#even through marriage

[daydadahlias]

in case anyone ever wants to question the validity of my queerness again, just know I am the only grandchild who does not have a photo on my grandparents’ fridge

#the STEP GRANDCHILDREN HAVE PHOTOS #BUT ME?!?! #there’s no proof I’m part of this family #even through marriage #REALISTICALLY #REALISTICALLY !!! there’s only four main grand children #and u know who those r #ME #I AM ONE OF THOSE #try to invalidate my sexuality now losers #I’m not even in the will #todays vibe #the last photo of me that exists in this house #is from when I was 12 #I have completely stopped existing since then #maybe I’m dead and don’t know it #WHAT IF IM A GHOST????? #tw homophobia

[etrevil]

this is skk at its finest: Dazai doing shit and Chuuya being so done with his shit

#marriage and divorce in two images #or just plain marriage #through the crazy and even crazier will they stand strong #bsd stage play #stormbringer #bungou stray dogs #bsd #bungou gay dogs #bsd shitpost #bsd dazai #dazai osamu #osamu dazai #bsd chuuya #chuuya nakahara #soukoku #skk

[gunstellations]

a little family

#buddy daddies #my art #doodles #sometimes a family is an two misfit assassins and the daughter of the guy you offed and thats a okay #but lets not talk about that #we love healing in this house and how do you heal if not after suffering #reis journey through depression and kazukis journey through grief #what 1 little girl does to a man #its 5 am all i can offer are doodles but i love them very much #i know we do reasonably get to call them cowards for not making it gay (esp at the end bc come on) #but i do love whatever relationship they have going becuase theyre just. Thats marriage babe.... #theyre not going to be doing any dating with that committment that is the most domestic ass setting ive ever seen #everyone and their mother assumes theyre married/dating and doesnt even question it because theres NO QUESTION T O ASK #only the people involved apparently dont know theyre married #ok nvm they were cowards for not making it gay. but again. theyre clearly married your honor. theyre just a little stupid

[glitterghost]

Being ace can be pretty isolating at various times, for varying reasons that I don't feel like I have to explain because if you are ace, you probably get it.

#asexual #ace #pride #vague post but you know..*gestures to nothing* #i dont think i even need to expand on this #aromantic #could be thrown into this as well #things are just sometimes frustrating when people dont get it #if you read tags cook bc here we go a bit #there is always this talk of being left behind or being forgotten about or whatever #and yeah its true and when things happening almost in succession that makes it even more aware and apparent that yeah you kinda do get left #behind a bit* #so many ppl want marriage and or kids and its like #what about the people that want to hold on to things as they currently are? #to friends and books and cats and fictional feelings #and the way some ppl you know talk about how people gradual drift apart? #like thats a full on decision #thats not always a mutual thing #people leave at times and another person that might not be ready to end that connection with a person has to navigate their way through it #on their own #but like society is so weird to people that dont want the predictable life path #as you get older questions become are you married #do you have kids like its expected #where are the questions like whats the latest book youve read #whats your current favorite fandom #what makes you happy or brings you joy or whats a good thing about today? #not sure where im cycling down into with this bc theres too much to touch on #but not everyone wants sex or kids or marriage or crippling responsibilities of adulthood #sometimes we just want a hobbit hole to disappear into #a friend to text or pizza to eat or something funny to laugh at

[fromtheseventhhell]

I want to make a longer post about this someday but: I think Arya's TWOW arc is going to include her coming to terms with her identity as a Lady. This has been an ongoing conflict with her since her first chapter and I think her flowering in winds is going to mark a turning point. The theory of her having an apprenticeship with the courtesans holds a lot of weight and the idea of Arya going through puberty among a group of unconventional women she's fostered a positive relationship with is just too perfect. It would really have an impact on Arya reconciling her personal idea of what a Lady should be. There's also a lot that she could learn from them in terms of courtesies, communication, appearances, body-language, etc. that would elevate her current skill-set and ways her relationship with them could push the plot.

Not to mention she will undoubtedly reclaim her identity as Arya Stark, and her being a Lady is inseparable from that. Arya Stark is a Lady Stark and being a Lady is a social position, not a measure of how well someone preforms feminine tasks. She shouldn't have to relinquish her position because she doesn't fit patriarchal standards. That's not to say that she's ever going to be the perfect example of a traditional Lady but what I think will happen is that she becomes capable of playing the part. She plays several identities throughout the series but she's always been Arya underneath, so I think it's appropriate that she learns to adopt a "persona" that's part of her. Her remembering Ned putting on his "Lord's face" (+ the various examples of other characters being separate from their ruling persona) makes me think that Arya will be donning her "Lady's face" when she makes a return to Westeros.

#arya stark #asoiaf #twow speculations #Arya has been through so much traumatic shit and I think her flowering is going to bring up a lot of her self-esteem issues #I just really need her surrounded by kind older women when that happens so she can have some comfort #George saying her arc in braavos could be the plot of a YA novel?? definitely makes me think she's going to grow up a lot there #she's already one of the most mature characters so I think part of it's going to be her accepting her duty as a Stark Lady #she wants to help and protect people and the best way she can do that is if she has political power #She could learn that first hand in TWOW #possibly through her finding out about her marriage??? and meeting Jeyne in Braavos?? #and before someone says it courtesans are so much more then sex work so I don't want to hear it #they are such a big part of Braavosi high life...they're cultured and connected with very important people #I just have so many thoughts on the subject cause I think her apprenticeship with them will serve multiple purposes #the faceless men and their plans...the iron bank...the sealord...It's all connected and I think her apprenticeship with them will kick off #the braavos plot and could mark the beginning of the end of her time with the faceless men and in braavosi #half a boy half a wolf pup -> half a lady half a wolf #I think her current skillset fits well and it's likely she'll learn even more in TWOW #Arya defining her own role as a Lady and becoming comfortable means so much to me

[gablehood]

when the costume department puts the bride in a white wedding dress even though the show is set before the 1800s

#I mean yeah it’s not like noooo one ever wore a white wedding dress before Queen Victoria popularised it #but to watch any period drama with a wedding scene you’d think it’s been a tradition since the dawn of marriage #maybe I’m being generous but I feel like the audience can get that it’s a wedding through plot context even if the bride is wearing blue

[just-null-cult]

IS THIS DAY 8 OR 9

IDK I FORGOR

LET MARRY UR NORITOSHI RN

or so you thought. i really like the number five and you skipped that day. all your efforts have gone down the drain and im annulling this marriage.

#cult leader cameo #suiana #marry me! #YOU WERE GOING FOR DAYS BUT YOU FUCKING FORGOT DAY 5 #IM IN SHAMBLES. BUT BC I LOVE ALL MY CULT MEMBERS.. i'll still spoil you #the dedication.. even when almost forgetting. #was it petty of me to make you all wait 30 mins bc this lovely cult member of mine forgot day 5? probably. yes. #did i feel guilty abt it? no. but if any of you put the pieces together before i told you. congrats you get a pat on the head #pat pat #this is super a joke btw youre not being exiled or anything #but i do really like the number five as much as i liked stamping declined on your marriage certificate #so youre getting executed instead #anyways hello. i got really busy so i died for a bit. tysm for doing this though. it was really fun #im really flattered and happy that you like my interpretation of noritoshi to take time out of your day to remember to do this #if anyone was wondering. yes this was spread out through actual days and im appalled. sorry i have to execute you. i wont forget you

[mixelation]

would itachi meet toris old clan? how would that go?

no, i can't see that happening. she doesn't consider herself one of them, and they effectively kicked her out as a very small child, meaning THEY don't consider her one of them either. plus by the time itachi is in the picture, they're mostly. uh. dead?

#part of why they effectively kicked her out was that they'd decided to march everyone off to otogakure #so they HAD the option of handing a kid they didn't even really care about over to other sound country ninja #if she'd been a part of the clan through age 12 itachi might have an extremely belated #'wait i am about to get in laws. do we have to draw up an inter-clan contract. i don't want a rando clan calling on the uchiha' #'please tell me you don't have any clan techniques we might get accused of stealing' #so under those circumstances he might want to meet them in a purely political capacity #just to be like 'she's OURS NOW i am putting an uchiwa on her back AS WE SPEAK this is NOT an alliance you MAY NOT CONTACT HER' #....although in an even MORE divergent scenario where tori WASN'T treated like crap #yeah he'd probably want to meet them. itachi: that's how interclan marriages work??? #reborn au

[nashvillethotchicken]

A subtle way you can tell lestat is very selfish and ignorant about race, especially in ep 6 is that he said that they'd go to Argentina, a country which at the time was explicitly looking for white Europeans (including n*zis) to move there after spending decades pushing their black and Indigenous populations to the fringes of society to whiten up the country

#amc iwtv #iwtv #interview with the vampire #lestat de lioncourt #like i dont think hes doing it on purpose #i think he saw somewhere that takes Europeans and he sees claudia and louis as extensions of himself so if he'll be welcomed they'll be too #like i genuinely dont think he thought of moving somewhere that wasnt as segregated for the sake of louis or claudia #and to give the barest of credit. there wereny many places they could both go #lestat isnt allowed in europe cus of armand and them and louis and claudia cant move unencumbered through most of the us bc of segregation #like the only place they could go in the us at the time as an interracial family is ohio (only state with intteraccial marriage in 1940) #and they couldnt even be out there #so i understand leaving the country but picking a place that is already pushing its black population further into the fringes #is just another way to control the movements of louis and claudia. even if lestat doesnt realise or have that intent #like if they decide to leave him when theyre in Argentina theyre literally boned. especially in the 40s when all the n*zis are coming #and tou can see this in other parts of their relationship. like lestat is ok taking louis' to operas where louis has to be a valet to get in #he says that their money had protected them from legal backlash for being gay but not really for louis being black #lestat not getting the multiple microagressions from the lawyer #hell lestat even says “if he had offended you i would have killed him”. implying he doesn't believe that louis had a right to be offended #like lestat is ignorant to race especially in the american context and especially especially in other countries #hes white and french. they invented racism like there is a non 0 chance he saw saarah baartman displayed in a traveling circus in france #like i dont think he is outwardly racist like the alderman or tom but hes ignorant as hell. #he probably didnt see his first black person until he was 25

[littleheart98]

The inherent lesboeroticism of whatever the shit this is

#lacho #ok cuz i have to dissect this fucking scene everytime i see it #the casual praise. okay. #you did good. YOU DID GOOD? #also what the fuck does lalo even mean by #halfway to being a salamanca #like is that not insane #LIKE A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL? #even through the lenses of a person who isnt a delusional loser over lacho thats still a gay ass line

[hippolotamus]

Tease Tidbit Tuesday 💍

Tagged by @eowon @wikiangela @loserdiaz @jesuisici33 @daffi-990 @ladydorian05 @giddyupbuck @cowboy-buddie Thank you loves 💖 looking forward to all your works!

More from you’re where I wanna go (all prev snippets here)

Buck fidgets in front of the full length mirror, pulling at the cuffs of his tuxedo. The sleeves fit well enough, sitting at the correct length. He was measured by the best tailor in town after all. His mother makes sure to drop that bit of information, along with the general cost of the whole affair, into any conversation possible. The silver lining to Margaret’s wide open purse strings is that the wedding arrangements came together rather seamlessly in only a matter of weeks.

Buck recognizes that the unnecessary expense is as much for show as his marriage will be. Making the décor and reception grand ensures people will think Margaret cares for him and his bride to be. In reality, the sooner Buck weds the sooner she’s free of him. She’ll be able to live her life without the burden of his situation hanging over her.

…

Buck gives himself a final once over before he has to go downstairs for the ceremony. The oil slicking down his curls makes the dirty blonde strands appear darker than usual. He pinches the apples of his cheeks, trying for a bit more color. Mostly so the purplish bags under his eyes are less noticeable.

It doesn’t surprise him that he hasn’t slept well, it would have been more unexpected if he had. Especially as each passing night, bringing him closer and closer, sleep became more elusive and fitful. Fortunately anyone who’s caught on chalks it up to pre wedding jitters. Which, he supposes they are, just not in the usual sense.

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#as usual buck is going through it #but this turns out to be more positive than he thinks #the found family feels are really creeping in #hippo writes #tease tidbit tuesday #fic: you’re where i wanna go #buddie wip #queerplatonic relationship #lavender marriage #over 13k at this point #i think this is going to be a lot bigger than i expected #sorry not even remotely sorry

[the-sage-libriomancer]

thinking about how Franky knows Loid's marriage to Yor is a ruse (both for the real Operation Strix version and the fake get-into-Eden version), but Yor doesn't know that he knows. he's the only person Yor has met who knows it's actually just a marriage of convenience, and consequentially who knows that she isn't really in love with him (supposedly anyway heheheh), so theoretically he'd be the guy Yor can turn to if she wants to talk about how she actually is falling for her husband and that's weird and confusing, because Franky is already fully aware that she wasn't already in love with him. except she doesn't know that he knows, so she can't do that. makes me wonder if she'll find out before Loid gets outed as a spy and it becomes a moot point.

#franky knows the marriage is just a mutually beneficial deal #he knows the “real” reason (and the actual real reason) that loid and yor got together #so yor doesn't have to act like she's madly in love with loid whenever they meet #franky already knows that she's only married to loid on paper #and if yor knew that then franky could become her confidante #he's the one person she could talk to once it occurs to her that her feelings are more than friendship #since for the cover story to work it has to come off as a serious romantic relationship to everyone not in the know #but that's only if yor knows he knows. which currently she doesn't #*currently* she has to keep up the act even though franky sees right through it #because he knows they're basically just two people playing house #but yor doesn't *know* that #it's late. does this make sense #spy x family #sage speaketh #yor forger #franky franklin

[dootznbootz]

@thehelplessmortals shared this with me and...Penelope coded.

She definitely tried to gross out Odysseus in a dumb "You think you can handle me, idiot? >:) " way. (She's stubborn and in denial at first. When she realizes she actually likes him, she's a mess.) And while eating raw fish is normal for naiad-born in Sparta, when she learned Odysseus wasn't used to naiads in daily life, she just really went wild with it.

He's just staring at her kind of expressionless and she thinks "Ha, see? You don't really like me."

But he's just like

"You like carp? Cuz if you do, we got plenty on Ithaca! Many more fish too! And if we don't, I'll get you some!"

And she's annoyed because her plan didn't work. Girlie is self-sabotaging even though she thinks he's neat.

#this is normal for naiads but she also doesn't have impulse control. She'll jump in mid-convo. #...part of the joke is that basically no one eats carp because they're fucking disgusting :D same with catfish...at least where I live #Helen: “uh...I could just shock the water and then you could get them.” #Penelope: “Where's the sport in that?! >:( ” #It's not like a “playing hard to get” she just genuinely doesn't believe he could possibly like her and being a shit about it. #“Helen's supposed to get the happy ending. not me” (which Helen even is like “you're an idiot”) she eventually gets #her act together :D she's overwhelmed right now. especially since he's just head over heels and just... a LOT as he doesn't know #what to do with these feelings either and she gets mad at him for constantly talking about marriage “The more you say it. the less I wanna" #especially with his reputation to bully and fuck with people. and the fact that he lied to her so much when they first met. she doesn't #trust him. He's overwhelming her and then she's finally like. “if you're so interested. we're doing things at my pace.” then things get chi #they're both so used to putting up their guard that they can't genuinely believe this could be something wonderful #she actually is kind of afraid of the fact that “...Do you just have a thing for Naiads?? since you're not used to them?” are you weird? #but he interacts fine with other naiads. and isn't affected by Helen. #shot by odysseus #Mad rambles #my headcanons #odypen #btw. she chew through bone technically :D fish bone but bone #kind of want to make a “moodboard for the Water Wife” #penelope #Water Wife

[wonder-worker]

"The newly widowed Elizabeth (Woodville) was exceptionally vulnerable. Several of the trustees responsible for her jointure refused to hand over the manors that were meant to sustain her in her widowhood. Moreover, her brother-in-law, Edward Grey, had seized estates that her son Thomas should have inherited from his paternal grandfather, while her mother-in-law’s new young husband, Sir John Bourchier, had prevailed on Lady Ferrers to settle her principal properties on them jointly for life, ensuring that Thomas would have to wait far longer for this inheritance too. Rivers and Scales were pardoned in July 1461 and swiftly moved into the Yorkist establishment, which perhaps explains the success of the chancery suits Elizabeth launched to regain her jointure. Her son’s inheritance proved harder to recover. By 1463, Rivers was often in (Edward IV's) company and on his council, but Elizabeth needed someone with much stronger influence over the King. She turned to a distant kinsman, William, Lord Hastings, the King’s chamberlain. Hastings drove a very hard bargain for his aid but it was probably amid these negotiations that the King’s desire for Elizabeth was kindled."

-J.L. Laynesmith, "Elizabeth Woodville: the Knight's Widow", "Later Plantagenet and Wars of the Roses Consorts: Power, Influence, and Dynasty"

#historicwomendaily #elizabeth woodville #Elizabeth really had terrible in-laws #And these people weren't even the worst of them - that particular award goes to Richard of Gloucester #As complicated as her first widowhood sounds it was a breeze compared to the literal nightmare she went through during her second. #Honestly though: part me wonders what Elizabeth's first marriage was like because we know absolutely nothing about it. #The marriage itself is a blank slate but the fact that her husband's parents & siblings were so indifferent and uncooperative #to her - and their own kid-grandchildren?? - after he died indicates that his family may have been rather dysfunctional imo? #Certainly they (or most of them) don't seem to have cared about the wellbeing or dignity of his young and newly widowed wife which #doesn't exactly suggest closeness or support during the marriage itself from their end. #Elizabeth doesn't mention John Gray in her deathbed will either though she mentions Edward IV. She may have thought it was #'inappropriate' to mention her first husband beside her significantly higher-ranked second husband...but she DOES mention her son by #her first marriage - which would have drawn attention to it anyway - alongside her royal daughter so that's unlikely to have been a reason. #Maybe it was simply the passage of time? She and John had been married for very few years and she lived such a different life after that #So it's possible that her first marriage simply seemed very distant and faraway to her. #Alternatively it may have simply been undivided affection for Edward IV (her husband of 19 years who she married for love) #which fits well into the relatively personal nature of her will. #Of course we don't actually know anything about any of this and this is all pure wild speculation on my end...but I'm curious. #It's really a shame how little we actually know about Elizabeth's life - made worse by the very limited primary records of Edward IV's #reign and the fact that his chamber records don't survive. And it's even more frustrating that this is so rarely actually acknowledged #by historians. I'd argue we know far more about the life & interests of most other 'prominent' women of the Wars of the Roses #(sans the Neville sisters) than we do about Elizabeth Woodville.

[introspectivememories]

if horikoshi had any fucking care for the themes he wrote into his story, izuku would've been disillusioned with hero society the minute he heard shouto's backstory

#if he ever actually wanted to write about the lasting repercussions of the world he built #izuku would've went “fuck being a hero” the minute “have you ever heard of quirk marriages” came from sho's mouth #but horikoshi just likes thinking about revolution #he doesn't actually want it to happen #he just likes thinking about reforming an unjust world #and i would even go so far as to say that he just likes playing the revolutionary. he's doesn't actually want anything to change in his wor #but hori like all shounen authors likes men fighting each other instead of the system #like what the hell stain was right #bc like i could understand izu still believing even after the bullying he went through #of course a hero will come and save him! that's what heroes do! #but then he gets into hero school and his classmate -- son of the /no. 2/ hero btw #confesses that his dad raised him as a child soldier??? the no. 2 hero is a child abuser #but whatever #bnha #mha #midoriya izuku #todoroki shouto

[sysig]

Haha, this Winterkov stuff is fun- where did all these other feelings come from (Patreon)

#Doodles #And to think it's still all Winter's fault lol #I would not be feeling even a fraction of what I'm feeling if not for still being Very about him even with Petrigrof so at the forefront #He inspired a lot! How rude lol #He can't be blamed for All of it of course - the Petrigrof dynamic is extremely cute discounting him entirely lol #Throwing it into relief against Winterkov makes for some very interesting thoughts tho lol #The dynamics are different! As expected when substituting one character for another lol #But even the Winterkov dynamic can be looked at through a Petrigrof lense - of how much Simon was shaped by Betty #Of how much of him is human - how much is effected by Magic/Madness/Sadness - how they slot together and grow into themselves! #It's all interesting! They're very interesting! And in love! And cute! #Big love always gets me real bad haha ♪ I just love love - especially so when it's got some meat to it hehe #Betty and Simon are/were very good for each other and it's extremely sad that they never got to grow together into marriage et al #And/but they were also very flawed people! That would've come up at some point in their relationship even if they were overall happy #And what Simon has brought with him through the gift that Betty gave him I just jdklsafhdsf #I do really love them they have such good chemistry and fun motivations and what they end up doing in relation to each other! #Fun to dissect #Adventure Time #Simon Petrikov #Betty Grof #Petrigrof