#2020 at 10:30AM

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

wibta if i refused to help my classmates going forward?

i am in university for a science degree. i have been struggling for almost my entire degree due to undiagnosed ADHD and autism, as well as my habit from grade school of working myself too hard. i went into burnout from 2020-2022 and failed most courses i took. i had to cut down on my work significantly so i could stay in university and finish my degree. it's been 5 years and i'm just over halfway finished. the end's not in sight yet, but it's getting there.

this semester, i'm taking two courses that i've struggled in previously and am retaking actually. the term will most likely be over once this is posted. one i've finished twice but didn't have a high enough grade to move forward (chemistry) and the other i've dropped 2 times before to avoid failing (calculus). the subject areas might give more context, and my chemistry course isn't introductory. they're also notoriously very difficult, and most people end up retaking this chemistry course several times. they're both needed for my degree and a similar degree. someone in both classes (2 different people) made group chats specifically so we could help each other. at first it was a very good idea, and i myself benefitted from them, managing to get a really high mark on a math assignment because of the group chat and sharing our work/processes.

this term is the one term we have a mid-semester break, and while the details are irrelevant here, i went away during this break, and i came back in a fairly poor mental state. i didn't want to share my work anymore, and said i was uncomfortable doing so. this got me mocked (i believe, but no one's commented on it or said anything to me about it) in my math class group chat when i asked for the notes after having to leave class early due to the noise. i have misophonia, and i was incredibly close to shouting "shut the fuck up" one say when they honestly just wouldn't stop talking. it's been a problem this term in this class where several groups in the class have been chatting amongst themselves during lecture. my friend (i think we're friends?) emailed our professor (i think i was named in the email), and he addressed the class about it, but as a whole, has told me directly that there wasn't much else he could do about it since they might be talking to each other to understand better.

at this point, there's only about 3 weeks left of classes and then finals, so it's not worth dropping out, especially since i don't think i'm in danger of failing. but that was all kind of just background info. it's been a rough semester for me.

in my chemistry class, we have weekly lab reports. they aren't huge, 10+ page reports, and i can usually do them in about 2-3 hours of work total. i usually work on them in small pieces throughout the week, so i can focus on other assignments as well as lectures. they're due at the beginning of lab, and we have lab on friday afternoons. this wouldn't be an issue if not for thursdays.

at the beginning of the semester, i made myself kinda known as Someone Who Has Answers. i like to help people when they're struggling, and i know that these are difficult classes, and i have past experience taking them with these instructors specifically, so i helped in any which way i could. after our mid-semester break, i was in no mood to help anyone. but on thursday evenings and friday mornings, i would get text messages from a few people asking me about the lab report. but not just a few messages. i would get asked on EVERY BIT of the lab report. i try to be patient, as i understand hidden struggles. but i was at the end of my rope. i never snapped, and i always tried to help them, but sometimes i was very frustrated because on thursdays, i have 2 classes (doesn't sound like a lot, but at my school, my lectures are 2-3 hours long, so it's about 5 hours total of lectures) at two different campuses, so i leave at about 7:30am and get home at about 5:30-6:00pm. it's my night to clean the kitchen as well, so my patience is very thin at the end of the day. i never agreed to help them, and they are texting me. i don't know how to tell them "i'm in no mood to help" but it made me so upset to the point that i was saying that next semester, i wouldn't give my number to anyone. i'm not a tutor, and i'm struggling to stay afloat myself in these classes. i don't have all of the answers, and tbh i'm not even confident on most of my answers. i've tried to make this clear, but they still come to me for help. next semester, i'm retaking ANOTHER course that i failed (not failed, but didn't get a high enough mark to move forward) and i honestly feel like a dick for not helping when i could and should help.

this is probably a nonissue tbh. i'm on the verge of dropping out myself because i took on too much this semester and this just kinda feels like it's all more than i can handle.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[poop4u]

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[californiastatelibrary]

Join CalMatters in a conversation about ways to help Californians become more active, engaged, and informed voters in 2024.

Voting is a fundamental act of civic participation through which people elect local and federal officials who represent their values and concerns. However, voter turnout fell across the board to 51% in 2022 from 81% in 2020, but it fell far more among voters of color, according to the Public Policy Institute of California.

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#california #voting #elections #libraries

[bighermie]

[LIVE Q&A 03/18 at 10:30AM ET] Corporate Media Remove Context From Trump Speech to Manufacture Scandal

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[remembertheplunge]

A freeway is a river of metal and blood and bones

12/20/2020

I’m writing this from Stockton Court House Court Room 8b. Waiting for my case to be called. 

I hit the gym on the way up to Stockton from Modesto this morning. The gym, Cal Fit, in Manteca, is half way between Modesto and Stockton. I finished with the gym, headed out for Stockton about 7:20am. I was due in court at 8:30am. 

It was a normal day up to that point. I listened to KPFA Radio while I worked out and listened to " Democracy Now” as I do most week day mornings.  I rounded the turn from Lathrop road to head north on  Highway 99 to Stockton and normalcy evaporated.

Traffic on 99 was stopped. I soon learned there had been a 3 car collision 10 miles north on 99. One fatality. As traffic inched north, I had a chance to study the terrain that is usually a blur as I whiz by on 99. The bottom of the Lathrop Road overpass. A monument to sterility. I’ve driven over it 1000 times. Even got rear ended on it once. It’s designed poorly. It’s confusing to negotiate. But, as I sat there under it, no evidence of humanity, or of beauty. Not even tagging.

Up the highway aways to my right, sitting maybe 50 feet back  from 99, was a large, weather beaten barn. Next to it was a sad looking two story house. The barn looked as if I hadn’t been entered for decades. It had 20 foot by 10 feet corrugated doors over it’s huge entryway that appeared to be impossible to open.The house had a drab, rundown feel to it. Two sad observers of our endless mad rush on 99.

A freeway is a river of metal and blood and bones. To attempt tp cross it on foot would be practically suicidal. 

A few days before today, I stood and watched cars and trucks passing along Highway 90. They move at incredible speed. It’s not hard to see as an outsider how potentially fatal a crash at that speed could be. But, inside the car, at 60mph, you have the illusion of safety. But, the reality is, you might not survive the trip.

Which was the case of the driver who died on 99 this morning.

I decided to cut West off 99 by getting off on French Camp road. From there I could take I 5 to Stockton.  A lot of people on 99 had the same idea. So traffic again was very slow for a time. Eventually we inched past the French Camp cemetery and Funeral chapel.

I don’t remember seeing it before. There must have been 1000 head stones in the huge cemetery. 

The crash on 99 thus altered the Universe. It transformed the rush and blur of the commute into a form of mobile awareness  and observation.  Do we rush causing the world to  blur so as to be moving too fast to acknowledge that all of our rushing will end as a tomb stone monument among  the 1000? The crash caused us to pause. To remember. That all of this is transitory. 

#writing #freeway blur #freeway fataliy #passing by a cemetary #awareness and observation #modern sterility #12/20/2023

[vulqan]

i just put Kitty to bed for the last time and immediately burst into tears so y'know. we're coping well in the Star household.

(we moved his euth to tomorrow afternoon. he went suddenly downhill after i posted the other day and i couldn't face making him wait another 10 days.)

it's routine, you know?

after Max died in 2021, Kitty seemed to go downhill cognitively and would wander the house at night howling, so we took to having him sleep with my family member downstairs so that he had less real estate to work with. as soon as my family member goes to bed, i bring him downstairs and put him to bed with them. and i won't get to do that ever again and i just. fuck

he won't ever wake me up at 7:30am with his demand meows to "open the fucking door so i can get under the blanket with you, woman" again after tomorrow.

i won't have to torture him with a nightly pharmacy of meds.

this is the kindest thing. it is. it just hurts so fucking bad losing him.

i've said it before and i'll say it again: no more animals for a long time after this. Sugar in 2017, Tiger in 2020, Figaro in 2021, Max in 2021, Calypso in 2023. i'm so, so tired of grieving.

#* #tw pet death #babycat #kittyboi

[aaliyahunleashed]

February 05, 1979 - January 11th 2010.

In loving memory of Tawana McGowan who lost her life in a senseless act of violence on the morning of January 11th 2010.

<< WARNING: The following may be disturbing to some. >>

McGowan had just finished a late shift and arrived home around 8:30am to take her 10 year old son to school. McGowan was approached by an individual who shot her twice (in the head) in her driveway before fleeing in a car.

McGowan’s 10 year son was the first to find his mother lying in a pool of blood face down in the snow. Although McGowan’s ex (their child’s father) is considered a “person of interest” there have been no arrests and the killer remains at large.

In 2019 the family put up a $2500 reward for information pertaining to the killing of Tawana Alisha McGowan; who was 31 years old at the time of death.

Family and friends believe the Redford Police Department’s lack of questioning and reasonable pursuit for the killer have caused the case to go cold to the point of being closed as unsolved. A petition was started June 5th 2020 along with a gofund me page in efforts to have the case reopened, and handled properly in hopes that McGowan’s justice will finally come.

She is not just another (black) face; she was a mother, a wife and a good friend – Justice for Tawana! #justicefortawanamcgowan

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If you have or know anyone who has information pertaining to the senseless killing of Tawana McGowan on the morning of January 11th 2010.

Please reach out to

Redford Police Department - [phone]

Non Urgent phone calls to 313-387-2551 or number ending in 2555.

@Redford.Twp.Police

Or you can call 1-800-SPEAKUP or visit 1800SPEAKUP.org

Rest In Heavenly Paradise to this Beautiful Queen; who should be here with us and her son.

#RipTawanaMcGowan #RIPTawana #RIPAaliyah #truecrime #Crimestoppers #Unsolved #unsolvedmystery #inlovingmemory #michigan

[theculturedmarxist]

If you're wondering why Democrats are doing fuck all about RvW

Democratic House campaigns in battleground districts across the country have seen a surge of donations — and new donors — in the wake of the Supreme Court's decision last month overturning Roe v. Wade.

Why it matters: The sudden influx is a bright spot for Democrats in what has otherwise been a difficult campaign marked by rising inflation and costs, potentially validating a strategy of focusing more heavily on abortion on the campaign trail.

Driving the news: New York House candidatePat Ryan raised over $1 million in the six weeks since announcing his campaign, nearly 40% of which came in the week following the ruling, Axios has learned.

Ryan, who is running in the August special election in New York's 19th District, told Axios his race is "the first competitive congressional election in a post-Roe world" and that he plans to put abortion at "the center" of his campaign.

His best fundraising day of the campaign was June 26, the day after the ruling, followed by June 29 and 30.

By the numbers: Incumbent Democrats defending swing districts have seen similar surges, driven by increased digital engagement from grassroots donors.

Rep. Susan Wild (D-Pa.) raised over $1 million between April and June, her best quarter of the cycle, her spokesperson Sarah Carlson told Axios. Wild's online contributions from new donors more than doubled after the ruling.

Rep. Angie Craig's (D-Minn.) campaign saw a three-fold increase in text donations and a 60% increase in donations generated by Facebook ads.

Rep. Sharice Davids (D-Kan.) raised $100,000 in June, her best fundraising month of the cycle — driven by $20,000 raised from texts alone after the ruling.

What they're saying: "We are seeing an overwhelming response from supporters who feel strongly ... that holding the House is critical in the fight for reproductive rights," Carlson told Axios in a statement.

The big picture: The fundraising boon goes beyond House campaigns. Candidates up and down the ballot have seen their coffers swell, as have party committees.

The Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee, for instance, "broke cycle-long records" with its online content immediately following the ruling, according to a DSCC aide. The day of the ruling and the day after were its best and second-best days of the cycle, respectively.

The Democratic Governors Association said it raised $1 million in the week following the Dobbs decision — 10% of its overall fundraising in the first six months of 2022.

A total of $89 million was raised on ActBlue, the go-to online fundraising platform for Democrats, between 10:30am on June 24 — the day of the decision — and the end of June, spokesperson Mike Naple told Axios.

Reality check: Money may not be enough to save Democrats. House Democrats, for example, crushed the GOP in fundraising in 2020 only to lose seats.

Republicans still consistently lead, albeit narrowly, in generic ballot polling, and election forecasters like FiveThirtyEight have them as the clear favorites.

#democrats #roe v wade #roe vs. wade #scotus #us politics #government corruption #us political corruption

[philosophyofrachel]

#naclyoho day 10:

- filled a dozen frames with posters… they’re not hung, but they’re closer than they have been since I bought them in March 2020, to brighten up the apartment when we went into lockdown and I was laid off. Everyone know you have to let a poster acclimatise for 3.5 years before you frame it, right?

Tomorrow (it’s 1:30am, so later today) I need to get more command strips to hang the frames. I look forward to finally enjoying my 37th birthday present to myself, 4 whole months before I turn 41.

#naclyoho #salty pirates month

[dearfuturehusbandblog]

Hope Is A Stupid, Useless, Worthless Thing To Have

Dear Future Husband,

What did I ever do to God to deserve this life? 

I really, truly want to know. 

Who was I in a past life? Some kind of rival god? A murderer? What could I have possibly done that is so godawful that I am deserving of all the petty crap God throws my way every single frickin’ day? 

You know what today is? 

Day 21. 

Day 21 of no air conditioning. 

And you know what the “real feel” temperature was 12 hours ago? 99°. With humidity between 55-80%.

Yesterday was supposed to be the day they fix the air conditioner. Well, really that was Friday but after scheduling that day for the repair like two weeks ago, they updated with “we wouldn’t be able to come until the afternoon.” Ok, well, Shabbos still starts pretty late, so that shouldn’t be a problem, right? “And it’s an 8 hour repair.” Oh, and our building has a rule that unless it’s an emergency (which shockingly this is not??) all construction can’t start until 8am and has to be done by 4pm. Well, except when that construction is something our building manager is in charge of like the repair of an elevator that is right next to our apartment and set to start today at 5:30am. Kill me now.

But what happened with the repair yesterday? Oh, just that the replacement compressor they were supposed to install is ALSO broken. It took them like two weeks to get in THAT compressor, which means it’ll probably be another two weeks before they get in the replacement for the replacement.

I’m just so done with all of this.

The problem with no air conditioning is more than just no cool air to temper the insane heat. It also means nothing to condition the humidity out of the air, which means my bedroom is a swamp. 

I know I’ve referenced it in at least one of my recent posts, but I don’t remember if I actually shared the story about why my bedroom is a swamp, so let’s do that now. 

We moved into this apartment in 2019. We actually knew before we moved in that there was an issue with the a/c unit. We had come for a couple of Shabbos meals to the family that lived here and there was major paint peeling on the ceiling throughout the apartment, in particular near where the ducts run. One of the biggest problem areas was the smallest bedroom - the room that was designated to be mine. 

And so, before we moved in, we had a contractor go through and make some modifications and repairs, one of which was the whole vent/insulation issue in my bedroom. 

And guess what repair didn’t really work out well, after being assured that the issue was taken care of. Yeah.

So in July/August of 2020, less than a year after we moved in, I started to notice water spots on my ceiling in my closet and near my vents. We told the contractor and figured when he had time in his schedule again, he’d come and figure out why there was still an issue. Shortly after that a bubble formed on my wall. It turns out that the built up condensation from the duct in my ceiling had made its way through the insulation, through the drywall, and was coming down behind the paint on my wall, creating a water filled bubble. 

Of course, this happened on a Friday. 

I showed a picture of it to MotherLivelyHeart and in all her genius and wisdom, for the first time pretty ever, she called the contractor and demanded an immediate response. So while I was in the kitchen finishing up cooking for Shabbos, and less than an hour before licht benchen, despite my protestation and request that it wait until Monday, two of the contractor’s guys came over and ripped open my ceiling. Oh, I’m sorry, they didn’t just rip open the ceiling, they shoved everything that had been alongside that wall out of the way first, covering and blocking my bed with everything that had been under that entire section of ceiling. So when I finally got a chance to get into my room like 10 minutes before candle lighting, I couldn’t access my Shabbos light to turn it on, my bed was covered in muktza and a mountain of other stuff I didn’t have any place for, there was debris all over the floor from them pulling down the drywall including shards of wood (one of which I had to remove from my foot with a pair of tweezers a couple of months later), and they had put down a sheet of plastic, so with the water dripping freely, it was now splashing all over the clothes in my closet. 

I told my mother I was just alerting her to the issue and it could wait until Monday. She didn’t listen. I told her it would affect my Shabbos and my life and she didn’t listen. No, she instead went off on me about how this is her home and her insurance and the damage would be “on her” and she called and demanded they come immediately, so they did. And you know what? It affected my Shabbos. It affected my life. It’s affected my every day life since that day three years ago and nothing has changed. The ceiling is still open to the elements and my room is still a swamp when it’s humid.

You know what being overtired feels like? Like at some point you’re so tired that you don’t feel tired anymore, but if you lay down you’ll crash for a day and a half? That’s basically where I’m at with my anger towards my mother about this. I’m so mad that I’m not even mad. But if you let me get mad, I will fall swiftly down the rabbit hole of “my mother is a raging narcissist and cares so little about me.”

About a month into having my torn open ceiling face me every day and the contractor not doing a thing about it because apparently he was waiting for my mother to contact her insurance company about it, but suddenly she can’t act swiftly about anything, I was mad. I was seething. 

I was raised on “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” and so I didn’t. I was so mad that I reverted back to what I was like as a kid when I was mad and I shut up. I wouldn’t talk to her. I avoided meals with her and kept my communication to “I’m going to work” and “I’m going shopping, if you need anything.” And because of the fun way the air moves through our apartment, when I closed my door one day and it slammed instead of closing nicely, she flipped out on me and threatened me with the same thing my father used to threaten us with when I was a kid - find a new place to live. 

To say that’s an inappropriate thing to say to a child is an understatement. We were made to feel like our house wasn’t ours. We never had a home. It was just a house we were being “allowed” by our parents to live in. We lived under the threat that if we did anything to piss them off, we were no longer welcome. We never had the safety and security that comes with having a home. 

God, I’m such a frickin’ mess. 

So there I was again, a broke adult, being threatened with the same thing. All because I was upset that she couldn’t care less about how I felt because of her impulsivity. She was all “this needed to be dealt with immediately” and I was all “yeah, immediately after Shabbos when I have a chance to move things and deal with this properly.” 

My mantra for that first month was “IT COULD HAVE WAITED UNTIL MONDAY” and hers was “THIS IS MY HOME AND I’LL DO AS I PLEASE”. 

So, the door slammed accidentally, she flipped and she demanded we talk. And I broke. And said things I didn’t want to say, but that she forced out of me. I still kept things as civil as possible, but I cried, which is something I never do, especially in front of people. She was relentless and I told her (not in these words, but) what she was doing was extremely crappy parenting and that she was being extremely inconsiderate towards me and how all of this was affecting my life. I couldn’t move in my room, my own space. I was sleeping in a swamp every single night. I had debris all over my floor and all over my clothes that kept getting in everything. The entire path to the door was covered in plastic sheeting that had pools of water on it. Water was splashing into my closet and my clothes were getting wet. Yes, the wetness in the ceiling was a problem, but at least it wasn’t an everyday inconvenience when it was just happening inside the ceiling. And it was understandable that at some point the ceiling would have had to be opened so everything could air out and not create a mold issue, and for the problem to be assessed and solved, but things could have been handled better on her end. She could have actually cared. 

I have gone through 4 DampRid containers in the last two weeks alone. FOUR. It’s been three summers since my ceiling was ripped open and every single one has been miserable, but this one more than the previous two because of this a/c debacle with the humidity we've been having. 

Let me show you what the basic issue is. I’ll use some photos of a mockup I made in the Sims4 so you can see what I’m talking about, but basically this: the closet in my bedroom shares a wall with the room that houses the a/c unit. And although each room has its own ceiling, the space above them both is a shared space and not insulated. So, any heat, any cold, any humidity, any anything that comes in through the little a/c room basically makes its way directly into the crawlspace/bulkhead/whatever and enters my room. So whatever the temperature is outside, you can bet it's around the same in my room. But honestly, the humidity is worse than the heat. 

And because of the layout of the rest of the apartment, my room is kind of at the end of a small hallway and essentially an appendage that is not connected with the rest of the “flow” of the apartment. 

So we were able to borrow two portable a/c units - one in the kitchen and one in my mom’s bedroom, which means the communal spaces of the living and dining room get cooled off, my mother’s bedroom and the kitchen get cooled off, and none of that cool air makes its way to my room. 

I have my ceiling fan going nonstop and it does practically nothing to help. It just spins the hot and humid air around and around. 

I tried setting up a blizzard fan in front of my door to pull the air out and it barely worked. So I tried turning it around and pushing cool air into the room and it barely helped. 

I’ve been sleeping with ice packs, but because the heat and humidity have been so extreme, they condensate as they rapidly melt and my sheets get wet, which is disgusting, and they don’t stay cold through the night. 

I am so damn miserable. 

But I shouldn’t complain, right? There are people in the world who have it worse, right? And now I know how people who live in third world countries must feel, right? So I can learn compassion, right?

Except I was raised with a/c. My body isn’t acclimated to the heat and humidity the way anyone raised in a third world country’s is. And it’s not like this ever happens during the Spring or Fall. This crap always happens in the hottest part of the summer. 

And to make things worse, I take care of the electric bill, which is over $330 for the last billing period. I used to be on budget billing and pay $191 a month, but stupid me thought it would be nice to help save the planet and I switched energy companies in Feb, which took me off of budget billing (which I didn’t know would happen) and then because the pricing wasn’t actually better as I’d been assured it would be, my bills went way up, so now that I cancelled that energy contract and want to be back on budget billing, my average bill (which is what budget billing is based on) is like $100 more than it used to be. 

And the windows in this apartment aren’t normal sized/shaped windows, so to even have the portable a/c units in, we’ve had to tape up the windows with cardboard, but because of the heat and humidity, the tape keeps coming undone and there are constantly bugs in the apartment. 

Oh, and speaking of bugs, have I mentioned we have an ant problem in the car? Yeah, apparently some species of tiny ants has created a nest somewhere in the hood or the engine or the undercarriage or the gaskets around the windows or something, and they’re all over the car. Not inside, weirdly, but all over the outside. I’ve tried ant traps, I’ve tried carwashes, I’ve tried spraying them with cleansers, I’ve tried squishing them one by one and hoping they get the message and vacate the vehicle, I’ve tried blowing them off with compressed air, I’ve tried so many things and I still can’t figure out where they’re living or how to get rid of them. The issue is that having them on the outside of the car means they can easily get into the car which we discovered the second week of the ant problem, when they were all over the dashboard and console and freaking me out every time I drove, because MotherLivelyHeart and BigSis always eat in the car and the ants were attracted to the bagel crumbs. Once we got rid of that, they seem to only be an issue on the outside of the car with the occasional one inside, but I’m still constantly on edge when I drive. 

And I’m just so sick of all of this. 

Honestly, how am I supposed to have faith that Hashem will send Moshiach “today” when I can’t even have faith that Hashem will get the a/c repaired in a timely manner? 

It should have been yesterday. It should have been done already. 

How does a brand new replacement part come broken?!?! 

There’s no way this is not God spiting me. 

MotherLivelyHeart has a cool room. BigSis has a cool room. It’s been THREE WEEKS. And I’M the one affected most by this crap. I’M the one dying. 

I’ve been trying to spend more time in the living room and at work and other places that are cool, but my back is starting to hurt again and I think it’s from that frickin’ office chair. So I’m in physical pain and I’m physically exhausted from the heat and I’m emotionally exhausted from dealing with all of this all of the time. 

I’m just so done with it all. When will this crap stop?

I’ve had other things I’ve wanted to write about, but I abandoned those because even my computer is overheating from everything and I just haven’t had the energy for anything. 

So I can't hope anymore. I had hopes we would have cool air in here again. I've had hopes my ceiling would be dealt with already. I hoped the ant traps or diligently cleaning would get rid of the ants. I've hoped my back issue was a fluke and not due to my stupid office chair.

I've hoped and I've hoped and I've hoped, but this is why we can't have nice things. Because hope is a stupid, useless, worthless thing to have.

Can I even hope you're out there? Doubt it.

-LivelyHeart

#jumblr #frumblr #frum #jewish dating #jewish #dating #shidduch #shidduchim #shadchan #shadchanim #orthodox

[94monkeys]

In the greatest city in the world

It makes a little sense because it's so popular, but it's actively nuts that the NYC Marathon added a 5th wave this year at 11:30am. Combined with this weekend's weather forecast, they are basically sending people into the warmest part of the day right off the bat. And those runners are losing that much more crowd support. Sheesh!

I speak as a person who was in the last wave, Wave 4, when I ran it. I believe that was at 10:50am so I took an 8:30 ferry (I just looked it up, because of course I saved all the emails) and then sat around for a while. I think I ate 3 breakfasts. Maybe I read a magazine? Not saying that my start negatively affected my finish time, but it felt odd to train all summer running within an hour of getting up and then definitely not do that on race day.

Wonder why they've never considered going earlier with the leadoff handcycle/ wheelchair divisions... I have a sinking feeling that the reason is "television coverage" but it could be something to do with the road closures (which are massive and very spread out). There was a rumor several years back that they were considering splitting the race into TWO weekend days, and I don't love that either, but I wonder if they ever considered having the handcycle, wheelchair and elites compete a day earlier (like Atlanta did with the marathon trials in 2020). It wouldn't be the same cost because they wouldn't need to keep the roads closed as long (fasties!) though I guess the elites would miss out on some of the excitement.

Anyway, still a top-5 day in my life and absolutely worth entering the lottery for, though as long as I'm working in or around politics the timing probably wouldn't work for me (at least not in an even year!) I'll be tuning in before voter contact hours this year.

#nyc marathon #running #oh look a post about running #groundbreaking

[weclassybouquetfun]

WB/Discovery has announced that there will be no forthcoming DC Fandome - the online, day long fan event that kicked off in 2020 to showcase DC Comics' slate and celebrate DC's history. But if you are sorely in need of another fan event that is not as much fun, then tomorrow is for you. Netflix holds their global fan event TUDUM that highlights their upcoming slate.

10am to 10:30am Enola Holmes 2

Heart of Stone Bridgerton Queen Charlotte: A Bridgerton Story (A limited prequel series about the rise of  Charlotte).

Shadow and Bone The Crown Emily in Paris

The Old Guard 2

Wednesday

Manifest 3 Body Problem Slumberland

10:30am - 11:30am

10:30am - 11:30am Never Have I Ever The Umbrella Academy (It has been announced that S4 will be its last).

Your Place or Mine Guillermo de Toro's Pinocchio (Featuring the voicework of Thomas Mann as the titular character; Tilda Swinton, Cate Blanchett, Ewan McGregor, Christoph Waltz and Finn Wolfhard, among others).

Special Announcement by Noah Centineo Berlin (The LA CASA DE PAPEL (MONEY HEIST) spinoff with Pedro Alonso reprising his character).

Entergalactic (The animated series from Scott "Kid Cudi" Mescudi featuring the voicework of Jessica Williams, Laura Harrier, Timothee Chalamet and Vanessa Hudgens) The Redeem Team The Mother (Thriller starring Jennifer Lopez, Gael Garcia Bernal, Joseph Fiennes, Omari Hardwick and Paul Raci).

The Watcher The Witcher: Blood Origin

11:00am - 11:30am Extraction 2 Vikings: Valhalla 1899 They Cloned Tyrone The Witcher Lupin

Squid Game Money Heist: Korea - Joint Economic Area Games Spotlight Dead to Me Heartstopper Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery

Outer Banks

11:30am - 11:55am The School for Good and Evil

Stranger Things Triada Carga Máxima Matrimillas El Elegido Belascoarán Ardiente Paciencia

Squid Game Love is Blind: Brazil La Firma (Music competition searching for the next LatAm superstar).

11:55am Alice in Borderland

The Kingdom El Amor Después del Amor You

Élite Beyond the Universe The Marked Heart

A través del mar

#netflix #tudum 2022 #netflix tudum #tudum #the old guard #the old guard 2 #tog cast #you #enola holmes #enola holmes 2 #bridgerton #the school for good mothers #wednesday #lupin #berlin #money heist #la casa de papel #emily in paris #alice in borderland #knives out 2 #glass onion #guillermo del toro's pinocchio #elite #heartstopper #tv talk #streaming #tv

[nocturnalswarehouse]

How about 1, 10 and 11 for the writers ask meme 💙

What was your writing highlight this year? What made it special, and how will you reflect on it next year?

For context: my uni degree is creative writing.

Last term, a class I had to take because it's a pre-req to a class I'm currently taking. It is called intro to creative writing. We learned about prose, poetry, and personal essay.

My prof was fantastic, and I really enjoyed the class. She made it fun for 8:30am. After I shared a piece, one of her notes about my writing was this: "I write like a movie."

I've shared this on this blog before, but that really stuck with me. I watch a ton of media, and the way I imagine scenes in my head are as if you're watching a movie or a tv show. I write how I picture things, and that prof told me it translates well.

I don't know how I'll reflect on it, but I'll put that into practice more with my writing.

10. Which character(s) turned out differently from what you had planned? How so?

I'm writing an original novel. Been working on it since 2020, and I am still far from being finished. But I realized that the villain is too weak, so I made him stronger by making him a mage (originally he was just,,, a non-magic human and our main character is a mage). Oops! But that entire story is going through an entire plot rewrite.

11. Which scene was harder/easier to write than anticipated? Why?

Anything I wrote in the fic that delved away from the main questline was a level hard for me to write but easier? The chapter where Adi finally tells Bryn that she's the Dragonborn. At the moment I wrote it, I had just broken up with my now ex-girlfriend. I was angry, hurt, and resentful, which motivated me to get through that part of the fic.

#ask game #writer asks

[spoilertv]

#SpoilerTV

[megbox]

The universe has such a cruel sense of humour.

Anyways. I find this type of thing helpful, so here are all of the things I need to get done this week.

Week nine of semester three of graduate school, full-time work, and part-time work all at the same time. I shall cross out as I go.

501 Article Summary Presentation (due Nov 7 at 5:00pm)

517 Determinants of Health section for Group Report (due Nov 3)

Attend 517 from 9 - 10:30am (Nov 2)

501 Week 9 eClass Activity (Nov 8)

517 eClass Discussion Post #1

517 eClass Discussion Post #2

501 Thesis Statement Development (Nov 1 at 5:00pm)

501 Week 8 eClass Activity (Oct 31 at 11:59pm)

501 Discussion Post #1 (Fortier, 2020)

501 Discussion Post #2 (Heard et al., 2020)

501 Discussion Post #3 (Tweed et al., 2021)

501 Discussion Post #4 (Wesp et al., 2019)

Attend 501 from 1-2pm (Nov 1)

Attend 535 Teaching Team meeting 4-5pm (Oct 30)

Preliminary Marking for 535 Assignment 2 (Nov 1)

#personal #megbox #2023

[ovpwebnetwork]

BHSP Update for partners

Upcoming Annual BHSP Epidemiology Webinar

Changing Landscape of HIV and STI in Michigan

BHSP is hosting an annual epidemiology update, focusing on important HIV & STI epidemiological trends in Michigan, accessing published Michigan HIV & STI data, and how to request additional data from MDHHS.

Following a brief overview of current HIV & STI trends in Michigan, the BHSP epidemiology team will dive into the latest trends and evolving prevention and care priorities, including:

The importance of Ryan White enrollment and retention

Continued low testing rates post-2020

Shift in age group priority from 15-29 to 20-34

Chlamydia stabilization

Gonorrhea decreases

Increases in Syphilis among heterosexual individuals

All interested individuals are welcome to attend, and webinar registration is now open! The webinar is scheduled for Tuesday, October 24, 2023, from 10:00am to 11:30am. Registration will close on October 17, 2023. To sign up, interested participants can register through SHOARS or click here to register directly for the webinar.

New BHSP Communication Platform

The Bureau of HIV & STI Programs is excited to announce our transition to a new platform aimed at enhancing our ability to communicate and provide updates to valued partners like you. Our upcoming newsletters and communications will look and feel very similar to the updates you currently receive. You will notice a slight change in the sender's email address, which will now display as "MDHHS Bureau of HIV and STI Programs" instead of "Michigan Department of Health and Human Services." Be sure to check your spam/junk folder if you find that you are no longer receiving BHSP updates to ensure that our emails haven't been inadvertently flagged as spam.

We are committed to ensuring a smooth transition to this new platform and want to make sure that all our partners continue to receive timely updates. The best way to guarantee you continue receiving BHSP communications is by registering as a SHOARS user, if you haven't already done so already. This will not only help with communications from BHSP, but will streamline the process whenever you need to get in touch with internal BHSP staff.

You can also review and update your subscription and contact information by clicking the 'Manage Subscriptions' link located at the bottom of this email. This step is particularly important if these emails are forwarded to you or if someone else registered you as a subscriber. If you have any questions or feedback about the transition to the new platform, please reach out to us at: [email protected].

Promote HIV Testing with Together TakeMeHome

Together TakeMeHome

Following the successful launch of the Together TakeMeHome (TTMH) project, CDC has awarded additional funding to Emory University to distribute an additional 150,000 HIV self-tests during the month of September for a total of up to 350,000 tests in the first year of the program. We encourage you to share information about TTMH through your networks, community partners, and other various communication channels (e.g., listservs, newsletters, social media). TTMH provides another tool to help increase access to HIV testing, so even if you work at an agency or clinic that provides HIV screening, we encourage you to share this information with staff and your community.

Together Take Me Home Project

Together Take Me Home (TTMH) is a national direct-to-consumer program that offers free HIV-self tests and is shipping tests nationwide. Tests are available to anyone 17 years or older in the United States who enroll through the program’s website, regardless of health insurance or immigration status. The HIV self-tests are FDA-approved OraQuick devices that use mouth swabs and take only 20-minutes to get a result.

Visitors to the website can find information and resources on using the self-test, what to do based on the self-test result, and how to access other services related to HIV prevention and care, and overall sexual health. Trained staff will be available to provide referrals to HIV prevention and care services, including pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP).

Promotion of TTMH can be done through Together campaign materials to support partner outreach and promoting TTMH in your community. Follow @stopHIVtogether for HIV self-testing materials and resources. Michigan residents are also invited to order a self-test kit from an agency right here in Michigan by going to the CDC website https://gettested.cdc.gov/.

You are receiving this message as a valued partner of the Michigan Department of Health and Human Services Bureau of HIV and STI Programs.

If you believe you received this message in error, please reach out to [email protected].

Michigan.gov/HIVSTI