#bi is a complete identity

[tastycitrus]

there's an alternate timeline where the new 52 reboot kept all three batgirls but retconned all the robins except for dick, who went back to being robin with nightwing banned from being mentioned at all

#batman #batgirl #barbara gordon #cassandra cain #stephanie brown #dick grayson #the trade off is that cass’s personality gets derailed and completely ruined by bad writing #while steph changes personality every time she has a new writer and no one knows what to do with her #so not too far off from what actually happened to them *shot* #other things: dick never gets to move on from the robin title. he's just robin forever #when the other batboys are reintroduced they're given different identities instead of robin with new backstories #barbara gets shot in the head as if being shot in the spine wasn't enough and suffers her own ric grayson arc #steph comes out as bi and starts dating some random girl (not cass) while also dumping and ghosting tim for like a year #right after she received memories of their pre-flashpoint selves and confessed her undying love for him #cass stops using the one thing she's most known for (her martial arts) in favor of like. hooks. in reference to the end of her solo series

[uncanny-tranny]

How do I know if I'm bi?

So this might not be a helpful answer, but it is my genuine thought, and I want to be honest: You know you're bi if you find comfort, or happiness, or understanding of yourself in that label. It's not necessarily about split attraction to multiple genders.

Yes, bisexual people will often be attracted to more than one gender (not just man and woman, either! Many bisexual people aren't attracted to both binary genders because bisexuality is yet another complex and nuanced component of human sexuality, which in itself is inherently complex). Yes, many bisexual people express those attractions, and yes, many bisexual people share things in common. But frankly, not every bisexual is going to have similar experiences or thoughts or expressions of sexuality. My bisexuality is going to look different than yours might because I am a different human being. As such, I think it's less helpful to say "to be bisexual, you need to have these experiences," but it's more helpful to say, "if you find comfort in the bisexual label, use it"

The worst that happens with sexuality labels is you find one that matches better. I used to use the label pansexual when I was younger - the worst thing that happened was I stopped using it a year later when I felt it didn't accurately describe my feelings anymore.

If you suspect you're bi, there's likely a reason for that, and there's nothing wrong with you investigating that further. However, I don't want you to feel like you need to Prove Yourself to even use language that accurately describes your sexuality or sense of sexuality - no matter if that language is as simple as saying you're bisexual or not. Sexuality is an important aspect of identity for many folks, and you deserve the opportunity to make it as important or inconsequential as you want. Nobody is going to throw you in jail for not being bisexual or queer "enough." There's no law that says you have to have a 50/50 split attraction to binary men and women only to be bi. There's no bisexual card we hand out to you, saying you've been vetted as Bi Enough.

#ask #anon #bi #bisexual #lgbt #lgbtq #like my sense of sexuality is very convoluted and i still use bi because it's the closest i've got and that's FINE #if i was a bit younger i might have used a label like abro but i *personally* don't have any attachment or care for it being used for me #and that's fine!!! there can be two similar people in terms of sexuality who use COMPLETELY different language and labels #just like a person like me (trans man) could be on hormones and use he/him and masculine language and 'only' call themself a butch #(quotes around the word only because butch isn't a secondary identity compared to an identity like mine) #that's the beauty about language and our conceptualizions of ourselves! #we want to be understood and we cobble that together in as best a way as possible #language is naturally limiting because our feelings and thoughts are too deep for it i think #there is only so much we can do to be understood. so we do our best #what i want you to do is do your best. it's not about being Perfect in how you describe yourself. that's not the point!!! #there are things about myself that will mever be described by language and that's good i think #i think that's the same for most people. we are too complex and we should learn to find beauty and celebration in that

[feralandnormal]

yknow i swear if a guy said he was a gay bisexual there'd be zero fuckin discourse about it. but you put lesbian next to literally anything and suddenly its clearly transphobic and Must be picked apart and justified tooth and nail instead of just, going on with your day.

#never ever met a bi lesbian that said they identity that way because they love trans women #i dont think anyone who loves trans women would fucking say that #but like One Terf probably came up with it and we have to bend to there will and ideas i guess! #that one post where that dipshit made a completely unrelated Good point followed by 'i hate bi lesbians btw' annoyed the hell out of me #actual baby brain #lesbian or bisexual is not some sacred limited resource its a label to find community in. #but yeah gate keep the hell out of it brother im sure that's productive #yeah man pretend these words used to describe an ever changing and nebulous experience have specific strict meanings. #you go girl go create a box. i bet you think transfemme and transmasc are just the new cool way of saying your agab

[piscadilly]

i think honestly transmascs should be able to talk abt the hatred of transmasculinity and their unique experiences of transphobia but not while also implying that cis men also suffer from people hating masculinity, or that misandry is a real actual thing. anyway.

#the stuff genderkoolaid and others say about 'transandrophobia' feels a lot like it's just saying 'men are oppressed trans or cis!' #and i need fellow transmascs to actually sit back and think about what theyre saying for at least a minute #people hate transmascs (and trans men/men aligned especially) because of toxic masculinity; misogyny; and the forced assignment #of male privilege #not because we are men or men adjacent #and saying otherwise implies that cis men have the same struggles and implies that cis men are oppressed for this #we are not the same as cis men and we do not experience manhood or masculinity the same way they do and that's okay to say and acknowledge #that last point isn't saying that trans men aren't real men it's acknowledging that our experiences and identities are oftentimes #completely different than cis men #and will never be the same even if we pass extremely well in various ways #we are not hated for being men but we are hated for being the type of man that we are #men of color are not hated for being men but for being not white #gay men hated for being gay not men #bi men etc etc etc #misandry isnt real sorry tldr #well i say not hated for being men but extremely literally not true #i mean systemicly oppressed or suffering as a man FOR being a man #insert shit about mental health and abuse here also

[sleepymrshmllow]

idk why we can't just accept that people will interpret media/characters differently and that it isn't inherently an attack on you personally (obviously if people are directly fighting you/harassing you/trying to invalidate you or are generally being bigoted that is different and you should be able to defend your thoughts/block people!)

#in terms of theories and headcanons and such #tp #saying it again for the millionth time: if you see mike as gay or bi that's completely valid #i dont think seeing him one way or the other invalidates his journey or story.. bc mike being bi would still entail being attracted to boys. #being bi isnt Queer Lite #that being said if people see mike as gay and don't believe the feelings he has/had for el were romantic that is also okay and their... #personal interpretation. either way we should stop acting like our own interpretations are the ONLY ways ppl are allowed to think #also just simply disagreeing one way or another isnt biphobic or queerphobic BUT some people definitely come off as such intentional or not #bc i always worry i come off more aggressive than i mean to: i respect both interpretations of mike's identity! and i love seeing #arguments for both and how ppl interpret scenes and actions differently i think that's really cool and interesting! #also this isnt directed at any one person I've just been seeing this come back up again

[musical-chick-13]

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#having weird feelings about my own bisexuality again!! #it did not use to be like this #the only thing I can think is that I spent so long in love with one (1) woman that some part of my brain just. stopped considering me to #be bi. because that was the only grounded-in-reality attraction I had for a LONG time. #to the point where that specific and focused attraction to this one woman seemed like a part of my identity. and maybe my brain ran with #that in a COMPLETELY wrong direction and internalized a bunch of weird shit #I don't actually know if that's what happened it's just a working theory #ANYWAY #unfair of this to be happening on iwd #I should go edit my story about one of my favorite fictional women having Issues™

[theophagie-remade]

I don't have much to say about Magne other than there was an Attempt, but. That time when Twice and Toga got angry with Overhaul for misgendering her was already indicative of what I'm going to get at in a sec, and obviously it was especially relevant because it was a direct show of respect and support from people who very clearly cared about her (and who called her big sis already as it was!!) (×2 imo because Twice was intentionally written to be the readers' insight into the LOV, and the character with whom they were supposed sympathise with the most at/since the beginning, so it's especially important that the first one who spoke up was him), but the story's progression (especially in recent years) is what most assures me that despite a rather poor execution (definitely not the best, but also certainly not the worst) Horikoshi did mean well with her. "People bound together by the chains of society always laugh at those who aren't" :(

#^ when she quotes her friend. like had the manga not gone on like it has that could have very well been a generic #We Live in a Society moment. but it wasn't. and that's what's comforting tbh #in general i think a big issue with magne from what little we know of her is that her reason for joining the lov was fighting back against #a tangibile real world issue (transphobia) vs all the other villains. whose situations Are partially real world issues as well #(eg child abuse) but they also very much present fantasy elements to them (eg toga's treatment due to her quirk) #and i'm not saying this as a justification for killing her off but. when you're writing a superhero comic with a target audience of young #cishet men it is much easier to present them with fantasy solutions to fantasy problems. again not that i think it's right!!! #but i do assume that horikoshi's thought process was more or less this. like. tiger is there alive and well #but he passes and was confirmed to be trans only via word of god so his identity has no bearing on the story itself #while magne's did. which doesn't make tiger's transness any less ''real'' than hers ofc but again i think it was a matter of what horikoshi #could actually deal with (fantasy problems) with the average readers that he has. it sucks all the way around. #which begs the question. ''why create her character in the first place then'' to which i answer: i don't fucking know man #bnha #animanga #mytext #in general. i've seen lots of people do this even with eg toga and her bisexuality (and when it comes to her i completely disagree but w/e) #but. authors who want to depic queer characters in good will but make mistakes or do it awkwardly or anything else #should Not be put on the same level as actively queerphobic authors. at all. do criticise what's worthy of constructive #criticism when you see it but don't even pretend that those two are remotely the same thing #(jic i didn't explain myself well bc i don't think that i did. what i wholly disagree with is that ''toga is a bad bi stereotype''. #i am bi people and i disagree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[i-dreamed-i-had-a-son]

Queer Obi-Wan >>>>>

Fandom acknowledging queer Obi-Wan >>>>>>>>>

Fandom only acknowledging Obi-Wan's bi identity and ignoring the much more strongly indicated aroace identity <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

#aroace obi wan kenobi #obi wan kenobi #star wars #kay can i just catch my breath for a second #i'm not even sorry #i know it's been a hot minute #but i keep seeing this and it is pissing me off #a lot of fans are being super biphobic which of course is trash and people need to shut up and deal with the fact that he's queer #but the essentially complete erasure of obi-wan's queerness beyond the bi aspect of his identity is incredibly hurtful and infuriating #this is a character that is finally explicitly written to be *like me*. aroace folks do not get that luxury and this is OBI-WAN HIMSELF #don't you DARE take that away from me. i have waited literally my whole life for representation that makes me feel this seen #and the fact that the only thing i ever see about obi-wan being queer is 'he's bi!!! uwu!!' is not ok. he is bi. AND he is aroace #and if you're going purely on the text that canonized this the aroace aspect of his orientation is much more strongly indicated #there's just a lot more focus placed on that aspect during the scene. so i don't understand why his aspec identity is being left out #except for the obvious answer which is that erasing aspec identities and characters has always been way more acceptable than it should be #people would be so much more aware of aspec identities if fandom didn't IMMEDIATELY ignore any canonically aspec characters #obi-wan is a massively popular character. do you know how powerful it would be to have a character at that scale be recognized as aspec?? #it would inform so many people and enable conversations for so many more. it would make so many people feel known and seen #that's what representation is for!! that's what the whole thing is about!!! but no bc it's not as easy to explain that way he's just bi #screw that #obi wan is aroace. plain and simple and there's nothing you can do about it. and i would really like to see more people talking about that #again absolutely no problem with obi-wan's bi identity i am also bi and aroace (although i don't typically use that label) #i'm just...so tired of seeing the largest part of my identity (and arguably the larger part of his) completely erased #ughhhhh anyways rant over #kay has a party in the tags #aro #ace #asexual #aromantic #canon aroace characters

[angels-heap]

One thing I kind of can't get behind is when Alyx is interpreted as a super Gen Z kid? Do you know what I mean? I feel like she may unconsciously adopt the mannerisms of older people instead because she's surrounded by them all day every day, but that's just me lol

That drives me nuts too, but to be fair, people write what they know and it's not exactly surprising that younger fans are projecting their own experiences and worldviews onto her. I definitely wrote some cringy and anachronistic Alyx dialogue when I was a teenager and if you remember reading it on FFN back in the day, no you don't.

That said, YEAH, I feel like Alyx is one of those kids with an "old soul" from surviving so many traumatic events at a young age and growing up with multiple eccentric scientist mentors. She's surprisingly well-adjusted, all things considered, and it seems like her dad did his best to let her be a kid as much as possible (collecting random stuff from the yard, giant robot dog companion, etc.), but it's hard to imagine that she'd talk and act like a modern teenager.

The Dirty Dancing VHS in HLA also makes me wonder what kind of media she was (or wasn't) exposed to while she was growing up. I bet she has a really skewed sense of what society was like before The Incident, and I can see this leaving a noticeable mark on her speech patterns and sense of humor.

#asks #colony-drop-program #while we're on the topic of weirdly 'modern' characterization in hl fanworks that drive us up the wall... #I am 100% here for experimenting with characters' genders and sexualities #(everyone in hl is bi I don't make the rules) #and I completely understand that a lot of folks read/write fic for escapism and aren't interested in realism #HOWEVER #there's something about all those 'early 2000s black mesa was an lgbt utopia actually' fanworks #where all the characters are neutral to very vocally supportive of the characters' multiple marginalized identities #without a hint of acknowledgment that this is - at the very least - not period-typical #that drives me fucking insane on a personal level and I wish there were more fics that aren't like that #I'm aware that this is mostly a personal preference and I don't want to make anyone feel bad #but I prefer a little realism in my lgbt escapism because that makes it that much more powerful when people do find support or community #(fuck everyone who's ever sent me hate mail for taking a more realistic approach in my own fics though.) #(it's not fucking homophobic to acknowledge that homophobia was rampant in the 2000s and it sucked)

[myst1xx]

i love having multiple different headcanon fanons in my brain that directly contradict each other so it just looks insane to anyone on the outside. but to me it makes sense

#the amount of characters i headcanon as lesbians but also sometimes headcanon them as bi separately #it scares me i dont want people to think im headcanoning them as bi lesbians #IM NOT!!! #its just 2 separate versions of them. in my head #this is mainly about doric #and frankie #doric is a nonbinary lesbian in a QPR with simon yes #but shes also bi and dating him #but shes also aroace lesbian and dating nobody #yes these all exist at the same time #so if u see me post about a character being a specific identity #then reblogging a post about them thats completely contradictory #just ignore it

[cherry-shipping]

ok so like........... obviously i hate the concept of soulmates and soulmate aus cause FUCK the idea that a person is inherently incomplete without another person, thats fucked up and lame. BUT. with the presence of souls being an undeniable fact in undertale and by extension my selfship with sans, and the fact that i headcanon (? i feel like its canon but i might be thinking about inverted fate LOL) that sans' perception of each reset in the underground is, aside from being a knowledge that it IS possible (like asgore), mostly based on each reset bringing a stronger and stronger sense of deja vu as the timelines overlap in his memories. i do sort of like the idea of him meeting me aboveground, his soul recognizing me as its. well. soulmate, i guess. but him confusing that feeling with the deja vu he experienced in the underground and thereby being so fucking suspicious and afraid of me and like. doing everything he can to get me to stay away from papyrus and everyone else, cause he thinks im another anomaly like frisk or flowey. naturally, i dont feel that, because while humans DO have souls monsters are a direct projection of theirs, and humans are significantly less in tune with their souls overall. and since a soulmate thing would. uh. well, heavily depend on the very existence of souls. well, i wouldnt really recognize it as anything but "lol funny bone man i wanna be his friend moreso than the other monsters". anyway i phrased this so badly cause its 6:30am but tl;dr this was a longwinded way of saying "if me and sans were soulmates i wouldnt feel it and hed be terrified of my very existence and would do everything in his power to push me away". lol.

#cherry chats #bf (bone friend) #i feel like i just..... kinda.......... rambled about my monster biology headcanons for the entirety of this post. #wellum anyway! it is my hyperfixation/special interest combo and i have soooo many headcanons and theories i like so Yeah #now i already explained i dont like soulmate aus i think theyre really shitty. also unbearably aro exclusive obviously #but mostly i just hate the idea of not being complete without the presence of another person........ #as if you cannot be whole if you dont devote your life to other people. #im heavily introverted i dont think i need people to be happy and content and um. #you cant tell anyone this this is another secret only my selfship blog followers are privy to #and i might delete this later so im gonna say this in its own tag; #for like maybe a year and a half i think. ive been questioning if im aro. #cause i for sure dont experience love in the same way ive come to understand most people do................. #i love aros everyone knows this but at the same time........ i really DONT wanna be aro #idk why that is but i have to assume its cause ive been so completely comfortable in my demigirl bi identity since i was 13 #like i learned of both of those and ive never before felt the need to question any further. i was like oh yea this is right and that was it #but. like i said i know for certain i dont feel love like most people do #and i dont know if thats cause im aro or if its cause i have trauma or if its cause im autistic or WHAT #but ummm yeah. thats fun cool skenp trivia for you (pls dont tell anyone) #i know i dont need to use any label im not comfortable with and giving it more thought so far hasnt made me more comfortable #if anything its had the opposite effect. but i still cant help but think about it once i realized i dont feel love #except for. One Person. but ive said enough so bye #geez ok i got sidetracked. back to soulmate aus though i Dont Like Them #though i guess that 'empty space' theyd propose you feel before encountering your soulmate could be sort of more palatable if you were to #say you dont know you ever had it UNTIL you met your soulmate. but that doesnt change the fact that its whack #but this is the one soulmate fantasy ill allow myself cause i think its neat <3 #and monsters do have souls so......... i guess soulmates wouldnt be a stretch. but id like for there to at least be the possibility of #multiple soulmates. so its not like 'your life revolves around ONE PERSON who youll likely never meet' cause thats dumb #i talked too much tumblr might delete half my tags lol. guess ill just make another post in that case #anyways BYE

[budoodly]

no offense but if you’re going to preach “bi pan solidarity!!!!1!!!” without listening to the concerns of bi people i don’t fucking care about you. ESPECIALLY if you’re not bi.

like why should i feel solidarity with people who think they’re better than me because they refuse to believe me when i define my own identity? why should i feel solidarity with people who think my identity is an ugly bad word and they would NEVER use it for themselves, even when they admit that our identities are the same? why on fucking earth would i EVER want to associate with an identity so strongly rooted in transphobia?

y’all r soooooooo quick to demonize bi ppl at all fucking turns i swear to god.

#bud’s thoughts #jesus fucking christ seriously. #like we all agree that if i try to define a lesbian’s sexuality i am WRONG. #so why is there a prominent lesbian blogger out here telling bi ppl they’re actually wrong abt their identities #and overreacting to ppl trying to completely erase them lol

[apocalypse-boi]

Here's a fucking psa because I'm pissed off right now:

Bisexuality is NOT attraction to only men and women. It does NOT exclude non binary people. Some bisexual people are only attracted to men and women, and that's okay, but I'm so fucking tired of seeing people say that bisexual people only like two genders. The definition says attraction to two plus genders for a REASON!

#sorry for the rant #ive had one too many identity crises because of people saying shit like this #im so fucking tired of it #it is not anyone elses place to tell you how you should identify #that is up to you and you alone #and also #bisexuality is not omniphobic and omnisexuality is not biphobic #they overlap greatly #and both labels apply to some people #but they are still different #and both are completely valid #use whatever label fits you best and feels the most comfortable #anyways #rant #bi #bisexual

[thewhizzyhead]

on this episode of "i have another fuckin crisis", i have come to the (semi-temporary) conclusion that i might have a weeeeee bit of a gender crisis. will be back soon with reports. also help me.

#look i just have questions that i don't know how to phrase out #but um let's just say that if i turn out to not be completely cis #and find out that i happen to blur my own definitions of identity in that regard #i wouldn't be too surprised #anyways all i know for certain is that she/they pronouns rock for me and that i would look fucking sexy in barong tagalog + filipinianas #yes a mixture of those two #also been thinking a lot about sexuality shit recently and i am like 100% sure that i'm bi #i guess i just lean towards girls more? like by 5% or smth #i dunno i just find them easier to handle in terms of emotional connection #dudes are still cool tho #AND WE'LL SAVE THE ASEXUALITY CRISIS FOR ANOTHER FUCKING DAY WOO THAT WILL TAKE A WHILE- #anyways how y'all doin #personal shit

[rosesradio]

reading the lesbian masterdoc and it’s kinda bonkers but also i feel like i might be a lesbian

#hm. hm ??? #all this 'you may have fictional crushes on guys but the idea of a real guy makes your stomach churn' #and 'your trauma with men can completely turn you off them' and 'projecting attraction can feel like a chore' hello?? #i'm not about to change my identity or anything bc i feel comfortable being bi and just having weird feelings about dating anyone just-- #it's interesting #also i don't 100% agree with the doc respectfully bc it makes it look like there's only straight or gay. bi was mentioned off-handedly once #it didn't feel very genuine if that makes sense #again. hm #not tkk

[coffeecatcraze]

Charlie missing the literal trail of angel blood and discarded Exorcist uniform because she's so focused on helping an injured person is actually so adorable. The clues about Vaggie's identity were right there, and she didn't even notice because her priority was helping someone she's never even seen before.

It's safe to assume this isn't the first time Charlie's gone out after an extermination to try and help injured demons, but it is probably the first time someone has actually appreciated her kindness. She looks genuinely surprised when Vaggie replies to her unsolicited help with a smile. Charlie always tries so hard for everyone around her, and this might be the first time someone has thanked her for it. And Vaggie? She was just maimed by a comrade for showing mercy, and left in Hell by her boss to suffer for the rest of eternity. That's two people she knew and likely trusted turning on her without a second thought. Then this complete stranger shows up and presents her with an unsolicited act of kindness, no questions asked. When Charlie first goes to bandage her eye, she tenses up like she's expecting to have to fight to defend herself, but it turns out this demon has just been running around looking for people she can help.

Charlie's kindness has always been replied to with dismissal at best; Vaggie showed kindness and was immediately punished for it. These are two kindhearted women who give everything they have to the people they love and don't ask for anything in return. The basis of their meeting was that they see each other's kindness and respond to it with their own. Charlie came into the alley looking for someone to help, and she didn't hesitate to put a bandage over where Vaggie's eye just got gouged out; Vaggie, instead of brushing Charlie's good deeds aside like everyone else in Hell, smiled at her with probably the first show of genuine gratitude she's ever been given; in response to that unusual gesture of appreciation, Charlie immediately decided to keep helping her (and had a very distinct flash of bi panic over this nice and very pretty girl with a cute smile); and they fell in love.

Their relationship was built on that very first moment. Charlie trusted Vaggie with everything, loved and supported her unconditionally, and didn't keep any secrets; Vaggie kept one huge secret for fear of losing and hurting Charlie, and to compensate for that disparity of honesty, devoted her whole self to protecting Charlie and turning her dreams into reality, no matter the cost to herself. The absolute love and devotion between these two is something so precious and beautiful, and we don't talk about that enough. <3

#hazbin hotel #charlie morningstar #vaggie #chaggie #i love them so much #<3 #chaggie shippers unite! <3