#soft style

[sheabutterrosesandeucalyptuspls]

Angwitacho & Armandatoungui

#style #styleinspo #feminine style #feminine #soft style #soft aesthetic

[ghostobo]

YIPPIE YIPPIE YIPPIE YIPPIE YIPPIE YIPPIE

#splatoon #splatoon oc #splatoon Art #splatoon fanart #splatoon 3 #splatoon 2 #splatoon 1 #splatoon style #splatoon girl #soft style #soft art style #I LOVE MY NEW OC YIPPIE

[bunbundango]

Soft Style commission of Ethel, with her DnD party represented by plushies of their FFXIV characters! The room is Ethel's that she decorated in game, it was a fun challenge marrying illustrative elements to it.

#Art #Finished Illustration #Soft Style #Mixed Background #Ethel #FFXIV #Final Fantasy XIV

[thelavendersunlight-64]

Neji vs Hinata!

#Hyuga clan #Soft style #Hyuga-style Taijutsu #Hyuga-Uzumaki clans #Naruto #Chunin exams arc #Neji vs Hinata #Hinata Hyuga-Uzumaki (kid) #Genin days #Neji Hyuga (Kid) #Team Gai #Team 8 #Byakugan users #Kekkei Genkai

[scifer]

Skye needed a nemesis

#melissa #furry art #digital art #cartoon art #soft style #ww2 #pilot #villain #cartoon

[nokingsonlyfooles]

Be Panda, Do Soft-Style

You know this guy?

I love this guy. Eh catches cannon balls and doesn't afraid of anything (it's an older meme, sir, but it checks out), except PTSD and low self-esteem. That's my Panda.

OK. So let's talk about negative emotions, pain, and crippling anxiety.

No! Ha-ha, well, okay, maybe a little.

Some of us like movies and TV because their sameness is comforting, they teach us valuable lessons, and they don't judge us if we have to go back and watch something again because we didn't understand - or just 'cos we like seeing it again, and we're having a parasocial relationship with everyone in it. And some of us need movies and TV for those same reasons. Maybe a little more, maybe a little less, but real-life people aren't going to be patient enough to help us learn the hard stuff, and we know that, so we stick with movies and TV. Society tends to label people like that, people like me, as autistic. Not always, but it's getting better at catching and labelling the behaviour.

So when I need help with a big concept, something super hard, I go running to movies, TV, and stories or metaphors of all kinds. That's the easiest way for me to learn and understand, but most of us like learning that way. At least a little.

So, let's talk about my Panda pal's kung fu.

Po fights dragon style, which is a soft style. Soft styles are more about seeing where the energy is coming from and redirecting it. Tigress, who is hard-style to her core, will punch a brick wall until she busts right through it. Po will just go, "Hey, there's a door! You guys? Door over here!" walk through, and maybe poke his head back out and ask, "You need anything while I'm in here? Okay. Cool." Soft style requires you to slow down enough, and be smart and patient enough, to find that door.

All kung fu is valid!

(I love you, Tigress! You can punch me anytime!)

But not all kung fu is appropriate for every situation. You punch through a cannonball, it explodes, and you get very badly injured or die.

I see a lot of stuff on Tumblr about people trying to punch through their pain, anxiety, and negative feelings. I don't like you, anxiety. I don't like you, depression. I don't need you. You're not real. You're a little bitch. I will defeat you. I will get better and better at defeating you, and you will go away FOREVER! DIEEEE!

It's my first instinct too! I don't want these things, they are hurting me, I want them to go away. If I were strong, I could just break through. Normal people break through these things like they're nothing (*bing!* I've just added another layer of wall, "I'm broken, I'm weak," to what I've already been failing to punch through). If I just keep pushing (adding more layers to the wall every time my punch fails to defeat it) I will get stronger, and better, and I will feel nothing!

"Is that what you want?" Oogway might say to Shifu, his student who insists on learning (and teaching) everything the hard way. "To feel nothing? That sounds rather sad to me."

"No! I want to get rid of these bad feelings so I can make good ones! I want to feel happy, and loved, and secure! I want self-confidence!"

"My poor friend is still holding a peach," the turtle might say, "and trying to force it to become an apple. And then, when he has done the impossible, he thinks he may deserve self-confidence."

"I can throw this peach at the wall, and destroy it, and go find an apple!"

The turtle laughs. "Then you will have made quite a mess! And when you return with your apple, you may find the peach pit you have abandoned has grown into another tree, with many more peaches for you to throw. But perhaps there is a better way." And he would pick a peach, and eat it, like turtles do, slowly, but without mercy, until it's all gone, even the pit, and walk away. "It was not bad, a little bitter. I think next, I will eat a dumpling."

My boi can catch a cannonball because he doesn't go after it hard-style. He takes it head-on, holds it in his furry little arms, and redirects it. He's not super great at getting it where he wants it to go, not at first, and it does set him on fire, but he's still alive!

"You know, this doesn't feel great, but dealing with your trauma and post-traumatic stress is a process! My fist hungers... for self-care! Ow!"

He does, eventually, get better at it (quickly, because we only have about 90 minutes to tell this story) and not every hit lands, but when one does, he holds it for a second, aims, and lets go. He does not punch, he does not try to stop that sucker cold, he holds it, deals with it, and lets it go. And once he figures out what he's doing, it doesn't hurt so bad anymore. He has fun. Po's not the Fun Police, if he's having fun, he accepts that too. Yep, okay, this could kill me, but it looks so cool! Let's have fun while it lasts! Ladies, gentlemen and others, I present: soft style.

Even if your brain behaves itself perfectly, in your life, you are gonna hit walls. Some of 'em won't slow you down. But when one does, the first thing you gotta do is acknowledge the fact that there is a WALL here. I know you don't want the wall, but there it is. It doesn't matter whether it belongs there, you don't have to justify it. Insulting it and interrogating it won't make it not be there. That irritating AOL voice yelling "You've got wall!" will not go away until you acknowledge receipt of your wall. Okay. I've got wall. I don't have to like it, but here it is. It is here.

(This is what they mean when they say "your emotions are valid," they're just insecure and trying to sound professional.)

Now what?

(OK, but assuming we don't have a flame-proof cartoon butt and a destiny.)

First: Don't punch the wall. Ah-ah-ah! Back up! How hard could it be to not do something? you think. This'll be easy! It's incredibly hard to comply with a negative. Don't read this. Yeah. Now don't think of a solid white zebra. ... ... ... Yeah. Ka-POW! Ouch! Why does that hurt? I'd better punch it again and figure it out!

Stop. Redirect. Since we're using a wall metaphor here, you gotta go sideways. (Indeed, given enough time, all things shall become crab.) If there were a door right in front of your face, you'd see it. Forwards is not an option right now. Be a good little crustacean and pick a new direction. This is also how one extricates one's self from a riptide - people die because it's counterintuitive. You want to be back on the beach, why would you swim towards more ocean? Attacking the obstacle at its strongest point will not get you where you wanna go any faster than looking for a way around. In fact, sometimes, it won't get you there at all.

Are you still, intermittently, thinking of a solid white zebra? Like, what would that even look like? How would I know it's not just a white horse? Well, if you weren't before you are now. OK. So every time that zebra comes back, think of a solid white peacock with a tragic backstory.

(I know he's not solid white, I'm just being silly. Forgive me.)

If you take a step towards the sexy (but still extremely evil and genocidal) peacock, you are moving sideways. If you keep it up, you'll get a little distance, a little perspective, and when you have enough room to stop banging your head like a stubborn moth, maybe you'll be able to see a door in the wall... Or some convenient fireworks, who knows? Maybe you do have a destiny. Then, you'll be able to go through.

...Though it may be a squeeze, and you might not end up exactly where you thought you wanted to go.

(Oh, no, stairs!)

Or maybe you'll end up someplace even better and more surprising.

"You just wanted to see the tournament? Well, now you're the Dragon Warrior. Have fun with that."

But, again, this is a skill that takes practice. Every time you manage to stop or head sideways instead of banging into the wall is a victory. Eventually, you will get better at it.

I mean, you know, I've heard.

(This is me. I wanna be Po, but it's just my nature to fight hard and make everything harder. Maybe one of these days I'll accept that, and stop fighting my nature and making it harder, but I wouldn't bet on it.)

Doctors and mental health professionals will tell you, most pain is anxiety. Part of that is the simple physical fact that when you tense up and struggle, it hurts more. Some things can be fought hard style, and some things can't. Slow down, take your time, feel the flow - and then you can decide whether to go with it, go against it, or go around.

For example, I was having serious anxiety because, right when I got up, a lot of things were going wrong, and needed attention, and I couldn't fix them all, or even one. So I let someone I trust give me a little help, and I wrote a little mental health article with my friend, the Panda. Maybe I'll find a way to go forward in a little while, or maybe not yet, but I already feel a little better.

(Even this guy smiles once in a blue moon.)

Thanks to the Kung Fu Panda Wiki for hosting most of the images I needed. And if you "like" this content, reblog it 'cos I'm trying to get known around here. That goes for just about everyone else, too.

#mental health #kung fu panda #po #shifu #oogway #tigress #soft style #emotions #your emotions are valid #and now you know why autistic people relate better to media than real life #i didn't catch that could you play it again?

[classyhideouthearth]

Training with Neji.

#Kid Hinata Uzumaki #Hyuga clan #Neji Hyuga (kid) #Genin days #Genins #Hyuga Taijutsu #Soft style #soft fist #Byakugan #Naruto

[jooelyn]

ٰ ࣪ 𔓕݂ ݁ ノ 𝐩𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐬 ˚.் (꜆˘͈ෆ˘͈꜀)

୨୧ 부드럽고 예쁘다 예쁘다 ୨୧

#ballerina #pink moodboard #soft style #papillons #coquette #moodboard #kpop moodboard #kpop girls #kpop bios #white moodboard #layouts

[anyhsalinas]

☁️🦄 (Instagram: anyhsalinas // original post)

#mine #makeup #maquiagem #delineado #eyeliner #graphic eyeliner #graphic liner #delineado gráfico #pastel #pastel makeup #soft #soft aesthetic #soft makeup #softcore #cute #makeup looks #soft style #pastel aesthetic #pastel colors #mkp

[kpop-bbg]

#ab6ix daehwi #lee daehwi #cardigan #denim shorts #pink #purple #ootd #soft style #unisex fashion #soft boys #peace sign #kpop boys #male kpop idols #retro kitchen #layering

[vanillacinnablog]

Pinterest ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

#🫖 #˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ #🖤 #˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆. #coquette #diverse coquette #models #black girl coquette #soft #soft style #soft girl #soft black girls

[sheabutterrosesandeucalyptuspls]

Camrihewie

#style #styleinspo #feminine style #feminine #braids #soft aesthetic #soft girl #soft style

[ssttrangr]

Portugal.

#ssttrangr #aesthetic #meus #details #statue #porcelain #fine porcelain #porcelain statue #antique #vintage #soft style #interior #design #home decor #interiors design #portugal #🇵🇹 #PT

[bunbundango]

Finished another commission for Kara, this time of Stefan Wolfgang von Mayar with his winter wolf companion! Was very fun to practice quadruped anatomy.

#Art #Finished Illustration #Soft Style #Stefan Wolfgang von Mayar #Winter Wolf #dungeons and dragons

[scifer]

An assortment of 1940s cartoon doggos

#Skye #pilot #digital art #Furry Art #cartoon art #soft style #melissa #alice #ww2

[geonbaeeee]

ep 3 pining pran aka my blueprint

#bad buddy series #badbuddy art #my art #patpran #pran parakul #this scene is my blueprint!! #soft style #digital art #bad buddy ep 3 #pining pran