#12 step

[rustmaxxing]

Always a great post but the recovery understander in me is obligated to go 🤓👆 Um actually, alcoholism and substance abuse issues are not separate concepts. The disease of addiction and fundamental “allergy” (as articulated in the Big Book) is the same, just the specific substance is different. Alcohol is a drug! We cannot afford to be confused about this!

#rtxt #recovery #12 step

[haptureratch]

Recovery is much more about dealing with our underlying co-dependency, guilt, shame and fear of abandonment issues. It is about not replacing one symptom with another. It is about not trying to control those around us. It is about having and trusting our feelings and of getting our emotional needs met in healthy ways. It is about feeling like we belong; that we are not better or worse than others. It is about feeling that the world is basically a safe place to be, and that we are okay in the world.

Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families by John Friel & Linda Friel (pg. 178)

#adult children #family systems #internal family systems #codependency #recovery #12 step #it made me crey and so it goes on the blog :<

[quesadillacorner]

Ryan Mitchell - "Ruin My Life" (Official Music Video)

#youtube #ruin my life #12 step #toxic relationship #rock star #rainy day #tattoos #young love #help #goth girl #love hurts #very bad day

[terracegallery]

Serenity Prayer...

I felt like this white iris was the perfect backdrop for The Serenity Prayer. Irises are my favorite flower! GET IT HERE.

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#12 step #12 step program #christian art #christian gifts #christian home #healing art #iris #iris prints #irises #modern art #prayer #praying #recovery #serenity #serenity prayer #sharon cummings #sharon cummings art #substance abuse recovery #twelve step #white flowers #white iris

[vampirechatroom]

people who eat hella loud during 12-step meetings are so disrespectful like i do not think bill w would have wanted u loudly crunching doritos while someone is sharing about how their addiction almost killed them. actually scratch that, bill would just be happy you showed up. it’s me who is the judgmental bitch here.

#12 step #aa #recovery #and yes i'm working on it!!!!!!

[explode-this]

how much of what we know about ‘addiction’ has been made up to fit the idea that it is a ‘disease’? What complex functions of human nature are we ignoring to force a person’s behavioral compulsions into a model that has no backing of actual studies because agenda took the helm? I wish more people would read Chaz Bufe’s “AA: Cult or Cure?” and Joe Miller’s “The United States of AA” to get an idea of where a lot of it came from. If I were granted the wish of one Behind the Bastards episode/series it would be not on Bill Wilson but Mrs. Marty Mann (aka the lesbian who took her name and honorific from a marriage of convenience so she could hide behind it/not hurt the “reputation” of AA by being known as a lesbian, while being the most lesbian a lesbian can be, e.g., owning a housing in Cherry Grove on Fire Island). She was a PR wizard who managed to strongarm the AMA into adopting the hypothesis that ‘alcoholism’ could be a disease—once she was able to get even the barest acknowledgement that it could be likened to a disease, the PR cogs were set in motion, and people have been swallowing this idea wholesale ever since. I don’t expect anyone who goes to a 12 step group in a state of utter desperation to know these things or do scads of research before they begin; when a person feels overwhelmed by their problem and needs help, that’s the last thing they’re going to do. But the structure is such that research and free thought are discouraged (or summarily dismissed as “stinking thinking”)—often from an ‘experienced’ sponsor to the newcomer in a power dynamic that could best be described as a ‘cult of two’—and someone can find themselves convinced of something that has no basis in reality, more scared of themselves than they ever were under the influence of whatever they were medicating with, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, shopping, or sex.

If you struggle with substances (a behavioral compulsion with threads of chemical dependence), then you owe it to yourself to read widely. You are not broken or diseased—you are a human being, being human. The severity of your struggles don’t put you in a class above or below all others with their own behavioral issues, and you don’t need to close yourself off from the world at large to find community that understands you. Guidance and fellowship are awesome but you also don’t need to take a single person or group’s word for it when you have the capability to seek and parse other information. I’m not even asking you to take my word for it—I’ve only listed two authors and books but I’ve read more than just those, including Dr. Lance Dodes and Dr. Gabor Mate. I have plenty more on my to read pile. I got into the research after feeling completely overwhelmed by the stifling nature of Al-Anon, which I likened—then kindly—to “emotional kindergarten.” I think there are lots of people in 12 step groups that feel that there’s something more to life than endless meetings and a perpetual recovery with no exit into ordinary life, but are actively discouraged from looking outside of “the rooms” for help. You’re allowed to look beyond the first measure of help. It is not the only way. (I dare say it’s not the way at all, but again, that’s my opinion based on my own research.) if people are trotting out the notion that your only alternatives are “jails, institutions, or death,” but also say “you’re free to leave at any time,” you will get stuck somewhere in the middle, and you deserve more than to be merely held in place for the rest of your life, afraid that thinking for yourself will lead to a downward spiral.

#12 step #alcoholics anonymous #yes i know opinions assholes etc. #but maybe listen to opinions outside of a mentor-mentee relationship #or the word of a book that is frankly more terribly written than even neon gods

[youarenotaloneyouareamazing]

BLOG 100 (J) A Flood of Addiction Deaths.

Addiction is a condition, in which a person engages in a harmful behavior, for which the momentary rewarding effects provide such a compelling incentive to repeatedly pursue the behavior, that the consequences are overshadowed, until it’s too late. e.g. the now good feelings, outweighs the possible bad consequences. Most are guilty of living by, this we want what we want, or what makes us feel…

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#12 step #addict #addiction #alcohol #alcoholic #bible #big book #drugs #drunk #God #help #Higher power #Jesus #love #rehab #sinner #sins #sober #sobriety #truth

[krazieka2]

Baby Emblem. Three Babies

#carrying over my posts from twitter choo chooooo #2024 art #Dedue is the dad that stepped up #Hilda is the mom that stepped down #Hubert is the dad that stepped into panic mode and won't let anyone within a 12 foot radius of Edelgard #meanwhile the Ashen Wolves are hiding behind a pillar watching baby Yuri gurgle on the floor #wondering when Aelfric will show up to save them #Fe3h #Fire Emblem #The entire Golden Deer classroom stepped down tbh #Raphael save them Raphael #BL collective: together we can raise Dimitri in a safer and kinder way #GD: together we can make Claude even worse #BE: together we can figure out whose baby Hubert just kidnapped

[saradaltoncoaching]

How To Know When It’s Time For Change: Spotting Your Breaking Point

How do you figure out why you feel so bad and figure out when it's time to make a change? How do you spot misery in your life so you can do something about it? Here's a peek at my story and what I did to heal my mind, body, and spirit. #recoveryispossible

I would’ve paid someone an obscene amount of money to fix things for me. Even better, I would’ve paid anyone to tell me what was wrong with my life as to why I felt so miserable in my life that I wanted to die because I could only see a future with my life the way it was and no improvement. I couldn’t see a way out of my life and that made me want to NOT keep going. Suicide ideation you could…

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#12 step #aca #black and white thinking #breaking point #control #coronavirus pandemic #criticism #depression #happiness #heal your life #how I feel about what happened to me #injury #mind body connection #pain #perfectionism #recovery #sarathlete #spotting your breaking point #what happened to me #what happened to you

[catgirljaneway]

i'm sorry about this one guys

#i could only choose 12 women i am so sorry about everyone who is missing....... #i am trying #anyways my jurassic park star trek poll ended so i thought i'd make another and this seemed like the logical next step #trek thoughts #star trek poll #star trek #voyager #captain janeway #nyota uhura #seven of nine #jadzia dax #kira nerys #b'elanna torres #leeta #grilka #t'pring #guinan #the borg queen #ds9 #voy #tng #tos #star trek women

[rustmaxxing]

Going to dinner after a meeting with your friend is about sitting in a dead silent 2 star restaurant seething about the other drug addicts like “I’m so fucking resentful right now. I’m gonna drink the blood of their children” and then getting ice cream for dessert

#rtxt #12 step

[ryanschwantes]

(via 3 Reasons the Non-12 Step Model is Better than the 12 Step Model)

#addiction #non 12 step #12 step

[emotional-recovery]

I've been working on my steps for 5 months, and fucked up real bad, let myself get angry and it happened again. I fucked up, was mean and spiteful in that way I can be. This ain't who I wanna be, not by a long shot.

The great thing about hating yourself is that you're never very far from being able to confirm it yet again.

I know it's a long way to go, but do I have to be saddled with this bitch the whole way? Every time I turn around, she's there. And she's me.

#emotions anonymous #12 step #emotional sobriety #grief

[your-favourite-plague]

I admired Disco Elysium fandom from afar for some time now, but I was too intimidated by its quality to post anything. But while doing random scribbles I've got carried away, ended up with this, and I think it's kinda ok???

#I'm stepping out of my comfort zone in at least four different ways with this one #last time I had colored pencils in my hand was like 12? years ago #so idk what I'm doing I just bought a cheap set to try something new #but i had fun drawing it and that's all that matters #disco elysium #harry du bois

[vampirechatroom]

one thing about 12 step meetings is that you can share something that makes you sound totally unhinged and shitty and men will still hit on you! it’s incredible. 

#like oh does my resentment/extensive trauma/fear of commitment and vulnerability turn you on? #12 step

[six-tooth]

Couquette Gangle? 🎀

I really need to draw her more often

#my art #fanart #the amazing digital circus #tadc #gangle #I have not used this much pink in a drawing since I was 12 #stepping out of my comfort zone for sure