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buzz-cow-man · 1 year
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everyday i hate england more and more
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fizzy-blood · 23 days
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LJ x TransMasc!Reader headcanons (SFW)
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Requested by one of my friends on Discord!
So this is the first time I've posted this kind of stuff since like... 2019? So I might be a bit rusty... Enjoy!
(trans specific headcanons)
So to start off nice and simple I'm just gonna say this very quickly, when you first tell him that you're trans he doesn't understand wtf that means at first
Don't worry though! He figures it out eventually and is completely fine with it
I feel like he would be super happy to have to feel comfortable enough to tell him that (even if you are already dating)
He'd probably be really nice to you about it too
If you had top surgery I have a feeling that he'd like to trace his fingers around the scares
If not? No problem! He'll rest his arms around your chest and hold you tight enough to some what flatten them if you got dysphoric (bro became a chest binder frfr)
Speaking of dysphoria! If you ever felt bad about yourself or anything along the lines of "what if I'm faking it though/I'm never going to be a man) he'd try his best to comfort you, handing you sweets, hugging you, maybe giving you a kiss or two
This man is actually really good at comforting people for two main reasons
One, he was pretty much always around kids before the whole killer clown thing, so he knows how to calm people down really easily, this also gives him a high tolerance for things like crying
And two, this man is really tall (I'm talking like 7ft) and has super long arms which makes him great for hugs, he'll hold you in his arms as you rant to him, listening to every word you say, doing his best you make you calm down
The point is that this guy doesn't really get bothered by how you identify, he appreciates you either way and wont judge you for any of it
(non trans specific headcanons)
I feel like he'd love to leave you like treats and snacks around your room when you're not looking
Just tell him what kinds of sweets you like and wait, you see a small bag of them waiting for you on your bed
I also feel like Jack would just randomly pick you up and take you places, doesn't matter if you're doing something or talking to someone, you're coming with him
Along with the snacks that get left in your room, you'll probably find a couple drawings he made of you and him
They aren't anything too amazing and they kind of look like that of a five year old's but its still sweet either way
Since this Jack is 7ft tall he's obviously a lot larger than you are
Because of this he'll let you sit in his lap or lay on top of him and let you fall asleep on him
This man also *loves* to give you affection in public
He just likes being able to show others that you love him (even if he kills people lmao)
So if you hold his hand in front of others or give him a small kiss on the cheek he'll be over them moon
That's all for now, hope you enjoyed! -Fizz
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mouschiwrites · 1 month
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I have never in my life done any kind of suggestion thingy like this so uh, yea
Lloyd x Trans male reader headcanons? bonus points if the reader is also a ninja
I am not a trans male so I'm super sorry if this is inaccurate!! This is just based on what I know from others' experiences ^^" but as always please correct me if I've gotten anything wrong!
Ninjago - Lloyd With a Transmasc s/o
He instantly becomes your #1 supporter when you come out to him
Probably buys like. at least 10 trans flag pins to put on various items he owns
(he asks you if it's okay first ofc, and he never tells anyone that you're trans unless you've given him permission)
When people ask if he's trans, he's just like "no :3" *doesn't elaborate*
Because he doesn't go spilling your business to strangers 😤 (unless you're cool with it)
When you're struggling with feeling masculine, he comes up with little plans of "guy-ish" stuff to do
Unfortunately he's not the manliest man himself, so sometimes these activities are kind of weird
One time he literally just took you to chop wood with a huge ax 💀
And ofc he asks about your boundaries regarding your gender
Like how comfortable you are with femininity, if at all
I suppose what I mean here is that he's going to communicate with you so that he doesn't say anything that might trigger some gender dysphoria
Because he doesn't want that :(
But when you are feeling dysphoric, he busts out the MAN HANGOUTS (see above)
Or cuddles if you prefer :)
If you wear a binder, he always asks at the end of the day if you've taken it off yet
He doesn't want you hurting yourself (make sure to bind safely guys <3)
And if you take HRT, he'll help you remember to take that too
He'll even bring it to you and help you take it if you want!
Unless you use needles, then he's just going to squeeze your hand and look away while you do it... he is afraid of needles :(
But ofc he totally accepts you if you can't/don't use any of those things!!
To him, you're a guy. Period. No matter what you look or sound or act like, you are a dude.
And he gets so irked when anyone says otherwise
He's just like: dude. that's my boyfriend. wtf are you on about. you're just so wrong. you don't even know how wrong you are.
(^ same attitude he gets when he meets a transphobe in general tbh)
But, as much as he'd like to get all protective and educate this fool, he won't if you tell him to stop
But he will send them a snarky look and, while walking away with you hand-in-hand, say:
"Come on, Y/n. Let's get out of here."
Extra emphasis on the "Y/n" if someone dared to deadname you
OH and if you're a ninja, if any enemy tries to get transphobic with you, he totally abandons his restrained "peacekeeper" fighting style
He DESTROYS them
And when he's done he's just like "that's for being transphobic, loser >:("
Not like they can hear him... they are unconscious
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Aaah I hope this was okay!! ^^" Thank you for this request, and thanks so much for reading!! Take care duckies <33
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haintxblue · 8 months
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i was telling a funny story to a (cis!!!!!) friend about how one time I held the door for a very masculine, visibly queer person who jokingly said "oh, you're such a gentleman, chivalry isn't dead" to me while I was wearing a pantsuit but still extremely femme and wearing a pride flag pin on my lapel, like... a queer man recognizing a queer woman and saying thank you in the absolute funniest way possible
And I was like, it was so funny because I'm so cis but something about the specific gayness of this exchange made me feel very sexy and comfortable in my skin in a way I think must be similar to what I've heard called gender euphoria
And they will not let it go that maybe I'm actually not cis! And tbh they've brought it up often enough I regret telling the story and debated whether I should even post this lest I get more but like
It feels bad to do something like, slightly GNC like when i say I like wearing suits or I wish I had a dwarf beard to braid and put flowers in, or to have an exchange that gently pokes fun at the gender binary like when I held that door and the funniest gay alive complimented me and I enjoyed it, and be told that these experiences are incompatible with being cis. Like I don't like that I am somehow being framed as contributing to the gender binary because it's "obviously egg behavior" and I must not know myself. And like 90% of it is coming from cis people in my life.
But I also worry if I am complaining about this or whatever it's gonna come off like i am somehow afraid of being perceived as trans, which isn't it at all. If a stranger or a casual acquaintance perceives me as trans I don't care, and I only care about a friend doing it because they should know me, lol. But the insistence on telling me that I MUST be and that I cannot know myself feels a) patronizing, b) cissexist and cisnormative in a gross way, and c) like it is happening to me with increasing frequency, and idk what to do about it. Like I've talked about it before but it really feels regressive that the slightest bit of GNC behavior means you must secretly be trans, especially when like I said it's mostly coming from cis people? Like what a weird way to police the binary. I'm barely even qualifying as GNC when I do these things wtf
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oysters-aint-for-me · 2 years
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THIS IS PROBABLY STUPID since ppl so rarely refer to me in the third person on this website. but. for at least little while i want to go by they/them pronouns. but i’m afraid of asking ppl i know irl (even though i’m p sure they know i’m nonbinary) so i’m testing it out here? i feel so stupid abt this lmao just bc this is like. equivalent to just straight up not testing it out. since again, ppl don’t tend to talk about me here, just to me or with me, soooo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i feel like i wanna be a bit more certain that i want this before asking irl people to do it, since im not totally sure i do want to use they/them going forward…which also is making me question whether or not i actually AM nonbinary…does anyone else ever feel like you’re only being a Weird Gender for the attention??? i feel like that all the time. about everything, not just gender, but gender is one of the more…hmmm…central aspects of identity, in some ways? now to be clear i don’t necessarily believe that is true, or at least it doesn’t HAVE to be, but that’s what society at large seems to be pushing right now, so ppl (on all parts of the political spectrum!…but, it must be said, mostly cis ppl) assume gender identity is important to everyone. but it’s not that important to me, it’s never felt important, ive never felt quite comfortable being part of either category, i don’t feel resentful that most ppl assume i’m a woman when they meet me, i’m not resentful i was raised as a woman, i don’t really care if ppl use she/her to refer to me, sometimes i even call myself i woman or a girl in conversation! not in any serious way, it’s usually like “aaah what’s a girl to do!” or you know little comments here and there, mostly based on pre-existing phrases, but i feel bad whenever i do it, and i cannot figure out if it’s because i am NOT actually a ciswoman and therefore it feels like i am misgendering myself, OR because i AM actually a ciswoman but some grotesque part of my brain is like “ugh but that’s so BORING, no one will ever love you if you’re that BORING” and then another part of my brain is like “well if you’re nonbinary just because the alternative is boring and won’t get you attention, then you probably aren’t REALLY nonbinary” and i went to middle/high school before it was really even okay to be a GAY kid let alone a TRANS one!!! and NONBINARY? wtf we didn’t HAVE that word in my schools gay straight alliance (which btw was all “straight” kids who have all since come out lol that’s what 2003 was like guys) so this is just…. all kind of new to me
ANYWAY all this is to say that i changed my stupid pronouns in my stupid bio to they/them and i feel stupid about it but (gripping edge of bathroom sink, looking at self in mirror, clenching teeth) HERE WE GO LETS DO THIS
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yourthirdparent · 2 years
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why is dysphoric by cavetown such a nico song. i don't even headcanon him as trans. warning i'm gonna talk about nico's crush on percy, the cupid scene, the jar, etc. anyways uhhh
don't let me see what i am
cuz i can't stand it, no i can't
internalised homophobia. yk how in the cupid scene it wasn't that he had to tell anyone else, it was that he had to admit it to himself and that jason finding out was just a product of him being there while it all went down? that shows what i mean, he didn't want to face the truth
i'm coming back 'round again
it's been over a year, i thought this was the end
generic thought is that he's coming back to chb, cooler thought is that he's coming right back to help percy in moa/hoh cuz he just can't say no to him. he thought he was over it, he thought he could just avoid his feelings for percy forever. big shocker: no he can't. also it's been a while since he's done all that Trying Desperately To Get Percy To Like Him nonsense lmao
but now i don't remember comfort
he was only really Comfortable back when he was chilling with his mom and sister and yk, he doesn't remember that. that was back in the 30s/40s and he's since taken a nice swim in the river lethe.
because what i am is what i'm not
can i get an identity crisis in chat. not sure what this line might mean in the context of Nicocore but i'm thinking like. he popped out the lethe and was told that he's nico di angelo but like Is He? idk am i making sense
i don't belong here, it's just hopeless
remember that one conversation he had with percy where he was like "yeah i'm leaving" and percy was like "wtf no don't" and nico was like "i don't belong here" and percy was like "you don't belong here" and went on his merry way while nico blasted ass back to wherever? yeah. also he clearly thought him belonging at the camps and staying there was hopeless up until boo cuz will was like "idk people here think you're cool *COUGH COUGH* totally not projecting or anything" and nico totally bought it and decided that sure he'll listen to jason and stay at chb
find me a way out if you love me at all
this could have lots of meanings. too many. 1 get him out of the jar? idk. 2 get him out of his sexuality crisis (sorry for making it gay again i can't help it). more that i can't think of or talk about without needing to add more warnings. i like the idea that he desperately wants to not deal with the fact that he likes guys and that's what it'd mean but go nuts yk
don't let me hear what they say
cuz i can't stand it every day
people are always talking /neg about him. the jar conversation involved leo and jason calling him sus for several minutes and Nobody standing up for him except hazel. in hoh everybody thought he was weird and creepy except for hazel (and later jason). in boo people still find him creepy and yet will has the Nerve to be like "but people like you here, you just distanced yourself" which yeah he did but he did that BECAUSE people didn't like him and also it's immediately disproven in tho because when nico shadow travels away to go do something austin literally shudders and is like "god it's so fucking creepy when he does that." people talk shit. (bonus cooler (gayer) but less plausible thought is that it'd be about the homophobic rhetoric he heard back in the 40s, less plausible because of the amnesia nonsense)
i'm thinking that i should leave now
but i don't think i'm coming back this time
nico leaving spots isn't new. he left chb multiple times. he leaves chb and cj on the reg. but he always comes back. those are temporary leaves. but in hoh and most of boo he's planning on leaving for good, he isn't planning on returning. granted, he ends up staying anyways, but that wasn't the plan
this phantom skin is weird to live in
the "phantom skin" could be like when he shadow travelled too much in boo and sorta became translucent, started fading, etc. he was sorta phantom-like for a bit and it was probably weird. self explanatory
anyways that's like. it. have fun
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menalez · 1 year
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idk which ex ur talking about in that "insane things my ex has done" but i relate bcuz i am currently in a relationship with a gendie who has started saying recently that my aversion to male genitalia is incredibly transphobic even though she knows i have been sexually assaulted many times by men (and am and always have been a lesbian lol) (also sorry if this is inappropriate but i feel like i have no one else to confide in.)
im not sure where i talked about her but i can tell from what u said which ex i was talking about lool its my 1st gf and i never rly talked fully about this bc my ex has since transitioned (only socially tho afaik) & continued to be questionable as fuck in various ways and went from friendly w me to shit talking me bc how dare i share my opinions on my blog which she decided to keep regularly checking for years after our break up despite her having a gf and us hardly ever talking (partially bc of me bc frankly in hindsight i was far too forgiving n despite that she demonised me at the end of our relationship n was weird in various moments after we remained friends)
but she was (& is) also a gendie, which is fine bc when we were together she wasnt like irrational about it. she was the one who told me that SRS doesnt work the way i thought it did, like the genitals didnt magically change and there arent like no differences like i thought, instead she said the differences were obvious. but near the end of our relationship she insisted to me that the way to fix her issues was to make our relationship an open relationship, said that my body made her insecure about her own body n she should sleep w people with a similar body to gain confidence in it. prior to that i was not for an open relationship at all but those comments made me feel like saying no would make me selfish and that if thats what she needs to accept herself then fine yanno. then ofc not soon after she starts e-dating this trans woman who is an abusive creep & rapist (like not even exaggerating here. but ofc those accusations were dismissed for a while bc the trans woman called the woman who came out about the abuse a terf n ppl believed that until trans women also began to call this out). i was like um hows dating someone with a diff body than u and even a diff sex going to make u feel better about ur body when thats the entire reason for the open relationship? never rly got a proper answer but whatever i let it be. then that trans woman wanted to be in a throuple with us basically like wanted to get with me and my ex and would openly fantasise about me to my ex. my ex said "oh she wouldnt be into that, shes not into penises" and the trans woman was like omg why.. :( and my ex was like oh shes penis-repulsed etc and the trans woman was like aw how sad i hope she gets help for that!! n my ex agreed. then my ex told me about this n i was like... what the fuck? it took me a bit but after a few days i was like hey this comment really pissed me off wtf do u mean gets help for that.. and my ex was saying that i should seek therapy to stop being penis-repulsed and should see trans women as women and be open to trans women in a romantic & sexual way basically and i was clearly upset by that n i was like. ur telling me to seek conversion therapy. n she was like nooo and i was like what so u mean some kind of exposure therapy against the "phobia" of penises? and she was like yeah just like that! n i said... thats literally a form of conversion therapy that was done in the past to other gay ppl.. exposing gay ppl to the opposite sex's genitals to try to change their feelings towards it is literally a conversion therapy tactic.
anyways my ex n i ultimately broke up bc it turned out the open relationship was meant to be one-sided somehow and her doing things was ok but if i did things it made me a cheater somehow and my comfort was repeatedly disregarded, i didnt like that trans woman at all at that point n my ex would still keep dating them n it was just all too many bad things at once so i was like fuck it im done w this. ultimately my ex realised that this trans woman is indeed an abuser and i also realised the my 2nd gf who i got with soon after i broke up w my ex is also an abuser. but then when my ex began to transition she started to show more of that homophobia she showed during our relationship like saying the f-slur (calling ppl that) and saying its ok bc "im a bisexual man" which was just.........erm... anyways in the end our last form of communication was her getting her friends to gang up on me for ~ruining the fun~ of a game of among us and then she talked shit about me to one of my close friends (been friends for 14 years) who she never even met and was like ~omg shes so problematic im sorry i just cant handle it anymore~ ......
anyways i feel u lmao. its not inappropriate dont worry and im sorry u went thru that too bc its painful to love someone as they are and yet they basically tell u that ur lesbianism means something is wrong w u bc ur truly not into males at all. honestly i think its best for u to end it asap instead of making the mistake i did, nothing good came out of it for me and i shouldve left for good at the first red flag which was my ex's compulsive lying about serious issues like rape & fgm, or immediately ended it when she was saying that i should go thru conversion therapy otherwise im transphobic
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hecksupremechips · 2 years
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💀(I know u have tea and pent up rage let it all out my guy)
There’s been lots of random blogs I get all pissed off about, like the numerous t*rf blogs I’ve blocked or the ppl who say creepy shit in the it tag (cough cough the person who wrote the pedophilia incest fic). But I think I’ll do the ranting about a blog that you’re all too familiar with 🤡. I won’t name drop but I’m sure ppl could figure out easily enough
They made many angry rants about how shipping jesse/lake was super toxic and creepy and I mean, ehhhh. I’m not too into that ship but I’m not gonna argue that cuz it just is a major stretch. It’s okay to just not like something you don’t have to make up shit lol
Bouncing off the first point they were very protective of lake as a character and got really heated if you didn’t see them as a lesbian specifically. Which I can kindaaaa agree in a sense? Like lake is canon butch so when ppl make them feminine it’s pretty shit cuz they as a character don’t feel comfortable with that and it makes me wonder why people are aching to put a butch in girly clothes (I know why but still). I personally like to see lake as a trans guy cuz mostly I’m starved for that shit cuz we have literally nothing and I really relate to a lot of what lake goes through in the season. But hm, I’m not gonna act like that’s the one true way to interpret this character. There’s evidence in the text that can point in many directions. And yeah I have my own hcs for these characters and theres hcs other people have that I don’t like but if it’s nothing harmful or blatantly untrue then I’m gonna mind my own business since sexuality/gender wise these characters aren’t actually anything and it’s all up to interpretation
They said that ace hcs were sexualizing minors and talked over the numerous ace ppl that told them that straight up wasn’t true because THEY HAVE EXPERIENCE BEING ACE
Really hated kez to like an absurd degree and was so peeved at her existence. I think it’s just really funny akdbsks
Acted like god cuz they wrote some of the first b4 fics and they were severely out of character obviously cuz they wrote them BEFORE THE DAMN SEASON CAME OUT AAAA but despite that they popularized some shitty trends in how ppl saw Ryan and Min and definitely popularized shitty homophobia shit in fics. Like I’m so sorry that I think reading these guys say slurs and be misogynistic assholes is severely out of character like bitch just cuz it’s the 80s doesn’t mean they these guys are massive bigots even before they realize their sexualities. And they don’t act like straight dudebros my man wtf. And before anyone says anything I know that it was written before the season came out but I raise my big complaint being WHY DID YOU WRITE THESE CHARACTERS BEFORE THEN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW SHIT ABOUT THEM MY MAN
In the same vein as previous point they were like super mad about how the actual season came out and it’s like oh noooo it’s almost like you built some shitty version in your head of how the show would be and when it obviously didn’t follow through you got all defensive. I mean I’m not saying you have to like the season but you kinda had it coming you know?
That’s all I’m gonna say I gotta get it out before I combust
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myastrouniverse · 5 days
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April/2024🌖♎️This is a collage NOT a puzzle. Nothing here fits together.
♅︎ < 🦺 I am so tired of privileged sacks of shit pretending they are better than other people, after doing absolutely nothing with their entire fucking lives. Then they blame the people whose lives they destroyed.
♀️< 🦚 It took me a couple years, but by the time I found out, there wasn’t anything I could do. All I can do is focus on MY HEALING. Of course it makes me feel guilty, but I’ve been down that road before. It never ends well. No matter what I say, no matter what I do, no matter how much I love and I loved him. It’s difficult to talk about. It never makes any sense anyway. It’s not fair to anyone, but I always look for him, in everyone I love. Why is my love a curse to those I love? How many hearts have to break over and over again? Whatever. Everyone is breaking their own hearts over nothing. Why are we ALL so comfortable living with lies?
♀️< 🎸 Isn’t it funny? It’s a real laugh riot to destroy a young woman’s life. It’s real funny to FORCE a woman to remain a virgin or celibate, until she is too old to have her own children. Women don’t have a right to choose who they love. They are supposed to love whoever has the most money for their family, like a whore, right? What am I to you animals? A virgin, a whore or a mother? Why can’t women be treated like INDIVIDUALS? Why do women ALWAYS have to play gender roles for white trash misogynist assclowns? It’s so gross on all levels. I really hate everyone. I think everyone is a fucking monster and no one has proved me wrong.
🌖 ☍ ☊ I saw that Chappelle refer movie. The white dude dressed EXACTLY like Brian Nadal. Birkenstocks with socks. You should have seen him dance at the BOOKA MAROONGA African drum jam. We had no idea how white we were to everyone there.
🌖 Λ ♄︎ I wish these delusional stalker misogynist fuckheads, would please leave me the fuck alone.
🎸▪️🦚 Please drag your white trash scum cunts in my face. Let’s see how long your crazy fuck whores survive torture? If they think they are better than me, ask them to try to survive ONE DAY in my shoes, on my WORST DAY. Not one of them would last an hour, is my estimate of your bitches.
🌖 ☍ ☿︎ Stop. Before you speak, do you have any fucking idea what you are saying? Who actually knows wtf is going on?
🌖▪️🌽 I can’t do this alone and yet, here I AM.
🌖 ☍ 🚑 Nothing is going to change, move forward or even stabilize, until we start talking about the whole TRUTH. What was done to me was an ABOMINATION. I DESERVE JUSTICE AND JUSTICE MUST BE SERVED.
🌖 Λ ♃︎ Smoking cigarettes and weed has been important for my healing process. Smoking pushes the bio-parasite shit OUT of my body by keeping it within my lymphatic system and helping to dry up the gunk. I don’t even feel stoned most of the time because it is the bio-parasite that is affected by the THC first. Once it is debilitated the cigarette smoke kills it. The nano wand has the opposite effect which is why it is so dangerous. Again, using the blue/yellow setting a few times did not have a negative effect. It helped kill bacteria deeply embedded beneath my skin. However, if done consistently could have killed me. You have to wait six months for new skin growth before using the wand again or it will literally tear you apart or burn you alive. I have a feeling that may have happened to some people who were obviously not thinking clearly.
🌖 Λ ♂️Why are men physically trying to be women, instead of embracing their own intuition, compassion and peace within? It does seem like a mental disorder for some people who can’t get in touch with their emotions. You can’t physically become intuitive. You don’t physically astral travel. You are confusing tangible with esoteric. That is an ape problem, not a human problem, btw. I am not against trans people. I am against these freak show trans misogynists who want to literally take over the body of their female partner. It’s fucking creepy shit.
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boringsideeffect · 7 months
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i've been thinking about gender and my specific feelings on the matter and where i fit withing the spectrum and it's just... so complex, i guess? idk. i'm afab. i've never felt truly comfortable within the feminine gender - idk - bracket? (sorry, i literally don't have words, apparently) for a long stretch of years i haven't been truly paying those feelings/thoughts much attention (i had to focus on staying alive and somewhat sane, and then i've been in a relationship with a partner that was ignoring anything "other" about me and was trying to make me fit into a "perfect girlfriend" type person) but they have been surfacing every now and then. ever since breaking off my engagement and leaving that relationship, i've had much more time, energy and motivation to do a lot more thinking soul-searching and trying to figure out what feels right, and for some time i thought the genderfluid "label" might fit me, and to a certain extent i still do think so i guess, but i've come to realise that there might be something else, maybe? i'm getting increasingly uncomfortable with using feminine terms while speaking about myself and feminine terms being used to address me & talk to/about me. and in a certain way it feels like i still don't know anything about myself. i've spent the last four years trying to get to know myself better and i still don't know shit. i'm 32 and i'm sitting here, baffled. like, who am i even? am i genderfluid? am i. am i trans? i don't know! and who should know me better than me? no one! i know! it's a wholeass shitshow in my head sometimes. sometimes i feel like crawling out of my own skin. i've known for a long time that i'm not entirely comfortable within my own body, and my hips/thighs and boobs especially are a weird area for me. sometimes i'm like Wouldn't it be wonderful to just magically wake up with a more "masc" body. i know it's a minor thing but i got my hair cut short (again) recently and when i look at myself in the mirror (esp when i'm wearing a sports bra and a looser-fitting shirt) i get such a thrill. every time my online friends (who - btw - are so good at reading my confusing cues, like wtf you guys, you're legitimately the best) say shit like "dude", and "you're a lovely guy", and "you're a pretty boy" when i'm shamefullylessly fishing for compliments, i feel like i'm being stabbed in the chest if being stabbed in the chest was the best feeling ever. and i kinda wish i could feel like that all the time. but i'm scared. that's what it all boils down to in the end, isn't it. i'm 32 and i'm scared and i don't even know how to talk about this to myself, let alone to other people. oh and don't even get me started about the prospect of dating and the sheer overwhelming sense of terror having to either 1) explain someone else the weird, convoluted feelings that i have (and being fucking terrified of what they're going to think) or 2) bottling it up inside and trying to put up with language i'm not comfortable with being used about me. even without all this i'm pretty certain i won't ever meet someone who would be right for me, and this isn't helping. my other language (the one i'm using most offline) is also stupidly, unnecessarily gendered so that sucks too. i shudder at the prospect of being called someone's girlfriend. i'm terrified of having to explain someone else that i'd like to be called their boyfriend but i'm not transitioning and i haven't told anyone irl about all this because I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN IT. sometimes i feel like i'm drowning in it. ugh.
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wizardof-ace · 3 years
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my grade nine english teacher: can you turn this story about aliens into an allegory about feeling out of place pls
me: nah
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tojismalewife · 3 years
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PART TWO TO General Hc’s for JJK men with a ftm reader.
Part one can be checked out https://tojismalewife.tumblr.com/post/659459121256513536/general-hcs-for-jjk-men-with-a-ftm-reader-this RIGHT BELOW
This part contains; Nanami, Mahito, Itadori, and Megumi
I WILL MAKE A PART THREE IF ASKED 😩
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Oh nanami.
Bisexual energy ngl.
Okay anyways, If you came out to this man he’d be nonchalant about it. Maybe a small nod or a hum.
But he CAN and WILL send you gifts/buy you a binder and T if you need it.
He’s a “actions speak louder then words” kinda person.
When it comes down to people being assholes to you about it- he’ll put them in their place. No hesitation- telling them off in a calm and collected tone before wrapping an arm around your shoulder and walking off,
Will big spoon you at the house and reassure you that you’re a boy no matter what if you ask him.
If you’re not in the mood for that he’ll give yoy your favorite snack and just rub your back, a comforting silence taking over.
Nah wait, if body dysphoria is hitting REALLY bad he’d just- turn off all the lights- only using candles and taking a nice shower/bath with you.
“Hm, it’s okay my boy”.
“You’re a boy no matter what or how you become one, you’re still a boy. You’re still my boyfriend”.
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Pansexual, he doesn’t care. He just loves you.
PLS HE WOULD BE SO CONFUSED AT FIRST…
“What’s trans?”
Cue you explaining
“And why is that bad? You’re still a boy aren’t you? It’s kinda cool that you have female genitalia anyways- do all boys come with that?”
Bless his soul he’s trying his best :(((
After all confusion is cleared- since he can’t really buy you stuff- he’ll either try to steal it or comfort you the best he can with his words. And or bringing up the most random shit in a way for you to avoid sadness. “Did you know the worlds smallest human can grow to-“
Comes to terms of telling people off- they’re already dead. If ANYONE tries to disrespect his boyfriend they’re dead before they can even finish their sentence.
Would automatically hug you after killing said person- comforting you.
If body dysphoria was getting bad he’d hold you- a silence overtaking unless it’s to put an input on how valid you are.
“Guys look at my boyfriend! What do you mean he isn’t?-“ *cue sounds of someone dying lol*
“You mean so much to me my baby boy…”
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Bisexual/pansexual. All I’m saying
You’re another 1st year, yet whenever someone calls your name for attendance you automatically freeze up and shift nervously before mumbling a “here”
Itadori automatically noticed and went to talk to you about it, once you came out as trans to him he AUTOMATICALLY supported.
Was smiling as he told you how it’s nice to have another dude in the class, although he felt bad for Nobara being the only girl.
Comforts with words AND actions, would bribe Gojo to get all your teachers to call you by your given name and to buy you a binder.
When a teacher doesn’t follow by said orders given out and or is openly transphobic, Itadori is coming up for there ass- telling them to F off and to respect his boyfriend.
If you still feel body dysphoric after that, he’ll hold you. You’re crying in his lap meanwhile he rubs your back- nose buried into your hair as he inhales your scent, mumbling about how you shouldn’t listen or that asshole of a teacher. How you’re valid- how much he loves you and how you’re the best boyfriend he’s ever had.
If you aren’t in the mood for that he’s gonna comfort you with his words, gently patting your head as your favorite song plays in the background.
If you fell asleep with him holding you- he’s gonna take a picture- add text that says “he’s so cute when he’s sleeping wtf” and post it on his Snapchat and fall asleep meanwhile Megumi spams his phone with “ARE YOU GUYS DATING??”
I mean, damn leave Megumi in the dark about y’all’s relationship ig 😒
“Hey! It’s pretty cool knowing that there’s tons of guys in this class- sucks that Nobara is the only girl though…”
“YOU’RE SO HANDSOME TODAY WHAT??”
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Pansexual.
Just like Itadori, he notices you’re getting massively uncomfortable with being called by your name when roll call is happening.
Instead of approaching this nicely like Itadori though, he corners you.
He’s looming over you- asking why you’re so uncomfortable with your name you blurt it out on accident.
“… trans?”
He’s a confused bby at first but he gets it the second you explain a bit.
He’s a more actions through words, will “bribe” (read threaten) Gojo to get his boyfriend a binder and will try to pull some strings with Nanami to get you T.
Whenever someone’s being a dick about you being trans he’s already by your side- throwing some rude remarks while glaring and huffing.
Walks away with a pout as he lets his arm rest around your waist/shoulders.
If you feel body dysphoric after the interaction, he’d hold you silently. Letting you cry and rant to him, giving you anything you need- putting some inputs of his own as he tries his best to compliment/validate you.
“You’re valid, you’re a boy. Deal with it”.
“My handsome boyfriend… I love him…”
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polyghostfacehours · 3 years
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billy and stu at pride with y/n? what would that be like? since its june and all. (i feel like they wouldn’t go but let’s pretend that with enough whining from y/n they agree) i love the way u write them btw. doesn’t feel out of character at all :)
Thank you! I try and keep them as much in character as I can, and spend an ungodly amount of time analyzing their scenes in Scream (it's how I noticed Stu's little mutilated doll project in his attic lmao, I went frame by frame on that shit.)
Poly!Ghostface x Reader at Pride!
So 1996 Stu and Billy wouldn't go to Pride that was anywhere near Woodsboro. But they would be willing to go to one a reasonable distance out of town for you, where Billy's dad wouldn't be able to spot him.
And Stu happens to know which one they would attend. He has an estranged gay aunt who he adores, but isn't allowed to visit often due to his parents' prejudice. She's the biggest supporter of your relationship and is more than happy to let you guys stay with her during the time!
Billy would be too nervous and ashamed to wear any particular flag apparel, but Stu goes absolutely buckwild. He doesn't even care if someone he knows sees him because it's not like they can out him without them outing themselves by being there.
If you are trans, they will both wear trans flag apparel in solidarity. Billy wears a pin, and doesn't care who sees. He may struggle with his own identity, but when it comes to you, he holds nothing back. Stu will have a whole line of trans snap bracelets going down his arms for you. This includes the transmasc and transfem specific flags.
You guys take a ton of polaroids together to put in a photo album later.
Stu brings a mixtape of songs to play that he feels fall in line with the spirit of Pride, and when he finds someone with a boombox, he hands it to them to play while you guys drink and loiter in that area.
Anyone with working eyes could see that Billy is uncomfortable at first. He has that characteristic blank expression and keeps looking around awkwardly. Your heart warms when you see people going out of their way to make him comfortable and by the end of the night he's laughing with the drag queens!
Someone explains demisexuality to 90s!Billy and his mind is blown bc wtf that fits me even more than Stu's bi one
You guys run into another poly throuple and holy shit are all 3 of you blown away. You guys had never ran into any other poly people irl and had only read about the topic on some websites on geocities. This experience really solidifies in your minds that what you guys have is real and true and right
So moving on to some MODERN AU stuff.
Billy and Stu absolutely attend the nearest Pride, no questions asked. Billy's dad is still prejudiced, but Billy cares significantly less because it's 2021 and fuck that be gay do crime.
The minute you guys graduated high school you immediately moved to the big city(I headcanon New York), that has a large LGBT community and presence.
Billy still struggles with his identity but a lot less, and Stu. Oh Stu. Stu absolutely is in PRIDE mode at all times tbh. He always shows you guys off on social media, does PDA in public, and is just proud of you guys in general. At Pride he is absolutely decked head to toe in Pride apparel. He dies his hair and paints his face + chest for the occasion.
Billy is still incredibly subdued, and doesn't really dress up. To him, his sexuality and polyamorous relationship is no one's business but his own and those involved with him. He celebrates his pride by just being there, and maybe wearing a couple of pins or necklace.
You guys wear matching poly pride necklaces that say "Im their boy/girlfriend". Stu gets a temp. tattoo of 3 figures on his right arm that look like those restroom sign figures lmao. Billy hates it lmao.
If you are pre-op transmasc and want to go shirtless but are too nervous to, Stu is your hype man. he will paint anything you want on your chest and assure you that duh guys go topless all the time and youre a guy so whats the problem dude.
If you are transfem and want to wear a short skirt and need help tucking properly, Billy will help you in anyway he can. He won't even be horny about it, he know how important it is to you. It's one of the moments he's most gentle with you.
Stu makes friends easily already, but seeing him at pride was a whole 'nother ball game. His interactions almost seem a bit more....genuine? He's more at ease somehow, as if the stress of acting like a cishet dudebro in his small conservative town that just doesn't understand him or his murder tendencies just...melts away.
If you are bisexual/pansexual cis woman and they hear anything about how you're "bandwagoning" and "theyre just straight women who make out with girls at parties sometimes" then they will go absolutely feral on them. Their girlfriend belongs at pride just like any other queer person fuck you.
Billy gets maaaad jealous when you or Stu get inevitably hit on. Deathglaring the leather daddy flirting with Stu, kissing you in the middle of a conversation with that cute queer biker girl. The works. But of course he absolutely revels in how many people hit on him. he could never resist an ego boost.
If you ever feel uncomfortable for any reason, you'll have to let them know. They're gonna be mainly absorbed in themselves and exploring what's around them, so they're not gonna be super attentive at the time. And honestly, Billy would probably notice but won't do anything until you say something because he's selfish and wants to keep having fun. So speak up!
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vrisrezis · 3 years
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My mcu favs w/ crush and relationship hcs (pt 2) (not proof read)
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- gonna be honest she’s not familiar with romantic feelings, takes her awhile to even realize what she feels for you
- you make her heart all melty and soft, you make her face heat up, you make her question everything she does
- you make her feel even giddy and overly happy and it kinda annoys her tbh
- she thinks you’re out to get her or something and have casted some spell but when she asks thor he has no idea what she’s talking about until she describes what she’s feeling and he just laughs and thinks she’s joking
- she’s like no. I’m serious ?
- to which thor would tell her what it is, he has a bit of an idea because of Jane
- tbh loving somebody romantically, caring about somebody to this extent scares her
- she’s lost so many people and because of it became a raging alcoholic
- if she lost you she doesn’t know what could happen
- she tries to push you away but quickly realizes she doesn’t like doing that to herself or you
- asks you to go out drinking with her often if you’re up for that
- she’d find it funny how easily you get drunk but has no problem taking care of you, in fact she would probably drink with you more often so she can take care of you because it’s the closest to intimacy she feels she can have with you (no she is not taking advantage of you or anything, it’s more just the thought of taking care of you feels intimate to her)
- also you’re cute while you’re drunk
- trans with you so you can be tougher if you’re not that tough already
- tbh asks thor to do the same with you, whether it be cuz she’s not around or because you need the extra training
- eventually Thor’s at the point where he’s like you gotta tell em and she’s like no 🖕
- but she does eventually
- she’s kinda awkward about it but she tries to sound confident with it ^^
- dating you is very different than just being her friend tbh
- like you might’ve been surprised at her asking you out, even if it’s kinda obvious to anybody that knows her well
- to any stranger you just seemed like friends with a strange rivalry relationship but that’s really not the case
- she’s much more flirty in a relationship, since she’s confident you’re with her for a reason.. she’s not the type to doubt your relationship, you’re with her for a reason
- much more protective in battle though
- she doesn’t say she loves you enough, but she shows it through her actions
- asks thor about the romantic stuff but he has no idea really so she goes to Bruce who kinda has more of a grasp on it
- tries to take you to like normal restaurant dates... kinda awkward since she had no midgardian clothes at that point
- lotsa quick kisses on the cheek or forehead
- likes cuddling as she finds it just.. kinda intimate ?
- still likes to take care of a drunk you
- quick pecks on your lips are very often
- doesn’t like the idea of going on a lot of Thor’s saving the world shits unless you’re on board with it
- thor jokes about how she’s all badass and “I don’t give a fuck about saving the world or anyone else” until it comes to you
- she kicks his ass
- but he’s not wrong
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- when she likes you she’s a bit like wtf
- like she doesn’t realize it for a moment until jane explains it
- before she was her usual talkative self but there was a lot of nervousness and stuttering at times, just unusual awkwardness that made Jane raise a brow
- it makes more sense now
- since she’s aware she likes you now she often asks you to hang out, to help her out, whatever it is
- the gal is clingy af what can she say
- lotsa hugs she loves giving you hugs often does them for a greeting
- just an excuse to hold you though tbh
- at times will get tongue tied
- she tries to flirt but it just makes you confused she’s not good at it you’re not even gonna know she’s flirting
- eventually grows impatient about it and is just like “I LIKE U DUMMY! DATE ME!”
- and now you date
- she gets into things a bit quickly so if it’s too fast tell her, hopefully not a dealbreaker
- dates are often because she’s got a lot of creative ideas for dates ^^
- still hugs you as a greeting but a lot longer and intimate and a kiss follows after
- speaking of kisses she LOVES to kiss you and she does so very often
- very needy
- big cuddler
- just like “CUDDLE ME”
- so demanding
- often talks about you and how much she loves you she can’t help it
- but if anybody did the same she like “shut up nobody cares”
- even with you though she’s blunt, but much nicer about it
- likes going on just good dates, restaurants , picnic, whatever
- she eats all the food
- tries to impress you so she might say she was best friends with thor at a point
- and that she’s helped him out before and .. yeah etc
- she likes buying you clothes tbh
- especially if you don’t dress good let her dress you up pls
- would be sad if you didn’t get along with Jane
- it would be a dealbreaker actually
- she knows she’s a bit much so she feels happy you love her anyways
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- vision of course will not understand his feelings
- he understands you definitely make him feel something, that something being good
- for a moment he might think he feels like this is how best friends feel towards another, or even thinking he sees you in a familial light
- tony quickly tells him that is not the case
- once vision understands what he really feels he’s not sure how to go about it, he can be quite oblivious
- he’s aware of this but still .. what does he do?
- asks tony for advice, he tells him to flirt and see how it goes
- but tbh that doesn’t work, you don’t even realize he’s flirting gonna be honest
- he’s just bad at it
- so he tries to just simply state his affection, that doesn’t work because he doesn’t know how to word it without it sounding platonic, or getting too nervous about going too far
- he doesn’t wanna overstep boundaries
- tony is in pain watching this btw
- tony eventually is just like “he wants to know if you would like to go on a date” “w- I.. yes?”
- in a relationship he is very sweet
- kinda cliche though, since he doesn’t have a concept of romance at all
- looks up a lot of the things he should know about romance he doesn’t want to ask you that
- while he has no problem protecting you, he doesn’t feel the need to be overly protective unless needed
- he’s logical, reasonable, he only gets protective if he has to, even with how he feels towards you
- but do you distract him? Yes absolutely
- he’s okay with living comfortably and normally for once with you, unless it’s something you don’t want or are not ready for
- once you’re conditioned to a certain lifestyle, even if it isn’t a good one it can be uncomfortable to get out of and he understands that
- he loves to kiss you, often initiates kisses or forms of affection
- you were the first to kiss him, it made him so flustered but so happy and now he’s addicted to kissing you
- loves kissing your hands
- if you have any insecurity he will do anything in his power to prove you wrong and that he doesn’t see you in that light
- he understands he has responsibilities but other than that, loves spending his time with you
- he understands you’re a distraction so he tries not to fight with you, he wants to prioritize the people when it comes to this kinda thing
- which you of course understand
- once you teach him what dancing is, his love language is dancing with you
- you two just stay up talking about nothing and everything
- having kids with him isn’t an option, but he isn’t opposed to adopting children
- after all, all he’s ever wanted was to be a normal significant other to you
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- do not have a huge concept on her character so forgive me 🙏
- she can be a bit flirty, not that you mind though right ?
- she just loves spending all her time with you
- probably met you before wandavision
- so you’re probably already together
- even then in wandavision you two were “roommates”
- doesn’t explain all the flirting girl .
- agathas fall would be letting Wanda find out she had a soft spot for you my god
- while she’s all confidence and flirty in general, she’s a bit softer with you
- like she genuinely means the things she says when it comes to you
- eventually asks you to date her, you don’t have much room for dates outside of wandavision
- you two are always together btw
- loves dancing with you
- she has a good grasp on romance so she has no issue with it
- she is full of confidence when it comes down to it tbh
- holds your hand often
- your relationship ain’t official till like the 70s probably
- might joke after wanda has kids that you both should have kids too
- while she’s causing her mischief you back her up to make her look less suspicious
- seriously in the mist of all this she’s grateful for you
- especially when you get her out of the hell that Wanda puts her in once again
- to which she will actually confess she loves you, and cares for you
- you aren’t just like.. some person to date
- she’s not the most vulnerable obviously
- so the fact she finally is.. it’s just a lot
- “idk I just love u a lot hun . Cant I show I love u 😊”
- she’s just so overly sweet with you
- she’s so awful to everyone else at times that she just likes being .. with you and being a softie
- likes you playing with her hair
- she loves a good cuddle
- cute nicknames like hon, or hun, or just teddy bear
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- with a crush quill might try to act overly friendly
- and probably flirts a lot
- he’s very like obvious with the flirting so you’d have to be oblivious not to notice it
- he can be quite protective as well
- like not just in fighting but even with just others like even before dating he’s very jealous
- if he makes a joke you’re always in on it somehow
- he tries for form a close bond with you just cuz he likes you so much
- it’s likely he likes somebody that can easily protect themselves doe
- probably has some dumb handshake with you
- honestly he acts like a close friend to you
- people might mistake you for a sibling like relationship if it weren’t for his flirting and him staring at you like you’re his entire universe
- seriously Sam says Bucky has a staring problem, quill is fucking awful
- it’s constant and rocket is always like “you’re staring”
- and he’s like “nO” and then continues to stare
- has you listen to his favorite music of course
- especially the love songs ;D
- will just dance with you to the music he puts on
- one time you guys are dancing to the music he put on like normal but it’s a slow love song, so hes like let’s so dance bae
- and then he tells you how he feels for u
- now u date <3
- lots of forehead kisses
- cuddle bug absolutely
- still a jealous boyfriend though tbh he will try to seem all tough in front of any man he thinks might be better or something he will do anything to show off
- your relationship doesn’t change just lots of kisses and hugs now and I love yous
- you’re totally the relationship that’s like “I love you more” “nooo I love you more” and the guardians hate y’all so much
- he uses nicknames like hun, honey, love, sweetheart
- let’s just say you slow dance more often, and kiss while doing so ^^
- he flirts with you still but it’s a lot more sweet rather than before where he might’ve just flirted with you in terms of like it being kinda like calling you sexy and shit like that, now it’s more like wow u look beautiful I luv u 😊🙏
- would do anything for you, even if he wouldn’t like it
- doesn’t mean he wouldn’t hesitate tho
- going on separate dates isn’t really an option since you guys fight left and right and are always with the guardians, but he decided every once a couple months you guys go on a date together and have some fun
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- Loki doesn’t get crushes, so this is a new thing for him
- and tbh he doesn’t know how to take it either, especially when he realizes how strong those feelings actually are
- he hates the idea of being vulnerable in general, especially when it comes to you
- over time it just... happens
- but if there’s any indication he likes spending time with you he will try to lie his way through it, he’s a good liar of course so it probably works
- however he shows he at the very least cares about you, he shows a sign of protectiveness when it comes to potential enemies.. enemies that happen to be dangerous for you
- plus he’s around you like constantly and claims he has nobody else to harass
- he claims he doesn’t care about you at all, but even thor can tell through this lie
- the way he looks at you makes it obvious
- the way he doesn’t try to get you involved in his more dangerous schemes
- and if you do, and you get hurt he feels guilty and tries to help you feel better
- he claims he just owes you one for getting you hurt though
- eventually thor bothers him enough to get him to confess feelings, which takes a lot for Loki to even go through with
- he acts confident, even moreso after you say yes, but deep down was extremely nervous
- the male is good at making you feel important, after trying so hard to hide his feelings he is tired of it and just wants to be more honest about how he feels about you
- no issue being vulnerable, he trusts you but sometimes it can be hard
- he goes to you for a lot of his problems, even if you cannot help, just venting and you listening helps
- he was already with you a lot but now there’s no excuses and it’s even moreso
- “what? I just wanted to visit my beautiful s/o” “we literally just saw eachother 5 minutes ago can I please go to bed”
- likes pressing your foreheads together, he finds it sweet
- jealous of thor? Absolutely. Pls comfort him and tell him you’d never leave him for thor
- he’s so used to just not being as good as him, he wants to be good enough for you
- deep down there’s just so many insecurities he has
- so it causes him to worry like all the time
- having a reassuring and patient s/o is so good for him ^^
- flirting becomes a thing in your relationship
- it makes him feel more confident pls give him this
- protective, he feels like he has to be tbh because he never gets anything good in his life and if he does he loses it, he’s scared to lose you too
- if for some reason he can’t see you he makes an illusion of you to talk to
- when he fake dies you’re the first he goes to see so you don’t think he’s dead, he loves you he wouldn’t want to do that to you =(
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- finally
- gonna be honest bucky with a crush is cute
- first of all he smiles at you a lot, Steve is the first to notice how much he smiles around you, it’s the most he smiles like ever
- just has a lot of nice conversations with you about anything and everything
- also whenever you’re around even if other people are around you he’s just like “hey y/n :)”
- heart eyes for you, just can’t help but stare all the time
- he has a staring problem but with you? Yeah 10x over
- Sam always has something to say abt it also
- his idea of flirting with you is really just saying hi to you, just being overly friendly which is noticeable for a guy like Bucky
- eventually would ask you out, he tries to ease into it but he gets a bit impatient
- he was also nervous asking you out but yk
- when dating him he becomes very protective
- one of the most protective bitches on the list tbh
- he gets nightmares about you dying like all the time it breaks him everytime though
- lots of cuddles, whether it be from a rough day, he’s just tired, or had a nightmare
- he likes his hair being brushed by you and played with, even when he cuts it
- he’s scared of killing you and turning into the winter soldier again
- has dreams about when he’s hurt and fought you as the winter soldier, he keeps thinking about if Steve wasn’t there to help, he really could’ve killed you and that terrifies him
- even when you tell him it wasn’t him, he appreciates it but still feels horrible about it
- touch that metal arm, but like gently Yknow . Nobody’s ever touched that arm with such kindness and it makes him soft and feel lucky
- speaking of soft Bucky is very soft, there’s many soft moments with Bucky and vulnerability
- it’s easy to be vulnerable with you but not others
- lots of handholding
- he loves hugging you for long periods of time
- still has a staring problem but now Sam openly makes fun of him
- just big dumb smile on his face as he looks at you
- especially when you’re dealing with kids, seeing you be around them makes his heart warm
- maybe he does wanna be normal, settle down and have kids
- though the thought scares him it is something he desires
- we all know he calls you doll
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trans-jay · 2 years
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Hello and welcome to my dumb ass talking about my opinions on Jay
“Ender, your username is transjay-“
SILENCE
My opinions on Jay are pretty mixed considering I could be talking about fanon or canon Jay. I like both Jays but the problem is pretty big for both of them
Infantizing
Infantizing isn’t new to me. I have been in so many fandoms where people infantize characters, most of these characters being adults. One example of this is the fnaf side of the gacha community. Majority of them infanftize William. The same happens to Jay. People paint him out as some ‘UwU childish baby boy’ when in reality this kid has gone through some shit. He can act childish at times but that’s what makes him funny.
Annoying fanfics
Now, I enjoy fanfics that have Jay in them. He is my comfort character and I kin him for a lot of reasons. But the fanfics I’m talking about when I say annoying are ones where Jay has ADHD and is trans. As a trans person, representation is pretty cool! Even though it may not be canon, headcanons exist! But in basically EVERY fanfic that had Jay, he has ADHD and is trans. I don’t have ADHD but I saw a post from nonbinary-kai talking about how it annoys her because they have ADHD. I am in no place to talk about the ADHD part of this so let’s go to the trans part of it. I think it’s cool that people have their headcanons. It could make them feel better headcanoning that their favourite character is trans! For me, I headcanon Lloyd to be trans (ftm). But. Every. Single. Fanfic. Has Jay as trans. And as a trans person seeing it everywhere, it can be annoying. I just want one AT LEAST ONE fanfic where Jay isn’t trans. Combined with the infantizing issue, it makes me feel ashamed to say that I’m trans.
Annoying Jay stans
“Ender, you’re name has Jay in it, wouldn’t that make you a Jay stan?”
Simple answer, NO.
Jay stans are pretty cool! People who kins/stans Jay are always loud, funny and just overall nice people! I’m not talking about those kind of stans. I’m talking about the ones who wanted Kai DEAD because he though Jay was expendable. WTF?? IT WAS A JOKE!! You can tell it was a joke from Kai’s smirk after Jay’s reaction! And besides, Jay has said worse stuff to Kai. If you’re gonna want Kai dead over him calling Jay expendable, than think about what Jay has called Kai.
That is all thank you for coming to my TedTalk
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