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Step one: Follow #ace positivity tag (and #aro positivity)

Hate that the aro and ace tags are 99% discorse and people defending their right to exist, like it sucks and it's not the aspec people's fault, really. I just want to find community, y'know?

#aromantic #asexual #aroace

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Good analogy

Hello! I'm new to this term which is called "grey aroace" What's the difference between grey aroace and aroace?

okkk i am NO expert on aro identities because i just figured out i was aromantic like..... a few weeks ago.......... but "grey" attraction is when it's not completely there, but it's also not entirely absent. the grey area, hence the term.

think of someone being offered a slice of watermelon. someone who DOES feel romantic and/or sexual attraction would gladly eat it, while someone who doesn't would decline. but a greyro/ace person would be like "eh. maybe. i mean, if nobody else wants it, then sure, but y'know i can live without it." impartial. (and i could get in to the differences between sex favourable aces, romance favourable aros, being alloaro or alloace, but that's not the question so i'm moving on)

but that's the gist of it. i might've gotten it wrong since i'm not grey aro/ace so if there's someone who is, then feel free to correct me or add on!

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #greyromantic #grey asexual #grey aromantic #grey aroace #greyroace

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When the allistics use “love” to implicitly and habitually mean “romantic love” and literalistic phrasing clashes and you really wish English didn’t have such a dearth of words to express varying affections

Bottomline is – of course I want to be loved. Luckily for me, I AM loved, too. So don't you go worrying about me "not being loved".

#storge #agape #eros #greek language #asexual #aromantic #aroace #aspec

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This is such an allistic thing.

Like obviously, they’re using words that typically go along with a feeling (bewilderment) but don’t mean it literally.

If OP posting this screenshot isn’t autistic, welcome, you just got an itty bitty taste of what it’s like existing on the other side.

#allistic #autism

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This just in

#fandom #shipping #discourse #demisexual #primary attraction #secondary attraction #antishipping #proshipping

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"Disabled pride" doesn't necessarily have to mean "I'm proud to be disabled".

It can also mean "I'm a disabled person persevering in an inherently ableist world and I'm proud of that".

#important #disability

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hi Im Elle, I write about asexuality, demisexuality & queer stuff. I’m demisexual/gray ace, nonbinary, agender. ADHD. They/them.

links to support me & what do:

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Thank you and enjoy whatever this blog is 💛

#asexuality #asexual #gray ace #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #adhd

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I’m not sure what this is referring to specifically, but I really don’t think writers are setting out to ace bait the way they do with typical queerbaiting? Like? Asexuality isn’t that well-known? Sorry but this is projection, most likely, not any implications anybody’s putting down between the lines.

They’re simply writing a tsundere character.

it would be REALLY cool if charactrs in media that are heavily implied to be aroace actually stay as aroace instead of them finding the right person and they end up having sex either way . idk just a thought

#aroace

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positive affirmations

I’m happy being aroace

I’m happy being aroace

I’m happy being aroace

I’m happy being aroace

I’m happy being aroace

#postive affirmations #aro positivity #aromantic

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@entropy-sea-system you answered your own question.

aro-gray-allo is just a mouthful. lol. I could’ve put that, yeah. But instead I included tags for repping myself that, once you had mentally sorted through them, made sense. it’s part of the aroallo grouping.

aroallo anthem

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aroallo anthem

#aroallo #aromantic #gray ace #asexuality #asexual #asexual spectrum #Youtube

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online communities are so strange because people slip away so easily. you can be on here for years, folding people you've never met into the fabric of your daily life, and then they disappear, leaving only ghost posts scattered across tumblr behind. or their blog stays dormant, for weeks, months, years, until you're only still following them because you remember that they love sunflowers or they were kind to you when they didn't have to be or the last thing they posted was sad and raw and you still worry about them sometimes.

and sometimes they come back when you least expect it, years later, even, and there's this sudden rush of relief like there you are, there you are, even though you barely knew each other.

there's a strange kind of love to it. i don't know you and i want to hold your hand across miles and time zones and oceans. i can still see the imprint of you in this community you left. you don't anyone will notice or care when you're gone, but we notice and we care and we wish you well.

i hope you're all okay out there. i hope the sun is shining on your face and you are breathing deeply. i miss you.

#platonic love #squish #online friends #tumblr life

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so true bestie

Kissing on the lips. No. Why? I don’t get it. Truly? What is so enticing about putting your lips together? Don’t even get me started on tongues…

#kissing repulsed #aromantic #aro #arospec #aromanticism #aspec #aroace #aromantic spectrum #aromantic thoughts

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even if none of that were the case

(1) if homophobia stops being a thing, will you cry and scream for lgbt to be dismantled? Or if transphobia is the only thing left, then will you rush to boot out the gays? As obviously to YOU it hinges on how much negativity is experienced, and not positive celebration of unique identities?

(2) trans people also weren’t in lgbt as early as the gays, so does that mean you’re an LGB-exclude-the-T like the crypto-TERFs? Or is there some ‘trial period’ whereby a group petitioning to get in waits around long enough for people to stop being assholes?

pls give me 1(one) reason aces have ever been oppressed, and 1(one) example of aces being a part of lgbt history(before 2004 at least) and then maybe i’ll consider the idea that aces belong in the lgbt community lol

#exclusionist nonsense #shit exclusionists say #lgbt #gsrm #mogai #asexual #queer history #ace discourse #acecourse #aromantic

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I'll bite, how do you find poly people to just tag along with? And why wouldn't constantly being around people in a relationship, while not *really* being a part of it yourself, not make the whole feeling worse?

The same way you find Comic Cons, generalized interest groups, meetups, clubs, or any other queer groups. The internet.

For context: this person seems to have read my suggestion for aro people to link up with poly people because they don’t do the toxic monogamy scarcity-mindset of love thing, which results in neglecting or jettisoning friendships.

Anon, if you are put off by the idea of gaining more social bonds in this way, consider:

(1) you may not actually be wholly aromantic, but be a cupioromatic (you actively want to be in a romantic relationship, you just don’t have the same feelings about it or drive for it as an allo)

OR

(2) you may have some internalized arophobia to work out (bonds you form with people as an aromantic are conceptualized as ‘inferior’ when relationship anarchy says they’re not. This is an absorbed idea from society that makes you feel bad by affecting how you view things)

(3) you’re carrying baggage from friends dumping you for romo bonds. (this is subconsciously reminding you of those shitty experiences)

If it’s (1), the solution is to simply have a romantic (but not sexual, if you don’t want that, if not ‘favorable ace’) relationship with the polycule (or a given person within the polycule)

If it’s (2) or (3) that’s gonna take some self-reflection and some sorting through feelings to release them.

It is VERY common for aces and aros to offer open relationships to partners they obtain, so they can get those sexual or romantic desires met.

This doesn’t always happen in the context of both people being already-familiar with poly, but it IS one of the reasons poly is perfectly positioned to shore up ace loneliness.

#cupioromantic #internalized prejudice #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #polyamory #relationship anarchy #queer #lgbt #arophobia #amatonormativity #psychoanalysis #aro spec #meditation #self improvement #self awareness #romance neutral aro #romance favorable aro #quiromantic #alterous attraction

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I have no idea what any of these words mean.

Has anyone else on the aspec side of tumblr been watching the different aspec armies (america, india, australia, and britian) overtake the three denmark blogs? I've been sitting back with a bag of popcorn the past two days watching the invasion happen in real time

#asexual #aroace #asexuality #aromantic #aromantism #aspec #denmark #I mean I’m aware of the Denmark joke but

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Sex is an interesting topic. Having a hyperfixation on it (or something similar) does not conflict w ace identity at all

pass it on

Funnily enough, despite being ace I can’t help sex constantly on my mind, constantly connecting things to sex and seeing them everything in a sexual light ;-;

#asexual #asexuality #acespec #ace #asexual spectrum #asexual thoughts #ace spec #ace spectrum