#funeral arrangements

[longreads]

The Memory Picture

In helping her grandparents to make their own funeral arrangements, Maggie Levantovskaya reflects on the complicated luxury of being able to prepare for death.

“Did you come from Ukraine?” my grandma asks, bringing the small talk to a stop.

I freeze. She has no problem saying what is on her mind, but this is not a provocation. My grandma’s voice is low, more plaintive than questioning. The funeral director has a name that couldn’t be more common in Ukraine, but names get stuck to us in different ways and they don’t necessarily correspond to politics. My mother told me that this neighborhood has many Putinists and that one can’t be sure of the response when uttering the word “Ukraine” in Russian. Some people let out tears pooling below the surface, while others shrug and make vague statements about propaganda. The funeral director says he had a grandma who came over long ago.

My grandma shakes her head and says, “This war, if someone told me, I would not believe them.”

He nods, his face a solemn mask. I understand now why she asked him. She had the urge to know whose hands she’d put her body in.

Check out The Memory Picture.

#longreads #personal essay #ukraine #funeral #funeral arrangements

[angelbxxy]

Hey y’all idk how this works I’ve never been struggling this hard before. My two daughters lost their dad my fiancé a week ago from a heart problem we didn’t know he had. It was sudden and now I have to plan a funeral alone. I never imagined that he would be gone we were just talking about getting a life insurance policy like a month ago but never did it. I already have our two daughters I gotta take care of on 1 income now I don’t know how I’m gonna pull this funeral off of anyone can help us send him up the right way plz consider donating 🥺😭❤️

Cashapp $prettymom18

January 15th 2023🚨⏰⚰️

Update!!!!!

Still waiting on donätîons I currently only have $250(I took out a loan that’s all I was approved for)/$3,400(cost of funeral service and funeral home plus casket. The $3,400 DOES NOT INCLUDE THE BURIAL 🪦🥺😭⚰️😣♥️

Please help us if you are able and I would appreciate it if you can not help us financially, a reblog and prayers will always be appreciated.

RIP my one and only Prince Charming 🥺❤️🪦⚰️

Cashapp $prettymom18

UPDATE JAN15th 8:54pm

Still 0 help but I’m still great full for all the reposts and likes if you know anyone who may be able to help or has a big following on here PLEASE don’t hesitate to tag them in ur repost or just tag them on the comments ❤️🙏

PS my friend said if someone wants to donate but they don’t have cash@pp I can give them her Venmo or chime or PayPal so if that is what is stopping you from donating DM me and I can send you her vënmø or paypãł

Thank y’all again♥️

XO XO XO and GOD BLESS🙏🏽

Katie 🥰⚰️🪦🫶🏽👩‍👧‍👧❤️‍🔥💔✝️

I probably should’ve put this in the original post but I’m having trouble getting donations and I’m doing this all by myself his family hasn’t even called me since I told them he passed and I was a foster kid so I really don’t have anyone to help. The only person that is helping me is financially struggling too but she took out a loan bc my credit sucks so I was denied anyway thank u if u have anyone on here who u talk to a lot see if they can repost it too I wanna get some type of traction lol

UPDATE JAN 16th

Tumblr BLOCKED ME FROM MESSAGES WTF HAPPENED!!!! Someone plz help me get my messages back

Plus still no donations so please keep reposting and thank you for all the support from the reblogs

Jan18 update

Thank you to whoever sent $5 that’s the first and only donation I’ve gotten so far

Please if u can’t donate repost and tag your friends!!! I don’t know what I’m going to do if I can’t raise enough for the funeral, I don’t even have enough for a cremation

Jan 20 update

Im $30 short to start a payment plan with the funeral home I have an appointment tomorrow morning at 9am PLEASE SEND HELP either repost or dono

Anything helps us!

Help us bury my kids dad and my fiancé!

GOD BLESS PRAYERS ARE WELCOME TOO!

Jan 30th update♥️❤️‍🔥🥺😭🚨

So I DIDNT get enough money to have a funeral for my fiancé 😖😭 we had to cremate him and they put me on a payment plan. I still want to have a repass but I need to get a hall or something to gather everyone. The cheapest one I’ve found is $350 for 5 hours

ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED AND HELPFUL

I want to celebrate his short life and the memories we all have with him ♥️

It’s been 3 almost 4 weeks since he’s been gone and life being a widow mother of 2 is a lot harder than I ever imagined. Please repost even if you can’t help ❤️‍🔥

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[hellbentrapture]

Gone

I did not think my first eulogy would be for my best friend. I did not think we would not grow old together, geriatrics doing movie nights. I did not think I would not always be cooking and sharing meals with him, so candid and excited about each one. I did not think he would let go. I did not think he would not be there. Ever. Again.

CW/TW: suicide, grief, loss, depression, mental illness, abusive and manipulative family, funeral arrangements, C-PTSD/PTSD, OCD.

My best friend committed suicide on February the 7th of this year (2024), I learned about it on the 10th after myself and my other best friend filed a missing persons report for him on the 9th. He had been struggling only a few days prior with an episode that involved C-PTSD and a flashback - I cannot divulge more than this, only that it was so complicated and there is so much more to it. He did go to the hospital, on Sunday the 4th. He did spend the night. He went home Monday the 5th.

Myself, he, and my other best friend had a group call. We talked for awhile and he was genuinely hopeful for the future. He had plans, he was talking to people, he was reaching out.

Wednesday the 7th was the last time anyone heard from him - it was me and my other best friend, at 10am. We were told he likely died around 4:30pm/5pm. A matter of hours, lessened when you account for him writing the letter and travelling. We were informed it was a train. I will never look at trains the same ever again, I do not know when I will be able to truly look at them yet...

The space between the 7th and the 10th is because he was unidentified, and was only discovered and connections made because I insisted we check on him. I insisted we make calls on Friday, we go to his apartment, we involve local health, we involve the police. Had we not filed that missings, who knows how long it would have been.

Worse yet, his abusive and estranged mother is his legal next of kin. So she gets to make all the calls on his arrangements and care. He had technically cut off his sister 8 months ago, but she is our only ally and is the far far lesser of the two evils. Working with her has not been as bad as it could be - without her, my other best friend and I would have no power nor legal recourse anywhere.

Before his mother intervened, we had picked a lovely funeral home to have him cremated at, that even said they could arrange a viewing for us. Instead, he will be going to literally the cheapest crematorium in the city (that actually advertises as such) and does not do viewings. His mother has been withholding what belongings she has gotten and has threatened to withhold all of his ashes if his sister does not see her for them. His mother, and her partner, have also threatened to keep the ashes out of spite. Luckily, the crematorium has promised us half the ashes that we can pick up separately.

I am trying not to fret that She will intervene once more...

I have not been fully processing or feeling it all yet - I don't think I will be able to until we are done planning the official service (that anyone who knew him is welcome to) and the wake (the tight circle). So a big part of me feels like I am in wait mode still.

But I do feel it every now and then, the deep cavernous sadness. The utter despair. The loss. The denial. The anger. Grief. More grief.

I loved him so very much. We were two struggling souls caught in a ruthless and relentless storm, gripping each other's hands, terrified but knowing we could make it together. I had so many visions of my future, and he was always going to be there with us.

In the end, as he told me in his letter, it was the OCD. I am angry that he gave into the impulse to find only the worst stories of OCD, where he believes those to be the all. I am deeply hurt, wishing I had known it felt so bad for him. And I am mortally terrified, for I did not know OCD could take you down like that - and I have OCD.

And you know what this all needs? Therapy. Do you know what I cannot access? Therapy.

I am so lucky and thankful for the Tight Circle I still have, we are supporting each other so much right now and I am so glad for it. I know I have others. I know this awful, awful pain will pass eventually, with time.

Time...

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[mannlibrary]

Sarcophagus or metal burial casket made by Messrs. Fisk & Raymond of New York, shown off at the New York State Fair in Syracuse, NY. Rural New Yorker. March 7, 1850. https://newcatalog.library.cornell.edu/catalog/1043101

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[remembertheplunge]

"No Bullshit" Bag and burn and that's it

7/30/2000

Jim was great with Funeral dude. Jim made it clear “No Bullshit”. Bag and burn and that’s it.

Funeral Dude said “That’s fine.”

Dad knows.

Dan is angry that we discussed Dad’s cremation arrangements in front of him. .

I could tell, Dad’s OK with it.

If he is buried, should he be buried in his Mason apron? It reads "September 7, 1942 to September 9, 1942.The apron is to be buried with the deceased”.

Dad’s things fall away now..

“How do you measure the life of a man?” (Lyrics from a song in the musical “Rent”.)

Maureen Regan, President Regan’s daughter, as her father  neared death, said “His world receded from 600 acres to his den.”

Funeral chat at Wilson’s:

 Body Refrigeration $175

Cardboard vs hard plastic container for cremated ashes:  $10.

Transport and burn the body: $600

Coffins run up to $11,500: walnut or champagne lining.

Obituaries free but you can’t mention hobbies.

Post cremation, metal parts that were in the body are removed  and thrown into a Winton cemetery grave.

Funeral guy wore shorts.

Entire session Friday at Wilson’s Funeral Chapel in Atwater lasted about 1/2 hour.

So sad, Dad’s things mean nothing to him anymore.

Mom hears female voice in bed room via  the baby monitor  calling out “Larry…Larry.”

This morning, she hears music coming through the baby monitor from my parents bed room where Dad was.

There was no source for the music there.

End of this part of the entry

A baby monitor had been placed in my parent’s room where my Dad  was located so that we could hear from the living room any unusual noises he made.. I can’t recall if he was in a hospital bed in late July 2000. He was by October, the month that he died.

Mom heard the female voice and the music through the baby monitor.  My father’s name was Larry.

#journaling #funeral arrangements #cremation #end of life phenomenoa #7/30/2000

[contactrv]

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[nevermorered]

A PSA from your friendly tumblr neighborhood mortician!

This isn’t the type of thing I normally post, but now that Pride month has come to an end, it’s been on my mind.

Buckle up. We’re talking death and funerals! Specifically the death and funerals of those in LGBTQ+ community.

Did you know that when you die, all your arrangements legally have to be done by your next of kin? For unwed people this would be your parents. If no living parents, then adult siblings. If you have adult children, then it’s them. Get it? Good. Where the problem lies with this, is if that person, your next of kin, doesn’t respect your identity.

Let’s take this an an example. Bill is a transgender male. He has a life partner named Greg. Where they live they cannot marry. Bill’s parents do not accept his identity or his relationship with Greg. Bill dies and now his parents get to make all the choices. They plan the funeral, make the obituary, and in doing so, erase Bill’s identity. They refer to him as his dead name, use she/her pronouns, use a photo of before Bill transitioned, and completely exclude Greg like he wasn’t the most important person in Bills life. In death, Bill loses everything he stood for and fought for in life.

This can apply to any identities that aren’t accepted or any relationships that aren’t recognized.

See the problem? I do. But! There’s a solution.

You can name whoever you want to be the authority over your choices after death! No marriage required! All you need to do is name a person in a valid legal document made before your death. This is different than medical proxy or power of attorney, both of which end at death. Chose a person you trust to respect your life and your identity and rest assured that you, the real you, will be honored after you are gone.

There’s also a pre-need which is just a contract you make with a funeral home before you die. In this case, you get to make all the choices yourself before you die. Pick out your service, your means of disposal, your casket or urn(if applicable), and write your own obituary. Make payments or pay it off completely if you can, and you’re locked into todays prices and in 20+ years or whenever you do die and prices have gone up, you’ll still get todays prices. Better yet, you get to make sure you are honored the way you want.

I know this isn’t a fun topic, but I think it’s an important one to discuss in the community. Don’t let anyone erase who you truly are. Be your authentic self, even in death.

#lgbtq #transgender #funeral arrangements #know your rights and be prepared #be your authentic self even in death

[halfelven]

NO ONE TOLD ME I HAD TO READ SOMETHING AT THE FUNERAL

#sorry for shouting #just two hours away like #and then this is the order of the children #but your parents aren’t here #so you’re reading what your mother wrote #all the other cousins have a parent there #so they don’t have to read the dedication to their grandmother #my mother didn’t tell me i had to read in her place #idk how finnish funerals work #you have to come by order of birth #place the flowers #and then read the dedication #mum’s the youngest kid #so i’m reading last i guess #txt #personali #funeral arrangements

[alloccasionsflorist]

Exploring the Significance of Sympathy and Funeral Flower Delivery

Losing someone dear to us is one of life's most profound experiences. In those moments of sorrow, finding solace becomes paramount. It's during these times that gestures of kindness and empathy can make a world of difference. One such gesture is the delivery of sympathy and funeral flowers.

In the wake of loss, words often fail to convey the depth of our emotions. But flowers, with their silent eloquence, speak volumes. They offer a tangible expression of sympathy and support to those who are grieving. Beyond their aesthetic appeal, funeral arrangements serve as symbols of hope, renewal, and the enduring beauty of life. Let's explore why sympathy and funeral flower delivery are poignant and meaningful gestures during times of loss.

● Comfort in Tradition

Throughout history, flowers have played a significant role in rituals surrounding death and mourning. This tradition persists because flowers possess a unique ability to provide comfort and consolation.

● Expression of Sympathy

When words are inadequate, flowers step in to convey what our hearts feel. The delicate blooms and soothing colors offer a visual representation of our condolences, offering a sense of solidarity to the bereaved.

● Honoring the Departed

Funeral arrangements not only console the living but also pay tribute to the departed. Each bloom is a symbol of remembrance, celebrating the life that was lived and the memories that endure.

● Creating a Sacred Space

In the midst of grief, a space adorned with flowers becomes a sanctuary for healing. Funeral flowers transform somber environments into places of solace, fostering moments of reflection and peace.

● Offering Practical Support

Beyond their symbolic significance, sympathy flowers serve a practical purpose. They alleviate the burden of decision-making for the grieving family and provide a thoughtful gesture during a challenging time.

● Encouraging Connections

Sending flowers is a way to show support, even from a distance. In today's interconnected world, online flower delivery services make it easier than ever to express condolences, bridging geographical gaps and fostering connections.

Conclusion:

Sympathy and funeral flower delivery, along with thoughtful funeral arrangements, offer a profound and tangible way to extend comfort and support to those who are mourning. These floral tributes, combined with carefully curated arrangements, transcend language barriers, offering solace when words fail. In the delicate petals of each bloom and the arrangement's careful composition lies a message of compassion, reminding us that even in the darkest of times, beauty and empathy endure.

#funeral arrangements

[funeralflowersblog]

In Loving Memory: Expressing Condolences Through Flowers

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Our collection of funeral flowers speaks volumes in their elegant simplicity and timeless grace. Each bloom is carefully selected to symbolize love, remembrance, and the enduring spirit of those we hold dear. Whether you seek a traditional arrangement or a bespoke creation tailored to honor a unique life, our skilled florists are dedicated to crafting tributes that resonate with reverence and grace.

In times of mourning, the gesture of sending flowers transcends distance and speaks to the universal language of compassion. Through our reliable delivery service, you can convey your sympathies to grieving families near and far, offering them a gesture of comfort and support during their time of need.

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[if-you-fan-a-fire]

"JAS. VENOSS DIED OF BULLET WOUND," Kingston Daily Standard. March 18, 1913. Page 1. ---- Was Accidentally Shot on Sunday Afternoon. ---- When Told He Couldn't Live, He Said: "All Right, I'm Satisfied to Die." ---- James Venoss, who was accidentally shot, Sunday, passed away yesterday afternoon at 3.45 in the Hotel Dieu. The doctors realized from the first that the wound was fatal and directed all their energies towards making the boy's last hours on earth as painless as possible. The young fellow never flinched, and when about half an hour before he died, the sister in charge told him he could not recover, he merely said:

"All right; I am satisfied to die."

He was conscious until the last and death came very peacefully.

Deceased was the eldest son of Mr. and Mrs. Z. Venoss, and, besides his parents, leaves one brother, Wilfrid, and three sisters, Edith, Pearl and Myrtle, to mourn his loss. "Jimmie," as he was called by his friends, was a fine young man of a kind selfish disposition and was dearly loved by all who knew him.

The funeral will take place from his father's residence at 404 Montreal street, to-morrow morning at 9.30 o'clock to St. Mary's Cathedral, where a solemn requiem mass will be sung for the repose of his soul.

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[kunalsingh417]

What are the planning steps for funeral arrangements?

Memorial services are accessible to design in principle; however, practically speaking, it can be challenging to make due. The explanation is on the grounds that these occasions happen amidst the lamenting system. For some individuals, arranging a memorial service is both upsetting and baffling. The obligation could appear to be challenging to make due. We are here to show you precisely how to design a memorial service to make the interaction as straightforward as possible conceivable; that way, you can return to zeroing in on yourself and your loved ones. This can be an extremely distressing time. You are lamenting and may have taken on an extraordinary obligation by assuming the undertaking of making funeral arrangements plans for somebody you care about. The accompanying data will make this troublesome time more straightforward for you.

Pre-arrangements

Find the details if your loved one made any pre-arrangements, such as purchasing funeral insurance to cover all or part of the costs, paying for a funeral plot, or just putting their preferences in writing for memorial services. If your loved one has prearranged or paid for their funeral, give the funeral home they used a call. The family will experience less worry and expense the more decisions that have previously been taken. 

Contact legal representative

The principal thing to do prior to arranging the memorial service is to connect with the departed person's lawful agent. This individual, usually an individual lawyer or Home Arranging legal counselor will have the Domain Plan. This data will be significant all through the funeral service arranging process; furthermore, it will likewise advise you regarding any other person to include in the preparation. For instance, they might maintain that a kin or dear companion should uphold you through the interaction.

Confirm funeral ground arrangements

Meet with representatives of the chosen cemetery to acquire funeral property, such as a grave plot, crypt, or niche for an urn, if the dead will be buried there and cemetery property has not previously been purchased. These arrangements could be made on your family's behalf by the funeral director. Alternatively, the deceased might have had a life insurance policy, in which case the money could cover the funeral arrangements cost from a successful claim. You could be able to locate this information on the deceased's bank statements if you're unsure which insurance to get in touch with. Before you may access the money to pay through the deceased's estate, you must obtain a Grant of Probate.

Check the memorial service details

Notwithstanding graveyard and memorial service courses of action, you may likewise need to design an extra remembrance administration. This can be a giant get-together for more distant family individuals and companions to say their farewells. On the off chance that you want assistance settling on the kind of commemoration to design, read through these basic and extraordinary remembrance administration thoughts. It is likewise an excellent opportunity to welcome individuals to be engaged with the memorial service or remembrance administration. On the off chance that you believe a friend or family member should convey the Tribute, express a couple of words, or even welcome relatives, let them know when you have a couple of subtleties sorted out.

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[angelbxxy]

I’ve gotten $$5 so far please help us get him buried ❤️😭

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[atlantissocietycharterwhit]

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[tessansgp]

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[michaelroberts23]

We are a Funeral Prearrangement Company in Fort Worth, Texas, dedicated to helping people plan for the inevitable with peace of mind and confidence. We believe every family deserves empathy during the bereavement process.

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