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ask-doctor-med-ler · 8 months

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PSA: Limits (Doing Things At Your Own Pace)

Everyone has physical and mental limits, and generally speaking people hold an expectation that you need to push yourself past your limits to accomplish what you need to.

Here is your daily reminder that you do not need to push yourself past your limits. Physical or Otherwise. Those limits are there for a reason.

No matter what conditions or limitations you have (or even if you don't believe you have any) just take your time and do things at your own pace.

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aestheticemi01 · 2 years

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You are NOT behind in life.

Try to see yourself and other people as trains.

All trains drive on different tracks and they have their own schedules. Those schedules/routes cannot be compared to one another, since they are all different.

Just because a train is not reaching the same destination as fast as another train (or not reaching the same destination at all), it doesn’t mean the train is on the wrong track or behind schedule.

The train is simply on a completely different track/route, and there is nothing wrong with that.

It is the same thing with humans. Doing things at your own pace does not make you behind in life! In fact, it is very important to do things at your own pace. It is also very important to find YOUR track in life. 🖤

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cruelcruelsummr · 28 days

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it is never too late in the day to brush your teeth

#fun fact #do things at your own pace

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lilmoonsyy · 2 years

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I refuse to believe that most of the characters are fresh HS graduates about to go to college for the first time, either because the way they behave is too college-ish or that their actors just look too old. The wiki gives the counselors the age range of 18-20, and so far (haven’t finished the game yet) there is no clear indication that they are all fresh HS graduates. I do have some headcanons about the characters ages, even if they might not completely make sense...

- Jacob and Kaitlyn are 20 and finished their sophomore year/second year of college before their summer camp job (so they would start their junior year/third year if they survive); i refuse to believe that a man that looks like jacob is anywhere below the age of 20 and since kaitlyn is played by brenda i also cannot imagine her being below that (watched her since I was a child, i love miss brenda, but girl i just cannot). also jacob is his college’s sunshine frat boy and is so excited to mentor his little :) (hopefully he’ll teach him how to accept a break up too..)

- Ryan, Emma and Dylan are 19. Dylan finished his freshman year/first year of college and is moving into his sophomore year. He just doesn’t give off soon-to-be-freshman vibes. I just played the scene in which he expresses interest in pursuing quantum physics, which would make you think he’s about to start college, but many of my age mates when I started college went undecided, so I imagine that Dylan is doing the same thing. I believe that Emma is an overachiever and finished HS a year early, so along with J and K, is going into her junior year. Ryan obviously hasn’t gone to college yet and is taking a gap year so he has more time to decide what he should do about his sister, so he would be “behind” his age mates. He doesn’t want to fall further behind, so he used the summer camp job as a way to “practice” not being his sister’s caretaker and leaving her at their grandparents.

- Nick and Abi are 18 and the babies of the group (and treated as such, especially Abi). They both just graduated HS (or whatever the equivalent is to HS in Australia since Nick’s voice actor is Australian and therefore in my brain says that Nick is from Australia and is going to be a foreign student at his college in the states). Abi reminds me a lot of myself when I was in HS, so she is the one I can believe the most that she’s 18. Nick has that annoying little brother you can’t help but love behavior when he interacts with Dylan and Jacob at the beginning of the game, so 18 he is as well!

Laura and Max are a little difficult to place. Laura is able to find Max's rejection letter to graduate school. Typically you finish your undergraduates between 3 to 5 years. On average, you're max 18 when you graduated HS, so this would place Max between 21 to 23 years old. I don't think it's made clear if there is a (notable) age difference between Laura and Max, but I would place her in the 19 to 20 age range.

*since I headcanon Jacob to be a uperclassmen frat boy, I like to imagine that he was practicing his mentor skills on Nick aka encouraging him to get with Abi lol

Pls give me your ideas about their ages because it’s driving me insane! I guess they would have to be in the teen range for the game to fall I to the 80s teen slasher it seems to want to categorize itself in, but I just can’t accept it lol

#the quarry #supermassive games the quarry #i like my headcanons but they probably dont make sense lol #i just refuse to believe that any of them besides nick and abi are 18 yrs old #supermassive games #theyre at least 19 or older #i'm basing their ages off of my own college experience since im 21 (almost 22) and still going to college myself #i also dont believe that you can be behind when it comes to college #do things at your own pace

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abc04 · 4 months

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shoutout to all the regressors and caregivers that struggle with their headspaces. that have a hard time getting into their headspace when they want to. that want to do certain things when in their headspace but don't have the energy to, or lack the motivation, or struggle to follow through with their plans. who enter their headspace involuntarily. who want to have physical gear or relationships related to their headspace, but can't. shoutout to everyone who can't interact with their headspace in exactly the way they want to- we see you and love you. be kind to yourselves, it's ok- you have plenty of time to experience your regression/caregiving the way you want 💚

#tried to make this general!#but we've just been thinking about all the things we'd LIKE to do related to regression or even caregiving #but are unable to either because of our environment/safety or disability or just energy #so shoutout to everyone else that experiences that please go at your own pace and know that you have time #confluence.txt #agere positivity #sfw agere

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yourlocaldisneyvillain · 6 months

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came by advice on this webbed site on how to ease penetration and this girl was like oh no pls help i will NEVER be able to have sex or be happy. and i just need us as a society to teach young women that penetration isn't necessary to have sex. maybe you'll never fit a dick or a dick shaped object inside of you. that isn't a requirement for good sex. you can still have a satisfying sex life (if your partners are normal abt it which i'd hope they are). please please please repeat after me penetration isn't necessary for female pleasure

#personal #y'all's virgin brains are rotted by this site and the posts that are like gonna rail you with my dick this and gonna fuck you that #but there are other ways to be rough with someone if you're into that sort of thing #and there are DEFINITELY other ways to experience pleasure lol #penetration is not necessary at all #that being said if that is something you personally wanna do like try penetration i mean #sure thing!!! but pls don't be sad if it doesn't work out #do it (if you do it) at your own pace #and don't let ppl shove things inside of you lol #some people can stretch themselves out with time and practice #and some won't be able to for different reasons #and that's okay #even if the medical field wants to convince you that is a Problem(TM) it is Not. my non-doctor opinion so take with a grain of salt

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blinkpen · 6 months

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"writing process memes of "mmm this is the REAL goiod part" but idk is this one too niche.

#doodles #rebus #the yonkoma universe will always exist to the side though u know it #it is fun to be your own goofy fandom for your own thing #also: ooogh i am so invested in fully fleshing out lamarr and demersa's prequel style backstory i uuuh oop #dropped it and smoothing things out made the story as a whole morph into a weird fantasy epic when i wasnt looking #so rather than plonking what would be a pacing breaking boulder of a Too Long flashback in the middle of the main story #we might uuuh be going in more or less chronological order starting with lam n dem's childhood then like a 10 year timeskip #and i actually revised my big ole story-map out found like the Perfect way #to parcel these things out with good pacing n still have wiggle room for the eldritch monster of the week format we can eat #-without- it fucking up the overarching narrative or bringing it to a frustrating fucking crawl for bs we have no reason to care about #...if i do everything right anyway like if i pull off what i am trying to pull off i will do my best to not fuck That aspect up #that's what the paid editors will be for i suppose!

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manasurge · 7 months

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GW2 VS Art Party (oct), of Laerling for @sylvaridreams!! Damaaaa, I loved your pretty icey sylvari!!! They're so cool!!! (metaphorically and physically). Sorry I got a bit carried away and took some artistic liberties~ I gave them icicles and their encased root hair crown into ice as well (based on a really pretty weather phenomenon I've seen irl).

#artgallery #sylvari #vsartparty #gift art #gw2 fan submission #gw2 #gw2 OC #sylvari OC #I'm glad you were able to make it!!#also it was neat to see you first thing; it was a very nice greeting upon arriving!#I also got a bit carried away with the bark/root shapes on their face lskjdf. I couldn't help myself~#also I was having doubts and second thoughts afraid that it wasn't you for some reason #I had to search your blog to double check bc I didn't see their name in your roster asjdfldskf #Also I'm doing these VS art party pics at my own leisurely pace; so I'll be done when whenever I'm done! :D #also sorry it's kind of a boring facing portrait; I'm doing that with everyone bc it's the only way to get them done in a decent time lskjf

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thatonegayship · 6 months

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I loved the cowboy comic so much that I wrote a oneshot for it. https://archiveofourown.org/works/50934235 🥺 your art is BEYOND amazing, ty for the food

INCREDIBLE!!!!!

#billdip #I honestly loved this story start to finish with the ambience and quick pace #hadn't considered the possibility of Bill and Dipper actually working *together* but it's always a good time when they do ❤️#sorry it took so long to reblog 🥲#I read it like- Right when you posted. But I had to catch a plane and then drive an extra hour home and immediately get on zoom for class #and today i was just all around exhausted so i slept roughly 70% of the entire day dndsjdndnd #all that to say that I had your fic in the back of my mind and I very much wanted to set some time aside and re-read it when I got the chan #honestly with how well you set things up I would've loved to see your own rendition of their first kiss #You established their relationship really well at the start and brought them together by the end after outsmsrtong those bandits #it feels like you have a better understanding of who they are to each other than even i do 😌 very much a fan #i love when stories incorporate those sort of 'habits' that the love interests fall into #that confuses character A while character B is so clearly using it as an excuse to get close and spend more time with them #i squealed like a maniac when Bill was like oooph lemme walk you home 😏🤠#sir i am going to wrangle you up if you don't compose yourself #and Dipper's just wary of him because people as handsome as bill used to pick on him 😢#little does he know he's grown into a 10/10 cutie patootie that any cowboy would be stupid NOT to smooch #I'm a simple man. I read oblivious low-confidence cowboy being pursued by a hottie on a horse. I lose my shit #Awesome wonderful writing!!! so happy to have caught your eye and i hope to continue pumping out content for this wonderfully weird ship

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goldkirk · 3 months

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as I'm going back over my past history and items and journals and years, I come across all sorts of things, like the pencil I saved from that so-precious memory from second grade, and a pair of flip flops I've been missing for two years, and (tw for murder/crime/killings) the modern-high-school-AU-kidnapped-by-a-serial-killer story I wrote in late high school jdfsjdfsjkjlksfd

#i can't wait to find out what red flags I didn't see in my own self back when I last read this thing in 2015 hfdhfdhjsfd #also. there's gonna be like a good sentence here and there and then CRINGE. the whole rest of everything is just me still trying to copy th #breathing pace (essentially) and ways-of-describing-things of mainstream authors like I thought I was supposed to #so this'll be somewhat painful but also god what a joy and a gift and an honor and a delight to get to hold this close to my heart #and witness it with understanding and empathy and slow reflection and care like my past younger self deserves #i'm so lucky i'm alive to be here and do this #i'm so grateful i'm headed towards welcoming back and embracing the last little girl i was that still felt a lot of things #so excited for her focus and precision and tenacity and constant curious joy and movement to be back someday #i'm afraid people won't like the me i was before rule after rule and then dangers #but my god it'll feel so good to be the fully-flowing energy machine and dance and conduit again how will I have enough bother to care?#people who are good to each others' nervous systems cumulatively feel better and better #if i'm not good for you and yours then you really truly SHOULD go elsewhere and find someone who makes YOUR self feel right and light + war #anyway now that i wrote an essay in the tags as usual [nervous laughter]#personal #add to journal #words n rhythm #WHY DID I FEEL CAPABLE OF UNDERTAKING A STORY LIKE THIS #cradling my past self gently but also BANGING my HEAD against the WALL lmao #i'm proud of myself for writing and sharing this and its creative ideas. even if i don't like it now or feel ashamed or see mistakes.#anything. it mattered that it came to me and it mattered that i explored it and it mattered that i poured myself through it to help shape i #and it mattered that I left it on the internet so that now it still exists. i'm going to honor this story no matter what current me would #objectively think about it if it was written by anyone else.#this is a gift i give myself now.#this is a lot of what I learn and learn to do #trauma evolution #mosswrites

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crystallizsch · 2 months

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I FORGOT TO SAY IN MY LAST ASK IM SORRY but I think your ocs are very cool 🤸‍♀️ I was scared to send that last one tho omgjskfnsnmd I haven't interected with anything on here at all yet but you were so nice???? I have now gained the courage to Start Doing Things, I thank you kindly 💃💃💃

AAAH YES YES I'M CHEERING FOR YOU JUST

✨✨Start Doing Things ✨✨

whatever you start doing I hope you find joy in it!! 😤✨ It makes me happy to hear that i gave you that little push 😭

ALSO thank you so much I'm so glad you like my little sillies as well 😭💕😭💕

#RAHHH im slow at answering asks #also im obsessed with your use of dancing emojis anon #you seem very fun :0 #and also i relate #why is sending ANON asks scary hgkdjsfksdlj #but i'm so glad that you chose to send it anyway 😭#it truly made my day 💖#anyways psa: do whatever makes you happy 😤💕#when you finally Do The Thing it feels so great #which is admittedly easier said than done bc it's easier to think about it than actually *do* it #it's also not a race always take your time at your own pace #and in the end when you're happy with The Thing it'll be very satisfying :D #[—#✦'-asks #✦'-i-have-thoughts #—]

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hopesandmountains · 7 months

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I think people underestimate the idea of a safe space.

For people who have a troubled home life and a stressful job, there seems to be no escape.

And if you are battling emotional trauma or illness, one of the main ways to heal is to let yourself be vulnerable and relieve/feel that pain.

And if you don’t have a safe place at home and if you don’t have a safe place with friends, you will try to carry that pain for as long as possible before the burden gets too heavy and you have to unload some of emotions/vulnerability onto whoever.

And this is where I’ve seen so many people fall into a cycle, where they trust the wrong people who only traumatize them more. Which makes everything worse and causing unhealthy coping mechanisms and defense strategies that pushes everyone else away. And one of the types of people who aren’t pushed away are people who don’t care about boundaries and are seeking out vulnerable people, who will just traumatize and abuse you more until they can break you down.

And this is such an awful cycle to go through.

And the fear of being in that situation (or being in that situation again) causes you not to trust people. And this is where people either stay in isolation, or they try and find a way to move forward.

One of the key things to learn is how to discern against people you can trust and people you can’t. And that takes having boundaries. If someone lies or manipulated or puts you down or is just flat out self serving that should be a massive red flag. And sure you can try and give people second chances, sometimes trauma responses trigger when there really is not actual danger or threat.

But this is also why it’s important to take things slow.

As much as you want to find a quick solution, and seeing everyone else quickly jumping into relationships, you have to give yourself time to clearly see the situation.

One major red flag is when someone will try to rush the process along.

Entering a new relationship can trigger all sorts of fears and insecurities and vulnerability. And this can make you fragile and a little unsure of yourself. And this is where bad people can rush you before you can really grasp what’s going on and sink their teeth into you and get you attached before you really realize what’s going on.

And that’s scary.

Some people will stay in denial, some people can’t handle the extra trauma so they avoid it and ignore what’s going on, which leads to them going back because they are in denial about what’s wrong.

And part of the problem is since childhood they’ve been taught to ignore that feeling of everything being wrong (parents will argue and fight and maybe even be abusive, and then deny anything is wrong and claim they have a happy home life).

So they ignore that feeling of something being wrong and stay. And then get to a point where it’s just too tough to leave so they stay longer.

And yes this is tragic.

But it’s also never too late to break the cycle and more importantly for a lot of people it’s not too late to avoid that cycle.

There are people out there you can trust.

And you don’t have to treat everything like a ticking time bomb, you can learn to trust people slowly and have a wide social support net.

Really the key is unlearning.

People mimic their relationships around what they know, and their family, family friends, some of their own friends from childhood, toxic situations they’ve been in or see from social media.

And it’s just so difficult for people to tell something is wrong when they’ve never been taught.

They carry a deep shame within them so refuse to open up to people, and have abandonment issues and insecurities, so they see rejection when there is none.

And that mental trap they’ve built for themselves is so strong.

And when they sense rejection they pull away or have defense mechanisms, which push most people looking for healthy relationships away since all they see is someone pulling away or acting out.

But it’s also important to realize that most people are understanding.

If you can tell them what’s going on and communicate that. Tell them you need time but you want to make things work. A lot of people will work with you.

And the ones that don’t, well that’s okay, you want to open up to someone safe and that’s someone who will be understanding.

And that takes personal work.

Learning how to communicate your feelings and needs really isn’t easy, especially when you yourself are unsure of what those even are.

And quite frankly there will be people out there that just aren’t for you.

And you will have to work on your abandonment response because you will have to be okay with that if you ever are going to find the right person for you.

And you will have to believe that there is someone out there for you during this time of pain and insecurity.

But there’s always hope.

And there’s always good people out there.

It just may take work to get there and to do so safely for you.

And that’s okay

Take things slowly and one step at a time.

#relationships #abandonment issues #trauma #healing from trauma #self care #honestly it’s better to have good friends before getting into a relationship #otherwise you risk looking for social support and emotional connection and intimate attachment all in one #and that’s just a lot to put on one person #but whatever you do #take things at your own pace #and if you want to try and get out of your comfort zone #set strong boundaries for doing so #priorize yourself when stepping out of your comfort zone #as that’s when you’re most vulnerable

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futureforged · 3 months

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January in general seems to be a very glum, tough month for everyone. It seems everyone is going through something in one way or another & stress is piling high enough there comes the guilt of not being active enough or able to produce the quality of replies wanted. Take things slow, remember that this is not a job, that you aren’t required to be consistently active or here 24/7. Please take a deep breath & remember to take care of yourself in these stressful times. I promise no one will forget about you, that you have made an impact on other’s lives through the stories you have built up with your writing partners. You’ll be welcomed back when you can return to write again. I cannot stress it enough but please take care of yourselves as much as you’re able to. You do matter & hold value in the lives of those you write with.

#I… yeah have nothing for this #Talked with a few friends and it just seems to be a common feeling everyone is experiencing right now more or less #A constant pressure and guilt #Depression growing because there’s a lack of motivation or energy to pour into this hobby or really anything.#I stand by it though #Take things at your own pace #Do what you can with what energy you feel you can safely offer and please remember to care for yourself when possible #🫂💕#Try not to feel guilt for indulging in things that do make you happy on this platform.#➤ ꜰɪʟᴇᴅ ᴀꜱ . . . // ooc rambles. | to be deleted.#➤ ꜰɪʟᴇᴅ ᴀꜱ . . . // psa.

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anaalnathrakhs · 25 days

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btw my mom said it. she said it to me looking me in the eyes. i told her about how difficult it was for me to get through those family reunions, and she admitted it was very important to her, important enough that she was just going to do it anyway.

#i know there are compromises out there #and i'm not going to live w them my whole life so i'll be out fairly soon all things considered #and i'm trying to be understanding when people's priorities aren't the same as mine #but i uh. would be lying if i said it doesn't hurt a little wittle bit.#i'm gonna keep handling it because i've been an asshole to my parents for long enough #i largely owe them that. cooperating and spending time with them and engaging in what matters to them.#but then she's says things like ''but whenever you move out you'll still be part of the family and invited if you want uwu''#it's just ?????? okay thanks ???? perhaps you could also try seeing things from my point of view perhaps????#it's all circling back to that. they have a very weird way to ''help'' me #throwback to them trying to cure my depression with amusement parks #when i would have liked a little less of that and a little more help and understanding #it feels like they're trying to put bandaids on a cancer #''you don't ask for help'' okay no help is coming. i am not being helped.#the system can't help me cause there's no damn beds no damn professionals no damn time to help everyone #the people around me can't help me because it's not their job or within their wheelhouse to help me #and they've got their own shit to deal with #on that note #i was discussing stuff with my mom #and i mentionned it was indeed pretty difficult to manage your time when you had to deal with school and friends and your parents #and she was like ''deal with your parents???? what do you have to deal with????''#oh i don't KNOW maybe that i'm officially an associate of my dad and i have to help out w events and some accounting #or maybe i have to pay back the fucking years i spent being an ungrateful child now i do everything you expect me to and it's exhausting #maybe that you constantly remind me i am living in YOUR house by touching my shit instead of letting me deal with shit at my own pace #maybe the fact that despite everything i care about you and i want us to have a good relationship and that takes WORK and i'm exhausted #maybe the fact that you keep giving me advice that is unproductive misguided misunderstanding etc etc #and cold comfort after you did something you knew to be difficult for me #how you keep encouraging shit that i don't want and am unhappy with because it's the ''normal'' way #how you raised me from childhood to be an empty shell in a family of empty shells #broadcasting my misery #vent

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panspy · 14 days

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hmmmmmm.................vent post under tags...... feel free to give advice or dont¯\_(ツ)_/¯

#i think this is an autism related thing #but i genuinely feel like i wasnt made right for the world we live in #like something is just missing from me that ive never seen ppl talk about #and i know this is going to sound entitled and privileged and i KNOW i know i promise and im so lucky i can even be thinking about this but #it feels weird to have the privilege to be scared #this is specifically in regards to working #like having a job. like going to work #i feel like im missing an extremely important part of my brain or my BEING that is capable ot going through the motions of participating #in society. i never felt that switch of wanting to get a job in high school to make money for myself and get that experience #i feel like there's something i MISSED where everyone took a class on how to apply and go to interviews and write resumes and not be scared #like i NEED to be walked through every SINGLE step because i dont know HOW #and i see my peers and the literal entire world around me participating in this atmosphere and i dont know where to start #im fucking twenty three years old and ive only ever been an intern and an assistant #not even a full year of working #i cant drive and i probably wont ever because thats a whole other can of worms #and that means i have to rely on other people to even get to wherever it was i needed to go #i feel like a fucking child because im missing this knowledge that everyone else seems to have #ive tried i really have but none of it seems simple and its all so much and there arent steps to follow #i mean there ARE but its like 1) look up job 2) apply 3) interview 4) yay you're employed #and im talking about each micro step inbetween #what am i missing #and then theres the fucking demand avoidance that slaps me across the face whenever my mom brings it up to me like i KNOW youre being #supportive and encouraging and its not your fault my brain turns off and decides im full of shame bc i cant CONFRONT ANYTHING #jesus christ #manf i know u can see this maybe dont bring it up to mom i can do that on my own maybe #i WANT to help i just want to help at my own pace but unfortunately the world isnt built around individual paces and nothing revolves #around me. i know this #i want to help my mom i want her to never be stressed about money and to retire and never work or help me pay my student loans but i #genuinely feel like theres a switch that never turned on in my head and im being left behind and i genuinely dont know how to. like be alive

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knightfeared · 6 months

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#Also adding on to rant cause heard a gross story about how someone was behaving to a mutual #Please always remember that this — your blog here? It’s YOUR space safe #A space you yourself should feel comfortable writing in and you always have the power to make whatever decisions you’d like for it #You don’t owe anyone here a damn thing and this is a hobby purely meant to have fun with #No one should have the right to tell you what fucking muses you should be writing or how to write them #You aren’t a waste of some other writers time just for not feeling a certain muse or putting certain ones on the backburner #Fellow multis can tell you best — muses are so fucking fickle. They’re active sometimes and poof the next. Life also happens…#Please do things at your own pace and take the time you need to write replies #update your muse list or rules how you see fit and if someone has a problem with that? Tries to guilt you for that or say “you are #wasting their time” by doing so? Boot them.#Block and move on #I’m frustrated because if there ever was an example of how not to behave here with other writers it’s that.#Negativity tw #vent tw #SORRY I NEEDED TO RANT IM MAD ON ANOTHERS BEHALF #HHHH #╰┈➤ ┊❛ out of medkits. / ooc. ❜┊

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