#but the deeper causes here need to be examined to understand how this problem manifested and what can be done to fix it

[salt-baby]

yes, doctors suck, but also "the medical ethics and patient interaction training doctors receive reinforces ableism" and "the hyper competitive medical school application process roots out the poor, the disabled, and those who would diversify the field" and "anti-establishment sentiment gets applications rejected and promotions requests denied, weeding out the doctors on our side" and "the gruesome nature of the job and the complete lack of mental health support for medical practitioners breeds apathy towards patients" and "insurance companies often define treatment solely on a cost-analysis basis" and "doctors take on such overwhelming student loan debt they have no choice but to pursue high paying jobs at the expense of their morals" are all also true

none of this absolves doctors of the truly horrendous things they say and do to patients, but it's important to acknowledge that rather than every doctor being coincidentally a bad person, there is something specific about this field and career path that gives rise to such high prevalence of ableist attitudes

and I WILL elaborate happily

#theres so much that contributes to this #and its such a traditional field that any change takes ten years to take effect even when its not as controversial as disability rights #ive no lost love for doctors as a whole #but the deeper causes here need to be examined to understand how this problem manifested and what can be done to fix it #disability #chronic illness #ableism #premed #medicine #salt baby talks

[nevertheless-moving]

Pop Star Wars AU: Waking

Drabble set in this au which I wrote way back a few weeks ago.

Back then, I had only recently decided to look up my tumblr password for a third attempt at being an appreciative fandom community member instead of just trying to think really hard at internet strangers, and maybe shout into the void a little. (But there’s like, several people here now??? How did you even find me on the internet? )

Anyway I have since learned how to spell Anakin’s name and insert links. Also that if you resize your window while typing directly into tumblr everything disappears.

Self Indulgent Crack Pop Star Wars Time Travel Fixit (star wars au no 3):

After several years of exile in the Jundland Wastes, Ben Kenobi had not quite finished mentally unpacking the decades of mistakes, grief, and failure that had led him to the desert. It was the work of a lifetime, and some days were harder than others. But after several forays in and out of alcoholism, spice addiction, and every other form of geographically-accessible self-destruction, he could at least say that some days were easier. 

The process was no doubt made more difficult by the abject solitude. Unlike the chaotic years that constituted the fall of the Republic, he had all too much time to think, and no one around to share his thoughts with. He closed his eyes in the dark of his hut, thoughts drifting between past and future. 

The past was as ugly and lovely as ever. The larger future didn’t look much better, but he could find some joy in the thought of tomorrow and fresh bantha milk when the herd roamed near. Owen was always much less begrudging of his presence when he came with an offering, and Beru would likely invite him to stay for noon meal where he would share in fresh cheese as Luke rambled about his plans to fix-up a junked speeder bike.

The thought of Luke’s happiness at the treat allowed him enough peace of mind to meditate more deeply.

He carefully broke off a piece of unfair-bitterness from his larger loving-grief. The bitterness he released into the force. The grief he turned over and soothed until its edges dissolved. He accepted it, now smoother if not smaller, laying it to rest alongside his hard-earned wisdom and unfinished poetry.

Tired, but fractionally lighter, Ben Kenobi drifted to sleep.

He opened his eyes to the first rays of daylight peeking in his temple chambers.

The room was intimately familiar. For a few years they were Ashoka’s, on the rare occasion she found herself temple-side and in want of privacy but not complete solitude. For a solid decade before her, the chambers were Anakin’s, though he was quick enough to accept the common room couch when Ashoka entered their life. And before that...they were his. That was his model rocket on the shelf, and his astronomical mobile hanging from the ceiling, and his robes scattered on the floor, though they hadn’t been arranged as such in this room since his apprenticeship with Qui-Gon. He sat up. 

Glad he had put energy into meditation last night, he used the lingering clarity of mind to try and work through possible explanations. 

Vivid Dream? No a quick pinch to his inner elbow debunked that, as well as the fact that the morning taste in his mouth was more the minty tang of denti-cleaner, rather than the saltiness of dried meat which he had grown accustomed to.

Hallucinogenic mushroom flashback? Possible, though it still wouldn’t explain the detail of physical sensations he felt, running his hand from the temple-spun linens on his bed to the warm-carved wood of his bedside table. He stood and did a perfect forward flip in place. Shockingly his knees didn’t ache at impact, but a drug induced hallucination of this intensity would have some sort of impact on his equilibrium, and he felt perfectly balanced, at least physically.

Force vision seemed most likely. Sinking into cross-legged meditation, he gradually lowered his mental shields. There was no whisper of Vader or Palpatine anywhere near Hutt space at this time, so the risk of reaching out was both manageable and necessary. Rather than the pure energy he personally associated with intense visions, he felt gradients of light, echoing ripples of emotions, and the unique solidity of force-imbued stone walls.

Heart beginning to race as reality set in, Ben concluded that he was, indeed, in the Jedi temple on Courascant. Even if he had suffered a complete psychotic break, his force sense couldn’t lie with such crystal clear detail. Confused unreality mixed with images of the past and future, sure. But this was the temple. It just was. 

He couldn’t make sense of it. Even if he had somehow been found, drugged, and transported to the heart of the empire, the rooms as he sensed them didn’t exist anymore. The contents were lost or burnt, the stone walls destroyed and rebuilt into a wing of the Imperial Palace.

Obi-Wan sank deeper into the force and reached out further, searching for he answers. In general, the force felt light, the shroud of the darkside was a hazy irritation in the distance, not a smothering blanket. The manifold wounds in the force formed by senseless war and destruction were absent. Also gone were the tang of grief and loss that he had begun to associate with the temple’s signature even before- even before the purge.

The temple was also full to the brim with tens of thousands of lights in the living force. He reached out to them incredulously, nudging many just to feel a living, sentient response. The last time he remembered feeling so many Jedi all in the temple at the same time was...well, when he still lived in this room. The nearest living force sensitive presence was achingly familiar, though notably and unquestioningly living. He could feel the presence moving nearer and retreated, pulling himself fully back into his body.

The only explanation that fit was that he had suddenly, miraculously, inexplicably traveled back in time. 

He half ran to his closet, opening the door with a yank to reveal a full length mirror. A once-familiar, 25-year old padawan stared back with visible shock. Of course his knees didn’t hurt, this body hadn’t yet been broken and abused by knighthood, war, and Tatooine. His hands examined the smooth chin, the unwrinkled forehead, and even the terrible, terrible haircut.

Obi-wan startled at a knock at his door, freezing in place. 

“Padawan?” Came Qui-Gon Jinn’s voice softly, “I don’t intend to pull you out of meditation prematurely, but is there a particular reason you were sprawling over the temple this morning? You startled me somewhat. To be perfectly honest, I think you might have alarmed a few people around the temple, I’ve already received messages from council telling me to reign in my padawan before he hurts himself.” 

Qui-Gon sounded more amused than reprimanding, and he paused, clearly waiting for an answer. 

Obi-Wan’s jaw locked up. What could he say? How could he even to begin to explain what had happened? He sank to floor, head pressed to the ground and tears silent streaming down his face. All he could do was offer to the force were words, the feelings could come later Thank you. Thank youThankyouthankyouTHANKYOU. 

For whatever reason, the force had granted him a second chance. Regardless if it was intended as punishment, gift, or inexplicable chance, he would build a better future than the one he left behind. 

“Padawan?” Qui-Gon knocked again, sounding concerned, “Are you alright? If you don’t answer I’m going to have to come in there.”

And all at once he had flipped back to not enough time to think and too many people needing his attention.

Obi-Wan managed to open his mouth to call out some meaningless assurance, intent on gaining more time to process the fantastical situation. Much to his surprise, what came out was a strangled, keening sob. Qui-Gon burst through the door. 

Obi-Wan realized, with a little embarrassment, that he was curled up practically into a ball on the floor, tears streaming in a shocking waste of water. It was probably not the most dignified, nor the most reassuring position for Qui-Gon to walk in on. 

Qui-Gon rushed to his side, pulling him up by the shoulders to frantically look him over. “What happened?” he demanded, “Are you hurt? Did something go wrong while you were meditating and you were trying to reach out for help?”

Obi-Wan smiled at the barrage of questions. He had almost forgotten that on the rare occasions when Qui-Gon’s perfect Jedi serenity broke, he became somewhat counterproductively intense. 

“I’m alright, Master,” he tried to say, but what came out was more of a croaking, “MNNrlerR.” 

This predictably, only increased Qui-Gon’s concern.

To Obi-Wan’s deep consternation, he was dragged by Qui-Gon to the healer’s wing. He remained quiet during the examination, not wanting to risk whatever was compromising his ability to speak. It could be readjusting to his younger body, or a manifestation of the admittedly great emotional shock he was still experiancing. Or simple lack of practice- it had been several weeks since he had last heard the sound of his own voice, from a certain point of view.

After finding no physical cause for concern, Master Vyr asked Qui-Gon to wait outside.

“Padawan Kenobi?” The Tortugan healer asked gently. “Your Master seems quite insistent that something is wrong. Would you like to discuss what the problem seems to be?”

Obi-Wan cleared his throat and was relieved when his voice came out smooth and under his control, “I’m alight, Master. I apologize for disruption. I experienced a... particularly strong vision when I woke up this morning, and temporarily lost control over myself. I’m already feeling more stable. I believe I simply need to meditate on what I’ve seen. My master unfortunately came in while I was dealing with some of the emotional aftermath.

“I see,” Vyr responded. “Did you experience this vision before or after your expansive foray into the force? I understand a surprising swath of the temple felt your presence press against them this morning.”

“I reached out after,” Obi-Wan admitted. “My vision was...particularly dark. I felt the need to ground myself with the presence of other Jedi. I’ll make certain to apologize to anyone I may have startled.”

Eventually he was cleared with the strict instruction to stick with shallow meditation for the next few days as well as a strong recommendation to seek out Master Yoda, Sifo-Dryfas, or one of the other Master known to experience visions. 

Qui-Gon and Obi-Wan walked back to their quarters together in a peaceful quiet. It wasn’t until the door clicked behind them that Qui-Gon rounded on his padawan.

“What vision could possibly have left you in such distress?”

Obi-Wan walked to the kitchenette to make tea, stalling before answering. “You have always told me to stay focused on the present, Master”

Qui-Gon frowned. “Yes, however this...vision seems to have altered you somehow. You are grieved by it.”

“Yes. But what I grieve may never come to pass.” 

It won’t come to pass. I might not know his every tool, but I do know Sideous’s biggest secret, and I WILL stop him.

“Will you not tell me what you saw?” Qui-Gon asked, sounding somewhat hurt.

Obi-Wan poured the hot water carefully, feeling torn. If he told Qui-Gon everything... would he believe him? Perhaps, eventually but...what would become of Anakin, still just a boy? And the moment he knew of Palpatine’s evil...he knew Qui-Gon. He would favor the direct approach, underestimating the sheer breadth of the trap the sith had laid (Obi-Wan himself lived through it and only began to understand long after it had closed).

“I saw...a great shadow fall over the republic.”

He sat at the table, relishing in the simple pleasure of pouring a cup for Qui-Gon and himself from a shared pot.

Qui-Gon cradled his mug in his hands. “I see. Nothing specific?”

“Your death. At the hands of a tool of darkness. You ran ahead...” Obi-Wan took a scorching sip to stop himself. “It was foolish. Unnecessary. And I was forced to fight alone without you.

Qui-Gon set the tea down to stroke his beard in thought. “Well. I have no great desire to die. While I make no promises, I will endeavor to avoid leaving you behind ‘unnecessarily.’”

“Thank you,” Obi-Wan replied, over sincere. 

They drank in peaceful silence. It was interrupted by a shrill noise from Qui-Gon’s comm.

“I’ve just received a personal request from the Chancellor to immediately assist in negotiations with a Trade Federation blockade around Naboo. Are you feeling up to it?”

“You know, I think I am”

#star wars #pop star wars au #my au #time travel #star wars au no 3

[tsukuna]

Side by Side

Summary: You wandered into Red Grave City to warn the “Legendary Devil Hunter” of a certain… negative shift in the area’s energy. It was an energy you knew to be demonic, and it grew stronger by the day. But on your way to meet with the intermediary, a noisy bird caught your attention. A noisy bird that would bring you to a frail man on the brink of falling apart.

Rated M • Female Reader • Before the Events of DMC V• Under the Cut • Part 1  •  Part 3

“People who come asking for demon extermination… most of them tend to either lie or exaggerate,” Dante began slowly, fiddling with his fingers. “I’m not that petty to get mad about it every single time. Lie if you want to, I’ll kill that demon regardless…” The devil hunter paused. “But you’ve got to pick better names for stories you come up with, you know?”

A deep shiver went down your spine causing you to flinch. This aura is overwhelming. From the moment you entered the building, you could smell that the man wasn’t purely human, but you never would’ve guessed this was how strong his demonic side was. From your peripheral, it appeared V was feeling the same chills as you.

“It’s fine if you doubt me,” V said after a moment. “It will become apparent once Redgrave is demonised.”

You released your tension through a sigh as Dante seemed to calm himself back down, though you couldn’t help but notice his expression of disbelief. This demon--Vergil--must have been one he’s encountered before.There was little point in speculating though, you did what you came to do and delivered the warning as did V.

Turning around, you noticed him staring at a picture of a woman on Dante’s desk. You quirked your brow as he grimaced and walked away from it with a “tch.” What a strange man.

“Thank you Dante,” you turned to the Devil Hunter once more and gave a short bow. His blue eyes only glanced at you before he nodded in response. “Let’s be off then,” you quietly said while taking V by the arm.

A brisk wind blew past as you exited the building. You shuddered and rubbed your arms to warm them up. V placed a hand on your shoulder. It was done a bit awkwardly, but there was a warmth and comfort to it that made your expression soften. “I’m staying here in Redgrave,” you declared.

“As am I,”  he reciprocated.

“We should stick together then, hm?” You laughed, “Or is that too forward of me?” The suggestion did seem to genuinely surprise the man.

“I don’t think I’m particularly great company.”

“I’m not sure that I know what good company is anyways,” you shrugged.

“You can obviously see that I’m the best fucking company,” and with that, Griffon was once again nestled in your hair. You reached up and used your fingers to ruffle his feathers a bit. Huh, they’re actually quite soft.

“Yes Griffon, I am aware that you are the epitome of camaraderie.” Even in the dark, you could see V roll his eyes.

“See, Shakespeare? This is the type of compliment you should be giving m--”

V shoved his cane in the bird’s mouth. “Not a chance.” He then said your name. The amount of people who ever knew your actual name could be counted on your fingers, so your heart lurched a bit at the sound. “Let’s stick together.”

“Mm,” you agreed. “It’s a shit place, but I did manage to scrounge up some extra cash and afford a motel the other day.” Griffon made a sound as close to a whistle as his strange beak  could make and promptly received a flick in the eye from you.

“What the fuck was that for!” He squawked.

“Oh you know goddamn know what that was for,” you pointed your finger in his face. A candid chuckle came from V, and it warmed your cheeks up. “Amazing, I didn’t realize you could be that cute,” you patted him on the back. Before he could respond, you began to walk towards the motel. “It’s this way,” you beckoned. And so he followed. Even Shadow decided to manifest, perhaps even shape-shifting, demon cats like to stretch their legs.

The trip wasn’t a long one and you were soon unlocking the door. Griffon and Shadow busted in before you could even step past the threshold.

“What a luxury!” the chatterbox exclaimed. You were thoroughly amused watching him fly in circles, even Shadow began to circle for a comfy spot on the bed.

“Welcome to my humble, temporary abode. Considering that this place probably isn’t… the most cared for, I understand if you want to keep the shoes on. I have a feeling you’re a little sensitive about mess considering the burger situation earlier today.”

“While I don’t relish being called sensitive, I suppose you’re not wrong,” V sighed. You also realized that the room was rather small, big enough to fit only the bed and a little bathroom with a cramped shower. There wasn’t even floor space.

“Aaand it looks like we’ll all be sharing the bed,” you looked away sheepishly. “But first, I’m going to shower. I reek like residual demon blood from holding you.”

“I’ll go after then,” he nodded. “I probably smell worse than you.”

“Yeah, you absolutely do,” you glanced over your shoulder. Judging by the eruption of laughter from Griffon, someone found your comment to be amusing. You began undressing as you made your way to the bathroom, eventually shutting the door behind you.

The hot water hitting your skin eased all the weird feelings inside of you. This was the longest amount of time you spent with someone in years. Not only was that a cause of unease, but V was also an eccentric character. There were moments where he was near impossible to read--not to mention his connection to the demonic entities and a deep understanding of this emerging problem.

You ended up sitting down as you worked on washing your hair, but you decided against showering too long since you had another person waiting to clean up. After toweling off, you changed into a t-shirt and shorts that you luckily brought. You knew once your head hit that pillow, you’d be out for the night. A lot had happened. “You’re free to shower V,” you let him know upon walking out of the bathroom. He observed you with a strange look on his face, which made you realize that you were holding the dagger from your boot in your hands. “Ah, I keep this on me for obvious reasons.”

“It’s quite intricate,” V noted as he began to get up, and he was right. It was ornate with a hilt of blue and gold. “I’ll try to not be too long.” You waved him off and jumped onto the lumpy mattress, being careful not to puncture the bed. It shocked you that both Shadow and a chatty bird like Griffon appeared to be sound asleep. That’s kinda adorable. You took your half of the bed, tucking yourself in and getting as comfy as you could in that room. Consciousness left you swiftly once your eyes closed.

You found yourself lying in a patch of dewy grass, groggy and with a pulsing headache. Turning your head, you saw vicious flames destroying a beautiful home. “What a shame,” you murmured as you slowly rose up from the ground and massaged your temples. You hugged your knees and watched the dance of orange and red with the sounds of crackling. Funny how fire was so utterly destructive, yet full of the warmth you reluctantly craved.

A scent assaulted your nostrils. It was a scent that could only mean demons. You whipped your head around to find the source. There were demons of bone, carrying scythes… and there was a boy with white hair getting surrounded by them. “Oh shit!” You began to sprint as fast as your body could take you and began to pull paper talismans from your pocket.

The scythe was coming down and even from a distance, you could see the boy’s face full of fear. “No fucking way,” you yelled and slapped down the seal. The demon’s body concaved and turned to dust. You took the little boy by the shoulders and searched for wounds. A bloodied cut on his forehead stained some of his silver hair. You wore bandages around your hands to hide some scarring, but what did it matter at that moment. Tearing it off, you quickly got into taking care of the bleeding. Luckily it was small and quick to heal up and away. He also didn’t appear to have any other physical injuries. You picked up his little, shivering body. “We have to go,” you urged and brushed his bangs back.

“I can’t go,” he sobbed out, though you could see he was straining to remain strong. “My mom and brother are going to come out. I have to wait for them.” You turned once more to the house. It was consumed by fire and black smoke. There was no way anyone was coming out of there.

“We need to get you to safety okay? I’ll go grab them after I ward the demons away from you, okay?” The boy’s blue eyes, stained with fear, bored into you until he finally nodded. “I’ll keep you here so you can see.” And with that, you grabbed your dagger and sliced open your palm. You gently placed it into the dirt and began to recite words from a language long forgotten. Rays of divine light began to surround the boy.

But it would not be finished. Your body collapsed before you could close the gap, and you could see demons lurking to exploit that whole. You attempted to reach forward and finish what you started. The boy called out for you, afraid of all that was going on around him. Your fingertips nearly touched until your limbs began to disintegrate into puffs of dark clouds.

“Live.”

Your eyes snapped open and your chest pounded. What an awful fuckin’ dream. You examined yourself, relieved to see that all your body was fully intact.

“What is it?” A jolt of adrenaline shot through you until you remembered you were not alone in the room.

“Oh... V. You scared me,” you mumbled sheepishly, “I forgot you were there.” You flopped back down onto the pillow. He offered a groggy apology that you waved away. “Not your fault, I’m just a little on edge from a dream.” You buried yourself deeper into the covers but couldn’t stop shivering, so you slowly inched closer to the inside of the bed.

V, who noticed the movements, looked at you strangely. “I’m really fucking cold,” you explained, slightly embarrassed. “Just trying to mooch a little more of your body heat without throwing myself onto you.”

“I know a sure way for you two to get warmer real quick,” Griffon mockingly crowed from on top of the bed frame. You swiftly reached your hand up and plucked out one of his feathers. “Shit! I’m just saying!” He pecked your hand away so you couldn’t grab another feather.

“Just be quiet already,” V grumbled. There was a pause in the room. “I don’t care if you get closer,” he eventually offered in the darkness of the room. It was an offer you took immediately and soon enough, the two of you were packed side to side under the blanket. Both of you were stiff from the unfamiliar contact, but if you were honest with yourself, it was nice. Sharing the warmth with another person was something you always yearned for as a child. Perhaps Griffon understood the sentiment because he quickly plopped himself between your heads.

Lucky for you, you were still exhausted, so the awkwardness of the situation didn’t prevent you from passing out yet again.

There were no more dreams that night. You woke to dried drool on your chin, messy hair, and V sitting up and reading his book.

“Rise and shine princess!” Griffon chirped.

“Ugh, please don’t give me a headache upon waking up,” you groaned, earning a cackle from the demon. After stretching in bed for a bit, you finally stood up.  “I can already sense that I look disgusting, I’m gonna clean up.”

It didn’t take long for you to do the basics of brushing hair, washing your face off, and brushing your teeth. What did take time was re-bandaging select areas of your body--a hand, a calf, your abdomen--lest you get even stranger looks from people. It was impossible for V to have not seen though while you undressed the night before and while you slept. In fact, you took note that he was actually considering the bandages and clothes you were wearing, as if he noticed something.

“Do you have something to ask me about?” He considered your question for an irritatingly long time. “Just come out with it,” you rolled your eyes. “I don’t care.”

“You have a lot of scarring and markings all along your body,” V commented.

“Indeed I do.”

“I don’t understand why you hide it,” he shrugged.

“I’d prefer not to attract the stares of others with scars and tattoos that mark a treacherous past.”

“Scars indicate power and strength.”

You couldn’t contain your burst of laughter. “If only others thought like you! With the amount of shit I got going on, no one would try to fuck with me!” V let a smirk out as well. “But hey, how is your body feeling today?”

“Weak, but that’s normal,” he clearly spited that fact.

Making your way closer, you put a hand on his chest. “Your energy is a lot more stable than it was when I found you. But it could use some support. Can I help?”

“I’ve always loathed the help of others. I hate this sense of powerlessness, but I don’t wish to die,” V stated. You took that as the go-ahead. With a deep breath, you once more began to pour pieces of yourself into the man. The stone within the ring you treasured shifted from blue to white, as it was so intricately intertwined with your life.

You could feel V shift underneath you. “I’m sorry, this must be uncomfortable for you.”

“It’s okay. It doesn’t hurt, and I will do what it takes to survive. I will endure whatever till that demon is gone.” You hummed in understanding.

“Your body should be good for now,” you pulled away.

“Thank you,” V said softly while retying his shirt.

“Hey, thanks from the whole gang! If Shakespeare dies, we die too!” By the grimace on V’s face, you presumed that Griffon revealed a bit more than he would’ve liked.

“Well, along with the rules of the quid pro quo I laid out, I suppose I should say something that my life is linked to, yeah?” Those dark green eyes looked at you inquisitively. “If this ring here shatters,” you put your hand out to him so he could see, “I’m donezo.” The sentence came out rather matter-of-factly and without feeling despite it being about your demise. “Aaand if you wish to know more about that, you gotta let me know something,” you winked.

“I’ll let you know when I think of something,” V replied competitively.

“You two or oh so interesting and all, but what hijinks are we up to today?” Griffon butted in.

“What does the little chicken wish to do today?”

He narrowed his eyes at you but ignored the jab. “Those cheesy circle things,” he declared.

“Pizza?” You tilted your head.

“Yeah, that! Pizza!”

You turned out your pockets to see how much money was left. It was a couple dollars and some rogue coins. “It appears that we’ll have to go ‘earn’ some money again.”

“You mean fucking some more people up?” The little bird seemed quite excited at the prospect.

“There’s that, but there’s probably some less damaging routes we can go.”

“Boo.” Griffon said before dissipating.

“We’ll need to find a shitty bar first,” you told V and began tying your boots back on.

“Why a bar?” He didn’t seem to relish the idea.

“I know they’re full of scumbags, but those scumbags are also dumbasses who don’t know how to keep their money safe. Trust me,” you added.

“So you’re proposing that we steal,” V replied skeptically.

“Oh I’m sorry, is that too lowly for you?” The man’s expression tightened at the taunt.

“Whatever,” he waved away whatever argument was about to begin. “Lead us and do what you will.”

The two of you walked out of the room back into the sun. The search for a trashy hangout was afoot. Small talk ensued between you and V, but nothing all that engaging. It ended up falling into a silence--not that you minded. The walk wasn’t too long anyways, cesspool bars were always aplenty in the back alleys of cities.

“That one.” You pointed to an “establishment” called The Cat Trap. It featured the name in neon pink lights and the sexy silhouette of a woman. The face V made was if you just shoved a sour lemon in his mouth. “There will be plenty of disgusting, drunk men to take from. My only hope is that there’s enough money to justify entering such a filthy place.”

A deep, dramatic sigh came from him, “Let’s just get this over with so we can eat.”

“Give me your arm. It’ll look better if we appear to be together.”

“Are we not together,” he questioned.

“Shut up,” you punched him in the shoulder. “You know I meant together together.”

V gave you his arm with a sigh, which you promptly looped in your own. “You fade into the background and take money however you can,” you instructed. “Maybe even use bits of Shadow to help out.”

He looked to you then began to lead the way in. Lo and behold, it was a dimly lit, dirty looking bar. It was a little surprising how many people were there despite it being daytime. How lucky.

Almost immediately, a man who reeked of alcohol stumbled towards you. “Hello, there sweety. Looking for a good time?” He gave you a wink with his already half-lidded eyes.

“I’m sorry,” you gave a half-assed apology, “I’m not here alone.”

“I don’t see anyone with you,” it was gross watching him look you up and down.

“V, come over!” He drew towards you with a confused expression. “As you can see, I’m with my boyfriend.” A total lie, I’ve never had a boyfriend.

“Boyfriend? That scrawny guy?” he slurred rather loudly and tried to size him up. “How about you come with me instead, sexy? I can show you a much better time.” The patron groped your ass. You gave him the sweetest smile you could before decking him square in the nose. It made an audible crunch and you looked in disgust at his blood on the bandages around your hand.

“How vile,” you scowled and unwrapped yourself, dropping the dirty cloth on the man. “You should feel truly blessed that I didn’t break your hand off.” You juxtaposed the deadpan tone with a pleasantness. “Let us be off, darling,” you said while turning on your heel and taking his hand.

“Hah!” Griffon burst out into laughter once the coast was clear for him to re-emerge. “Who knew you were such a hardass. You should teach Shakespeare a lesson or two!”

“I would rather not kill him.” V made no effort to hide his glare. “I jest, I jest!” You threw your hands up in submission. “How much money did you get though?”

He shuffled through an array of bills. “Enough.”

“Let’s go get this tweety bird his pizza then.” Pleased by your response, Griffon decided to perch on your shoulder. All of you agreed upon getting takeout instead of sitting in an establishment, and you were grateful that it was take-and-go at the shop you found.

The group of you found a deserted alley and rested against the brick wall. “The two of you probably want to eat first, huh?” With a sigh, you opened the box and fed Griffon with one hand and Shadow with the other. It was… cute--other than the demon cat’s slobber getting all over your hands.

“You’re far too nice to them,” V seemed to chastise you.

With a shrug, you responded, “I’ve always loved animals. They aren’t nearly as shitty as people, even demonic pets like these little guys.” Were it not for the bite of pizza in his mouth, Griffon surely would have complained that he was called ‘little.’ “Alright, it’s my turn to eat.” You made sure to thoroughly wipe your hands before digging into what was left. “Oh yeah, sorry for calling you my boyfriend,” you said between bites.

“Can’t say I particularly cared. Unfortunately it didn’t keep him away.”

“Mhm,” you hummed through a mouthful of food.

The day ended unceremoniously, nothing of consequence happened and the night went much like the night before. Only a couple days passed until the Qliphoth began to take root in Redgrave, and May 16th finally came. It was time to regroup with Dante.

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Classical Catholic Education

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Understanding Classical Catholic Education

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Preface (below)

Introduction As we begin our study of the classical liberal arts, we will first consider the philosophy behind this ancient system of learning. We will see that modern educational philosophies are not alternatives to the ancient system but errors leading men away from sound philosophy and ultimately, true happiness.

The Arts in Ancient Israel In this second lesson we will connect two important points in the history of the classical liberal arts curriculum. We will consider the development of the arts after Moses up to the time of the development of the famous Greek schools.

The Arts in Ancient Greece In this third lesson we will consider the liberal arts curriculum as it continues to develop among the Greeks, demonstrating that the wisdom of the Greeks was in their honoring the ancient wisdom of Egypt and Israel. We must begin by recalling the testimony of Scripture that Solomon’s wisdom filled the nations. We will see that, while many modern scholars admire the Greeks yet despise the ancient religious traditions, the Greeks were themselves eager to preserve and practice the wisdom of the ancients.

The Arts in Ancient Rome In this fourth lesson we will consider the liberal arts curriculum as it continues to develop among the Romans, demonstrating that the Romans added the language of the curriculum and the art of Rhetoric. Once again, the essence of the liberal arts curriculum (the goal of which is true Wisdom) is not changed, but the beauty of the program is enhanced and the systematizing of yet another part is completed.

The Arts in the Hellenistic World In this fifth lesson, we consider the inter-testamental history so as to rightly understand the relationship between classical liberal arts education and Jewish society around the time of the life of Our Lord.

The Arts in the First Century In this lesson, we continue to follow the development of the classical liberal arts in the early Christian Church, and see the foundation of classical Catholic education.

The Arts in the Early Middle Ages In this lesson we will consider the next important page in the history of the classical liberal arts: education in the medieval world.

The Arts in the High Middle Ages Between the 5th and 9th centuries, Boethius, Cassiodorus, Alcuin and others gathered and preserved the wisdom of the Patristic age, but also sowed the seeds that would give birth to the age to come. The developments of this era were caused not so much by the conscious effort of the period’s scholars to bring in something new, but were forced upon them by the new challenges of the spread of Christianity through Europe. Most importantly, they highlighted the centrality of Dialectic in Christian education and set the stage for the flowering of Scholasticism.

The Renaissance & Reformation In this lesson, we will jump ahead to the first great assault made on classical Catholic education. This assault took place over a period of time, from the 14th through the 17th centuries and is contained within two events identified by historians as the Renaissance and the Reformation.

The Scientific Revolution In this lesson, we will look at the Scientific Revolution, which like the Protestant Reformation, is another manifestation of the dark side of the Renaissance. In this lesson we will get at the core principles of the Scientific Revolution, which have caused great confusion in the Church, have provided for several embarrassing moments in Church history and continue to cripple Christian people today.

American Public Education After the establishment of a federal government in the United States, the ability to collect taxes gave educators and lawmakers a means of ramping up this mission. In Europe, the increase in secular power that followed the Reformation inspired rulers to create public school systems for the indoctrination of children in the interest of social obedience.

The Dawn of Modern Education In this lesson we will look deeper into the philosophical and historical context of the American public school system to understand how it evolved from a Protestant endeavor to create an anti-Catholic American citizenry into a secular machine for cultural change.

Catholic Schools in America   The history of Catholic schools in America is only understood when we consider the schools in light of the history and experiences of the Church in America.

The Classical Liberal Arts Academy In this course, we have covered the history of education from the ancient Egyptians through to the Catholic schools of the 20th century. In this lesson we will look at the misguided efforts some have made to “repair the ruins” and the founding of the Classical Liberal Arts Academy.

The Goal of Classical Catholic Education What you should realize at this point is that our challenge in the Classical Liberal Arts Academy is not one of discovery or invention, but a challenge of restoring what was lost. Nevertheless, we must begin with a careful examination of the goal of the classical liberal arts curriculum.

The Means to True Happiness We learned that this true happiness is available to all human beings, but is available in heaven, not necessarily on earth. On earth, we have four objectives to focus on that will enable us to enjoy God forever in heaven.

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Preface

We live at an amazing moment in history.  Society is violently divided and bring driven further apart by political controversies.  Technology is making schooling and publishing obsolete.  Catholic schools are closing, parishes are being consolidated, religious communities are selling their empty facilities, families are failing to raise children who remain in the Church.  Yet, in the midst of this decline, the restoration of classical Catholic education has begun in the Classical Liberal Arts Academy.

I was an ex-Catholic teenager who felt the distress of being left to the world.  I knew that the teachers and religious leaders around me were not sincerely interested in my happiness, and that I needed to find answers for myself.  I had a girl I wanted to marry, but I had no idea how to do anything as a Christian adult.

Christian churches, schools and families, are not supposed to produce lost teenagers like me, and Christian children cannot afford to learn the way I did—most of them never will.  The problem modern Christian teenagers face is not a joke, or “just the way it is”.  It is a systemic failure of Christian society.

My long and expensive search for answers led me to classical Catholic education.  I’ve been working on this research, all day, every day, for over 25 years.  In this book, I’m sharing lessons I wrote for a course for Christian parents in 2009—and I am sharing this book with Christian parents who want to save their children’s souls.

Classical Catholic Education

The greatest challenge Christian parents face today is that they have no access to the history that I share in this book.  This ignorance has left them vulnerable to false teaching by a “classical education” movement that is a living example of sophistry—pretending to be wise to get money.  We have to see through this and move forward with real, classical Catholic education.

We can fix these problems. We don’t need to become experts or earn degrees to to give our children the education they need.  Parents don’t need to become teachers because the teachers have already given us what we need.  We need to work together, as parents, to help our own children learn the truth, which their souls will recognize. Let’s get that work started—there’s no time to lose.

God bless,

William C. Michael Classical Liberal Arts Academy www.classicalliberalarts.com

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Arcturian Group 31 5 2020 MAY 31,2020

Welcome to our message, dear readers.

Many at this time are in need of support and comfort as they experience situations seemingly generated by world conditions but which in fact are expressions of their own consciousness--experiences chosen as necessary for growth or simply the presence of three dimensional energy. Trust that all experiences are facets of a person's spiritual awakening process.  In the bigger picture, there are no accidents.

Most suffering  arises from fear, the belief that everything in ones life must follow certain concepts of how things must be, and if they aren't "bad" things will happen.  Concepts of "rightness" effect relationships, employment, health, and all facets of daily living.  Your media and leaders continue to promote these things not always to cause fear, but because they themselves fear and believe these concepts.  Most of them are completely unaware of the evolutionary process that is  taking place in the world.

Fear locks individuals to a mindset in which they are unable to see, comprehend, or even imagine expanded ideas.  Fear arises from the belief that one is separate from one's good whether that good is needed or wanted.  Those who live from a consciousness of fear are unable to see any way out of personal problems and often turn to crime or violence as a solution.  Fear also may feed a person's thinking and decision making with so many possible negative outcomes that they become frozen, unable to make any move.

It is a normal to experience fear occasionally.  You have all lived many lives where your survival depended upon fear.  These things remain in cellular memory until cleared.  When you experience fear do not deny, resist, or try and make it go away with various techniques, spiritual or otherwise.  Rather acknowledge it as an  important tool but one that you no longer need  in the Light of your new awareness.

You are the Higher Power that so many speak of and pray to and it is time to fully accept this. There is nor has there ever been a  Power somewhere manipulating the strings of human puppets. The days of praying to some faraway male God in the sky,  attending  church or performing  actions and ceremonies in order to please or get God's attention, must end once a person knows the true nature of God.

We are not saying you must never attend some ceremony or go to church if you enjoy these things.  We are saying only to do them with full awareness that they will not nor can they bring you any closer to God than you already are and  in fact your evolved state of consciousness  will add more Light to them.

Most are not yet  spiritually prepared to understand this, but you who are drawn to these messages are. You have moved beyond the religious and metaphysical steps that brought you to where you are spiritually at this time. You have done the work and are prepared to understand that you and all who attain a consciousness of truth are the ones creating the new world, one that resonates on a higher dimensional level.

This is what  ascension is all about, the evolution of world consciousness through the evolution of personal consciousness and never the result of finding the "perfect" politician, guru, friend, teacher, extraterrestrial, prayer, location, or ceremony.

Nothing is going to be exactly as it was before because consciousness is evolving.  You are being told by three dimensional thinkers and those who dislike change that everything must return to the way it was before but this cannot happen because consciousness which forms itself as the outer,  is rapidly integrating higher dimensional frequencies.  People are waking up and beginning to see that indeed the Emperor has no clothes.

Some jobs are going to change or simply disappear.  Try not to see this as a negative thing but rather as  necessary in order for new and better ways to manifest.  Be open to the new in all aspects of life but do not expect changes to come in a moment, for new ideas can only manifest as the consciousness of humanity opens to them. There will be resistance, but  higher and better ways of functioning can and will take place in business, health, politics, religion, education etc. as allowed.

The human mind  is an avenue of awareness  interpreting everything  according to the conditioning  present in individual or collective consciousness. This is why several people may witness the same thing but each will interpret it differently.  Divine Mind contains no conditioning.  IT is infinitely aware only of the Self sustained, Self maintained completeness of ITSELF because nothing else exists.

At some point of every person's evolutionary journey there comes a time at which they must really accept the truth of ONE and that that ONE is the reality of their own being.  They must cease considering truth to be "airy fairy", impractical, and un-attainable, otherwise they can and will not move beyond their present level of awareness by virtue of the fact that they are keeping themselves locked in outgrown state of consciousness.

It is time to fully, completely, and honestly examine your life, your decisions, your choices, and your belief system not with judgement and criticism but rather with the love and understanding that comes from knowing that every person is only capable of living out from their highest attained level of consciousness.

Remember this as actions you may have taken in the past fill you with shame, guilt, or remorse when seen with new insight.  Know that everyone, self included,  is doing the best they can with where they are at. This is how you learn to love yourself which is imperative if you are to accept the reality of  ONEness.  Even the murderer thinks he is somehow making things better.

Examine what you learned, still need to learn, and how you grew from the most painful experiences of your life.  Ask yourself; "What was I believing at that time that made me feel, respond, or act this way?  Do I still believe the same?  In the light of what I now know, are these beliefs true?"  These questions are important tools that only you can use and which can help you become more aware of what you still hold in consciousness.

Nothing you ever do, say, or think can make you more loveable and worthy of good than you already are.  You are expressions of the one Divine Consciousness and nothing can or will ever change that.  If or when emotions of judgement, criticism, and self loathing surface as old energy surfaces, know that it is a sign you are graduating and moving beyond the old concepts and beliefs that created them in the first place and which you have carried in cellular memory for centuries.

Bless all emotions as they arise for they are your teachers and  bless the fact that you understand what is taking place for there remain many going through clearings who do not.  Be grateful as you realize that you are spiritually ready to rid yourself of all that no longer serves your highest good regardless of how physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually uncomfortable the process may be.

There is so much taking place that you are not aware of and are not being told about by the media.  Stop attempting to find answers to everything taking place for the human mind simply cannot give you the answers you seek.  Begin to live out from your true nature, relying upon the fact that completeness lies within and will manifest outwardly as what is needed if allowed.

Take frequent breaks to be silent and rest in the Divinity of your own Being as you go about your day regardless of where you are.  This can be just a moment that only you know about.  Allow your Divine Self to live your life in all the seemingly ordinary activities for all activity is spiritual. There is no such thing as the "profane" versus the "spiritual" as many religions teach.  There is only One Infinite Divine Consciousness expressing ITSELF as infinite form and variety.

We are not saying to throw up your hands while declaring "God is all!" when situations arise that need addressing on a three dimensional level for that would simply be pretending to a state of consciousness not yet attained. We are saying that in these intense times of confusion and fear for so many,  do not lose sight of the fact that the one Omnipresent, Omnipotent, Omniscient Divine Consciousness is and always has been the only power and reality.

Many believe that earth and everything on it is illusion.  Earth, its people, and all forms of life are not and never have been illusion.   It is the false  interpretations of minds conditioned by beliefs of duality and separation that constitute illusion.

Begin to look deeper and see everything through eyes of truth rather than judging by appearances.  Begin to trust that the I of you knows what you need, when you need it,  and how to get it to you.  Some of what you  need may not be pleasant according to three dimensional standards but may be  necessary for spiritual growth.  This is where  trust comes in.

Once you seriously begin a spiritual journey (this choice is often made on a subconscious level)  the journey intensifies and the  "train leaves the station" often going in directions you did not expect or even want.  

You are in physical form at this time because you chose to be here.  You were well aware of the difficulties you would encounter when living in the lower frequencies of the third dimension but you chose to come anyway in order to complete your own journey as well as to add light and assistance to others in a world struggling through the powerful energies of dimensional ascension.

Your moment has arrived and if things are not what you expected personally or globally, allow these concepts to drop away and simply allow, trust, and acknowledge  I AM.

We are the Arcturian Group  

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How to Transform Anger in 4 Steps

by Judy Lief

According to Buddhist psychology, anger is one of the six root kleshas, the conflicting emotions that cause our suffering. Its companions are greed, ignorance, passion, envy, and pride.

Anger can be white hot or freezing cold. Anger can be turned outward to other people, to a particular situation you are stuck with, or to life in general. It can be turned inward, in the form of self-hatred, resentment, or rejection of those parts of yourself that embarrass you or make you feel vulnerable. Anger can cause you to kill; it can lead you to commit suicide.

Anger is fuelled by the impulse to reject, to push away, to destroy. It is associated with the hell realm, a state of intense pain and claustrophobia. That quality of claustrophobia or being squeezed into a corner is also reflected in the origins of the English word anger, whose root means “narrow” or “constricted.”

Anger can be extremely energetic. You feel threatened and claustrophobic, and that painful feeling intensifies until you lash out like a cornered rat. Or it can manifest as a subtle simmering of resentment that you carry along with you always, like a chip on your shoulder.

Like the other kleshas, anger is a part of our makeup. We all have it, but we deal with it very differently, both as individuals and culturally.

Because the experience of anger is so potent, we usually try to get rid of it somehow. One way we try to get rid of it is to stuff it or suppress it, because we are embarrassed to acknowledge or accept that we could be feeling that way. Another way we try to get rid of our anger is by impulsively acting out through violent words or actions, but that only feeds more anger.

Since anger is a natural part of us, we cannot really get rid of it, no matter how hard we try. However, we can change how we relate to it. When we do, we begin to glimpse a quality hidden within this destructive force that is sane and valuable. We can save the baby while we throw out the bathwater.

In Buddhism there are many strategies and practices for dealing with anger. The overall approach is to start with meditation. In the context of formal sitting practice we can begin to understand the energy of anger, as well as the other kleshas, and to make a new relationship with it. On that basis, we can begin to apply this insight in the more challenging environment of day-to-day living.

HOW MINDFULNESS UNDERMINES AGGRESSION

The formal practice of mindfulness is the foundation for exploring the powerful energy of anger. It is hard to deal with anger once it has exploded, which is why meditation practice is such a helpful tool. By slowing down, and by refining our observational powers, we can catch the arising of anger at an earlier stage, before it has a chance to overtake us completely.

The practice of sitting still, breathing naturally, and looking attentively at one’s moment-by-moment experience is in and of itself an antidote to aggression. This is true because anger and other emotional outbursts thrive on being unseen. They thrive on the ability to lurk below the surface of our awareness and pop up whenever they please. So extending the boundary of your awareness takes away the natural habitat that sustains the kleshas.

Through meditation, we learn to tune in to what we are feeling and observe that experience with dispassion and sympathy. The more we can do that in formal mindfulness practice, the less under anger’s iron grip we will be. In turn, the more chance we will be able to transform our relationship to anger in the midst of daily life as well.

Where does anger arise? It is in the mind. So by taming the mind we can establish a strong base for understanding how anger arises in us and how we habitually respond to it. We can see how anger spreads and settles in our body, and how it triggers formulaic dramas about blame and hurt. We can expose our conceptual constructs about anger, our justifications, defensiveness, and cover-ups. On that basis we can go further using the following practice.

THE POISON TREE: A 4-STEP ANGER PRACTICE

One traditional analogy for a progressive, step-by-step approach to dealing with anger and the other kleshas is the poison tree.

How do you deal with a poison tree? The first thing you might do is prune it, to keep it from getting too large or from spreading. But that just keeps it under control. The tree is still there.

However, once the tree is a more manageable size, it might be possible to dig it up and get rid of it completely, which seems to be a slightly better approach.

But just as you are about to do that, you may remember that a doctor once told you that this tree’s leaves and bark have medicinal qualities. You realise that it doesn’t make sense simply to get rid of that tree. It would be better to make use of it.

Finally, according to this story, a peacock comes along, notices the tree, and without further ado, happily gobbles it up. The peacock instantly converts that poison into food.

1. PRUNING THE TREE: REFRAINING FROM INDULGING IN ANGER

The first step is to refrain from speech and actions based on anger. When anger arises, it has usually already taken us over by the time we notice it. The intensity of the emotion and our reaction to it are so tied as to feel almost simultaneous. We are desperate to do something with this anger, either to feed it or to suppress it.

In this step, we refrain from doing anything, no matter how strong the urge to do so may be. The practice is to stay with the experience of anger. We begin on the boundary, with the second-thought level, where we are tempted to add fuel to the flame or try to stomp it out and get rid of it. The practice is to engage in neither of those two strategies. It is to be with our anger without interpreting it or strategising.

Our reactions tend to be so strong and immediate that initially we may not really get to the anger itself. But as our reactivity becomes less heavy-handed, a small, almost miniscule gap opens up between our anger and our reaction. In that gap it is possible for us to be with the anger and at the same time refrain from being caught up in it. We can relate to our anger more purely and simply, without second thoughts.

2. UPROOTING THE TREE: SEEING THROUGH ANGER'S APPARENT SOLIDITY

Once we are able to be with anger with more openness and less judgement, the second step is to look at it more precisely.

When anger arises, we examine it. We ask questions. To what do we attach the label “anger”? Is it a sense perception, a thought, or a feeling? How real is it? How invincible? Is it still? Is it moving? When we try to pin it down, does it slip away? Where does it come from? Where does it live? Where does it go? What are its qualities? Its texture? Its colour? Its shape? What gives anger its power over us?

In this step we examine anger as a simple phenomenon. Where is the anger coming from? What is it aimed at? Is it our fault or is it the fault of someone or something else?

Look as directly as you can. What are anger’s roots? What is feeding it? Go level by level, deeper and deeper. Can you find its root cause?

3. DISTILLING THE MEDICINE: UNCOVERING WISDOM IN THE MIDST OF PAIN

In the third step we contemplate what it is about anger that is harmful and what might be of benefit. How could anger possibly be a form of medicine? If we got rid of our anger what would be lost?

Here the practice is to discern the difference between harmful anger and anger that benefits in some way. Clearly, the mindless expression of anger through words or deeds leads us to harm others and suffer harm ourselves. Yet repressing our anger also causes harm. The anger doesn’t actually go away but shows up in devious ways, wearing a disguise. So is there another option?

According to Tibetan Buddhism, there is a flip side to anger: there is wisdom in it. Normally we are too caught up in our personal struggles to connect with this wisdom, but anger actually has an integrity and a sharpness. It is a messenger that something is wrong, that something needs to be addressed. Anger’s awakened energy is said to be crystal clear, like a perfect mirror. It tells it like it is with no dissembling. Anger clears the air. It is immediate, and it is abrupt, but it grabs our attention and gets the point across. Anger interrupts our complacency and mobilises us to take action.

When we encounter injustice being done to another, when we see violence inflicted on innocent beings, when we see the ways that humans justify almost any crazy act of violence, it is heartbreaking and makes us angry. So anger could be the catalyst that causes us to act with courage and compassion to address violence, injustice, and entrenched ignorance. And the more clearly we see such tendencies in the world around us, the more we come to recognise within us traces of these same tendencies to violence and dissembling. So anger has the power to strip the screens from our eyes, to cut through our ignorance and avoidance of harsh realities.

The destructive force of anger is real and apparent. In addressing its destructive force, we practised restraint in the first step and we began to see through anger’s apparent solidity in the second. Now we are working with the wisdom potential of anger.

In fact, it may not be the anger itself but our tendency to hold on to our anger and its accompanying story line and self-absorption that is so harmful. When anger awakens us to a real problem that must be addressed, we can respond by wallowing in the anger and feeling good about ourselves for doing so. Or we can actually listen to whatever message that anger is bringing to us, while at the same time dropping the messenger. Then we can deal with what has been exposed to us by anger’s clear mirror.

4. THE PEACOCK: ENGAGING ANGER WITHOUT FEAR AND HESITATION

The final step is not actually a further practice, but more the result or fruition of mastering the other three steps. We continue to practice refraining from impulsive displays of anger, seeing through the apparent solidity of anger, and opening to the messages anger brings without clinging to the messenger. When we can do all that with ease, we may finally begin to be able to make use of anger as a tool or skillful means. If anger is called for and would be useful, we are not afraid to apply it. And when destructive anger does arise, we are not seduced, nor do we run away from it. We gobble it up on the spot. Not a trace remains.

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Epistemological Nihilism

So, next up on our explorative journey through the many forms of nihilism, we encounter epistemological nihilism. What is epistemological nihilism?

Epistemological nihilism is a form of skepticism in which all knowledge is accepted as possibly untrue or unable to be known.

And right away, you can be sure that this form of nihilism, perhaps more then any other, will make people agitated and uncomfortable. Why? Because people like certainty. People don't like the idea of not having their feet planted firmly on the ground. It helps solidify and highlight people's attachments to the known. It's a grounding stake, and a security blanket. A pacifier to help the desperate self sooth in the face of unfathomable universal mystery. It's the urge to seek the feeling of being in control, and to wield power and command by way of authoritative disambiguation, and dogmatic absolutism. This is what happens when knowledge becomes used and abused as a paraphernalia for the indulgences of certainty, safety and security.

Well, sorry Charlie. All the knowledge in the entire world compiled together into one great big expansive eclectic collection of complex intellectual understanding, is all still but a small rickety raft floating adrift, alone in the deep vast ocean of the great unknown, which is even further overshadowed by the profound and ineffable unknowable. Just as long as we keep in mind that any and all knowledge acquired only applies to the context of the little raft in the mighty sea, even, of which, is subject to constant debate, change, and perceptual reframing; then we are being more intellectually honest with ourselves. And even if there are certain truths established that could be called universal, or that have 100% consensus among all sentient life, this too is still only confined to the parameters of the little raft.

And this is why even true knowledge is untrue, because it is only true knowledge relative to the confines of a framework; even if such framework is the only framework that one has a frame of reference in, it is still only a framework nonetheless; and hence, the true knowledge is only applicable to these borders.

And this is also why even true knowledge cannot rightfully be said to be really known to be ultimately true, for one cannot say such for certain until they have made an assessment from the widest frame of reference possible, which may not even be reachable from the an individual perspective.

And also, let us not forget that, on top of all of this, and this is the sweet kicker, even the seemingly certain conclusion of uncertainty is also uncertain.

“But why?! That can't be. We already know everything there is to know about what we are and where we came from! Of course we can be certain!”

Really? C'mon now man. Really? You are looking at phenomenal content through the lens of externalizing colored glasses, and you actually think you stand some kind of chance at coming to some finalized conclusion based on your efforts of sifting through layers of appearances? All of this came from nothing; and you think you know something? This entire universe is just a grain of sand on a vast beach, and you think you have some kind of grasp of what's going on here? Well, the first thing you must come to understand, in order to understand that you really don't understand very much of anything; you are not dealing with things as they really are, but are only dealing with an appearances of things.

“How's that?”

I said, you are not dealing with things as they really are, but are really only dealing with an appearance of things. This is the minimum of what you can say you know with your acquired knowledge, if you have treated knowledge properly and examined the knowledge and the implications of the knowledge from all angles, including metaphysically. Obviously, things are not quite as they appear on the surface. If the insights of material science has shown us anything, it has shown us this. Materials are really just an assemblage of subatomic particles, which, in turn, are really just an assemblage of energy, which, in turn, is really just an assemblage of nothingness. So what knowledge to do you have, beyond a narrow sliver of information that just deals with the surface appearance?

The very senses, what we use to try to comprehend and organize our knowledge, don't even covey an accurate representation of what is actually there. What you supposedly “see”, only becomes a visual object by way of an eyeball converting energetic configurations into an apparent spatial manifestation. Same goes with what you hear, smell, taste, and touch. What you end up with, is merely an appearance of something that has much deeper hidden properties; the bottom, of which, we have not yet fully explored to understand; and yet you believe you are certain about something that is being brought to your attention via the perceptual senses? To believe as such is called naive realism. But don't misconstrue and jump to the conclusion that any of these statements are meaning to say that there is a complete impossibility of any knowledge; that isn't the point being emphasized here, but, rather, that knowledge is possible, but it is always relative, subjective, and contextual. And why is that? Well, let's look into it.

First, why relative? Well, if there would be anything considered an absolute aspect, then obviously it must be an aspect that differs from a relative aspect. If an absolute aspect isn't different then a relative aspect, then it is the same as a relative aspect, and hence relative. But if an absolute aspect is different from a relative aspect, then the absolute aspect must also be relative, for, any aspects that are different must be different in contrast to something else, and to be considered "different", means that the said aspect has to be relative to something. So there's no way around relativity. Simply put, a fact is only a fact relative to a context. And since a context has borders, anything absolute within those borders has no applicability outside the borders. And even if you wanna try and break down those borders and say they don't exist and that absolute aspects exist in infinity, you are gonna run into similar problems, for then where is infinity located? Anything that has no location surely cannot exist as we commonly know and define objectified existence. Facts surely have to have a solid context to be recognized, and to say that facts are absolute, yet have no location, which would seem to be a fundamental requirement for an object to exist, is still indicative of facts and absolutism being relative to infinity, despite its borderless configuration. But even if you chalk that up to an intentional oversight, wherein is this infinity even being recognized as an item of consideration? Ah yes. It is infinity relative to a subject. Which brings us to the second factor to look into: subjectivity.

Why subjective? Well, knowledge is only knowledge as it pertains to a subject, by both meanings of the word subject. By means of both the specific topic, and to the one who is considering the topic of knowledge. Indeed, knowledge cannot even have any meaningful existence without an existential agency to provide a foundation of such. And any such various agencies are full of their own unique perspectives regarding the information, with different degrees of perception and reasoning, which will vary from person to person, culture to culture, psychology to psychology, and position to position. And even when considering facts that subjects agree are facts, opinions and feelings about the implications of the facts can vary. Because subject A is depressed and pessimistic, he concludes that the fact that there is famine and poverty in the world means humanity should just set off a nuclear bomb and put an end to the misery, whereas be used subject B is happy and optimistic, he concludes that the fact that there is famine and poverty in the world means humanity needs to take active steps towards treating and curing these negative states. Who is right and who is wrong? Or are they both right, or both wrong? It depends on who you ask. This is the nature of subjectivity. A fact alone, which cannot be recognized without a subject, does not carry any inherent prescript concerning its handling, that is not also based in subjectivity. Even absolute laws or universal truths, if such a thing were even possible, are only so relative to a subject. So there's no way around subjectivity either. And lastly, of course, all knowledge is contextual.

So why contextual? Well, this is closely related to relativity and subjectivity, in that knowledge, or facts, or laws, or anything else, cannot be featured as such unless they have some kind of framework to sustain them. And just by being contextualized, they are limited to the settings of such contextualizations. So, this being the case, knowledge, at best, is an island. It is not all encompassing. It's utility is facilitated existentially, and not otherwise. And we can use knowledge existentially for communication, creativity and exploration, but there's no reason to try and seek certainty, unless our goals are really to try and pin down reality and control it. To try and pour concrete over an abstract medium. And I know why many of you want to do this, for we see a lot of negativity in our reality and often our impulses motivate us to try and fix it, or clean it up, but understand that messes and broken aspects are originally caused by this very same impulse and motivation: The desire to attach. The desire to attach. The desire to attach. The insatiable craving to want to control circumstances, to be either grasped at and sustained, or to be pushed away and avoided. And this is the primary reason people want certainty. Not really so much because they want knowledge, but because certainty deludes one into thinking they can control circumstances to fulfill their desires. But that's all it is, a delusion.

In all honesty you don't really know jack shit. You cannot be certain of anything. I know this is maddening. I know this is outrageous to the sensibilities of the average modern thinking mind, but it's the raw reality. Yet, this nagging intellectual irritant doesn't necessarily have to be as such. Again, this relates to the default conditioning of the persona, which fosters the tendency to seek familiarity, comfort and stability, aka attachments, which really only weaken and disempower us, for all of this really only fortifies the borders, which, in turn, crystallizes the margins into the towering walls of a self imposed prison. Is this where we really want to be? In the adventure of life, is not our eternal quest to explore, question and observe? And are these activities not the whole point of the trip?

We've often heard it said before, that life is a journey and not a destination, and that the spiritual path is the path itself, and not a matter of reaching anywhere. So the question then becomes: why are you not ok with this? What are your priorities and where did these priorities originate from? Are these inclinations your own, or were they just instilled in you by other people who wanted to shape and mold you to their own instilled standards? If you are here to make the most out of your existential exploration, then stop looking for outside approval, and stop looking externally for power and authority. You are not going to find existential truth in the libraries or in the hierarchies. You don't have to feel the need to emulate and identify with an archetype that you think reflects your self image. You will have not accomplished anything by finding some knowledge, or scripture, or philosophical ideology, and then preaching it atop a soap box, wagging your finger at the uninformed, using guilt as a weapon of conformity.

Take it easy, relax. Let go of the need to bend others to a purpose. Whenever we see an ideologue or a theologian who is adamantly imploring us to accept some kind of knowledge or world narrative as an irrefutable truth, it is always more indicative of a troubled psychology, then of a sound philosophy. You seem to be aware of an experience of phenomena. Beyond that, it's all narrative; of which, is then called knowledge.

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What do you believe in - God or Nature?

There exists the believe in a singleton god who has created everything and who is the reason of existence for our world by merely thinking it. Then there also exists the belief in spirits, the animism and the belief in nature. Nature is animated by different spirits be it in the form of humans, animals or other livings. There are of course also the spirits of the deceased or more than this all the spirits who do currently not have a physical likeness. A nascent living or even just a physical object can thereby be animated by a spirit who uses the physical object to express his/her will. Shall the spirit stay there for longer then the capability of sensory perceptions needs to be given via that object. Then there also exists the belief in strict mathematics which can be expressed by the belief of our world emerging through the execution of symbol manipulations. This is definitely not absurd if we consider the progress of nature sciences in recent times and the mathematical methods they apply.

For now let us come back to the belief in a singleton god as it is wide-spread in western religions and systems of thought. If we believe that there is a singleton god who is alone and needs to think our world for it to exist then we need to assume that this god would need to become mad in a little while at least if he would keep to have human traits. We as humans do always depend on other humans or at least on our nearer surrounding to communicate or get in touch with. If you lock a human being in a dark and naked room then he or she will fully loose the context for reality with dramatic consequences within in a short while. Now it is at least in Christianity the way that the human being has been created as the image of god which means that there is an inherent similarity between god and humans which could hardly err in such a fundamental property of human beings.

Is it the way that god has just created our world and then walked away apart from enacting occasional interventions on our world? That may sound much more plausible. Let us examine this model for its explanatory power. However if this applies we can not assume god as singleton cause for our world because then there needs to be a mathematical mechanism besides god that keeps executing our world. As far as good. Now let us come the explanatory power of the myth of creation. We do not want to deny that it is possible to create something that is more complex than its creator - and this is the only case where the explanatory power of the myth of creation is greater than zero. There is absolutely no sense in explaining something by something more complicated.

Now if the world is more complicated than god himself then he can not have full control over our world. Let us further check this thought for its plausibility. We as human beings who have proven themselves in nature and formal sciences know just too good how hard, complex and difficult it is to create something. We are far apart from re-creating artificial live not even as 1:1 copy of already existing live which is far more easy and does not require deeper understanding. We can not even create a much simpler form of live.

On the other hand there is a principle in modern physics called self-organization which means that more complex structures can emerge on their own out of chaos. However it is still a mystery to physicists how it really works. Someone who adheres to the belief in spirits will interpret the principle of self-organization the way that a spirit can manifest his/her will as she/he likes wherever something is governed by chaotic processes; at least a spirit who has not fixedly bound herself/himself to a fixed physical likeness. The personification of nature forces like wind and weather arises from a similar principle.

For now let us come back to the belief in the mathematical definability of our world or of everything that exists. According to the view of the author everyone who believes in the animateness of our world by spirits (animism) is also free to believe in the mathematical definability of our world. Consequently we may research for the basic reason of our existence this way. Let us start with a pure random generator that creates a truely random sequence of bits or bounded integer numbers. If we just waited long enough at this random generator then every structure which exists in our world would some day appear in the random sequence. Now the objection is valid that a dead sequence of numbers will remain a dead sequence of numbers. It can not reflect the animateness of nature. However if we just add a second property things can change radically: The property to apply a structure on top of its own or on a part of its own. Suddenly we have created a sequence of execution into our dead pool of numbers; something that changes over time. Now the thought that self-similarity is a fundamental property of nature may come into our mind. Just think about a fern leave: Each leave of a fern looks like a small fern on its own. When it comes to physics you may think of the apple manikin a depiction of the mandelbrot set which is also highly complex, self-similar and created by a comparably simple mathematical rule. Also in these structures a part of the structure is similar to the whole structure like when things emerge with the self-application of a structure on (part of) its own.

In a fact we have already laid the base for the compatibility of a formal or mathematical creation myths and the belief in the animateness of nature. A spirit can thereby be interpreted as a structure with self-application upon its own which always happens to emerge new thoughts in exchange with its environment; a structure which is self-contained by its own.

However there also still exists a thought enrooted in the past centuries of scientific evolution that we will soon know all the nature law or at least that this would be possible by principle. We can extend this thought by simulating the brain of a living and thereby anticipating its future decisions. According to chaos theory such a simulation could yield very different decision results than the living will take on its own later. The way of thinking does however not deny that this would be possible without problems. Furthermore all other processes in nature could be simulated by a good enough knowledge of nature law.

However a short view of mathematics can teach us that we may not even succeed in attaining accurate knowledge of nature law. Encryption mechanisms have been devised to work without surrendering the secret they hold - a secret in the form of a private key. Something like this could also exist in nature or the nature laws. Then something would be measurable but the underlying laws which govern the measurements could never be reconstructed.

Concerning our processes of thoughts we may even arrive at similar assumptions. Albert Einstein has once told that when you see a clock you may only envision but never know the basic mechanisms that make the clock work. In computer science we can actually recreate biological systems with neuronal networks up to a certain degree. However it seems to be absolutely impossible to find out how a neuronal network has arrived at a certain decision. Even if you add an explanation component to the neuronal network the explanation it produces will be fundamentally different from the way it has arrived at its decisions. We all know this as humans: We decide with our heart and explain things with our intellect.

Independently whether we will ever be capable of simulating a complex system like the brain of an animal or not the belief in the animateness of nature will retain its validity. Why should there not be a spirit who may manifest his/her will in a structure created by humans?

The fact that we may not look into another spirit or soul to foresee his/her decisions will be maintained. We need to see that the principle of data encapsulation which is enacted here is a fundamental principle in computer science or more accurately in the object oriented programming paradigm. As such it is part of a majority of programs written by humans (especially of bigger programs). Thereby it is also not possible to foresee in advance what a living will do in the future because its thoughts will only manifest themselves a very short time in the living before they are enacted (Apart from the fact that we currently do not have a method to decode thoughts.). The spontaneity of spirits remains because spirits arrive at decisions due to parameters and values that are only known to themselves and can never be measured from the outside. Article Source - https://www.elstel.org/What-do-you-believe-in-God-or-Nature.html

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Hifu, What Is It? as Well As What Does It Do?

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When Will I feel comfortable participating In significant occasions After Facelift surgical Treatment?

Cellulite Buster 1: Body Brush.

Blast With Cold Water.

Facelift frequently Asked Questions.

What locations Can I Have cured With Cryotherapy, Fat Freezing Coolsculpting?

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CryoPen emits a fine stream of laughing gas under high pressure, allowing it to deal with millimeter precision. The nitrous oxide damaging cells by freezing the intercellular liquid develops ice shards and also crystals that damage down the membrane layer, ruining it. This indicates that there should be no side-effects of any healthy cells. CryoPen can be used to treat a large range of different, surface skin lesions, including viral moles, skin tags, seborrhoeic keratosis, actinic keratosis as well as various other benign lesions.

It makes use of extreme cold, or cryotherapy, to painlessly and also securely get rid of a wide variety of skin imperfections. With the CryoPen ™ you can currently have these treatments in the beauty parlor. An ultra cold jet of high-pressure laughing gas is applied directly to skin sores making removal quick as well as effective. Store bought topical preparations such as Wartner and Bazuka for the elimination of excrescences as well as verrucae make use of a "slow freeze" concept to damage the cells.

Generally, no topical anaesthesia is required prior to therapy. Procedures commonly last from 5 to 30 seconds, so you can be in and out of the treatment space rapidly, although with check-in/out, prep work and therapy time around half an hour need to be permitted to cover your see. With our CryoPen we are currently able currently perform these treatments right here at Shrewsbury Method for you.

Cryopen ™ exactly provides a great jet of N 2O straight to the location, as well as not the healthy bordering cells. We are now pleased to introduce the CryoPen to our catalogue of expert equipment. It is the most recent option for the removal of little skin flaws giving quick, reliable as well as risk-free treatments.

The pain typically feels like the pressure of a pen being pushed against your skin. Nevertheless, unless you have a problem such as a skin allergic reaction, it will just last a couple of secs.

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Throughout therapy, you might see a frost or ice-field in addition to the sore. This should not trigger any type of fear as the frost usually vanishes within a few seconds. Spire Aesthetics Loughborough called freeze-thaw-freeze can occasionally be used to freeze, after that thaw an icy lesion, and then freeze it once more. Right here, the frozen lesion is allowed to rest for 30 seconds and after that a second treatment used whereby the tissue will ice up quicker second time around and devastation of the lesion is more guaranteed. CryoPen ™ is a fast as well as pain-free growth and skin tag removal treatment.

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If with dark skin, one might not wish to have cryotherapy, it will certainly kill the melanocytes around the cured area, making the skin in the location lighter. • Minor pain throughout the treatment-- Similar to the majority of sore therapies, you'll really feel some small discomfort while CryoPen is being applied.

This has the result of taking shape the materials of the cells, leading to the devastation of the skin sore. visit the site of treatment relies on the dimension and also nature of the modification, however usually each adjustment takes simply a few seconds.

CryoPen treatments are readily available at both our Kensington and Wimbledon clinics. To discover exactly how we can remove unattractive skin sores, blemishes, moles and sun/age/liver spots why not organize an appointment with one of our skin care specialists. The period of the treatment time will certainly rely on the surface area and the thickness of the cells being treated. Upon the clinical assessment of the deepness of the location, our skin therapists will pick an application time from 5 to 30 secs. Aesthetic treatments such as skin tags, milia as well as cherry angiomas are no longer being treated by lots of physicians on the NHS. With the CryoPen ™ you can currently have these treatments at The Ivy Center.

If you are concerned concerning a lesion, or it has changed at all lately, please speak with your General Practitioner as a very first port of call. Sores and sores-- Seldom, the skin where the sore was dealt with, usually comes to be sore, red, weepy and raw. This prevails where deep freezing is made use of and might cause pain promptly after the treatment. The specialist may advise topical or oral pain medication to ease discomfort if called for.

Is lemon good for cleaning the Virgina?

Lemon leaves Lemon leaves can help in getting rid of foul odur. It can also help in cleansing the vagina. All you need to do is boil a few leaves in water, cool the mixture to room temperature and wash your vagina with it.

We are only able to treat benign lesions and it is vital that a right medical diagnosis is made before any type of treatment is taken on. If we are concerned that a sore looks dubious, we will certainly ask you to look for authorization from your GP before proceeding with the therapy. CryoPen ™ is an innovative cryotherapy technology that is a quick, effective, safe as well as new solution for elimination of skin blemishes.

Facelift faqs.

What locations Can I Have treated With Cryotherapy, Fat Freezing Coolsculpting?

The "freeze-thaw-freeze" method is typically utilized when the adjustment is frozen, it can be thawed for a few seconds and then put on the second therapy. CryoPen is an advanced cryotherapy innovation that is a fast, effective, secure as well as brand-new remedy to get rid of skin imperfections such as skin markers, skin pigmentation and also age areas.

Is FemiLift permanent?

How long will the results of the FemiLift procedure last? As long as the patient follows the instructions of the medical provider, the results are long-lasting, usually several years.

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The therapy is usually well tolerated as well as only triggers minimal discomfort. The experience is similar to that of a stinging nettle on the skin when the nitrous oxide reaches all-time low of the lesion, however this just lasts briefly. There is periodically some recurring painful after therapy which may last for a few minutes. The location might come to be red as well as sore - and sometimes a scab or blister can form.

How do u tighten your Virginia?

To strengthen your vaginal muscles using a pelvic tilt exercise: 1. Stand with your shoulders and butt against a wall. Keep both of your knees soft. 2. Pull your bellybutton in toward your spine. 3. Tighten your bellybutton for 4 seconds, then release. 4. Do this 10 times, for up to 5 times a day.

CryoPen deals with benign skin lesions on the surface of the skin. Outcomes are normally visible within1 to 6 weeks of therapy. • Slight pain during the procedure - As with the majority of lesion treatments, you'll feel some minor discomfort while CryoPen is being applied. Medical information shows that the results are long-term after one or two therapies. Some kinds of skin lesions may return in various other areas if you are vulnerable to such manifestations.

Swelling - Swelling can take place within 24-hour of the treatment, this is most typical when lesions around the eyes, forehead as well as temples have been treated. The swelling will settle normally over the following couple of weeks, and also may be even worse in the early morning.

A slow freeze provides the cells time to self-protect themselves, therefore taking a long time to ruin the lesion, if in all. To start with, it is important that right diagnosis of a sore is performed before treatment because some sores can be related to cancer cells as well as it is fairly very easy to perplex these with regular, benign sores. So, the professional guidance of a medical professional or dermatologist is required as CryoPen can not be utilized to deal with malignant sores.

A better degree of discomfort can be experienced following treatment if a much deeper freeze is called for. The therapy compares really favourably with conventional Cryotherapy, which can typically be a lot more painful.

Any type of regular monthly face therapies not taken during the month will certainly be forfeited.

Price cuts used on treatments and also skincare can not be made use of in conjunction with any kind of other deals or promotions.

During your examination, you will certainly consult with Kate or one of our extremely trained Aestheticianswho will certainly make you feel loosened up and comfortable throughout your consultation.

The face, neck as well as décolletage begin to shed tone and elasticity as well as you commonly notice your skin becoming looser or start to droop.

The Body Facility values that making the best choice may spend some time, so they're are always handy if you have any type of additional questions or worries.

The group are passionate concerning assisting you reach your capacity with the aid of award-winning treatments.

They'll listen to your worries and guide you with professional understanding on which treatments are best fit to aid you reach your special goals.

Must you desire to cancel your subscription prior to completion of your 12-month arrangement, all therapies, cup therapies and also skincare got will certainly end up being chargeable at the complete price.

Any demand to terminate a membership prior to the endo of the 12-month term have to be supplied in creating with 4 week's notification.

Any price cuts or totally free treatments will certainly end up being space and also must be spent for completely prior to the termination can be authorised.

Cosmetic procedures such as skin tags, millia as well as cherry angiomas are no more being treated by several doctors on the NHS. With the CryoPen ™ you can now have these treatments at Moyal Therapies. One of the most generally seen straight cryosurgical method is splashing liquid nitrogen directly onto the skin sore. Nevertheless, the sprayer develops divergent jets, covering the skin sore however additionally the surrounding cells. This civilian casualties not just cause discomfort, yet also limits its application to large lesion.It is required to shop and also transportation it in special flasks for precaution. Yes, but warns concerning skin type and area be thought about before choosing freeze times. People with high levels of cryoglobulins need to be treated with caution.

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On Perfectionism

I have received many questions that relate to or boil down to problems with perfectionism, so here are some thoughts for the archive. 

Perfectionism is the tendency to desire “flawlessness” as defined by an individual’s conception of it. This implies that "perfect" is often in the eye of the beholder, though a person can of course be influenced by external or societal factors in the standards that they choose for defining/envisioning perfection. For the purposes of this article, perfectionism is assumed to be a negative characteristic. Although the word "perfect" sometimes carries a positive connotation with regard to a simple desire for "betterment" towards an "ideal" state, the aim here is to explore how this seemingly innocent desire might go very wrong or take an ugly turn into dysfunction.

What Motivates Perfectionism?

It is important to distinguish between "needs" and "wants" because many people feel as though they "need" perfection rather than simply desire it. Using the word "need" as a substitute for "want" lends the concept of desire a greater air of legitimacy, which can easily turn into an unhealthy sense of entitlement. If something is a "need", then it is implied that you must have it in order to "survive", then it is assumed that people shouldn't stand in your way whenever you want to satisfy your need, further, it would even be morally wrong for them to stop you. Imagine that you were starving and about to die but there was somebody preventing you from eating, they would certainly be considered culpable for your death. The confusion of needs and wants go some way to explaining why perfectionists tend to be obsessive and/or aggressive. They implicitly treat the desire for perfection as a "need" and thus feel justified in doing whatever it takes to achieve it.

A "need" has two possible components: 1) it is necessary for survival, and 2) beyond mere physical survival, it is necessary for flourishing or thriving in life. For example, people have a need for food, water, clothing, and shelter, which satisfies the first component. However, once those basic physical needs are achieved, there are other needs that become important, such as the needs for safety, stability, respect, validation, belonging, competency, freedom, opportunity, achievement (see Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs as an example). Generally speaking, you can identify a "need" by whether you 1) require it for living a good life, as well as 2) whether it leads to you fulfilling your personal potential in positive ways. Needs are defined as universal (true for all human beings), so it is an essential concept to understand for anyone with an interest in living a fulfilling life.

A "want" is not something that you need but something that you desire, i.e., it belongs to you, is tailored to your unique life circumstances, and is not necessarily important to everyone. It is not the purpose of this article to argue that personal desires are wrong or even morally problematic. Desires can be legitimate when satisfying them would result in living a good life and/or you fulfilling your personal potential, i.e., when they are connected to important human needs. However, many people don't understand their desires at all, specifically, they are unaware of the origin/cause of their desires and thus cannot successfully determine whether satisfying a particular desire is leading them in the right direction over the long run. Worse, people often know full well that satisfying a desire is going to produce negative consequences yet they can't help themselves, in which case the desire has become more of a compulsion.

Perfectionism is a compulsion. A compulsion is an intensely strong desire that is motivated by unconscious emotional reactivity, which includes things like: deep-seated fears, insecurities, painful memories, unresolved traumas, defense mechanisms. Generally speaking, people are not inclined to directly acknowledge and confront unconscious activity because it provokes unpleasant feelings and tends to threaten self-esteem, therefore, humans are emotionally motivated to keep unconscious activities in the unconscious. However, the more one tries to repress or suppress such activity, the "louder" it becomes, until one cannot help but be compelled by dark emotional forces.

For example, a perfectionist is often unable to handle criticism gracefully when it threatens their self-esteem. Self-esteem problems are often rooted in unconscious fears about being inadequate and/or being rejected by others for being inadequate. When the unconscious fear gets loud enough to rise into consciousness, it might compel the person to eliminate the external trigger of the fear, e.g., they might aggressively shut down the criticism/critic or make excuses to deflect the criticism. You may not be able to observe the perfectionism at first glance, but when you dig deeper into their motivations for shutting down the criticism, it is because the criticism interferes with their conception of the "perfect" self who magically "never makes mistakes".

When perfectionist behavior is motivated not by a pure desire for betterment but rather by dark and unknown unconscious activity, it becomes unhealthy, and a person is likely to manifest dysfunctional and problematic behavior that interferes with thriving and flourishing in life. Therefore, one important key to understanding perfectionism is to understand the dark emotional content which underlies it. There is rarely one neat cause when it comes to complicated human behavior; perfectionism can be learned from many possible sources and for a variety of reasons. Since perfectionism serves to address an emotional problem, people continue it even when they are aware of the negative effects, because they are not addressing the underlying emotional problem itself. 

On average, Intuitives are more likely to be perfectionists than Sensors. Accepting and honoring facts and being able to adjust one's expectations in accordance with reality naturally serve to inoculate a person against developing perfectionist tendencies. This is not to say that it is impossible for Sensors to be perfectionists, it is just less likely. Intuitives are often dissatisfied with reality, refuse to accept facts that limit their imagination, and they aren't as adaptable to unexpected reality checks. Since they are heavily invested in achieving their hopes, dreams, or ideals, they are more likely to slide into perfectionist behavior in order to force reality to conform to the images that they envision. In other words, an unhealthy N function is often the culprit behind perfectionist tendencies. Since everyone has an N function, everyone is capable of perfectionism under the right circumstances. Perfectionism takes slightly different forms according to the health and development of the N function as well as its position within the functional stack.

Ni Perfectionism (NJs & SPs)

Ni wants to envision one perfect future that will come into being, and a person runs into problems when that vision is out of touch with reality. NJs are the most likely to become perfectionists and tend to suffer terribly because of the extremes that they often go to in order to achieve their ideals. SPs don't tend to be as prone to perfectionism because higher Se allows them to be more adaptable and easygoing, but perfectionism might creep in when an individual is prone to tertiary Ni loop or inferior Ni grip, or when they meet a situation that activates low Ni insecurities.

No matter the functional stack position, when one's Ni perceptions are too narrow, too rigid, too poorly defined, or too extreme and removed from reality, it is quite likely that Ni types will display self-sabotaging behavior. To use Ni appropriately: 1) one must understand the difference between perception and reality, 2) one must be willing to examine the truth of one's perceptions about the world, and 3) one must be able to step back from negative events in order to put them into a big picture or longer term perspective. Therefore, when Ni is used inappropriately: 1) one often treats their twisted perceptions as absolute truth, 2) one tends to become lost in wishing that ideal visions come true, and 3) one is easily led astray by the trivial and the negative because of lacking big picture or long term perspective.

Individuals who aren't able to use Ni maturely often suffer from hair-trigger frustration and, if they lack a healthy outlet for their negative feelings, they tend to utilize Se to dump their frustrations out into the world. For example, unhealthy Se behavior often looks like: emotional overreactions, impulsive overcompensation for negative events/setbacks, unreasonable demands and expectations, aggressive and controlling behavior, insufferably whiny and self-pitying attitude, arguing uselessly about which "facts" are true/false, selectively picking out “evidence” to support/prove problematic ideas, wasting time redoing tasks in order to perform them perfectly. Of course, such behavior is hardly conducive to flourishing and realizing one's positive potential. When Ni perceptions are too distorted/extreme or when Ni types have difficulty setting healthy ideals to guide them towards positive self-actualization, it is likely that they eventually suffer from depression or cynicism because they see nothing in the world that is worth committing themselves to.

- Immature INTJs often struggle with auxiliary Te development, which means that the methods and strategies they choose for achieving goals lack efficiency and effectiveness, thus increasing the chances of failure or disappointment. INTJ perfectionism often takes the form of aggression as they try to make the world conform to their ideals and expectations for how things "should" turn out perfectly. However, the more they try to force reality to change (rather than adapting themselves to reality), the more likely they are to create new problems, which then gradually saps their willingness to engage with the world.

- Immature INFJs often struggle with auxiliary Fe development, which means that they have difficulty fitting in and establishing emotional intimacy with others, thus suffering the loneliness and unhappiness of lacking a good social support system. INFJ perfectionism often takes the form of self-flagellation and trying to contort oneself into a false image of perfection so that one can side-step fitting in by taking solace in being whatever definition of perfection one believes is necessary for feeling self-confident. However, the more they strive to be a false image of perfection as a means to build fake self-esteem (rather than solving the root of the problem in their emotional insecurities or social anxieties), the more they lose touch with the authentic self and their own emotional needs, to the point of feeling completely lost in life and not understanding why.

- Immature ENTJs often struggle with auxiliary Ni development, which means that their ideals are often unhealthy or misguided, thus increasing the chances of feeling empty or dissatisfied even when they do manage to achieve their desired goals. ENTJ perfectionism often takes the form of tackling every challenge aggressively, such that one can efficiently reach imagined ideals of success every time. However, the more easily they rack up achievements and use them to define personal success (rather than reflecting on the larger meaning and value of those achievements), the more inflated their ego becomes and the less likely they are to admit to any existential emptiness or confusion, which makes it all too easy to continually defer questions of health and integrity.

- Immature ENFJs often struggle with auxiliary Ni development, which means that their ideals are often unhealthy or misguided, thus increasing the chances of feeling underwhelmed or unhappy even when they do manage to fulfill their aspirations. ENFJ perfectionism often takes the form of blindly pursuing ideals that they believe help increase social regard and/or social harmony. However, the more aggressively they chase the positive feelings of affirmation or harmonization (rather than reflecting on whether those social rewards are truly meaningful, universally good, and lead to spiritual fulfillment), the more likely they are to lose their authentic self because of only defining themselves through the rewards and punishments of social life.

- Immature ISTPs often struggle with auxiliary Se development, which means that their attitude and understanding of the world is severely limited and circumscribed by their preexisting system of judgment, thus making them narrow-minded and unable to learn new things well. ISTP perfectionism often takes the form of gerrymandering facts and details to match up with one’s oversimplistic and reductive beliefs about the world, obtaining self-confidence by exerting control and influence over outcomes. However, the more they must dismiss important and relevant information in order to keep their belief system intact (rather than integrating new facts and broadening their knowledge base), the more likely they are to encounter failure and contradiction, which causes them to feel a growing disillusionment with the world.

- Immature ISFPs often struggle with auxiliary Se development, which means that their attitude and understanding of life is severely limited and circumscribed by their own narrow preferences and emotional instability. ISFP perfectionism often takes the form of trying to make the world conform to one’s own personal value system in hopes of resolving underlying feelings of incongruency or dissatisfaction. However, the more stubbornly they hold on to their own beliefs, values, and opinions (rather than opening up their value system to proper critical scrutiny and correction), the more they feel compelled to run from every perceived insult or invalidation of their values, sometimes to the point of resorting to self-imposed isolation as a means to feel better about themselves.

- Immature ESTPs often struggle with auxiliary Ti development, which means that their ability to make sound judgments is easily compromised by pointless or irrelevant distractions, thus unable to formulate an accurate conception of their own strengths and weaknesses. ESTP perfectionism often takes the form of trying to "stay ahead of the pack" such that one can maintain a sense of competency and even claim superiority. However, the more they overreact to every little thing that challenges their sense of competency (rather than focusing on the challenges that would help them become a better person), the more likely they are to sow chaos and produce negative consequences that hold them back in life, sometimes to the point of paranoia and believing that the world is conspiring against them.

- Immature ESFPs often struggle with auxiliary Fi development, which means that their ability to make healthy and moral choices is easily compromised by pointless or trivial distractions. ESFP perfectionism often takes the form of using trial-and-error to pinpoint exactly which behaviors are going to efficiently achieve the most pleasure and validation. However, the more they chase after fleeting highs or superficial validation (rather than reflecting on how best to live a life of authenticity and integrity), the more likely they are to feel empty and unsatisfied as they too easily sacrifice their integrity for things that never seem to fully sate their desires, which opens the door for depressive thoughts to overtake their positive and trusting nature.

Ni perfectionism is essentially a misalignment between what one wants the world to be (Ni) and what the world is (Se). When Ni and Se are imbalanced, Ni types only see what seems to be lacking, they sense imperfections, falsehoods, gaps, voids, and they hyperfocus on those things, unable to visualize let alone actualize meaningful positive potential. The remedy to Ni perfectionism is to bring one's expectations and reality closer together. The world is under no obligation to meet your expectations, rather, if you are serious about living your life well, you must learn to adapt your expectations to the realities of the world. It is not healthy to aim too high or too far, nor is it healthy to aim too low or have no aims. An ideal is simply a concept that provides direction, and progress should be made incrementally by carrying out realistic plans and learning from setbacks, but focusing too much on the destination means that you miss out on the fun of getting there or you miss out on other more interesting paths. Remember that the rigid way you define “perfection” does not reflect the truth of the world and how it should be. When you stubbornly hold on to problematic ideas and ideals despite the negative effects and consequences, how can you ever learn, feel, experience, and appreciate ALL that life has to offer? The meaning of life is a subjective construction, a mere concept, so it can be changed at any time should you will it, but you can't do that when you want to believe in comfortable falsehoods and close your mind off to other valid interpretations.

Ne Perfectionism (NPs & SJs)

Ne wants to remain open to new possibilities in hopes that pursuing them can keep life interesting or progressing, and a person runs into problems when they have trouble envisioning and pursuing the right possibilities. NPs are similar to NJs in that they can exhibit perfectionism when they become fixated on only one particular possibility that they are heavily invested in bringing to life, though they tend to take setbacks/challenges in greater stride than NJs because of being able to access a greater number and variety of potential possibilities. SJs don't tend to be as prone to perfectionism because higher Si allows them to be more easily content with reality as it is, but perfectionism can develop when an individual is prone to tertiary Ne loop or inferior Ne grip, or when they meet a situation that activates low Ne insecurities.

No matter the functional stack position, when Ne envisions possibilities that are too limited by poor imagination, too detached from logistical reality, or too unreasonable in expectations, it is quite likely that Ne types will display irrational behavior. To use Ne appropriately: 1) one must understand the relationship between hope and success, 2) one must be willing to temper/adjust one's hopes to accommodate important facts and details, and 3) one must be able to envision positive possibilities even in the face of negative setbacks. Therefore, when Ne is used inappropriately: 1) one frequently encounters disappointment because their hopes and dreams are easily dashed, 2) one tends to become too idealistic or uses fantasy for escape, and 3) one feels easily destroyed by every little setback/mistake because of being unable to muster a positive and resourceful attitude.

Individuals who aren't able to use Ne maturely often suffer from fear of disappointment and, if they lack a stabilizing force in life, they tend to utilize Si as a means to express their irrational anxieties about loss or regret. For example, unhealthy Si behavior often looks like: pedantic nitpicking, obsessing over small insignificant details that don't match preexisting expectations, compulsive comparisons that serve no useful purpose, circular ruminating on past missteps, incessant complaining about how the present/future can never live up to a mythologized past, pessimistic projections of past mistakes into future failure, making lame excuses to shut down new ideas and possibilities (and stay within comfort zones), preemptive self-handicapping or lowering expectations in an attempt to avoid/blunt future disappointment, anxious micromanaging behavior that tries to catch up with constantly fuzzy/moving goal posts. Of course, such behavior is hardly conducive to flourishing and realizing positive possibilities. When Ne visions are unrealistic or when Ne types have difficulty accessing feasible and inspiring possibilities, it is likely that they eventually suffer from depression or resignation because they see no opportunity for real progress.

- Immature INTPs often struggle with auxiliary Ne development, which means that their outlook and understanding of the world is severely limited and circumscribed by their preexisting system of judgment, thus making them unable to achieve substantial intellectual growth. INTP perfectionism often takes the form of trying to twist and turn facts to fit their closed system of logic, struggling until they feel as though their knowledge has reached an "ideal" state of "making sense". However, the more stubborn and narrow-minded they are (rather than entertaining new ideas or incorporating alternative possibilities), the more pessimistic they become as their knowledge of the world becomes less and less accurate and reliable, which creates a growing fear of engaging with a world that seems intent on exposing one’s every flaw.

- Immature INFPs often struggle with auxiliary Ne development, which means that their outlook and understanding of life is severely limited and circumscribed by their narrow preferences and emotional instability. INFP perfectionism often takes the form of wishful thinking which imagines it is possible to remake the world into an ideal image that eases one’s feelings of incongruency or dissatisfaction. However, the more fixated they become in believing that the self can only be expressed in one perfect and "acceptable" way (rather than opening up the mind to other new and interesting paths for potential growth), the more they feel compelled to retreat into the comforts of fantasy each time the world makes them feel small or invalidated, eventually unable to escape from the small comfort zones they have drawn for themselves.

- Immature ENTPs often struggle with auxiliary Ti development, which means that their ability to make sound judgments is easily compromised by useless or irrelevant distractions, thus unable to formulate an accurate conception of their own strengths and weaknesses. ENTP perfectionism often takes the form of trying to prove oneself "innovative" through exploring various new ideas and possibilities. However, the more they indulge random ideas only for the sake of getting attention as a "nonconformist" thinker (rather than accepting well-established ideas that are proven to produce tangible progress), the more they reveal themselves as fraudulent and empty, sometimes to the point of feeling irrationally persecuted or chronically unappreciated by the world.

- Immature ENFPs often struggle with auxiliary Fi development, which means that their ability to choose the right path in life is easily compromised by useless or trivial distractions. ENFP perfectionism often takes the form of trying to live up to an image of oneself as "special" or “unique” by exploring various ideas and possibilities to use as personal identifiers. However, the more they rely on ideas with no tangible worth to define and express the self for the sake of obtaining validation (rather than accepting the path of humble self-development through hard work and commitment to sound values), the more they reveal themselves as rather superficial and even predictable in their “countertrend” tastes, which only serves to exacerbate the low self-esteem that triggers their hunger for validation.

- Immature ISTJs often struggle with auxiliary Te development, which means that the rules and methods they follow for achieving goals lack efficiency and effectiveness, thus increasing the chances of failure or disappointment. ISTJ perfectionism often takes the form of micromanaging details and plans in hopes of making them conform with preexisting expectations for how things "should" be. However, the more they try to prevent situations from moving too far outside their comfort zones (rather than being more amenable to change and novelty), the more likely they are to encounter situations that threaten their competency, and the growing fear of getting in over their heads tends to produce extreme risk-aversion that cuts off new paths to growth and fulfillment.

- Immature ISFJs often struggle with auxiliary Fe development, which means that they have difficulty adapting fluidly to social norms and establishing emotional intimacy with others, thus suffering the loneliness and unhappiness of lacking a good social support system. ISFJ perfectionism often takes the form of unnecessary nitpicking or criticizing in an effort to keep situations aligned with one’s emotional comfort zones. However, the more strict and inflexible they are in defining their boundaries of emotional comfort (rather than learning to accept vulnerability and embrace new experiences), the more likely they are to encounter threatening situations, and the growing fear of facing potential discomfort tends to produce extreme risk-aversion that cuts off new paths to love and fulfillment.

- Immature ESTJs often struggle with auxiliary Si development, which means that they have difficulty accepting their own weaknesses and limitations, thus increasing the chances of overextending in unhealthy or harmful ways. ESTJ perfectionism often takes the form of high expectations for everyone and everything to be competent and efficient. However, the more aggressively or anxiously they try to their enforce their rules and standards (rather than reflecting on whether those standards are reasonable, realistic, necessary, or truly a good fit for the person/situation), the more likely they are to cause harm or create new problems that inadvertently reveal how unfit and incompetent they are, which serves to exacerbate their micromanaging behavior in a vicious cycle.

- Immature ESFJs often struggle with auxiliary Si development, which means that they have difficulty handling their own uncomfortable emotions and establishing proper emotional boundaries, thus increasing the chances of sacrificing their well-being for little gain. ESFJ perfectionism often takes the form of managing observable behavior to be more socially “proper” and acceptable (both their own and others’). However, the more aggressively or anxiously they push themselves/others to conform with strict moral beliefs or social values (rather than reflecting on whether those beliefs/values require some adjustment or critique), the more likely they are to create relationship discord/conflicts that further trigger their fears and insecurities, thus making it harder for them to be the socially proper and acceptable person that they hope to be.

Ne perfectionism is essentially a constant tension between aspiration (Ne) and contentment (Si). When Ne and Si are imbalanced, Ne types only visualize the supposed best or the supposed worst case scenarios, unable to find any healthy middle ground, or unable to establish rational consistency in how they approach learning and planning in life. The remedy to Ne perfectionism is to recognize that there is always room for improvement BUT without losing sight of all the good things that you already have. It is not healthy to always be chasing greener pastures, nor is it healthy to always let fear stop you from branching out into greener pastures. Hopes and dreams are there to guide and motivate you, but you will turn them into sadness and disappointment when you focus too much on the destination rather than appreciating how you grow and mature along the way. Remember that progress in life should be gradual and incremental as you learn from each step as well as each misstep. When you expect to make progress too quickly, you'll be easily duped by “shortcuts” that backfire on you; when you don't expect that progress is even possible for you, you'll resign yourself to bad/undesirable circumstances for no good reason. At any point in time, you can choose to make a decision that changes your life direction and you ought to try to be a better version of yourself, but you won't be able to choose the right path if you believe that the past defines who you are or if you are unwilling/incapable of looking forward to positive future possibilities.

As mentioned in the introduction, perfectionism is an expression of unconscious emotional reactivity. Lack of awareness of unconscious activity makes it likely that a person confuses their needs and wants, i.e., they treat their perfectionist desires as “needs” and then become irrationally driven to satisfy them. 

When you feel compelled to “perfect” something, ask yourself honestly:

is it a need or want?

is my behavior harming myself or someone else?

are my “standards” or “expectations” reasonable and appropriate?

where do my “standards” or “expectations” come from?

what do I fear might happen if I were to “let things be”?

can I confront and articulate the fear itself rather than acting out?

can I envision, as objectively as possible, both the pros and the cons of “letting things be” (rather than just assuming the worst)?

can I put negative events into a big picture perspective?

The first step in addressing perfectionism is to develop better emotional intelligence so that you can be more aware of your perfectionist behavior and its emotional origins. Hopefully, the short descriptions for each type above help to illuminate how poorly developed functions can create unconscious fears that compel perfectionist behavior. Consult the sections about Emotional Well-Being and Type Development on my blog for more advice.

last modified: March 25th, 2019

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Conceptual Development and Personal Biases. January 2019.

Conceptual Development and Personal Biases. January 2019.

Up to this point of the project, I have been making the comparison between contemporary forms of confession, specifically within a digital realm, with religious confessional cultures. Specifically my research and comparison has narrowed into confession on social media specifically, and the Catholic confession in Medieval Europe as discussed by Foucault in History of Sexuality: Will to Knowledge. I collected research about this into a short publication which can be found here: (document pages to be uploaded onto blog).

The Foucault text has become gradually more central to the project as my research continues. There have been multiple stages of development which have come directly from an initial critique of the text and later an acceptance of it. I have described earlier how I initially saw Foucault’s premises as contrary to my own premises, specifically his idea that Western society is already confessional: confession is at the core of discourse, and this history can be traced back to the function of Medieval religious confession (add ref here, passage from second chapter). I realised that this coherent ‘traceability’ of confession meant that I had to alter my idea that ‘the return to confession’’ was a novel suggestion. If confession has been here all along and is fully integrated into the foundation of Western communication as Foucault suggests then ‘’re-integration’’ is futile - this re-integration being the centre of my initial proposal. However, this traceable history backed up my idea that confession has a mechanical role in communication, both for society and the individual, with ‘’the production of truth’’ (in Foucault’s words) (add ref) at its centre.

Later, I was reluctant to accept the deeper consequences which Foucault suggests - those which relate to social power. Foucault is critical confession’s role in society, seeing it primarily as a means of power and control of the masses. He looks at Catholic confession in Medieval France as a case study, specifically the Lateran Council reform of 1215, which specified exact ways in which confession was to be carried out, and more importantly, made it mandatory by law. Confession was a way in which agents with power integrated themselves into the very foundation of individual’s lives. He states that this still exists contemporary manifestations of confession. An example given is the relationship between doctor and patient: the doctor has inherent power over the patient by the nature of their discourse, which is inherently confessional (the patient admitting ‘’I have a problem with my body’’ in hope of treatment). This power, especially in the medicalised forms, is termed ‘’bio-power’’ by Foucault and can also be seen in psychiatry, prisons and even schools. I was fascinated by this theory of Foucault’s, but was reluctant to accept it because of the consequences the power dynamic would have on my project’s development and my own personal assumptions. I had approached ‘’confession’ with optimism that it could be ‘reclaimed’ as a means of personal fulfilment. In its secularisation, I had assumed that confession would give power back to the confessor. This is not the case for Foucault. In his line of theory, the context of the confession may change but the underlying power structures are what remain. Clearly, my initial proposal was the reverse of this.

I had specifically considered the similarities of pre-Lateran council confession and the current state of messy and unregulated confession in the digital realm. In loose terms, I considered the idea that an outcome of my project would be to mimic the Lateran council reform, as a way of giving new structure the confession to make it positive and effective. But this was entirely overlooking Foucault’s primary theory of power dynamics in confession. What are the consequences on the comparison between Medieval and contemporary digital confession, if Foucault’s power dynamic is accepted? Who is the agent of power? In accepting Foucault’s overarching theory, these are new questions I will be looking at moving forward in the project.

Foucault’s kernel philosophy is history is at the core of this. In other texts, he talks of how the present can be mobilised by the past (all of this needs refs). That is, things are the way they are now because of how things have been. In examining the past, freedom is given to the present. This is because we can see the ‘fragility’ of historical cause and affect - this loosens the illusion of determinism and ‘mobilises’ the present. Using his example of sexuality, for instance, Foucault tells of how the Victorian era’s discourse around sex effects the present day approaches to sex (as a huge simplification).

This suggests a sense of hope for the confessional mechanism as I had initially viewed it. One of project’s new goals, then, is to locate the specific power dynamics within the contemporary digital mode of confession. In observing the present though the understanding of its development from the past, there is the chance of Foucault’s ‘mobilisation’, that is to say, change. This will be a secondary goal of the project.

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The Kids Are Not Alright: Drugs, Nietzsche, and Annihilation

There has been another drug death in Ibiza. A tragedy, but a relatively rare one. There have been less than a hundred drug fatalities recorded on the island since 2010, and the British -my own people and the subject of this piece- are not overrepresented in this statistic, judging by the volumes of tourists that visit.

I'm no stranger to drugs. You know the rules and so do I. Living in a popular tourist destination and coming from a people notorious the world over for our inebriated misbehavior, I have the opportunity to examine the youth of Britain first hand, with their mental shackles off. What I see, and try to understand, is the roots of a behavior that is not merely kids having a good time.

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There is no good times to be had when you are first through the door to resuscitate a kid who, eyes bolted open, jaw masticating furiously, is barely breathing and choking on his own tongue. He can hear and see nothing in this world. Somewhere in his mind he is delving deep into the K-hole, given an extra serotonin-kick by MDMA and the dental anesthetics marketed as cocaine by the Senegalese sunglass-vendors-cum-dealers. This particular cocktail is popular. It is guaranteed temporary annihilation of the self.

Nick Land in The Thirst For Annihiliation:

Bataille tells us that the universe is energetic, and the fate inherent to energy is utter waste. Energy from the sun is discharged unilaterally and without design. That fraction of solar radiation which strikes the earth resources all terrestrial endeavor, provoking the feverish obscenity we call ‘life’.

Life appears as a pause on the energy path; as a precarious stabilization and complication of solar decay. It is most basically comprehensible as the general solution to the problem of consumption. Such a solar- or general-economic perspective exhibits production as an illusion; the hypostatization of a digression in consumption. To produce is to partially manage the release of energy into its loss, and nothing more.

Death, wastage, or expenditure is the only end, the only definitive terminus. ‘Utility’ cannot in reality be anything but the characterization of a function, having no sense short of an expenditure which escapes it utterly. This is ‘relative utility’. The order of Western history has as its most pertinent symptom the drift of utility away from this relative sense, towards a paradoxical absolute value. A creeping slave morality colonizes value, subordinating it to the definition ‘that which serves’. The ‘good’ becomes synonymous with utility; with means, mediation, instrumentality, and implicit dependence.

I think what Land is getting at here is quite applicable to the mind-set of the slave-morality modern British. Though the youth of Britain are raised on a diet of freedom and equality as absolute good, the truth is that Nietzsche was right. Slave morality is manifest in us; and how do we slaves behave when we are freed?

I think this is what is happening in the broad sociological and venereal experiment that is happening all around me in this place. More than eight hundred thousand of my countrymen visit this island annually, primarily to seek annihilation, either through narcotics or the window into the veiled beyond that comes with orgasm. Can there be another interpretation of a desire to visit paradise, and while there spend one's time in an aircraft hanger-sized shed, listening to soulless and repetitive music while ingesting mind-altering chemicals? Of course there is; in that- this is fun. We like to do these things. Recreational drugs are recreational because they are pleasant, mostly. Even so, I fear there is something deeper and nihilistic at the root of this desire when I imagine that many of these people work a full year in gray boxes to achieve the week-long nirvana of being in a gray box with some fairy lights.

There is another aspect to the Anglo-Abroad culture, which is that of the explorer and conqueror motif. Read that last sentence in your best Richard Spencer accent for added effect. The Anglos, I find, are very much a conquering race when let off the leash of their masters and set loose on another land, like whippets chasing a stick across a field in lieu of a rabbit. It's not what the whippet was bred for, but it is in his nature to chase things. So too must the Anglo cause havoc.

It is sad to see such widespread disrespect for people of other nations, though of course Not All Anglos Are Like That. I think this too comes from something deep within us as a race, and is perhaps the expression of the idea that we are lesser sons of greater fathers. That we are no longer the self-determined empire builders of old, no longer the Tommy. Perhaps it is true that Anglos need something to go and fight, or we surely go insane. It certainly appears to be so, based on my own limited and unscientific experience. We are purposeless without conflict. Maybe we are horrible xenophobes, ill-educated and monolingual thugs. If that is so, then who bred this monster?

For Nick Land, we did.

Suffering must be obviously futile if it is to be ‘educational’. It is for this reason that our history is so unintelligible, and indeed, nothing that was true has ever made sense. ‘Why was so much pain necessary ?’ we foolishly ask. But it is precisely because history has made no sense that we have learnt from it, and the lesson remains a brutal one.

Useless suffering has always been Europe’s ‘practical philosophy’, our true evangelium, communicated to every cranny of the earth with unparalleled dedication. After all, it is the secret of so many things. So much power becomes accessible at the point where one loses all capability to enjoy it, and better the misery of the master than the wretchedness of the slave. Thus it is that entering the space of reason has always required that one spit upon the fierce pleasures of the savages, resigning oneself instead to an infinite vacuity.

How many layers of slave-morality are you on right now? There is a certain facile and effete representation of this idea, I think, in the intersectionalist argument of power and privilege. The meta-morality goes far beyond "I am privileged like so, and oppressed like so" but to say- we are all ultimately enslaved in perpetuity by ourselves and we have no way out.

Hence, I will save up my universally agreed bartering tokens, and then I will go to a place far away to get as far away from my nihilistic slave-life as possible. Then, I will consume substances that allow my self -the spark of consciousness that is the attention of man- to escape my own personality, identity, and the nagging gnaw at the corners of my mind that many things are not alright, and I don't know why. If only for a little while. Ketamine, MDMA and cocaine are also dissociative drugs, meaning the pain goes away. Nitrous Oxide was once used as an anesthetic. Now sold by the balloon by the afore mentioned Senegalese Looky-Looky, is inhaled with gusto on the streets of these party-towns. You can find spent canisters and teenagers with balloons dangling from their lips everywhere you turn.

The kid with the cocktail of dissociatives in him had these pin-prick pupils that will live with me a long time. They reminded me of The Pixies song Wave of Mutilation.

Cease to resist, giving my goodbye Drive my car into the ocean You think I'm dead, but I sail away On a wave of mutilation.

Ain't that right. I hope I do not come across as a matronly just say no killjoy here; far from it. I think that perhaps those who seek the wave of mutilation, the annihilation of the self are looking for an answer to a deeply existential question; or rather, they are looking for an escape from the prison which is unlocked by the answer to that deeply existential question. That question is who am I. In a society that allows identity for all groups except yours, the answer is a thunderbolt.

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MetaMental

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Sensible franchise enterprise choices are based upon the great, clear information that's available. However, the accessible data must be sorted and processed by the choice maker based upon the core beliefs and values that he has learned throughout his lifetime. The decision making process is influenced by the largely unconscious filtering sample or program that has been realized by previous expertise.

The phrase that has been developed to explain this sorting process is "meta packages." Meta applications are the strategies that assist to information or manage particular mental processes. Whereas a person is consciously working by means of a particular process he will likely be guided by unconscious meta packages that help decide which details and ideas obtain his attention.

Within the franchise business surroundings, conscious psychological processes may embrace the choice of employees, and the training, motivation, and analysis of workers members. Different processes include the choice of and administration of customer oriented activities, choice and presentation of merchandise, and the promotion of merchandise.

The meta programs that a enterprise person uses whereas administering their tasks are personality traits that they are largely unaware of in most situations. Identification of the underlying meta applications of key workers members can be worthwhile to the franchise enterprise house owners who can use the information to help predict future success of their employees.

Listed below are several examples of meta program sorts that can be identified in individuals in enterprise situations. For one, people might filter their selections according to formal procedures or according to a listing of options. This meta program is commonly known as a activity perspective. Some people choose to manage their tasks based on an comprehensible set of procedures. Others may desire to construction their tasks in accordance with an understanding of various options which might be accessible.

Another frequent meta program entails job orientation. Some people are comfy with big chunks of data. That is, they can perceive how all aspects of the duty fit into a bigger image, a bigger overview. However, some people are more snug handling the small chunks, the necessary details of the duties involved.

One of many resolution making meta programs involves the truth that some people are snug making choices with exterior references while others are more heavily guided in their determination making by internal references. For instance, choices that end in good customer service require the top performer decision maker to deal with input from prospects, supervisors, and peers. A top performer who prefers to make decisions in line with an inner reference could desire to be left alone while doing their tasks or might find it essential to filter out sure sorts of exterior info as they make their enterprise choices.

An motion oriented meta program is one which distinguishes between goals and drawback fixing. A gross sales job, for example, is one which focuses on goal achievement. A special kind of job would be one which focuses on overcoming obstacles and fixing problems. People may be motivated in a similar method. Some folks excel at with the ability to concentrate on objectives, whereas others operate nicely in a problem oriented work surroundings.

These are the extra frequent meta applications that may be easily identified, and there are many more. Virtually any recurring behavior pattern will be regarded as a meta program, however that might lead to a really long listing. Outstanding authors within the subject of character evaluation have identified between 20 and 60 completely different meta packages.

For franchise business functions the listing may be pared down to those most acceptable for that business.In researching this material, I got here throughout a enterprise that makes a speciality of these checks to screen perspective key employees according to the needs of the precise franchise.

[http://www.noodlemetrics.com/Noodle-Metrics-Dimensions-of-Compatibility.html]. Having this data permits the business to pursue their business strategies while staffed with key workers who will probably be best suited to administer the overall plan of the enterprise.

NLP Meta Model was the discovery of John Grinder and Richard Bandler round 1974 and it's my opinion that their revelation will be life-altering if understood and utilized. To start with it it offers us an perception into how folks see the world we dwell in, and it also reveals how we all view the world from a unique perspective, whilst largely believing that others see what we see. A research of the NLP Meta Model helps us to understand how our personal prejudices,

experiences and past learnings have impacted on the manner during which we respond to situations in the present day. I realise that having an open thoughts to allow change can typically be quite scary, as all of us appear to really feel safer with what we "know" to be true, however there is no such thing as a doubt in my mind that their concept is definitely worth the effort to discover and I would highly advocate putting it into observe.

Life, as we expertise it, is just not a lot about reality as much as it's our perception of that reality. This can be a reality for everybody, nevertheless, this happens to folks in various levels and there are particular levels that govern how you see and perceive things. These things that affect you're generally known as mental maps and there are the three specific maps that make up the NLP Meta model. A deeper examine into this reveals that those three classes of maps have a complete of thirteen sub-divisions of various patterns in total.

The first NLP Meta model map is named Deletions. There are numerous examples I may give in this category but one rationalization could possibly be when a person is speaking to someone in a crowded noisy room. Deletion means that you can tune out the whole lot that is occurring around you but you keep attentiveness when one thing vital occurs like if someone in the crowded and noisy room calls out to you by identify.

The subsequent map within the NLP Meta mannequin is called Generalization. This makes you use generalizations as it relates to your own experiences and learnings. For example, if a person was robbed on a city avenue, then someone's view of that city road the place the crime was dedicated would shade their views of all metropolis streets.

The last map is named Distortions. This is perhaps the one map that creates probably the most issues for individuals as a result of it takes something that is not real, comparable to a feeling about something that is not substantiated, but it surely causes folks to act as if the imagined problem is real.

One very real instance of that is considering the the possibility that a partner is dishonest on you. This often can encourage feeling of disappointment and in some cases jealousy, even when no unfaithfulness has taken place. These feelings usually are manifested within the individual feeling jealous and taking out their feelings of anger and jealousy on the partner.

When individuals talk about NLP, you typically here the term meta-program tossed about, but most of us new to it have no clue what it means. Here we are going to discuss what meta-programming means and methods to use it to create rapport.

Normal Definition of Meta Applications

Meta-applications are the principle applications we use to control or manage our mental processes. They also tell us what patterns we use in sure conditions. They decide our way of thinking. In addition, they assist us make the connection between the thoughts and the sensory photos, ideas, emotions being offered to the mind as they arrive.

One other method to look at it is, meta-applications are the unconscious ways we course of info. In essence, it is how your mind is sensible of all the stuff that enters.

How It Results Your Day by day Life

The strategies you create to accomplish objectives, process are meta-programs. Once we change into knowledgeable of what meta-applications are, we are able to acknowledge them in others by there communication.

As an example say you are carrying a bag of groceries and you need help with the door, one person will open it for you another will cross you by. The two individuals are reacting otherwise to the same stimulus or message. They are both running totally different meta-packages in the same scenario.

One person is working with a program to open the door and the other is working with a program that does not open the door. In essence, whether they open the door for you or not has little to do with you and extra to do with how their mind processes the state of affairs.

Using Meta Programs to Create Rapport

Meta-packages could be a guide to tell you how people are going act and behave in certain conditions. Once you study what the programs are and how you can use them, you will gain a ability that will help you achieve rapport with anybody you wish. All you actually need to do is work out their programming language and adapt it. When two people use the same packages, they've what is known as rapport.

Studying how to learn peoples applications takes you past easy character typing. This technique brings you to a deeper stage of understanding. It is the connection of programming that bonds relationships. You may observe this habits in greatest associates.

Take the instance above. Should you watch shut mates and family members, they are going to all react to the door situation similarly. They do this as a result of they have similar views on the world and thus are programmed accordingly.

In the eighties there was a hilarious BBC comedy sketch collection referred to as The Real McCoy and one among my favourite clips was from Miss Rees (Miserys!) West Indian Restaurant.

In one scene, a customer sits down and waits for the waitress to take his order. She rolls her eyes, sucks her teeth and asks "Anyone right here seem like slaaave to you?"

This lady knew she was beholden to no-one and took it to the acute. However on a serious word, I think there's an awful lot of recent day slavery happening it our heads.

As Jean Jacques Rousseau stated "Man is born free, however in all places he is in chains." After all, I am talking about psychological chains and because the apostle Peter stated in 2 Pet 2: 191 "a person is a slave to no matter has mastered him."

What has mastered most of us? Ourselves? We've lied to ourselves about our lack of energy and then forgotten that we consider a lie.

Lao Tzu mentioned "He who conquers others is strong; he who conquers himself is mighty. However I don't see many people conquering themselves.

The truth is, every single day I see and hear people (and I do not exclude myself fully from this group) thinking and performing like slaves - to their limitations. It's as Henry Ford stated "Argue on your limitations and you may be sure you get them!"

The issue is that we don't know that we're slaves, as a result of our minds, just like the Matrix, have "pulled a world over our eyes". That world, as Professor Michael Corridor would describe it's our private matrix of frames (a blanket time period for every mental phenomenon from beliefs to values) that generates the phantasm.

Our beliefs act like trance inducers, convincing us of their rightness plus in addition they act as what NLP Grasp Robert Dilts calls 'attractors' in that, like magnets, they entice proof of their very own rightness.

And as a result, King Solomon said 3000 years ago "every man is true in his own eyes" and people haven't actually modified since then.(Proverbs 21:2)

So, we have now a problem. We're seemingly stuck inside our own 'reality', thinking that it is Reality. And it's solely a small step (up) in our minds to come back to imagine that our beliefs are True (rather than fallible re-shows of the world around us)

This, as Corridor says, is the structure of fundamentalism, to imagine that our beliefs are actual somewhat than 'maps of the territory'. I presume this is how people convince themselves to strap bombs to themselves and blow themselves up in crowded places. Or maybe it hypnose - cd is simply to the convinced there isn't a want for convincing. Do not hassle me with the information - I know what I imagine...? And earlier than anybody comments, this can be a drawback widespread to everybody, not simply these with specific non secular beliefs...!

This stance also prevents change. If my beliefs about my incapacity to 'run my very own mind' (and escape of slavery to my desires) are ACTUAL and even worse, that is who I am, then the whole thing provides up to a self-induced sense of bondage.

So can we step again from psychological slavery?

We are blessed with the ability to step again from our ideas. NLPr's check with this as taking perceptual positions however its simply the power to reflect on what we had been just pondering. And it isn't a special skill, you do not it on a regular basis, do not you? (and if you requested "Do I?", you simply did it!) It's a part of your God-given meta-cognition.

What most individuals don't realise is that stepping again from your thoughts brings a number of highly effective processes into play.

First, you achieve a mental place of energy. Now you can, like a king or queen of your area, evaluate whether or not these thoughts serve you.

It's because once you go above or 'meta' to your thoughts you achieve the flexibility to bring transformative sources to bear on the content material of your earlier ideas. This isn't collapsing anchors, it is meta-stating and it is what I exploit to seriously change peoples' lives whilst coaching them.

When people say they're caught I do know they don't seem to be REALLY caught, they've simply believed themselves into a nook that they haven't any choices.

I'm going to let you into one of many secrets of operating your personal mind.

You'll be able to always step again and question the assumption you think you'll be able to't query or change.

And that is among the secrets to breakthrough change.

Find the taboo perception, the one that appears most real, most who you 'are' (and do not like) and query it. This takes a willingness to question the felt realness of your 'reality'.

I'm reading a wonderful book called the Art of Religious Discernment and it talks about our trendy concept of truth (which appears to be very relative and conveniently means no-one can truly let you know do something unless it's your reality - appears like a recipe for world anarchy to me!) and the idea of Reality.

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Clemson doctoral student produces rap album for dissertation; it goes viral

Clemson University doctoral student A.D. Carson is many things — poet, activist, and rap artist to name a few — but “typical Ph.D. candidate” is not one of them. So when it came to writing a dissertation, he couldn’t simply write a traditional one. Instead, he produced a 34-song rap album that already has the internet buzzing.

The album, “Owning My Masters: The Rhetorics of Rhymes and Revolutions” uses hip-hop to explore such ideas as identity, justice, economics, citizenship and language. The songs have garnered tens of thousands of views on YouTube, more than 50,000 streams and downloads on SoundCloud and hundreds of thousands of hits on Facebook, all before Carson defends them as a whole to his doctoral committee Friday in the Watt Family Innovation Center auditorium.

Using a music album for a dissertation, as opposed to the usual written document, has never been done at Clemson before, but Carson says it was the only way he could do it.

“I had people ask, ‘Are you doing this just to be provocative? Is this a gimmick?’ My response is ‘absolutely not.’ This is my way of being in the world,” said Carson, who speaks with effortless eloquence and cuts a cool and dignified figure in a ball cap, T-shirt and dark grey sweater with a “Reading is Sexy” badge pinned to it. “Both my senior and master’s theses were on music that I’d been making, so at this point I figure, you don’t get to the one-yard line — to use a metaphor that Clemson will understand — and then put the ball down.”

Carson recorded the album in a small studio he put together in his apartment near campus, using Adobe recording software made available to all Clemson students. He enlisted two childhood friends from Illinois, Blake E. Wallace and Marcus Fitzgerald, to help produce it.

The resulting music has a production value good enough to rival anything on the charts today.

At Clemson, Carson discovered that one of his professors, Chenjerai Kumanyika, just happened to be a former hip-hop musician with a Ph.D. in mass communication. Before he became an assistant professor at Clemson, Kumanyika was in the hip-hop group “The Spooks,” which had several gold and platinum records in the late 1990s and early 2000s.

Kumanyika became a mentor to Carson and provided literature and insight on theory and methodology that informed his dissertation.

“A.D. Carson’s virtuosic musical performance and composition, his scholarly rigor and his deep literacy with African-American cultural production are all on display in his mostly completed dissertation,” said Kumanyika. “The project, which has already been referenced publicly by such leading scholars in popular music culture as Mark Anthony Neal, explores complicated questions related to the art, criticism and knowledge production in the context of the ongoing problem of global racial and class hierarchies within and beyond the academy. Throughout the process, Carson has been clear and committed to his vision.”

The album begins with the scratchy notes of a fiddle and banjo playing the classic Southern anthem “Dixie,” but then it slips into beat-driven hip-hop with rapid-fire lyrics and cadence that wouldn’t seem out of place on contemporary albums by Jay Z or Common. Carson uses a diverse selection of samples throughout the album — from Aretha Franklin to the soundtrack of the movie “Django Unchained” — which he equates to the quoting of sources in a standard dissertation.

“The central thesis of my dissertation is: Are certain voices treated differently?” said Carson. “I’m trying to examine how an authentically identifiable black voice might be used or accepted as authentic, or ignored, or could answer academic questions and be considered rightly academic. So I have to present a voice rather than writing about a voice.”

Carson has never been one to take the path of least resistance. Throughout his childhood in Decatur, Illinois, where his father was a factory worker and his mother a caretaker for her disabled brother, Carson was more a seeker of knowledge than a dreamer of fame and fortune.

“My parents divorced when I was fairly young and I have seven siblings,” he explained. “I mostly grew up with my mother and one — sometimes two — of my brothers. We moved from one apartment to another just about every nine months. I attended a different school every year until my junior and senior years of high school. I think that might’ve inspired a lot of writing for me during those times.”

His thirst for comprehension drove him to become the first in his family to graduate from college. He received undergraduate degrees in English (secondary education) and writing from Millikin University in Decatur and his master’s degree in English from the University of Illinois-Springfield.

Clemson’s rhetorics, communication and information design (RCID) Ph.D. program drew him to the Upstate. The program is cross-cultural and transdisciplinary and offers an academic-professional degree designed to prepare students to conduct research and to disseminate their findings through teaching and publishing in professional journals.

“The [RCID] program here is really innovative,” said Carson. “When I spoke to the director of the program, he knew that I was working for the Urban League and was a writer-in-residence for a university’s literary journal and doing a lot of other things. I operated in a lot of different worlds and he said, ‘Yes, that’s what we do — that’s what we want!’”

Clemson associate professor of English Jillian Weise, herself an award-winning poet on the national stage, said being a member of Carson’s dissertation committee has broadened her notion of what a thesis — and literature itself — can be.

“It expanded my comfort zone. I listened to rap, but I hadn’t been analyzing it until coming on board as a dissertation committee member,” she said. “One thing I think is really amazing is we’re in the year when the Nobel Prize in Literature goes to Bob Dylan. To me, I just see in the next 50-100 years, the Nobel will go to a rapper. There’s that potential. I really believe in the power of the lyric.”

Carson’s music already has demonstrated the kind of power Weise referenced. One of the tracks, “See The Stripes” — a spoken-word poem full of biting metaphoric imagery imploring students to “see” the black stripes in the Clemson Tiger, not just the bright orange normally associated with the football team — generated nearly 15,000 views on YouTube alone and sparked a public dialogue online and on campus in 2015 that eventually involved Clemson’s administration and led to a series of lectures, discussions, performances, exhibitions and peaceful protests.

Carson credits the university for encouraging such open discussion.

“I would not have been able to do the work or learn what I’ve been able to learn had it not been for coming here,” he said. “The challenges and the triumphs are all a product of this particular space, and my critical perspective has been sharpened here.”

Carson admits that some people will find parts of “Owning My Masters” offensive, but that is part of the design.

“There are challenging lyrics and even challenging language. Those are deliberate choices I’m making. That’s part of the kind of engagement that we need,” he said. “Sometimes it’s difficult to find the opportunity to approach a conversation about language. Hip-hop makes it an organic engagement.”

Carson carefully controlled every detail in the 34 songs and he laid out the amount of thought that went into them by using one as an example:

“There’s a song called Familiar that uses a classic trap beat — trap being a distinct form of rap with a very deliberate tempo and drum pattern that originated in the South, specifically Atlanta. So it’s not just a style of music, it speaks to the circumstance the people who make it might be in,” he explained. “The form of the song is imitating Langston Hughes’ ‘Dream Variations,’ a poem that has two stanzas that are very close to one another, and the content is informed by James Baldwin’s idea that Americans are trapped in history and history is trapped in us. So think about using this rap form called trap that originates in the South in a song where you don’t know if the verses are the present or the past. It’s subtle but it works on a lot of different levels.”

The resulting record is breaking boundaries and challenging assumptions even long-time faculty members have about academics.

“I’m really excited to be working with A.D. and the possibilities it opens up for Clemson,” said Weise. “I’m also excited to teach at a university where a student comes to us and says: ‘This is my dream. This is what I want to do,’ and we say, ‘Yes you can do that here at Clemson!’ That makes me proud to be on the faculty here. I’m so grateful that we are sharing with the world the possibilities here at Clemson that are manifest in his work.”

Carson himself might best sum up the impact his dissertation will make in the opening lyrics to the second song on his album, “Dissertation [Part 1: The Introduction]”:

They say History is written by the victors, so when you see my picture in the book it’ll be consistent with my memory, my victories, my tendencies that tempered me and wintered me. Cold, like those Chi City winds, ‘cause they’re blistering.

It’s in my DNA. It’s in my bloodline. What I do is much deeper than a punchline.

Photographs:

Clemson University doctoral candidate A.D. Carson stands in his home studio near campus. Carson used the studio to produce “Owning My Masters: The Rhetorics of Rhymes and Revolutions,” a 34-track rap album that also serves as his dissertation.

Clemson University doctoral candidate A.D. Carson talks about the history of rap music in his home studio.

A.D. Carson, a doctoral candidate at Clemson University, stands on the porch of the Trustee House.

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