#polyam aro culture is

[polyam-aro-culture-is]

PLEASE SPREAD TO ALL AROACE AND POLYAM BLOGS THAT YOU CAN

Hey guys just so you know there’s a aphobe and polyphobe going around and leaving hateful messages. Just go ahead and block aphobic-polyphobe before they come harass you.

#aromantic #lgbtqia #polyamourous aromantic #lgbtq #polyamory #polyamourous #aro #arospec #not a culture is ask #polyamorous #aspec #acespec #aroace #asexual #polyam aro culture is #poly aro

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is finding a very odd sense of freedom in not being romantically into anyone.

it's also being confused because you like dating and are polyam but if you were asked "what is romantic love" you could literally only shrug and go "idk, all ik is that i like having partners and being a walking contradiction."

(shout out to any other aros who have "conflicting/contradicting" identities; we're valid and cool and deserve the world)

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#adrianexists #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #polyam aro culture

[aroallo-culture-is]

Poly aroallo culture is gossiping with your fwb about people you both have the hots for so you can team up and plan your double attack

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#aroallo culture is #aro #aromantic #lgbtq #lgbtqia #alloaro #aroallo #anonymous #submission #polyam

[bilesbianblog]

bi lesbian culture is being a multigender aro bi lesbian who is polyamorous and having cute partners and we are all doing genderfuckery and queering the fuck out of our relationships and loving so much and having more fun than any exclus would ✌️

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#bi lesbian #bi lesbian culture #aromantic bi lesbian #aro bi lesbian #polyamorous bi lesbian #polyamorous aro #polyamorous aro bi lesbian #genderfuck #polyam bi lesbian #polyamorous aromantic bi lesbian #exclusionism mention #multigender bi lesbian #multigender aro bi lesbian #polyamorous multigender aro bi lesbian #polyamorous multigender aromantic bi lesbian

[romo-aro-culture-is]

polyam romo aro culture is wanting multiple partners

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#polyam romoaro culture #polyam romoaro culture is #polyam romo aro culture #polyam romo aro culture is #polyamorous romoaro culture #polyamorous romoaro culture is #polyamorous romo aro culture #polyamorous romo aro culture is #romo aro culture #romo aro culture is #romoaro culture

[polyamorouscultureis]

polyam aro culture is getting imposter syndrome bc you can barely manage to land 1 person, much less multiple 😭

F in the chat to my arospec followers, yall are an inspiration 😭

#submission #aromantic #polyamory #polyam #polyamorous #lgbtq #poly #polycule #polyamorous culture #poly culture #gay culture #polyam culture

[artsyaech]

a masterlist of [thing] culture is... blogs!

[PT: a masterlist of [thing] culture is... blogs!]

part 1: orientations and general queerness

queer - general

@queercutlureis

@gay-culture-is

aspec

@ace-culture-is

@aro-culture-is

@autospec-culture-is

@aspec-culture

@questioning-aspec-culture-is

@quoicultureis

@qpr-culture-is

@aroace-culture-blog

@aro-ace-culture-is

@angled-aroace-culture (run by meee)

@tertiary-attraction-culture-is

@omniaspec-culture-is

@aego-culture-is

@aegoromantic-culture-is

@demisexual-culture-is

@demiromantic-culture-is

@aroace-autie-culture-is

@plato-repulsed-culture-is

@atertiary-culture-is

@cupio-culture-is

@demiro-ace-culture-is

@demiro-allosexual-culture-is

@polyam-aro-culture-is

@greyromantic-culture-is

@aplatonic-culture-is

@apl-culture-is

@aspec-sapphic-culture-is

@gray-culture-is

@arospike-culture-is

@abrosexual-culture-is

mlm

@achilleancultureis

@mlm-culture-is

wlw

@lesbian-culture-is

@sapphic-cultureis

mspec

@mspec-gay-culture-is

@bisexual-culture-is

@bi-culture-is

@pan-culture-is

@mspec-culture-is

@gaybian-culture-is

@omnisexualcultureis

@neptunic-culture-is

@uranic-culture-is

#culture is #culture is blog #queer culture is

[117-opossum-teeth]

i was gonna wait to share these until arospec awareness week but i’ve been in alloro spaces for too long and wanted to share my recent art of my aro ocs to shake the bad vibes off!! im gonna do a little bit of infodumping abt them below >:)

the first drawing is of tatum (left) and dylan (right)! they are QPPs! :] tatum (she/her) is aroallo, grayro, and polyam! she’s also in a romantic relationship with another character. she loves being out in nature and has lots of hobbies like gardening, photography, and foraging! she’s big on appreciating the small things and prefers to be in quiet, peaceful areas. dylan (they/them) is aroqueer and genderqueer, and loves vulture culture and anything to do with bugs (beetles are their favorite)! they like sketching and being competitive (although sometimes they take it a little too far lol), and they take awhile to be comfortable around others.

i don’t have their backgrounds completely fleshed out, but i like to think since she was young tatum never got the big deal abt romantic relationships (while she’s in one now, she doesn’t view it as inherently superior to other relationship types) and didn’t buy into amatonormative ideas. dylan, on the other hand, tried to be in a romantic relationship which failed, and they fell victim to some amatonoramtive ideas until they met tatum! tatum taught them about aromanticism and generally made them a lot more comfortable with themself and their identity. sooner or later the both of them realized they wanted to be QPPs and they now call each other their zucchinis! <2

the second drawing is of mistletoe (he/him)! he’s frayromantic, homosexual, and non partnering! he has a group of friends, one of whom he has a fwb situation with. he can act arrogant sometimes but he means well. he’s actually a big softy but tries to act cool (he doesn’t like people treating him like he’s weak or “lesser” for being a rabbit, so he thinks he has to make up for it by acting tougher sometimes). while being aro, he actually loves flirting with people, he treats it like a game haha. although as soon as the flirting advances to something more, he gets freaked out and repulsed. and ironically, being frayromantic, on the rare occasions he does experience romantic attraction, he loses his entire ability to flirt due to nerves.

thanks for reading!!! i love these guys sm :]

#aromantic #aro #actually aromantic #actually aro #arospec #aromanticism #queer #117-opossum-teeth #aro artist #aromantic artist #aro art #aromantic art #aro characters #aromantic character #aro positivity #aromantic characters #original art #queer artist #queer artwork #original character #original charater art

[charmixpower]

Here's a version with no bg! And under the cut imma explain my hcs!

Going in order;

Tecna: Nonbinary Flag cape, Aro and Ace belt clips, Transfeminine pin, and Autism pin

Tecna doesn't really care about figuring out what her exact gender is because that doesn't affect the happiness she experiences in her life so she uses the macro label of Nonbinary and Transfeminine, and was very happy simply socially transitioning to being more feminine

She uses She/He/They pronouns, and doesn't actually care which one people use for her. Since magic is a very female dominant field and because she's transfeminine most people just assume she only uses she/her and she honestly doesn't care enough to correct them

She experiences no type of attraction, but isn't repulsed. She's completely neutral but is very much interested in not participating

She's very autistic. She experiences shut downs, takes things very literally, is like aggressive sincere bc not doing that never occurred to her, can't read others emotions to save her life—people on Zenith usually keep to themselves and have a extremely straightforward culture that very autism friendly so Tecna never noticed she was different until she left

Aisha: Lesbian Flag, Demi aro ace pin, and that's the Pride flag in her bag

Aisha is exclusively attracted to women and only experiences attraction after knowing someone well. Additionally, Demi people have different amounts of time for when they feel attraction and for Aisha they have to be at the very least good friends before any attraction can develop

Musa: Bisexual jacket

Musa is bisexual with a preference for men. She figured out she was bisexual after watching the world's shittest romance movie and wished she was dating both of them. She is the most disastrous of bisexuals. Shes never had a crush on a normal person, that or it's another straight girl. Someone pray for her

Bloom: Omni Flag cape, and Autism pin

Had a friend describe Omni as being between Pan and Bi, where gender plays a role but not as big and it really fitt the way I see Bloom so here. Bloom experiences attraction differently based on gender but has no preference, so she's Omni. I genuinely think Bloom would like and use micro labels, she just comes off to me as a "I need to find the perfect word to decide my experience" girlie

Bloom's autism is all in the sensitivity, being easily overwhelmed and wanting to process in a safe place, complete lack of understanding of danger, and huge special interest baybeee. Also her complete inability to express empathy without filtering it though her own life experience but eventually she figures out how to just express empathy and sympathy without doing that XD

Stella: Pan dress, ADHD purse, and three different Polyamorous pins

Stella is pan "because I can't deny any gender a shot" - Stella of Solaria

That's a real quote. She told me herself. Yeah but she's pan and thinks everyone is hot. Shes our Combined type ADHD queen. Bow down. The three different polyam pins are because there're two different popular flags, the most common really ugly one and the redesign so I used both so people would understand and the new polyam symbol. If she and Brandon met someone they wanted to date there would be no question if they tried to bring them into the relationship. Only when

Flora: Bisexual dress, Pride belt, and Pride earrings

Flora is bisexual with a preference for women. She has no clue she was into men for a little while, primarily bc she finds femininity the most attractive so it was until she saw a gnc guy and couldn't stop staring that she realized she was bisexual. The distinguished bisexual to Musa's utter disaster

#winx club #winx musa #winx stella #winx flora #winx tecna #winx aisha #winx layla #winx #winx bloom #winx club bloom #winx club stella #winx club flora #winx club tecna #winx club musa #winx club aisha #winx club layla #winx headcanons #winx club headcanons #winx fanart #winx club fanart #rus doodles

[relaxxattack]

a few people have remarked on my marriage for poly/aro people post like “this is why we should get rid of marriage altogether so that married people aren’t superior to anyone else” which is like. did you… miss the entire body of the post? explaining why you would want to be able to choose the people legally bound to you for emergency scenarios? like. you do realize that getting rid of the option to choose your legal family altogether puts you right back at square one of “your queerphobic parents will be in charge of your health choices, funeral, possessions, and children if you die”.

what part of “being able to choose who the government asks about your best wishes when you aren’t available is important, and therefore should be expanded to be multiple people if you are polyam or aro etc” somehow got translated in your mind to “being able to choose who is your legal family is a bad privilege actually and should be gotten rid of”

sure wedding culture is terrible and yes our society is grossly heteronormative and sort of socially poisoned the concept of marriage as that old “ball and chain” blah blah yeah. but i cannot stress enough (and i did. in that post. multiple times) that i’m not talking about the social dynamics of marriage but rather the LEGAL ABILTY to LEGALLY ASSIGN other people as your family and give them the stamp of approval for making your choices if you’re in a fucking coma and can’t legally sign off or consent to anything!

#sorry i kind of ranted here but seeing those responses had me like HUH? #how did it fly so far over some peoples heads

[polyam-aro-culture-is]

Poly aro culture is tossing a coin to decide whether to call each other partners or not.

Valid! It’s totally up to y’all if you want to be called partners and if a coin toss is how you want to do it, that sounds fun!

#aromantic #lgbtqia #lgbtq #polyamourous aromantic #aro #polyamory #polyamourous #arospec #polyam aro culture is

[aro-culture-is]

polyamorous/polyplatonic aro culture is daydreaming about living in an apartment complex with all your friends and qpps

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#extraordinary-dumbass #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod alexander #polyam aro culture #polyplatonic aro culture

[brain-stuck]

what up welcome to brainstuck

were called that because we . Because we are Stuck in th

were a massively introject heavy system of like 26 or some shit and we made this blog to. idk reblog system shit and maybe you guys can interact with us or smth . this blog was the result of a democratic vote so here it is 💯

COLLECTIVE INFO

bodily 22

trans dude, default to he / him

overall aroace. headmate identities heavily impact the Flavoring so were loveless, lovequeer, nonamorous and partnering all at the same time

refer to us as a whole as brainstuck or perhaps bingus. i am serious we will respond to bingus

not endogenic or traumagenic but a secret third thing (nunyagenic) (nunya business)

DISCLAIMER some of us arent white in brain but we are bodily white . we dont claim those identities but we do like learning about those cultures so if you got any cool facts hit us up

the resident shawties

COHOSTS: kyle (irl), xingqiu (discord), dave (tungle)

FREQUENT FRONTERS: tao, shinobu, yoimiya, layla / samira, lynette

OTHER SHAWTIES: bo, john, rose, jade, jane, dirk, jake, luke, aradia, sollux, karkat, feferi, lumine, barbara, keqing, xinyan, kokomi, bronya

LITTLE BITCHES: dimple (<- what we named our intrusive thoughts demon)

click the read more for more info on us individually OK EPIC BYEEEE

KYLE 💤 - Our core Guy. The OG. He / him, trans, aroace. Handles IRL stuff. Professional Sleeper. We are all facets of this guy including This Guy

DAVE 🎧 - @aroacedavestrider and @incorrect-hs-quotes (mod dave). he / him aroace homestuck gang. yallready know whats goin on. cohost

QIU 🌊 - @alegendofsword and @blueboy-mlm. He / him, gay ace, trans. Genshin Gang. Cohost. Name is pronounced “CHYO”. Writer and reader.

BO 📺 - @nosignal-standby. he / it. aroace. nonhuman static entity. voidsona. shoutout to deltaverse. probably a trauma holder.

JADE 🌱 - @gardeniagnostic. she / they demigirl! polyam pan, homestuck gang :) talk to me about hawai’ian culture and green magic!!!

LAYLA / SAMIRA 🌟 - @fantastical-eveningstar. she / her for both of us, two-person subsystem. demiaroace and maybe bi about it ?? genshin gang. astrology nerd

JOHN 👻 - he / him, biro ace, homestuck gang. resident Dissociator™. i’m learning spanish and greek! june egberts can interact if comfortable. :)

ROSE 🐙 - She / It. Demi, sapphic. Bi lesbian, don’t care to figure out which I am specifically. Homestuck gang. Talk to me about crystal magic.

JANE 🎂 - She / He? Bi, some kind of gender going on. Homestuck gang. Not frequently near pilot. Sorry :B

DIRK 🔥 - He / him. Gay, aro, left arm amputee in headspace. Rewatching MLP. Rarity is funnier than I remember. Homestuck Gang.

JAKE 💀 - He / they demiboy quoi-aro and bi! Homestuck gang. Absolutely talk to me about crazy ancient relics and sites. Australian not british!

LUKE 🐦‍⬛ - he / him and bi. kind of a… demonstuck dave…? fucked up davesprite?? idk im borderline an oc at this point. part time protector

ARADIA ♈️ - she / they n0nbinary thang. ar0ace. autistic 0n the beat ab0ut cryptids and urban legends 0u0. h0mestuck gang. name is pr0n0unced “uh-RAY-dee-uh”

SOLLUX ♊️ - he / hiim, biiro ace. iidk much el2e ii ju2t work here. ii play a lot of miinecraft. home2tuck gang

KARKAT ♋️ - HE / HIM, GREY-ARO, PAN AND ACE. VITILIGO NATION RISE UP. FREQUENT FRONTER. HOMESTUCK GANG.

FEFERI ♓️ - S)(e / )(er and pan! Name is pronounced “F-EF-furry”. )(omestuck Gang 38) !! I’m a trauma )(older, actually!

LUMINE ✨ - She / her, lesbian. Genshin Gang, kind of a… splice between Traveler and Abyss Lumine? I was both. I am both. Where is Aether

BARBARA 🎶 - she / her and bi ^^ genshin gang. i love to sing and make playlists for my headmates! kind of a… religious trauma processor??

XINYAN 🎸 - she / they ace lesbian and im the proud token punk rock headmate WOOO!!! genshin gang. send me cool music!! names pronounced “SHIN-yan”

TAO ⚰️ - she / they aroace :) genshin gang ! i collect books full of ghost stories so tell me some if you dare~

KEQING 💫 - She / her, lesbian. Genshin gang. Name is pronounced “KUH-ching”, but I also go by Kit. Let’s call me the… “manifestation of productivity”.

SHINOBU 🗡️ - she / he. not picky. aroace, genshin gang. i also go by “shoby”. protector.

KOKOMI 🐟 - She / her lesbian and Genshin Gang! Qiu and I read a lot of books together and I would be very happy to hear recommendations :)

YOIMIYA 🎆 - she / her demi lesbian genshin gaaaang nice to meet you!!! i’m a… motivator?? lmao?? yeah!!

LYNETTE 🎩 - She / her aroace. Genshin Gang. Call me Nette please. Not much of a talker

BRONYA 🐰 - She / her unsure of what the Bronya is. Bronya likes Seele. The Bronya is newest member of system and does not know what she likes yet. Only Honkai subject as far as the Bronya knows.

DIMPLE - this is our resident “and a half”. hes like our intrusive thoughts brain demon and we all hate him so we made him look like dimple mp100 and we call him shit like “scringle” and “bunkle” and “grinkle”. hes not allowed to talk cause he sucks but if he was wed make him use this 👹 ok epic

THANKS FOR READING THAT WAS MAD LONG ok. 👍

#system intro #intro post #plural system #long post #what else do we tag this as

[matadorofheart]

i think. one of the reasons ppl hate aros so much (and aces as an extension, but these thoughts came from seeing arophobia) is because a lot of allo people who do things the traditional way suffer so much for the sake of their romantic relationships, and they’re just... taught to be okay with that. like that’s Normal. “i hate my wife” jokes, “my boyfriend won’t let me do this,” “marriage is the end of your life,” etc. looking at these sorts of relationships from the outside, it seems like people are miserable and yet they don’t question it.

the default expectation is to pick one person to commit to for as long as you live, so a lot of people settle for someone they’re not 100% happy with, and they end up hating their spouse or they just get divorced and look for another person to fill some kind of void they think is there. and it seems like most people will just pick one person kinda early on in life since they’re afraid of being single or “dying alone“ or whatever. there’s this immense pressure to “settle down“ before everyone else has been claimed by a romantic partner, and if you don’t, people see that as a failure.

so when someone takes a step outside that default expectation and coins a term for it (aros, aces, polyam people, relationship anarchists, etc) people feel threatened. they go through So Much in order to find that one perfect romantic partner, and other people are out here having different types of fulfilling relationships without following the formula they’ve been taught all their life.

i think it’s the same with other types of queerness honestly. trans & nonbinary people break the Gender Rules set by society, so people get upset and yell “you can’t do that!“ bi/pan/etc people experience attraction to more than one gender, whereas you’re “supposed“ to be attracted to only one, so people think mspec people are a threat to them somehow. they think they need to point and laugh and shame these people for breaking tradition, so they can keep their fragile status quo.

i want to clarify that i am NOT saying aro/ace/polyam/RA people are inherently “better” for their identities or relationship styles. i’m not saying romantic relationships = suffering or that people can’t have healthy & fulfilling monogamous relationships.

i’m saying the widely-accepted culture around monogamy & romantic relationships in general is incredibly toxic. deconstructing these ideas of what we “should“ be doing in our relationships would benefit everyone, whether you’re queer or not. if you’re miserable in a committed relationship, you shouldn’t have to stay in it just because society tells you you’re worthless if you don’t have one. and if someone doesn’t feel a certain type of attraction or chooses not to engage in traditional relationships, they don’t deserve to be mocked and bullied for it.

if you have a fulfilling romantic relationship, or you want to seek one out, i’m so happy for you! this post is not an attack on you. it’s for people who are assholes to anyone who doesn’t follow tradition.

#terrified to tag this but lol #arophobia #aphobia #relationship anarchy #toxic monogamy #ness talks

[romo-aro-culture-is]

Cupioromantic polyam culture is planning out a scenario in your head where you get both a husband and a wife and adopt several children

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#cupioromantic culture #cupioromantic polyam culture #romo aro culture

[qpr-culture-is]

Qpr culture is getting a qpc(queer platonic crush) on one of your mutually aro friends, but then figuring out they already have a qpr... (This totally didn't happen to me recently)

perhaps if they're interested and wouldn't mind you could suggest a polyaffectionate relationship. if you weren't already aware of what it means, it's just a term for a polyam qpr

#qpr culture is #queer platonic love #queer platonic partner #queer platonic relationship #queerplatonic #queer platonic attraction #qpr