#not obligated to love anything back there but sometimes people post stuff that makes me think like.

[outeremissary]

"Play other games" yes absolutely but I'd like to propose a corollary of "play older games" where everyone has to engage at least once with a game that's at least twenty years old (specifically a publication at least twenty years old. no cheating.) and find one web resource that's at least ten years old or print resource at least fifteen years old discussing it.

#I think it would be good for people who have never known a tabletop environment outside of heavily fandom-ified post 5e online spaces #rambling #a surprise for queue #not obligated to love anything back there but sometimes people post stuff that makes me think like. #to some people there is no legitimate and tangible history of this hobby before a certain liveplay starting with critical. #I think it's also just fun to go back to the very earliest publications of a system and see the vibe #I feel like a lot of modern tabletop games spring into being with so much polish and so little grunge and that's a shame #a cousin to the effect of the polished art book zine huh #or like. not even just the vibes on earliest publications but for PF (younger than my frame I know) the first pubs pre-date the system #which is a fun quirk in and of itself! #go read things older than PF though seriously. non-d20 things even.

[turnstechgodhead]

ok to the anon thats talkin w me about mental eelness and bro and the "knight of time" line:

id post your entire ask but its Very Long and im struggling to answer all of it in a way that isnt fucking with my head and anxiety so im going to answer with only the character analysis stuff HERE on this post my apologies

for the record i dont even remotely know how to begin tagging this mess down here and i really think itd be better suited for my nsfw blog but yall aint asking about this on that blog which is fair take care of yourselves

JSYK it's stuff about brocal/intrusive thoughts about inc st and c s a SO kids please avert your eyes for my comfort thank YOU

i dont personally have ocd afaik but as someone who Has intrusive thoughts (actual horrifying ones that dirk, gabe and i have to beat back with a stick, not the ones kids think are intrusive thoughts today)

i definitely think that's how bro approaches raising dave; overcompensating for the accusations from his mind and cal[iborn] leading to total icing him out

okay same anon who was asking abt the “i was raising the knight of time” line. you saying “caliborn made [bro] believe that platonic affection is in fact not platonic at all and is instead sexual[the implications when bro is constantly carrying around cal with his arms around his neck btw. insane.]” is fascinating. is this based off the fact that caliborn thinks even hugging or a kiss on the cheek is “filthy?” it makes me think about ocd/bipolar disorder/misc mental illnesses and intrusive thoughts. i have bipolar and im a huge softie for kids but my intrusive thoughts sometimes try to convince me that my affection is somehow sinister.

YES very much

i need to describe to you my thoughts on brocal really quick bc i think that'll help put it in perspective and idk how else to talk about it;

heres the thing

cal is both bro's boyfriend and his fucking family okay

imagine you're a kid and you have this puppet friend that speaks to you using silly words and tells you that you should eat glass maybe :) or cut your fingers off or tear off your own head and hes the only thing thats taking care of you as a person even if hes mean

he tells you that people touching is inappropriate and vulgar and he cant believe theyre doing that in public (but its okay if we hug and cuddle you know?)

but also as you grow up this puppet starts calling you weird shit like stud or hunky or what the hell ever and maybe. youre going to kiss him

this puppet is the only thing you care about because hes the only thing that cares about you youve been with him for years and years and he talks to you and hes all that matters and now youre obsessed with him and you dont know when that happened but you have an obsessive personality anyway

youll do anything for him. (let me kill for you)

hes the only person you love because you dont love roxy this way (consuming, overwhelming, obligating to do what he wants, because he's all you have)

and well shit

if cals telling you that youre a freak for wanting to cuddle on the baby like you did that once (call it the knight it helps keep your distance) then i guess you're a fucking freak because its not even your right to treat it as family anyway; it's bigger than you. it's more than you will ever be and you need to make sure it doesn't fucking die and apparently that involves at least a little bit of affection cal please understand(what a disgusting species)

#mumbling #brocal #homestuck #bro strider #tsgzv #tsgw #gabe and dirk are my mind parasites btw #PLEASE dont call me a system #timaeus posting

[devine-fem]

Oh, thank you for the explanation! But like i said, again, i generally don't ship kids at all (any, not just Jon, Damian, etc) and I am not even your follower. I came across your account because of a post and you are under the replies and saw your bio and just decided to casually ask (hence I said I am neutral and all).

And honestly I can relate about this particular thing you talked about: shipper of particular ship doesn't know about half of the ship at all because they only read one series and don't care about the rest of comics predated this particular series that justify their ship. And it's worse for me because the ships that I dislike is white mlm with quite huge fandom so they don't care if they butcher half of their ship character, as long as they can continue shipping this bland and again bad characterization of half of the ship they supposed to like. It's even bad when this ship fans are badmouthing half of the ship’s canon love interest which is a woman of color character. Like bam, they really went for misogyny and racism to justify their hatred for her.

Not me ranting lol but yeah that's it. Anyway again thanks for answering my previous question.

I’ve talked about this before.

The post.

I don’t get the whole crying misogyny and homophobia thing but sometimes it IS very blatant that someone is using stuff to hide both misogyny and homophobia at times.

A lot of damijon hate is homophobic and a lot of twitter damijon stans hide their misogyny.

I also believe that we can just dislike any character, for reasons or no reason at all. There shouldn’t have to be a reason for you to dislike anything ever. No one is obligated to like something.

I saw a post that was like “Damijon stans don’t have a good enough reason to dislike Daminika-“ on twitter (of course) but I was like, nice, we’re generalizing a group of people in a queer space and spewing BS on how people should be obligated to like something be it feminine, masculine, POC or whatever it may be.

Making generalizations that ALL people in a queer space sounds like something a y’know… would do, but eh, that’s just me.

Personally, If you like JonJ*y, go right the hell ahead. I cannot stop you, I know that and I don’t care to. Why you’d want to inflict that on yourself is beyond me because obviously, I don’t like it but me hating it should not stop you from enjoying it.

Notice how I always censor the words and never tag hate - it’s because I don’t want any Jonj*y enjoyers getting this on their dash and feeling bad about their ship. It’s totally up to you what you consume and enjoy and someone on the internet should never take that away from you.

I’m the same way with damijon and it’s the happiest I have never been. I realize that people feel the need to drag other’s down to make themselves feel better. I know it’s cliche but it’s real. It’s always easier to trash and degrade someone else than it will ever be to work on yourself.

Damijon is my OTP. I’ll always stand behind it for the near future and no one’s gonna take that away from me. Anon hate, hate dms, hate berating on twitter. All these things will only make me like it more all the while watching you spiral into loneliness and self pity the moment you realize no one on twitter actually cares about what you have to say.

Me on the other hand? Girl, I graduated with a degree in IDGAFeology and I really couldn’t care less about anything someone else has to say about me or how I spend my time. When you take a step back you realize that we really trying to publically humiliate people using an idea of people in our head and shreds of paper that represent life but don’t infact replicate it, how you represent these stories may reflect deeply on you in negative ways but I’m just the type of person who, again, does not care enough, just keep it AWAY from me.

What I’m trying to say is some people really gotta pipe down and live a little. And no prob, anon.

#jondami #damian wayne #jon kent #supersons #super sons #jonathan kent #jon kent age up #asks #dc comics

[wowbright]

I was thinking about a conversation I had with a fellow writer a while back and I think it might also apply to fandom.

He was upset because his partner did not read much of his fiction. His partner was supportive of his writing in every other way--supporting his need to have space to write, asking questions about it, being a listening ear during brainstorming, encouraging him to make friends with other writers, etc. He (the partner) had never said anything belittling, discouraging, or negative about my colleague's writing.

But he didn't read much of it. The writer I was talking to wrote sci-fi, and his partner didn't read sci-fi. In fact, he (the partner) was not a big reader of fiction at all.

I told this colleague of mine something that I had decided about my own relationships: my friends, lovers, acquaintances, relatives, etc., have no obligation to be my fans. I met almost all of them outside of the context of writing. Our relationships are built on those things: common history, common non-writing interests, common social circles, common humanity. They didn't decide they liked me or wanted to hang out with me because of what I wrote. And I didn't decide to hang out with them because I thought they would read my stuff.

So, expecting people who I know from other contexts to be interested in my stories is kind of unfair. Yes, I should expect them to be supportive. No, I shouldn't expect them to change their personalities and start liking long, drawn out romances about gay Mormons (or whatever it is I may happen to be writing at the time).

If the non-writing people in my life also happen to be interested in my writing, awesome! If not, that's okay too!

And actually, this even applies to the writing people in my life. Most of the writers I know, I met not through reading their work, but through writers groups etc where we talk about the process of writing. I hit it off with people who face similar issues as I do, or because our personalities just happen to mesh. Sometimes, it turns out that I also like reading their stories. Sometimes, it doesn't. That doesn't mean I don't like them or I think that they are bad writers or that we can't learn anything from each other. It just means the story is for someone else.

This relates to fandom in multiple ways. Someone might like me as a person, but not be interested in most of the stuff i post on Tumblr. They might like talking with me about our shared fandom, but not follow me into my next fandom. They might like my blog, but not be interested in reading my fanfic, for whatever reason--they don't like reading fanfic, what I write doesn't jibe with them, what I write is triggering, they have many competing obligations and can't read every single fic that ever gets posted in the fandom, etc. They might love one of my fanfics, but not the others. They might enjoy my fanfics, but blacklist my personal posts or my political posts. They might enjoy conversing with me in the DMs, but not follow me at all.

And that's okay. That's normal. We are all different, and no one person is going to connect with me on every single level. In and out of fandom, I try to keep the attitude that the relationships I have are significant for what they offer, not for what they lack. If I feel like a certain need of mine is not being met, I can look to make additional friends, to expand into additional communities.

That isn't always easy. But it is much easier than trying to force the friends I already have to fulfill a need that they just can't fulfill.

And, by looking at the ways my friends support me, instead of focusing on the ways I wish they would support me, I appreciate the friends I do have more.

And I'm happier.

I'm not, like, a constant joy factory. But I'm definitely happier than I would be without this outlook.

#fandom #writlr #writing #fanfic #friendship #adulting #long post #don't go to the hardware store for bread #life advice

[amethystina]

Hi hi <3

I've been rewatching TDJ and rereading the fic (yes I'm on a marathon) and I was seriously wondering how I would feel about the The Trial Live Show (I think that's the name?? I forgot) if I was inside the drama universe. And I admit that despite wanting to believe that I would have a critical opinion about this whole situation, honestly with all the injustice in the world I would probably just be relieved that someone had a effective attitude and influence on everything that was happening.

What would it be your opinion if this all happened irl?

P.S (not related but I saw your other post about how some people have been pressuring – intentionally or not – for you to release the new chapter and complaining that is taking long. I just want to say that your only obligation is to take care of yourself and do what you want to do in your own time and limit. You've already given to us, readers, everything that you can and we appreciate all the effort and love that is put into your works. Thank you very very much.)

Hi! Now that's an interesting question! And it depends a lot on the context, I'd say.

Like, my view on the Live Court Show as the person I am right now is probably very different from how I'd view it if I'd actually grown up in that world. And the difference is a little too big for me to be able to account for all the nuances — and not only because I assume I'd have to change nationality, first of all? xD Which is a pretty big thing since the culture one grows up in can colour one's understanding of the world to a very big extent. My values and experiences would most likely be pretty different.

So while the me right now, in this world, can say that I would be VERY critical of the Live Court Show, I'm not sure I'd feel the same if I was actually IN that world. Me now am concerned not only about the popularity contest aspect that Lawyer Ko pointed out — which would only grow worse and worse the longer the show kept going. Like, people would form a bond with the people they saw the most — i.e. the judges — and not the people involved in the actual trials, who are literal strangers and not as interesting. Aside from the beauty and charm factor that Jin Joo mentions, most people would just end up siding with the familiar players they've formed a relationship with, regardless of the facts presented. If the judges were leaning in one direction, the majority of the public probably would as well.

I mean, just look at Judge Judy. Most people watch it for Judge Judy, not the people who come to her courtroom. They're side characters in her show, even if it's their lives that are being judged (literally).

And, adding to that, the general public aren't experts at law and don't really understand what a lot of the terms mean — or the repercussions of their choices. Their judgement is based almost solely on emotion. And there's a reason why jury members are sometimes excluded because they're seen as too partial, coloured by what the media have been saying or their own beliefs. It wouldn't be a fair and neutral trial. But here you have an entire population who have no such restrictions, nor do they have the time to fully study each piece of evidence or understand what is actually being said. They're asked to make a decision based solely on a couple of colourful PowerPoint presentations — within a couple of minutes, no less.

Like, I'm a librarian, yeah? (though I don't work at a library right now) And trust me when I say that the last thing we'd want is for the patrons to start putting the books back on the shelves on their own. They mean well, but sometimes there's stuff you have to do with the books before they can be reshelved, not to mention that most patrons don't actually understand the classification system. That's the librarian's job. So if the patrons were the ones to put the books back, a lot of them would end up in the wrong place and it'd be a complete mess within a couple of weeks. No one would find anything. And the librarians would now have to spend a significant amount of time reorganising and moving misplaced books, which is just terribly inefficient. Having patrons involved in the process actually makes it harder than if we'd just done it ourselves from the beginning.

And there's a danger of something similar happening with a court where the entire population can be on the jury. What if they make a mistake? Because they misjudged the situation? Or they couldn't be given all the evidence during the show's runtime? Also, while the drama never mentioned it, appeals are a thing. Do you really think that Ju Il Do didn't hire someone to start on his appeal as soon as he calmed down from the shock of the verdict in that first episode? Would the Live Court Show handle appeals, too? Or would that be dumped into the laps of other courts? And just how much weight would the people's judgement have in comparison to a regular court, which spends a lot more time scrutinising the evidence?

(I might be thinking too much about this, I know xD)

BUT, at the same time, it's easy for me — the person I am right now — to say that, because I'm privileged as fuck. I grew up poor, sure, (and perhaps have more accumulated trauma than average) but I'm comfortably middle class now. Adding to that, I'm white, living in Sweden, and am pretty comfortable with the gender I was assigned at birth. The worst forms of oppression I've faced are misogyny, some casual fatphobia, and the fear of homophobia (with me being married to another woman and all). But do note that I say "fear of homophobia," not actual homophobia. So, really, I'm not in a position to judge, ESPECIALLY not the ones living in the world they portray in The Devil Judge.

In fact, that's something I kept telling my wife as I explained the drama to her. My morals right now are not applicable to a world like that. I think the Live Court Show has a lot of flaws and Yo Han's actions shouldn't be condoned (cool motive — still murder) but if I had gone through the economic crisis they were experiencing? And the oppression they face every day? And probably wouldn't have been able to marry my wife since it seems to be a pretty conservative society?

I can't promise I wouldn't have been queueing up to join Yo Han xD

I DO think I'd still be hesitant to fully support the Live Court Show, though, and see the flaws I mentioned above (plus all the others I don't have time to get into right now) BUT my feeling of helplessness might just overpower that, had I grown up like Jin Joo or Ga On. That's not to say that I'd necessarily think it was okay (especially the outright illegal parts), but I could maybe look the other way, just because I was so frustrated.

So it's difficult to say for sure, but I'm fairly confident my stance would be different if I had grown up in a world like that. Right now, I have so much privilege that it's easy for me to take the high road and promote the morally upright solution, but if I had suffered through what they have? Not sure I would be as forgiving. And I think that's natural. There's only so much injustice we humans can endure before we start gathering up the pitchforks.

That said, I think it's still important to be aware of what is morally right and wrong. We might not always be able to follow what we know is the right path — that's human, especially when we are oppressed — just don't forget your way back.

So yeah. I hope that's a somewhat satisfying reply xD

And thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I know all that on an intellectual level, but it's not always easy to remember. Especially when I would genuinely love to be able to post more often and it frustrates me that I can't. I'm just as bummed out as you readers, believe me on that.

But, on that subject, I'm actually looking into decreasing my hours at work, at least temporarily, to hopefully make me less exhausted (which is another way I'm incredibly privileged — I can actually ASK for something like that (though I need a doctor's approval first)). So, maybe, I'll get some room to breathe and rest soon. Fingers crossed!

#Amethystina Replies #Anonymous #The Devil Judge #It's a very interesting discussion #And I think it's very nuanced #I honestly can't blame the people who want to fight back #Also #This reply almost derailed into a rant about The Killing Vote #But I realised that a) it wouldn't be entirely relevant #b) this reply would end up being at least twice as long if I did #and c) I'd be SO angry before I finished xD #I was rooting for you The Killing Vote #We were all rooting for you #But you fucked it up didn't you? #... I am also in a terrible mood in general #Today was shit

[pumpkinspice-prouvaire]

i only just got into les mis but the fandom is so intimidating skjdgj qwq any tips

hi!!!! welcome to the fandom!!! Don't be intimidated I promise we're all really nice!!!

I think my top tip would be if you're consuming content by creators in the fandom, interact with it, whether that's through comments on ao3 or reblogging art on tumblr and leaving lots of screaming in the tags or anything else. As a fic writer I remember the names of my regular commenters, and when I see them on my dash my immediate reaction is :D friend! :D And if you're a content creator yourself, post your stuff and tag it! I can't speak for artists and other content creators, but in terms of fics kudos and comments can sometimes be slow to come (especially if you're not writing ExR) but the right people will find it and love it!

Also from personal experience I've found those reblog ask games really effective for making friends, if you reblog and send the person you reblogged from an ask, a lot of the time they'll send one back. Yay, communication!!!

The fandom is sort of split into canon content and modern au/fanon content. Everyone has a preference, and you'll find that group of blogs you enjoy the most soon, but if you are chill, you can enjoy both. This goes without saying, and I hope I'm not being condescending, but if you disagree with an opinion/post/ship/person, you are under no obligation to interact with it. Block the tag and or blog and move on, PLEASE be chill.

You've also joined at a good time, because we're part way through Les Mis Letters! We're a good bit through Volume II by now, but if you've read the book previously orrrr can just Sparknotes Volume I (or be completely unhinged and do a mega catchup over the next few days- let me know if you achieve this and I'll make you a cake), you can totally join and post commentary/meta/jokes anything else! The blog is @lesmisletters , I believe there's also a Discord server

One that note, there's plenty of Discord servers if that's your thing! I can name a couple off the top of my head (Hoes for Enjolras, Lame Mis, Discorinthe) but don't have links, I know there's a post out there somewhere I will try to find it when I have time!

You've also joined at a good time because there's plenty of fandom events coming up soon! It's too late to sign up, but the ExR Big Bang is in a few weeks, Barricade Day aka the biggest Les Mis event of the year is 5th-6th June, Drink with Me aka the platonic Les Mis exchange normally happens in August time (Although I'm not positive if it's happening this year yet), and I believe Logic and Philosophy week aka Enjolras and Combeferre week is in September time? There's probably more that I'm missing out but those are the one I know are happening soon!

I think all that's left now are some blog recs 😌😌😌

@/pilferingapples @/alicedrawslesmis @/thecandlesticksfromles mis @/shitpostingfromthebarricade @/hfullofblagden @permit-it @/unicorngunter @/weisbrot @/thelawsofdaylight @/butts-of-the-barricade @/fuckyeahlesmiserables @/guide-ferre @/secretmellowblog @/barricade-blondes @/aromantic-enjolras @/p-trichor @/wild-oats-and-cornflowers @/everyonewasabird @/juliensorelisoverparty @/see-you-on-the-barricade @/probably-enjolras @/jesuisserieux @/cx-shhh @/ueinra @/kjack89 @/shamedumpster @/dolphin1812

I'm definitely missing some great blogs there but at least you have a starting point lmao I hope you enjoy!!!

#answered #long post

[aprofessionalwithoutstandards]

hey. sorry to do this but i have to second what the other anon said re: your reply to the first(?) guy. you're dead right that you don't owe people complete agreement and that your blog is not their confession box. at the same time i think it's a pretty bad faith reading to interpret that ask as anon saying that trans men bottoming is gross. as far as i can see what they said is that lack of rep makes them FEEL gross. i say this with love in my heart as someone who has often fallen prey to it myself but i think you may need to check that your approach-everything-as-discourse switch is not switched on. responding to someone being vulnerable about their sexuality by nitpicking the possible political implications of their wording is not really necessary and a bit mean. anyway love you i hope you have a good day/night and enjoy your team fortress pornography

Looking back at it, I do think I was a bit harsher to that person than I should have been, especially since I have a lot of very similar feelings myself. I want you all to realize that whatever interpretation this has of my words is definitely not what I meant in any way. However, I am also under no obligation for every post I make to be perfect, and I am ESPECIALLY not well-equipped to perfectly answer something THAT personal which I was not prepared for and did not ask to receive. I think referring to what I said as me "approaching everything as discourse" is disingenuous. I don't think looking in on your feelings and asking yourself why you might have such a strong gut reaction to other trans people's expression is "discourse". I'm not saying that no one's allowed to feel that way (if you knew literally anything about me outside of this stupid comedy videogame blog, you would know I have a LOT of the same feelings myself), but I am asking people to think about how they express those feelings and try to not word them in a way that TO ME, IN THE MOMENT, sounded like it was somehow other trans people's fault or something. I'm a vers and allowing myself to feel good again about bottoming, which is actually very stigmatized for trans guys and "mascs" in general in a lot of spaces, is something that took a lot of work. Despite my best efforts, I too will have strong gut reactions to anything that posits either topping OR bottoming as like The Good Proper Trans Guy Thing To Do. If I had gotten an ask complaining about transmasc tops in the same way, I would have probably given the same response. I have feelings about this stuff too, and I don't really want these feelings to be a topic of Great Debate. Literally nowhere in my response did I tell that anon that they weren't allowed to feel the way they did, just to think about ways to word their response that doesn't accidentally put the blame on other trans people with different relationships to their bodies, which is something I am working on myself! I was too harsh and I do apologize to them, but I don't retract any of the actual content of what I said. I think if anything the issue should be viewed as "not enough transmasc top posts" and not "too many transmasc bottom posts". Everyone deserves to be "represented" and make content about what they like. I really DO hope that we get an increase in "representation" for transmasc tops, we ARE underrepresented and I talk about that on my nsfw sideblog literally all the time, I just don't think that should be done at the expense of posts about trans guy bottoms, which I understand now was probably not that anon's intention at all, but it's how I read it at the time. I am a human being and I will make mistakes sometimes. I am going to ask to please stop overanalyzing my feelings AND that random anon's feelings now. I really do not want this to be the next "discourse" or whatever on this blog

#ask #anon #mick dicks

[bokatan]

OC Shipping: Reed

So you're considering playing around with my dumbass sole survivor? Here's some general info + ground rules to get started, and if you're looking to use him in a romantic or sexual context please shoot me a message beforehand so we can discuss dynamics, vibes, etc etc. He's a great chew toy and I love when people put him in situations.

Guidelines

-for starters, if it wasn’t clear enough already: NO MINORS. I’m sorry but you’re under 18 I do not want you following me and I’m not interested in interacting with you. You can come back when you’re 18, but until then- nope, bye, nothing personal but I simply post too much nsfw & questionable content to be comfortable with minors interacting. -I’m doing this during my free time and for fun, which means I’m going to take my sweet time putting out content. If this is a problem for you, please don’t suggest any OC ships. If you’re that pressed about it you’re more than welcome to commission me for art, but again: doing this in my free time for fun, so there’s not going to be a fast turnaround. -Platonic ships are cool! It doesn’t have to be anything serious- they can hang out and get into shenanigans, they can just hook up, hell I’m even down for letting them fight to the death if it sounds like a good time. -I’m not obligated to agree with every ship request, fill every ask prompt, etc etc. If I don’t think it vibes well or it’s a dynamic that I’m not comfortable getting into, I’ll let you know. Sometimes I just don’t vibe with a prompt or I can’t work out where I want to go with it- it happens, it’s not a big deal, I send them with no pressure for a response and I expect to get the same. You’re more than welcome to throw prompt ideas at me or try to give me brain worms, but if I straight up say I’m not vibing with something and you continue to push it then we’re going to have an issue.

Now on to the SFW stuff.

-Reed’s a 28 year old bisexual & polyromantic trans man. He’s open to poly relationships & queerplatonic relationships. -He has a pretty bad fear of commitment and just expects others to leave at some point, so he can and will withdraw and leave for a bit if he feels like they’re getting too serious. The majority of his relationships are very on again/off again or have some sort of toxic element or unhealthy dynamic involved. -Strong preference for casual hookups, quick flings, friends with benefits, etc; he’s never looking for anything serious regardless of how attached he gets. -He can be pretty flirty and suggestive at times, but gives it better than he takes it- it's pretty easy to make him blush. -He does have ADHD and C-PTSD which can cause some issues with relationships. He’s not the type of person that can handle being stuck in one place for a while or having a lot of downtime. -He is actively ghoulifying and isn't coping very well with it- he doesn't like people touching the scarred areas across his shoulders and back, and he prefers to not acknowledge it at all. -He’s pretty friendly and social with most people, but he does tend to use a lot of dry humor and sarcasm; he's a bit of an ass sometimes so please be aware of this if your character doesn't vibe with that type of humor. -Very casually affectionate and loves when people tolerate it. Basically acts like a cat, if he's sitting near someone they're probably going to be touching in some manner. -He’s very magpie-coded and will regularly find little gifts and trinkets to give to people he likes. He’s more perceptive than he seems and he’s pretty good at picking up on what other people like. -Loves dogs, always has at least one dog with him, and he’s generally good with most animals.

And on to the NSFW things, under the cut:

-Service switch with an oral fixation; he tends to be a bit submissive and he’s very enthusiastic with his mouth. Very eager to please and typically very obedient, but he can get a bit bratty with some partners. -Fine with gendered terms for genitals, not fine with being objectified or fetishized. He has a bit of a preference for GNC & trans people but it’s not a hard preference by any means, he’s just not interested in dealing with people that are going to be weird about his body. -Loves toys, especially loves straps but rarely gets to use them due to his impulsive nature and lack of planning. -Pretty flexible with kinks & open to new things but his hard limits are bodily fluids & age play; he’s not likely to get into more extreme kinks unless there’s a solid relationship and a lot of trust built up beforehand. -Loves being marked and scratched, loves having his hair pulled, and loves being pinned down. He’d never admit to it but he has a huge praise kink. Really into exhibitionism and risky situations, he can get really into it after life threatening situations or after fights/sparring. He has a light degradation & humiliation kink that pairs really well with his praise kink, and a bit of a size kink. He’s game for things like knife/gun play, blood play, medical play, dressing up, etc- pretty much anything that he can be praised for doing, with the right partner. -He gets really into giving body worship and just really loves focusing on his partners like that. He’s not as big of a fan when on the receiving end but it’s a very easy way to overwhelm him, especially if there’s a lot of praise involved. -He’s pretty concerned about aftercare for his partners, but doesn’t push for it for himself regardless of if he needs it or not. Will basically melt if his partner offers it though.

#reed info #reed tag #nsft ish #don't mind me just ocposting again so there's easily accessible info on here

[solarsavoy]

Sorry if this is a lot but 🏅👮😈👨‍👧‍👧✨

It's never too much! I'm happy to answer all the asks!!

🏅 What is something you recently felt proud of in regard to your writing (finished a fic, actually planned for once, etc).

I haven't been too happy with my fics lately tbh, however, I was really proud of finishing Karmagisa week back in July. I was really worried I wouldn't, considering my recent streak of updating irregularly. (Guess I'm just like every other fic write now. 😅 I just miss being able to keep up with posting regularly, because then I got regular comments which are like my lifeblood.) But yeah, so, Karmagisa week.

👩‍🏭 If one of your fics was going to get you arrested, which one and why?

I still don't think any of my other fics will have anything on Students of Despair. However, if I do it right, Pandora's might be worse in that respect. The reason is the same for both: I'm going to be googling a lot of dead body stuff and possibly adding in methods of killing. Yeah, that's probably gonna get me arrested. 😅 So if I do, somebody please point out this post to the police so they can see that this was in fact the intended purpose and I wasn't googling that stuff because I wanted to do anything.

😈 Is there anything you enjoy doing that you think your readers hate?

Strangely no? I did initially wonder if my readers would hate that I don't feel the need to make every ending happy, but I actually think that makes readers more interested, not less. (Looking at you, tuuli. XD)

There is one thing though. I love writing whatever ship the story may call for for the sake of the story. I won't change it just because some people don't like a certain ship. This makes me sad because I'm not intentionally trying to ever hurt someone for writing about a ship that I love and/or appreciate (because strangely not all ships I include are ships I personally ship, like NagiKae, but I do appreciate them) but as a writer, I feel it's my obligation to follow the story. I don't always know where my ideas come from, but it sometimes feels like if I'm not following the story, I'm disrespecting the thing that gave me the idea in the first place. Maybe that's weird, but I also attribute my inspiration to write at all to the same thing that gives me ideas. If I try to write a specific idea just because I want it, it's very hard to write without the backing of my muse. (It's hard to write at all lately, but that's a separate issue.) Anyway, that's less of speculation and more of a fact, but I do wonder if it hits more readers than I'm aware of. I know not every person is going to like every ship, but I still feel bad.

👨‍👧‍👧 Do you tell people in real life that you write fic? 

Oh, all the time.

In fact, there's a round of questions I ask literally every new person at one of my jobs. 1. How old do I look? (because they often guess I'm around 20-25 when they're actually a decade off and it makes me feel young XD) 2. You like books and reading or anime and manga? And then their answer to 2 will direct how the next part goes, which is either "I wrote a book and it's an isekai!" where I then blabber about my book for 30 minutes, or "oh, which anime? Have you seen Assassination Classroom? Great, cause I write fanfiction for that!" and then I proceed to blabber about that for 30 minutes. I do this because otherwise I never bring it up and there've been a couple people that were disappointed they didn't know I wrote/drew sooner, so I've just decided on this introduction of "yes, I draw, I write, I'm awesome, please check out my stuff" and then I proceed to never bring it up again because I haven't practiced my social interactions beyond that first one. (Did I mention I'm socially awkward despite being very chatty? Well, at least I got it out. I'm very bad at marketing otherwise.)

It always touches me when they ask how my art/stories are going later and it makes me not regret my word vomiting introduction as much, so I keep doing it. It helps because otherwise I feel way too into myself, introducing myself like that, like I'm a salesperson selling my stuff, which I am essentially doing. I know this, but no one will know about my stuff if I don't talk about it so, this is how I do.

✨ Choose three adjectives to complement your own writing.

Deep, intuitive (as in with the characters), and smooth (usually because of flow and/or how smoothly I tend to do AUs or mix ideas in crossovers).

Thank you for the ask! Love you Hailey!!

#solarsavoyasks #hailey is awesome

[snaillamp]

Im so hyped to release the final three days of JOD almost a whole month late sorry lmao life happened but they are bangers. I thought I’d go full on for the last three days as a final send off the the fantastic challenge.

✨Also✨ interest was expressed for an extended version of day 13 so im gonna write that after I’ve finished JOD. This goes for anything, if you like a story/character/setting/storyline and want more of them, whether it be as a series or as a ‘hey i like this but i wish it was longer’ lmk cause I am more than happy to oblige :D

~Other news~

I’ve decided I’m definitely bringing back Enjar as an OC and he is getting his own series! A couple also expressed interest in Cameron as well, so if you’d like a Cam series too express interest here! Something about guys living mostly alone in the wilderness is so fun to write and apparently to read too! Probably comes from my own upbringing of living in isolated places.

I don’t have many classes this semester so I won’t make a schedule but at this point in time expect my shit to get posted on weekends and maybe even Thursdays and Fridays as a treat sometimes so come swing by for any updates.

~Other than that~

JOD brought so many new people to this blog and now i have people reading my stuff and actually really liking it! So uh, hi and welcome!

I have written countless stories as a kid and now having people read my stuff and enjoy it makes me so fucking happy! I’ve always wanted to be a published author and shit like this makes it feel a little more real and achievable. I love waking up to the notifs of people liking, reblogging especially the like like like follow like like like like pattern I keep seeing Ive even caught it happening live a couple times.

You guys are my motivation to post stuff some days and it’s so fulfilling knowing that it’s not just my close friends reading this stuff. I genuinely thank each and every one of you who’ve taken the time to read my sometimes incredibly long stories. I promise after JOD I’ll break them up into parts again, it’s just easier for me to organise/post challenge work in one long post. Also I’ll put continue reading breakers into them when I finish the challenge I forgot those are a thing ahahah im so sorry for making you all scroll

Anyway. You all rock, keep reading, writing and vibing my whumpy friends!

~ Snail <3

#not whump #snaillamp #original post #ily guys #I get so excited knowing people are actually reading my stuff and enjoying it thank you all so much again #also any suggestions for the enjar series name? im thinking tales of enjar or something but that sounds kinda weird #suggestions appreciated

[weebsinstash]

Hi I love your work!!! You're super talented! I was wondering do you have any advice for someone who's considering starting a writing/dark content blog? Especially someone who's very new to this whole writing thing and um super self-conscious 😅 how do you break through the insecurity and negative self-talk to post something? Do I just make a blog and start writing or are there other tricks of the trade I need to know to put my work out there? Any advice is super appreciated 😊

I think one thing I did before I took the plunge and started my own writing blog was, well I was already writing fanfiction for myself and in my free time, and what I would do was send in prompts and ideas to writing blogs and stuff like that? And when it seemed like people likes those ideas, I eventually thought "why not just post them outright and start creating a following/little area for myself?"

One thing you have to tell yourself with dark content is, the most important thing is that you tag your stuff. People will always have their ethical and moral inclinations and you can't force other people to do or think whatever but it IS in your power to just say "hey make sure to read the tags, if there's something here that upsets you, stay away" although if you want me to be blunt there are still plenty of people who deliberately interact with media that upsets rhem and will blame you for creating it, rather than accept that they chose to read it, and that's something you kind of have to get a thick skin over. For example with me writing noncon the biggest objection is that it's immoral or whatever, but a lot of people consuming this content either have that fetish or are even survivors themselves. People have their preferences and kinks and fetishes and my opinion is as long as you are not literally harming someone without their consent, you're basically fine.

Like for real, that's why ao3 and most sites have content warnings. Even watching body cam footage on YouTube will often you a "this is graphic, do you wish to proceed?". Every single person who uses the internet needs to be responsible for their own safety and as long as you at least tag your stuff it gives them that option. It is generally not a good idea to not tag things and try and blindside people, although on ao3 the "author chose not to use warnings" is actually an umbrella meaning "go in at your own risk" because some tags can be spoilers and such idk, at least that's the reasoning I used for not tagging Doubt on ao3.

Kind of one aspect of breaking through the insecurity is, posting content in of itself? Because when you start receiving feedback and support, that's encouragement to keep going! Although be careful not to fall into the trap where you feel obligated to please people and give them what THEY want over what YOU want, since you're the one taking time to create content for free and that's your work, your time, your mental energy. Seriously there were a lot of times I considered dropping The Storm before I eventually decided, no, this is something I do want to finish for myself

I guess the last thing I would say is, things are just naturally hits and misses, or it's posted at a time where not a lot of people see it, or sometimes it's just that like, you didn't have a huge following and when you go back to something later, people like it just as much as your newer stuff? And there's also whatever personal growth you'll be making as an author, whatever improvements and new skills or different t writing styles you adapt

And I guess the final and objectively most important form of advice is to never give too much personally identifying information about yourself, just for internet safety and also because dark content can contain topics people get EXTREMELY heated over. Your name and age maybe, but try not to give much more. Never hook anything to anything personal like Facebook or reveal your full name or things like that, never connect anything to things your family may see. Like not that im blaming her by any means but the first thing that comes to mind is when kazooli gave out her Instagram I think it was and a bunch of freaks started harassing her little sister. Like. People are in fact malicious enough that they'll say "ugh you're such a freak, im gonna find your family and tell them everything you've done" which is, child mentality but whatever

All in all, don't be discouraged if you don't have immediate success, and don't quit if you have any pushback although you are entitled to take mental health breaks and deep back when things are bugging you. Hell, I've been staying in my own lane this whole time and I still have the occasional "controversy". Sometimes you just gotta say "hah, internet", shrug your shoulders, and go back to your life :) good luck and hope you have fun! That's the most important thing.

Oh also I dunno if you'd consider this a trick but in my fics and on my ao3 I also sometimes include "hey you can also find me on my tumblr at xyz" or having your writing tumblr say in your bio what your ao3 is. But also try and keep a separate blog for your writing maybe as it can just be easier and more simple especially for any friends you have that might not always be comfortable. And in reverse, if I reblogged a bunch of non-writing related stuff here, it would be harder to find my works and more annoying for people looking for that stuff specifically

Anyways I think that's the gist of the advice I have to give :) you do you, and make sure to have fun!

[blnk338]

Blnk, do u have any advice for young/starting writers?

for specifically reader inserts, try to go as vague as you can, or include EVERYTHING. what i try to do is include things like knowing multiple languages in RWYS-- which actually ends up perfectly for Reaper because she likes to know as many languages as she can-- or have the option of knowing them (with the exception of a few for plot stuff!)

similarly to that, i also try to include things like varying hair lengths, non-descript skintones, and including things like durags/bonnets into the story so its not like "here's my blond-haired blue-eyed white girl whos skinny and sexy with a GIANT ass and GIANT boobs"-- while some things are based around the story-- like some muscles and stuff, i try not to give a specific body type to my inserts. but being fat, being skinny-- neither of those mean you aren't strong (PLEASE!!! go look at the top athletes of the world!! the weight-lifting category is filled with fat people!!)

i know it feels like rambling, but its crucial to remember that its not only people that look like you who wanna read this story, its all kinds of people. its good to be open, anyway, you know?

when it comes to writing in general, i recommend using the tools that are available and work with yourself. my basic writing process goes as such:

bullet point everything in whatever app you use-- i also have a bunch of reminders of ideas, so i go through my phone and put them into the bullets as well

write everything in word

go over and add details

edit a first time

input the words into AO3's editor and go over it a second time, this time, however, with the Grammarly add-on

i suppose one thing that i learned is that generally, you aren't going to get hate and you don't need to be afraid of it. saying this here and now, I've so far gotten 0 hate messages or anything (knock on wood LMAO) of the sorts. with that, criticism is important to take, but people who send messages or asks like that don't mean it in a poor light. if they wanted to be mean, they'd be mean. of course text doesn't show tone quite well (and if I've ever come off as rude, I'm terribly sorry for that)

i guess what i'm trying to say is that i was afraid too for a long time to be fully into my own story for a moment. i was afraid people would complain that rigo was trans, or i was afraid people wouldn't like that i made reaper bisexual, and i was frankly very afraid that people would send me terrible messages about my story, but i haven't gotten anything like that. this isn't twitter where people are sent threats for posting what they want, and you don't need to be nervous.

with all of that being said, writing should be fun for you. if at any point you lose interest in what you're writing, but you feel obligated to keep going because you posted it: don't be nervous, and don't force yourself. things happen and sometimes stories drop, and that's okay! life moves on! and hey, maybe it's not done forever. maybe you get burnt out and you gotta slow down or take a hiatus-- don't worry!! whether you come back to that or not, there will still be people out there who want to read what you post

plus it's fun to see how far you've grown as a writer. i can say that even from the start of RWYS, I've improved significantly! and while i edit the old chapters to make them more legible, i have the original copies of the chapters on my computer still!

have fun, love your work, and love yourself :)

#asks #rwys asks

[sleepyowlwrites]

writeblr stuff I made up/participate in

kinda for my own personal reference, but for you, too.

stuff I made up!

any lines tag - post any lines from your wip that you like regardless of context just because you can, because you want to

into touch thursday - posting fluffy/affectionate/cuddly content OR being affectionate with other people in the community because we aren't just mutuals, we're friends

writeblr clubs - literally just any kind of club you can think of. the OC protection squad gang (protecting each others' ocs one HEY! at a time), searching circle (find the word obsessives club), alliteration agency (find the word alliteration club), theo club (you have a character named theo), no plot only cuddles (kinda self-explanatory), bird friends (you have a bird in your url) etc. I made up a bunch but you can make up a bunch too!

my heaps and heaps of ask games which you can find HERE

shared traits tag - wherein you talk about which traits/habits/values you share with each of your characters

wip intro format - originally conceptualized as a tag, now just available for you to use and I'm not kidding when I say that you can tag me when you use it (less for credit and more for you to have another person to look at it)

ten minute edits - which inevitably end up being longer than ten minutes because I get carried away but you send me your wip title and three colors and I make a "quick" edit for you. people have really loved what I've made so my very amateur skills must be pleasing, I guess. you can ask for one any time, not just when I'm like "I'm in the mood"

writing prompts! lists which you can find HERE - I don't know how to stop making them, so I guess I won't. stop.

oh, I have a discord server. I've been exceptionally quiet and will continue to be until I get off semi-hiatus, but I love having unhinged conversations about writing related or unrelated topics at all hours of the day/night. so dm me for an invite or if you just want to be friends on there.

writeblr stuff I participate in! theoretically

tag games of all sorts! writing related or get to know me or picrew or moodboard stuff

ask games of all sorts! I like Fluffy Fridays and Storyteller Saturdays the best of the themed days but I rarely do them because legit I forget or I'm busy with work. but if you send me an ask on any day I am contractually obligated to send one back to you.

(camp) nano, usually. even if I'm doing a cheater's version, I like to do it and post my spoils or casualties for the world to see and laugh at. this past april was great. I got Dreamy, Ren-rill-ren and Klove to read my depraved ramblings for a whole month.

the community at large. I like meeting new people and including them in tags or sending them asks or whatever.

a sub-genre of that is my habit of giving people nicknames. I sometimes just give them out, sometimes ask, based on our interactions thus far. if you want a nickname, interact with me and one shall not be far behind.

I suck at participating in events, even flash fiction friday, which I love. but if you invite me to something I will absolutely consider it.

I can't think of anything else right now. do you wanna be friends? I am open to that. I have boundaries like anybody else but I very open to friendship, so pop into my askbox at any time or tag me in something so we can get that going.

okay bye.

#sleepy says #sleepy stuff #sleepy does writeblr

[onlyonewoman]

I often listen to reddit stories on youtube after work to wind down and relax - I especially love Mark Narrations! - but oh my dear satan, if I hear another “get divorced!!!” advice over a misunderstanding, a stupidity the person is remorseful of, a partner being attracted to someone else but not doing anything, I swear I will start drooling over medival marital contracts, To all the young people out there, thinking a relationship is black and white and that mistakes are unforgivable, let this old ass woman tell you: - Unless you are a person lacking sexual desires for other people entirely, you WILL feel attracted to at least one person that isn’t part of your relationship through life. That’s just how it is and it doesn’t have to be a big deal. It’s all about “old vs. new” and nothing to throw your relationship away for. It will happen every now and again and the Earth wont stop spinning. - For the love of Loki the trickster: STOP CALLING EVERYTHING YOU DISLIKE TOXIC. Holy Midgard snake, that word just needs to be fucking rationed because the second you use that word, it’s basically declaring a person as someone that is ingrained with something infected that will spread. That’s not how things work and you have to stop thinking the worst of every little thought, word and action from others. As much as we would want people to be logical and their thoughts and wants follow a clear line, that’s NOT HOW HUMANS FUNCTION. I’m autistic and I struggled for years with that shit - still do sometimes - but calling people toxic or abusive or manipulative over simple half-shitty mistakes, poor attitude, lack of knowledge, a bad day etc, isn’t helping anyone. And while I absolutely appreciate and applaud how we are so much better at telling each other we don’t have to put up with a relationship that doesn’t work for us, I also want to tell this: Relationships can suck at times and the world will not fall apart. No one should feel obliged to stay in a relationship they don’t want to be in, but as a person in a longterm relationship of almost 18 years, let me tell you: If you are finished growing, learning and developing you don’t make a good partner - or a good friend. You WILL make mistakes, honest ones, and sometimes you will be petty and selfish, other times you will feel frustrated, unseen, undervalued and unheard - and so will your partner. Unless - unless! - we are talking about abuse or falling out of love or just way too different ideas of what the relationship should be like - the relationship isn’t fucking toxic and it just screams “hey, I’m young and know how it’s supposed to be and still a bit too black and white in my thinking” - which is okay! But while I absolutely think it’s vital for people to talk and engage over the generational gaps about things, I feel like I’m aging with 30 years everytime I hear someone declare with youthful certainty, that you should leave your partner immediately because this or that is toxic and abusive”. Loveys, that’s  not how relationships work and you can’t define a relationship as a whole from an “am I the ahole” post. We are human beings and as gross as it might be: we all have shitty sides and dirty little secrets, unhealthy thoughts, evil impulses and screwed up ideas of relationships. And we wont grow, learn, develop or love if we’re bullied for not being pure and good and wholesome enough. I also hope you will find your parents’ or grandparents’ porn and BDSM toy collections when they pass, along with a life subscription of an old porn magazine and a whole ass basement filled with “toxic” stuff for you to hopefully enjoy instead of burn. We didn’t move through the fucking trenches during the 90′s - and all the way fucking back - for the most individualistic generation ever to lock themselves back in a conformity closet in fear of being toxic. So, how about you enjoy what you enjoy and leave others be? I promise, the relief of letting go of others’ restrictive opinions on what’s acceptable to like, is better than any Earth shattering orgasm. It will also stop you from running to reddit everytime your partner has the audacity to be human. Also, from the now starting to get wrinkles and aching joints generation of the 80′s: you’re annoying as hell and we remember being it too, meaning we both want to sooth and kick the shit out of you. In case you didn’t understand: Yes, you’re the assholes - and so are we. Live with it.

#reddit #relationship advice #stop call everything toxic

[violette-hue]

Hi Vi! Congratulations for reaching 500 followers, keep up the good work! May I join to your matchup game?

𝗟𝗜𝗞𝗘𝗦: Arts, choir, poetry, karaoke, literature, history, makeup, beauty pageants, fun/deep/dumb conversations, expanding my knowledge in Christianity, documentaries (about saints), reading interesting stuffs, talking about social issues, and creative writing, chilling both indoors and outdoors.

𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗟𝗜𝗞𝗘𝗦: Stereotyping, obligation (without a logical reason), getting excluded, being interrupted, invalidating my feelings, judgemental people, telenovelas, hypocrites, dirty bathrooms, blackout, lightning, firecrackers, toads, snakes, cockroaches, toxic masculinity, misogyny, fake woke individuals, colonial mentality, and absurdly girly things

𝗛𝗢𝗕𝗕𝗜𝗘𝗦: Drawing, singing, dancing when nobody's around (I'm very bad at it), sharing nerdy or opinionated thoughts, walking like a model (if I ever feel so confident), sleeping, listening to music (from rock to kpop), chatting or browsing on social media, watching videos on YouTube, making terrible jokes/puns, watching cartoons, writing, reading interesting things, conceptualizing my artworks, and cooking. I also used to study Italian language a bit

𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗡𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗦/𝗦𝗘𝗫𝗨𝗔𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗬: Biromantic Pansexual and Genderfluid; He/They (I'm biologically woman irl) with male preference

𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗢𝗡𝗔𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗬: INFJ, my enneagram is 4w5 and my moral alignment is Neutral Good. I may have a slight introverted tendencies and awkward nature, I describe myself as fiery, swears like a sailor, confident, jokester, and, passionate. Religious, super talkative, sometimes hyper (because of excitement), giggly (I always laugh for stupid reasons), nerdy, actually sweet and nice though I can be aloof, intimidating, and scary when I get so angry. I tend to become really fiesty, stands boldly on what I believe (claiming myself as a realist though some of my views doesn't makes sense), and unbothered to be true to myself, clumsy, stubborn, hopeless romantic, young-at-heart, unfortunate and inattentive. I have "no bs" towards the people that I hate, sarcasam and savagery is my main language. But on the other side, I overthink a lot and cry over small things many times, small mistakes leads me to provoke me even more that sounds like a drama queen, yet recognizes a soft spot for dumb jokes, cheesy pickup lines and prefer people with a good sense of humour who see myself as equal. Chill in academics, but very competitive that manages to the top even for my dreams---I'm very dedicated on what I want for my life, and I display modesty and gracefulness towards some people that deserves respect. One notable feature about her is her multi-potentiality due to being naturally gifted in artistic fields (this includes singing).

𝗙𝗔𝗡𝗗𝗢𝗠: Game of Thrones

Want a Match? Here’s the post!💕

I match you with Robb! He would treat you so so sweet! As his partner, he would shower you with so much love. There would be no such thing as you supporting the Lord of Winterfell from the sidelines. He sees you as his equal, and treats you as such. He respects your morals and religion, and will even try to partake in it, should you wish. He’s honestly do anything to make you happy. He quite enjoys that your clumsy, since it gives him an excuse to stay close with a hand on the small of your back. Like you, Robb is also a hopeless romantic, and with him, your cup will never empty. If you happen to cry, he’s there to wipe your tears and comfort you. Honestly, how lucky you are!

#thank you! #i hope you enjoy! #fandom match ups #matchups #match up #game of thrones #got #game of thrones matchups #robb stark #robb stark matchup #robb stark x you #robb stark x reader #violette hue #violette-hue

[willel]

Hello! So I know you aren’t a big fan of the kids ships but since it’s gonna be pretty much canon that both El and Will have feelings for Mike, what do you make of their respective relationships with him?

Hmmm.... I really don't know. :/ I guess I will ramble my thoughts in this very post and see what my heart says. I'll try not to complain, I promise.

To start off with, I watched season 1 and season 2 together innnn... 2017? Whenever season 2 came out. I hadn't heard of Stranger Things until then and then my mom and I decided to binge it together. Needless to say were were pretty surprised. I wanted to give this context because I was not in the fandom from the getgo, I was about a year and a half late.

By the time I got here, I feel like most people were already in their corners, but there didn't seem to be as much conflict back then as there is now. But that could just be me being oblivious. I don't read analysis on ships so if people have analyzed stuff about them, I wouldn't know. The ships are the last thing I think about when ranting about theories.

I'd also just like to get out of the way, I didn't really care for most of the kid ships until recently because well, they're kids. Their first loves, first relationships. They're bound to make mistakes and screw up. We've all been awkward teens so I have the upmost sympathy for all of them. I think it's immature to come down too harshly on any of them for silly reasons like this.

This season, Lumax has brought on the maturity I've been looking forward to and they are precious. So if there's a "kid ship" I ship now, it's them.

So onto the ships I suppose

Mike and El

They were obviously leading into this for season 1 at least so I wasn't surprised. I kinda didn't like that Mike just.. .kissed her you know. She didn't even know what a boyfriend or anything was. But again, he's just a kid himself so eh. Overall, it was sweet.

Um... I suppose I really really feel it from El's side especially. Mike was the first person in the scary outside world to be kind to her, gave her a safe place and everything. And in her own way, she felt obligated to repay his kindness and keep him safe from the "badmen" (refusing to let them tell his parents or they might get shot). She adores him and what he's done for her.

A part of me feels like it was initially too formulaic. The "fish out of water falls in love with the first man she sees" trope but I also feel like it's not that bad since it's not like Mike is a bad person or anything. He's legitimately a good guy so she lucked out on that one. If she didn't like him, she was fully capable of running again, especially back in season 1 (which she did for a split second)

She's also come in contact with many different boys and girls at this point so I'm sure it's not a matter of lack of options either, probably. She really likes Mike. So there's that.

Mike, lately... seems weirdly obsessed. It could be his fear of losing her, pretty sure he said that before, but he's gotta learn to rein it in. And it's a weird kind of obsessed to. Like obsessed enough to drop everything and everyone else to be with her and only her, but also not obsessed enough to tell her everything or that you love her? Teenagers make no sense.

But hey, I'm a lady who has never been in love or attracted to anyone so maybe this is just normal behavior for teenage boys sometimes, especially ones that are traumatized from a young age like he is.

Maybe there's a bit too much co-dependency that they'll have to work through if they ever hope to move past this hump they keep finding themselves in if that's even possible. Maybe they are too different or want different things? I dunno.

Mike and Will

Much like with Mike and El, I've also thought Mike and Will are sweet. Mike can be a very caring and honest person and very reliable. Will and El can be so timid, so I'm not surprised they both end up leaning on Mike who is not as timid and can be hot headed and take action to protect the people he cares about.

It gets really tricky here for me because without a doubt, I've never considered Will to be straight and it's clear Mike and Will have a very special relationship. But Mike... I dunno if the feelings go both ways.

Will really seems to adore Mike as friends and obviously in a romantic way too. But it very much bothers me that it gets ignored by Mike himself. You know? Maybe season 4 will address this but if I were Will, it would hurt me deep down that my friend and crush will only acknowledge me when his girlfriend has blown him off. Of only if he can actually see how upset I am after already trying to interact more civilly. I had a similar situation in middle school. In my case, it was platonic, but by best friend at the time ditched me to do some things with a guy. I didn't find out till later when she told me, but I was pretty sad about it and didn't say anything.

From Mike's side, I don't know what to make of it. Like I said, this constant trend of blowing Will off for his love life is pretty bothersome whether he considers Will just his friend or secretly likes him.

I don't really know what Mike feels regarding Will, definitely cares about him... but not enough to keep in touch properly? Or to play dnd one time out of the whole summer? Or talk to him at all for a whole day when he gets to California? I don't get his deal at all.

Mike is feeling a certain way towards Will for sure but I don't know what it is. It felt kinda hostile but I don't know why that would be. Maybe not hostile, but blasé? If they writers are intending to have Mike questioning his feelings regarding Will in the romantic sense, I don't like how they're doing it and shippers should push for better secret pining.

Like, we KNOW Will is pining because of all the looks and secret glances. I might've missed them, but I didn't see any slow camera pans of Mike staring wistfully at Will like they've been doing for Will lately.

#stranger things #I'm sorry anon #I considered ignoring this question but I answered it for you #I did my best #I dug deep into my brain juices #and these are my thoughts #wow it really took me an hour to write this post