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deathbxnny · 11 months

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heyy !! (* ^ ω ^) thank you for doing my last request with the artist s/o ! i loved it sm meoww !!!

aaand you know, i'm thinking about being uhm, named anon? could i be butterfly anon, hm?

OKAY I'M HERE WITH A NEW REQUEST... (´▽`) doctor s/o who's motivation to be the best at her profession is their own health problems? like, if they can't help themselves they are gonna care for others health no matter what (lol that's literally my motivation to become a doctor in the future!) and s/o really is a hardworking person who can forget to take care of themselves when they're busy with their work (ノ_ <)

hahaa i'm gonna ask you to include sampo THAT FEELS EMBARRASSING SOMEHOW. help jdhjdksjaj....aaaand welt! okay now i'm falling for him haha..

i'm trying to get better at english so my requests would be more understandable...i just hope that my grammar isn't THAT bad ｡･ﾟ(ﾟ> <ﾟ)ﾟ･｡

thank you so much for your work! your writings are just great and never fail to make me smile haha !! don't forget to eat three times a day and stay hydrated, okayyy?? have a good day !! ☆

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A/N: Hello, butterfly Anon! You chose such a super cute nickname and I approve of it! Also thank you for the request and your sweet words! Your English is good btw, so have more confidence in yourself!!<33

Content: Doctor reader, fluff, established relationships, mentions of sickness, sfw

Reader has no set pronouns!

((Not proofread))

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》Sampo Koski

He's at first impressed by your work ethic and willingness to help others, considering that being a conman is quite the opposite of that. It even secretly motivated him to perhaps do the same in some areas of his life, until he began noticing, that you perhaps overdid it a little too much. It concerned him, mainly because he started seeing your health decline in the process and you still working as though nothing was wrong. And he didn't like that, to say the least.

Which is why he eventually just forced you to take a break by essentially stealing you away and closing down your office for you. Your opinion doesn't matter on this, as your health is one of his first priorities. He'll force you to get some sleep and then make some dinner for you to eat in bed to relax.

Sampo won't let you get back to work, until you're finally okay again either. He just doesn't want you to get even worse and hurt yourself horribly. So just let your dear boyfriend take care of you.

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》Welt Yang

Welt is proud of all the hard and important work you do and usually supports you through every decision you make. But the line is drawn, once you begin neglecting yourself in the process. He understands where you're coming from, especially as he works alot himself, but you do it in more harmful ways he doesn't approve of.

And so, he'll try talking to you about it at first. He asks you to take a break with him and just relax for a little, until you're feeling better. Once you agree, he'll make some arrangements for the two of you to have a nice break from work. Welt will get you to sleep for as long as you need to, before taking you out somewhere nice for dinner. After that, he might take you on a walk or anywhere else you want to go.

As long as you feel better by the end of it, he'll do anything you want. He just wants to see you healthy and happy, after all.

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A/N: Thank you again for the cute request, butterfly Anon! I hope this was alright!<33

#honkai star rail fanfic #honkai star rail x reader #honkai star rail x you #honkai star rail #hsr x reader #hsr welt #hsr welt x reader #hsr sampo #hsr sampo x reader #hsr

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living-in-the-pokemon-world · 2 years

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Here it is, the mighty team request! So I'm looking for a team match-up, with at least 3 and up to 6 Pokémon.

I am deadly afraid of most bug types, especially fast ones. Also, I have hay fever, so any Pokémon that has to do with pollen is… not going to be for me. Oh, and I'm super sensitive to the sun and heat in general! I live in a relatively big house on the edge of a village, with lots of garden-space. The house has three floors, with the lowest being underground, which is also where the bedrooms are located. The climate is very basic, honestly. The winters don't get super cold and the summers don't get super hot.

I'd say I have a decent amount of experience with Pokémon? I grew up around orchards and small bodies of water, so you can imagine the amount of wild Pokémon I interacted with. I've grown up around dog-like Pokémon too! My Pokémon would be companions slash performers, like in contests. They should definitely not shy away from the spotlight, but I also crave cuddling sessions from time to time. One that's big enough to make me feel protected would definitely be cool!

I tend to have a bit of a temper, which is something I've been trying to work on. Emotions just tend to be a lot, both in positive and negative ways, which is also why performing and cuddles are so important to me. On a more positive note, I tend to be good in leading positions and will not hesitate to help my Pokémon out with anything they need! I would definitely call myself ambitious, and I'd like it if my team could keep up with that, but also to calm me back down if I'm about to ask too much of myself once again. I'm not huge on sports, but I'm trying to get better about that, just… any Pokémon that needs a lot of intense physical activity might not be in the right place on my team.

Again, thank you so much for your time, it's awesome that you're willing to do this!

Alright, this request has been waiting for nearly a month (sorry ‘bout that), let’s do this.

So you don’t want any Bug-types, and I’m gonna go ahead and say no Grass or Fire-types either based on what you’ve told me. Space doesn’t sound like it’ll be an issue. Same goes for climate and experience as well. The Pokémon shouldn’t be too high-energy, but also not complete couch potatoes. Sound right so far?

Okay, I’ve thought about it, and I think you should consider adding a Stoutland, a Lycanroc (Dusk Form if you can as they tend to be a pretty happy medium in terms of energy), a Goodra, a Vaporeon, and a Togekiss.

Realistically, any of these Pokémon can do quite well in contests, though there’s no denying that Vaporeon and Togekiss are the most “traditional” contest choices of the bunch. And companionship? Well, that’s not even a question: every single one of these species have been shown to make first-rate companions time and time again (Goodra and Togekiss are especially popular pals for people who have difficulty controlling their emotions.) As for protection, let me ask you this: if you were a burglar, would you go into a house that had a Stoutland and a Lycanroc in it? I know I wouldn’t.

Grooming needs are as follows:

Stoutland: Probably the most high-maintenance of the bunch due to the sheer amount of fur, though they still shouldn’t need to be brushed any more than two or three times a week. Fair warning though, they shed quite a bit during spring and autumn

Vaporeon and Lycanroc: Usually only need weekly or twice-weekly grooming sessions, though you do need to be careful about which products you use if there ever comes a time where you need to bathe them (make sure to use products formulated for Water-types on Vaporeon, and products formulated for Rock-types on Lycanroc)

Togekiss: These guys tend to keep themselves pretty clean, though it’s a good idea to give them a weekly once-over just to be sure. Keep an eye out for overgrooming, as that can be a sign that there’s an issue of some sort

Goodra: Don’t really require any grooming, though make sure they stay hydrated somehow, whether that’s through the occasional spritz from a water bottle, or providing them with their own pool

None of these Pokémon are known to be particularly dangerous though, like all Pokémon, that doesn’t mean they won’t defend themselves if they feel threatened. Lycanroc and, to a somewhat lesser extent, Vaporeon can have noticeable prey drives if caught from the wild, so be sure to keep a close eye on them whenever they’re around smaller Pokémon. Other than that, I can’t think of any major issues.

Hope you enjoy your team! Now, if you’ll all excuse me, I think I’m going to go take a nap.

#I DID IT!!!!!!!!!#pokemon headcanons #pokemon ask blog #pokemon askblog #pokemon #stoutland #lycanroc #goodra #vaporeon #togekiss #pokemon matchup #pokemon match up #match up monday

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mental-health-advice · 1 year

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Hi. My ex and I broke up almost 5 years ago. We both moved on and are in happy relationships. I saw on facebook he got engaged to his current gf and I got really upset and don’t know why. I was crying hysterically. I am genuinely happy for him but it hurts seeing that he has a happy and healthy relationship after he hurt me so badly. Part of me wanted his relationship to fail so he would feel the pain I felt when he broke up with me. He moved on within 3 months and we dated for over 3 years and lived together. It just felt like he threw me to the curb and those 3 years meant nothing to him. I know that’s immature and selfish of me. I spoke with my current bf who I have been with for almost 4 years and he gets it and isn’t mad ai got upset. But I can’t stop being mad at myself for getting upset and thinking those things about my ex. I have forgiven him and accepted I won’t get the closure I want because he blocked me on everything and won’t answer any texts. I saw the post cause I am friends with his mom on facebook still. Please tag as #selfishandconfused

Hi there!

Thank you for getting in touch with us here at MHA. I am sorry that you have been upset by this (perfectly understandable)! Hopefully, I’ll be able to give you some advice and reassurance :)

What you went through during the break up was a traumatic experience for you and left you deeply hurt, plus you never got any closure from him, and I'm really sorry that happened to you - things that hurt us that much can have effects years and years after the event. So please don't be mad at yourself or feel guilty about still having emotions towards him and the relationship you had!! It is totally normal! Personally, I know I've certainly been in the same boat as you.

Do you think that reaching out to him to get some closure would be beneficial to you? If that is something that you think could be good, then I think looking into ways to do that could be good. Sometimes getting closure from someone and having a final discussion can answer a lot of questions that made the initial event more traumatic as they were unknown. There is of course to chance that this could bring up more negative emotions for you if you find out things that would make you unhappy. But the choice of finding a way to communicate with him is there if you want it!

If you want to stop seeing anything about him and his new relationship then you could consider hiding the Facebook posts from his mother, or unfriending her if you don't still have a good relationship with her.

I think it’s important that you take some extra time to check in with yourself and care for your mental health right now - having past emotions brought up can make us feel really bad about ourselves and our past. So, if you need to, please consider reaching out to someone for professional help. Further, just taking time to practice some self-care can really help us to care for our mental health. Try to take at least an hour or two a day for yourself; fill that time with doing things that you enjoy and make you feel relaxed and at peace. For example, I take the two hours before I go to sleep and try it fill that time with things like art and music, I’ll also take the time to have a bath, wash my hair, look after my skin, etc. Practicing self-care also involves things like making sure you are getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying hydrated. Sometimes a little thing like that which helps you feel better on the outside can switch things a little so you feel better inside too!

This would also be a good time to reflect on all of the good things that you have in your life now - your current partner, the fun things you do together, etc. I'm a strong believer in everything happens for a reason - so although what happened in the past was unhappy and still causes these negative emotions, you have a lot of good things in your life now that you may not have had if that event never happened. Maybe spend some extra time appreciating your partner and doing things so you both feel extra loved!

I hope this has been of some use to you, lovely. Please remember that you can always get back in touch with us if there is anything else that we can help you with! I wish you all the best. Take care!

Rhiann xo

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ramzawrites · 3 years

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Hey, so I'm having a really rough time rn (dealing with bs from my friend group, we have to take my really old dog to the vet today bc we found blood in her pee and we're scared that she won't make it this time, I'm struggling with my mental health, I'm just kinda goin thru it rn ig) so I would love a comfort fic with the sbi maybe with the reader as their sibling where the reader is the one that always comforts the fam, but hides their emotions until (1/2, very sorry about splitting it)

(2/2) something happens that makes the reader have a full on breakdown? I'll leave the rest to you, it can be a good or bad ending, headcanons or one shots, anything. You can ignore this request if you want/if it makes you uncomfortable. Please don't feel pressured/guilt tripped to write anything from this, your mental health comes first and I'm sure you're already really busy. Reminder to eat something today if you haven't yet and get a drink of water <3

We are family - Reader and SBI!Brothers

Pairings: none

Characters included: Wilbur, Technoblade, Tommy, (mentioned) Niki, (mentioned) Schlatt

Warnings: n/a

Series: a request <3

Summary: Y/N came back from an errand and surprises their brothers with their weird behavior. Trying to put on their usual smile, trying to hide away their real emotions but their brothers know them better than they inititally suspected. They could immediately tell that something must have happened.

Words count: 2060

Authors Note: I’m so sorry this took so long! I hope you and your dog are doing better! 💙 I wish I could give you more than words of encouragement and that I managed to get faster to this request, I apologize Please make sure to take care of yourself, alright? Take time for yourself to deal with the stress and anxiety! Make sure to stay hydrated and remember to eat! Even if it’s just something small!

Once again I apologize for the long wait, I felt really bad already and then I kinda put it off because I felt bad.

adhd hit hard again and haven’t checked for typos yet, but will get on it as soon as I can o7

On another note if you want to read another comfort fic; I have a small series called “A Painful Reminder” which is more angsty but the 2nd part is more about the comfort, if that is something for you

Living in the SMP was chaotic, turbulent and at times downright painful.

Most people tended to gravitate to one cause or other people to deal with this. Holding on to something so they don’t get pulled under. Get buried beneath the chaos and the violence.

So having people like Y/N around was like a godsend. They were one of the few people that seemed to be able to withstand the constant waves of misfortune and stand strong. Be the rock to hold onto when everything got too overwhelming.

Wilbur, Technoblade and Tommy loved their sibling for it.

After Wilbur and Tommy got exiled with Y/N out of L’Manberg, they were there and cheered both of their siblings up. Immediately making plans on how to set up a safe home and collecting ideas on how to get back. They were the one who managed to get a message out to Technoblade and asked him to visit them. Maybe help them.

Wilbur often jokingly said that Y/N was the glue that held the family together, to which they would always reply with the warmest of smiles “I’m glad.”

And what he said was true. Whenever the family fell on hard times and they began to drift apart it was Y/N who pulled all of them back. Pulling them back to reality and giving solutions for their problems if needed.

Sitting down with Wilbur when things got to much. Listening to his thoughts and worries, letting his emotion run freely without judgement. While they looked worried for him, their comforting smile never faltered. Offering him solutions to problems if he wanted it, otherwise they gave him the chance to just air his own thoughts out. To be angry with him. Sad with him.

Working with Tommy on his own projects. Listening to his ideas and giving him a different perspective that could improve some things but also respecting it when Tommy wanted to do this his way. And while he liked to brag and pretend that some things didn’t hit him that hard, they were still patiently listening to him as he spoke about his own pain in a more roundabout way. Telling him that he was not alone and making him feel heard.

Talking to Technoblade whenever the voices got too loud or out of hand again. He would just walk over to them and nudge them away, asking them to talk about something, no matter what. He just needed to hear their voice and be able to concentrate on it. Tune out the garbled voices in his head with a familiar sound that calmed him down no matter what. Leaning against them, slowly falling asleep as Y/N told all about how they were happily working on their own farm and what shenanigans they got up to.

Y/N really was like the warm sun on a cold day. Warming them up and protecting them.

Yes, Y/N was strong. So strong that even Technoblade considered them stronger than him. Maybe not physically but mentally and emotionally.

A clanging of metal rung through the cave. Techno was training with Wilbur while Tommy was just watching. Cheering on Techno.

It wasn’t an unusual situation and something Y/N expected to see as they made their way down the staircase. Wilbur in full iron armor and weapon while Techno just fought back with his own iron sword.

“Hey, Y/N! Welcome back!” Wilbur breathed out. Sweat running down the side of his face as he stopped attacking his brother.

The three men looked happily over to their sibling who slowly walked towards them but soon their expressions fell. Something was off about Y/N and it confused the three.

Their smile was as always plastered on their face but it looked strained. Their eyes wide open, trying to look sincere and loving but the glassy look of them gave off a different picture.

“Y/N? You okay?” Tommy asked as he stood up from the ground. Taking a step closer to them which made them in return stop in their tracks.

Y/N was hugging themself, shakily opening up their mouth to answer but nothing came out. It was then when Techno got very aware of how they were shaking in general.

This all seemed so wrong. This shouldn’t be possible. It just didn’t seem to register fully inside their minds.

Wilbur made sure to get rid off his sword and armor as fast as he could, walking over to his sibling, trying to get a better look at them but they just avoided his gaze.

Staring at the ground, slowly shaking their head “It’s- It’s fine. I’m fine.”

“You aren’t. You really aren’t. What happened? Did they find you?” Techno asked, his voice full with worry. A bit of anger hidden as well.

Y/N had their own little farm in order to support Pogtopia. The potatoes from Techno were great but variety is important after all. Though they also had an abundance of wheat they usually tried to smuggle into Manberg for Niki. Trying to help her out as much as possible with her taxes and work.

This time Y/N nodded “They did… It’s fine though. I’m fine. I’m not hurt. It’s all good.”

Wilbur’s frown deepened “Usually when people have to be so adamant about being okay something isn’t alright.”

Tommy nodded, supporting his statement only to whisper to himself “Adamant? What does-“

But Wilbur continued “We are your family, talk to us.”

Y/N licked their chapped lips “I’m-“

The tears finally escaped their eyes and begun streaming down their face. Sobbing they fell down on the ground. Wilbur immediately followed suit, laying his arm around them and pulling them against his chest. His hand flew up to their head and begun going through their hair, trying to calm them down. Humming a soft tune from their childhood.

It was the first time in their lives they saw Y/N break down like that and it was quite frankly shocking.

Unsure what to do with himself Tommy squatted down “Um, uh, what- what happened?”

Techno was still gripping the iron sword in his hand. Pacing up and down. Manberg found them? What the hell did they do to make Y/N break down like that? His own sibling! Whatever it was he would make sure to pay it back a thousand times over.

“Tommy can you grab them some water?” Wilbur laid his chin on top of Y/N’s head, rubbing circles now on their back.

He didn’t even hesitate, jumping up to run towards one of the chests with food items that Y/N had always ready for them. Grabbing a water bottle and running back over. Happy that he could do something else besides staring.

Tommy then pushed the bottle towards Y/N who gratefully took it, putting some space between them and Wilbur as they drank some of the cold liquid which helped them to calm down.

“You ready to tell us what happened?” Techno stopped pacing around. His gaze purely trained on his crying sibling. Anger still rising in him just like the voices.

Screaming things like “Technosib! How dare they hurt them! Protect them! I love Y/N so much! Why would anyone hurt Y/N! They always help us! Let’s help them for a change! Technosib! Let’s go out and fight them! Yeah! Blood for the Blood God and Y/N!”

Y/N’s voice was still wavering and a bit scratchy from their sobbing as they begun speaking “Hey, hey! Techno don’t concentrate on the voices. Listen to me. It’s all good.”

This somehow made Techno angry. He threw the sword away and finally knelt down next to them as well so his face was on the same eye level as theirs “Stop. Please. Stop thinking about us for one second. Stop trying to not make us uncomfortable or worried! Tell us what happened! Please.”

He was basically begging at the last part. All his worry packed into it.

“Yeah, honestly you trying to make sure everything is okay for us makes us even more worried.” It surprised the others a bit that this came from Tommy but he was correct.

Tears fell down their face again “I- I was just delivering more wheat to Niki and someone must have followed me. They followed me back to my farm and- and- they burned my fields down. There were explosions. I- it was just my farm. I did not harm. Just, why does it always have to end like this. Why do all the good things always end like this. Why can’t this place let something be. There is always something.”

The farm was so important to Y/N. It was their little project they put so much sweat, love and work into. It was their home away from home. A place to retreat and enjoy some peace. This obviously was devastating. It was their one thing they had for themself. The one thing that wasn’t there for anyone else but them.

It was also clear that this seemed to be the straw that broke the camel’s back and it broke the three a bit that they only now seemed to notice this. That it took that long and their whole farm being destroyed for the realize this was heartbreaking.

“Who?” Techno urged but Y/N shook their head.

“I don’t know. Everything went so fast and I tried to save as much as I could but- but it’s all gone. It’s all gone.” Their voice jumped up an octave at the end, burying their face against Wilbur’s shoulder again. Silently sobbing.

It should have been impossible but Wilbur’s frown deepened and his expression turned more grim “Don’t worry. We will get back at them. We will get our revenge. They will see firsthand what they did to you, I promise.”

Shocked Y/N looked up, their red and puffy eyes wide open “Wil, that’s not what I- no revenge. There is already too much misery going around I just want this to stop. I just want all of us being able to live in peace.”

Wilbur should have known that Y/N was too good natured for that but he couldn’t help himself. He was just so angry. Angry at Schlatt and Manberg. That they went for him was one thing but to go out of their way to treat Y/N like this? Let’s just say he put it on the list in bold letters with reasonings on why he will get back at the Manberg faction.

“Listen Y/N.” Techno begun, his voice now calm again “Stop it. Just for once think about yourself. Stop thinking about others for once. You are also worthy of the same care you give us. Let us at least help rebuild your farm. You always help us with our projects, let us help you with yours.”

Tommy seemed to lit up at that “That sounds like a good idea! We could build towers around your new farm and make sure no one gets in! We could put down traps and all!”

He really wasn’t sure how to react but that was at least something he could do for them. As the past General’s right hand man, this should be something he can do. If he couldn’t protect his sibling how could he ever hope to get L’Manberg back.

Wilbur seemed to think about it for a bit but agreed “Yeah, how does that sound?” Though the dark glint in his eyes stayed. The cogs in head still running off with his own thoughts.

“You guys would? Since when can you guys build?” a dry laugh escaped them but it was a laugh nonetheless.

Both Tommy and Wilbur looked almost appalled at that claim while Techno just shrugged and nodded. Just looking around Pogtopia was more functioning than good looking after all. Y/N tried to pretty it up a bit but usually something always happened around here.

“Also Y/N, please talk to us more. Don’t bottle everything up. Please. We worry a lot about you and we love you. You always do so much for us, let us do the same.” Wilbur pushed Y/N a bit off of him and looked them deep into their eyes, hoping that this would really hammer in that this was a genuine plea.

As a respone Y/N wiped the tears off their face “I understand. I’ll try to remember that.”

“Don’t try just do it.”

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jamiebluewind · 4 years

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UPDATE

I'm recovering from being sick and doing okay. Just still tired from it. Unfortunately, the novel coronavirus is now spreading in my area and between my asthma and compromised immune system... yeah. Not the best time to be me. I'm staying safe and following guidelines. Currently staying with my friends because living in a place where someone else can do the shopping, care for me if I get sick, and notice symptoms when they're mild so I can do things to help sooner (I sometimes cough with my asthma, so I just don't notice when I do anymore) outweighs the risk of being near a few people (who are all also following precautions). Danny (my cat) is also here and being a snuggle butt as well as having a blast hanging out with his best friend, Koshka.

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As a reminder to everyone, here is what you need to do in order to stay safe. Yes they are important now, but these rules should be followed for ANY sickness. A normal cold for you could send someone like me to the emergency room, so keep that in mind. They are especially important for pandemics like the novel coronavirus because slowing the spread will keep the healthcare system from becoming overwhelmed. If everybody gets sick at the same time, there will not be enough medical staff to care for the sick (rather they are sick with the virus or having a heart attack). I know that sounds scary, but that's just worse case. As long as most of us do our best, we can indirectly save lives and help our overworked medical professionals.

Wash your hands with soap regularly. Do it for about 20 seconds (or about how long it would take to sing Happy Birthday twice). It is especially important before and after leaving the house, before and after you go to the bathroom or clean up a diaper (your nose isn't the only mucus membrane on your body yall), before handing food/eating, before/during/after preparing food, and before and after you will be in contact other people (so if you visit friends, wash your hands when you arrive and beforeyou leave). The novel coronavirus is actually a mutated (and more dangerous) form of one of the viruses that causes the cold (most are rhinovirus, but about 20-30% of what we know as the cold is the normal form of the coronavirus) and thus reacts the same way to soap. The soap attaches to the virus. Since the soap is hydrophilic (water loving), it will rinse off your hands and down the drain. Any soap will do, but try to avoid ones that are very drying or have irritating ingredients (especially since you'll be washing your hands often). Hand sanitizer (at least 60% alcohol) will make the virus become dormant, but wont get it off your hands, so it's good for certain situations.

Avoid touching your face. The virus gets in through those mucus membranes, so keep dirty hands away! We all make mistakes (especially while distracted), but try your best. If you are prone to fidgeting (or touching your face in general), keep an easily/regularly cleaned and disinfected fidget toy nearby.

If you are sick, wear a mask! While people who aren't sick really don't benefit by wearing a mask, sick people wearing one greatly helps reduce the spread of the virus (especially via droplets from sneezing/coughing). I have been told that you can actually reuse a paper one for a while as long as the barrier is in tack, but I advise you to do your own due diligence and check to be sure. The only other time to throw on a mask is if you are in the presence of someone who is sick OR if you were exposed to someone with a confirmed case within the last two weeks. This is especially important while masks are in short supply. If you need a reminder to not touch your face, a sheer scarf or a simple homemade mask made from breathable cotton material can help. The homemade mask also has the added benefit of blocking about 50 to 70% of outgoing droplets (depending on material and the study looked at) which (while far lower than actual surgical masks) is better than nothing if no real masks are available.

Eat well, take meds, and do normal self care to insure that your body and immune system are in good shape for if and when you get sick. Starting off stressed, malnourished, in medication withdrawal, and ill rested will increase the likelyhood of complications.

Keep things on hand that will keep your hands busy and clean/disinfect them regularly (remember, it's fairly easy to touch your phone/fidget with dirty hands, wash your hands, and then pick up your still dirty phone/fidget). Busy hands will help lower the risk of accidental face touching or touching/tapping random objects. There are a large variety of fidgets out there (there's more than fidget spinners yall!), so research a few different types to try (like visual, tactile, resistance, auditory, chewing, weighted, and puzzles). If you are a nail biter/picker, you might need some extra help keeping your hands away from your face (or splitting a cuticle/biting into the quick). Wear gloves if you have any splits or cuts (they might also help keep hands away from the face), consider painting your nails (asthma safe polish if you have it) to help remind you not to bite, keep gum on hand, use a fidget when the urge hits, and keep nails short so nails wont get on your nerves or tempt you as bad. Use a fidget chewer other than gum only if you are sure you can keep it disinfected.

Don't go to crowded places if you can't help it (especially while contagious), but if you have to, follow the above rules, don't shake hands, and limit contact with other people as best as you can. Try not to go to the store just because you are out of one thing. Keep yourself and others safe.

Try to keep enough supplies on hand to last a couple weeks so if you do get sick, you can isolate yourself. That includes things like food, drinks (like tea which when mixed with honey is quite soothing for a sore throat), bathroom supplies, medications (both over the counter and prescription), paper products (tissues, toilet paper, and paper towels), pet supplies, stuff to keep your home clean (like cleaning supplies, dishwashing liquid, laundry detergent, and trash bags), and (if you live with others) disposable dishes (like paper plates, plastic/paper cups, and plastic utensils you can just throw away in a bag in your room).

There are a lot of scams out there and a lot of fake information, so remember to stay safe and research claims. Staying hydrated is important for your health and immune system, but drinking water every 15 minutes to flush the virus into your stomach to kill it is a false claim. Another false claim is holding your breath for 10 to 15 seconds (to see if you have any difficulty or start coughing) to test if you have the virus and might cause people with the virus to unknowingly spread/contract it by not taking normal precautions. There is currently no cure for the virus at this time, but there are plenty of con artists who will lie to you to make money either via product sales or ad revenue, so check the CDC for updates and countermeasures instead.

As a side note, try to get your information from reputable sources. A lot of places are heavy into fear mongering and clickbait. The CDC has good information. If you like YouTube, Doctor Mike tends to put out solid videos on it that aren't difficult for non-medical professionals to understand (I also like Philip Defranco and consider him a good source of up to date information, but despite linking sources, he is not a doctor and also covers the news, so make sure to double check). Here is an example of a video by Doctor Mike.

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#coronavirus #covid-19 #bluewind talks #tips #health tips #doctor mike

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kyberphilosopher · 4 years

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Heya! Would you like to write some Keres x Reader headcanons where the reader is a Jedi and survived Order 66 and is trying to rebuild the order? How would Keres react? Especially if she falls in love with them? Do you even write headcanons, I'm so sorry😳

Hello I love you. This will sound super lame, but my original characters are my babies and I’m so happy you like one enough to request this. It really makes my day. I hope you’re well and hydrated for real.

Please request more things for Keres. She’s da love of my life. I’m so proud of her.

I’ve never written headcanons before, but here we go. [Hope I did it right]

Also, there’s two versions here because the first one got kind of long and it felt more like an actual fic. Got a little nervous about doing it wrong so I split it up- one section is shorter and more of a rundown, while the second is the original and more detailed. Choose whatever works for you.

-Spoilers below

Short Version

Meeting on Endor

Her not liking you at all in the beginning

Respecting you for your calm demeanor and not asking about her past

Slowly warming up to you

Not knowing how to show her appreciation, so bringing you little things.

Bringing you berries you like and you not knowing how long it takes her to find them

Hugging Keres after being worried about her and her not knowing how to respond

Keres.exe stopped working

Not agreeing with the Jedi Order, but respecting what you’re doing when you mention reform.

Would 100% help you with reform if you would ever succeed.

Would’ve even joined had you said the word.

Breaking Keres’s heart when you ask her to come with you

Keres saying no and acting like it’s not a big deal to make you feel better.

Keres wondering about you often

Seeing you in dreams

Wanting to tell you how she feels and her past

Thinking about you during Operation Ilum.

Writing you a letter about how you had changed how she saw the Order.

Mentioning that she hopes you’re proud

Finding out she knew Cal Kestis later.

Asking what Keres was like and finding out that she worked on Bracca.

Smiling softly and hoping that she’s alright.

[Keres has been dead for about 2 years at this point]

Long Version [lol]

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*. The Meeting

I imagine you meeting on Endor. Keres stayed there for about a month after her encounter with the Haxion Brood, and you planned to stay until you were ready to get back on the galaxies equivalent of a road.

You were dedicated to the order, and you understood what it stood for. Even if you knew it wasn’t perfect, you think it’s important to have around and bring back peacekeepers.

You wandered about the forest, hiking and climbing as you scouted out the area around you. You were hoping to find any resources or civilizations of any kind, but instead you found something far more valuable...

A girl was laying down a net in a river. You’d never seen her before, and you hadn’t sensed her presence. Your first thought was that she was a native of some kind- probably just lived here. She had brown hair in a braid that fell over her shoulder, long eyelashes and wore a dark colored outfit. She didn’t look like a native- didn’t dress like one at least. Then you saw the lightsabers on either side of her hips.

Your first reaction was “!!!!!!!” because this was another Jedi! She definitely would’ve helped you right?! Wrong.

Before you could reveal yourself, the girl detached one of the weapons. You were immediately concerned when you saw a red colored blade ignite in the world. She must’ve been a Sith, but at the moment, she was just calmly slicing part of the net away.

You knew better than to engage a Sith lord in direct combat. So, you waited. Instead, you attempted to cleverly follow the girl back to her camp and capture and question her-pounce while she slept.

The plan did not go well.

Keres isn’t stupid. She knew you were following her, for multiple reasons, and ended up placing a trap of her own.

You stepped right into a rope in the shape of a loop. Immediately, it snagged around your ankle and you twisted up into the air until you were hanging upside down. Dizzy and feeling the oncoming headache, you had to squint your eyes to see her walking towards you.

“Hello there,” the girl said. Keres held up a hand, and your lightsaber came off your belt and zipped into her hand smoothly. She observed it, rolling it over, pressing the nail of her thumb against it.

You were about to speak, but the blood rushing to your head was making it difficult. Your mouth opened and closed with a strain, prompting her eyebrows to furrow. “Hey,” she said with a snap from her free hand. “I’m talking to you.”

“Sith... Lord...” you managed to get out like an observation. Your fingers barely put themselves into the pointing position.

“So what if I am?” she questioned. “Aren’t the Jedi the ones who are traitors?”

You didn’t have an answer. Your head was getting too cloudy, lips were becoming too parched. Maker, you were about to pass out.

The girl rolled her eyes. She pressed the switch of your lightsaber, and the blade popped out quickly. She cut the top of the rope swiftly, and then her hand reached out to freeze you in the air and stop you from falling.

Tiredly, you lay back, trying to recover from your thrumming mind.

Meanwhile, the girl tossed your saber up in the air and caught it. “Jedi, huh?”

You sighed, closing your eyes and finally regaining your breath. “Yeah,” you said in defeat. The cackling of the fire combined with the girl standing over you was a weird feeling. Relaxing, but intense and threatening.

Keres thought for a moment. She decided to take a calculated risk.

Your lightsaber landed in the dirt beside your face. “Don’t ever follow me again,” she warned.

You sit up immediately, meeting her eyes. They’re hazel, with golden flecks from the light of the fire in the back. Freckles across her olive skin, powerful demeanor.

She turns away and leaves. You don’t go after her.

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*. The Second Encounter

You just had to know about this girl. She had let you go, but somehow had a red lightsaber? It didn’t quite add up. If by any chance she wasn’t a Sith, she was still a force user. She could help rebuild the order!

She was in a different spot this night. She had clearly moved and set up camp somewhere else because she didn’t want you specifically to find her again, but you had managed to track her down again.

As she sat on a fallen tree, staring at the orange streaks of heat lapping the air in the dead of night, you sprung on her. Your saber was drawn and pointing at her, and you pushed yourself from behind the tree you stood at.

Keres was calm. “Didn’t I tell you not to do this?” she asked simply, looking up at you.

Her eyes are so pretty. Hazel... emerald green and gold... you swallow.

“I think I need your help,” you say urgently.

“Help?” Keres questions with one eyebrow raised. “It’s funny. I can’t remember the Jedi ever needing help before.”

You feel your head become clearer. Somehow, you figure out what kind of person you’re dealing with here. If you want to convince this one, you’re going to have to work for it. You’re going to have to play your cards right.

You turn your saber off. [this takes Keres by surprise, but she didn’t show it.]

“We were peacekeepers,” you say, sincerely. “We were betrayed.”

“In the Purge?” Keres wonders aloud, genuine and without considering how this gave you an opening.

“Yeah,” you replied. You look down at the ground at the memory, feeling the muted sadness wash over you. Then you look up and into her eyes again. “Were you there?”

Keres doesn’t answer immediately. She looks between your right and left eye, almost like she’s searching for something. “No,” she says finally. And you think she’s lying.

You end up sitting beside Keres, on the dirt next to the tree she sits on.

“I’m Y/N by the way,” you say after a string of silence. “Yours?”

Keres just looks at you. She’s the most distrustful she’s ever been to another person, and she doesn’t like you very much. She just remembers what the Jedi did to her, how they left her out of selfishness. How much better would her life have been if they had helped her?

“Keres,” she says finally. “My name is Keres.”

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*. The Relationship Development

Gathering together, and her keeping a close eye on you to make sure you’re not a threat.

You never drawing your weapon in order to stay on her good side.

Telling Keres you’re on a quest to save the Jedi Order, and her not liking it.

“So you’re pretty stupid, huh?”

Asking Keres a few times what her problem with the Jedi is.

Keres refusing to tell you, and starting to feel guilty about asking because you know it was probably making her sad.

Keres getting closed off and becoming more quiet after you ask. [this makes you feel even worse]

Watching her practice her lightsaber technique.

She does it almost every day, at around the same time. She uses the same tree to practice against, twirling around and slicing it [without full power as to not bring the whole thing down]

Being in awe of her combat form. It’s not like anything you’ve ever scene or been taught about, and it’s relentless and graceful.

Finally giving her a tip. [you know better than to question how she does this in case it has to do with her past]

“You should try using your knees more,” you say, leaning against a neighboring tree.

She looks over at you. You’re almost afraid she’s going to quip something sarcastic and borderline rude to you, but she’s quiet. Finally, she says, “you should try using the reverse grip.”

Being secretly overjoyed that she actually said something sincere to you.

Asking where she got the sabers from.

“Green came first, and the red came second.”

“Where’d you get a red lightsaber at this time?”

“Stole it.”

Not taking the conversation any further.

Being shocked when she offers you food one night.

Accepting after a second of staring at her in awe.

Her warming up to you over the course of two weeks.

She likes how calm and unflappable you are. She likes that you know better than to push your luck and respect her boundaries. It’s almost comforting.

Something changing in the relationship.

Waiting for her to return to camp after a day of her hunting and gathering. She was taking much longer than she should’ve, and you were beginning to get anxious and worried.

Rocking back and forth lightly while your feet tap on the ground.

Seeing her figure in the light of the fire, and running towards her.

Pulling her into a tight hug.

Keres almost drops the net of fish and berries you like. Eyes wide, mouth slightly open.

Nuzzling your head into her hair as your chest heaves.

“I was starting to get worried,” you explained.

Keres not knowing what to do, but slowly wrapping her arms around you in return.

Looking into her eyes for a few seconds after pulling away.

You can make out a cluster of freckles that look like a constellation you really like.

“I... um... I brought those berries you like.”

Keres looking at you a little longer after that, and sometimes catching her staring.

Making it a thing to watch her while she trained.

Keres wanting to ask if you like the view, but being too much of a [soft cinnamon roll] to do so and getting nervous.

Keres sometimes bringing you rare berries you like.

She doesn’t even like it herself. They’re purely for you.

Sometimes taking a while to find but her never mentioning it.

Keres starting to wonder if maybe all Jedi aren’t bad.

Keres wanting to brush her fingers against your face as you look at the campfire at night, but being to anxious and nervous to do so.

Keres feeling bad about her past and feeling like she’s not good enough to be with you. [or even your friend]

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*. The Finale

Almost completely forgetting about the Jedi Order and staying under the protection with Keres.

Becoming a bit of a team in living around each other.

Realizing you’ve already been on Endor way longer than you should have, and knowing you have to move again.

Asking Keres to come with you.

“You’re a good person, Keres. I could use someone like you with me.”

Keres tensing up when you call her a ‘good person’.

“Help me rebuild the Order, Keres. Come with me.”

Keres wanting to go with you.

Keres knowing she can’t.

Remembering what the Jedi did, and everything bad she’s ever done.

Her feeling very guilty and pained.

“I’m alright here,” she said slowly, trying to keep calm.

“Are you?” you question.

“Yeah,” she says, even though she feels very, very upset.

Picking up on the way her voice almost breaks.

Spending the night in her camp more quiet.

You’re leaving the next day, and she’s trying to ignore the fact that she’s come to really like your presence.

Keres stays up thinking about it, looking at you sleep and thinking about how stupid she is.

Asking her to come with you again.

“Keres,” you say, looking down at your feet. Then you look back up into her eyes. “I know you have some weird thing against the Jedi, and I get it.” [you don’t get it.] “But you’re smart and you’re strong. Come with me. Help rebuild the Order.”

Keres still wanting to go with you.

Looking down, feeling so sad and disappointed and devastated in the pit of her stomach.

I... I can’t.”

Not knowing what else to say to her.

“Take care of yourself, Keres.”

Keres wanting to tell you everything that happened to her.

Keres wanting to ask you to stay, but knowing that this is too important to just shun.

Watching you leave.

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*. Bonus

Keres thinking about you at random times.

Looking for you around the Harbinger, trying to see if you somehow joined the rebels.

Returning to Ilum and looking over the side of the mountain, thinking you’d like the view.

Keres’s view of the Jedi changing.

Although she doesn’t agree with what you’re doing, and she doesn’t like the Order at all, she knows why they’re needed. She respects what you’re trying to do, and she respects your mission. She won’t intervene.

If you would ever succeed and ask her to join the Order, asked her what she would reform, or need her to defend it, she would’ve done it.

Wondering if you’re still alive.

Wondering if you’re doing okay.

Always using her knees more in combat to remember you.

You holding your lightsaber in the reverse grip to remember her.

Respecting people who don’t like the Jedi a little more, because they remind you of Keres and knowing you must have empathy.

Keres thinking about you before she dies.

Hoping you’d be proud of her.

Stumbling across Cal Kestis, Greez Dritus, and Cere Junda years later when they were also trying to rebuild the Order.

Finding out Cal and Keres were roommates on Bracca and suddenly remembering her.

Hoping she’s still alive, not realizing she had died a few years prior.

.✫*ﾟ･ﾟ｡.★.*｡･ﾟ✫*.

Sorry if you don’t care about my oc’s and I tagged you. It’s star wars related and i panicked.

@omg-we-really-doo @haztory @fanficsforheartandsoul @chokemeanakin @anakinswhore @kit-jpg

#head canons #headcanons #fanon #help lmao

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olivieblake · 4 years

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Hey Olivie, New York just closed all personal care services (including tattoo shops) starting Saturday night and I've never wanted a tattoo more in my life. I'm seriously considering getting a tattoo when this is all over, and was wondering if you had any advice for us first timers. How do you decide on a design, placement, etc? Things you wish you knew going into your first tattoo appointment? Mr. Blake's joy at spending this time with you is giving me life, stay safe 💜

lol I feel this very hard, I didn’t get my birthday tattoo this year because I couldn’t decide what i wanted and I was like eh I can get it later, and now I am like, dying

okay so some random advice:

I don’t know why this is but the moment you get your first tattoo you will constantly think about what tattoos you want next. which isn’t to say that everyone gets more, but something about opening the door means you’ll have thoughts about it all the time. the reason I’m saying this is because everyone puts a lot of pressure on what their first tattoo should be (it’s almost always something you later think is dumb; not in a bad way, just in a ‘lol, past me’ way) but then the novelty wears off and you start to think of it as an art piece or item of jewelry that you get to wear all the time. at this point none of my tattoos have meaning—I just say I’m curating an aesthetic, which is what I enjoy about getting them. sometimes looking at my tattoos helps me feel like myself again, but I almost never think about what they “mean” anymore. (also, now that I have a rapport with my artist, I usually only come in with the size, placement, and a general idea of what I want. last time I said “idk, something celestial? with an ocean wave” and he drew it for me on the spot)

I like to decide where to put a tattoo by picking a piece on my body I’d like to decorate. the tattoo on my ribs has a mandala that curves around the side of my boob because it highlights a part of me I think is anatomically pleasing. the tattoo on my hip is something only a few people have ever seen (I call it my sex tattoo; did not enjoy running into an ex recently, who deliberately looked down at where it is located.) I NEVER see the one on the back of my neck, so it’s my least favorite. I constantly forget it’s there. I do try to keep myself relatively… even? in terms of placements. I have my right outer wrist, left inner arm / right hip, left rib, so in terms of composition I’m very balanced. which is why I can’t decide where to put my next one because I have to offset myself again. I’m thinking sternum, actually, but that being said…….

I don’t recommend ribs or sternum for a first tattoo (most likely the artist will try to talk you out of it anyway). it’s a different kind of pain that’s hard to sit perfectly still for, which means a higher chance of it not coming out perfectly. places that hurt include anything close to bone, because it reverberates, or near any nerves, because pain receptors. for my rib tattoo, the vibration of the gun basically reverberated through the bones of my chest, affecting my ability to breathe, which a person typically can’t sit through for more than an hour at a time. choose the size and detail of your tattoo accordingly if that’s a placement you want. places that don’t hurt much (comparatively) are back/shoulder, thigh/hip, etc. the fleshy bits!

a tattoo feels to me like a cat scratching over and over in the same spot. it’s a low level of pain at first, then you go numb after a bit and it doesn’t hurt much at all, and then, if you keep going beyond two or so hours, the pain comes back and the skin starts to sting or throb beneath the initial tattooing pain. all of it is a manageable pain, in my opinion. I just don’t want to lie to you if you have a low pain tolerance, plus that can help you figure out how much you’re willing to sit for. a flash tattoo or something fashionably dainty/linear takes less than an hour. anything with shading and detail takes probably closer to two. the tattoo on my ribs is a six hour tattoo that I did in two sessions: 4 hours to do most of the outlines and shading, 2 hours to come back after it had partially healed and touch up some of the details. I’ve never gone longer than that, and I am assuming you won’t either for a first tattoo.

eat and hydrate enough before you go in so you don’t do something stupid like totally lose consciousness or whatever, but don’t take anything for pain. ibuprofen thins your blood and so does alcohol (!! don’t drink the night before your tattoo). if you bleed more during your tattoo, your artist will have to wipe more and there’s a higher chance of something coming out badly

personally I manage pain by becoming very chatty and distracting myself talking about something dumb (usually my books—I once described the full plot of one beginning to end), so I always like an artist who doesn’t mind talking while they work. it’s kind of important to feel like you vibe with the artist, both in terms of their art and their personality, especially if you’re going to be sitting for a while. if you don’t feel comfortable asking the artist about the best placement or asking for changes to the design, that’s not the right artist for you.

I think that’s all for now. uhguhguhghghghhh what a mood, honestly. I also need my eyebrows done SO badly

#tattoos #gratuitous personal information #gratattooitous personal information #makeyourowndamnsandwich #big sistering

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mental-health-advice · 6 years

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Is it possible for stress to trigger social anxiety? I've always been shy and had a very low self esteem but I naturally overcame it when I was 15. After that, I kinda grew out of my social anxiety. Now I'm almost 21, third year of college (the reason I'm always stressed) and all my fears of being judged, calling strangers on the phone (such a food delivery, a particular store) or answering messages from almost everyone is back and stronger than ever. I'm afraid of those things I'm feeling ...

Hey love,

Thanks for getting in touch with us here at MHA! I am sorry that you are going through such a stressful time right now and it is having a negative impact on your mental health. I hope I’ll be able to share some techniques and reassurances to start making things a little easier for you again.

In short, yes, stress is definitely a big trigger for mental health issues such as anxiety. Around two years ago I was in the same position as you going into my 2nd year at University and suddenly the increased pressure and stress causes a major relapse in my mental health. But hopefully I can use this to show you and others that it is possible to overcome and you can succeed with anything you desire! We need to look at ways in which we could begin to reduce that stress. This may involve something like creating a daily schedule for the important tasks that you need to complete. So this could involve a revision schedule, or a homework timetable? If you start of small with maybe just half an hour of work a day, then gradually build it up; it’s important to keep small and manageable goals! But please remember that it is really important to leave time, at least an hour or two a day, for self care. For example, I take around 2 hours before I go to bed and fill that time with things I enjoy like creating art and music, and I also make sure to spend time caring for my hair and skin etc. Self care also involves things like making sure you are eating well, staying hydrated, and getting enough sleep. If you are struggling with stress right now, it may also help you to begin practising some mindfulness - here is our page about it!

To begin with, I’m going to link you to our page about social anxiety here; this has a lot of information about social anxiety and some of the diagnostic criteria.

Have you considered seeing a professional about this, lovely? If not, I think it would be a really good idea for you to reach out to your doctor or a therapist for support. They will be able to diagnose you if applicable, begin treatment, and hopefully share some great coping mechanisms with you. Here is our page about getting help if that is something that you want to consider; if this page leaves you with any questions about seeking treatment, then please drop us another message and one of the other admins or I will be more than willing to help you out!

It is important to note that when dealing with any type of mental illness, including social anxiety, there will be times during recovery when you struggle more again and feel as though you have gone back to square one - that is completely normal! But just because you may be having a bad day or period of time, it doesn’t mean that the progress you previously made has gone; now you know that you can do those great things and it gives you something to keep striving towards. You have made such good progress, love, and you can get there again!

To challenge negative thoughts, I found it really useful to stop, acknowledge my thought, and then ask myself whether I have any evidence to support that thought. For example, if I find myself thinking ‘he thinks i’m stupid’, I stop and ask myself ‘Are you just mind-reading? What evidence do you have to say that he thinks you’re stupid?’ Normally, you will find that you don’t have any evidence to support that thought, and challenging it can help you to dismiss and move over the thought. I suggest you have a look at our anxiety page series, specifically the self-help and calming down pages.

Grounding techniques are personally my go to method for dealing with my anxiety. Grounding techniques help you to reconnect with reality and keep your mind from wandering off in the negative thoughts. Here is a link to our page about different methods. Personally, I recommend something physical like running your hands under icy water. You could also try something like playing a categories game with yourself; so, try to think of ‘’breeds of dogs’’, ‘’states of the USA’’, or ‘’billboard charts’’ etc. It may take you a little while to find the most effective grounding techniques for you, but hopefully the ideas on our page will be of some use to you

Something I want you to try, if you feel able to, is to start looking at the patterns in your social anxiety. So think back to some of the times when you have experienced social anxiety, and start to break it down into:

Your thoughts before a social event (e.g. everyone will think i’m stupid)

The physical symptoms you experience (e.g. panic attack)

The negative view you have of yourself (e.g. i look really ugly today)

Avoidance behaviours you use (e.g. playing on my phone)

Your thoughts after a social event (e.g. everyone hates me and won’t want to spend time with me again)

It may also be really good to keep a diary for whenever you feel anxious in the future and note down how each attack fits into the above categories. This can be really useful as it helps you to understand what is behind the anxiety and it means you can start tackling it in smaller sections. Recognising and tackling it in smaller sections can help you to feel less overwhelmed and lost in the negatives!

I hope this has been of some use to you, lovely, Please remember that you are welcome to get back in touch with us whenever you want to. Please take care!

Rhiann xo

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mental-health-advice · 6 years

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So, back in October i sent you a message about having no self harm thoughts since my ex left me and having a guy that I was seeing. Turns out, I fell in love with him but he ended up not feeling the same way. I am so depressed over this, because I want to be with him so badly. I'm in love with him, but he just wants to be friends. I have talked to him and told him how I feel, but even still... Everyday I'm not with him I can feel myself sinking further into my depression but idk what to do -Elly

Hi Elly,

Thank you for getting in touch with us here at MHA! I’m really sorry to hear that you are struggling with depression. I hope I’ll be able to give you some advice!

Self-care is really important for you right now. Try to take at least an hour or two a day for yourself; fill that time with doing things that you enjoy and make you feel relaxed and at peace. For example, I take the two hours before I go to sleep and try it fill that time with things like art and music, I’ll also take the time to have a bath, wash my hair, look after my skin, etc. Practising self-care also involves things like making sure you are getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying hydrated. When we are feeling low and depressed it can seem like the best thing to do is to isolate ourselves away from our friends and family, but this can actually cause depression and other mental health issues to worsen. Have you considered talking about how you feel with any of your friends? I know how hard it can be to look after yourself when you are struggling with mental health issues, but it really does make such a difference, even if you just run a face wipe over your face and brush your hair. Sometimes a little thing like that which helps you you feel on the outside, can switch things a little so you feel better inside too!

I do think the best option for you right now is to speak to a professional, such as your doctor or a therapist. They will be able to help with a diagnosis, if applicable, and will start treatment with you. They will also help you to begin understanding what is causing these feelings, or lack of, and hopefully give you some coping mechanisms which you can apply to your daily life. Even if there is no diagnosis necessary, sometimes venting can really help to clear your mind. I know reaching out for help can be really scary, but you deserve all of the help available to you, lovely. Here is a link to our page about getting help. Professionals are there to help you in any way they can, they won’t judge you, or make you do or tell them anything you don’t want to. I am also going to link you to this really great interactive booklet about depression created by Moodjuice. Personally I found this really informative and it had some great self-help tips.

In terms of how you may be feeling about self harm right now: Although self harm can provide immediate relief from the emotions you may be experiencing, in the long run it can actually cause more damage - it helps for a short period of time because it causes the release of endorphins which numb pain and induce a sense of euphoria, this is why it can become so addictive. Something I have found to be really helpful when dealing with urges to hurt myself, that you may be able to apply to some of your negative thoughts, is time goals. So whenever you have a thought about hurting yourself, you could start by saying ‘I will not hurt myself for the next 5 minutes’ and after 5 minutes the urge may have passed, but if it hasn’t keep giving yourself 5 minutes until the urge has passed. I am going to link you to some of our pages about self harm and ways to try and overcome the urges you may have to hurt yourself:

Information about self-harmAlternatives to self-harmDistractions from self-harmReasons not to self-harmYoutube videos

Having romantic feelings rejected and not returned is an extremely hard thing to go through, and your feelings are completely valid. I’m not entirely sure if this is something you are looking to do, but just in case, I’m going to give you suggestions about how to make the process of getting over someone a little easier. I should also say that getting over a relationship and feelings is a completely different process for each individual, so it’s important that you put yourself first and do whatever is best for you!

A good way to start is removing ways that you could contact him or look at his profiles, so block his social media, his number etc. I once read that a great way to walk away from someone toxic in your life, is to write them a letter - but don’t send it, destroy it! Let all of the things out that you want to say to him, and all of the negative feelings you have, and then destroy them - burn it, or rip it up? Then let yourself grieve the loss of those thoughts and feels, and ultimately, that person in your life. If you want to remain friends with him then maybe the best idea is to take a little break away from each other, and during that time, take the time to care for yourself and recognise that you are okay on your own and that you don’t need him to do good.

Again, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this right now and that you are feeling so low - but I promise you, things will get better and you will be able to be happy one day, these negative feeling will pass and you will come out the other side stronger than you ever thought possible, and we’ll be here to support you every step of the way!

‘‘Fall down seven times, stand up eight.’‘

Take care,

Rhiann xo

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I've been skipping lots of meals, & have lost interest in so much. I've started journaling, though. After a year of being clean, I cut. I don't know how, but I'm gonna have to be super secretive of my sexuality until I can move out in 2 years. My parents are homo/transphobic. They're suspicious of my sexuality or if I'm "confused". i have been experiencing strong anxiety & depression nearly every day & have vivid dreams. Lying for the next 2 years is gonna be so draining. how do i keep this up?

Hi love,

I am really sorry that you are having to deal with all of this right now, this must be so hard for you. I am really proud of you for reaching out for help because that is such a hard first step to take. Hopefully I’ll be able to give you some advice and reassurance

Firstly I am so sorry that you are struggling with self-harm, but it is an amazing achievement to have reached a year clean! Just because it is something you are dealing with again, does not mean that the progress you made is now worthless. You are still doing such a good job

Information about self-harmAlternatives to self-harmDistractions from self-harmReasons not to self-harmYoutube videos

We here at MHA are not professionals, and we really discourage self-diagnosis for the reasons listed here, but I do think it sounds like you may be experiencing some kind of depressive episode right now. I am going to list some of the symptoms of depression here so you can see how much you relate the them:

Persistently sad, anxious, or empty moods

Loss of pleasure in usual activities

Fatigue or decreased energy

Sleep disturbances

Change in appetite or weight

Thoughts of suicide or death, or suicide attempts

Poor self-image or self-esteem

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If you think this is something that you are experiencing, then I really recommend reaching out to someone for professional guidance. Your first port of call could be your GP? They will be able to diagnose any mental health conditions and refer you for more specialist treatment. You may be offered different treatment options, depending on your condition, such as medication or talking therapies. Talking therapy may be especially useful for you and may help you to understand why you are experiencing depressive and anxious episodes and identify any triggers; they will then be able to help you with some coping techniques. I’m linking our page about getting help here. You may also be able to request to see a therapist who has experience and specialises in working with LGBTQ+ patients! I am also going to link you to our self-help and calming pages about anxiety. These pages have some great tips about dealing with anxious thoughts, including grounding techniques. Grounding techniques might be useful for you when you find yourself getting lost in anxious thoughts; I would recommend something physical like running your hands under cold water, and then saying the alphabet forwards and then backwards slowly. Could you give some of these a go? I am also going to link you to this really great interactive booklet about depression created by Moodjuice. Personally I found this really informative and it had some great self-help tips.

In terms of dealing with your sexuality and coming out, it is a completely unique endeavour for everyone so I can’t tell you and exact way to deal with it or help. However, what I can tell you is that you are 100% not alone! Please remember that you come first in all of this, and we will always be here to support you no matter whether you decide to come out or not. I have never been able to come out to my parents, instead I have surrounded myself with people who support me for who I am, one way I did this was by joining online communities. Have you considered any local or online support groups you could maybe join/attend? I know there is a really large and wonderful LGBTQ+ community on Tumblr, for example, and it’s full of people who are ready to help and advise you – you may even find someone else who is going through the same things as you right now, and you can work together for support. I am going to list some websites and resources that I personally found really useful when coming to terms with my sexuality:

RUComingOutSwitchboard LGBTThe Trevor Project

I hope this has been of some use to you, lovely. Please remember that you can always get back in touch with us if there is anything else that we can help you with! Take care!

‘‘Keep fighting, people, and your little monsters will never get the best of you.’

Rhiann xo

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I have been depressed everyday & very often experience anxiety, ever since I was a little kid & didn't know what anxiety was. My schedule has gotten very busy & I haven't had time for a mental break. I also have trouble accepting my sexuality & coming to terms with the fact that this is me. Parents don't know about any of this, & I'm scared of their reaction. I am out to few friends, but don't feel like I am out to myself. I can't say it in the mirror. I'm out to friends before I'm ready. help?

Hi lovely,

I am really sorry that you are struggling so much right now, but hopefully I’ll be able to give you a little advice. I just want to start by saying that i’m really proud of you for reaching out to us for help, I know how hard it can be to talk about things like this, so you’ve done so well

In terms of your depression and anxiety, have you seen a professional, like a doctor, about this? We try to discourage self-diagnosis for the reasons listed here. I think it would be a really good idea to go and talk to your doctor about this; they will be able to give you a diagnosis, begin treatment with you, and refer you for further specialist treatment if necessary. They may refer you for talking therapy; this can be really effective for anxiety and depression as your therapist can help you to understand your feelings and what is causing them, they will also hopefully be able to give you some coping techniques that work well for you. If you are still in school or college, you may also be able to access a counsellor free on-site. Here is a link to our page about getting help, I know it can be scary, but I know you can do it

I am going to link you to our self-help and calming pages about anxiety. These pages have some great tips about dealing with anxious thoughts, including grounding techniques. Grounding techniques might be useful for you when you find yourself getting lost in anxious thoughts; I would recommend something physical like running your hands under cold water, and then saying the alphabet forwards and then backwards slowly. Could you give some of these a go?

Self-care is really important for you right now. I realise that you have a busy schedule, but try to take at least an hour or two a day for yourself; fill that time with doing things that you enjoy and make you feel relaxed and at peace. For example, I take the two hours before I go to sleep and try it fill that time with things like art and music, I’ll also take the time to have a bath, wash my hair, look after my skin, etc. Practising self-care also involves things like making sure you are getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying hydrated. Spending time with your friends is also key so that you don’t begin to feel alone and isolated. Your friends can act as a strong support network for you.

In terms of accepting yourself and coming out, this is a completely unique experience for everyone so I can’t tell you a hard and fast rule to help, but I hope I can give you a little reassurance at least. Firstly, you are perfectly normal and wonderful just the way you are - I know it can be hard to accept that, but you are honestly amazing and you don’t need to change for anyone. Something that really helped me to come to terms with my sexuality, was to accept that I did not choose to be this way - we cannot choose our sexuality, is is simply a part of who we are, and who you are, is great! Have you considered any local or online support groups you could maybe join/attend? I know there is a really large and wonderful LGBTQ+ community on Tumblr, for example, and it’s full of people who are ready to help and advise you – you may even find someone else who is going through the same things as you right now, and you can work together for support. I am going to list some websites and resources that I personally found really useful when coming to terms with my sexuality:

RUComingOutSwitchboard LGBTThe Trevor Project

I hope this has been of some help to you, lovely. If there is anything else that we can help you with, please don’t hesitate to get back in touch! Please take care,

Rhiann xo

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