#Femininty

[vintagemadmoiselle]

Elegance

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[theblackfemininesociety]

The Timeless Lessons from Aaliyah: A Breakdown of Her Qualities 💋

THE OG IT GIRL 💋

Key Notes: What Aaliyah taught us:

Authenticity.

Demanding Respect & Having Self respect.

The power of Softness.

Natural Beauty is Timeless.

You can be both sexy and classy.

Welcome to The Black Feminine Society, a platform where black women find a safe space to tap into their god-given superpower: femininity. Together we can create a community of women who support, motivate and empower each other on our journeys.

Today, we want to honor and deep dive into the qualities of the late singer Aaliyah and the valuable lessons she taught us. From authenticity and self-respect to the power of softness and the timeless beauty of being natural, Aaliyah's influence continues to inspire black women on their journeys to becoming their best selves.

✨Aaliyah’s Authenticity:

Aaliyah was a shining example of authenticity. She embraced her true self, unapologetically expressing her personality through her music, style, and interactions. In a world that often pressures women to conform, Aaliyah taught us the importance of staying true to ourselves and owning our uniqueness. Her authenticity continues to resonate with black women, empowering them to embrace their individuality and shine in their own right.

✨Demanding Respect & Having Self-Respect:

Aaliyah's unwavering self-respect left an indelible mark on the industry and her fans. She set boundaries and stood firm in her convictions, never compromising her values for fame or popularity. Aaliyah's example reminds us that true strength lies in respecting ourselves and demanding respect from others. Black women in the Black Feminine Society are encouraged to prioritize their self-worth and cultivate relationships that honor their dignity.

✨The Power of Softness:

Contrary to the societal expectations often placed on black women, Aaliyah showed us the power of softness. She effortlessly blended strength and vulnerability in her music and demeanor. Aaliyah's graceful presence challenged stereotypes and redefined what it means to be feminine. Through her gentle yet empowered approach, she demonstrated that softness is not a weakness but a strength that should be celebrated.

✨Natural Beauty is Timeless:

Aaliyah's natural beauty was a testament to the timeless essence of black women. With minimal makeup and a radiant smile, she captivated audiences and proved that beauty transcends trends and societal standards. Aaliyah's embrace of her natural beauty inspires black women to celebrate their own unique features and embrace their natural selves. In a world bombarded with unrealistic beauty standards, Aaliyah's legacy encourages black women to define beauty on their own terms.

✨You Can Be Both Sexy and Classy:

Aaliyah effortlessly embodied both sexiness and class, debunking the notion that black women must choose between the two. She exuded sensuality in her performances while maintaining an undeniable elegance. Aaliyah's ability to balance these qualities taught us that black women can embrace their sexuality without compromising their dignity. In the Black Feminine Society, black women are encouraged to own their sensuality and express it in a way that aligns with their values and personal style.

Aaliyah's impact on the black community, particularly black women, cannot be understated. Through her authenticity, self-respect, embodiment of softness, embrace of natural beauty, and the fusion of sexiness and class, Aaliyah taught us invaluable lessons. As members of the Black Feminine Society, let us continue to draw inspiration from Aaliyah's legacy and empower ourselves on our own journeys to becoming our best selves, embracing our femininity, and finding community among fellow black women.

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[man2maiden]

Feminine Inspiration

#Feminine Inspiration #corset #tightlacing #femininty

[coconuttulips]

real

#gaslight gatekeep girlblog #girlblogging #coquette #tumblr 2014 #coquette aesthetic #lana del ray aesthetic #lana del ray moodboard #dark femininity #femininty #girl blogger #my year of rest and relaxation #misa amane #misa misa

[deljune14]

I’m back home from a day well spent from putting in the work.

Took off my clothes, got into the shower and used one of my favorite & expensive soaps. Wore a free loose nightie.

I’m going to sleep now knowing I have done well. Knowing I’m capable of anything, I just have to put my mind to it.

Thankful for my routines that keep me on track.

Forever grateful for my life!

#girly blog #luxurious black women #study motivation #best self #it girl #positivity #highest self #unwind #divine feminine #dark feminine energy #femininty #digital diary

[euesworld]

"She is the honeyed nectar of love itself, the sweet essence of passion.. she is the softness that I yearn, the flames of femininity herself. She is sweet like sugar, as thick as molasses.. a honey pie so nice that she flits in the sky like sweet little butterflies. Not to mention those little critters in my stomach, in my veins.. if I'm not careful she will drive me insane, oh this insanity that goes on in my heart. She is soft, ever softer still.. it's almost unreal the way she makes me feel. I flutter, almost faint as my heart quakes.. she is the nectar of life, beauty incarnate, unique like beautiful snowflakes. She is like autumn, a soft breeze licking my skin.. like the drops of rain just before a storm begins. She is everything to me, honeyed dreams so sweet that she almost makes me scream.."

Beauty infinite in her smile, loveliness at it's peak.. if the sun could speak, she would speak in sweet dreams.. she would say to me, this is love - eUë

#true love #passionate #passion #sweet #honey #dreams #in my dreams #femininty #i yearn #softness #soft love #soft fire #soft thoughts #honey pie #butterflies in my stomach #butterflies #butterfly #beauty #beauty incarnate #nectar #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #spilled words #love quotes #love #love quote life quotes #love quote for her #quoteoftheday #romance #romantic

[bayardboy]

On Masculinity

 “If boys are raised to be empathetic and strong’ autonomous and connected; responsible to self, to family and friends, and to society; able to make community rooted in a recognition of interbeing, then the solid foundation is present and they will be able to love. To make this solid foundation, men must set the example by daring to heal, by daring to do the work of relational recovery.” -- bell hooks, “The Will to Change”

A man is someone who pursues masculinity, in whatever traditional sense befits that society. All boys and male-aligned youth are attempting to become their fathers, coaches, teachers, and guides. It is possible for girls to cast off femininity and find themselves along this path, but it’s not just careers or societal positions that create men; It’s the seeking of masculine impact, masculine energy, that makes a man. That is why we say lazy or unmotivated men are not fulfilling their potential.

Similarly, a woman is someone who creates femininity. Femininity cannot be pursued, it is cultivated, cherished, grown. Where masculinity is a goal, femininity is a garden. It must be tended to and honored. When girls become mothers, leaders, healers, and consorts, they become the space for someone to see themself loved. When men do the same in small amounts, it can enhance their ability to be strong and gentle guides, but in large amounts it results in self-centeredness and a lack of drive. Men do not have the same emotional core to pull energy from; they have the pull towards the pursuit of safety for these containers to exist.

That is why heterosexual relationships function, because one can look inwards, and one can look outwards. However, any combination or imbalance can also create a loving home if these energies are found in other places. That’s why single-parent households can still raise healthy children.

In the absence or neglect of these energies, therein lies compensation. But unhealthy standards don’t require extremes. Anyone can understand the shock of being chosen last for something, or not completing a project the way they’d like to, or having their feelings dismissed.

People can choose energies to assist them on their paths, but there is always one choice that will be easier than the other. Only two spirit people walk with both energies and that is why they are seen as holy people.

As a trans man, my personal narrative is that I was always expected to draw from my own emotional core. As I grew older, it became clear it was lacking. But when I gave up the expectation of being a garden and stepped outward, suddenly I could see so much clearer how my gifts could be used. I imagine my life as a forward-forging pursuit of service to others. My healing will come from obtaining and releasing knowledge, from being the skeleton for others’ feminine energies to flourish as meat, muscles, nerves.

Living in a patriarchal society, the pursuit of masculinity has become one that discards the foundation of fluidity that femininity honors. If men ever afforded the time to rest or rationally react, they could see much clearer how important it is to continually assess, as women do. Parallel to this, women are restricted from the amount of space they can hold in this accomplishment. In fact they are encouraged to discard their possessed emotional cores and take up the path of pursuit as well. That’s not to say women should not accomplish goals; just to say that they need not accomplish what masculinity asks of men, because there is the nature of their womanhood to be honored.

And what does masculinity ask of men?

And what does the nature of womanhood require?

These are much better questions than, “what is a man”, or “what is a woman.”

~~~

I credit bell hooks and Marcus Aurelius for this breakthrough of thought. I’ve been considering this for a while.

#femininty #masculinity #essay #lgbt #gender studies #prose #writing #-

[reggyinlyon]

Give to me bacause it makes you happy to see me smile

#Love #femininty #Softlife #Womenhood #Suduction

[vintagelivingbydaisyb]

Vintage Living Tip No. 36: Applying Powder In The Office

The thought process behind this is much like many former vintage living tips, is that you are doing things for the consideration of others. It’s not a cardinal sin if you are caught powdering your nose, however it is a nicety to realize you are in need of a touch-up and choose to step away to freshen up.

#vintage tips #vintage blogger #vintage lifestyle #vintage life #vintage #vintage beauty #vintage fashion #vintage style #vintage hair #vintage makeup #vintage advice #vintage living tip #vintage living #powdering your nose #ladylike #manners #vintage manners #femininty

[vintagemadmoiselle]

🐩

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#soft black women #high maintenance #soft moodboard #soft life #feminine energy #black girl luxury #femininty #black femininity #hypergamous #growth #dog mom #dog #poodle #high value women #bougie black girl #bougie

[theblackfemininesociety]

🏷️ madisinrian

#black women in luxury #black women in femininity #feminine energy #classy black women #black luxury #femininty

[man2maiden]

Feminine Inspiration

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[coconuttulips]

lucky girl syndrome

#coquette #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #girlblogging #tumblr 2014 #girl blogger #it girl #just girly things #femininty #lucky girl syndrome #tumblr girls #lana del ray moodboard #lana del ray aesthetic #lana del ray coded

[uljherishte]

chingari koi bhadke

My face is getting rounder, broader. more tired. Why does it seem like only me?

My friends age all around me. They seem to do it with grace. mature haircuts, longer, slender fingers, not like mine - stubby and inelegant, like a child.

That. That's the issue. how can i be so old and so young at the same time? I've never been super feminine – in front of my friends my femininity (the one that the world sees, at least) pales. I can't be sleek. i can't be collected. i can't have oversized pajamas look good on me.

i can't be feminine, it seems. i don't have the neck for it. i have too many flyways. i sweat and look disheveled when it's hot, i seethe, i decompose every time my friends bemoans their roundening face, their aching backs and grey hair.

i wish i could relate to you, friend, for you are a piece of my soul. alas, even in climbing the ladder of age, your round face, plump and kind like a child, yet pretty enough to be loved by others, is miles more desirable than mine ever was.

˳✧༚

chingari koi bhadke, meaning “when someone lights a flame” -- the title of the awe-inducing song from the 1972 movie Amar Prem. The song goes through multiple analogies to talk about one central idea: when something you count on, something you take for granted, fails you... who do you turn to?

The rest of the lines are as follows:

chingari koi bhadke,

toh saawan use bujhaaye,

saawan jo agan lagaaye,

toh use kaun bujhaaye?

oh, use kaun bujhaaye?

when someone lights a spark,

the rain extinguishes it,

but when the rain starts a fire,

who extinguishes it?

oh, who extinguishes it?

#poetry #girlhood #womanhood #literature #aging #femininty #free form #ramblings #amar prem #old bollywood songs #these songs are the only ones that can convey what i wanna convey

[thatprettygalval]

it’s insane how chaos is a feminine trait , because it takes a masculine to provoke her peace outwardly. I think chaos or messiness is only a way to make the feminine feel at ease far from the masculine’s control , or judgment; its a way to say “ I can finally breath”.

#femininty

[live-chaotically]

Ashleigh Good by Jean Baptiste Mondino for Numéro September 2013

#numero #ashleigh good #jean baptiste mondino #art #feminine energy #divine feminine #femininty