#remove toxic people

[marlon19xx]

remove access.. some ppl need to feel ur absence.

#life quotes #life #quotes #everyday life #peaceofmind #emotional #life quotations #inspiring quotes #quotation #absence #remove toxic people #toxic people #remove access

[seulszn]

FROM ME TO YOU

Repeat after me: don’t let anybody Mentally abuse you. And don’t let anybody talk down about you or bring your confidence down. You are your own person nobody else is in control of your life. No matter who it is: your parents, teachers, friends, strangers on the street, and significant others.

They have no impact on your life whatsoever and if you feel like they do cut them off don’t let those people bring you down it’s your life do what you want and be who you want Ik I might be a stranger on the internet but I’m speaking from experience. If you feel like cutting your family off will bring you peace DO IT, if you have to cut off your friends DO IT don’t let anyone or anybody stop you from achieving that life you want. Again it’s your life nobody else don’t feel like you have to change something because someone doesn’t like it and don’t compare yourself to others either.

I know it’s a hard world out there but trust me it’s gonna get better if you drop all of those toxic things and people from your life. I mean it and I love you even if you don’t feel like it. If you ever wanna talk my dms are always opened or you can message me on Instagram on my backup and main account: i6milfs & jolyneswif3

- MJ <3

#bellaxellie #ellie williams #the last of us #tlou2 #abby anderson #ellie tlou #☆— mj speaks #you got this #remove those toxic people #K-pop #black tumblr #i love you #bella ramsey x reader #abby anderson x reader #ellie williams x reader #motivation

[ace-milo-thatch]

this frame is so funny to me

#atlantis the lost empire #please don't misinterpret this as a ship thing btw #i really don't like when people ship them together #for reasons that should be obvious if you've seen the movie #aus are no bueno too cus if you have to rewrite an entire character to remove the toxicity make your own ocs at that point

[solarisgod]

I want to put a gentle reminder here that it's usually not a personal case when we remove people from our Discord. If we find there's a clear end of the conversation and no exchanges were made since for a bit, we'd remove at some point as we do tend to clean our list to keep our space small. We have emotional deattachment and ongoing amnesia, so it's very easy for especially me to feel disconnected or overwhelmed in general / with all platforms we're on. That's why we don't often readily hand out our Discord until we chat occasionally and our connection has been building ( unless for rare occasions like going over commissions or having very serious discussions ) because I do feel bad removing people, but if nothing is happening usually for a while, then we do have to remove at some point to have a comfortable space for ourselves. But we're always open for refriends on Discord unless we make a post otherwise to have some space.

#𓁹 ༑ ࿐ྂ ⩇⩇ : ⩇⩇ ⚠︎ [ 𝙴𝚇𝙸(𝚂)𝚃 : 𝙶𝙾𝙳 ] * ‹ PSA . › #[ I just saw something that make me feel really bad and like. ] #[ I'd never remove people from the list as expecting activity or replies or any from another ] #[ I've dealt with so much toxic bullshit from a former close friend across February who made me really anxious and ment. unwell ] #[ along with my stalker harassing me across the same month ] #[ and I really don't need to deal with more inconvenience on here especially if it's for something that shouldn't be taken personally ] #[ if I don't have one on Discord but we're still mutuals on here ; I still see them as a mutual and real human ; never less ] #[ just wanna put a gentle reminder out there. thank you for reading. ♡ ]

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

Sorry to be a hater but this is how I’ve been feeling recently

#listen. #I love fluff #fluff is great #but does EVERY relationship have to be fluff and only fluff #I’ve noticed in the past that fandoms fandoms tend to #like #stray away from any conflict between characters they ship that doesn’t end in ‘omg you were right and I was so wrong 🥺’ #‘no I was wrong and I’m so sorry 😖😖😖’ #‘okay let’s agree to never fight again and be healthy and happy forever 🥹’ #and I’m more into complex not quite a perfect fit relationships right now #ones where they struggle to stay together #or where they both like each other but don’t get together for reasons OTHER than miscommunication #ones where they know they love each other but there’s obstacles #or where they’re both abusive shits #or where they’re both shitty people and they fit like a glove #I want more than just ‘luv you bby’ ‘awww me too’ ‘let’s go pet puppies together’ #like sometimes I find two characters and I’m like ‘YES! something refreshing! let me find more content’ #only to find all the fandom flanderized the characters #especially with the more toxic ones #it’s like. they’re shitty people but the fandom can’t explore that so they just remove everything that made them interesting #and its like ‘…why are you using *these* characters to do this?’ #there’s every other character in the world to be sweet and cutesy #I’m hyperfixate on *this* dynamic #not the same dynamic every other relationship before it had #it’s like copy paste characterization regardless of if it makes sense #anyway #sorry for being a bitch about this but whatever :/ #personal post

[bluehairperson]

Imagine MC getting into an argument with Asra regarding him always being so secretive and fickle, and starting to descend more and more into paranoia and an identity crisis, wondering if what he says is even reliable at all.

Asra could pretty much just make up any fact about MC, even basic things like their name, age and birthday, and because of their amnesia MC would just have to take them as face value without having any way to disprove them if they were false. Asra could have made up who they are entirely.

#I'm a HUGE fan of Asra being kind of shitty person sometimes BUT #I was thinking of an angsty val x mc scenario where val is extremely manipulative and toxic before his redemption #so when he accepts feeling interested in mc instead of keeping them at a distance by being an asshole like always he starts to try to #distance them from people he deems as unworthy or not good enough #aka asra #which is pretty easy to do since mc is always around the castle extremely overwhelmed with everything going on and asra is god knows where #he just needs to be a little nice and listen which is what he fakes every single day for work anyway #but yeah apart from this I ALSO like the idea of Asra being kinda toxic too and try to fix certain parts of mc #like my mc specifically used to work with people involved in criminal activitied before dying #asra doesn't know the details but never liked it #so when mc comes back to life and asks him if they had any other friends or colleagues around town asra straight up says #no only me sorry :))) #he doesn't do it maliciously he's trying to protect them but he's still manipulative and removing their ability to choose by themselves #so yeah all of this because I was thinking of my james having an existential crisis about not knowing anything about themselves that wasn't #told to them by asra #and val being oh you're feeling vulnerable? that's crazy haha tell me more <3 #disgustingly toxic boyfriend val my beloved #not art #the arcana #long post ? #kinda for the tags

[twilight-deviant]

Modern fandom is a place where you can nicely ask people not to put character hate in the character tag or on a post you made with the character, and they just block you.

#Haters will say “No it's literally impossible for me to not be rude in fandom. I'd rather remove people trying to ruin my fun.” #I think a lot of people forget that fandom is a community #And putting negativity into that community (tagging it to ENSURE others see it) is toxic #People who LIKE the character TRACK THEIR TAG #People who like the character make content with that character #They don't want to constantly avoid character hate #If you have something negative to say about a character THAT'S FINE #It's your blog! #I myself hate a fan favorite #But the last thing I would do is make a post tagging that character or reblog a post with them spewing my unsolicited opinion on it #People need to think “If this were irl‚ would I hate on this character right in front of someone wearing a t-shirt with their face?” #Just because you're on the anonymous internet doesn't mean you have to abandon courtesy #Think before you post please #Fandom

[tddyhyck]

i don’t even have anything to say besides sm is a company that overpromises and consistently under delivers

#tddyhyck #tddyhyck talks too much #don’t even get me started on the rookies #thinking about hina and koeun and lami #sm is like a toxic relationship i’m constantly disappointed but the artists are too good #also removing two japanese members from the predebut lineup for the JAPAN unit is crazy smnbg better be so good people cry

[wintersovereign]

Hans isn’t a sociopath

Because this is a fictional character a comprehensive evaluation cannot be done; however,  without having completed one you can see there are no signs of sociopathic traits.

In chapter two of A Frozen Heart Hans shows that he is able to effectively empathize with others – he stated that he feels badly that his brother Caleb treats his wife so poorly and he ponders having a relationship with her because he can relate to not fitting into the Westergaard family. Later, in chapter five, he expresses the important of his bond with his brother Lars who he has maintained a positive relationship with and seeks out when he is in need of interaction or comfort.

Hans shows on both occasions the ability to choose whom he will bond with, which those with sociopathic traits struggle to do.

It should also be taken into consideration that through  Frozen Hans’ course of action changes. His plan to court Elsa is altered when he meets Anna and realizes Elsa may be preferable but she is not accessible, unlike Anna. From A Frozen Heart we know overthrowing either sister wasn’t his original course of action, he sought only to escape the isles and marriage would provide that. When Anna’s heart is frozen Hans ( knowing that because he struggles to form romantic attachments and believes love is something foolish and weak) leaves her for dead because there is nothing that can be done to save her anyway  – he chooses to attach himself to Arendelle because they need him and above all Hans wants to be needed on a larger scale – with Anna as acting regent her death is needed to make him prince regent and grants the legal right to kill Elsa and end her curse.  All of which are last minute decisions, as he had no way of knowing Anna would be hurt in the first place. He was, until that moment, content to marry Anna.

It’s important to note that regicide is not an uncommon practice, while abhorrent, it was widespread and in that respect not abnormal on Hans’ part. We need to look no further than the Tudor Dynasty and the War of the roses for further evidence of this.  

Summary And Conclusions

Based on the results of my own evaluation of canon history and childhood in both Frozen and excerpts of A Frozen Heart, Hans Westergaard meets the criteria for the following diagnosis according to the DSM – IV TR:

Axis I

313.89 Reactive Attachment Disorder

309.81 Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Axis II

301.82 Avoidant Personality Disorder

Axis III

Non-Contributory

Axis IV

Childhood abuse, childhood neglect, discord with parents and siblings, estrangement from family.

Axis V GAF = 55

#frozen #i will die on this hill #stop using terms you do not understand #it is damaging to people who actually have personality disorders #it belittles them #it removes their agency #it is toxic behavior #dastardly prince ( prince hans)

[thornshadowwolf]

DAN AND PHIL RETURN????????

#idk what I'm gonna do abt this /srs #like. I thought their videos were fun but that was 5 years ago so who knows about if I still will #and y'know obviously toxic community and annoying fans. #whatever I'll watch some and make a decision based on that I guess. #idc if they're cringe #well I mean. idc if it's cringe to watch them. #but Dan very much was leaning into that 'I'm a weirdo normal people scare me' thing that people who are only one degree removed from #normality do. so if he's leaned into that any more I don't think I'll be able to stand his 'I'm not a normie' normie ass. but I also know #he's been doing a lot of self-reflection and healing and whatever so maybe he'll be better now. #like he was so desperate to distance himself from who he used to be that he needed to make fun of everything he could have been perceived as #and make himself feel like he's better than people like that. everything from being 14 to being alternative to being a furry he needed to #make fun of all that cringe to prove that he wasn't that. y'know? he desperately wanted to be normal while still capitalizing on the 'I'm #different' thing. like his merch/clothing brand was all minimalist quirky-dark aesthetic for example. stuff you could 100% find in a big #chain store but seems just different enough for people who want to fit in but also look like they're cool and edgy and have unique opinions #like. he's the *woman in a pink tailored pantsuit* 'she's so butch!' of weird and alternative. #last I checked at least. like I said; I think he's been doing a lot of personal growth so maybe he's gotten more ok with actual weirdness. #man I didn't mean to rant in the tags here O_o sorry lol. #ThornShadow.said #(also for the record Phil is a little cringey but it's genuine so it's ok. as opposed to Dan trying to make everything 8 levels of ironic)

[yuridovewing]

The way some people talk about Vicky’s writing in comparison to the new team kinda reminds me of how Pokemon Anime fans miss 4kids a lot and swear that if the 4kids dub kept going then the anime would have been infinitely better, and then you see how much of a meme some parts of the original dub were plus different fandoms with 4kids dubs wanted their heads on a stick. And it’s like yeah comparatively the new team is worse and the ogs got a raw deal but lets not get ahead of ourselves- itd still kinda suck

#its definitely a meme and its funny to laugh at jelly donuts and bad sandwich edits but like. #4kids was like. objectively not good at adaptation. theyd keep out shit all the time like literally changing entire plotlines #and yeah the new voice team is comparatively worse but on my rewatch i noticed that the dub changes went WAY down #cause im also reading the bulbapedia page for each episode and they list the dub changes. and ofc they still change things #but they dont like remove and insert plotlines like 4kids did. for better or for worse #best i can think of is when they removed goh’s rillaboom parents talking in the dub removing the implication that theyre his parents #which like. his parents are dark skinned so honestly that was for the best #ok uh back to wc. yeah vicky is comparatively a better writer and its good to distinguish whats her vs the new team #but some people seem to think that vickys work was fantastic compared to this #and comparatively it is better but like… lets not forget the new team had to fix the insanely misogynistic ashfur plot from po3 and oots #lets not forget they had to point out that bumblestripe was a creep vs vicky saying ‘’uwu hes soft and dove is so cute with him’’ #shes the one who went on that whole rant about how the fandom forced her to kill ferncloud #hollyleafs entire deal was an ACCIDENT that she just admitted with her whole chest #she believed that pairings without constant toxic arguments and threats of cheating were boring and thats why she killed sorreltail #and did the unpleasant cloudbright vs daisy deal and spotted/fire/sand in firestars quest #i mean part of the reason bramble x squirrel is so toxic is bc she likes it like that and thinks its healthy wnd good #im pretty sure she was behind clear sky getting two fridged wives in a single book #shes better than the new team but like… is that much of a compliment

[theorderofthetriad]

again with this shit

Stop acting like Ed’s some unhinged abusive monster for the toe thing while trivializing Izzy’s bad choices in the same breath.

Stop acting like Izzy is some unhinged abusive monster for his litany of bad choices while trivializing Ed's violent actions in the same breath!

Everyday I get less and less tolerant of people acting like Ed overreacted and Izzy did absolutely nothing to justify what happened to him in episode 10.

Everyday I get less and less tolerant of people acting like cutting off someone's toe while they sleep and forcing them to eat it is ever a justified action!!!! It does not matter what the person you're doing it to did in order to "justify" having it happen to them, you are still maiming someone!

Besides “Ed’s becoming a different person so Izzy has the right to be upset” does not track

I don't think i have ever in my time scouring the Izzy Hands tag seen someone say that Izzy has the right to think or do the things he's done. I've seen people explain the why of those things, but never justifying the actions. Someone explaining why Izzy thinks his actions were the right choices in the moment is not the same as them actually saying that Izzy's actions were the right thing to do.

I think the reason people see these things as lesser than the choking or toe incident is because of the subconscious tendency we have to deemphasize emotional abuse.

I think the reason people are trying to justify Ed permanently maiming Izzy is because they subconsciously think that some abuse is okay and maybe even deserved if the victim is an unpleasant or "bad" person. I mean this person literally said "people acting like [...] Izzy did absolutely nothing to justify what happened to him." as though what Izzy did justified what happened.

The pain Ed caused Izzy was not worse or “disproportionate” to what Izzy caused Ed just because it was physical.

yeah actually it fucking was disproportionate. like, yeah, the things Izzy said were supremely shitty, but i've had people say things to me that were way worse and I'd chose the mental trauma of those cruel words over the physical trauma of getting my toe cut off (and the mental trauma of being forced to eat my own fucking toe) literally any goddamn day.

"just because it was physical" as though there's gonna be no mental element to that trauma. jfc

#if you see the post i'm addressing please just to the mature thing and block them and vague about it if you need to say something #it's not really productive to directly respond to these sort of posts #like TRUST ME i've been in the fandom discourse trenches since ATLA fandom's deviantart days #anyways this just in! nonconsensually cutting off someone's toes in a nonmedical context will never be okay! #and hell! nonconsensually cutting off someone's toes in a medical context is also morally iffy! #i genuinely find it disturbing how quick people are to excuse the maiming bc izzy is a shitty person #and the same people who excuse the maiming are also the ones vehemently condemning Izzy's actions as abusive #so premeditated physical violence in retaliation to emotional abuse is totally okay to these people?? #in some situations where the abuser has all the power i can understand that but Ed is on a ship full of guys who would happily kill Izzy #if ed needs izzy dealt with or removed from the situation he can do so in many ways that don't include forced auto-cannibalism #honestly if Ed had MURDERED Izzy in his sleep i woulda been fine with it #(i mean other than the part where Izzy is dead and Ed has a new murder to feel guilty about) #resorting to murder to get a toxic element out of your life is fine. maiming the toxic element and keeping it in your life is FUCKED UP #izzy hands #ofmd #santagno

[sunshineduo]

annoying how when the dteam spends like half an hour talking shit about scott and hbomb and hating on the event and everyone finds it hilarious but when the admins say 2 sentences about them it’s ‘how dare they’

like it’s always ‘it’s just for fun’ when glitches work in their favour or they cross team but the second something goes wrong for them everyone rushes to hate on the admins

yes bc its Hot when the dream team cheat to win. hope this helps

#like ? what do u want me to say #its hardly comparable since dream + sap actually issued an apology #and despite that apology people asked for them to be removed from the event + continue to call them toxic players over a year later #george never apologized for the silver shittalkers debacle but hes british so i guess that cancels out ! #but people want to turn this into dteam fans throwing a hissy fit over a glitch when the thing people are upset about is #the admins being assholes on stream + not taking any responsibility for it on the account that they were targeting dream/dream fans #likw it was just a loser moment for them. embarrassing #especially when THEY were the ones passing judgments on whether someone is professional or not 💀 #anyway dream saying that the h in hb*mb stands for hacking is still so funny to me i think about it everytim i see his name #thanks for the ask! #discourse

[deancaskiss]

you know you’re in a good place when you realize how happy and glad you are that certain people are no longer in your life

#someone people that i truly could not stand #someone people who were toxic and abusive #some people who treated me like crap #guess what? i dont need you #and i feel so much better having created a space for myself that youre not a part of #so much of my positive energy and happiness that i spread is because i am in a better place and no longer associate with those people #im a better person now and gosh that feels so good to say out loud #also curating my experience on tumblr and removing people has also made my time so much better here too

[peachsayshi]

My last week was kind of stressful, but I’m not carrying that energy over to this week. I’ve made some down time for myself, plus I’m adamant on sorting out my sleep because it has been terrible in the last couple of months. I’m considering taking melatonin to help, but my anxiety always makes me paranoid about it lol If any of you have tried/used melatonin, have you noticed it being beneficial for your sleep?  

On another note, I’m also excited about this week because I planned out a few dinner dates with my friends and we haven’t been able to catch up with each other in a while 🥺  I hope you’re all doing great too! ❤️

#once you remove toxic people from your life the energy is just different #peach says hi

[captain-lonagan]

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#ive made the mistake of thinking about the public reaction to buildmart once again #and the amount of bullshit noxcrew and scott go through for the fuckin existence of that game #like yeah there will always be people who dont enjoy it. there is no thing on this earth that everyone loves #but the environment around that game would get a Lot less toxic if Some Streamers would stop shouting to the heavens #and to their thousands of viewers about how its a garbage game and should be removed. #when you have that many viewers your own behavior does set a precedent for what is and isnt okay in the fandom. #its why saying 'i dont condone harassing' is useless if you single out antis and put them in a thousand-person spotlight #and i can think of two times off the top of my head that Certain Streamers have gotten their coworkers sent death threats #because of calling them cheaters or whatever while live #'you cant blame them for the fanbase' but i can blame them for encouraging that behavior with their actions #there will always be toxic people in fandoms and there is almost always some low level toxicity spread throughout #but there are ways as a cc you can mitigate that toxicity Or make it worse based on your own conduct #and Some Streamers consistently choose to make things worse #and they're either too incompetent to realize it or they know damn well they're doing it and just don't care (but will never admit it) #critical #cc critical #negative #discourse #and its wild because they do That as professionals but they're all lovely people off camera so its like. #youre clearly not a total piece of shit or everyone in the servers youre in would hate your guts #in their personal lives and to their Friends theyre lovely but as adult professionals with large audiences jesus christ #and because people in the audience know theyre cool theyre more likely to vouch for and defend their Not Good behavior and its uuuuugh