#learn the difference before i make you

[karamazovanon]

controversial opinion maybe but it BEWILDERS me when people (mostly americans ime) genuinely seriously with their whole chest complain about how impossibly hard russian names are. like. do a single google search. i don't see how you can comprehend that charles = chuck and margaret = peggy but can't fathom that rodion = rodya. how is this such a huge barrier of entry for people

#and this doesnt apply to ESL ppl or any other ppl who have actual reasons like dyslexia or something #im talking about other americans who go yeah i had to stop reading bc i couldnt understand the names #how are you seeing different cultural naming conventions as an unsurpassable barrier that forces you to quit and give up on ever reading it #instead of an opportunity to learn and expand your narrow worldview?????? and over something SO SIMPLE?????????? #like i know damn well yall know a katherine that goes by katie or a john that goes by jack #and those make even less sense than something like aleksey -> alyosha! #there are general rules and patterns unlike english! like the progression from aleksey -> alyosha -> alyoshka -> alyoshechka is so easy to #comprehend i dont understand how its SUCH a common complaint #i definitely understand the struggle of keeping characters straight when they have the same first name #like katerina ivanovna and katerina ospovna in t/bk etc #and of course the names in general are something you have to adjust to if youve never encountered it before! it takes a bit of thought #but its NOT FUCKING ROCKET SCIENCE and its asinine to shrug your shoulders and say welp guess im incapable of ever reading any ruslit! #like ohhh my goddd it grinds my gears so bad #bare minimum effort #anontalks #sorry for rant but i keep fucking seeing this shit and it rubs me the wrong way every time #like yeah its funny that dunya = avdotya and grushenka = agrafena #but richard = dick and elizabeth = betty so who fucking cares read the damn book

[natjennie]

"thomas got no character development" maybe. or maybe the moral of his story is that it's irresponsible and unhealthy to attempt to completely deprive yourself of your feelings and much more productive to accept them as part of yourself and move on with your life from there. trying to go cold turkey on alison and then randomly picking another person to have a crush on only for it not to work is something we've seen thomas do before, which for some reason people decide to see as boring repetition rather than consistent characterization. but after that. did you miss the part where he stopped talking when she walked away, realized along with everyone else when fanny said "we're as bad as betty" and voted to go through with the proposal for alison to leave? did you miss the part where he happily waved her and her living family goodbye? did you miss the part where alison, old and gray, came back and mirthfully said "thomas, you flatter me" like. his passion for people and obsession with the idea of love wasn't gonna just go away. but he's learning to treat her with more respect, he didn't throw a tantrum or follow her around or go drown himself in the lake. just because he's not a completely different character doesn't mean there wasn't growth. watch season 1 episode 2 thomas say "divorce him, kill yourself, marry me" and then watch the christmas special again and tell me there was no development. come on now.

#like his 'its you that i love' was completely neutral. he's not making demands he's not badmouthing mike #he knows she is happy with mike and mia and will never feel the same way he does #that doesnt make him love her any less #can you not imagine having an unreciprocated crush? #his infatuation with her has gotten WAYYY less intense and way less overbearing #he's learning to live with his feelings and love her platonically as well #just because he still feels things very passionately doesnt mean he hasn't grown #anyway his short-lived intense fixations on people is like. a trademark of his character. #did you not watch the thomas thorne affair #anyway whatever #i think people need to take a step back and think about time scale before they complain about lack of growth #thomas has been dead for 300 years. #he's not gonna become an entirely different person in 5. #like 5 years SOUNDS like a long time to us. living people. #but you have to remember that it is a FRACTION of their time #bbc ghosts #ghosts spoilers

[commsroom]

eiffel returning to earth and encountering people and places and things that he's known so closely for years - that some part of him might even instinctively feel he should recognize - but without the ability to consciously remember them vs. lovelace returning to earth and seeing all those familiar things and knowing them, and knowing how they've changed in her absence, but being unable to shake the part of her that keeps telling her she's seeing them for the first time. how both of these could be used as an exploration of trauma, and returning to a place (that hasn't changed at all; that's changed too much) that you no longer fit into; that rubs up against the changed shape of your life in raw and uncomfortable places.

#wolf 359 #w359 #doug eiffel #isabel lovelace #not quite sure how to articulate this but. mm. #eiffel having burnt his bridges before he ever left vs. lovelace's family already having mourned her ... hm. #i'm going to keep saying if eiffel gets his memory back it should be through an Eiffel Version of change of mind #i'm never going to be able to tell that story the way i want it to be told but it makes so much sense to me. #and there's a lot i think you could tell in a post-canon story about how. being on earth is going to add new angles to personal issues #they thought they'd mostly resolved. ie. minkowski's identity as commander is something she's learning to let go of by the finale #but once they get back to earth? she's going to feel responsible for eiffel and hera #and it's going to be something she'll have to work through again. #and determine who she is to them and how she fits into their lives #and whatever happens with koudelka... it's been a long time and she's a different person. it's complicated. #and i won't even start talking about hera here because that's an infinite can of worms. they are all really going to need each other

[thepoisonroom]

that post that's like "learning social skills helps with social anxiety" applies to dating also btw

#i guess they have a circular relationship because also going on lots of first dates was really trial by fire for me in learning lots lf #new social skills #meeting new people was never my strong suit and i was very afraid of it and would avoid it but like! #when i first tried going on first dates i learned a lot about how to meet people and met types of queer people i'd never met before #and actually it was good for me even though it was often weird and stressful #and it was a lower-stakes way to practice social skills that i otherwise would've just avoided using until they atrophied #anyway whenever i see a dating profile that's like 'i'm afraid of talking to women lol' i'm like ok relatable but what's your plan to learn #i think also just like it doesn't have to be through dating but it is good for you to meet other gay and trans people offline if possible #when i moved to wisconsin i only knew my coworkers who were mostly also twentysomethings who'd been hired straight from college #and it was good for me to meet and make friends with other local gay and trans people who were involved in different stuff #idk i just don't know how many more 'i'm obsessed with romance but scoff at the idea that i should do anything about that' posts i can read #like if i said i wanted to run a marathon but i never practiced running people would fairly be like okay that's prob not gonna happen #idk i know it's no skin off my nose i'm just like. if you never take any steps towards expressing your desires #how do you think they're going to just happen to you #personal nonsense

[thecrenellations]

"So what do they give you this Order for?" said Austin Grey. "Fornication?" And hooking his fingers beneath it, he ripped the sash from Lymond's shoulder. The little glove also pinned there fell with it. "With my wife?" said Francis Crawford.

Checkmate, oh Checkmate...

(the glove falls off before their brief fight, but Austin is the enemy, isn't he? "Do you keep it, M. Crawford. For someone truly dangerous.")

#there's nothing like a meme idea to make me learn new rudimentary image editing skills #WHAT A SCENE #mostly the one before it but dear god #lymond chronicles #francis crawford #lymond chronicles spoilers #i just realized i was absolutely looking at the wrong reference and that the sash and the collar are completely different #but oh well. as they say ... too late. too late #hey you know what else it's too late for? francis to be on anything other than austin's bad side. and who will pay the price ....? #dear anyone who sees this and has no context: you're welcome?? #something i #lymond #french court honoring him for fornication? #no Austin #that's queens' play

[creature-feature-creature]

Are people allowed to request more than one creature?

If so please consider sham hatwitch from the dragon quest series ^^

Yes absolutely!!!That is 1000% okay as long as it doesnt become spam (my definition is like ~5 requests for 2 or more of the same guy in the span of 1-2 days)

Ok review time

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SHAM HATWITCH FROM DRAGON QUEST!

From @spoofsies

Design; 9/10 - stub legs!! he's doing a little dance!!! He reminds me of lechonk from pokemon but that might just be me idk. One of my favorite character design tropes is "little guy hides under disguise"!! Also I love the hats scary face!

Purpose/Effectiveness; 8/10 okay i still dont know anything about dragonquest but i did a lot more research this time!! The wiki said that it was a monster with a low-level attack, making me think that it's probably one of the first you encounter in the game. Honestly this is really good low-level enemy design! It isnt that scary or imposing, but still enough to let the player know it is gonna attack you. Also wizard hat + using magic! We stan magic boars here!! From what the wiki also said it looks like it has other varients?? So as you go into more dangerous places you encounter more dangerous hatwitches?? That is actually really cool if it's true

Overall; 9/10 - this little piggy cursed your entire bloodline

#rating #rating animals #ask me stuff #ask box #dragon quest #sham hatwitch #im gonna have to look at monster wuest the stuff you guys keep sending me from it looks really cool #anyways if you have any recommendations for what one i should play please tell me :) #fun fact! i just learned how to use colors and bold because while i was making the -- #i tried to copy and paste it and the controls popped up #oh i almost forgot #thanks to spoofsies for this! feel free to send in however many creatures you want my guy <3 #real quick clarification on spam rules #you can send at the max ~5 different creatures per 2-3 days before i count it as spam #if 2 or more of the SAME creature is submitted by the SAME person atleast 5 different times in a 1-2 day span that is also spam #if we are mutals or i know you personally or you ask here a lot and i am generally okay with you these rules dont really apply as much #i will still bring it up if it becomes an issue though

[snekdood]

"if we make america worse and more of a dictatorship that will be even harder to unravel and make it the way we want the country to be, maybe then everyone will join our Glorious Revolution!" bb girl you cant even be in the same room with someone who thinks you should vote, how in tf do you think you're gonna unite people to fight in The Revolution with you? it's gonna be you and your 5 friends, i hate to break it to you.

#i dont think you realize how repelling you and your politics are to everyone else #you get all of your validation for how Smart You Are from your friends and ignore any kind of feedback that suggests you should #change or do something differently. thats the only reason you're so convinced average people will go along with you bc you keep getting #affirmation from the people who ALREADY agree with you- but you have NO IDEA how to bridge the gap between people who agree #with you and disagree with you. you're horrible at convincing people of your side of things outside of straight up guilt tripping them #or bullying them like a highschooler. im sorry but the tools you learned to survive with as a kid aren't gonna help you in this situation. #the ONLY THING you can come up with to bridge that gap is a bloody revolution. thats how bad you are at this. #and you're also so bad at this and unimaginative that you dont even realize how THAT might not even be enough. #you cant imagine ANY kind of avenue to getting people to change AT ALL outside of blood and fire. and thats why people call you #an authoritarian. #i'll be honest- i really do think the world would be a better place if we did incremental change under a democratic president who wont #set the world on fire vs the godkingemperor republican WHO WONT EVEN LISTEN TO YOU AT ALL EVER AND MIGHT KILL YOU #FOR PUTTING UP A STINK. idk if you noticed but if that evil fuck gets into office we are severely outnumbered if he gets police #n shit to go after his own citizens. letting trump win is making this battle so much harder than it needs to be. #you are choosing trying to fix the world while its exploding vs trying to fix it before it explodes at all. #what is this like a procrastination thing? you wanna wait till the last minute to try? idfgi. wtf is wrong with you #throwing minority lives away to prove a point. and then you try to tell me you care. gtfoh. #accelerationists should never be taken seriously.

[echoofawind]

I have a problem with 90% of the fests I see advertised with prompting. I love the idea of sharing plot bunnies or creative ideas. I don't like it when the prompt forms have a dozen fields outside of the prompt that further specifies anything. Ship, rating, characters, triggers, etc. A prompt in a standard fest is NOT a request for a gift. The writer is not obligated to write you a story. If you as a prompter have a list of requirements for the prompt, then you are not offering a prompt. You are saying, writer you must write me this exact story. I do not understand how that is seen as the norm in fandom right now instead of rude and limiting?

As long as you don't gift the story to the prompter, you are under NO OBLIGATION to follow any of those superfluous prompt fields. It's a prompt. A starting point for inspiration.

I cannot count how many fest prompts I've read through, found a prompt that sang to my muse and started crafting an idea only to then read 'Do Not Write: age gap relationship. Or only X or Y characters' . Who is this prompter to tell me what stories I am allowed to create? That is not how a prompt works! That is how a gift request works. Stop putting me in a fucking box.

#for the love of whatever deity you subscribe to these fest organizers need to learn the difference between a prompt fest and a gift fest #and not be conflating the two #because if I were to write the story that the prompt inspired me to write and that didn't follow the “extra requirements”... #... I would get labeled like a jerk for my participation which wouldn't be fair to any creator to be punished for their act of creation #if you are so dang bent out of shape that the prompt has to be used for wolfstar then write the dang thing yourself #prompts must be freely given #you do not retain any control of the final product by supplying a prompt #this is probably part of why authors refuse any prompts from fans #fandom discourse #fest discourse #prompting discourse #this whole thing makes me rage and Ive dropped out of fests before even officially joining the fest #e is for echo #A PROMPT IS NOT A GIFT #you are not entitled to the creators output #and you are not entitled to a writer creating a story to your preferences unless its specifically a gift exchange

[skitskatdacat63]

Fernando and Fisi pictures that I like and enjoy a normal amount (pt. 1: 2005)

#please please please lmk in the tags which are your favs and why #ill go first: the one where theyre holding up the engine in a very babygirl way and the one where theyre being picked up #but also all the post aus gp ones(the ones where they're holding hands above their heads) #ALSO THE ONES OF THEM IN STRIPED SUITS IT IS SERVING CORRUPT MAFIA MEN #actually i need to stop before i list every pic...like the point of the post is that i love all these pics.... #anyways i think theyre v endearing to me as a duo bcs theyre relatively the same height and those cute renault suits make them look shorter #so theyre like twins or smth to me LOL #(btw i was so surprised to learn that fisi is almost a decade older than nando! they rly dont look that much different in age) #also this is not an insult btw but fisi is endearing to me bcs his smile always looks like hes looking directly into the sun LOLOL #i think at some point i should rly make a fisi comp post bcs i ended up saving a lot of pics of him bcs he is my unexpected blorbo #these are all def 2005 but if not feel free to come admonish me for mixing up djkskd #ill make a 2006 pt 2(bcs ive yet to delve into those archives just yet) #i could probably make a 2005 pt2 honestly bcs i have like uhhhhh...2-3x the amnt of pics here of them! #so yeah lmk if you would like those too :) the grind never stops in terms of deep diving pics #this post kinda makes me wish i made photo highlight posts along w my post-race gifs #also if you want to enquire as to what race/event a specific pic is feel free to drop an ask or dm #fernando alonso #giancarlo fisichella #renault #2005 formula 1 #formula 1 #f1 #formula one #renault nando #fa14 #fisico #fisi #we do a little bit of f1

[martyrbat]

hm hm hm i feel like this will be really interesting to read with the knowledge of korra and how that effected her instead.... because korra (from my limited knowledge so i could be talking out my ass here) knew she was the avatar at an early age and DID get that community. she had katara and her parents, she had her mentors, she was isolated from the real world during so and perfected the elements other than air (which i kinda recall her struggling with and how its the opposite element of earth so im excited to see if those kinda play out :3) and she was more eager to be the avatar and the excitement and significance it brought (which was a bit clouded by her being sheltered but also would have been expected more before the war impacted things)

i also remember matty saying kyoshi struggled with earth bending (which im super excited to get to and see/see her journey and how it will differ) but!!! i just think its really fun how theyre kinda off the bat setting up this expectation and new grounding for readers who have a past grasp of the avatar universe. even as someone who isnt super familiar with the lore, i know enough to recognize that oh! thats something new!! so just kudos to the writer(s?) for just setting this up to be something very different and in a natural way :3

#again. talking out my ass here. if im an idiot no one say anything okay? okay <3 #but i think its fun to already see some parallels or ways kyoshi and korra are different or similar #and how korra got the set-up stage that was considered ideal (i think?) for these two characters #like !!! the avatar is supposed to know theyre the avatar at a young age! #and aang learning when he was 12 instead?? i think? #or being told hey man you gotta fucking get ready/do your teen duties instead of preeteen ones cause theres a war.... #but no sorry my head is scattered i cant keep a line of thought but the point was i know a lot of people bash korra because shes too #‘abrasive’ or comfortable with being the avatar when?? for previous experiences that eagerness was something more expected (i think) #like its so difficult to make a solid grounding argument when im not lore caught up but korras excitement to be the avatar and that she #knows its significant and important is something that would been encouraged before the war because of that hope and belief #that the avatar will keep that balance or save the world when others cant. aang disappearing and the genocide and war #obviously effected how people will see the avatar in universe and how her teachers are more hesitant and restrictive #none of this makes sense im just thinkin to myself while half distracted lol but ! go cringegirl bosses go !!!! #RoK (ransom style)

[skrunksthatwunk]

why the fuck did i write about birds this fucking sucks. i just found out birds only sleep for a few minutes at a time, hundreds of times a day. do you know what this is going to do to my structure? the logistics of their road trip? this is already like three days late and i've been fighting for my life to get A Plot Like Any Plot That Makes Sense out and now the birds fucking sleep for 5 minutes at a time.

#i should've just bailed and written another story when i had the chance #i'm not joking i've never fought a fiction piece this hard before. usually because i'm not writing for specific deadlines #and not a piece so big. and not one that's gonna be workshopped. i wanna blow them away but if things keep going the way they are everyone' #gonna tell me the pacing sucks and it feels pointless and the characters feel really confused. I KNOW. I KNOW THAT. FUCKK #i'm the type to do about 15 passes before i let someone see my 'first draft' and i'm just not gonna be able to do that if i want to get it #in time for a workshop. every day i delay is making things harder for my classmates y'know?? but i've been writing like 1k words a day #and it's still not done. GUHH #I DON'T LIKE WRITING THESE CHARACTERS THAT MUCH THEY'RE NOT FUNNY OR ENDEARING AND THAT'S MY LIKE. #MAIN SKILL AND VIBE WITH SHORT STORY DUOS. BUT NOOOO I HAD TO MAKE THEM DIFFERENT CUZ I WAS SICK OF DOING #THE SAME DYNAMIC OVER AND OVER. BITCH THIS IS YOUR FINAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TRIED AND TRUE GETS THE BLUE (RIBBON)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #head in my hands head in my hands head in my hands head in my hands head #going to work on it some more. fuckk #the voices aren't consistent and i'm trying to make it clear that this is toxic bird yuri and not a mother/daughter thing but the maternal #themes are kind of fucking with that but they're important and i don't wanna get rid of them but it feels forced cuz im forcing it #sigh. i'm gonna have to cut the yuri. these two don't work romantically at all. what a waste of time. #i watched the entirety of mnthly girls' nozaki-kun in the past two days while avoiding writing. did you know that? the lengths to which i'l #go? anyway it was fun i appreciate fellow creative agony and i uh never knew how they did screen tones and wasn't expecting that somehow #so i learned something new (hooray). anyway back to. fucking. bird story stuff #i'm so mad i hate these two (<- lying. just pissy) i hate this story (<- mostly exaggerating. throwing a tantrum) #eughhhhhh i just wanna lie on the floor and cryyyyyyyyyy (<- completely deadpan irl. not That upset just kind of sick of shit) #i'm so burnt out and it's only gonna get worse. ughh #why can't someone just come in and write it for meeeeeeeeeeheheuhhh (<- would hate that)

[theaxolotlkween]

WHO WAS GOING TO TELL ME THAT SIR ROBERT SMIRKE WAS A REAL PERSON WHO DESIGNED THE FRONT OF THE BRITISH MUSEUM AND THAT MILLBANK PRISON WAS AN ACTUAL PLACE THAT EXISTED BUT IT GOT DEMOLISHED IN THE EARLY 1900’S AND THE TATE BRITAIN IS NOW LOCATED IN ITS STEAD!?!?

#also learned that smirke designed the london ophthalmic hospital which was moved to a different spot later #it’s moorfields eye hospital now #just thought that was funny given the circumstances #i was reading this fun book on victorian london and it mentioned “prisons built in the panopticon design” #and i was like hey i know that word that’s a thing that’s in the magnus archives #and the book said it talked a bit more on panopticon-style prisons on a different page #so i went to that different page and lo and behold there was millbank prison and sir robert smirke #and then i went on a wild wikipedia spree #which brings us all up to date #i’m sure some people reading this are like #“reeve you dumbass of course robert smirke and millbank prison were real there’s no way jonny sims could make up a name like robert smirke” #but consider i only went to london once and did not get to see nearly enough #also every time i looked it up before this i just saw the tma wiki pages and thought those things weren’t real #tma #the magnus archives #panopticon #robert smirke

[adhd-merlin]

Ah someone else who has discovered the joys of Camelot (1967) a movie that I am completely normal about. Have you watched it? Because the delivery of the lines is everything and if you need someone to talk to about it I am, once again, completely normal about it. The scene where Lancelot and Arthur first meet?? A masterpiece in sharing a single braincell. And don't even get me started on the way Guenevere first treats Lancelot "have you jousted with humility lately". It's unapologetically at the top of my Arthuriana movie rank list and has gotten me to reread The Once and Future King

I have not watched the film yet!

I've been listening to the original cast recording on Spotify but, most importantly, I've read the book of the original Broadway production (1960 libretto) and I love it?? It's a delightful little read on its own, even without having watched the musical. (I want other people to read it please it's very funny I promise)

I guess the 1967 film script won't be identical to the libretto but I assume it's fairly similar.

The scene where Lancelot meets Arthur was hilarious it made me laugh out loud. Lancelot utter puzzlement ("Gone a-Maying, Your Majesty??"). Arthur's sudden self-consciousness.

And don't even get me started on the way Guenevere first treats Lancelot "have you jousted with humility lately"

I know!! Lancelot's grating self-righteousness coupled with his complete lack of self-awareness is so funny.

And I loved the gradual tone shift. It starts out so silly and the tragedy sneaks up on you — I thought Guinevere and Lancelot's affair might be played for laughs with an oblivious Arthur but no, it turns out he's fully aware of what's going on and he's forced to watch it unfold because he's powerless to stop it? and he loves them both and doesn't want any harm to come to them even as they betray him??

(He continues talking, looking from one to the other, feverishly — painfully) — Excuse me??

and King Pellinore is hilarious, he enters the scene wearing a monocle followed by a little mongrel named Horrid and talking like a character from a P. G. Wodehouse's novel. Extremely validating because when I read that chapter in Le Morte d'Arthur in which King Pellinore first makes an appearance my first question was "is he meant to be this funny?" and the answer from this script is a resounding YES.

I think I might perhaps watch the 1968 stage production first, merely because it's available for free on Youtube (at least in the UK).

I might try hunting for a free streaming link to the 1967 film, though I don't mind renting it if I can't find it.

#also the hawk motif got me ok #arthur asking merlyn to be turned into a hawk at the beginning #so he could spy on guinevere #telling merlyn he loved it when he turned him into a hawk that one time #arthur telling guinevere later that merlyn used to teach him lessons by turning him into different animals #and that he was meant to learn something from each one #but he didn't know what he was meant to learn from being a hawk #and then going 'oh no I got it!' #'when I was flying I could see there are no visible borders. why are we even making war to each other #over something that doesn't even exist. that's stupid. we are meant to live in peace' #'that was the lesson. I will create an era of peace' #and then his dream starts to crumble right before his eyes as lance and guinevere fall in love #and then him crying out to merlyn when guinevere was tied at the stake #asking merlyn to turn him into a hawk so he could fly away #like a lost child!! merlyn wasn't even there he hadn't been for years!! #I'm feeling so normal about it #sorry I just thought it was a good script! #regarding the songs – they didn't blow me away but I'm enjoying them! #they might grow on me still. probably more enjoyable when watching the film #I think my fave atm is Then You May Take Me to the Fair #“You'll pierce right through him?” “You'll open-wide him?” #GIRL why are you making it sound like that... #she's never been normal about lance not even for a minute not even at the start #asks #camelot (musical)

[silverydragonheart-blog]

yknow technically cloning works alot like artificial insemination or like fertilization treatments from what ive seen/been told by my mom so by that logic timkon clone baby absolutely couldve been more than one and has a higher chance of being say twins or triplets than not which means in a dcxdp crossover you can absolutely have dan dani and danny and it haunts me that no one else noticed this

Edit please note that I am not a doctor or anything I just had a slight fixation and tried my best to learn what I could which resulted in me knowing more about surrogates, adoption, and fertility treatments than anything else except I was very much a kid and didn't like knowing the full reasons of things so I'd learn enough and then guess the rest so on one hand I absolutely know how one thing works however I have absolutely no fucking idea how it happens its essentially like how we all treat the Talk I took one look at learning the ins and outs of these treatments and went "I know enough" and dropped it so if anythings wrong yeah that's why

#Like i had a fixation after learning my mom needed the treatments cause my parents have 2 different blood types #It was like ab and a but one was neg and the other pos and we have NO idea who got what #Dcxdp #Yall be sleeping on shit #Like is cloning not just fertility treatments but grown in a test tube???? #You start multiple hope one makes it and sometimes they ALL survive or half #Me seeing a timkon clone fic/fanart: i know what you couldve been #I cannot STRESS how often i think about this #Tim expecting maybe one or none to survive: oh no #tim now with like 3 kids: oh my God ive made a mistake #timkon #Tim drake #dc #I want it on record I knew how adoption fertility treatments adoption and actual birth worked #BEFORE I KNEW HOW BABIES WERE MADE #Like I did NOT care for the ins and outs I only cared for the end result #The fact I also knew how sex worked before how babies were made is an outlier and I'm not counting it

[juliareed]

Mr. Sark has assumed control of your mother's operation— Please stop referring to her as my mother. Therefore, Ms. Derevko must know what he's looking for. // You were hired to kill me? Who hired you? Who put a contract on my life? Derevko. Irina Derevko.

#aliasedit #alias #multiamorymarch #sydney bristow #julian sark #kazu tamazaki #polyamships #polyamoryinfandoms #userthing #multiamory march #sark x sydney x tamazaki #sark x sydney #sydney x tamazaki #sstrio #myedit #unlocking some new levels of rare ships here. #okay so what if. irina's double didn't just hire tamazaki to kill sydney. #what if elena's plan involved the double pretending to be irina for an extended period of time and building a new criminal empire AS irina. #and what if eventually. the double and tamazaki started working together. #and what if right before dying she told him about the assignment she only trusted him with. to kill her daughter. #assuming that all this time he thought that he's working with the real irina. that she managed to convince him and everyone else. #managed to convince herself too. began to believe in the lie. began to think that she's the real irina. #and when tamazaki and sydney meet; she fails to kill him. he escapes but she can't forget about what he said. #and maybe they keep running into each other after that. and the more she learns about the irina that he knew the less sense all of it makes #and then there's only one last option left. one person who can help her to figure out the truth. #so now there are two men who claim to know her mother better than she does. but the thing is. they knew two different irinas. #that's the love triangle material of ALL TIME right there. #ideally i would want sydney and irina's clone to form some sort of a relationship in this verse too. #you heard about getting attached to the clone of your best friend; now get ready for getting attached to the clone of your mother.

[uncanny-tranny]

Hi, I have a question I hope it's okay to ask here. I'm a ciswoman dating a transgender man. I know that there are a few things that he finds still difficult about being trans (but I don't know everything yet as we've only been dating for a few months). Lately I've noticed him saying some things that make me wonder whether maybe he wants some confirmation that I really see him as a man. Of course I want to do this for him, but I'm not entirely sure how. Do you have any tips?

I think so much of it boils down to being compassionate and direct. There's so much pressure on people in relationships to just "know" through divine interpretation of how to best love their partner, and there is almost no thought given about the idea of offering love being a continuous conversation.

I'm not sure what will "work" best for your partner to show that you see him and not a warped perception, so I really think asking questions about where he is at might be more beneficial, since you'll be hearing direct feedback. I know it can be hard to navigate through something you're unfamiliar with right now, so that makes it even more important that you navigate through it with the person in question.

Trans manhood looks different for... literally all of us, which is why I don't have a direct answer for how you can help your partner feel loved and seen as a man. Since it looks different for each of us, the things that affirm us and help us will all look different, as well as the things that make us feel less understood and hurt.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #a relationship is basically a continuous conversation starting with 'how can i best love you?' #once you start lessening the pressure of Being A Perfect Partner All The Time you might notice that these conversations become easier #because you won't feel like you've failed at understanding or loving your partner. you will start realizing that both of you are people #and that people are complex and nuanced and our needs and desires fluctuate #it can be hard at times to navigate through relationships where two people have different experiences (trans vs. cis for instance) #but those different experiences can easily shape your understanding because you have to consider more viewpoints #i definitely appreciate seeing people coming to trans people to ask questions like these... #...but we are ALL different. if you met one trans person you have only met one of us... #...and your partner *might* be OVER THE MOON if you show that you are willing to make an effort and take notice of these things... #...because many of us have had bad experiences before and it can make you feel like what you are and how you feel just Doesn't matter... #...while i won't speak for him (your partner) i will say that he deserves to also know where you are and how both of you are doing... #...because you BOTH are in the relationship and both deserve to be with *each other* and learn *from each other* #i think that's what so many human relationships come down to (romance or no) #THAT is what makes a relationship beautiful... not this idealized 'ooh i can divine from the stars how they feel' #or like the idea of just 'knowing' how to love somebody and fulfill them. that is only a fantasy we tell ourselves...