#use your anonymity for good

[ziglikesrain]

YA KNOW WHAT!!! an ask would be nice once in a while. even a mean one. just to know you guys CARE ABOUT ME.🙁🙁make a girl feel special🙁

#ask me ANYTHING #i will literally answer #the most personal #disgusting #intimate questions #YOU COULD IMAGINE. #i’m just….im just a girl on the internet #use your anonymity for good #to help ME not be bored #pleaseeee #marauders era #wolfstar #harry potter #fanfiction #marauders #hazbin hotel #huskerdust #angel dust hazbin hotel

[artseniccatnip]

every piece of chicory fanart you put out makes my day immediately

thakn you ;-;;; here's another one

#they're in love your honor #chicory: a colorful tale #chicory a colorful tale #chicorizza #drawdog #i love getting asks u guys #like actually #anonymous #asks #they make good prompts for me to doodle shit like this lOL #doodles #fanart #forgot to use chicory font here whatever

[mo49ko]

hi, firstly, i love your art so much!! fengqing make me so weak ;-; secondly, do you have any tips for lack of motivation/fear of failure? like that feeling when drawing seems scary because you’re not sure if it’s going to look the way you want it to or it’s hard to get yourself to produce something just because drawing is difficult?

hello!! thank you for your kind words 💖✨ fengqings will always be here for us!!

i think that if you are not motivated to draw, there's no point in forcing yourself just to produce something, because pressuring yourself will just make you stressed. i think you can get more motivation in many ways, but you should just give it time.

for me, even doing something unrelated to drawing can give me motivation/ideas to draw!! for example, if i go shopping and i see some cute outfits, or a nice cafe, or i went somewhere fun with my friends, it will make me want to draw my fav characters doing it too hehe🤭🤭 in any case, you dont have to feel bad about not drawing. not drawing for 6 months can seem long, but its nothing in comparison to all the years that you are alive 🫡��

for the avoiding failure part, you can consider that a drawing doesnt ever have to be finished. one secret about drawings is that you can fix them how many times you want and you can spend months on one drawing if you want !!

i think it's the best thing to accept that you will never nail a drawing in one try. if the arm looks wrong then it just looks wrong and you can just draw over it again. if the face looks bad then you can just erase it and redraw from scratch how many times you want. in my case, i will absolute have like 60 layers of sketch before i colour lol

me duplicating my layer and redrawing each part until i get it right (2)(2)(2)(2)(2)(2)(2)(2) etc. etc.

you can't fix a thing without putting something down on the canvas first so i say just draw it however. then you can see what looks bad and fix it one by one. just work towards making it look the way you want it to.

i often post a "finished" drawing, and then come back to it months later and redraw some parts and post it again. i just think it's nice to think that you can always decide that you can still work on it!! my drawing is a dear plant that i grew myself by watering it and giving it sunshine over the days. 🌿

for a concrete advice, i would say to look up references even for things that you think you know how to draw.

it gets soso more easy when you stop relying on your brain waves to hallucinate a picture onto the canvas. if you don't know how to draw a hand holding a phone, just google "hand holding a phone stock image" and then copy the position!!

i drew both of these in under 1 minute ↓

seeing the reference pic made it easier to identify where is mistaken, and helps you improve the drawing easily.

it doesn't have to look exactly the same as the ref, but it helps you visualize better.

ALSO!!!! i will never stop recommending "PureRef" to everyone!! (a software to paste all your reference images to have them on your screen while you draw) !! you can move around the little board window and no need for a second monitor 🌟✨

in any case, keeping yourself interested in a lot of things will also make it easier to find reference pictures (by searching more precisely) + have more ideas/inspirations to draw!!

in think overall you should just let let your interests take you where they will.

happy drawing !!! 🤭💖🌟

#moko replies #anonymous #one thign about me is that i have sketching disease bc when i took a design course they forced us to submit 30 sketches before we can start #and then you realize that your first inspiration that you thought was good is never actually good #i guess i want to say to just let go of every little sketch #some of them just exist to make the “bad drawing” exit your body before you can make a good one #wow i keep talking for hours HAPPY SOUTHERN GENERALS SATURDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #i like talking about drawing with my friends on tumbleerrrrrr

[kil9]

everyone agrees that the patriarchy teaches men to hide their emotions, and that this is a bad thing, so why is it that when men actually show an emotion everyone jumps to call him an abuser or manipulator or whatever :\

#99.txt #im so sick of this #you all have no faith in people. you just see the word boyfriend or he pronouns and go !!ABUSER!! DUMP HIM! and dont see how there could be #any negative reprocusions of that................ #i still cant forget that ANONYMOUS message where someones boyfriend was worried they were cheating. & the person who got the ask was like #''wow HE'S definitely the one cheating.'' #on an ANONYMOUS message ????? how could you possibly say that with confidence with ZERO information ? #some guy was worried and thats what you have to say ????? and you act like you have no hand in men supressing themselves ? #someone who might have had mental health problems or have been cheated on before and been hurt. like. #whoa call me a red flag or whatever for saying this but. no one would say that if it was a woman ! no one ! #we all have a hand in society and we all have a hand in the patriarchy and if you dont get your head out of your ass and wise up #then ur just gona get more people hurt #i know circumstances are different sometimes but you actually DO need to consider how you would feel if the tables were turned !!!! #if you still feel the same thats fine ! it was a good thought exercise !!! #but you need to consider these things even if they are uncomfortable to you 🤨 in order to challenge your mind #this is how we get those bullshit ''crying is a manipulation tactic 🥺'' takes #im SICK OF IT !!!!!! everyone use your brain NOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #stop assuming everyone is the worst person NOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cyberdragoninfinity]

if youre doing the ask game

🔥

unpopular opinion for seto motherfucking kaiba? mayhaps? blease?

ok so. i wrote. like four fucking paragraphs answering this, talking about how i feel about kaiba, and then. when i went. to fucking add tags. tumblr fucked up and deleted my whole post <333 super cool website very fun to use <33333

anyway im not rewriting all of that so here's the tl;dr: i like kaiba, he's iconic for a reason, but my 🔥🔥🔥est kaiba take is just that honestly i dont think he's nearly as deep a character as people want him to be, and that's not a bad thing. He fulfills the role he has in DM's narrative fantastically well, and he has his veins of things that could be interesting to discuss, but after 25 years it feels like it's just nonstop hitting bedrock when it comes to kaiba 'analysis.' I feel like i see the same 3-4 kaiba meta posts every other week (and i do sometimes wish that level of love and dedication to character analysis got extended to. any other yugioh character. i feel similarly about atem too tbh dfghd)

like with kaiba, it feels like a massive chunk of his implied depth is things fans have willed into existence through the sheer power of I Want it To Be That Deep. and i dont even think there's anything wrong with that, it just doesn't interest me very much. i like my kaiba discussion where the elephant of "this character is in many ways defined by stagnant growth and if this is left unchecked it's going to get really fucking bad" is Very in the room. kaiba is at his best to me when he's doing digital duel links necromancy, when his interpersonal relationships beyond mokuba are under the microscope and revealed to be, uh, hanging by a thread or two!

also, just, with not being terribly interested in it all, at this point now five yugiohs in and fully out in the spinoff reeds, i gotta say, every other yugioh rival is a more engaging character to me on a narrative and symbolic level than i have ever personally found kaiba. i honestly think a lot of them are also, by their series' end, far kinder people than seto kaiba is. 🤷‍♀️ maybe in another world another life kaiba could have dueled a robotic embodiment of all his negative traits and been humbled to some degree by that. what a world to think of

#IM SO FUCKING MADE. THAT MY FIRST RESPONSE JUST GOT COMPLETELY OBLITERATED. I HAD SHIT TO SAY!!! #asks #ygo posting #anonymous #also re: the bedrock hitting. half of why i dont really draw kaiba anymore is just cuz. like. theres already So much bonkers cool kaiba art #i dont have anything else really to add #i would rather use my creative energy to draw insane art of ygo spinoff characters who are lacking in that department #also meeting kite felt like finding out your fav band did a remasted remixed version of a pretty good song and made it even better #l + ratio + moon duel

[youredreamingofroo]

Do you help small simblrs get noticed by sharing their posts? I’m smaller blog and I really wished that larger blogs would share everyone’s content. Do you only share larger simblrs posts? You seem to get much interaction with posts too.

listen min vän, I've seen this anon ask go around, and I'm certain you know what my answer is gonna be.

For a short answer, I reblog whatever I want, my intent when reblogging is to reblog content I enjoy- simple as that- but I also reblog to show my mutuals/followers content that I believe was made by someone who is passionate about their work and is proud of what they make, I don't want to reblog content that feels washed and was made for the sole purpose of like farming :/

For a long answer:

First of all, I don't consider myself a "big blog", maybe a medium sized blog, internet-logic has rotted my brain to believe that below a million followers is small so take that as you will (im healing from this mindset tho lmao), but I'm frankly not as big as some people on this platform/simblr (which doesn't matter, all our content is phenomenal regardless, 0 followers or 10k followers), I don't know what gave you that impression 😭 I only recently hit 150 followers and just recently started to get a lot of interactions, which was surprising, but moreso Im just glad more people get to see Roo 😵‍💫 So again, I say I do not feel as tho I am a big blog :P Second of all, I reblog whatever content I enjoy, sometimes it's sims, sometimes its not, and when I reblog it, yes I do have the intent of sharing it to my mootys and followers so that it can be seen, but the intent is showing off work that people are passionate about, if you blatantly care about likes or reblogs or follows, it WILL show up in your work, it will be obvious, and more often than not, your content will not be as ingestible as content from someone who literally lives and breaths on making characters and showing their lore. I also don't reblog every post I see, not because I don't think it's "good enough," but because I don't want to swarm my blog with tens of hundreds of posts, be it sims or not. I see SOO many simblr posts where I'm like damn I wanna reblog this but I don't know what to say, or I dont have anything to say (which I should specify that this does NOT lower the quality of the post by all means), at which point I feel bad for reblogging and not having anything to say- I'm also... not legally required to reblog every post I see, my mutuals make phenomenal posts, doesn't mean I need to reblog their stuff, if they are upset because I didn't reblog their work, then that's just someone who cares about likes/reblogs and I don't like those kinda ppl 🤷‍♂️ U should be on simblr to enjoy and share your work, not to get some useless internet points on a post. Lastly, which kind of ties into the last one, I don't only share larger posts, if anything, I find myself more prone to reblog smaller posts (smaller is subjective but usually anywhere from 0-20 notes) just because it means that less people have seen it, and thus I'm opening the eyes of my mutuals/followers to the beauty of this smaller blog's post.

To conclude this essay of a post, I personally recommend getting the hell outta that mindset, because I used to have that mindset when I started and, at least to me, I could see that mindset show through my work. I've recycled this mindset into "I don't wanna post because I want likes and reblogs, I wanna post because I want people to perceive my brainrot in real time", what I mean by that is that I just want to post just to share my stupid characters, which usually is Roo. The likes/reblogs mindset is and can be super unhealthy for you, and again, I recommend getting out of it, recycle it into something less taxing on the mind.

also I just wanna say that if I reblogged EVERY post I liked/saw, I would have over 20,000 posts and I just KNOW everybody would be annoyed as piss if I reblogged stuff at that frequency (since in order for me to achieve that number, I'd have to reblog like, 100-500 posts every 12 hours 💀)

#honestly I've been plenty more happy since dropping that mindset and now I am so much more comfortable when making content #I do get happy when I get reblogs and likes. but that's honestly just a normal human reaction 🤷‍♂️ #validation = serotonin/dopamine/wtv = joy ykwim #what i rlly mean tho is allow yourself to enjoy the likes/reblogs. but dont rely on it and dont make it your sole purpose for posting #i just wanna reiterate that everybody on simblr does and can make phenomenal content. none of us make piss-poor content #even the ppl who post for likes/reblogs can make good stuff. but I really believe that passion overrides skill #you can be a blog with 0 followers and 2 likes to your name. but as long as you are passionate and enjoying posting. that immediately boost #your post quality by a million #yapping #Anonymous

[mattodore]

hi river, quick question, do u use hq mod?

no i don't! but i do use gshade, softerhaze's milk thistle world lighting overhaul, northern siberia winds' in-game lighting, simp's graphics overhaul (the ultimate quality one, and i've made some personal changes too i think), and i think i also use amoebae's shadows for days. sometimes i upscale photos with srwe. my graphics settings in the game are also set as high as they can be.

gshade does a lot to make my game look better tho... like here are some before and after pics:

#river dipping #asks #anonymous #i figured i'd just share all (or i think MOST of) the mods i use to make my game look better since i assume you were wondering #if the hq mod is what makes my photos look nice... it's not #honestly i've just never understood how to use the hq mod... #i think if you use the hq mod then you have to convert all of your cc textures or something??? which um. #i have... 146gb of cas cc and 82gb of build cc so. i simply can't do that........................... #like the amount of TIME that would take??? please. i would die. #i would love to use it tho bc even tho i think my photos look good enough i would love to see my ocs at like. their most elevated. #...i hopped in game to take these pics btw jknhkf that's why it took me so long to reply sawrryyyyy #ALSO... i am constantly turning shaders on and off on my in-game presets

[idkaguyorsomething]

Shitty Superhero Movies Tournament Preliminary

DISCLAIMER: The movies that have been entered in the Shitty Superheroes Tournament are all based on their Rotten Tomatoes scores (which I know are meaningless, but we need some kind of a metric beyond "I don't like this" to go off of). These are movies that did not fall under the parameters used (which I will clarify upon finishing the bracket), so you decide which deserves to go in the tournament the most!

May the shittiest movie win!

#they ranked blade lower than thor the dark world for some reason on rotten tomatoes #so you can tell that its usage as a parameter for judging which movies are shitty enough to be included or not is dubious at best #but i trust you anonymous strangers on the internet to use your intellect and whittle out the actual shit from the good stuff #shitty superhero movies tournament #superheroes #superhero movies #swamp thing #swamp thing 1982 #superman #superman returns #hulk #hulk 2003 #blade #blade 1998 #blade sweetie i'm so sorry you ended up here #the rotten tomatoes critics have zero taste #the rules will be explained when this preliminary round is concluded #raimi spider man #spider man #spider man 3 #iron man #iron man 2 #mcu #marvel cinematic universe #marvel mcu #thor #mcu thor #thor the dark world #timecop #timecop 2 the berlin decision

[custom-emojis]

my bad for asking a genuine question then. i was genuinely trying to figure out why you were using the d slur when ive Only heard the d slur be used as an offensive term ?? was just trying to see if you had a reason and possibly be educated on it but. ok then

and i gave you a genuine answer. I am a random person on tumblr and you asked me a cryptic question on anon. I do not owe people gentle education, its not my job. this is an emoji blog.

#like. im not sorry for my reaction. i gave you a genuine answer- my use of the slur has to do HEAVILY with me having a lot of exposure to #people who self ID with slurs and offline queer punk scenes. #and you asked a question of a stranger online. anonymously. im sorry i didnt hold your hand like you want me too? #like. i fully acknowledge i could come off as a bit of an ass to some ppl with this. but also im an adult and at this point in my life #pleasing everybody is not a top priority. #edit: if you want genuine thought out breakdowns on my political opinions like that just go to my main blog @ br1cks-and-b0nes #and one day if i have the energy Maybe i will give you a few good paragraphs. but not here man.

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is wanting to complain about not getting to see much of a favourite celebrity in a TV series after a certain point until the new season next year, but not wanting people to think that means you have a crush on them. Alternatively, aro culture is wanting to gush about celebrities you like without people automatically assuming it's a crush.

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #the only way i'd assume it's attraction is like. if it's pretty hard to see it as anything else #ie an old 'straight' friend who was known to go on half-hour long rants about how much he liked chris... uh. the thor one. his abs. #at which point we were like uh. hey kyle. you... got something you wanna talk to us about? #unfortunately he was v much convinced he was straight and homophobic despite this being one of like. so many examples of us being like... #bro you're the only straight cis one in your main friend group and you're a band kid with drama kid gfs #this does not give us the impression of a straight man kyle. #he was a weird type of homophobic tho #he was like? perfectly fine with people around him being gay and trans and was pretty chill about respecting identities #like shockingly good about respecting pronouns including situational stuff for safety #for someone who on more than one occasion talked about how he thought gay couples shouldn't be able to adopt and shit like that #from what i last heard though i think he got engaged to the last gf of his i knew from high school #and i knew her well enough that i assume he had to have improved as a person if she's willing to have married him #... i cannot stay on topic lol

[cloysterbell]

So I'm an RTD girlie who gave up on doctor who somewhere in the moffat era before chibnall even took over and so I've missed all of thirteen's tenure. I don't have it in me to watch all of her seasons at this moment in time but I LOVE Jodie and your gifs look so compelling.

Would you be able to recommend your top 5 episodes with 13 or something so I can rectify the error of my ways, at least a little bit?

Hmmmmmmm I would say that for a complete Thirteen novice you should watch:

The Woman Who Fell to Earth

It Takes You Away

Spyfall pts 1 & 2

The Haunting of Villa Diodati

And probably Fugitive of the Judoon and The Timeless Children just because those are very important series lore episodes that are important to watch even if you very much disagree with most of the choices that Chibnall made

Also probably The Power of the Doctor so you can watch Thirteen's full regeneration episode (and Jacob Anderson <3)

#questionbell #anonymous #i will also admit this openly: the gifs I'm reblogging look compelling because I'm very selectively cherry picking #the best part of each episode to amplify #i love jodie and i love thirteen so much but god are some of her episodes dull #chibnall had no idea what to do with her and the companions offer absolutely nothing #and i mean it. i do say this with love but jodie/thirteen could've been INCREDIBLE if she'd had anything good to work with #which is why she shines when she's up against sacha as the master #he gives her something to bounce off and play with whereas yaz just gawks at her like a bug under a microscope #but i do think the biggest issue is that there are just too many characters in each episode #villa diodati has like 10 characters in it which is far too many to successfully do anything with #because you can't further yaz's storyline while also making us care about shelley and the lone cyberman and the cyberium all in 50 minutes #and that's where i think the chib era suffered the most #it tried to do too much and in doing so accomplished nothing at all #anyway i do genuinely like these few episodes so you should very much check them out and form your own opinion #just don't watch rosa or orphan 55

[birdmenmanga]

LAUGHTER IN THE END OF THE WORLD IS SOOOO GOOD I CRIED BC IT WAS JUST A ONE SHOT IN MY HEART IT SHOULDVE BEEN LIKE . IT SHOULDVE HAD THE PLACE AND LOVE DEMON SLAYER HAS. IT TRULY FEELS LIKE IT HAD THE POTENTIAL FOR THAT. SORRY FOR THE CAPS LOCK

LMAOOOO LITERALLY... one shot in my heart as well... I KNOW it was 5 chapter I KNOW it was a whole ass volume but it just FELT like a oneshot you know?? like it was only the tiniest glimpse inside this huge huge world...

It's not even like it was a self-contained story that had no more story left in it either. There was a CLEAR thing that the narrative would have eventually built up to, which is that if their way of living is hunting down the demons they'd eventually collect all the mouths... and then what? it really begs the question y'know???? the demon's coming back?? what's going 2 happen to haru and luca?

I have never watched or read demon slayer so idk how the two measure up but yeah. where I live anyways demons slayer has so much hype. it genuinely sucks (to ME) that miss tanabe's works are always so underrated </3

#asks #anonymous #laughter in the end of the world #I guess they both have guys with a little sister who's cursed in some way? #I will say that just based on my impressions haru seems to have much more agency than that other girl. nezuko? #like just in fanarts it seems like she's either depicted as 'girl who is seen but not heard' #or 'going feral and losing control of herself entirely' #I have so many feelings about haru specifically. I think it she really began the age of completely unfuckable girls for miss tanabe #good for her #like it is SUCH a good subversion of the 'girl who looks young but is much older than she seems' #because like. genuinely. her character design is unsexy. it veers so hard into abstract symbolism there's nothing there to sexualize #and like I think it's such a good depiction of kids too #like you know she's acting but these 'old but younglooking girls' often act childish in a cute way you know!! #but haru's like childish in a 'I have not yet learned self-control and I am going to pull your hair out for saying mean things :(((' #which again. completely unfuckable. it's so great #but also the setup between the siblings is so crazy... they're literally built to be codependent #they actually can't live without the other and they will never be able to form longterm meaningful relationships with other people either #just the two of us we can make it if we try type beat #like haru will look like a kid forever. she will literally never be respected and will always need a chaperone in regular society #and then luca committed so hard to the bit that he also can't just... go back to being a normal person either #in my mind if it became a longer series I imagine it'd be a bit like mushi/shi... like standalone stories of a wanderer

[skunkes]

just saw u mention lars and the real girl, are u watching ryan gosling movies and do u have a fav so far? ive seen all of them lol and i love hearing ppls favs

I am! Or I was as I havent found right time to keep watching with a buddy (i like watching with others)

my fave so far IS lars and the real girl. Its the only one i watched by myself before watching it again with my friend. I couldn't wait anymore because I felt it would be right up my alley and it was. And it is. Its on my list of favorite movies now.

It's such a sweet movie that keeps making me feel all Squeezed because of how nice it is in all the details.

Pastor at the beginning saying loving each other is the most important thing, Lars saying Bianca told him she was put on this earth to help people, things like Lars telling Bianca that Gus is going to help her with her seatbelt while finishing things up. "She wants everyone to see her as normal and not feel bad for her".

The baby blanket, the teddy bear cpr scene. I love it i love it i love it. I need to own it. I keep starting it over and over and over again. It makes me feel so sad. But in a good way? Ive already written How in like 2 other posts so i wont do that here. But it's. Relatable.

(And also he's so Round and 26 Years Old in that movie and I need him. Just for the record. He's so cute.)

#anonymous #skunk mail #drive was fun but i dont get the hype...id rewatch it for the elevator scene #la la land unfortunately was not a hit for us. #i still wanna watch a few others #actually id rewatch drive for the elevator scene and the shut your mouth part #the place beyond the pines really was such a good 1 hr movie. smile #dude he's so hot blond. i dont even like blond men what's become of me

[mantisgodiveblog]

Idk why everyone is saying you're a loop kin. you remind me more of a siffrin

Excuse you, we're way hotter than that guy. We've aged out of being a socially anxious nerd in a cloak. Now we're a hot nerd in a trench coat and/or several different layers of jewelry and/or an outfit that has people say to us phrases like "you look like a time traveller who figured that the 1980s are basically the 2020s in the grand scheme of things and is only now realizing that the time periods are very different however you are indeed very hot" or the perhaps more descriptive "you look like harry dubois".

Actually, was nerd the one that originated from the guys biting chicken's heads off with their teeth? We should use that one. We're the guy doing that but hotter and also more likely to torment fictional characters for fun.

#asks #we speak #not liveblog #anonymous #these are phrases we would consider compliments btw we are very attractive in browns and greens its part of why we're a mantis #you could make this comparison about us when we were seventeen maybe we were like way worse about things then we're better now #siffrin has way more problems than us now. lol lmao et cetera. we are no longer seventeen years old so we are no longer Like That #our condolences to them on their apparent continued issues. we wish them a very no moth in their brain hoarding their memories #we find it generally helps to get more insufferable and start becoming a worse person instead of worrying about if youre inherently good #we had character development and now we're aroace and random teenagers at the queer alliance ask us how we got so confident #the trick is that lying to people with your immense knowledge of how to talk to people will have them view you as unreliable #but writing about people with your immense knowledge of how to talk to people just makes you a very good author #we still own more than one cloak though. we never throw shit out. #we don't know if any of these phrases make this more or less convincing honestly we're saying normal words

[northern-passage]

as a devoted fanfic writer and a fan of yours, im back to say the lea fic i wrote during the exam was worth it even tho i now know i failed since got my results today B) IDC NO REGRETS WOOOOO

anon....

#im so sorry but also im glad you have a good attitude about it 😭 #i guess if you were going to fail at least u had fun with it #we really need a hall of fame for this message and your first one #and also that one anon that used tnp as a conversation starter on tinder #you all are tnp's strongest warriors #ask #anonymous

[mattodore]

okay so because previous anons asked about sex, I wanna ask about aftercare, how they act after sex? oh and i’m curious how their sex life change after being together for a while

xoxo <3

their aftercare isn't always aftercare-101, if i'm honest. theo is very bad at it and doesn't really... ever... do that for matthias. and matthias may be very good at giving aftercare but theo is incredibly resistant to it. i mentioned earlier that theo really gets off on praise, but... he also flinches away from it. he's so twisted up about so much of what he wants and he's really, uh... well. he makes it really hard to get close to him and offer comfort despite how much he desires it. matthias can't say certain things without scaring theo off (and i mean, like, theo will quite literally run away), so he has to talk around what he wants to say and what theo needs to hear to prevent theo from bolting before he can bring him down.

matthias takes a long time cleaning theo up and massaging his muscles after, and he'll hum or talk to himself in polish so theo knows he's still there touching him (but isn't stirred before he comes to himself on his own by english he can understand). when he's finished, he'll ask theo very simple yes or no questions that let matthias know how theo's feeling without outright asking how he's feeling. he also checks on theo throughout the day, but he has to be even more subtle there or theo starts to feel smothered. is your body okay? do you want me to get you dressed? does your head hurt? do you want me to read to you? he focuses on asking about the physical and what theo wants to do rather than theo’s emotions. matthias has learned that asking if theo's feeling okay after is a quick way to trigger a very, very negative response in theo. it's one of the reasons why i think matthias is constantly asking theo in the heat of sex how he's feeling, because that's when theo is so preoccupied by the physical aspect that the emotional effects leak out without him fighting to keep them in. it takes a few months for theo to get comfortable with the feelings he has after sex with him before matthias can really give him proper aftercare. that’s why the sex they have early on is never anything too crazy. matthias coaxes theo into a better place first.

​i also think it’s important to clarify that it’s not like they’re always having kinky sex. still, theo usually needs physical touch after vanilla sex as well. matthias himself always craves conversation afterwards, so he waits for theo to stir awake (because he often falls asleep after sex) or come back into his body fully to talk to him.

as for changes to their sex life after they’ve been together for awhile… i believe i've talked about this before, but their sexual dynamic turns on its head after a few years. theo starts to take control of the reins and gets more comfortable asking for and doing what he wants. with theo he just has a lot holding him back and it's only after he's grown as a person and worked past a majority of his intimacy issues that he can act on the desires he's been burying waaay down. there's a sort of brattiness that theo starts to have a lot of fun with during sex—a lot of pushing and prodding, withholding, insulting... matthias is having the time of his life lmao, like he loves being challenged and pushed around. matthias takes on a more submissive role during sex as they age, which is fun for him. plus it's kind of the dynamic they've always had outside of sex anyway. of course, there are never any set roles in their sexual life so i'm not saying that it's always like that, but theo enjoys telling matthias what to do and how to do it. they have a lot of fun with it.

#river dipping #asks #anonymous #oc extras #nsft #theodore doe #matthias evanoff #a burning house to live in #echthroi #finally done..... actually patting myself on the back for being able to answer all of these in a day and a half like #normally being asked anything abt my ocs takes me forever to get to bc i just take everything so seriously #......................................exhibit a: this reply jnjhkjfnghk #my ocs are just really complicated so i feel like i have to really expand upon each new bit of information #like theo is NOT ! well adjusted in the slightest #and while matthias can read people very easily it doesn't mean that there aren't times where he messes up #theo is very closed off and he will lash out at the slightest thing that spooks him #and he also... is not really experienced in having good sex yk? so he's so bad at aftercare which i guess is like. well. #good thing your partner is someone who's used to being left to his own devices after experiencing major physical and emotional stressors #matthias can usually take himself out of a scene just because of the nature of his past... #but i think theo does pick up on what matthias does for him after awhile and he tries incorporating it into 'aftercare' #but................. i don't think he really understands what all he should be saying and doing for a few years like not until he's #domming matthias more frequently and has taken the time to look at The Internet lmao jkfjnhkjn i imagine it shocks him a bit #matthias may be good at sex but he does have his blind spots and those normally involve himself… so he never told theo that what he does #for him should be reciprocated………… additionally matthias is very much a giver not a taker #like he doesn’t expect or even really want theo to ask how he’s feeling. but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t need that. #….have been rereading this for the last thirty minutes idk why this is what i’m like Yikes ! about responding to 😭 #whatever post ‼️ theo isn’t good at sex i’ve said it before who can be surprised he gives zero aftercare