#& THEN her father dies.

[thegunslingerletmedrop]

#911 abc #911edit #chimney han #911 gifs #madney #kevin lee #maddie buckley #glmdedit #jee yun buckley han #albert han #henrietta wilson #karen wilson #john lee #anne lee #eddie diaz #evan buckley #ravi panikkar #bobby nash #look i hope people are as emotionally damaged by this as i was making it #we only had kevin for like 25 mins but i've never gotten over him #this guy has every reason to be a horrible miserable character but no #no he's the coolest cheeriest funniest caring man alive #sick dead mom at a young age and abandoned by an absent father and taking care of sick after her diagnosis #ideas constantly shut down for owning a business and losing his brother on the job #and also sorta losing mr lee who couldn't bear to see him without being reminded of kevin bc they were so intertwined #failing in love and getting stabbed and left for dead #oh and the rebar accident where he almost died again #losing the love of his life and then finding her but not being together with her

[shima-draws]

Ghost Cora AU where he’s actually been following Law around ever since he died but nobody has been able to see him, so all he’s able to do is watch Law get hurt and suffer in silence. UNTIL, miraculously, the battle of Dressrosa ends, and for some strange reason—through some supernatural bullshit or maybe just fate—one person is finally able to see him.

Law is sitting on the deck of the Yonta Maria watching everyone party when Luffy comes trotting over to him. And Luffy plops down beside him and says, “I’ve been meaning to ask, Torao, but who’s that really tall blonde guy with the funny makeup that’s been following you around?”

And Law’s just like

#Meanwhile Cora is absolutely THRILLED. LMAO #Eventually Zoro calls Perona over and since her devil fruit power deals with ghosts. She makes it so that Law can see Cora too #(And by some bs he’ll probably be brought back to life somehow idk) #One Piece #Trafalgar Law #Donquixote Rosinante #Cora #Corazon #Luffy #Law: Ha. Haha. #Law: You’re shitting me right. #Luffy: ??? What? No? #Cora: LAWWWWWW 😭😭😭 #Luffy: He’s crying your name this guy CLEARLY knows you Torao #Law; having a mental breakdown: Uh. Uh-huh??? #Shima speaks #Sorry I’m coping. I’m coping really hard rn #Actually. I feel like I was more upset about Cora’s death than Ace’s. WHICH LIKE. YOU’D THINK IT WOULD BE THE OTHER WAY AROUND BUT #I’m very. Very weak for the unsuspecting father figure who dies trope #(Sideeyes Tony and Harry (who didn’t even die anyway but it was still Traumatic for Eggsy to watch)) #COUGHS

[youregonnabeokay-kid]

“Ask me for sanctuary”

SCREAMING, CRYING, BAWLING MY EYES OUT

#SHUT THE FUCK UP #thinking about maria crushed under the rubble of a hotel because she loved her family too much #thinking about bianca crushed by talos because she loved her brother too much #thinking about nico ten years old and losing everything he loves #lost confused unable to think clearly without his mom and sister by his side #thinking about hades doing everything in his power to get nico to not leave to stay with him in the underworld where he can protect him #thinking about nico praying to his father in agony after he lost another person because he was right it’s too much no one’s safe at camp #pjo tv show #pjo spoilers #percy jackson #percy jackon and the olympians #hades #hades pjo #maria di angelo #bianca di angelo #nico di angelo

[marzipanandminutiae]

I was just looking into the notion that widowers only had to mourn for 1 year after their wives' deaths, during the Victorian era, while widows had to mourn for two. because I've heard that a lot, but it seems to jive more with the Pop History version of the era where mourning existed because Imposing Rules On People Is Fun and All Marriages Were For Money than with the real version, inhabited by real people who idealized love matches and theoretically practiced formal mourning to show that they were going through something and needed gentle treatment

what I've gathered from a brief search for period sources seems to be:

one source from 1839 mentioned the "widows = 2 years; widowers = 1 year" thing

every other source I read (about 7, from various points in the era) implied or stated that the minimum normal period of mourning for widows and widowers was the same

That's a small sample size, but I still think it's significant

men's clothing could often be harder to visibly alter to reflect mourning, relying heavily on things like black cufflinks and collar studs that could be trickier to notice at first glance than. you know. a bonnet with a black veil over someone's face

a lot of sources talking about mourning clothes were fashion magazines aimed at women, and thus would be more likely to talk about women's mourning attire than men's

so my takeaway is that while some people at some parts of this 60-year period felt it acceptable for widowers to mourn for half the period of widows, many others at other times expected any bereaved spouse regardless of gender. obviously, in a highly misogynistic society, women's adherence to ettiquette could be much more scrutinized than men's; a widower who married six months after his wife's death would be looked askance at, but probably not subject to as much censure as a widow who did the same. and obviously, things don't go according to plan and the formal mourning system could of course backfire- forcing a woman into months of social seclusion for an abusive husband, for example

but.

the overall goal was to convey "handle with care" to the outside world. for many people, widowers were expected to need as much care as widows- and therefore to mourn for the same length of time

#victorian #victorian mourning #history #social history #a friend in my costumer circle said she wished she'd had a better way to signal her bereavement when her father died (she was 17) #because nowadays there really isn't a way to convey the same 'handle with care' message #so she really saw the utility of codified mourning signals

[trobeds]

i know the hunger games isnt about romance i know it isnt a love story but. theres just something so beautiful in the way peeta is the personification of what it means to heal and he /is/ the dandelion and the bread and the hope that things can be better even if they wont be fixed. even if the nightmares dont stop he will still hold her. wake her up and tell her shes alive. shes safe. and when its over and done and theres no more saving or protecting or trying their absolute hardest to die if it means keeping the other alive, the horrors dont stop. but katniss will still find that comfort in peetas arms.

#and peeta Goes Through It too but hes there!!!!!!!! hes always there and hes kind and artistic and peaceful and good and everything that #the games could never destroy (the hijacking couldve but he found his way back. he still wonders whats real sometimes but he knows. he know #who he is. a painter a baker and a boy who loves. she reminds him of that love too) #anyways :( katniss longs for peetas arms and nobodys been this gentle with her since her father died and she stopped letting her mother #hold her. and peeta does #something about the way he holds her so so gently with so much love and care despite all the destruction and how peeta counteracts the fire #in katniss. the one that tells her she needs to protect and defend and prioritize keeping her family alive and keep her guard up. but hes #there to comfort her and hold her and protect her and those r all the things katniss doesnt get the privilege of thinking about because she #always thinking about who she needs to protect #its so personal to me. god i am Not okay rn #i have a rehearsal before school tmr and i am sooooo sleepy but. insane thoughts can never wait #everlark #katniss everdeen #peeta mellark #peeniss #< the real ship name #the hunger games #thg #late night thoughts & all that jazz #🫀

[ovaruling]

i am so sick of this

there is an established relationship between advanced age of the father and risks to the mother, to the pregnancy, to the fetus, and later to the child.

older men’s ticking biological clocks are harmful. their ages literally compound the dangers to women and to the children they have. increased age of fathers is related to things like gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and preterm birth, just to make a few. later health and mental problems have been observed in children of older fathers.

the number of older fathers is increasing. men feel entitled to father children well into elderliness. men also tend to seek out young women with which to have these children. the maternal mortality rate in the U.S. is currently the highest it has been since the 1960s. abortion rights in the U.S. are in extreme peril. this altogether makes the risk to women who reproduce w/ older men much, much greater.

i think we as a society need to start talking about this a bit.

screenshots of additional NYT article under the cut because i couldn’t figure out how to link without the paywall.

#was i not just talking about this #like come the fuck on. #personally my father was 45 when i was conceived (my mother was in her 20s) and i almost died at birth #my mother’s pregnancy was extremely high risk and caused permanent damage to her health #same thing happened with my younger sister—he was 50 when she was conceived #both my sister and i have suffered very poor health throughout childhood and adulthood #and we both have autoimmune disorders that are the first of their kind in either side of the family #just saying. #tagging for ref #older fathers #save

[starbuck]

the only coping mechanisms black sails characters know are

- gay sex

- repressing every emotion

- mass murder

#sometimes all at once! #might make a venn diagram of this later #Anne and Flint in the middle… #and also Eleanor tbh… she sets assassins on Jack’s crew because her father died… that counts #black sails

[freakshowcowboy]

hello.

#this is based on the scene when cas first enters jimmy just before he tells claire hes not her father so i almost captioned this #new body who dis #but i like this too much to make it a joke #castiel #supernatural #draws #spn #anyways im not joking when i say i lost like 5 hours drawing this #i hadnt drawn in probably a couple months by now and the euphoria of drawing again put me on such a high i started this at 7 #then suddenly it was midnight and i was dizzy bc i hadnt eaten since lunch #i have like. maybe 30 minutes of drawing this in my memory everything else is a haze

[godofstupidsentences]

The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes, Suzanne Collins / Antigone, Sofocles

How do you mourn a brother you wanted dead?

#does this makes sense? #I hope it does #i was rereading the Antigone and for some reasons this quote made me think of Tigris #of her feelings after snow died #the Snow she despised and wanted dead #the same Snow that was Coryo once #does she mourn that boy or has she been doing that since she first saw his father in Snow’s eyes? #does she finally feel relieved because the monster is dead? #i just love her so much #her story breaks my heart #my girl Tigris you deserved so much better #tigris snow #coriolanus snow #hunger games #the ballad of songbirds and snakes

[prideprejudce]

AU Reds Poster: Alicent joins Rhaenrya as her advisor and wife after escaping her father's influence.

She escapes Kings Landing with Helaena and her grandchildren just in time. Unfortunately, her father has already sunk his teeth into her two sons who are ready to fight for their right to the iron throne. How will Alicent choose between her family and her beloved Rhaenyra when the time comes?

#alicent hightower #rhaenyra targaryen #alicent x rhaenyra #rhaenicent #rhaenyra x alicent #house of the dragon #hotd season 2 #im sorry the posters just looked so good next to each other and alicent looks like she's gazing at rhaenyra with worry #basically alicent had an epiphany after viserys died (him screaming about the chosen one crap didn't happen) #but her father already had the ball and floor moving for the crown and to overthrow rhaenyra #and alicent had a dream or prophecy that told her that the greens would destroy the entire kingdom and her family including their lineage #she tried to convince aegon to leave with her too but he was already drunk on power and not listening to her anymore #so she goes to find rhaenyra to play peacemaker and diplomat and reluctantly joins team red #but then aemond kills luke and things go to shit #helaena is then betrothed to jace to protect both her and her grandchildren #and she basically serves as rhaenyra's conscious and calm to her storm through the war #in the end daemon gets exiled after killing aemond and betraying rhaenyra's orders #otto is killed for treason and aegon forfeits the crown for his life #jace and helaena rule after rhaenyra one day passes and wives live happy together #it makes sense because I say it makes sense

[pookie-mulder]

whaddup cassie time to get some new names

#since my x files Venn diagram performed so well I thought I’d do a tsc one too #(Jonathan Wayland here is not jace. he’s the actual JW who died) #Jonathan Clark is the man Jocelyn told clary was her father #I included Johnny Rook even though we don’t know if he’s really a Jonathan or not #anyway #tsc #the shadowhunter chronicles #shadowhunters #jace herondale #kit herondale #christopher lightwood #cassandra clare #the mortal instruments #the last hours #the dark artifices #the wicked powers

[howtodrawyourdragon]

Whenever I see a post about Chief Hiccup (or watch Httyd 2, for that matter) I'm always reminded of how Stoick did not want his son to become chief the way he did.

Maybe it's because Stoick saw his reluctance to succeed him, maybe it's something Stoick went through himself when he became chief and he wanted to spare his son the pain, but he had a plan. He was going to retire. Step down and let Hiccup take over in his stead. That way, his father could ease him into this insanely big responsibility, could be there to guide him, help him with the tough stuff he knows Hiccup might have trouble with.

Except, then he dies at Drago's hands. And Hiccup ends up thrusted into a position a feared to be in. And yeah, he does it mostly alone, just as his father did before him, which is exactly what Stoick was hoping to avoid.

#in the shows stoick has the council but hiccup mentions that his father just ignores them whenever it suits him #and gobber doesn't count either because gobber helped stoick with hiccup specifically #we have no idea which role valka plays in all of this but stoick chiefed 20 years without her #and with berk's past with dragons there's the likelihood that stoick became chief because his own father died #and as for hiccup he feared the position because he wasn't sure if he could be the chief his father was #because he and his father are so different in his eyes #completely missing their similarities as well as the differences that could actually benefit berk and have been benefitting berk #i just feel like hiccup wouldn't have such a hard time or even take his ascension as hard if it wasn't for his father's untimely death #httyd movies #httyd 2 #how to train your dragon 2 #hiccup haddock #stoick the vast #the haddocks

[whitestormsaystransrights]

Why do you have to make up for being you?

Because I always let everyone down.

#wc #warrior cats #my art #tigerstar #warriors #tigerstar 2.0 #Tigerheart #dovewing #Dawnpelt and flametail are dead and he couldn’t do anything about it #dawnpelts children are dead and he wasn’t there to save them #his father died and Shadowclan fell apart because he wasn’t there #dovewing ran away from him and he let her down #he trained in the dark forest with the first Tigerstar #do you think any of tears him apart inside? #to know he keeps making mistakes and can’t help everyone #do you think he tries so hard to do the right thing now to make up for all of it? #he chose juniperclaw as deputy and he poisoned people #tawnyplet refused to be his deputy #he can’t get things right #but he has too #rowankit is dead #do these things sit with Tigerheart and eat away at him? #is he desperate to save Riverclan to prove he’s better than his mistakes? his past? #he’s wants to be right because he can’t stand to be wrong again #do you ever think Tigerheart’s mistakes ever get to him?

[iwasbored777]

When Peni smiles in the end despite being so numb earlier it made me smile too. The moment wasn't exactly happy when she showed up, she couldn't smile then unlike now, it's a whole different mood in these two scenes. And when we take in consideration that she had her disastrous canon event play out before ATSV, she's happy now because she has her old friends back which makes this even more wholesome.

#she couldn't laugh when she said hi to Miles after he just found out his father will die #in case y'all wondering peni lost her aunt and friend they died in a painful way #peni parker #spider man across the spider verse #across the spiderverse #spiderverse

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 116

Give Battinson robins but it’s DCxDP style with ghosts. 

His kids are… technically not from his world and technically not alive either, but that doesn’t stop him from adopting them. Even if he wasn’t aware of them being literal ghosts for the first few hours of encountering them. 

How did they get here? Well, you see, sometimes child ghosts will run into each other, and they’ll form their own little friend groups. Or family groups. Especially if they lack a guardian. Who would tell them not to mess with natural portals. 

Or to kidnap a phantom to play with them, but hey he’s enjoying himself too and has a puppy! The bestest boy!

Bruce was not prepared for some sort of energy-thing to open and spit out a good half a dozen children. Nor was he prepared for these children to all have powers, or for another child (thankfully a teen) to fall into the cave a few weeks later. 

#dcxdp #dpxdc #battinson #prompts #Dick died alongside his parents when the line snapped #Barbara died to the mob when her father refused to be bribed #Jason died out in the cold on the streets after surviving for a year #Cass died after escaping her father- training for killing doesn’t always translate to training for survival #Tim died from neglect alone in his parents’ home while it was covered up #Steph died before her mother tried to get help with her addictions #Duke died from an attack in the narrows #Damian died from a ‘trainer’ who wanted revenge against Talia & Ras #Danny was searching for his ghost friends with Cujo's help but tripped #It all worked out though #Bruce sobbing to Alfred: Why are there so many hurt children #Bruce grabbing all of them including Danny: My children now #He gets horrifyingly good at picking up stealth what with his kids being literal ghosts #Gets a bit of a mom sense for whenever they're doing something they shouldn't #Some idiot: I shall kill the Robins! #Batman: #Y'know what the robins deserve star cores #with big bro space core danny #god can you imagine if battinson became liminal lol

[doortotomorrow]

characters in the spotlight » john murphy : connections

#The 100 #John Murphy #Richard Harmon #the100edit #all of Murphy's most important relationships #Emori: the person who showed him what true love is and where he found his home #Jaha: the essential catalyst for his entire character arc #Bellamy: once his most bitter adversary now turned brother #Indra: the first positive parental figure he's had in his life since his father died #Clarke: started off as enemies but now he's the fun uncle to her daughter #Raven: the first person to truly forgive him leading to them creating a strong friendship