#that part shouldn't be surprising

[redysetdare]

I'm tired of repulsed "positivity" posts always having "but romance negativity is bad" tacked on, as if t comes along with repulsion. Because Repulsion positivity needs a disclaimer because we are always seen as being negative. it's always "Sex and romance repulsion is valid AS LONG AS you're not Sex negative ^^" never just "Sex and romance repulsion is valid." end of sentence.

this ALWAYS happens on repulsed posts. We are always paired with sex negativity. And Im so sick and fucking tired of it. You never see this on sex and romance favorable posts. you never see people tack on how favorable people shouldn't push toxic sex positivity and shame people for not having sex.

I do not care if you think repulsed people are "prone to being sex negative" that thought process alone SHOWS that you don't understand us and don't fully support us. I hate you. I'm tired. It's obvious you see us as less willing of support all because you assume we are sex negative, a sentiment that gets tacked onto us for simply expressing our repulsion. I hate you. I'm tired.

I'm tired.

I'm tired.

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #i only mention sex negativity becuz the idea of romance negativity is stupid in it's current description #and isn't the same as sex negativity #but i am just...so fucking tired #it's so obvious y'all only are abt us if we are quiet and out of the way #it's so obivous you dont actually care or understand us because you pair our posts along with a 'sex negativity bad' message #surprise you can make a conversation abt sex negativity in parts of the aspec community WITHOUT pairing it with repulsion thanks #pairing it constantly with repulsion shows you think of us as the only sex negative group in the aspec community #we shouldn't be constantly tolds 'dont let ur repulsion turn into negativity' like fuck you fuck you fuck you

[poisonousquinzel]

if y'all ever want a bit of modern harlivy angst that ends happy and doesn't feel laced with ooc toxicity in the like "oh the writer's apparent reference for ivy's characteristics in their relationship is plant ivy and that's it wow..." I'd recommend their little story from DC's Harley Quinn Romances cause <33333 it's very special to me

they make me unreasonably emotional

Ivy after reading Harley's au fic where she gets to punch Joker with her at prom:

#girlies really went and started making out in a rare flower very iconic #and the comment about ofc a plant would come before me 😭😭😭😭 because everything has always come before her in past relationships #so she shouldn't be surprised #but like it was only So important to get there on time so Harley could have the full experience of HER present #and like the way Ivy wasn't expecting her here #so she was fully ready to flat out take the whole ass plant back to her just so she could see it bloom #harley quinn #harleen quinzel #poison ivy #pamela isley #dc comics #harlivy #also there are full pages of the fic thats why it seems abrupt in the parts posted where Harley's asking if she's listening #there's time between them skdjsks #tw clown boy #even tho he is just being humiliated <3 skdjskks

[ineed-to-sleep]

Well. He wasted no time

#IT'S JUST REALLY FUNNY TO ME. OKAY #in my first playthrough he took his fuckign time #bc ok. I was playing as the same character. but also it was the 1rst playthrough #so I ended up juggling between playing the character and doing whatever I wanted to do bc. well I wanted to be niceys #but now that I'm roleplaying her consistently he's going bananas dlkfhdlf #like 4 long rests in #I haven't even made it to the goblin camp yet #and hes like oohh I know you've felt it I felt it too 💅🏻 #and like in my first playthrough I had the impression they had this like slow burn sort of romance #like butting heads a lot at the start but then slowly growing on each other #but it's not like that at all now. they actually like. get along like a house on fire #this woman used to date nwn2 bishop back in the day tho this shouldn't have come as a surprise #I've changed her quite a bit since that game yk. but still. the parts of her that attract toxic men remain <3 #oc.nawen #bg3 #sleep.txt #you should've seen it I started a durge playthrough with pepper on impulse just for funsies #he fucking hated her #just like. not on board. calling her hard headed and boring #it was brutal #PEPPER IS LOVELY OK you don't deserve her #I wasn't happy w how she ended up looking tho 😔 gotta get some better face/hair mods and try again sometime #ship: narion

[watermelinoe]

rape is just a thing that may happen during war. we're not saying it didn't happen. it may have occurred. rape is not uncommon in war. it's not a weapon of war, there's no proof it's a pattern of violence against women, it's just something that happens for some reason.

#rape tw #i swear i'm now done talking about this fucking article now that i've worked myself up and can't sleep #completely disingenuous dripping with smugness and written by three fucking males #and some of you gobbled this right up #which is the part i'm most angry abt even though i shouldn't be bc i know radblr is full of ideologues #and i know i'm guilty of buying into twitter threads without reading the article #but it should really really really not be hard not to dismiss rape claims #if your first thought is ''oh phew i was worried i would have to condemn my side's actions'' then you have also bought into a narrative #ironically just as this article claims #but i shouldn't be surprised bc i see blatant antisemitic rhetoric disguised as anti-zionism here on the reg #so why not handwave rape as well #i just hate dogma. i hate dogma that creates acceptable victims. #i'm not going to leap to the defense of radicalized + militarized males. idc who they are. #bc it's all of them

[wonder-worker]

"[Elizabeth Woodville's] piety as queen seems to have been broadly conventional for a fifteenth-century royal, encompassing pilgrimages, membership of various fraternities, a particular devotion to her name saint, notable generosity to the Carthusians, and the foundation of a chantry at Westminster after her son was born there. ['On other occasions she supported planned religious foundations in London, […] made generous gifts to Eton College, and petitioned the pope to extend the circumstances in which indulgences could be acquired by observing the feast of the Visitation']. One possible indicator of a more personal, and more sophisticated, thread in her piety is a book of Hours of the Guardian Angel which Sutton and Visser-Fuchs have argued was commissioned for her, very possibly at her request."

-J.L. Laynesmith, "Elizabeth Woodville: The Knight's Widow", "Later Plantagenet and Wars of the Roses Consorts: Power, Influence, Dynasty"

#historicwomendaily #elizabeth woodville #my post #friendly reminder that there's nothing indicating that Elizabeth was exceptionally pious or that her piety was 'beyond purely conventional' #(something first claimed by Anne Crawford who simultaneously claimed that Elizabeth was 'grasping and totally lacking in scruple' so...) #EW's piety as queen may have stood out compared to former 15th century predecessors and definitely stood out compared to her husband #but her actions in themselves were not especially novel or 'beyond normal' and by themselves don't indicate unusual piety on her part #As Laynesmith's more recent research observes they seem to have been 'broadly conventional' #A conclusion arrived at Derek Neal as well who also points out that in general queens and elite noblewomen simply had wider means #of 'visible material expression of [their] personal devotion' - and also emphasizes how we should look at their wider circumstances #to understand their actions (eg: the death of Elizabeth's son George in 1479 as a motivating factor) #It's nice that we know a bit about Elizabeth's more personal piety - for eg she seems to have developed an attachment to Westminster Abbey #It's possible her (outward) piety increased across her queenship - she undertook most of her religious projects in later years #But again - none of them indicate the *level* of her piety (ie: they don't indicate that she was beyond conventionally pious) #By 1475 it seems that contemporaries identified Cecily Neville as the most personally devout from the Yorkist family #(though Elizabeth and even Cecily's sons were far greater patrons) #I think people also assume this because of her retirement to Westminster post 1485 #which doesn't work because 1) we don't actually know when she retired? as Laynesmith says there is no actual evidence for the traditional #date of 12 February 1487 #2) she had very secular reasons for retiring (grief over the death of her children? her lack of dower lands or estates which most other #widows had? her options were very limited; choosing to reside in the abbey is not particularly surprising. it's a massive and unneeded jump #to claim that it was motivated solely by piety (especially because it wasn't a complete 'retirement' in the way people assume it was) #I think historians have a habit of using her piety as a GOTCHA!' point against her vilification - which is a flawed and stupid argument #Elizabeth could be the most pious individual in the world and still be the pantomime villain Ricardians/Yorkists claim she was #They're not mutually exclusive; this line of thinking is useless #I think this also stems from the fact that we simply know very little about Elizabeth as an individual (ie: her hobbies/interests) #certainly far less than we do for other prominent women Margaret of Anjou; Elizabeth of York;; Cecily Neville or Margaret Beaufort #and I think rather than emphasizing that gap of knowledge her historians merely try to fill it up with 'she was pious!' #which is ... an incredibly lackluster take. I think it's better to just acknowledge that we don't know much about this historical figure #ie: I do wish that her piety and patronage was emphasized more yes. but it shouldn't flip too far to the other side either.

[pennamepersona]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN KAZUMA'S FUCKING DEAD????

#tgaa #dgs #tgaa spoilers #dgs spoilers #ace attorney #i know i shouldn't be surprised given how quickly mia gets fridged #but!! i didn't think they'd do it to kazuma!!! #and absolutely NONE of the shit I've seen about tgaa prepared me to think he was gonna die #like?? i don't think there's spirit channeling in this one?? #is he fr just GONE????? #but I've seen so many posts with his headband in them....... #do we really only get one case with him??????? #like I'll give it's a good fucking case #shu takumi really out here absolutely flexing #taking everything he did in the trilogy and crafting an exquisite first case #fr it's amazing and playing it after bouncing off dual destinies really.......... #well it makes it even more painfully obvious that takumi didn't write dd or soj #getting new takumi written narrative is such a treat #and makes everything post aa4 just. such a shame #there's a tiny part of me holding out for some kind of canon divergence au thing #where takumi just writes an alt aa5 that actually picks up where aa4 left off #anyway back to how good dgs is #I'm in agony i liked kazuma #can't believe i got so blindsided by his death #what's even the point

[doodlebugs-and-doodleart]

been thinking too much about @justanothercatastrophe's request for @marshgremlin

(I have never watched this show in my life)

#tbh this shouldn't be a surprise #i used to have a massive crush on roman zaragoza #this was before i was interested in native american history btw #in fact part of the reason why i actually listened so much in school then they were talking abt it was because i liked him #and wanted to learn more #we only covered the wild west so. wrong part of america #but it all got kinda out of hand and now i'm here mostly making art of dudes from the indian wars #doodle's art #cbs ghosts fanart #cbs ghosts #sasappis

[petiolata]

No kudos email today...that's the first time I've gone a day without getting a kudos in months...

A sign I should write/post more fic?

#ao3 #archive of our own #fanfiction #writing #writeblr #kudos #idc rly it's just odd cuz im used to my daily kudos email #I suppose it shouldn't be surprising bc I've been writing more odd/incredibly niche stuff #I'd be surprised if when I post my next WIP it gets even 10 kudos #part of is the nature of switching to mainly publishing original indie novels rather than fic #whenever I have a story idea that seems broadly palatable and widely appealing I use it ona novel rather than a fanfic #leaving the weird unpopular ideas and tropes for my fanfics #and all the Dead Dove content that can't be self-published on most platforms #It's not that Dead Dove content is unpopular in fanfics but the Dead Doves that are popular are usually smutty eroticized stuff #my Dead Doves aren't smexy imo and they aren't rly meant to be titillating or get anyone's rocks off #altho if anyone is finding my Dead Dove fics hot then good for them! 👍

[randomfoggytiger]

React: "Return to Me" (from the POV of Someone Averse to RomComs, Part I)

This is rambly, so buckle in y'all.

Return to Me. Ahhhh, a romcom, a hallmark of the 90s. Having skipped most of the 90s offerings-- older media was entertaining enough-- the first time I heard of this movie was a couple years back when YouTube put up some free movies (and promptly ripped them back down when COVID produced 1000 and 1 streaming services.) It was advertised over and over and over again on my second dash. Did I ever click it? NOPE. I didn't even know who David Duchovny was at that time (though I admired Minnie Driver in An Ideal Husband.)

X-Files led me to read David Duchvony's and Gillian Anderson's press; and finding them admirable chaps, I got into the specifics of their acting (or more broadly: working) goals. DD's mentality clicked with mine, and I got to work pawing here and there into his other projects. I've read a few books (excellent-- I prefer his written word even to his acting, but that's a tough call), seen a few clips from his other gigs, and, finally, worked myself up to this moment.

And here we are! Thanks to @baronessblixen and @dd-is-my-guiltypleasure for the final encouragements in this direction. All the fun you can glean from my reactions and windy diatribes should be credited to in part to them and my curiosity of their curiosity of my own thoughts.

**Note**: I have nothing but good feelings for this film, but I process new, out-of-my-wheelhouse experiences with outlandish humor~.

Here We Go

"Forgive me and please say you are mine--"

I'm actively squashing that self-protective side. I will enjoy this movie because I know I will and I will not listen to the scream of "cheese alert" lalalalalalalaaaaaaaaaa~~~.

All right, Bill, he's going home, see ya buddy.

...Who are you, Bill? Apparently different from the other buddy called Big Mike (my Arcadia meters are off the charts) who also gets a "see ya" from Bob (BOB? BOB???? I hate the name Bob. I have a feeling this movie will endear me to it.)

There's the gorilla DD talked about... its name is Sydney? Okay, cool. (...Why couldn't it be called Bob and DD be named Sydney? I don't care if it's a girl-- is it?-- she could sacrifice herself to the cause. My anti-Bob cause.)

Sydney (who IS a boy) is set up to have a very special bond with the lady-wife-character-- I'll bet they use that later with Minnie Driver. Seems the cosmic thing to do.

FORGET ALL OF THAT BOB HAS A DOG. Toweling him off: "Get under, get it under-- LET'S EAT." And he's jumping up so fast the dog can't even process the change.

Aye, there's a reason why that dog loves you.

...Okay, the dog doesn't want to eat, nevermind. It's got more willpower than I would--

DID BOB JUST JUMP IN PLACE TO ENTICE THE DOG??? And the dog didn't respond??

That dog is this movie's version of a straight man, isn't he?

And Bob dries his pants off with a hair dryer and he pulls a prank and fake leg kicks his doting wife to distract her nerves?

I see, I see. I'm filling in the big picture here.

Bob is a man of energy. Bob is a man to waste energy having fun. Bob has too much fun with his wife and the dog has none at all. Dog wants to vibe and spray water all over the house and not eat and stand at the door until the other human walks in because the first human just didn't get the "she's at the door" signal.

The dog is me. I am the dog. What is his name? Tell me not, for it makes him less of a stand-in and more of a dog.

I almost cackled at DD's pic with Sydney, brb, have to go back for a screenshot.

(The XF viewer in me says "Sasquatch" but the there-is-more-to-life-than-the-X-Files side of me says plastic rubber monkey.)

Wait, what's the wife's name again? I'm calling her Jane Bennett because she's a sweetie and blonde.

BTW, I am enjoying myself and I'm only 7? minutes in.

Oh, boy.

To sum up Bob during his wife's charity fundraiser speech:

Bob celebrates by boppin Jane Bennett to the tunes while singer man goes ham--

and then we cut over to a dying Minnie Driver.

The plot beginneth to thickeneth.

Friend of Minnie Driver is upbeat and maternal (in the "mom of the friend group" way), keeping the optimism alive.

Traveling life and dating hot men. Ahhh, there's the foreshadowing.

"BOOOOOOOB!"

Save this man (he actually tried to run for it.)

...What is Bob's friend's Charlie's date doing. What is she... what is she doing.

BOB WHAT ARE YOU DOING.

The Bob Man signed up his buddy Charlie to put old codger's portrait in the monkey house just so he can pawn off the discussion and make his escape. "No, no, you have a lot to discuss--"

Charlie knows he's been sacrificed (and his "A mural" in response to old codger is priceless.)

Ahhhhhh, a Tuscany name drop. "You have to come out there sometime..." rando lady tells Elizabeth (Jane Bennett.)

Well, that's morbid and foreshadowing.

Bob really plays into the wild caveman angle with his wife whenever she brings Sydney up. ...No, I will not be making those jokes.

Aw, Jane Bennett is a vulnerable sweetheart.

No wonder this movie killed her.

Bob's gonna build Sydney a new home because his wife is teary over his tiny cage. Also, Italy mentioned again.

And he surprises wife with an "everyone look at us" dance. And there's the Return to Me song.

Singer's back.

These actors are having tons of fun.

And she's in the hospital while the music plays.

Here we go, gang.

Nope, old men time.

WAIT got a computer thingy to update, etc., brb.

Gotta close up shop for now-- I'll update as soon as I can~.

Enjoy!

#Return to Me #analysis #react #DD #from the POV of Someone Averse to RomComs #Part I #txf #but not #mine #this is a first #and I shouldn't be surprised #it was inevitable #but thank you baronessblixen for that last push #though it was more gentle interest than an actual shove #branching out to amuse and entertain is my jam #Minnie Driver

[pocketgalaxies]

honestly though fjord had it right when he said we're either a team or you're on your own, decide. like ik there's a lot of shit going on with caleb and his backstory etc etc but as an outsider? like...Yeah

#it's the attitude of 'i've made it clear that i don't trust these people so they shouldn't be surprised if i suddenly abscond' #but at the same time outwardly dedicating himself to being part of the team when they directly ask him how he feels about doing the heist #being highly involved in the planning process but then going against the plan for his own convenience/personal goals #like compared to beau's speech to ulog about not making choices that will put /everyone/ (including the other rebels) at risk #it's a very stark contrast. #i don't dislike caleb but i do think this was an important wake up call for him #when you knowingly enter into this level of risk with people you can't be half in half out. only some of them understand that at this point #is someone gonna knock on my door and beat me up bc i said negative things about caleb? #3h51m c2e12 #that timestamp isn't relevant to the post i'm just processing while ulog pulls this fireball shit dkfjskdf #text #critical role #cr2 #cr lb #cr meta #nova shh #caleb widogast #fjord cr #r: fjord x caleb #r: mighty nein

[simoni-999]

I'm gonna end up saying this really sloppily but something that surprised me (in a good way) in ptutu was how autonomy is so heavily respected and usually considered to be the strongest factor when making decisions regarding Mytho. Duck and Fakir both knew that returning his heart in full would lead to the raven returning. Fakir, in an effort to protect Mytho, essentially took away any autonomy from him. He controlled what he did, where he went, who he was with, and didn't hesitate to restrict Mytho's access to the outside world entirely. When Tutu first attempts to return the prince's heart shards, Fakir fights back, believing that since it will lead to the raven being unleashed, it's up to him to keep Mytho safe. But as time goes on, Fakir and Duck start to work more closely, and Mytho regains a lot of control over himself, through both the return of his emotions and Fakir realizing that Mytho can and should make decisions for himself.

Once Fakir stops trying to control Mytho, Mytho becomes very verbal about his wishes. He can't return the heart shards himself, so to that extent he has to rely of Princess Tutu, but he can be clear and direct with the people around him about what he wants. Mytho's decision is rarely doubted by Fakir or Duck, despite the known consequences. It's more important to Duck and Fakir that Mytho's wishes are respected and upheld than what they and others might believe is best for him. Even when the raven is released and Mytho is in potential danger, his want for the heart shards doesn't waver, so Duck and Fakir's conviction to return them doesn't either.

This is pretty poorly written but I just felt like I needed to say something about this because I feel like this is something overlooked in a lot of media. "The greater good" is usually prioritized in situations, as well as the idea that, even though it's not what this character wants, it's what we know is best for them so really their say doesn't matter. But it does. It's the say that matters the most. And tutu held strong on that. Mytho's autonomy was what was protected and fought for in the end, and I thought that was pretty cool.

#i hope this came across right #i was just. really caught off guard by how much the other characters respected his decision #and i shouldn't have been! that should be the norm! people's wishes regarding their own bodies and wellfare should always be upheld! #but most of the time they're not. #so i was pleasantly surprised by how ptutu essentially revolves around returning and protecting the autonomy of someone who has had #it taken away by people who believed that they know what was best for him #also sorry that i didn't mention rue she also plays a part in this i just thought it shown through more in fakir and duck #rue also took away a lot of mytho's autonomy but it was more for her own needs and validation than the belief that she was keeping him safe #anyways ptutu rocks #princess tutu

[countlessrealities]

Send in 💗 for me to use a love meter to check the compatibility of our muses || Accepting !

@mcltiples sent: 💗 { To Alastor from Verosika bc of hilarious reasons !! }

"HA HA HA HA! "

A burst of screeching static follows.

" N̸̡̧͕͙̼̻̳̦̪̞̯͎̦͓̏̒͌͑͒͊̾͌̑̅̕͝ͅO̵̧̗͕̹̼̦̗̮̱̝͆͊́́̈̿̋ͅ."

#[ ic :: Alastor ] #mcltiples #[[ Vaggie vc: YIKES ]] #[[ yeah Y I K E S damn ]] #[[ ...but I shouldn't be surprised x'D ]] #[[ he's part of the psycho club ]] #[[ I hope Vero doesn't get too offended x'DD ]]

[flowering-darkness]

"I should back up that last post to my documents so I won't lose it. it turned out quite long"

that last post: is seven pages long when I paste it into a document for safekeeping

#somehow i shouldn't be surprised should i. #heart of the void #of a city reborn (pokémon reborn) #since.. that was the post about my self-insert's role in each of its timelines #i hope it makes sense to people and i hope people can enjoy what i've done #as i said there - if anyone has any questions then please know you are more than welcome to ask them #i just #reborn as a game is quite significant to me in general but also in the context of selfshipping #since it was as I was playing it myself (instead of just watching the LP that introduced me to it) that I learned about selfshipping #and that's basically why luna was one of my first four romantic F/Os when I first created a selfship blog here #so.. that's i think also part of why i've put so much into my self-insert for it #since she was originally just ''me as i played the game'' but because of the story of reborn I could develop her a lot #and that only amplified when episode 19 released (which was the update that contained the full completed game) #so.. yeah. it means a lot to me ^-^ and i like thinking about it and its characters a lot

[moyarb]

Enemies to lovers are like...academic or workplace rivals, getting off on the wrong foot, members from opposing teams, schools, cities, and kingdoms, not a person of color with a person whose views involve bringing harm to others' existence. Wtf is wrong with y'all?

I've seen the defense of "it was just one racist moment!" and that's supposed to be okay?

#You...are willing to look beyond islamophobia because of a one bed trope??? #Honestly if you are claiming to be a liberal and fall for a conservative you have privilege or have some internal bullshit going on #And you are part of the problem #anti purple hearts #Enemies to lovers is one of my favorite tropes but it keeps getting ruined #I shouldn't be surprised Tumblr is eating this movie up since y'all thrive on toxic ships #At this point wholesome romances are dead and I'm big sad #Why would you want to be with a man who hangs out with an asshole who thinks because he fights overseas he's entitled to sex

[q-kanbas]

hating that every ultra fem/frilly/cute aesthetic gets called creepy. first lolita. then the selkie dress trend. now coquette. almost no one is thinking about men and how men will view them when they're painstakingly putting on 300 ribbons and bows i promise you

#lolita is part of harajuku fashion so it can be argued. at least from my pretty outsider view #that its specifically counterculture since it openly goes against the feminie 'ideal' in japan in its own way #selkie was made by a woman i think #checked and yes #coquette has origins in some sexier aesthetics but its become so blended with lolita and similar styles that its #lost a lot of that origin imo #also someone feminine looking pretty isn't always about men i thought wed been over this like a decade ago #people on tiktok seem to be going backwards in their feminist takes these days but after 'girl math' i shouldn't be surprised #coquette has been in resurgence (?) as a nail art trend that looks very much like it borrows some elements of classic lolita which is why #im mentioning them both in this very no nuance no context post #because those types of manicures are a Lot of work and money to put into somethign (most) cishet men will see as frivolous #like. a lot of sets of coquette inspired nails i've seen recently are being priced by techs at $200+ #because its not just the standard extension it has detailed art and 3d decoration or sculpting #anyway i'm especially mad that this is now comign from other feminine-presenting people who call themselves feminists as i just had to see

[attheexactlyrighttimeandplace]

#the rings of power #trop season 2 #j.d payne #patrick mckay #lotr on prime #lotr: the rings of power #writers strike #i'm not sure being part of the guild force them to strike #they seem to be very much on the same line of beliefs as bezos when it comes to capitalism #i wouldn't be surprised if they continue to work during the strike which makes me nervous about the quality of the scripts #really they shouldn't be allowed to do rewrite and “fix” others' people's work: they're too inexperimented and incompetent