#HOW TO BREAK UP

[pretendpopstar]

Its like one day you're together, world building in a new game and the both of you are having a really fun time. You're so caught up enjoying yourself in the game and unlocking new areas that you don't even realize how much time is passing. You both log out normally and go about your days until its time to play again, but while you were away, there was an update. The next time you try to boot up the save file, you find that its been corrupted. Neither of you can access it. The world you've been building together won't load.

All that progress is gone and it wasn't backed up.

Player two isn't player two anymore because the game is over. You're trying to figure out what you used to spend time doing before you even started playing the game. Its frustrating to lose a file you spent time on. I don't want to play anymore. Not right now. I'm gonna put the game down and go touch grass. Or my art supplies.

#pretend popstar #how to break up #break up season

[breakmyheartwithlyrics]

Hollie Col- How to Break Up

#my edit #lyric edit #dailyladylyrics #Hollie col #how to break up #julia stevens #lyrics #lyric edits #wlw lyrics #sapphic music #lesbian musicians

[alastaircraig]

Me: Don't listen to anyone who says "believe in yourself" as if it's in any way helpful advice.

Also me, in 2010, leaving the staff room a gift on the last day of my retail job:

#quitting #coles #retail job #novelty mug #believe in yourself #how to break up #workplace morale #motivation #quit my job #mug

[unav3rse]

I think i wanna break up, Please any tips how to break up with someone nicely???

#how to break up #break up #help

[muskratjukebox]

Chapter 1

Pack your shit and leave.

Simple as that. At least, in theory.

But, once the adrenaline fades, and reality sets in, packing your shit and leaving doesn't seem so simple.

Step 1: Take a good look around you. A mental note of everything you've collected over the years. Every piece of scrap paper. Little knick knacks, collecting dust on crooked shelves. This is your life. This is what it's become. Remember that.

Step 2: Let it go. All of it. Even the expensive things. Everything is replaceable. Everyone thinks humans need stuff. We don't need stuff. The filler. It's just filler. Lose the stuff. It makes the packing your shit part a whole lot easier.

Step 3: Make a plan. Not a big one. Not one of those 5 year bullshit plans. The world may end tomorrow. No, make a plan. Today, then tomorrow, then the next day and then the next. Make a plan and stick to it. It's just you and the plan now. Get used to that.

Step 4: And this is the most important. DO. NOT. GO. BACK. Don't do it. Make up your mind add stick to it. If you wanted to leave, you felt that way for a reason. Keep ahold tight on that thought. Because it may be all you have in the coming weeks.

Relationships are hard. You'll hear that phrase most from older married couples who never had the balls to leave their partner. If you're unhappy, leave. Now, some things are worth fighting for. I once got made at an ex for letting his friend park in my spot. To be fair, we had two guest parking spots and I'm creature of habit. And i did end up getting back together with them. But, maybe it wasn't just about the spot. Maybe it was about respect and boundaries. Or maybe I'm just petty. But, not everything is a fine line that can easily be crossed. Some things are big lines. Big bold lines, in red. And those, they don't ever get crossed. Those you should avoid. Keep that in mind. It will be helpful later.

#relationships #breakup #breakups #toxic relationship #how to leave someone #how to break up #letting go #accepting #the end of an era

[shobhit9220]

Best online counseling someone after a break up

Introduction: A Guiding Light Through the Storm

Navigating life after a breakup can be an overwhelming journey, and seeking guidance through online breakup counseling has emerged as a transformative solution. In this blog post, we'll explore the best practices, benefits, and the healing potential of online counseling for those dealing with the aftermath of a breakup.

1. Acknowledging the Emotional Turbulence

1.1 Understanding the Impact of a Breakup

Explore the emotional toll of a breakup on an individual.

Acknowledge the importance of addressing the emotional aftermath.

1.2 Breaking the Silence

Discuss the tendency to internalize emotions post-breakup.

Emphasize the importance of seeking support rather than navigating the journey alone.

2. The Rise of Breakup Counseling

2.1 The Evolution of Online Counseling

Explore how online platforms have become a refuge for those seeking breakup counseling.

Discuss the accessibility and convenience of online sessions.

2.2 Tailored Support for Healing

Highlight how breakup counseling provides personalized strategies for healing.

Discuss the variety of therapeutic modalities available online.

3. Benefits of Online Breakup Counseling

3.1 Confidentiality in the Digital Space

Discuss how the online setting fosters a confidential and safe environment.

Explore the importance of sharing feelings openly without fear of judgment.

3.2 Flexibility in Scheduling

Highlight the flexibility of scheduling online sessions.

Discuss how this adaptability caters to individuals dealing with varying emotional states.

4. The Role of a Breakup Counselor

4.1 Professional Guidance

Emphasize the importance of seeking guidance from a trained breakup counselor.

Discuss the role of a counselor in facilitating the healing process.

4.2 Encouraging Self-Reflection

Explore how breakup counseling encourages individuals to reflect on their emotions.

Discuss how this introspection aids in personal growth.

5. Taking the First Step Towards Healing

5.1 Researching Online Counseling Platforms

Provide tips on researching reputable online counseling platforms.

Encourage users to consider reviews and testimonials.

5.2 Embracing the Healing Journey

Offer guidance on taking the first step towards online breakup counseling.

Discuss the empowering nature of seeking help.

6. Conclusion: Embracing a Brighter Future

In conclusion, online breakup counseling serves as a guiding light through the storm of heartbreak. By acknowledging emotions, exploring the benefits, and taking the brave step towards seeking professional support, individuals can navigate the healing journey with resilience and strength.

#couples counseling #break up #counseling #marriage counseling #how to break up #counseling tips #grief counseling #relationship break up #counseling skills

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[beybuniki]

they should go on a fishing trip pt.1

#DONT COMMENT ON THE BACKGROUND I KNOWWWWWWWWWWWW #anyway this is day 1. they take a bus. the bakugo household has fishing gear so ´deku is wearing bakugo's onesoe (?) and bakugo is wearing #his dad's. and notices he has grown :') #anyway they take a BUS and don't feel like doing this at all it's awkward for so many reason #also trying to relax after everything is neurologically just really hard they might be hyperivgilant dik #and there's so much they never got to unpack bnut they have to and they have to start somewhere and with someone #deku makes that flower crown while bakugo preps everything and they both look at it and are thrown back into their childhood 🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️ #and at first they just sit and wait for the bavarian fish to bite (rody should make a cameo tbh) but then bakugo breaks the iceeee. #and he starts with their moms because their moms have been such a stubbron connection between these two :') #and deku answers with the usual 'good :) how's your mom :)?' and to everyone's surprise he actually opens up #and tells deku about his mom's insomnia because she watched her son die (that shit was live streamed tpo 10 bnha tweets btw) #idk i love to think of their moms being a very easy subject to connect through i think it's easier for them that way to be more vulnerablei #and then some fish biteeeeeeeeeeee #but like 3 small ones so they have to gather berries and mushrooms and make stew (dw there's an aldi this is bavaria after all) #but yeah day 1 is a bit weird like it's just them in the woods with no distractions #which is so different from whatever went on during their 1st year of high school #don't read this i will throw up i just need this somewhere this is my public scrapbook #bnha #deku #midoriya izuku #bakugo katsuki #the flower crown on their knees makes this a bit homosexual but fishing is always homosexual im not fighting against that #au: #fishing

[natjennie]

something about "your anger isn't scary to me" is making me so emotional. something about as above so below, cassandra as a mirror of kristen. something about "I've been dropping the ball a lot lately" and kristen's struggles with adhd. something about teenage girls and rage and fury and justice. something about adaine's vision of ruining fallinel and the sylvaire looking for revenge. something about sadness and doubt and anger and love. something about "I choose to understand" being the absolute core theme of d20 in general. something something.

#something about kristen's adhd making her fuck things up and being mad at herself and that manifesting #as her deity being overcome with rage #something about fear and anger and shame and the inability to do better even when you're trying so hard #and something about people loving you anyway #something about 'your anger isnt scary to me' #as someone who had undiagnosed pcos in early high school and got so fucking MAD #something about adhd and how you're always failing and you have no one to blame but yourself #and how heart breaking it is to watch your life fall apart around you KNOWING you could do something #but being unable to do it right. always forgetting always slipping up #and how mad that makes you. at yourself. #this fight is so much #fhjy #d20 #dimension 20 #fantasy high

[xandrikart]

The most beautiful thing about Drawtectives is that you can choose any combination and you will be right. But no way I'm ignoring a beautiful garb next to York.

#iiii overworked my wrist and had to take a break from drawing #now I'm trying to remember how to hold stylus #Kids... do stretches #I was trying to find the original meme and did not succeed #ALSO I SPENT TWO DAYS NO KIDDING TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IS IT “WE HAVE” #“WE'VE GOT” OR “WE GOT” AND I JUST GAVE UP #drawtectives #drawfee #art

[inspisart]

dick took the news that a strange thirteen year old broke into his apartment while he was away at the circus pretty well, I gotta say

#this is not how the interaction played out in the issue btw lol I'm just having a bit of fun #tim drake #dick grayson #batfam #dc #the new titans issue 65 #inspi art #I remember being baffled when i read ALPOD and tim broke into dick’s apartment like it was nothing to find out where he’d gone #like where did he learn that? reddit? #I chalked it up to comicbook goofiness and wolfman stretching suspension of disbelief a little to keep the plot moving #which is why it surprised me when they acknowledged it again #and by doing so cemented tim knowing how to pick locks and being used to breaking into apartments as a canon fact(TM) #and so hence forth he would continued to be a little contradictory weirdo who’s both normal and incredibly not normal at the same time

[clouvu]

Nothing in the world belongs to me But my love, mine, all mine

#genshin impact #arlecchino #peruere #clervie #ouhhhhhhhh im never gonna be able to emotionally recover from watching that animated short #ever since it came out a couple days ago just thinking of these two makes me feel like my heart is physically being ripped in half #i cant stop thinking about how Clervie was the only person in Arlecchino's life that she truly loved #like dont get me wrong Arlecchino loves her children in her own detached-fucked up way as much as any person with her amount of trauma can #but Clervie meant so much to her that even just her presence alone kept Arle's curse at bay #and it seems that no one other than Clervie herself has ever been able to break this unemotional/detached wall that Arle has put up #and maybe no one else ever will #DONT GET ME WRONG I still fw arle x other female harbingers like that shit is still peak #but oh my god the idea that arle never moved on after clervie's death and will never love anyone the way she loved her makes me want to SOB

[theriverbeyond]

Gideon Nav terrible fashion sense is so important to me babygirl has never been free to dress herself in her LIFE and i firmly believe that if she did have that freedom she would wear just. the most dogshit outfits. socks with slides. neon colors. shirts that say TITS with an arrow pointing down. outfits so bad every woman she meets is begging to take her on a department store makeover episode. outfits so bad you wonder if she got dressed in the dark upside down picking her clothing items by chaos potential. outfits so bad they wrap around to being sick as hell before winding back and punching you straight in the face

#gideon nav #the locked tomb #thinking about how her whole life she's just been. stuck in roles dictated to her. and trying to break free so bad #but babygirl is in QUICKSAND the more she reaches for freedom the more violently it is ripped away from her. #anyway. gideon goofy oitfit truthers rise up #like if she had the freedom to dress herself eventually i think she would grow to have a really nice sense of style #but she needs that freedom first. to be goofy. #to ME #trb.txt #tlt thoughts

[timetodiverge]

You kids BETTER BEHAVE or Ma will wave The Screwdriver at you again!!

#MUM IS BACK YAYYYYYY #crosshair taunting hunter ahhhhh I DIED #words cannot describe how happy I am to have Echo back #he instantly has to step in and start breaking up fights again ahahahaha #tbb spoilers #the bad batch spoilers #tbb #the bad batch #the bad batch season 3 #tbb echo #tbb hunter #tbb crosshair

[gummybearstastelikesadness]

When Danny enters the Fenton portal for the very first time, he still trips and shocks himself but at the same time damages the inside of the portal enough that it can’t sustain itself past the point of changing Danny’s molecules.

The electricity and damage done to both Danny and the portal isn’t something Danny, Sam, and Tucker can cover up and his parents find out immediately. They’re more concerned about their son then the portal (they have the blueprints for the portal and can rebuild it later but can’t replace their son if something happened to him) and go through a lot of things emotions regarding the existence of ghost human hybrids.

Danny’s new biology could easily be passed as meta human traits. Unfortunately President Lex Luther had just recently passed laws against meta humans. Meaning they can’t risk people find out about Danny’s new powers, at all. The Fentons decide that Danny should live with one of Maddie or Jacks relatives off grid until he can control his new abilities better.

luckily Jacks sister, Martha, and her husband have experience with a super powered child and after their son moved to the city could probably use a hand on their farm. All Jack needed to do was call.

#dp x dc #dp x dc prompt #danny fenton #jack fenton #martha kent #Danny wondering why his parents have so many relatives he never really sees #All the relatives that never forgot when Jack and Maddie hosted Thanksgiving Dinner before Danny or Jazz were born #bonding with your estranged relatives over turkey battling related trauma #Martha hasn’t let Jack visit the farm after he made the tractor sentient back in 87 #Danny discovering Superman is his farm boy turned reporter cousin and can never take any of the metropolis villains seriously anymore #Martha and Jon thinking they have a break from raising a super powered teenage: Danny showing up phased halfway through their front porch #unrelated but I’m not sure how much sense this actually makes (I’ve had a high grade fever all week and know I’ve been out of it)

[obsob]

happy and proud!!

✷(print shop)✷

#mine #original #sm how managed 2 miss pride month....but its pride month every month in this house hold #ive read two bad YA books so far this month as a break from th 2nd farseer book but now.....i am back.........i am reading th 3rd one #its gna make my brain explode i can feel it #n then idk what i will read. maybe th hands of th emperor #could i read smth other than 800 page epic fantasy pls #the YA books werent too bad for YA but they hve that YA cringe 2 it. idk how u people read it constantly #if i hve 2 read th word 'heck' one more time #also theres always like. disney channel vibes. like i read gay YA romance n its so sanitised n vanilla. its so superficial #like i get this is for 16 year olds but were is the longing. the yearing. these guys are fanfic tropes stuck 2gether 2 glue. #also. what is with nearly every mlm romance / fantasy being YA not adult fiction. whats up w that #anyway hve a good evenin im gna do knitting!!!!!!!!!!!!