#selfjudgment

[zenwords]

Recognition With recognition our awareness becomes like the dignified host. We name and inwardly bow to our experience: “Ah, sorrow; and now excitement; hmm, yes, conflict; and yes, tension. Oh, now pain, yes, and now, ah, the judging mind.” Recognition moves us from delusion and ignorance toward freedom. “We can light a lamp in the darkness,” says the Buddha. We can see what is so. — Jack Kornfield #recognition #awareness #selfJudgment #freedom #jackKornfield https://www.instagram.com/p/Chhmld4OvOo/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#recognition #awareness #selfjudgment #freedom #jackkornfield

[dr-dale-atkins]

Believing Someone Else’s Opinion of Us When we believe someone else's view of us that makes us feel diminished, we forget the wisdom of Eleanor Roosevelt who said: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This does not mean that we are consciously giving our consent to feel inferior; it does mean, though, that we are particularly vulnerable to another's view of us and, consequently, we give that view credibility. Children deal with this all the time. If a teacher's attitude or response gives a child the impression that they are stupid or slow, they believe they are. And if a teacher encourages a child because they believe the child is capable, smart, clever or creative, the child begins to feel that way about him-, her-, or themself often, resulting in the belief that they can do what's expected of them. Children also deal with this in their families. When babies look into the eyes of their caregivers they can see, reflected in those eyes, whether they are valued - a source of joy or pain. More than 100 years ago, Charles Horton Cooley, a sociologist, coined the term "looking glass self" as a description of how we come to see ourselves as seen through the eyes of others. Cooley suggested that we first imagine how we look to other people. Next, we imagine the other person's judgment of us based on how we think they view us. And finally, we consider how we think of how the person views us based on their previous judgments. Basically, we come to see ourselves through the perception of others' view of us. Since a looking glass is a mirror, we base our sense of who we are by seeing our reflection in another's eyes. Other's perceptions and judgements can be the foundation for what we use to form our self-worth, our values, and our behaviors. Consider the people in our lives who serve as those mirrors. Do we still base our view of ourselves on what we interpreted their perceptions of us to be? #DrDaleAtkins #LookingGlassSelf #SelfJudgment https://www.instagram.com/p/CptGkFYvhaE/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#drdaleatkins #lookingglassself #selfjudgment

[t5ltherapy]

7 Signs You're Too Hard on Yourself http://dlvr.it/SYhNX3

#selfcriticism #selfjudgment

[s-ulfanita]

Saya ingin mulai jujur pada diri saya sendiri dan berhenti berbohong kepada orang lain ketika mereka bertanya apakah saya baik-baik saja atau tidak. Saya akan menjawab pertanyaan mereka dengan apa yang saya rasakan. Dan ketika saya tidak sedang dalam keadaan baik-baik saja untuk menjelasakan apa yang saya rasakan, saya tidak akan memaksakan diri saya untuk melakukannya. Saya mafhum pada mereka yang mengerti bahwa betapa sulitnya memahami perasaan yang sedang tak baik-baik saja. Dan ketika seseorang ingin bertemu saya tetapi saya tak memiliki cukup energi untuk sebuah pertemuan, maka saya akan mengatakan kepada mereka bahwa saya ingin beristirahat sebentar, sebab akhir-akhir ini saya telah berlalu begitu lama di kepala saya dan itu menguras energi saya dan membuat saya lelah. Saya tentu saja sangat menghargai mereka yang menanyakan sesuatu terlebih dahulu sebelum menyimpulkan sesuatu. Bagi saya, penghakiman karena tidak menyukai seseorang bukanlah keadilan melainkan keegoisan. Seseorang harus belajar berdiri di tempat mereka yang sedang dihakimi untuk melihat kebenaran yang tak memihak. Saya merasa bersyukur atas diri saya yang nyata dan tidak hidup dalam topeng kepura-puraan. Karena itu saya belajar untuk tidak lagi mengorbankan waktu dan keberadaan saya untuk mereka yang tidak menghargai keberadaan saya. Jika tubuh dan pikiran saya meminta saya untuk beristirahat, maka saya memilihnya sekarang, daripada berpura-pura bahwa saya baik-baik saja. #fragment #30haribercerita23 #30hbc23 #30hbc2305 #selfreflection #selfwoth #selfawareness #selftransformation #selflove #selfrespect #selfjudgement https://www.instagram.com/p/CnCJn8TpjGc/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#fragment #30haribercerita23 #30hbc23 #30hbc2305 #selfreflection #selfwoth #selfawareness #selftransformation #selflove #selfrespect #selfjudgement

[drmarr]

“I just feel so lost…” “And what’s so wrong about being lost…?” - The Swearing Jar There is nothing wrong with being lost…unless you judge it as being “bad”. Sure it might feel uncomfortable… but it could also be the perfect place to be if you’re looking to be/go somewhere else. “Lost” might just be the place that’s “on the way” to where you are going… what’s so wrong with that? We aren’t our circumstances. We feel the result of our own judgement of our circumstance. #MindsetIsEverything Could it change your life to adjust yours…? #changeyourmindset #attitudeadjustment #mindsetadjustment #adjustyourmindset #internationallifecoach #mountainpineridge #belize #unbelizeable #feelinglost #ifeellost #lost #judgement #selfjudgement #belizejungle #thereisnothingwrongwithbeinglost #thereisnothingwrongwithyou #thehumanexperience #internationallifecoach #mindsetcoach #happierlife #happieryou #fulfilled #fulfillment #findinghappiness #searchforhappiness #mentalwellness #thoughtwork #judgingourthoughts #innerwork (at Big Rock Falls, Belize) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmoqUiMu51P/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#mindsetiseverything #changeyourmindset #attitudeadjustment #mindsetadjustment #adjustyourmindset #internationallifecoach #mountainpineridge #belize #unbelizeable #feelinglost #ifeellost #lost #judgement #selfjudgement #belizejungle #thereisnothingwrongwithbeinglost #thereisnothingwrongwithyou #thehumanexperience #mindsetcoach #happierlife #happieryou #fulfilled #fulfillment #findinghappiness #searchforhappiness #mentalwellness #thoughtwork #judgingourthoughts #innerwork

[samthes1lly]

I hate myself..

I am to fat..

I am to ugly..

I am to dumb..

everyone probably thinks I am annoying..

Julien would be better off with other lover..

I feel like a shitty partner..

I cry to much..

I probably need to grow up and act my teenage age..

I am too sensitive for a teenager..

God I wish I wasn't born..

I make to many mistakes...

you guys don't deserve me..

~ Sammy 🎀

#Tw!vent #Tw!cussing #Tw!selfjudgement

[responsiveparenting]

My virtual friend and colleague @irismcalpin had a post yesterday that left me like 🤯 Watch that inner dialogue… it’s so powerful… and tricky too sometimes. Posted @withregram • @irismcalpin Projected self-judgement is sneaky because it really feels like we're being judged by others. Our inner dialogue might sounds like “He thinks I'm so disorganized.& “She hates my outfit.” “They're so disapproving of my skills as a mother.& “He thinks I'm stupid.” Now of course if someone actually says these things to us it's different, but sometimes we take ambiguous information (like a change in tone or unusually long pause), and fill in the blanks with our own self-judgement. Instead of relating to those blanks we've filled in as our own judgements about ourselves, we insist they're coming from the other person. That may not really be true. Why do we do this? As usual there are many possible answers but one is that if we were constantly being judged and criticized in our family environment it makes sense to assume people are judging us. It’s a form of self-protection to be prepared for the worst. What is the answer to this? The first thing we can do is do is ask ourselves some questions. Has this person actually criticized us? If not, where are we getting the idea that they think we're ____? Is that something we believe about ourselves, or something we're insecure about? Would it be possible to ask this person what their change in tone, facial expression, body language etc. really means? Bringing curiosity to these snap judgements might be illuminating. In the situations where we really are being judged by another person, it can still be helpful to be curious about whether we're adding to it by judging ourselves as well. We may not be able to change how they view us, but by bringing our self-judgment into awareness we have an opportunity to begin to heal the source of that pain. Because it really is painful to be constantly judging ourselves. Even if we're used to it. 💛 . . #selfjudgement #judgement #judgementalpeople #judgemental #selfsabotage #hardtruth #truth #projection #projecting #selfawareness #recovery #traumarecovery #childhoodtrauma #relationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CeHI4xrL8Q0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#selfjudgement #judgement #judgementalpeople #judgemental #selfsabotage #hardtruth #truth #projection #projecting #selfawareness #recovery #traumarecovery #childhoodtrauma #relationaltrauma

[farazberjis]

Love is the most powerful energy in the universe. Love heals. Love is the soul’s life. Most importantly, we should love ourselves in order to change and create healthier habits towards well-being. #love #soul #soullesson #wisdom #selflove #selfcompassion #habits #loveenergy #healing #healingenergy #coreintegrativedigestivewellness #wellbeing #nutrition #wellness #farazberjis #digestion #chronicdisease #digestivehealth #guthealth #coredigestive #vegan #vegetarian #happiness #joy #lovehate #selfjudgment #judgment #healthygut #curiosity #growthmindset #healthyhabits #lifestyle

[twistedcatmeow]

If you can’t even get five people to agree on pizza toppings, how do you expect to please everybody?  Measuring your self-worth by the emotions of others is a sure-fire way to drain your energy, stunt your growth, and make yourself miserable. Not to mention the fact that pleasing everyone is impossible.  You can’t even be sure what other people’s emotions are, beyond what they communicate to you!

Measure your self-worth against things that you have some control over. Do you act with honor? Are you able to stay within your own integrity? Do you do things that you can be proud of? Do you put your full attention and focus into the tasks at hand? Are you kind? Are you compassionate? Are you generous? Do you put your needs on the same level as the needs of others? Do you stand up for what you believe in? These are all things that will generate self worth, and they are all things that you have control over.

Get a fresh notebook and start keeping track of all of your successes as they happen. Did you go through with a difficult phone call? Did you get that closet cleaned out? Did you remember to get your errands done? Were you patient with that difficult customer? Did someone compliment you today? Did you choose salad over ice cream? Record all of it!

 #SelfWorth #SelfEsteem #Actions #SelfJudgment #MeasuringStick #DoThis #ImportantQuestions #CelebrateYourSuccess #PersonalGrowth #PracticalSpirituality #DailyMessage #365DaysToEnlightenment #Ayamanatara #NightSky

[swanbasset]

C’est le soir du bal

#soirdebal #bal #find'année #neopunk #animation #animationstudent #goodlookingboy #niceboy #punk #boingboing #deformation #cartoon #selfjudgment #gif #Animatedgif #loop #Petitpunk #lescoiffeursledeteste #putaclick

[invictusdevgrp]

You don't have to add the negativity. The guilt, the shame, the self-loathing doesn't need to be attached to questioning whether something is the right choice for you. Even if you've made the decision a thousand times, the question doesn't require the negativity to follow. It's easier said than done though, isn't it? One thing I recommend is that understanding where it came from allows you to become far more self-aware of it. For some, parental emotions and tactics often taught them to "feel" bad for making the choice that failed. The parents determined what was "right" and "wrong" based on their own opinion. If a child tested the "wrong" choice out of a normal curiosity for life, they paid the consequences with how they analyzed right and wrong. The above scenario can be played out in many different relationships even into adulthood. Our concept of right and wrong is a very powerful point of contention within our relationships. If you struggle with adding negativity to questioning yourself, you likely had a relationship that forced you to question your own concept of right and wrong. That may have created a habit that was easier to apply than consciously fighting the feeling that clashed with the authority. When you become more self-aware, you allow yourself the freedom to simply question. It doesn't have to be negative or positive. You can rationally make choices without the added self-judgment. That means less indecision and less stress. Do you want to hear more about this topic? What are your thoughts and experiences? #rightandwrong #negativity #negative #thinking #thinkdifferent #mindset #mentalhealthcoach #mhcoach #selfjudgment #DefyTheDarkness #NoOneFightsAlone #IAmAVoice #InvictusNation #InvictusTribe #DylanSessler (at Brookfield, Wisconsin) https://www.instagram.com/p/CT91Kk4lx8e/?utm_medium=tumblr

#rightandwrong #negativity #negative #thinking #thinkdifferent #mindset #mentalhealthcoach #mhcoach #selfjudgment #defythedarkness #noonefightsalone #iamavoice #invictusnation #invictustribe #dylansessler

[zenwords]

#thoughts #selfjudgment #criticism #happiness #mindfulness #meditation #zenwords #zenmister

[deraywrites]

#foodforthought #morningmeditations #inspirationalquotes #motivationalquotes #dailymeditations #mindbodyspirit #dailyquotes #lifelessons #lifequotes #AbundanceMindset #life #DoYourBest #SelfJudgment #SelfAbuse #Regret #Sickness #Health #MiguelRuiz #December15 https://www.instagram.com/p/CI0qzLDHKdI/?igshid=1hp3ex4ahp0u4

#foodforthought #morningmeditations #inspirationalquotes #motivationalquotes #dailymeditations #mindbodyspirit #dailyquotes #lifelessons #lifequotes #abundancemindset #life #doyourbest #selfjudgment #selfabuse #regret #sickness #health #miguelruiz #december15

[s-ulfanita]

Keep moving, Fah. I know you are doing okay in recovering from being burnt out. You are doing fine compared to the past months that you have lived your life. Even if you feel these days, it's just so difficult to get through feeling exhausted and tired. I know you feel like you are just dragging your own feet just to move forward and there are still days that you have to deal with your clouded mind. There's this cast of shadow of you that says you will never overcome it, but you must hold that little spark of hope within you. Perhaps, you're just having a bad day, and it's part of healing from being drained, you will still have your days when you feel so down, but you'll be back to your life's track again. Keep moving forward, Fah! #fragment #selfnote #selfreminder #selfreflection #selfhealing #selfwoth #selfjourney #selfjudgement #selflove #selflove #selftransformation #selfrespect #selfimprovement #selfacceptance #writings #writinglife #writingcommunity #writingproject #writingchallenge #healing #hastag https://www.instagram.com/p/CmWKCUWJRsb/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#fragment #selfnote #selfreminder #selfreflection #selfhealing #selfwoth #selfjourney #selfjudgement #selflove #selftransformation #selfrespect #selfimprovement #selfacceptance #writings #writinglife #writingcommunity #writingproject #writingchallenge #healing #hastag

[drmarr]

Do you ever catch yourself judging YOURSELF for things you did in the past? (Of course you do, you’re human…) “Did you like competing in fitness?”, I was asked. And I started going off on how unhealthy and extreme it was, how “bad” it was for you. And then I stopped, actually no. It wasn’t “bad”. I did like it, until I didn’t. It WAS right for me, until it wasn’t anymore. I RAVED about how happy I was at the time (looking back, I was miserable), but it was exactly the goal, focus and routine that GAVE ME THE PURPOSE I NEEDED AT THAT TIME in my life. Nothing about that lifestyle would work for me today, but it did then. Ah-ha! “(Insert past life experience you are currently judgmental about) wouldn’t work for me today, but it did then.” And let. It. Go. If you find yourself hung up judging something in your past as being “right” or “wrong”, or if you are having a hard time letting something go, ask yourself: But how did it serve me? What important lessons did you learn? Many things in life work for us, until they don’t. (They say “comparison is the thief of joy,” but self-judgement is pretty high up there, too! This is a HUGE focus in all 4 of my programs! 👩🏼‍⚖️) *Part 1 random fitness post* #fitnessmodel #ufe #comparissonisthethiefofjoy #selfjudgement #letitgo #alwaysalesson #alessonineverything #fitnessmindset #fitnessrecovery #bikinifitness #lifelessons #lifeexperiences #stopdwelling #stopdwellingonthepast #lessonsfromthepast #mindsetreset #stopjudging #stopjudgingyourself #selflove #selfcompassion #selfrespect #mindsethack #meaningfullife https://www.instagram.com/p/CgLWqgvDE8v/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#fitnessmodel #ufe #comparissonisthethiefofjoy #selfjudgement #letitgo #alwaysalesson #alessonineverything #fitnessmindset #fitnessrecovery #bikinifitness #lifelessons #lifeexperiences #stopdwelling #stopdwellingonthepast #lessonsfromthepast #mindsetreset #stopjudging #stopjudgingyourself #selflove #selfcompassion #selfrespect #mindsethack #meaningfullife

[paydayloanspb]

Building Resilience against Shame and Self-Judgment

Building Resilience against Shame and Self-Judgment

Illustration by Hiroki Nishiyama

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#Building #Resilience #SelfJudgment #Shame