#why can't we all just get along

[justapixelthing]

About the silly Zelink vs Malink wars

So I accidentally got involved in a shipping war on twitter earlier and got insulted and called delusional, etc. So I wanna make something clear:

I may forever be for Oot Zelink, BUT that does not mean that I hate you or wish anything bad on you for not liking what I do. Nintendo left that part vague for a reason. Yes, there are a lot of hints that make one thing likely, but to me the connection between them feels too strong to go another path and since it's not confirmed as canon, I see no reason why I couldn't go down the Zelink path. But this is my interpretation! It can be yours, but it doesn't have to be. It's a fictional story. There is absolutely *nothing* wrong with adding your own part to it in the way you want it to be. May it be Zelda, Malon, Ruto, Nabooru, Saria (? - if you can make it non-illegal) or some OC it's totally fine and valid! It's not like you're denying or rewriting world history. And even if Canon did confirm it as different, you could still make yourself an AU or whatever and it'd be valid.

Having different head canons, theories, AUs, ships, whatever is FINE. It's not just fine, it's BEAUTIFUL. It's an example of your creativity, interpreting what the source materials give you

But I think I understand now why some people are so intense about it. Let me explain it from my own perspective:

Oot was not just my first Zelda game but also one of my first video games. Princess Zelda made me realize a lot of things about myself (gender and other things). I wanted to be like her and I wanted my hero too. At the same time Link was like a childhood friend to me when I was a child myself. So I wanted to be the princess and I wanted the hero to be mine. No surpise that eventually the knight x princess trope became my favorite and with the reincarnation aspect even more. Now I have a man who treats me like and calls me his princess. He saved me from terrible points in my life. He is my hero. To me this strengthened my love for this kind of bond even more. It was personal

But I've heard from a friend that he had the same situation but with Link and Malon and that he found his Malon type of partner. So that made me realize that ships can be a deeply personal things for some, because it reflects yourself, your own wishes, your hopes. And seeing anything go against that makes you go into defensivee mode. It does for me but I try to be civil. I try to remind myself that nothing that others do can take away my own theory. And because of that, I wouldn't want to take it away from them either. It's what gives them comfort. Why take away their comfort? I don't want to do that and you shouldn't either. Let people have their things. It's possible to coexist and appreciate each others differences. I've seen it happen.

#shipping wars #shipping wars are stupid #zelink #malink #why can't we all just get along #loz oot #oot zelink

[ferdifz]

(Anti-)Virtue Signaling

today...

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...previously, in 2017:

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Related: by Kenny Thomas aka. Thomcat23: "Virtue's Signal (boundless joy)", Sept 19, 2023:

Thomas inspired by a previous conversation at an Instagram thread. Kenny's work is completely original though, far as I'm concerned.

#Virtue Signaling #Anti-Virtue Signaling #why can't we all just get along #internet anthropology #illustration #symbolic #fz_drawing

[mycomicbox]

Aro/ace folks... can we talk?

I love and support y'all unconditionally, and I vow to do so until the bitter end, but some of y'all have really mean jokes and it admittedly hurts a bit :(

Let me explain.

Of course, there is something to be said about the extreme societal prioritization of romance, sex, and marriage above all else

and aphobia is a real issue both in and out of the community

but as someone who's bi, it really does sting a little when I hear shit from aro/ace folks like "lol i'm so much better and smarter and prettier than all those dumb stinky allos who only think about sex and nothing else". It feels like friendly-fire.

Maybe I'm just soft...

#i talk #lgbtq #aromantic #asexual #why can't we all just get along

[moonlatias]

Remembering the time when I was visiting my hometown (many states away) several years ago, when my spouse and I stopped to visit my mom's grave, which is of course located in a Catholic cemetery. As we were peacefully sitting there, talking and reminiscing with one another, some woman literally hikes across the entirety of the cemetery and approaches us. She pretend-expresses her condolences, before handing us a brochure to visit their church if I needed guidance and comfort. (Some generic Protestant church of some sort.)

To people obviously in a Catholic cemetery, visiting a loved one who was Catholic. Legit preying on grieving people, in the hopes they are so sad and lost that they can be coerced into joining a different church.

We had to laugh when she left; it was so absurd and tacky and shameless.

At least it was nicer than the letter we randomly received right after my mom died, anonymously claiming she was going to hell because she was Catholic, and that it's a shame, but we could at least save ourselves by following the real word of Christ! (I assume some weirdo, going through obituaries to harass Catholic families?)

This is why, despite all the things I am rightfully angry at the Catholic church about, I will never trust Protestants. They have never been kind to me, even in times when I probably could have used their kindness the most. I don't hate them (I'm loathe to truly hate anyone), but let's just say they've never presented themselves very well to me.

#personal #ex catholic #ex christian #why can't we all just get along #apparently that's a big ask huh

[ex35life]

I have 2 kinds of favorite characters. One is the precious cinnamon roll I just want to hug and I could definitely be friends with in real life. The other is a traumatized, brooding bastard that I probably would have a harder time being friends with irl.

I fail to understand why so many fandoms fight over which one is better.

#fandom #character tropes #why can't we all just get along #im not going to mention who im taking about because i don't wanna start anything #why not both #good characters dont have to be likable #likable characters aren't necessarily poorly written

[magical-grrrl-mavis]

If you can accept women being “butch” and dressing and behaving more traditionally “manly” but you take issue with femboys you’re a hypocrite. 

#twitter on it's bullshit again #why can't we all just get along

[sordidamok]

It really is that fuckin' simple.

#why can't we be friends #music #youtube #70s music #sordidamok! #why can't we all just get along #Youtube

[phlegmpop]

Bipartisan like reaching across the aisle to feed the leopards little pieces of my face that I cut off myself (compromise).

#politics #us politics #why can't we all just get along #terrorists #senate

[fromtheseventhhell]

"It's normal for siblings to fight" Okay well it's not normal to be extremely classist and look down on your sister for being non-conforming. Or to go to the woman who ordered the death of your pet to tell her about your father's plans, when he specifically warned you against doing so, because you want to marry the boy you saw attack your sister and her friend (contributing partially to said father's death and your sister being unable to escape on the ship he chartered). Or to think of your sibling as unsatisfactory in comparison to another when you believe her to be dead. I notice that none of the "Sansa and Arya are going to reunite and instantly have no issues" crowd ever acknowledge any of this, which makes it seem like they don't actually believe what they say about their relationship being normal and easily reconciled. People wanting them to have no issues simply because they're siblings is another example of how fandom likes to flatten complex characters and relationships. They get reduced to being bickering siblings when their conflict runs deeper than that. If the author is telling you that they have "deep issues" to work out [X], I don't understand being so adamant about ignoring said issues. I also get the sense it's about ignoring the capacity for a certain character to be flawed, but that isn't going to change the fact that her "slip of the tongue" is very likely to be revealed and a source of further conflict 🤷🏾‍♀️

#arya stark #sansa stark #house stark #asoiaf #also if it's so normal for siblings to fight then why are you guys losing your minds over us theorizing they won't get along?? #the amount of condescending /that's just how siblings act/ takes I see 🙄 #sorry I guess? that we read the book and don't just delete parts of the story because we find it convenient? #it's not even like takes about them being enemies is widespread the most I see is that they aren't instantly bffs when they reunite 😭 #some people theorize they'll never be close but guess what? that's a completely fair and valid assumption based on their relationship! #personally I think they'll have a sweet reunion before the issues they have inevitably surface again because while they've been through #a lot they haven't fundamentally changed as people or the values they hold #and I think that's going to be very interesting to read about! #I can't figure out why people always take the most boring bland route for how things will play out #mostly because people seem to be unable to swallow the concept that Sansa is a flawed character who isn't perfectly sweet all the time #and the fact that their conflict is instigated by Sansa's classism #which is funny cause in the grand scheme of things her being mean to Arya is such a mild thing that opens the door to a ton of growth #never seen anybody but stansas equating her being a bully to her sister to her being evil/a villain #all we do is point out that it exists in the story...people in this fandom have no concept of nuance I stg 😭 #anyways they're both complex characters and their conflict is interesting and I hope we get to see how it plays out #cause it's definitely going to be better then that trash d&d came up with 🙏🏾

[mulletmitsuya]

random tokrev rant ahead !!

when i first started this blog it was going to be for random shitposts, groupchats once in a while, and mostly tokrev analysis but i was so scared of discourse that i just chose to do the funnier stuff 😭. when tokrev was at it's peak i'd be reading 20k+ words of analysis and it was so fun!! but i felt like i couldn't word what i wanted to say properly so that discouraged me but i wish i'd ignored that because there would have been at least one person who understood what i was saying yk?

#anyway #i used to have a tagging system but i forgot so that's my bad #and the thing about discourse is that you could give a person all the canonical facts of the story and they'll still find a way to pretend #that they're right and i personally cannot handle that #i take things very seriously and someone thinking they won a argument when they didn't would make me rip my hair out #so maybe my blog not going into that direction was good for my metal health #i feel like fandom interactions always end up as fights for some reason #why can't two opinions co-exist #let's discuss and have fun why we gotta tell each other to kill ourselves😭 #like i saw a very well thought out and written theory about sanzu having autism or something along those lines #and a comment was like “stop trying to give him excuses he's a terrible villain and he's just crazy blah blah blah” #whole time this person's an izana apologist #like😐 #i love both these characters but a lot of characters in tokrev are more complicated than just a “crazy villain” #and it seems like they understand that about izana so???? #ok i'm done now i hope you guys get what i mean #tokyo revengers #tokyo revengers manga #tokrev

[be-the-glenn-to-my-maggie]

So what houses to we think each Avatar character would have been in?

PLEASANT ASK, THANK U. Of course, a disclaimer, we love Harry Potter but we hate Joanne, trans rights are human rights and every other marginalized community she harmed deserves better and belong front and center in fantasy. Also she owes me so much personally for not being publicly a bigot before I got my Harry Potter tattoo.

Hmm.

-Jake Sully: this might be crazy but my man is a Hufflepuff. I'm telling you he was the most calm marine ever, he was the chillest of all chill, going with the fucking flow. I also think this man is ride or die loyal.

-Norm is also Hufflepuff, I KNOW I KNOW, "RAVENCLAW" you all scream. NORM IS THE MOST LOYAL BESTIE IN THE UNIVERSE.

-Tsu'tey and Max are both Ravenclaws. They are smarties with no social skills.

-Lo'ak and Spider are Gryffindors, but they can come to the Tiktok Slytherin parties. I was torn on Spider, I thought maybe Hufflepuff, but no. That man is dumb and stupid and brave as well.

-Ao'nung is also a Gryffindor but he is NOT invited to the Tiktok Slytherin parties.

-Neteyam is a Slytherin I don't take any criticism.

-Tuk is also a Gryffindor. We've all accepted like, jock Tuk into our worlds.

-Kiri was hard for me cause I am not Luna Lovegood-ing her. I am between Gryffindor and Slytherin tbh. I think Slytherin tbh. Neteyam is ambition and Kiri is cunning.

-A nice Sully family split. Spider gets adopted when they bring him home the very first Christmas break instead of letting him stay at Hogwarts and then the Gryffindors have a fighting chance.

-Neytiri is also a Slytherin (Neteyam is a mama's boy) and the war is hardcore for where Tuk will end up. Jake is chilling in his Hufflepuff corner like begging everyone to chill out but also subtly stoking the fire.

-Obv Tsireya is a Hufflepuff lets not play games here.

-Ronal is also a Slytherin and Tonowari is also a Hufflepuff. Them and Jeytiri. Their SLYTHERIN/HUFFLEPUFF COUPLE VIBES.

-Uhhh, Mo'at is a Ravenclaw.

-Quaritch is a squib.

#jake sully throwing hands in the halls of hogwarts: WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG #lo'ak throwing hands in the halls of hogwarts: I'LL BEAT YOUR ASS UNTIL YOU GET ALONG #ao'nung dejectedly unable to find the slytherin parties until he starts dating neteyam #oh i am a slytherin if you were wondering #jake sully #norm spellman #tsu'tey #max patel #lo'ak sully #miles spider socorro #spider socorro #spider sully #ao'nung #neteyam #tuktirey sully #kiri sully #neytiri sully #tsireya #ronal #tonowari #mo'at #miles quaritch #avatar #avatar the way of water #james cameron avatar #hp au #melissa's asks #melissa on avatar (cameron) #we are mindmelding get in

[ectonurites]

SUPER DARK TIMES (2017) DIR. KEVIN PHILLIPS

#super dark times #zach taylor #allison bannister #sam edits #if you listen closely you can hear the sound of both mine and Allison's hearts breaking! <3 #ok but fr: i know this is gifs. so no sound. but the WAY he DELIVERS the 'you've got a bump on your head' line makes me NUTS #it's so soft. it's so fond. it's... it's a punch in the fucking gut. he likes her *so much* but he *can't let himself have this nice #thing with her* because he's *being eaten alive by guilt he can't accept & won't let himself be happy because of it* and SHE DOESN'T KNOW! #like the thing. the thing is. when you watch SDT you're along the ride with Zach and his POV of everything. despite the obvious paranoia #& guilt warping his perspective/influencing his behavior���we can see where that's all coming from. we understand the motivations #behind the actions he takes. but ALLISON? Allison has no fucking clue what's going on! from Allison's perspective... Zach is this guy she's #known for a while (like they make a point of *telling us* in one of the earliest scenes that Zach feels weird talking about her in the #detached way they may talk abt other people in their grade they barely know—because it's *different* since he and Josh *actually know her* #plus in the script [and it STILL COUNTS TO ME because she *starts* saying the line but just gets cut off by Dennis] Allison brings #up Zach & Josh having had a silly handshake since 7th grade ['oh god that used to make me pee!' <- girl why would u say that to him] #so it's like... these are kids who've known each other for years!) and he's got this obvious fucking crush on her (the hallway scene where #he is. blatantly staring and she catches him for a second) and the moment she decides to actually start pursuing him because SHE'S #got a crush on HIM too... he starts pulling away and acting erratic and sending her the most mixed signals in the fucking world. #and sheee THINKSSS ITS HERRR FAULT!!!!!!!! like. listen. this scene i giffed above? this is what she's fucking talking about later #when she jokes about not wanting to 'scare him off again'. like sure she says it like a joke but... uhm. i simply think there's #a certain amount of truth to it too—because he DID leave the party visibly freaked out! and i think it'd be perfectly believable for her #to think that it was at least partially HER pushing too hard that was causing him to withdraw/pull away from her. plus she blatantly says #she thinks she's the reason Josh & Zach are fighting. like. this poor girl is on the outskirts of a tragedy she'll probably NEVER know the #details of but she's seeing firsthand the impact it's having on Zach and... blaming herself... that's so fucking heartbreaking

[ereborne]

Song of the Day: February 23

“Inkpot Gods” by The Amazing Devil

#song of the day #'if I don't make it back from where I've gone / just know I loved you all along' #I'm setting up my queue for a more proper recommendation tomorrow but I've been rereading 'shoulder the sky' by Night_Fury #the whole series draws from various Amazing Devil lines for titles and such #'back then I was dauntless' is my favorite reworking of the Melidaan arc I've ever seen absolutely anywhere #and the title is a line from my favorite Amazing Devil song 'The Calling' but 'Inkpot Gods' is used to stunning effect in-story #and the beautiful refrain from the end of the song is playing in my head now as I keep going into the series #today was a deeply unpleasant day: the inevitable finally happened and Duncan cut himself doing his mudlarking #we'd been trying to schedule a preventative tetanus shot but several times we've gone in for the properly scheduled shot #and found out that they didn't actually have one in stock. unspeakably frustrating #and today we ran out of time for a preventative one. I woke up #(actually I woke up for work as he was going out for his walk but I got a migraine halfway through my morning meeting--no good-- #and took the rest of the day off--turns out to have been a very good thing--and went back to sleep. so I woke up the second time) #to Duncan coming back from his walk with a sliced finger and the grody plastic-and-tin swan that had done the slicing #(picture of said swan under the cut because why not. it does look neat. can't see the sharp edge in the pic though it's underneath) #and so then we called the pharmacy and got the same automated 'of course you can have a tetanus shot' as ever so we made an appointment #and we got there and they did actually have a shot in stock this time! except that they weren't able to administer it #because now he's post-exposure that's a different shot and they aren't allowed. so we had to go to the urgent care instead #all told we spent about four hours out of the house on this mission but Duncan did get his shot and some bonus antibiotic goo for the cut #and it was worth it but also bleeeeeeegh it was miserable. which is where my recommendations do come in #when I tell y'all that I spent today reading Night_Fury's fics and also looking at valiants' CoD art and it saved me #whooo I mean it. being simultaneously stressed + bored is the nightmare state for me and instead I had wonderful things in my phone

[muffinlance]

In ftakb is Aaron being ace ever going to be brought up in canon (not necessarily the word but just showing he's not into relationships that way)? I know he has that one line where he mentions Rose's virtue being safe with him and that you enjoy mentioning things in a small way early on and come back and flesh it out later so this is just idle curiosity. Also (and don't worry about answering if you don't want to I understand you've been very busy lol) where's the book in terms of being published? Like what's the current timetable if you don't mind me asking. Sorry for all the questions and hope you've been having a good day <3

Trivia! In the first book it's not explicit because I didn't know what an ace was then.

Second book gets some much more explicit lines, especially as Aaron looks at the family tree and goes "how hard was it for people to just... not have sex with each other's spouses? Was that not an option they considered?"

Re publishing timeline: waiting on audiobook to publish all versions at once! ...I should poke my publisher about that, see if there's a more concrete date now that we've got the reader lined up...

#Aaron: and if you HAD to have sex why didn't you just expand the polycule #The Former King: that's what I said #The Duke: ...Mistakes were made #The Lady: so was revenge sex #Aaron is just an aro-ace protagonist trying so hard to ignore the squishy bits that led to the current plot #to the cadence of Can't We All Just Get Along: Can't We All Just Not Have Sex? #Fox's Tongue and Kirin's Bone #original fiction

[youssefguedira]

the problem with me and nolan is that i ALMOST love a lot of his movies (that ive seen) except in almost every one there's 1 glaring aspect that i hate (it's usually misogyny) that makes it hard to like the rest of the movie

#i mean. oppenheimer is an outlier bc there's several aspects i dont like abt that one #interstellar? misogyny. inception? only one i don't have major issues with #misogyny still there but at least theres less than fuckin. interstellar #dont get me wrong i like interstellar otherwise but like. #both it and oppenheimer have a problem of the film TELLING us that the women in it are super smart and influential! but in the film itself #they never get to show that like. when does murphy do anything really. when does anne hathaway's character do anything except #hinder the mission because of ~emotions~ why is the main guy always right even though hes not always the most qualified person in the room #why does kitty oppenheimer say ive been upgraded to housewife! sarcastically only to be cast right back into that role by the film #no matter how good emily blunt may be she can't save that she has 1 good scene and it's not that long #dont even get me started on jean tatlock in that film ill start biting. #i KNOW that parts of oppenheimer are supposed to be subjective but do we ever see those women in the ~objective~ section? no #and if that's your only portrayal of these women with only vague indicators that there might be something else going on i'm not letting it #go. excuse for writing them badly #ANYWAY #neon has thoughts #movie tag #i think nolan and i just don't get along. i think i need to accept this and move on with my life but unfortunately it's really frustrating. #all his stuff is ALMOST good. and then

[nostalgia-tblr]

If I could do Fics With A Plot I'd probably attempt An AU Where Lauffey Dies And Odin Goes "Oh Hey, Frost Dudes, I Had Your Heir All Along :D He's Urs Now :D" Except Because This Is A Shit Plan It Does Not Go At All Well. Because it does bother me. Because I worry too much about fictional monarchies having the 'wrong' rules. D:

#this of course means odin has also has to tell his son “btw we lied to you. GUESS WHAT THO!! I GOT U A JOB!!” #and he sends Thor along because a) characters need other characters to talk to and b) he does in fact expect trouble #and I reckon after some sort of tense Confrontation about how if Lauffey wanted rid of his son he should have the guts to make sure he died #instead of leaving it to fate like a COWARD #Loki would - by power of poshness alone - manage to convince one or two Jotuns that he does indeed count as the heir #meanwhile: existential crisis D: D: D: #but hey free kingdom nothing to sneeze at eh? let's go! we can do this! #except (obviously) no. you can't. there is NO WAY there's nobody out there with a counterclaim. #and if your WORST ENEMY raised your new king (who has a questionable claim) you absolutely manage to find a third cousin from somewhere far #off who also has a shaky claim but - here's the thing - he's not an obvious attempt to impose Odin's puppet on your realm #and then Plot would unfold which is why i cant write this despite my Weird Niche Interests being aroused (NOT LIKE THAT) by this idea #also i would answer the “was there no mother involved? did she not mind the infanticide thing?” (could go either way on that really) #essentially Loki does have Scheming Politician energy but sometimes the task really is just impossible #but perhaps surprisingly the ending is a heartwarming reunion and maybe - MAYBE - some sort of vague apology #because that really was The Worst Fucking Plan Of All Time #okay someone stop me making a new file (you-and-whose-army.rtf) and writing the extensive notes i've now got in my head D: #(but an AU so not really!) #do you want a civil war on jotunheim because this is how you get a civil war on jotunheim #...oh no DO you want a civil war on jotunheim?! D: D: was THAT the plan??? D: D: #i'd totally throw in an Ambitious Consort Queen because those are my jam <3 <3 <3 #fic-related #thor movies