could easily relate to every one. Coping emotionally, getting clearer on the meaning of one's life, being creative, striving for physical balance, being in nature, making due with one's current/future financial situation, determining one's next career/life steps, and finally experiencing a sense of belonging and connection with others. These are all out there waiting for us to contemplate and apply into our life and hiking experience. In fact some of the more profound changes I have tried to make in my wellness usually have a link to my time on the trail or generally being in nature.

When we consider adding physical activity into our life there is usually an underlying wellness reasoning for whatever we choose to do. As you prepare to go explore the PCT or your neighborhood I urge you to think about and reflect on the eight dimensions of wellness. If you have reactions about these eight dimensions of wellness please share those with us. We will look forward to your feedback.

#Eight Dimensions of Wellness #Dr. Margaret Swarbrick

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astrowithkaro · 2 years

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Hi! I really enjoy your Language of birthdays series and was thinking if you would do july 23?💜 Thank you so much

Language Of Birthdays: July 23 - Cancer/Leo

The Day Of Uncertainty Resolves

Those born on July 23 face a recurring theme of uncertainty in their lives. More highly evolved people born on this day are ultimately successful in resolving uncertainties, either personally for themselves or professionally for others. Less highly evolved people born on this day suffer from periodic identity crises in which profound doubts about themselves and highly self-critical attitudes surface.

July 23 people are basically traditionalists, and no matter how far out some of their views may be, they remain firmly rooted in conservative traits. Whatever their area of interest, be it their profession, hobby or art, they seek to know as much about its history as possible, in order to erase uncertainties; indeed, those born on this day investigate any area of which they are unsure in as thorough a manner as possible. Such investigations may range from detective or police work to scientific or social work.

July 23 people have a highly mental bias in approaching the world. Consequently, their emotional life may remain obscure and unexpressed; in fact, those born on this day some- times suffer psychosomatic and addictive disorders due to suppressed feelings. Instead of spending all of their time resolving worldly or intellectual concerns, they might pay more attention to their own inner emotional state. Since July 23 people are often spiritually and religiously oriented, cultivating meditative practices may be of great help to them. If, however, they insist on pursuing external problems to the detriment of their inner life, they will only grow increasingly nervous and stressed.

Retreating into a protective shell is not the solution either. July 23 people must make a conscious effort to integrate their social activities with their inner emotional life. Often a positive primary relationship of long standing with a lover, mate or friend can be an essential bridge to the world. The dangers of dependency on such a person are obvious, but July 23 people also have a great deal to offer the other party in a relationship: their highly developed problem-solving abilities, compassion, understanding and human qualities are invaluable.

As mentioned, no matter how developed their egos, July 23 people are periodically assailed by doubts. Each time those born on this day resolve such difficulties they grow stronger, and take another step toward self-realization. Those July 23 people who can share their rich fantasy life with others are indeed blessed, and will be very much appreciated; they are capable of earning great esteem as social workers, psychologists, lawyers and physicians. Those July 23 people who have experienced serious emotional problems have a marked insight into both illness and the process of healing, and may even be able to help others while they themselves are still recovering. The depth of gratitude and positive validation of such an experience can be mutually rewarding. The emotional complexity of those born on this day, their warmth and hu/nan struggle, generally makes contact with them meaningful.

Strengths:

Sharing

Human

Compassionate

Weaknesses:

Depressive

Crisis-prone

Overly vulnerable

Advice

As already indicated, those born on July 23 face an increased likelihood of psychosomatic and addictive difficulties. Those born on this day may benefit from therapy or counselling. but in any case should devote more of their problem solving energies to their own complex personalities. All non-prescription drugs should be avoided, particularly alcohol; if anti-depressants are prescribed they should be used carefully. A healthy interest in various cuisines does wonders for the diet; July 23 people would do well to develop their cooking skills, if not already proficient, as sharing meals and bestowing pleasure on others is emotionally uplifting. Feeling needed and wanted is tremendously important to July 23 people. As far as exercise is concerned, moderate activities such as walking, bike riding, occasional tennis and swimming are recommended.

Do not try to be the saviour for everyone s problems

Pay sufficient attention to your own (without obsessing)

Learn to let things go; avoid earning around excess baggage

Give your critical and judgmental powers a rest from time to time

Hello! I hope you enjoyed the article. I'm aware that this is a "cusp" day, but as you may know - cusps don't actually exist. Therefore I'll consider this day an first decan Leo.

#leo and cancer cusp #leo love #leo astrology #leo meme #leo daily horoscope #leo

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tarotnoob · 3 years

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PAC: What’s your spirit animal + their message for you

It’s nice to do some fun pick a cards once in a while, but there’s still a meaning behind the animal and it visiting you in this reading. Please take your time to find a pile that resonates for you. It’s okay to choose multiple piles or feel that there is no pile calling you at this time. Piles go from left to right, 1-3.

Pile 1

Golden Unicorn

First of all, this is a pile I think a lot of air signs will be drawn to, specifically Aquarius folks or those who have significant Aquarius or 11th house placements. Also, Saturn in Aquarius transit may be of significance for you, so I was reading through this link: https://astrobutterfly.com/2020/12/08/saturn-in-aquarius-2020-2023-what-to-expect/

The I Know card is like the Star card, the Uranus card is like The Tower. Then we also have the King of Swords (clarified by five of wands, nine of swords reversed) and the Page of Pentacles (clarified by six of wands and the moon).

I’m just going to put it this way: This feels like a big message to me. I am not particularly interested in talks of starseeds and such, but if you are into that or identify as such, this pile may resonate for you because what I sense is that you are receiving a message from a higher plane. Could it be from something out there in the universe? Possibly, or is it a higher deity of some sort or even your higher self. Because the Moon/six of wands around the Page of Pentacles makes me feel like you receive messages (and I’m seeing the unicorn horn as an antenna, which is connected to the animal’s mind/crown/third eye area). The message about Aquarius relates to being one’s authentic self, being slightly emotionally detached, being of a very unique intellectual/visionary mind. Both of the black moon oracles also pertain to lgbt, specifically transgender issues, so if there are any of you going through a transition or questioning period, this unicorn (which represents some higher being for you here), wants you to know that you are right. That who you are is who you’re meant to be, and even if your situation pushes you through some very uncomfortable growth periods, that... there’s a purpose, and you are exactly the way you are supposed to be no matter what anyone says.

So, that’s just one message I feel strongly for those going through some sort of spiritual crisis surrounding that at this very moment.

I also want to say that your intuition is strong and in any moment of doubt, you should follow it as that’s what will lead to your success. It’s also possible that you tend to overthink things, with the King of Swords and 9 of swords reversed/five of wands clarifiers... because the King of Swords does represent someone logical, a clear thinker, a bit detached, highly ethical - but these clarifiers make me feel that you’ve been dwelling for a long while on some type of conflict, either an inner conflict or recent issues with a (group?) of people, a conflict/choice that’s caused you some type of anxiety or guilt, although you may not even be at fault - you might just feel attacked. This may even involve some issues of online bullying as well since Aquarius can be about technology, and this could represent the group with which you’re having a conflict.

I was unsure how “playtime” fits in besides suggesting a very superficial bit of advice of... seems like you’re taking things very seriously and need to relax. You may need to disconnect from social media or just do something to take your mind off THAT situation for now because you’re expending way too much mental energy on whatever it is. So I clarified that little oracle and got Chariot with Justice and 8 of swords at the back, so again a sense of... anxiety or a feeling of being stuck in a situation where maybe some injustice occurred or conflict around a choice (to do what was right or not)... it’s also cancer season, so this could be about the timing of this type of conflict lasting through or happening during cancer season, it may indicate that instead of an online issue, it’s an issue that takes place at home as cancer represents home.

Chariot can also represent a trip, travel, especially by car, so having this come out for fun/playtime and it also talking about the conflict issue - perhaps it’s suggesting or highlighting a potential road trip or vacation in July that would help take your mind off of things.

On the golden unicorn card it says “awaken to your soul’s potential” which fits well with the “purpose” card (my dreams connect me to my purpose).

The other part of this message is that the page of pentacles represents a dream or a manifestation of a dream... I see the moon as the dream and six of wands as success, plus we basically have the star here... so this could be about a calling, like... a career calling or passion calling... as a page, it’s a new feeling or the project or job has just started... it could be that it’s still only an idea, but it’s there and you’re thinking or fantasizing about it... in this particular deck, for the moon, it gives this story about the woman swallowing this seed after some man tries to take it and the seed makes anyone immortal so she ascends to the moon. so we have the word ascend again. so even though we’re talking about a job... it’s more than that... this job or hobby or whatever seems to be tied to your higher purpose and calling. and i feel like you want to do this thing but perhaps something (possibly just your own mind) is keeping you from going after it or... opening up about it, accepting it... sharing it... because moon can also be about what’s hidden so perhaps this is a hidden desire... and the king of swords with the anxiety clarifiers is really like... a fear of revealing the truth because there’s a fear of conflict? but that the tower is basically here in this uranus card... it’s like this is a wall that has to and will be breached because it’s part of your purpose...

I mean I read pretty deep and cynically into all of this, but without clarifiers the tarot would be something like: star, tower, page of p, king of s.... so this could be about a new stage in studying/schooling and some competition or anxiety around whether you’ll get in or whether it’s the right path... but in terms of meaning... it would be like something was broken down (tower) in an unexpected and/or harsh way, but then something was reborn through that destruction (star). and the page of pentacles represents this new seed, while the king of swords could represent the (thoughts/beliefs/communication) that were broken down and now you have a new perspective; it could also represent the big decision you have to come to in regard to this situation. i know it can apply in simple ways so i’m offering simple scenarios.... but tbh i think this is about way more than the start of a new job - if it is, it’s like you always were heading toward being a doctor, you don’t get into the school you’ve worked for for like all your life and then suddenly you’re like, i’m going to be a monk. or it’s like... my whole life i’ve been questioning whether i really identify with my birth sex... but that doesn’t feel right, i think i am masc and fem or just masc/fem, etc... and maybe you’ve taken some first step in that process by changing pronouns, buying a binder, etc...

but to sum it all up, i sense... there is a driving force - like the chariot - that is basically going to bulldoze you through some uncomfortable shit very soon, particularly probably during late june to late july in order to escalate a transformation that involves putting you on your most authentic path. i do feel like there’s resistance (doubt/anxiety/fear) on your part but i also feel you won’t even have time to be like “I’M NOT READY FOR CHANGE” before something rushes you through it. because uranus is also about... unexpected events... so you might be blindsided about something... you might think you know or have a solid grip on what’s happening... or like say you have only thought something in your head... but then wham it just appears the next day... or... perhaps your greatest fear or greatest dream have been on your mind and uranus makes it happen. technology or an aspect of a “community” may in particular be involved.

and again this does feel like being trapped in your head and... it is possible that even though you can’t fully escape this transition period or transformation or spiritual ascension... you’re still... a person. you’re allowed to take a break and have fun and not have to worry about this thing 24/7. and it does suggest that a trip might help

I guess it could even be as simple as... there’s something you want to do for fun that’s just... to like enjoy whatever, and someone’s making you feel bad about it this month. In particular, it could be a mother or someone at home (because of moon/chariot/cancer coming up)... but those are just fine details... I still feel like this is mostly about being pushed through an uncomfortable situation/transformation in order to transition (spiritually) into something “better” that’s more aligned with your purpose, but not just that - it’s something you already have an inkling of though it might be tiny or something you keep hidden... like... a quiet passion for something... that you’re worried about others’ reaction to... but everything here says that your intuition is spot on and you should take whatever path necessary to be yourself no matter what anyone says or thinks about it... everything here says it’s absolutely your path and the right path, so trust what you’re feeling if it feels right to you, okay?

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Pile 2: fox and chameleon

I do see some connections to Pile 1, but this pile is more about relationships. You’re the only pile to get two spirit animals, which makes sense as there seems to be two separate messages being conveyed: one regarding shadow work/the past and another regarding relationships - perhaps love, perhaps platotnic.

I think what’s similar to Pile 1 - and you can choose to read that pile as well - is a push toward your true self. Like, there may be some fear or anxiety around revealing your truth or who you truly are, but both of your spirit animal cards are advising bringing yourself to light as both mention that it’s “safe to be seen” and “there are no shadows without light” so for me, this means it’s okay to be who you are regardless of any flaws you think you may have or, rather, other people may interpret. and beyond thtat, the chameleon plus these cups cards tell me that the people you invite into your social circle are or should be ones that accept you for exactly who you are, without any filters.

it’s possible in the past - with this haunted and even merc retro card and shadow work - that in previous relationships you did not feel comfortable or confident to show that side of yourself or you surrounded yourself with judgmental or shallow or even toxic folks who expect some unrealistic level of perfection or even wanted you to go along with their “mean girl” routine.

the temperance card is usually about patience, moderation, balance - in this deck, it’s also about... seeing that the most fundamental parts of you give you courage even if you’ve been broken down in some way. merc retro can also be symbolic of... someone returning from your past, miscommunications, things feeling like they’re going backwards, etc... maybe you felt at one time that it was better to blend in than to stand out... having the king and queen of cups both here could mean in particular there is a relationship issue occurring for you, perhaps the merc retro card indicates that there is some work to be done on this relationship, not to necessarily end it, but maybe the advice is to try to work through it with your partner (or friend), to be able to listen compassionately or with a cool head, especially with temperance here - asking for moderation, balance, patience... ofc, this is obviously not geared toward a toxic or abusive relationship of any kind but one that’s simply undergoing a bit of minor turbulence.

if a relationship is not a concern in your life right now, this could simply be a time where you’re doing a lot of sifting through emotions (cancer season, yay) normally the king of cups would be somewhat similar to the queen but with these images i see the king of cups as being a moment when emotions overwhelm or even tip over to angry... and then the queen encourages being able to do the shadow work on those emotional reactions and how to soften them, keep them more even.

basically, there’s some work that your spirit animals wnat you to do - either regarding your own emotional state or within the state of your relationships. to be either patient with your own emotional state, to moderate emotions or to be aware of the emotional connections that exist among the relationships you have been attracting to yourself, to remind you that your soul tribe should consist of people who accept you for who you are or that they should be balanced in some way, equal... receptive to listening, compassionate, sensitive, etc...

but something - possibly related to the past - might be throwing up interference either for you individually or this relationship. maybe bad experiences getting in the way of healthy relationships or your confidence in allowing others to see the real you, your flaws included. or not even flaws but just things you feel ashamed or embarrassed about. there may even be issues like a fear of opening up about emotions to others, afraid to tell them when they’ve upset you and so you bottle it up and then it eventually explodes and it’s just made you wary or uncomfortable in relationships, etc...

but i also feel like you have been working on this somewhat or are aware of it since the attraction card says you do want to attract tloving and healthy relationships, but to do that, you definitely need to know that loving relationships include accepting you or them for who they are, to have open and clear communication, to listen to them and they listen to you, and even if there were past negative relationships that made you feel bad in some way - that doesn’t determine anything in the future, if anything now you know what you don’t want, but it’s also clear that there’s some shadow work to be done regarding how you feel about yourself and a relationship(s) in your life.

and the only numbers i have are 5 and 6 which for me means a change/conflict regarding love/home so i think relationships and working through any glitches or your own feelings about relationships is the center of what your spirit animals want you to focus or to keep focusing on for now and to find people who will embrace you and every part of you, possibly even assist you in working through whatever you’re feeling troubled about right now, even if it’s to tell them that you have an issue with something they’re doing, etc...

another final thing i’ll bring up is with the tarot... and how the queen of cups is kind of well i don’t know that she’s necessarily blending in with thte pod of whales/dolphins there that may be her soul tribe, but the king of cups is a dragon that’s standing alone in all of its power... and not to say that the queen of cups is in any way negative here... but she’s very primped and beautiful but it feels like she’s not really going anywhere though she holds this ship so again it makes me think of someone who’s caught up in a crowd and trying to show their best self, but even though the dragon is on its own and isn’t the “standard” for beauty, it’s clearly powerful and in control... at the same time tho the temperance card could also be about... finding this balance between passiveness and being overemotional or temperamental ... there’s some middle-ground that needs to be achieved. this kind of speaks to me in that... i get mad pretty quick or i get really sensitive about something... but then sometimes i bottle it up for whatever reason... when really something in the middle is more healthy... and you may be trying to work on something similar of just trying to seek that place of not letting external stuff or past stuff continue to bother you or get a reaction out of you. and maybe you’ll spend some time during cancer season doing some soul searching about how to better attain that type of balance... bc both spirit cards are also like... bring this shit to light... think about it, reflect on it, sit with it...

bc you’re being asked to achieve a better balance or moderation of feelings.

foxes and chameleons are both animals that hide well, adapt well, could be considered sneaky... and yet the messages are about bringing things to the surface... like let repressed emotions come up, let old hurts come up and deal with them however you need to... as i do feel like some hard emotions are surfacing for you right now and it’s best to face them head on and if it’s necessary to have tough convos with someone in your life right now, maybe do that.

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pile 3: sea turtle

tumblr stop eating my save to drafts challenge failed. well i lost pile 3 but i guess i can give you a more straight forward message haha.

this is a very lovely reading. for some of you, there may be a move or a chance to buy/sell real estate or even an advancement in a relationship such as getting engaged, moving in together, starting a family. i see that with the 10 of cups and fourth house cards. fourth house is ruled by cancer (not surprising getting so much cancer and water energy in this pick a card) or perhaps you have your moon in fourth house like i do.

i want to impart this message i added at the end before the draft deleted itself - but if you are close to the earth or earth deities or ancestors, that i feel like through this pile they are acknowledging that they have heard you especially if you have been asking for advice regarding your happiness or if some choice related to home or moving or family - this has been heard. they are working toward your happiness because they see the effort you’ve put in and how you’ve been careful about the choices you’re making.

as you can see, there’s a theme regarding family, a theme about happiness, and a theme about spirituality and conscious choices... i feel like you’ve put in the effort to get in alignment to... try to live a more healthy lifestyle, whether it be physically or emotionally, there’s also the sense of having been working on grounding whether purposely or instinctually... perhaps things do seem to be aligning and maybe you’re wondering if the other shoe is going to drop but i don’t feel like i see anything that says watch out other than the sea turtle wanting you to be conscientious of how your choices (especially if they literally could effect the earth or some eco(balance). roots and this could literally apply to something to do with the environment or about the home. but... in terms of the home and family... i mean i only see good things here, in the hermit i see the gaining of knowledge or doing research or learning or simply deep spiritual reflection on what would make you happy or what you want... and then figuring out how to get that or maybe if you deserve it. but i really feel as if you are in touch with grounding or earth energies or ancestors or family.

in the fourth house card there’s also the possibility of someone returning from the past so with the 10 of cups there could be some type of reunion - but even if it was superficial or didn’t work out at the time, this time around, it might come back and the connection will be deeper than before. in that particular 10 of cups card for this deck, there’s definitely an emphasis on romantic relationships - the timing seems to be from cancer season up until virgo season where a relationship may move forward or a literal home move may move forward or there may be news of a birth in the family or for yourself if you’re interested in that. for the most part i just see abundance in the terms of happiness and love in the future or you’re strongly thinking about it and will have the opportunity to make choices in the near future about steps to take toward a greater happiness that revolves around love, family, or a home.

there’s a lot of water here, plus one earth card. there’s two 10′s and a 9, so i feel like you’re going to see a cycle end and i think that ... the universe is acknowledging your effort and you’re going to be rewarded in the home/love areas of your life. the cycle, for me, with the 1 and 9 is a journey of the self and a spiritual one at that... i feel like you’ve... been working on all the things necessary to... just be healthier in a lot of emotional and mental ways... and it’s like because of that you’re pulling the things you deserve toward you... because you trusted the universe or... even if you’re uneasy about the good things happening, you apparently deserve them and probably have ancestors on the other side who are also working to get you what you want so you can be happy.

but i still think they want you to know you have power over all of your choices and to continue being thoughtful about them and still be conscientious of how those choices can affect others, whether it’s people or the environment or animals or even... the spiritual entities we can’t see.

you seem to have achieved some type of wisdom through experience... and i really hope you’re rewarded for your efforts and get to be happy!

#pick a card #spirit animal #advice #general reading #tarot #spirituality #astrology #zodiac

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masterthespianduchovny · 3 years

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Some people gon be mad at me, but I gotta say it...

Some Scully fans don't understand Scully or her relationship/feelings with/for Mulder.

Scully's relationship with Mulder is this utterly pure thing that is grounded by how much she genuinely cares, respects, and supports him as a person. When you understand Scully's perception of Mulder in this view, seeing her as some long suffering woman doesn't make any sense.

Most of the time Scully sacrifices or choosing Mulder isn't based on romantic feelings, it's based in moral and ethical values and what she holds important. The show sets this up early.

In Squeeze, Tom asks "who's side are you on" and Scully says, "the victim."

This coincides with the side Mulder is on.

Tom was obstructing the case due to his on bias and hatred of Mulder. Despite Mulder's pettiness, Scully understands that Mulder will always prioritize the victim. She chose justice (Mulder) over pettiness (Tom).

When Scully declines a second date with the single father, she's choosing knowledge and curiosity over romance and her personal life.

Interestingly enough, Mulder never asked her to choose him. He's always asked her to be honest about the truth, but he never put her in that situation to prioritize him over her own professional goals or personal life. In fact, he would've understood if she did and said as much.

So when I say some Scully fans don't understand Scully, I'm not being insulting or intentionally rude, I'm saying they're overlooking small character moments that inform her characterization throughout the series.

Scully was not only a workaholic, she LOVED her work. And there wasn't just an obligation to Mulder, it was to the victims as well. I often think about how in this universe, if Mulder and Scully hadn't investigated these cases, either no one would've or it would've never been solved. It must've been something Scully also thought about as well.

Scully mentioned a few times that she joined the FBI to make a difference. Not for prestige or make a name for herself, but to make a difference. She didn't throw away her career for Mulder, she was exactly where she wanted to be. Those other cases handled by mainstream agents were always going to be investigated and solved (if possible), but x file cases?

There's a reason Mulder was called from bumfuck, Kansas or backwoods, West Virginia. There was no one else. Her and Mulder were the only two who took these things seriously.

But also, Scully genuinely genuinely cared for Mulder. Not because she wanted to fuck him, thought he was hot, or really wanted to date him. She enjoyed him as a person. Like truly. After working with him, understanding this beliefs, and meeting many victims, the x files became her passion project too. She attached herself to Mulder because there was no one alive she respected more than him. Someone who stood by their convictions regardless of what others thought to the betterment of people besides him.

He had his flaws, but the great parts of Mulder truly outshined the worst parts of him.

People often overlook how much the x files and her experience changed Scully. The deadpan, straight to the point Scully we know and love came to fruition in season 5. Believe me, I checked. Remember, Scully used to be goofy, open, and free. Then she was abducted, given cancer, kidnapped, sister killed over mistaken identity, etc. That changes a person.

But none of this is Mulder's fault. Mulder changed her in the best way possible. He opened her mind up and challenged her--it was intellectual. Those other things I mentioned made Scully pull within herself and close off. It made her guarded. So suffered so much emotional and mental and literal physical trauma.

As a result, her social interactions changed.

As a reminder, she became a workaholic because of her passion for the x files and she enjoyed it. Then to add on to that, her work was wild as hell, hard to explain, and some of it classified. Scully lived such a unique experience that regularly interacting with others would've been frustrating, exhausting, and her having a sense of feeling misunderstood. And dating would've been a minefield.

Thing is: Scully didn't mind this change to her life. This isn't to say that Scully didn't want or have any friends, it's to say that she didn't strive to have a booming social life nor did she care. Again, she VOLUNTARILY became a workaholic and threw away a normal life for paranormal shit. Someone who does that isn't trying to meet friends for happy hour on Friday or planning to have serious relationships any time soon.

Not only that, some people live lives like this right now and have incredibly fulfilling lives. Some people just work and have one or two friends and they're living their best lives. The idea that just because Scully doesn't have an active dating life and a circle of friends she regularly talks to means that her life is dour is so flawed.

Scully's eventual dissatisfaction with her life was rooted in her believing she should want things that she didn't want. Scully could've walked away. She could've said enough, instead she kept finding reasons to stay because she wanted to be on the x files. And it's quite clear that you can't work on the x files and have a normal life. She didn't want both, she wanted the life that she chose.

At that time, Scully was unable to articulate just how much she wanted to be with Mulder, which is why she positions, "Don't you want to get out of the car?"

She wanted moments of normalcy with him.

And it isn't just because Mulder gets that life because he lives it, its because Scully is actually in love with Mulder for who he is. She's seen Mulder at his best and at his worst and loves every part of him.

Whatever feelings Scully had for Mulder in the past that she pushed away, she couldn't do it anymore. She loved Mulder in a way she couldn't put into words. It was the truest feeling she ever felt, the most sincere thing and she hadn't realized it yet. Then, when she does, it takes them time to get there because Mulder is literally the most important person in her life.

Which seeds were planted back in season 2. In "Little Green Men" (I think), the thought of not working with Mulder saddened Scully because it meant she wouldn't get to see and talk to him. Mulder made a huge impression on her and became important to her very quickly.

So imagine 5-7 years down the road...embracing this feeling and the thought of losing Mulder if things went south would've been devastating for Scully. She wouldn't lose just a partner, she'd lose a best friend too.

Because she genuinely cared for him and he's her literal best friend.

The love Scully feels for Mulder surpasses known definitions of romantic love because her feelings aren't centered in that. She loves him on levels that most people can't imagine. Scully cares for Mulder so much and she shows that by listening to him and protecting him even if Mulder doesn't think he needs protection. She validates him and doesn't trivialize his beliefs even when she doesn't agree with them. It doesn't matter who the person is, Scully will always go to bat for Mulder because he only ever had himself and he needs to someone to say "hey, you're not alone and you're taken seriously."

I bring this up to say, the idea that Mulder doesn't deserve Scully when Scully clearly wants him is flawed. The idea that Mulder should be lucky that Scully "puts up" with him is flawed. The idea that Scully would ever tell Mulder as such or anything resembling (and stressing how she could've been happy with this perfect other man) is flawed. Those first two things are categorically wrong and the last is something Scully would never do because she loves Mulder and that is harmful. Scully would never tell Mulder something that would harm him or that she believed could.

All Things is so pivotal because Scully stops concerning herself with what she believe she should want and embracing what she actually wants: investigating x files and living an unconventional life with Mulder.

Scully wants that.

Not dating around, girls night, or frequent intimate get togethers with her family. She wants to investigate haunted houses on Christmas Eve and discover invisible bodies and help victims find justice.

After her and Mulder get together, she's committed to him. She waited so long to be with him that even while he was in hiding, she never considered dating anyone else. Emotionally and spiritually, she'd been married to him. Now that they'd been together, she didn't want anyone else but him.

Like there's so many layers to this, which hasn't even taken the "like a switch" speech. Or her reaction to Diana, which had multiple levels--romantic, platonic, and professional.

Lastly, the idea that Scully was waiting around for Mulder (to ask her out) is such a basic take. Scully wasn't waiting on Mulder, she prioritized their working relationship over romance AND she knew Mulder had his own stuff going on with himself. Even if she had wanted to date then, she didn't fault Mulder for not asking her out. All the shit he'd been through and was going through, Scully was more concerned about his emotional well-being opposed to upset that he hadn't pursued her.

Although I do get the criticism and the desire for Scully to date, have on screen friends, and shit, it just doesn't track with what we've seen and know of Scully.

Like, this woman almost went on the run with Mulder after knowing him for 2-3 years. They only reason they didn't was because she wanted to see her sister who'd been shot. The reason she almost went on the run was due to moral and ethical reasons and not romance, however, my point is that Scully's convictions and priorities is why her life was the way it was and that's the way she wanted it to be. She then went on the run with him when she didn't have to, but we know she would because 1. his sentence was an injustice (we know how Scully feels about justice) 2. she was madly in love with him and refused to continue living her life without him.

Once again, Scully is discarding any notion of normalcy because she didn't want it and hadn't wanted it since getting assigned to the x files.

And that's on that.

(And it's why I object to the characterization of their relationship in IWTB and seasons 10 and 11. Although it's fine and makes sense for their relationship to have issues at times, the writers handled it so cavalierly and without thought. You cannot have the backbone of the show in a romantic falling out and not address it--not really. They don't try to genuinely deal with such a situation because it's melodrama, but my question is: why introduce it in the first place. If it isn't worth being addressed, it's not worth being introduced. Mulder and Scully had a chat or two, but it was so superficial and lacked teeth. It's not that I wanted the show to focus on them romantically, I just want the show to not bullshit or half ass shit they're introducing and bringing up is all.)

#x files #scully #dana scully #mulder #fox mulder #sorry for being long as fuck #we all know I'm longwinded #lol

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snarkywrites · 4 years

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Platonic Synastry (Venus Signs)

Platonic Synastry series because I rarely see this on the internet. I will focus on Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Venus. I may or may not add Saturn, but I’ll try. The series will kick off with the Sun and how it impacts the major personal planets. Outer planets won’t be involved since these are generational and that’s a different topic to touch at another time. This is not the same as romantic synastry, there are many articles and videos on romantic synastry online. The post focuses on friendships only and for this one, it starts off with the impact of personal planets on our Sun in a friend connection. Of course, these are for conjunctions, trines and sextiles, the easy flowing aspects.

Venus / Sun — Venus will represent and embody everything the Sun wishes that they resembled. Even if Venus is not conventionally beautiful, the Sun will be admiring them and everything that Venus does will captivate the Sun. This is a relationship where both will appreciate the aesthetics of the other and if other placements allow, this will be a comfortable placement for both to have since it brings peace and harmony between both parties. Overall, it is synonymous to a group of friends with the similar aesthetic. A Libra and Virgo dominant group with Sun and Venus connections would have flawless makeup and style. An Aquarian group would most likely have a more intellectual connection, either a science fiction and technology squad or D&D. (These are examples so don’t assume only Libras like makeup and Aquarians like nerdy things).

Venus / Moon — Moon and Venus in a friendship admire one another, respect each other and whatever tensions or fights may erupt will be smoothed over with grace (if all other aspects allow). Moon sees Venus as aesthetically pleasing and Venus sees the Moon as someone they can learn from in terms of style. Here we have the friends who share things emotionally and may even have a spiritual bond. To others this can be a superficial friendship, but in their own world they will see that there are several complicated layers between these two people. Venus helps the Moon to handle their frustrations and brings them some much needed optimism to the Moon’s life. The Moon brings Venus down to Earth and helps her to redefine her views and really look within her heart to find herself.

Venus / Mercury — Similar to Mars, Venus inspires passion but it is on a subtler and more poetic note. I view this as an aspect that enables Mercury to write love stories and they will involve themselves in many romantically inspired projects. On another note, this is also seen within friends that are very inspired by the beauty industry or fashion. Here we see how Venus can impact and even change the mental and creative style of Mercury. If Mercury was once gloomy, Venus can manifest joy and happiness into their lives, inspiring Mercury to write about this. This is a touching aspect to have amongst friends since it can make both parties feel peaceful.

Venus / Mars – Both parties will be fascinated with one another as Mars learns from Venus and vice versa. Mars will learn the meaning of what is beautiful and will put their own spin on things through their creativity and fashion sense. This is an inspirational aspect between friends that allows for understanding, growth and occasionally, there can be misunderstandings as Mars and Venus both learn to adapt to one another. Venus admires Mars’ strength and Mars admires Venus’ diplomacy and grace.

Venus / Venus – When two people share the same Venus signs it is easier to respect the other person and to admire their aesthetic. Venus brings harmony and having them in the same sign or element makes the friendship much easier to form. Signs that understand one another are able to make both people share more and have an easier method of relating to one another. These signs can easily avoid conflict since they would try the best to preserve harmony. A connection between friends with similar Venus signs can be a source of inspiration. Both parties will be motivated to be more creative as well as feel confident enough to share their creations with the world. This is a platonic synastry aspect that allows for growth in the long run and can create a friendly rivalry built on respect for one another.

Venus / Saturn – Saturn and Venus are connected through respect. The harmonious aspects allow for this to be a friendship that withstands the test of time. Both parties will learn a lot from each other with this platonic connection. The dynamic for Saturn and Venus is that of two professors. Where Saturn brings the rigidity to the connection, Venus reminds Saturn that life should be experiences and enjoyed. There can be instances where Saturn could be the friend that reminds you that there is a moment to come back to reality, but Venus will fight to bring magic and optimism to the harshness. Saturn attempts to remove any superficial ideologies from Venus. However, Venus remains insistent on teaching Saturn that the world needs to be appreciated and life needs to be enjoyed.

#astrology #platonic synastry #platonic synastry series #synastry #sun #moon #venus #mars #saturn

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Hey! So in your latest post you mentioned something about the instinctive reactions that Jikook have towards each other as a sign of intimacy between them. Being a multishipper, I can say that I have noticed the same between Taekook, too. It's almost the same as it is in Jikook. Like during Fake Love Era, when Tae came around to hug JK but stopped himself. I have seen the same happening with Taekook a lot, too. Especially Tae. He seems to be controlling himself a lot around JK. Same goes for +

Hmmmm.....

You really sound like this one tuktukker in my DMs who won't stop trying to convince me Taekook is real.👀 You are not the one, are you? Lol.

And I'm not sure how I feel about this ask...

On one hand, I love the topic about intimacy and even comparing and contrasting Jikook's intimacy with that of the other pairs within the group. I think it makes for an interesting conversation.

But on the other hand too, it feels as if you are asking me to prove to you my opinion and perspective on the topic, and convince you that Jikook is in fact real? I don't gotta do that. Lol.

That sits on the same table as that whole 'what are you seeing that I am not' conversation and I don't feel comfortable with those kinds of debates. It's unhealthy and doesn't flow from a good place.

I don't enjoy pointless competitive and argumentative conversations of that nature especially when it's one person's point of view versus another's point of view- not when Jikook haven't officially stated their sexual preference or that they are an actual couple. It's pointless.

Mine is just to share my thoughts on a subject, nothing more. Chileee, You are allowed to believe whatever you want about these boys and their ships but please don't disguise skepticism as objectivity when it comes to Jikook.

On the topic of intimacy- yea, you piqued my interest in that. Can't help myself. *rolling my eyes. Lol.

I think I have said several times now that BTS in general are a pretty intimate group of friends and as such it is reasonable to expect a certain level of intimacy between them- all of them not just Jikook.

I mean how close do you think Namkook need to be for JK to try and eat food from his mouth? How close does he need to be with Jin for Jin to wake him up by squeezing his nipples or for JK to be kissing Jin's calf or for him to take 'naked' shirtless selfies with him?

When it comes to Taekook, I have said I think they are or used to be one of the closest pairs within the group. How close do you think two people need to be for one of them to strip the other naked to the D to take a shower with?

Tae played a huge role, just as much as Jimin did in their earlier dynamics, in helping JK break out of his shell as the quiet shy boy he used to be in their trainee days.

I mean they both pretty much acknowledged this fact in their conversation in Soop.

But nothing about these interactions outlined above, as 'intimate' as they may seem on the surface, is in any way romantic or indicative of a romantic relationship.

But you are right, when it comes to the metrics for determining whether a ship in BTS is real within BTS, that a clear distinction ought to be made between the kind of intimacy characteristic of romance and the kind of intimacy that flows from close friendships.

There is just a certain degree of interaction that cannot ensue between two people unless those two people are very close to each other. And that intimacy between them often would flow from how close they are with eachother both physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and sexually.

Most of these interactions between them are often influenced by each individuals unique personality too. JK is touchy, when he touches Jin or Jimin or Tae there is a higher chance he is just being himself.

Jimin is affectionate and a bit flirty by nature, if you see him being affectionate and flirty with any member there is a higher chance he is just being himself.

Tae is equally very touchy, affectionate and flirty all at the same damn time. Lol. So often when he is being touchy, affectionate and flirty with any member in there, there is a higher chance he is just being himself too.

We ought to make all these deductions and subtract them from the equation. And on that note, skinship would have to be the first to go simply because it is much closer to and contingent on the personality tangent and very far removed from the romantic intimacy spectrum.

What I mean is, a person's comfortableness with skinship depends much on their personality- Some people like it, some don't.

And while we are at it, I think we have to draw the distinction between physical affection and skinship- those two are not the same.

When JK is kissing Jin's leg there is nothing affectionate about that. When he is trying to zap food from RM's mouth- ain't nothing affectionate about that either. If anything at all it's just gross. Boys can be gross sometimes. Lol.

But these actions in no way communicate RM's affections for JK or JK's affection for RM. It just shows they are comfortable around eachother.

I think RM watching JK on the screen with pride and fondness written all over his face during their LGO reaction VLive conveys his love and affections for Kook more just as Kook kissing the top of his head- forehead or whatever, shows his love and affection for RM.

Physical affection is a variant of intimacy and conveys a person's love and fondness of another person but it in no way, by itself, is indicative of a sexual and romantic relationship.

A classic example of this distinction would be the September 1st BB Vlive held on JK's birthday this year. Tae reached for JK and squished his cheeks. It was a cute interaction, true. But was it intimate? If you say yes, I'm smacking the back of your head. Lol.

No, but seriously. Let's look beyond the cuteness of that moment for a second here. Do you think that moment speaks to how intimate they actually are with eachother even as friends off camera?

You said yes, didn't you? I-swear- to-God! Lmho.

It doesn't. It's not. It in no way is a reflection of the level of intimacy between them. What it shows is Tae's fondness of JK that's all. It sits right with the Namkook examples I gave above.

Now juxtapose that moment with Tae Kook's interactions in Run 116. Which of these two moments would you refer to as intimate? Do you see what I mean?

There wasn't much loud skinship going on between Tae kook in that Run episode yet it was the most intimate I had seen them be in a long time- especially the moments of them sitting together on the couch. It made me weak just watching that bit. I won't lie- God was it beautiful. Woo!

But what sets these two moments apart? I don't know about you but to me it's the vulnerability- that's what did me in.

This may be debatable but JK seemed very vulnerable with Tae to me in those moments in Run 116 as compared to the Tae Kook moments in that BB reaction VLive.

Tae seemed very nurturing of JK and his presence and close proximity to JK seemed to provide some sort of comfort for JK.

Vulnerability is a key determinant of emotional intimacy, in my opinion. And I think emotional intimacy sits high in determining if two people are in a romantic relationship.

So forgive me, but all these secret boy with love signs you mention- where is the emotional intimacy and vulnerability in that? How is that physically affectionate and as such such proof that two people are real? Chilee.

Jikook do that too and more but I don't even regard that. Lmho. Those things are cute and beautiful and I uWu at it too- but make no mistakes, it proofs nothing. Lol.

Taekook do that, Jikook do that, Taejin do that- wait a damn minute! You is a tradshipper ain't you? 🧐

Backing away slowly. You sonova bish! lol. You almost fooled me with the whole multishipper bit. Chileee. So sneaky- I like that. Lmho.

Anywho, as I keep saying, I believe Jk is the most emotionally closed off within the group- oh did you read his Weverse magazine interview? Him talking about wanting to have a solo stage someday to try and perform on his own without the members? This is where I regurgitate my slogan for Jikook in 2020- 'Jikook have been asserting themselves against eachother and against the group.' Lmho.

Totally unrelated, but just wanted to point it out to all the PJMs who come for me when I say JM is more emotionally attached to the group than JK and that JK has the most emotional boundaries within the group.

I mean from their interview, JM was the one who expressed the sentiment of wanting to be with the members forever while JK expressed a desire to pursue a 'solo stage. Just as a disclaimer, as JK said, I am not saying he is trying to go solo or leave BTS. Just read his interview for yourself and see what I mean please.

They both love the group and are attached to it but this goes to show who is the most emotionally attached to the group- It's not important, let's just move on. Lol.

I value Jk's emotional vulnerability because unlike Tae or Jimin, who are both naturally affectionate and as such emotionally open to others, I believe JK is a bit picky about who he decides to be emotionally vulnerable with or emotionally dependent on.

In Jikook's 2014 magazine interview about their friendship, JK expressed and conveyed his emotional dependency on Jimin when he whined about Jimin not waking him up that morning.

He wasn't just being emotionally vulnerable with JM in that moment, in my opinion. I think he was also expressing his emotional needs and wants to Jimin. He was communicating the way in which he wanted to be nurtured by Jimin- He wanted Jimin to wake him up every morning just as he had been doing.

He expressed similar vulnerability with Jimin in their New Jersey VLive when he whined and complained about Jimin not letting him in on their JinMin VLive or even during their Rain fight when he literally cried on the phone with Jimin- please, I'm soft. Don't touch me. Lol.

And when you contrast these moments with even the Tae Kook conversation in Soop which was supposed to be a vulnerable moment between them, you could see JK wasn't as emotionally vulnerable in that conversation- He don switched off his humanity on Tae. chileee. What a man gotta do JK? Lmho

He seemed emotionally closed off to Tae even though Tae was being vulnerable with him. Allow me to regurgitate again- if Tae kook is real it's one sided. Ok that's wrong of me. Lol.

I honestly don't think Tae is in love with JK. He is very fond of JK and he loves him just as much as he loves everyone in the group. I see a similarity between him and Jimin in that regard- except Jimin is throwing it back for his dongsaeng at night. Chileee. Lmho.

Listen, I'm gonna state my opinion as fact here: Taekook is not real. Their ship is not the standard for ascertaining Jikook. Any ship involving JK and JM besides Jikook is null and void and utterly invalid in the grand scheme of things.

There is just a certain degree of emotional depth to Jikook's dynamics that is just absent in all these other tradships involving Kook and Jimin in BTS.

And I think the one thing most tradshippers don't realise about Tae Kook is that their dynamic is more similar to VMin and not Jikook. Tae is to JK what Jimin is to Tae- close friends. And if Taekook is real then VMin ought to be real too. In my opinion.

There is a deep connection between Tae and Kook just as much as there is between Tae and Jimin. The only difference between those two ships is that Jimin nurtures his connection with Tae, just as Tae nurtures his connection with Jimin and so their bond very often is consistent and fully nourished.

But in Tae Kook, for whatever reason, JK stopped nurturing their connection. Over the years, it's always been Tae complaining about JK not doing this or that- Jk ignoring him, excluding him in the VMinKook dynamics, keeping Jimin to himself and from their conversation in Soop, it seemed when Tae tried to tell JK his emotional need in order to nurture their connection JK put a barrier there too. Claiming he didn't want to treat Tae as a friend because because that would have led to them fighting a lot. And Tae said, fighting is something that would have brought them together- This is the missing depth, I'm talking about. Taekook lacks a certain degree of depth in their connection.

So yes, I expect Tae to hug JK when he is excited. I expect him to squish his cheeks like a baby, I expect Tae to sit on JK's laps and bounce up and down. But these are just interactions and they may come across as intimate to some but they in no way carry romantic subtexts.

I mean Trad jokers do that shit with Jikook too most times- but that is not why Jikook is real.

These moments only go to show how close these boys are to one another and as I prefaced earlier- they are all pretty close.

So if Tae is trying to hug JK when he is happy, it is not really a tell. I think it shows how comfortable and close he is with JK. If Jikook or any other ship hugged too, it wouldn't mean that much either. Not to me.

However, why he hesitated to hug JK in the moment you mentioned would be something I would place much value on. Usually, BTS are very comfortable hugging each other and showing skinship. So if suddenly one of them is hesitating to do that with another member then brows ought to be raised.

There could be a myriad of reasons for why they would hesitate to do skinship in a moment but just a few of those reasons would be suggestive of something suspicious going on between the boys.

I mean RM tried to hold Hobi, was it? He wanted to hold his suit or something at an award but seemed to hesitate there for a sec. I think it used to be a meme? Lol.

Then there is JK trying to put his hands around Jimin and hesitating too- I mean all the times he's hesitated when he's tried to touch Jimin...

What these are are just stress marks. It merely shows the wants of whoever was hesitating to engage in the act. RM wanted to touch Hobi's suit, JK wanted to touch Jimin. Tae wanted to hug JK. It's not that deep. Lol.

The act itself they wanted to carry out needs to be taken into consideration just as much as the why they were hesitating in those moments.

I don't think RM was hesitating to touch Hobi's suit because he had a crush on Hobi's suit. That would be- disturbing, even by my standards. Lol.

I don't think JK was hesitating to put his hands around Jimin in the earlier days because he was shy of the cameras in the way he was conscious of the cameras in Soop.

Jk's hesitation in Soop was because he was censoring himself in order not to expose their dynamics. I think.

I guess what I'm trying to say is you gotta find out why Tae hesitated in that moment with Kook. I don't think it was because he was trying not to expose their nonexistent relationship dynamics. Chileeee.

Jimin trying to kiss Kook and stopping himself is different from him trying to hug Kook and stopping himself. Why? Because the former exposes their relationship dynamics while the latter don't.

Sometimes, it's just the cameras that stop them. Other times, like Jikook in Run 116, it's just one of them putting up boundaries with the other- for reasons I've speculated on.

To sum everything up, I guess what I'm saying is, when you notice someone hesitating and exhibiting these instinctual reactions check to see the context- don't just say it's an instinctual reaction and go. Lol.

Consider if it's happening in a vulnerable moment, the history between those two individuals- whether the action in question is something they do a lot with eachother, whether it's an expression of affection or skinship, whether the action they were going for exposes their dynamics, the setting within which that happens and most importantly why that person is hesitating.

Tae going for a hug and hesitating in no way exposes their dynamics, to me, because we see them hug all the time. If he is hesitating to hug JK it's just a sign something is stressing their dynamics and perhaps you have to strap on your tinfoil hat and look into that? Lol.

Chileee, Anon. I feel used and bamboozled by you. Disguising these tradship insecurities as legitimate shipping concerns- Strike one. Lol.

I think if you are looking for ships with similar dynamics in BTS to compare, you should look more into VMin vs Taekook because they are relatively the most similar ship dynamics in BTS as far as ships and friendships go.

But even that, you don't need me to tell you VMin pulls weight over Tae Kook. I think Tae Kook could use some nurturing in their dynamics like VMin do in theirs- more cuddling, more teasing, more I miss you's. Oh love letters would be great too!

They should just spend more time together and nurture their bond. If they start spending time together it will show in their bond and chemistry.

As beautiful as these tradships are, none of them is a competition for Jikook. Jikook is in a league of it's own. They are an Altship. And there is only one of that in BTS.

Signed,

GOLDY

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birth chart reading for @myirlfa1ry

hello! welcome to your reading. I’m gonna give you a quick overview of what I’m going to analyze about your natal chart. feel free to ask me anything if something isn’t clear, of course. you’ll find out your dominants’ influence on your persona, your physical appearance, impression on others and the way you approach the world; your ego, identity, the real you; your reactions, your desires, inner emotions; your way of expressing your feelings, your mind and ideas; your desires and approach to love; your energy tank, instincts and temperament; in-depth analysis of each house with their rulers and analysis of heavy aspects; love life + soulmates/karmic partners interpretation; your relationship with your friends; your family life; your approach to career and work in general + possible jobs suggestion; your style, fashion sense analysis; life purpose and past life description; basic transits’ analysis to describe your current mood and, last but not least, your secret skills, how to make the most out of your soul and manifest what you desire based on your birth chart.

🦋 chart shape, dominants

your chart is a bucket shape, with jupiter as the handle of the bucket. your jupiter is in the 9th house, hence matters regarding foreign cultures and languages, education and experiences will be your priorities in this lifetime. you also have clear ideas about your future and who you want to be. even though you may have different passions and talents you’re capable of only sticking to one and mastering it, giving your all.

your dominant planets are mercury, venus and pluto. you are a very smart person, you can be quite astute and you have great problem-solving skills. you're also quite creative, or at least you have an eye for aesthetics. you may experience some karma throughout your life, meaning that if people hurt you, they'll eventually get hurt too and vice versa.

your dominant sign is aries. you may have a reputation for being impulsive and straight-forward. you don't like beating around the bush, especially when people purposely get on your nerves. on the other hand, you're very loyal and generous when it comes to your loved ones. you're very opinionated, and you always wanna make sure that your voice is heard. you're proud of yourself.

your dominant element is air. in your life, you adore seeking for knowledge of any kind. you may be interested in studying different subjects, from those you study at school like science, maths, literature etc. to more unconventional ones, such as astrology, psychology, criminology and so on. you enjoy interacting with people; even if you’re not that sociable, you’ll still be interested in their point of view and their ideals, as you see it as a way to expand your own mind. you’re also interested in vintage, and you may have a retro aesthetic or just like history in general.

🌎 ascendant in scorpio, 29° / 3rd decan ruled by pluto and the moon

your scorpio rising makes you quite pessimistic; you see the world as a place full of dangers and malice, hence it’s hard for you to trust people. this may be translated to fear; you’re either scared of other people, and hence you look more vulnerable, or maybe you’re the one who prefers to look intimidating to avoid problems. I don’t think you look unapproachable, though. there are other placements in your chart that say the opposite, so I imagine you project an image of yourself that makes you look quite naive. you can sense others’ emotions very well, so they have no secrets for you. you can perceive any single emotion in people just by looking in their eyes. while this is good, as you understand who’s best for you and you’re aware of the dangers you may face, scorpio risings tend to take advantage of this and be a little manipulative. this awareness of the world makes you look mysterious and secretive, as if you always know something more than others (and you probably do). pluto is also the planet of transformation, and you might experience a lot of rebirths throughout your life, both physically and emotionally. you might lose/have lost a big amount of weight, for example, which makes you look like a different person. or maybe, you like dying your hair of a different colour, giving you a different vibe. you wish you could be softer and show your inner emotions more easily, as scorpio is a water sign. the thing is, since it’s a fixed sign, it’s hard for you to be flexible and adapt to changes. when they happen, they’re usually out of your control as they’re literally life-changing. physically, I see you having a square face with high cheekbones. overall, your bones are very prominent and you’re naturally skinny. your eyes are extremely magnetic, and they could also be quite big and/or round. you might have either very pale skin, or just an olive skintone. sometimes, even a mix of both. your hair, eyebrows and lashes are very thick and dark too. you're at least of average height, and you could have something smaller on your face, like a small button nose, eyes, lips etc. you may also have very thick, naturally healthy and straight hair, as well as nice lips with a defined cupid's bow.

scorpio ascendant opposite taurus sun: this placement indicates that, when you’re in public, you tend to act in a different way from who you truly are. perhaps you’re shy, so you tend to hide your bubbly, charismatic scorpio rising with your modest, reserved taurus sun. this can obviously interfer in your relationships and bonds with others; some may expect you to be different, so you may often lose friends because you turned out to be more astute than what they were expecting. in fact, you may often attract people that try to take advantage of you. I wouldn’t worry too much, though, as I find this placement beneficial in your case, exactly because of this reason. but just in case it bothers you, now that you’re aware of this tendency of yours you can try to understand your real self more thanks to this reading, and start acting like who you truly are to get out of your shell.

scorpio ascendant square virgo jupiter: you probably learn a lot from people around you. you're most likely surrounded by wise, spiritual and possibly foreign individuals in your life. they help you to grow up, both spiritually and mentally. this placement also softens your rough scorpio image, making you look more outgoing and approachable. you're also very open-minded, and you rarely have prejudices. the downside to this placement is that you may be depend too much from your friends or lovers, especially when it comes to your beliefs. you're easy to influence, and you may change your mind often if others disagree with you. you could possibly have high expectations from others, creating a false idea of those who surround you. at least, you're aware of your abilities and you have the potential to make the most out of them, but you're modest about it. you don't come off as bossy, as other jupiter - asc aspects would.

🌞 sun in taurus, 19° / 2nd decan ruled by venus and mercury

you’re more sharp-witted and pragmatic than the typical taurus. you value stability in both romance and in your day-to-day life, like at work. you take care of your body and style in any sort of way, as your 1st house venus confirms. after all, the 2nd decan of taurus is a great balance of beauty and brain. I imagine that you're not very extroverted, you prefer staying in, but I repeat that you still probably have nice social skills. or at least, they're your secret skills. you like keeping your mind active everyday, especially by following your passions. if you’re the logical type, you might enjoy playing sudoku or things like that. on the other hand, if you’re more phylosophical you might enjoy reading, writing etc. you have a great sense of duty, that makes you want to excel in whatever you do. in addition to this, you’re also very stubborn. you probably get in arguments with others because you don’t accept their advices/criticism and prefer going your own way. you may also tend to overindulge a bit, and become a bit lazy. you're also very attached to food, but you still keep a healthy diet. you enjoy the finer things in life, but might struggle with jealousy because of that. you have the tendency to look at other people’s achievements and get disappointed about yours.

🌙 moon in aquarius, 2° / 1st decan ruled by uranus

with the moon in aquarius, you must be very unpredictable. you’re the type to change your mind often, probably because you’re constantly coming up with new thoughts and theories since you’re so intellectually active. you seem emotionally cold, and you may actually be like that. in your case though, I see that with your heavy water energy, you feel so much all at once that at one point you need to detach from reality to calm down. even though you have troubles showing this side of you, you’re deeply quite sensitive. you’re very creative and intelligent, even though you may risk to waste this potential of yours; in fact, I’ve noticed that most aquarius moons tend to put their intelligence aside because they’re way too rebel to keep up with it. it’s such a shame. perhaps, in school you didn’t really push yourself to the max, or overall you don’t give all of yourself to things that are not of your interest. you’re only a perfectionist with things you care about, and this could make you waste some of your potential. this placement makes you extremely spiritual as well. you may have some sort of psychic talent, or at least you’re just very intuitive. you’re interested in finding out the truth in the world, and you’re willing to dive deep to uncover it.

aquarius moon square aries mercury: your thoughts and feelings are constantly in contrast with each other. your aquarius moon is rational and logical, while your aries moon is more blunt and impulsive. this results in indecisiveness, you change your mind pretty often, and that can cause you conflicts due to communication problems. you're also pretty opinionated, you don't hide your feelings when you act by impulse. at least, the positive side of this placement is that you're probably very intellectual, capable of taking in consideration both the subjective and objective side of an argument.

🗣 mercury in aries, 24° / 3rd decan ruled by mars and venus

you are a fast-thinker, even though that doesn't mean you always take the right choices. in fact, you can change your mind very often. you probably have a beautiful, melodic voice, even though it's likely very loud. you also speak as fast as you think, making it hard sometimes to keep up with you in a speech. you could also switch from a topic to another casually. you don't really enjoy thinking about the past nor the future, you only care about the present and you live it they way you feel; hence, you're not really the type to care about learning from your mistakes. you always see the positive side of them, which can be both good and bad actually. that's because you're quite stubborn, it's hard to make you change your mind. you're very straight-forward, and that could lead you to conflicts as you don't understand the impact your words have on others.

❤️ venus in gemini, 25° / 3rd decan ruled by mercury and uranus

this is the flirtiest, most romantic gemini decan, but also the flakiest and most indecisive. your flirting style most probably includes jokes, teasing… things like that. even though you may seem flaky, as you like experiencing romance with different types of people, you’re actually quite picky. in fact, in order to fall for someone, you need to feel mentally attracted to them, not just physically. someone ignorant and stubborn that doesn’t care about learning something most definitely isn’t for you. you’re not the type to be super romantic and sweet with your partner or just people in general. you show your affection for example by sending them memes, making ironic jokes about them etc. also, when you’re into someone, you probably get very talkative! you start asking them simple questions about their life, even things like 'did you have lunch?’. also, you talk about them with all of your friends, and you find yourself thinking costantly about them. you’re very curious of nature, but you’re only interested in getting to know what catches your eye.

gemini venus conjunct cancer mars: you are very serious when it comes to love. you seek intense, long-lasting relationships, filled with both romance and passion. ironically, you tend to attract people that are the opposite, who are only looking for fun and casual romance. that could afflict your self-worth significantly, as you feel unlucky in love. this is also another placement that indicates that one of your parents, probably your father, or still anyone of the opposite sex probably influenced your approach to romance and sex. there are different scenarios I have in mind, but I'll talk about it later in the family life section.

gemini venus opposite sagittarius pluto: you find yourself having crushes on random people often, love at first sight is common for you. but when you seriously fall for someone, they’re your only thought. you start searching for info about them online, and you wanna become part of their life too. you love intensely, but not everyone may enjoy that. there are people that could feel overwhelmed by your love, others that would vibe with you and offer you the same kind of affection. ironically, you tend to attract detached, free-spirited people that most of the times don’t want anything serious. you’re prone to get jealous and possessive very easily, and this makes you suffer, as you may think there’s something wrong with you. maybe, it may even remind you of something that happened during your childhood, perhaps your parents were also very protective of you. love for you is a constant grow; your relationships will be hard, but there’ll always be something to learn to improve yourself and your confidence. little side-note, you may often date karmic partners, aka partners from your past lives, so you may often experience this 'I’ve already seen you before’-vibe in your new encounters and relationships, and you’ll always learn something from all your relationships.

☄️ mars in cancer, 1° / 1st decan ruled by the moon

in life, you have the need of feeling grounded and stable. you want to feel secure, and that makes you think deeply about your decisions, you don’t rush them. you’re not much impulsive, you think deeply about what to do and / or say, you are very cautious. this sense of being careful makes you quite indecisive, especially since you also have your sun in the sign of taurus, this energy is even stronger. you may change your mind often, or perhaps it takes you a lot to finally make a decision because you kept changing your mind. you tend to try and be collected whenever someone is getting on your nerves, but your feelings are extremely intense to totally bottle them up. you either get slightly passive-aggressive, and hence you could get very sarcastic and call them out indirectly, or perhaps you just lose your temper and face them angrily. possibly, you could even be the type to bottle up all of your feelings, until you explode all of a sudden. that can also make you more furious than normal, as you have all these repressed, strong feelings inside of you that were screaming to get out. you’re also extremely protective of your loved ones, especially of your family.

cancer mars conjunct cancer saturn: you're a serious competitor, as your mind is very strategic. your ambition makes you want to be the best wherever you are, and you may actually overwork yourself to achieve your goals. establishing your status is important for you. you may not be the type to act instantly, you prefer taking your time to follow a plan. in fact, you probably write down what you have to do in an agenda, or even in your phone's notes app. you have this strong sense of duty, as you feel 100% responsible of your fate. you're sure that, if you don't work hard, you don't deserve success and recognition. in fact, you don't take orders from others, you are your own boss. you could have materialistic tendencies, as wealth is what motivates you the most to work or just take action in general.

🏡 houses

your 1st house is in scorpio, with also pluto in this house making this energy even stronger. you fulfill your ego when you deal with intense situations that satify your needs. that is, you find strenght in getting out of your comfort-zone. even though you may be afraid of it. you’re an enigma: you know everything about others, but others know nothing about you. it’s your way to protect yourself from eventual enemies, as you’re prone to have a few of them throughout your life. your existence revolves around discovering your value, worth and purpose in general. your self-esteem is based on your physical appearance and on your achievements. you may have this mentality that you can’t take care of yourself if you don’t have enough money. you could also earn money through your appearance, or at least achieving confident is going to be a huge theme for you in this lifetime.

your 2nd house is in capricorn, with also the moon sitting in this house. you may have an artistic hobby, such as acting, drawing, etc. that could earn you compliments and praise, and hence it increases your sense of worth. you could also increase your self-esteem by taking pictures or videos of yourself, for instance. you love challenging your mind, but you're kind of lazy. you'd rather stimulate yourself through your hobbies and interests rather than using school / work, which are quite stressful for you. you need to find something material and concrete to motivate you and make you assertive. you could study just because you need a good grade, or maybe work just to get paid. you don't really do it with interest, as you care more about nurturing your passions than responsibilities. you're not really into conflicts; you'd rather be peaceful with everyone, as you find it a waste time to argue with someone. you're very peaceful, you try to avoid conflicts when you can. this placement makes you crave stability, whether it's financial, in love etc. you must be very stubborn, as taurus, the sign associated to the second house, is a fixed sign. this placement, paired with your imaginative moon energy, makes you settle on making your ideas concrete, and it's very beneficial. it makes you capable of achieving any goals in your life. you're also very artsy, and you may fancy particular art styles. you have a good eye for aesthetics, and you care a lot about the looks of your house, body, clothes etc. you have excellent concentration, and that is another thing that helps you achieve your goals and make your ideas concrete.

your 3rd house is in the sign of aquarius, with also neptune and uranus placed there. when it comes to speech, you’re most likely more introspective. you may not be much talkative, and most of the time you keep your ideas and thoughts to yourself, but actually it's hard for you to hide them. you may be secretive, but you're easy to read. you learn the best when you’re close to creativity or imagination, you’re very intuitive and hence it's easier for you to learn new topics. while you're very empathetic and you're able to properly convey your thoughts and feelings in your speech, you may also come off as sensitive or even insecure. you may have a quiet voice, and hence you could come off as shy. you have a very distinctive way of thinking and speaking. you don't like being like others, you don't follow trends. you're probably the trendsetter, and you may find confidence and pride in your ideas and opinions. some may even define you weird, but you have very strong beliefs that could actually be helpful for the world. you're quite 'ahead' of others from this point of view, you're able to find beauty in things without being influenced by others. for example, you may follow a fashion trend before it gets viral. you are able to come up with very innovative ways of solving problems, you're extremely creative. you may even be the type to invent your own words, or perhaps you love learning and reading new words, you have a wide vocabulary. you're also probably interested in science and any darker or logical topic, you want to use your words and theories to change something in the world. you want to leave an impact, maybe even help others through your mind. you have a very witty sense of humor, you most likely speak fluent sarcasm and you're also very astute. I would say that the only problem with this placement is that you may come off as a know-it-all, especially with your taurus sun.

your 4th house is in pisces. when you were young, you probably didn’t feel at ease with yourself. you might have been the outcast, that one kid that stood out in the daycare. you probably didn’t have many friends either, but you weren’t that sad about it. you enjoyed playing, drawing and watching your favorite cartoons alone. you find emotional comfort and security in your home, in your parents and in just family in general. you used to be very attracted to arts when you were a kid, and you kept this love with you while growing up. maybe, you were the type of child to lie to your parents. you have a good relationship with your parents, even though you may argue often as you're all quite impulsive and unpredictable. you may even be an absent parent, maybe your parents are divorced or one of them died.

your 5th house is ruled by aries, with also mercury sitting there. you find confidence in your creativity, and you have the desire to express it to the world. I think you’re probably the type to organize and arrange all the meetings and parties with your friends, you're practically the leader of your friend group. you may have aries hobbies, therefore you may be into sports and challenges of any kind. you could also enjoy working out and taking care of your physical appearance in general, you always try to look good. with mercury here, you may also be very creative. you are probably a good writer, and you could even gain money from these skills of yours. you have a spectacular way of speaking, almost dramatic, that could make you come off as a know-it-all. when telling stories, you may exaggerate a bit, but at least you’re entertaining to listen. you could also gesticulate a lot while speaking, and maybe you like mimicking voices as well. you aim to express your feelings through creativity, it’s very important for you to write poetry, songs, drawings etc., it’s also a way to relieve stress and worries.

your 6th house is in taurus, with also your sun sitting there. you may find yourself dating people at your work place, or maybe at school you go out with people from your class/school. romance is a part of your daily life for you. you like surrounding yourself with venusian aesthetic, so you probably take care of your body, your fashion, your home and so on. you may also be very fond of animals and money. basically, this placement makes your 2nd house even more prominent in your chart. this placement usually makes someone procrastinate a bit, you may have the habit of dedicating yourself too much to your passions without finishing your work, but I don't think it's your case. there are other placements in your chart that make you more hard-working than you look. you are in fact very dedicated to your job and routine. you probably don't like changes, you'd rather follow a schedule in your day-to-day life. your job and skills could be the key to make you gain more confidence in yourself, as they would give you the independency that you crave due to your sagittarius rising. you may have a job that allows you to earn a great income, and perhaps you could heal people with it. hence, you could be some sort of therapist, counselor, nurse or even something more artistic, like a writer. anything that allows you to heal people with your words would be suitable for you. you could also work in a place where you have to handle others' money or possessions in general. you're also a very practical individual, and you may have good health.

your 7th house is in taurus, and venus is also placed there. in marriage you seek security, both emotional and financial. you want a loyal partner that would never do anything to hurt you, and that has a wealthy job as well. intimacy and trust also matter a lot for you in a long-term relationship. your future partner will surely be like that, but you may unluckily attract possessive, jealous people, so beware of that. it may be a problem, especially considering your heavy sagittarius energy that wants to be free. you may date someone that looks good on your side. they may be someone important with great presence, and they could help you increase your self-esteem. they may actually resemble you, you could have similiar physical features. in addition, this is a huge indicator of a nice, peaceful marriage, I don't see you having to go through divorce or anything stressful for your love life, even though it may take you a while to finally find someone that you truly love, as you don't want to be tied down.

your 8th house is in cancer, saturn and mars are also sitting there. you are a very private individual, you have trust issues and you only share your concerns with people you're sure you can trust. you tend to preserve yourself, even though it’s hard for you to repress your emotions, as they’re too to intense to bottle them up. you absorb people’s feelings like a sponge, there’s no way that you won’t instantly understand their real emotions. overall, you tend to overreact a lot; you have cancer's sensitive energy on one side and 8th house’s mysterious, almost scary vibe. dealing with these emotional burnouts may be stressing to you, as you totally get caught up in them. even if it looks like you get to know other people often, you actually don’t let others know you. you’re the type of person to talk and socialize, especially after your saturn return, but you never reveal your deepest fears and thoughts to strangers. you only open up to people you’re sure you can trust. when you’re angry, you can literally go as far as using violence; you need to let out your emotions by screaming, swearing… anything that can make you feel better. when you don’t get rid of all your negative vibes when angry, you may tend to get physically sick; you could get stomachaches, or maybe even headaches. there’s a secret, sensitive side in you that needs passionate and romantic partners in love. yet, you can’t help but feel more attracted to the ones that may hurt you badly. you’re possibly quite sensitive to entities too, like ghosts, spirits...

your 9th house is in leo, and jupiter is also placed there. you’re able to grasp a lot of information that makes you think more about your identity. you’re probably interested in philosophy, poetry, literature... you are a perfectionist at school, and you probably have amazing grades. you are very justice-driven, you like learning new things and being the #1 at pretty much everything you care about. yet, you could be quite bossy at times, as you could come off as a bit too arrogant but you're just very dedicated. on the other hand, you're also very intelligent and open-minded above all, you could feel particularly drawn to foreign cultures and languages and you could be naturally skilled. you may also get to travel a lot or even move abroad at a certain point in your life, you're definitely a citizen of the world and you hardly ever have prejudices.

your 10th house is in virgo. you might be seen by strangers as a caretaker, someone extremely organized who has their life together, but that also doesn’t hesitate to take care of their physical appearance. your ultimate job would have to be some sort of healing career, you want to give and teach something through your work. in addition, your career is where you put most of your energy. you're driven by a strong sense of duty, and your career is also able to increase your confidence. you want to be a leader and create a name for yourself. jupiter is also conjunct the midheaven, therefore I definitely see you travelling around the world for your job. you may have to interact with people from all over the world, therefore you may have to speak a different language or deal with other cultures. you also have strong writing abilities, you are very philosophical and you could become known for your messages. you don't have to necessarily communicate through words, you could even become an artist, a designer, a singer who tries to communicate through their art.

your 11th house is in libra. you enjoy getting to know new people, maybe you have to do it because your job requires that. but just because you need to communicate with other people, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re your friends. basically, you're the type to know a lot of persons, but you may always feel lonely. that's because your bond with them is kind of shallow, they're not someone too intimate with you. hence, you feel as if you can never share your feelings with anyone. your friends may also be very good looking, perhaps even a bit more extroverted than you. since venus, the ruler of the 11th house, is in the 7th house, the house of marriage, I feel like you may befriend your future spouse first before marrying them. it may start as a simple friendship, or perhaps you're going to be introduced to each other by your friends. you could also meet online or in a very crowded place, such as a concert for example.

your 12th house is in scorpio. this is another placement that indicates that you crave intense, life-changing bonds, but that you also tame them. you're afraid of being betrayed, and hence you just end up repressing your feelings. on the other hand, this placement makes you extremely spiritual. you may be attracted to the occult or any spiritual topic: astrology, tarots, even spirits. and, since the ruler of the 12th house, pluto, is in the 1st house, you may use these tools to get to know yourself more. you can become aware of your karmic issues thanks to astrology for example, and use it to finally solve and break free from your limitations. it's important for you to get closer to your spiritual, higher self in this lifetime. it will probablt make your life much easier.

❤️ love life, soulmates

in love, you attract aries, taurus, libra, gemini, capricorn and virgo. your future spouse is probably going to be very magnetic and mature, but also very caring, playful and affectionate with you. with your soulmate, it may be love at first sight. you're also most likely going to meet someone very spiritual, and your future spouse could actually be your soulmate. in addition, I feel that you're going to marry someone foreign, they may have a different cultural background from yours or at least you'll have to travel to meet. your children will probably have aries, virgo, gemini placements in their chart. they're going to be very active and fiery, possibly also naughty. yet, they'll also be very fond of their parents, hard-working and intelligent too.

👶🏻 family life

your mother is probably a very caring person that knows how to stand up for herself when she has to, but she may struggle to do that. she's very smart and optimistic, and she could come from a different country from yours. maybe she's of another religion, or she can speak other languages. she also has very strong beliefs that you inherited from her. yet, she coule be a bit moody and impulsive. she may have aquarius, sagittarius, pisces and / or virgo placements in her chart. your father is a bit more serious and focused on work, but he always made sure you always had what you needed. he also has a more playful side to him, that he may not show often. he could be a pisces or virgo. if you have siblings, they probably have prominent capricorn / aquarius / pisces placements in their chart. you may fight a lot with them, and you may be quite possessive of each other. yet, this relationships gets naturally better as you grow up, you are going to get along more in the future.

📊 career

I imagine that you would do best at a career that involves healing, teaching... I can see you doing well in the medical field, for example. especially as a nurse, where you mostly interact with patients. you may also work for associations like the onu, where you're surrounded by people from all over the world. hence, you get in touch with different cultures that can help you opening your mind. you want a wealthy job, where you can be your own leader and use your imagination. I can also picture you doing some sort of online job, you could become an influencer for example or you may be known online for your talents. as I've already said before, you have probably a creative talent to you that could make you quite successful. overall, you want a job where you don't really have to depend on others. actually, you probably strive to be your own boss.

👚 fashion sense, style analysis

I imagine you put a lot of effort into your outifts, yet you don’t show it. you want to look effortlessly good, you don’t want to give the impression that you tried. your style may be quite minimalistic and simple, with lots of jeans, sweatshirts, plain t-shirts… I see you being more into natural shades, like white, grey, beige etc. you’re also not very fond of using too many accessories, you’re stylish but still very simple. you have this natural charm to you, hence you still look good even though your outfits may not be too complex.

👁 past life, life purpose

in your past life, you were a very spiritual individual. you were close to your higher self, and you probably were able to talk to ghosts, you used to interpret your dreams and you most likely were also interested in astrology and other occult matters. in this lifetime, you need to put your spirituality aside for a while, and focus on finding out your identity here on the earth. you can still use spirituality to find out, but your priority is learning your karmic lessons regarding your self-esteem and work. you’ll finally be able to reach happiness and fulfill your soul when you start having an organized schedule, which allows you to balance both your hobbies and work.

🤔 major transits analysis / june 26th

this month could have been a bit rough for you; you probably felt a bit down, you don't feel much sociable, you just want to stay by yourself and think about your life. you could be feeling the urge to improve yourself, maybe something about school or even about your physical appearance, and as a result you could be a bit anxious to be perfect. you could be quite insecure in these days, and you could also be struggling with finances lately. yet, you don't have to despair: this is caused by the planets transiting your 8th house, making conjunctions to your saturn. in a couple of weeks, you should be feeling much more active and motivated to achieve your goals in a healthy way.

🧿 manifest what you want, secret skills

your secret skills revolve around finances and just security in general. with a positive attitude, you may attract material luck: money, clothes, houses… everything that you desire. since you’re a logical person, I assume the most efficient way for you to manifest through the LOA is writing! take a notebook and just write down positive affirmations, such as 'I have the car of my dreams’ etc. you may also write them on post-its and glue them around your house, so that you can accelerate the progress. you can also try to idealize your wish before trying to manifest it. for example, if you want a new sweatshirt, try to imagine yourself wearing it. you could also go into a shop and actually try that sweatshirt it on; being in contact with it will boost the law of attraction even more.

and this is the end! thank you again for booking a reading :) let me know if it resonated!

- libramc xx

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hi, i have pisces mars, how can i develop it? i suck

don’t do the whole “i suck” thing for starters. It’s hard ik especially for those of us who are mentally ill and/or went through trauma and have conditioned thoughts like these, but also it can be helpful to remind yourself that your thoughts do not define you and to redirect your thoughts rather than bully them away or blame yourself for them (let me know if you want resources on this!) so as to diminish later blowups/ guilt-tripping behaviours. a lot of Pisces mars people very much are willing to change their ways/ listen to other perspectives like you! telling people you suck doesn’t really come across as taking responsibility though, a lot of people will take offense to that - rightfully so - and think you’re being manipulative or simply looking for validation, acceptance or forgiveness. probably wasn’t your intention, it’s just important to think about how others would interpret our behavior.

accept that feeling bad isn’t an excuse to avoid preemptively thinking about how your actions impact others, it takes practice but make a conscious effort and you’ll be surprised how much good you can do despite overwhelming emotions! in a similar vein though, do NOT ignore or repress or minimize your emotions for the sake of others. if anything that will lead to more uncontrolled anger, manipulative behavior, and self-pitying feelings/thoughts which further reinforce the unhealthy behaviours you’re trying to rid yourself of

BEWARE OF WHO YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

if you can, avoid fixating on what you did wrong and feeling shame + guilt for it. focus on how you can improve or eliminate the behaviours you don’t like & more importantly how you can make it up to anyone you hurt - especially if that person is yourself. easier said than done, especially for the obsessive types, but again i find that redirecting thoughts makes this easier than blaming yourself for fixating on your guilt. it can be an endless cycle really. how do you apologise to others + how do you apologise to yourself? if you don’t do either of those much, start working from there

get feedback from others where appropriate but take the feedback with a grain of salt until you have multiple perspectives

watch self regulation skills vids or read about it or... cant believe i’m saying this.. listen to a p*dcast. whatever helps you absorb information the fastest. ideally you would learn about this through written/ spoken word of both your own and others, through audio, visually, artistically etc to master self-regulation but that’s obviously not realistic or convenient for everyone so start small with what seems most realistic to you!!! I know especially Pisces mars can get quickly lose interest or motivation when it comes to things involving thorough detail lol. the next point expands on this but what works for me is pretending I’m my own parent. in a way we all are our own parents, but emotionally investing myself in that fantasy helped me apply my energy to things I’d rather not do (like doing assignments is still very hard for me, and to avoid discouraging myself from doing them, i kind of have a conversation with myself about it and kind of take on the role of child + parent. this is just an example - sometimes it just helps to use your traits to your own advantage, like Pisces mars being more interested in fantasies/emotionally engaging things than boring menial tasks; i used an emotionally engaging fantasy to motivate myself to do work, be creative <3). avoid relying on others for regulation & discipline. this can be very difficult for some of us + i understand and empathize with this. the point here is to be as independent as you can be. also something going wrong does not necessarily mean it’s a sign from the universe to stop trying i promise

on the note of independence, take steps to becoming your own cheerleader. motivate & encourage yourself through positive self talk. in times where you feel demotivated, helpless or worthless, and say encouraging things to yourself. be aware that this will often seem silly and a waste of energy and u know how much Pisces mars like to save their energy at all costs lmao so this is definitely a common, normal reaction but every time this discourages you, remind yourself that IT IS worth trying and YOU are worth trying for yourself. sometimes I literally have to say cheesy shit like “you can do this” out loud repeatedly until I convince myself. it’s tiring & maybe embarrassing but recovering from chronic self-pity is even more tiring and embarrassing. avoid relying on others to uplift you & make you feel better. not to say that people shouldn’t help people, but just so you’re able to have your own back as much as possible

be more intellectually present oh my god 🤡 I beg of you. this can be very difficult especially for people who deal with adhd/mental illness(es)/trauma/learning disorders/developmental disorders etc. I don’t have all the answers for that but one thing most of us can do is engage in activities that nurture our intellectual health more frequently ; whether that’s reading (nonfiction preferrably), doing newspaper puzzles, crosswords/sudoku apps, problem-solving activities that don’t involve emotional appeal, etc just do it often. we all know how emotionally attentive Pisces mars can be but engage your intellectual side gamers (i.e. don’t game). I say this as a Pisces mars myself lolz please this is literally self-care

ik this is a snooze point but physical stimulation especially exercise can be really good for emotional wellbeing/ release. otherwise find literally any form of release - healthy forms I cannot stress this enough

wrt anger, bitterness, feelings of defeat: Pisces placements often have an external locus of control and thrive when they consider/have faith in something bigger than them. could be astrology, spirituality, religion, art, community, culture, all of the above, whatever makes u feel connected.

question your own intentions (but don’t overdo this); why am i acting this way or feeling this way? am I fishing for attention? if so, is there anything I can do to give myself the same warm feeling attention/validation from others would give me? am I acting like this because I feel hurt or taken advantage of? if so, is it possible for me to have a safe, healthy conversation about this with the source of the problem? WHAT is the source of the problem? what can i do about it? write this down if you can somewhere private and read it back to yourself later, notice any cognitive distortions in your thinking and make adjustments. this will help you practice using your intellectual side in distressing moments but there’s less point in using your thinking if it’s warped if you feel that’s the case for you. so google cognitive distortions & how to deal with them to get examples! try to make the adjustments next time you feel overwhelmed or have heightened emotions/senses

be firmer with your boundaries. with others AND yourself. the less you resist against boundaries the more your life will know peace because you are more careful with the people and/or behaviours you allow into YOUR life. do *not* ease up on your boundaries for the sake of other people. betraying yourself for others or immediate gratification is rarely a good idea in the long run. I’ve done the mistake of betraying my values for others many times and it’s caused unnecessary conflict which we are notorious for avoiding. that is until the evil puppeteer living in our brains snaps their fingers and commands us to go ham

#but thats just my 🧅#/sarcasm in that last line in case its not obvious #sorry if this doesnt help u in the slightest #pisces mars #long post #mars

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Check out Johnnie’s basic information here.

Or below if you’re not feelin’ like traveling. I get it.

BASIC STATISTICS Name: Johnnie Frost Age: (Varies) Nationality: American Socioeconomic Level as a child: Poor AF Socioeconomic Level as an adult: Rich AF Hometown: Gotham Current Residence: Whatever lair hasn’t been blown up that month Occupation: Career Criminal Income: Varies Talents/Skills: Efficient fighter at close range, deadly with a gun or knife, has been known to kill with the everyday items however. Johnnie is an excellent thief and known to put crazy into action. Salary: High Family: Dead. Significant People: Jack Napier/ Arthur Fleck pre-Joker, and Joker (These take multiple forms and I am happy to chat with anyone about prior or assumed relationships.) Relationship skills: Hard to have a relationship with a boss that breathes down your neck, but she’s up for those hot ONS. PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS: Height: 5'4 (Although is often in heels) Weight: 55kg (121lbs) Eye Color: Green Hair Color: Blonde Habits: Alcohol, Smoking, random Drug use. Health: Johnnie likes to keep herself fit, but she’s also been known to take a beating, or survive explosions. Hobbies: Running clubs and Goons 4 Hire services. Favorite Sayings: Fuck. Fuck me. Fuck you. Fuckin shit. Greatest flaw: Unable to leave work after work hours. Best quality: Not leaving work after work hours. INTELLECTUAL/MENTAL/PERSONALITY ATTRIBUTES AND ATTITUDES Educational Background: Dropped out mid high-school. Intelligence Level: Street smarts. Any Mental Illnesses?: I mean, yeah probably, you don’t work with crazy and not pick something up. Undiagnosed. Character’s short-term goals in life: Not dying. Character’s long-term goals in life: Not dying later. EMOTIONAL CHARACTERISTICS Introvert or Extrovert?: Extrovert How does the character deal with anger?: Drinking With sadness?: Drinking With conflict?: Punching With change?: Drinking With loss?: Emotionally talks through her feelings with a qualified professional (usually his name is Jack Daniels, Johnny Walker) SPIRITUAL CHARACTERISTICS Does the character believe in God? If she did, she’d want to punch him. What are the character’s spiritual beliefs? Not dying today means I get to drink more later.

#JohnnieFrost #Jonny Frost #Joker Roleplay #Harley Quinn Roleplay #Batman Roleplay #DCRP #DC Roleplay

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Hi! Do you have any books recommendations about thanatology or copping with grief from an atheist/agnostic/skeptic perspective? I am dealing with a loss but most of the sources but most of them are religious or spiritual related. :(

Hello Anon,

I am terribly sorry to hear that you’re going through a loss. This is one of the hardest experiences in the Human condition to deal with. Unfortunately, I don’t know of any books that deals with that topic specifically, or even indirectly. However, I’ve been dealing with losses as an atheist for some time now. As some followers may remember, I lost my mother at the beginning of this year.

I’ve been an atheist for some 7 years or more now, and have unfortunately lost many family and friends in that time. When I was a believer I used the same comfort that everyone else did. I pictured them in a better place and asked God to give me strength. After becoming an atheist I found that the loss was not felt harder now that I stopped believing in heaven. If we really collectively believed that a person went to a better place, then funerals would not be the tear driven, emotionally fraught events that they are. We tell ourselves for comfort, but I don’t think it ever was a powerful coping strategy. I say all this, anon, to tell not to be overly concerned about loosing that avenue.

The best ways to properly deal with death have nothing to do with religion. We are familiar with the different stages of grieving, and you’re either going to cycle through them or get stuck and be emotionally damaged. The basic cycle is denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Let’s talk about how to work through this cycle as an atheist.

Denial- This is not always literal. You can know intellectually that a person is gone and still be in denial. In my experience, denial is a refusal to address the issue mentally and emotionally. This usually lasts a couple days.

Anger- comes from letting the feelings hit you. I cannot stress enough that allowing yourself to process whatever you feel is vital. Loss will stir up many feelings about the person who is gone and those around them. When we talk about anger in this context, we are talking about allowing ourselves to be angry at the person for leaving us. Is that counter-intuitive, selfish, and unreasonable? Yes, it’s all of those things, but we all usually feel it at some point.

Bargaining- This phase is highly based in spiritual belief. It expects us to be asking some higher power to not let this be true. Instead, you may feel a sense of bargaining with yourself. Something like, I’ll be okay if... If I can do X that will make me feel better etc. This little self bargains are natural, but insignificant. None of those ideas you come up with will actually make things better. Really what we are trying to do is bargain with ourselves on ways to not have to feel the feelings. Again, the most important thing is that you let yourself experience all of your feelings without bargaining them away or covering them up. You have to face them.

Depression- We should all know that depression is natural after a loss, but if you’ve skipped the first steps, especially anger, your depression may be a fog that prevents from fully grieving.

Having a lot of experience dealing with depression, I can tell you that fighting it is not as productive as it sounds. Depression happens for a reason and it’s telling us to slow down because we can’t handle more damage. Acknowledge your depression and give it it’s time. Most people will snap out of it in a healthy time frame.

Acceptance- This is the state we all hope to achieve. Of course this looks different for everyone. In my experience, I’ve reached acceptance when I’m no longer carrying around anger attached to the loss, when I’m no longer stuck in depression, and when I can reasonably live life like normal. Acceptance does not mean that we never get sad, or that we never cry, or that we have it all together all the time. Acceptance simply means that we are done fighting the reality of this loss and we’ve learned how move on with the full knowledge and scope of this event.

Atheists do not have any any unified beliefs about death. Sometimes life is far too fleeting and it doesn’t seem fair, and it’s not. I have to be realistic that there is no escaping death, but I can also focus more on life. Humans are pretty amazing. The fact that we have conscious lives, and are able to remember each other, record our history, learn from each other, and make each individual live on through record and memory is amazing. I’m in awe of my ability to ponder life and death, and understand the scope of my species stretching over millennia on this planet. We’ve doubled our life spans through modern medicine, and no other creature on Earth can even understand what we’ve accomplished.

The fact that we do all these things as temporary life forms is spectacular. Instead of focusing on the loss of a person, I focus on how special their life was and all the ways they touched the world. Despite all the friends I have lost over the years, the death of my Mother seriously solidified the permanence of death, and the awe of our short lives.

Karen Lucy Taber was a person that existed for 55 years, and my sister and I are here because of her. I have a wealth of memories and lasting effects from her life, and those things are real. They happened.

Atheist may feel that they are missing something when facing loss without a spiritual belief, but that’s just not true. The truth is that death is permanent to us, loss is painful, we all hurt, and we all must live on. Spiritual beliefs do nothing to change the core reality that we face as human beings.

#atheism #godless #death #loss #grieving #personal #non-belief #life and death #thoughts #help

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Cracking The Code of Self Care; Breaking It Down To 6 Parts

There are many different ways you can perform self care, but there are six main categories for self care. As an individual person, you can have your own ideas of what self care should be and have your own way of doing it, but these six are the most important for young teens like ourselves, these are relevant groups of self care. For kids who are developing and coming into their own, it is important that we de-stress ourselves, because as youth the future will only get harder. We need to get a handle on our happiness before it slips away.

Remember that you are valid, you are amazing, you are beautiful and nobody can take that away from you.

The first category is physical, this involves eating well, becoming active and taking care of your physical health. It’s participating in sports and other activities that will get you moving, most importantly it's something that you enjoy.

The second is mental, you need to take care of yourself intellectually whether that is just de-stressing yourself with menial activities or reading, or doing brain teasers.

The third is emotions, which includes identifying your feelings and what caused them, accepting those feelings and expressing your emotions. This is vital to everyone’s health. You learn to focus on getting a handle on your emotions and finding outlets for your feelings, and a way to express yourself emotionally.

The fourth is spiritual, getting to know your own beliefs and coming to terms with whatever they may be. It is you finding your purpose in life and peace with your life and the choices you have made. Spirituality doesn't mean you have to be religious, but it can be for some people.

Spirituality can mean whatever you need it to, there is no set construct for spirituality, so don't force yourself into a religious setting you don't want to be a part of.

The fifth is social, sometimes we take a break from people and that's okay, but as humans we need to connect with each other. Taking care of yourself socially is just you making sure you're comfortable with people outside of your immediate family. That doesn't mean you have to be close with everybody or even talk to everyone, it just means that you are comfortable enough with people to include them in your life.

The sixth is taking care of your relations, personal and general, not having good relationships with family and friends can ruin everything you’ve worked so hard for in this journey to self care. It is strengthening relationships with parents, friends and other family members. Daily interactions with your family have a great affect on people’s health.

You can add or change the categories to fit you and your personality because these are just a baseline for what you will use in the future. Our happiness depends on who we grow up to be or who we choose to stay. If you choose to stay stressed and not deal with things healthily you won't be able to grow into an amazing person. If you choose to deal with frustrating and stressful situations then you will only grow and be better.

Sources:

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2011/05/the-7-vital-types-of-self-care/

https://medium.com/@wendymillermeditation/5-types-of-self-care-and-practice-ideas-for-each-9e88a61c6bb0

@english128-5thperiod

#6 strong facts #self care #be good to yourself #leave yourself alone #positive mental attitude #spiritualdevelopment #social interaction #good health #positive relationships #emotional growth #take care of your body #take care of you #english128pd5 #eat trash or eat grass

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Goal Setting Strategies

Watching Steve Harvey and Oprah Winfrey talking about vision boards, writing our goals down and believing we can create anything we want in our lives gave me an epiphany. Steve Harvey said something that pressed a button in my heart. He said, “If nine of your friends are broke, you will be the tenth.” That slapped me awake. I love my broke and nightlife friends. We love to sit and talk about how broke we are and how depressing it is to work for hourly wages. I had no idea I could change my life. That I can set goals, visualize, feed my mind with thoughts that empower and embody the type of life I want for myself. I mean nobody told me my life is in my hands. I only knew what my family, friends, and society told me about life. So, I went out of my comfort zone and started hanging around friends who are wealthy spiritually, intellectually and financially.

Today, we will be delving into three types of goal setting strategies: visualization with vision boards, the act of writing down our goals and lastly acting as if we already achieved our goals. Some of you might already be familiar with these life-changing strategies, but as stated by one of my virtual mentors Tony Robins, an Entrepreneur, Author, and currently one of the most influential Life and Business Strategists, “Repetition is the mother of skill”.

GOAL SETTING

This fascinating exercise dates to the beginning of Human beings. The goal to hunt for food, the goal to stay alive and safe, the goal to evolve. One of the Ancient Greek Philosophers Aristotle defined goal setting as, “Have a definite, clear practical ideal: a goal, an objective. Then have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, wealth, materials and methods. Lastly, adjust all your means to that end.” I started learning these strategies four years ago and decided to make my vision board three years ago. I would cut out pictures from magazines, newspapers and print quotes that touch my heart. Every so often, I change a quote or take down a picture of a goal I have achieved. It is an empowering exercise to learn.

Knowing what we want and seeing it in our mind’s eye is as old as time. Today we have the aide of Vision Boards to help us visualize the things we want to attract in our lives. Jack Canfield Founder of the Transformational Leadership Council and Chicken Soup for the Soul Empire described Vision Boards as meaningful collages with pictures of our goals put on a board and placed in an area of either the living room, bedroom or office that can be seen every single day.

Vision boards are also known as Dream Boards. They serve as a representation of our ideal life and where we would like to be. Creating a vision board cannot make things magically appear in our lives, of course, it is training our mind to work towards achieving the statements and images we are feeding our subconscious mind. The important thing I found about using vision boards is the visualization process that comes with it. The adage, as Mr. Canfield said “A picture is worth a thousand words” is true especially in this case. The more we see images and quotes that align with our dreams, the more the information sips into our subconscious mind.

We recreate the things and situations we concentrate on. Our minds respond strongly to visual stimulations. The goal of visualizing with vision boards is to strengthen and stimulate our emotions because emotions are vibrational energy. We want to focus on a definite purpose so our energy will flow where our attention goes. Which is living a life by design. Another way that visualization with a vision board helps is to clear the mind from any negativity self-talk. It reprograms the mind to think differently than it usually does, and it motivates the drive to step out of our comfort zone. My Vision Board is in my home office above my desk. It is my goal setting and writing space. When my daughter is not climbing over my head, I sit here and write down my thoughts, my goals and create the life I want to live.

Writing down our goals in a journal or dream book can be as effective as visualizing with vision boards. Did you know that you are 50 percent more likely to achieve your goals just by writing them down? A recent study by Clinical psychologist from the Dominican University of California, Dr. Gail Matthews involved a total of 267 participants to take part in a study. Participants came from around the world and from varied works of life. The study divided the participants into groups. Some wrote down their goals and the rest did not write their goals down. By the end of the study, Dr. Matthews saw that those who wrote down their goals achieved and accomplished significantly more than those who did not write their goals down. Stumbling on a TedX talk by Cameron Herold a Management Consultant, he drove the point home with one sentence “If your vision is not in writing, it does not exist”. Let me ask you a few questions. Why are you here? Why are you in college? What are you studying for? What are your dreams and aspirations? What do you want to achieve in your life? Where would you like to be in the next three or 5 years? What impact do you want to make in the world? How do you want to spend your life?

Goal setting is important because we are creative beings surrounded by an energetic field. The things we see, what we hear and what we focus on greatly influence our perception of what we call “the world”. When we act as if we have already achieved our goals, we are priming ourselves to mentally and emotionally believe and see ourselves achieving our goals. Napoleon Hill author of Think and Grow Rich has a prominent sentence in his book. “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

The benefit of acting as if is the elimination of pointing out what is missing in our lives. We are in a society were pointing out our flaws, and how unworthy we are is a social trend. In their book “Ask and It is Given” Jerry and Esther Hicks said, “When we concentrate on what’s missing in our lives, we keep the vibration active and it prevents what we want from coming into reality”.

In the Act as If Principal, a book by Richard Wiseman, he said the majority of us believe that our feelings dictate our behavior. If I am shy, there is nothing I can do about it. Wiseman argued that rather, our behavior dictates the way we feel. How you choose to consciously or unconsciously Act directly influences how you Feel. With authenticity, if you Act like you are grateful for all the opportunities life gives you, then you will start to feel grateful for life. This cycle goes on and it beautifully feeds on itself. The Act As If Principal can be the easiest yet the most difficult of the three goal-setting strategies. After creating a vision board and writing down our goals, most of us might not believe we can achieve those goals. Then comes all the chatter in the mind telling us we cannot do it, we are not worthy or how do we expect to achieve such big goals.

The beauty is, the more we practice visualizing and writing down our goals the more we begin to believe in ourselves. The more we believe in ourselves, the more we change the self-talk in our minds. This is what Dr. Joe Dispenza Neuroscientist calls The Science of Changing Your Mind. In his books Evolve Your Brain and Placebo, Dr. Joe explains how “nerve cells that no longer fire together, no longer wire together”. You can wire your brain to lose the negative self-talk and adopt a much more positive and productive mindset to start seeing things differently.

You probably know by now how much I love quotes. Therefore, to wrap up, I will leave you with my all-time favorite quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer, a former Educational Counselor and Clinical Psychologist. He said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. Goal setting strategies aids in organizing life in a way that one can see the now and the endless possibilities to come. In closing, I hope I have given you an understanding of or the curiosity to research how to visualize with a vision board, writing your goals down and believing in yourself enough to act as if you have already achieved all your goals. If you noticed, all through the, I did not say achieve your goals for the future or what the future can bring. Because there is no future, all we have is now, this moment. I hope you use your moments wisely.

BIBLIOGRAPHY

Hill, Napoleon. Think and Grow Rich. United States: Fawcett Books 1960. Print.

Hicks, Esther, and Jerry. Ask and it is Given. California: Hay House Inc. 2004. Print

Dyer, W. Wayne. Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life; Living the Wisdom of the

Tao. California: Hay House Inc. 2007. Print.

Wiseman, Richard. “The As If Principle: The Radically New Approach to Changing Your

Life”. Simon & Schuster. 2014

Leighton, Nick “Five Reasons Why You Need a Personal Vision Statement”. Forbes Oct.

2019.

Marter, Joyce. “How to Make a Vision Board”. Huffington Post. Dec. 2017.

Canfield, Jack. “How to create an empowering Vision Book”.

https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/how-to-create-an-empowering-vision-book/

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Mind sharing what you’re passionate about and what your 2019 personal goals are?

That is a really good question dear, with so many layers to it. I am passionate about a lot of things quite frankly. Clearly, since I run a fitness blog, fitness is one thing I am passionate about. Anything that pertains to health, nutrition and well-being. As I’ve always said, I like being active and I view the human body as the most impressive machine built for performance. In fact, the body is a machine that must be taken care of if we want it to perform well for an extended period of time. Developing a passion for health and fitness will not only help with physical health, but it helps improve one’s mental health and overall well-being. In that regard, I don’t think I would ever have had a passion for fitness if it wasn’t for running. I am a passionate about running, I am passionate runner, a solo runner, a runner who runs with her soul not her sole.

I run because it’s my passion, and not just a sport. Every time I walk out the door, I know why I’m going where I’m going, and I’m already focused on that special place where I find my peace and solitude. Running, to me, is more than just a physical exercise… it’s a consistent reward for victory! Running changed my life… Once you get that blood moving, it’s show time!

Running 🏃🏾‍♀️:

Running is a great metaphor of life; you get out of it what you put into it. It has taught me a lot more than I could ever have imagined. It has taught me about perseverance, failure – how to accept defeat, self-accountability, discipline, determination, but most importantly, running has completely changed my view of life. Running doesn’t only rejuvenate you physically… Actually, it has strengthened me not only physically, but mentally and spiritually. Simply put, it has taught me how to venerate my body, soul and mind. Through difficult times and good times, running has always been there for me. I can’t remember what I was doing before running. I guess procrastinating, watching TV, gaining nothing. Running pervades my life. I wouldn’t go as fa as to say it has crept into other part of my life; I would rather say it has become its own part of my life.Through running, I’ve found exhilaration, challenges, strength, confidence, inspiration, peace and friends. I have run in all directions- away from, toward, in circles. I have run through joy, sorrow, anger, pain and confusion. I have challenged myself again and again and have emerged from each test a stronger, more confident woman.

Getting into running during my first year of college was truly a blessing in disguise. 2010, that’s the year when, as a college freshman, I started running. Immediately I was enamored. I loved the sense of exploration, of challenging myself, of being outside in all kinds of weather. I loved the time alone, time to think about whatever came to my head. I loved seeing if I could go farther than I ever had or run a loop faster than I did the week before. I loved how I felt physically while running and how I felt mentally when I was done. When I joined the university track and field team the next fall, I learned to love running even more. Training with teammates, racing against those teammates, building toward a long-term goal – all this and more about being a competitive runner added a whole other layer of attraction to this most natural act.

*Note college and university are NOT the same thing in Canada as in the U.S. College and university aren’t used interchangeably in Canada – they are two distinct establishments.

On a different note but still in relation to running, I never truly felt good in my skin, but running changed that. It gave me confidence. When you start to feel good physically, mentally and spiritually, you start to enjoy and value yourself as you should. Inevitably, you start to spend more on yourself and your well-being – this brings me to my next passion: skincare.

Skincare – Nutricosmetics, Nutraceuticals and Cosmeceuticals 🧴💊

Not gonna lie, self-care is addictive lol. Prior to my healthy lifestyle, I really wasn’t taking much care of my skin (yikes), but when I got into fitness, I really started reading more about anything and everything that pertains to wellbeing – and skincare caught my attention, I learned that the skin is our largest organ. After learning that the skin is our largest organ – damn right I started taking good care of it lol 💆🏽‍♀️. I will forever be mad at my teenage self for not taking good care of my skin. Luckily, I started sooner than later (18 baby). I know so much about skincare that at some point I seriously started contemplating doing a certificate in dermatology or becoming an aesthetic/cosmetic nurse 💉.

The skin covers the body and prevents water loss, protects the body from injury and infection, regulates body temperature, eliminates wastes (sweat), produces vitamin D with the help of sunlight, gathers information about the environment, stores fat for fuel and insulation.

As I became a skincare junkie, I discovered about nutricosmetics, nutraceuticals and cosmeceuticals. The science behind these topics is quite interesting and fascinating. If one day you ever have some free time, I’d recommend reading on these topics.

Nutraceuticals are products, which other than nutrition are also used as medicine. A nutraceutical product may be defined as a substance, which has physiological benefit or provides protection against chronic disease.

Cosmeceuticals are the marriage of cosmetics and pharmaceuticals. Think: antioxidant plus lipstick or retinol plus face serum.Cosmeceuticals will contain active ingredients that are known to be beneficial to humans in some way,“ says Marie Jhin, MD, a dermatologist in San Francisco. “For example, vitamin C is a known antioxidant and when this is added to a lotion or cream the product is considered a cosmeceutical.” [X] If you’ve been following me for years, you know that I’m a Vitamin C advocate. Use it internally, topically – splurge yourself of Vitamin C! It did wonders to my skin.

Nutricosmetics - Beauty from Within: The term “Nutricosmetics” is a result of the fusion of “Nutraceuticals” and “Cosmeceuticals.” They are ingestible natural health products that enhance the function and appearance of an individual’s skin, nails, and hair. They are a range of beauty supplements and functional foods and beverages that claim to contain active ingredients and nutrients such as botanical actives, sterol esters, lycopene, enzymes, proteins, minerals, and vitamins that enhance beauty and are beneficial to health.

Spirituality – motivational speaking, and coaching 🧘🏾‍♀️

In regard to running still, as mentioned earlier running has not only nourished my body, but also my soul and mind. Overall, it helped me grow as the individual that I am today. Although I like the person that I am, as mentioned previously I am in love with the person that I have the potential to be. Running reminds me that there is more to me than what is readily apparent much of the time. In feeding my mind and soul, running taught me that there is ALWAYS room for improvement. I am always pushing myself, so I can be a better version of myself.

Now, you have to wonder how I stay so motivated and determined all the time. The truth is that I do not think I would have had this buoyant strength in me to persevere, to succeed and to overcome the obstacles and difficulties of life, if it was not for all that running has taught me. I am very grateful for all the knowledge I have gained over the years through athletics. Running has humbled me in a way. In this respect, a poignant quote from Kareem Heshmat that deeply impacted me lately reads,

Now you…you know a lot about a lot, or a lot about a little, a little about a lot or a little about a little. You have an understanding of many more concepts than you give yourself credit for. You pick up facts here and there and form opinions that are worth sharing. Gather that knowledge into something useful; either implement that knowledge to bring about change in the world or pass it along to someone who will be inspired to do the same. Having knowledge means sharing knowledge.

It would certainly be selfish for me not to share this incredible knowledge that I have gained over the years. I am admittedly not the most knowledgeable fitness expert, but I believe that some can learn and relate with my journey. Fortunately for me, I was able to blossom as a strong individual. However, I recognize and acknowledge that I was and am privileged in a certain way, because the path to a healthy lifestyle is not the easiest - many fail all along this journey and / or never succeed.

Over the last 2-3 years, I have been really big on spirituality, soul searching, motivational speaking, and coaching. So, in the near future, I hope I can use all the knowledge I’ve gained over the years to inspire others to reach their full potential, whether that is physically, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, occupationally, socially, environmentally, and / or financially [see post on 7 dimensions of Health].

Uplifting Others is an investment that always pays back dividends, not necessarily from the outside, but for one’s own peace of mind and soul. In many ways, what we put out into the world is returned to us in the form of our own inner peace, happiness, contentment, and well-being. That makes developing passion for others into something that can really help with our peace of mind and place in life.

Nature 🍃

With regard to running and spirituality, I’ve found trail running to be so beneficial for my body and mind, and surprisingly, it made me learn to enjoy nature more than I did when I was younger. Trail running takes you up the mountain, over the river, and through the woods, and that often gives you a much more scenic view than we could ever hope for on an urban jaunt on the road. Trails just have a way of closing off the rest of the world and all of the chaos. Put simply, trail running is quiet and contemplative.

There is no Wi-Fi in the forest, but I promise you will find a better connection.

Miscellaneous 🖼🎨✈️👩🏾‍⚖️

As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, I have a lot of passions, but if I list them all, this post will never end. Those discussed above are my main ones, but I am also very passionate about social justice, art, and travelling.

Art: Art such as running is another of expressing oneself. At the end we’re all just searching for that tiny space, perhaps a hole that gives us shelter from the struggles of life.

Travelling: Although Canada is the second largest country in the world and one of the most diverse, I would like to see what else is out there before being 30. I’d love to spend the rest of my 20s travelling. Traveling is so rewarding, not only for the mind but also for the soul. I love being around people and learning about different cultures and languages and as cheesy as it might sound, what I’d like to do is somehow combine these facts with the aim to help dismantle prejudices and unite people. On that note, this brings me to my next point.

Social justice: Justice in terms of the distribution of wealth, opportunities, and privileges within a society is something we should all advocate for. Fighting against discrimination, prejudice and injustice has always been something dear to my heart, especially as a Black woman.

Personal goals 🗓

In terms of my personal goals for 2019, the year is almost over lol, so my expectations aren’t too high, but before the year ends as I’ve mentioned previously, I’d like to start a YouTube channel. I’m also in the process of writing my first eBook.

Some of my personal goals for the future include:• writing a visual cookbook;• writing a skincare tips book;• partaking in a marathon or bodybuilding contest;• having my own brand of supplement for elite athletes and bodybuilders;• creating fitness gear/compact and affordable gym equipments• doing a TED talk.

But most importantly I’d really love to turn my passion for fitness blogging into a full-time job, I’d like to be my own boss. One of my inspirations is Marc Fitt, what he has accomplished on his own is truly impressive. And he’s French Canadian. so I totally relate to him 😂 (Maple syrup, ketchup chips, poutine, you know 😂😭).

I’m speaking these goals into existence! 🙏🏽

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