#Making others Dependent

[earthling-wolf]

Adaptive: agreeable Fe

Universal Love / Compassion

Although anyone may come to this conclusion, adaptive types more often leads the individual to believe "we are all one family", one humanity and we all have an intrinsic connection to one another as well as a shared narrative of joy/pain and a moral obligation to our fellow man. It believes more powerfully in the ability of everyone to make a difference in the world, and to be a force towards that difference. It believes that if everyone lent a helping hand to everyone else, we would have no need for wars or conflict. Nobody would be left out, and by the simple fostering of good-will, solutions would arise to any social problem. This translates more generally into good-samaritanism. Taken to a deeper level, this can mean an advocacy for global peace and democracy. Adaptive types will tend to prioritize the group over any one individual, and will also see it fair and necessary for resources to be distributed more or less evenly. If called forth to serve, it will serve. It will heed the call both to satisfy a personal value of goodness, and to affirm their character and trustworthiness to the collective. Acts very much define this facet, and an adaptive attitude feels one only truly cares if they act out that care in deeds and words. This also leads adaptive person to be very verbal, and perhaps overly saturated, with its expressiveness in order to ensure the sentiment is communicated.

Adaptation

As the name implies, another quality of adaptiveness is adaptation -- specifically the adjustment of oneself in order to meet any necessary social conditions. An adaptive attitude carefully tracks the energies of the social environment and intuits what is the acceptable protocol, then proceeds to blend into that energy. The adaptive person may wear many faces and will switch between faces depending on the crowd they're in, in order to seamlessly adjust to the needs of each setting. They may excel at Pickup Artistry and at reading the nuances of social and sexual energies. And while this can help them create a highly prosperous social network, it can lead to a somewhat vague or diminishing sense of self, as they slowly start to lose their center to the many personas they have created for themselves. But adaptive Fe's adaptability is not limited to the building of personas, and can also be motivated to adjust as is necessary for their own ethical convictions. If one's personal relationships are suffering from frictions stemming from their own behaviors or habits, adaptive people will take measures to correct themselves; going through transformations of character. Whenever they discover areas for improvement, they may remake themselves according to a higher image. The adaptive person will feel that they are prioritizing the ideal (often God) above themselves, and submitting themselves to the requirements of the ideal.

Politeness

Following from the aforementioned, adaptiveness is prone to manifest politeness and the automatic assimilation of a social programming or etiquette in order to maintain their rapport. Adaptive types will feel a strong anxiety whenever they are out-of-step, and this feedback quickly shapes their behavior in an unconscious way. "That which will offend" is not said and in some cases not even consciously thought. It becomes necessary to provide everyone with a smile and to be on good terms with all people. Adaptive people may not be able to stand the thought of having enemies or being disliked. This can be terribly debilitating and restricting as adaptive person may feel they are always walking on eggshells. They may secretly resent having to always yield and not show their true opinions, even if this self-regulation was their own choice. It may even be the case that non-standard or non-polite forms of expression are indeed socially acceptable given the right execution, however the adaptive person will not be the most daring to risk experimenting with alternative outcomes and will feel most safe following a known set of words and expressions. Over time this can lead to psychological distortions and to a splitting of personality due to how the darker aspects of directiveness have been repressed and not given true representation or validation. Words are minced; criticisms are withheld. And this fragmentation of self can lead to intense volatility when the person falls under stress.

-Under Stress

Social Cowardice

Adaptiveness often manifests as cowardice; an inability to confront problems, challenges, difficult situations or people. The most straightforward expression of this is lying. Rather than saying "no" to something one is being asked to do, an adaptive person will lie and say they will do it even when they know they will fail at it later. They may downplay the negatives of something in order to retain a positive image, or aggrandize their accomplishments in order not to lose face. When asked if they still love someone, they will say yes to prevent hurt feelings in the immediate moment. When confronted and asked to explain, they'll say nothing is wrong or will make excuses. This cowardice can become very distressing and troubling to their life, sabotaging many relationships both personal and professional. They may not consider that they are in fact damaging the situation rather than helping it by their concealment and dishonesty. However, they will rationalize their actions as being for the greater good even though fear is the truer motivator in them rather than a genuine wish to aide the situation or the people involved.

Martyrdom

Another negative effect of adaptiveness is martyrdom. Like the aforementioned cowardice, adaptiveness will often not have the spine to speak up for its own needs and will be prone towards quietly taking abuse. They may be paid a very low salary at work and never ask for a raise, or ever complain about their position. They may take on all church responsibilities and bury themselves in obligations to everyone else. If this behavior is neurotic, they will work themselves down to an early grave for not knowing when to stop giving. At other times, their own ideology may persuade them into this martyr behavior as they sacrifice themselves for a greater cause. But adaptive Fe's martydom is not always a result of heroism; it can at times be just as much a result of shame and failure. The adaptive person may not feel they have the personal value or right to assert themselves due to a feeling of low self worth. This can cause them to take on the attitude that they "deserve" what is happening to them; that it is fair and that they're in the wrong. In severe cases this can lead to suicide where what seemed like a perfectly kind, beautiful, polite woman is found dead from the excessive toll she incurred for living a life of emotional debt to herself.

Making others Dependent

A different result that might arise from an adaptive attitude is an encompassing feeling of importance in the eyes of others as nurturer. The ego becomes fixed in an identity as "provider" and "supporter", giving their life a purpose. In order to feel valued, adaptive individuals may want to make others dependent on them in order for them to feel they have some greater meaning to others or the world. If she is a mother, then she will be possessive and use her children as her reasons for existing. This expression of adaptive qualities crosses over with what Jung called the dark mother archetype; the over-protective woman that suffocates and consumes her children. This expression will work to unconsciously make it difficult for the other person to leave them. While outwardly wishing for the freedom of their dependents, their actions will speak otherwise. In a million subtle ways, they will secure their value to the party in question. They may say "we can use my car, you don't have to buy your own" and thus ensure their place in the morning drive and its conversation, as well as pave the way towards a more difficult emancipation. The same will happen in romantic affairs. In its worse form, this obsession with the dependent party can lead to jealousy. Other friendships or connections are discouraged or even prohibited, isolating the individual beneath the adaptive person’s faint smile.

#Cognitive Typology #Emotional Attitude #Adaptive #Agreeableness #Extroverted Feeling #ESFJ #ENFJ #ISFJ #INFJ #ENTP #ESTP #INTP #ISTP #Universal Love #Universal Compassion #Adaptation #Politeness #Social Cowardice #Martyrdom #Making others Dependent

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

multishipping

#wintersberg #mithan #winterfield #lethan #sorry lethan community #i made like 3 AUs and drew them for like a month straight and then never did again #i have no one to talk to about it im sorry 😭😭 #the ship i draw depends on how much i think about it #heraxic makes me want to draw wintersberg so now im drawing them alot.... #i ship ethan with everyone #sorry i just like it when he is loved #ethan is my barbie and all the other characters r kens #i switch them out every now and then but ethan is always the constant

[im-totally-not-an-alien-2]

Ghost King Phantom answers a summons to a new dimension to find a sacrificial offering in three magic circles. One, holding Bizarro, another holding Artimus and the one in front holding Red Hood.

Phantom has no idea who these people are, but he knows the people in charge must be powerful mages or whatever. Doesn't matter. None of the mages hes ever had to face had known about his Halfa status so naturally thier wards and protections wouldn't work on him. He captures the kid with a naselly voice and his orange cat in a force field to give to Jazz later. She had been talking about wanting to study the psychology of a supernatural being for a while now so he'd help her out.

He made quick work of the other mages before turning around and facing the "sacrifices" the two in the back were still out cold but the one in front, the one in the red helm was radiating terror and rage. He was shaking even though Phantom hadn't done anything to him and had no intentions to. Danny landed outside the circle, trying to whisper something conforting as he stepped closer.

The moment he stepped into the ring however, the red runes turned into a bright green and the three circles disappeared. Danny didn't feel any different so he assumed it was nothing and he freed the captives before disappearing, none the wiser that Klarion the Witchboy had made a few translation mistakes in the slave contract and accidentally married a terrified Red Hood to Phantom, the High King of the Undead and King of the Lazarus dimension, also known as the Infinite Realms.

Danny probably learns he married that guy at some point but just kinda shrugs it off. Polygamy is legal in the realms and thier marriage doesn't change much. Sure, Danny is practically contractually obligated to save this guy if he's ever in mortal peril but Danny has no problems with that. He'd do it anyway.

So he just ignores the situation hoping it doesn't come up again.

It does.

Repeatedly.

I'm so surprised we don't have more Dead on Main ghost king marriage aus where Jason/the pit inside of him is terrified of Phantom. Let's change that

#dpxdc #deadonmain #prompt #fanfiction prompts #dead on main #danny phantom #danny fenton #ghost king danny #ghost consort Jason #ghoat king jason #co ghost king jason #prompts #batman #oh batmans gonna be so mad #jason is wigging out and having nightmares and stuff #nightwing is going full overprotective big brother #thier intimidation tacktics have no effect of danny #he thinks its sweet or funny depending on the situation #jason has big feelings and this causes the other bats to aslo have big feelings #danny might stalk his reluctant husband as Fenton just to make sure hes all right #its totally not because he thinks Jason is hot and trying to find common interests #also he really does wanna make sure jason is alright and well cared for

[ryssbelle]

Thought of this while at work, sorry it's a bit hard to read I sketched it out really fast before my last shift lmao wanted to get it done so I could work on other stuff hehe

If it's any consultation Floyd is mostly talking about himself

#my art #trolls #dreamworks trolls #brozone #trolls 3 #trolls floyd #trolls john dory #trolls branch #trolls poppy #the way i imagine their 20 years in troll village is that one meme where its the two different nothing in life matters pics #but one is super sad and the other is happy looking and radical #thats floyd and jd #but they switch places depending on the day #branch is a secret third option #also idk what id do with the 3rd movies plot #this scene in my head is 3rd movie era but i like havent decided what theyre doing yet #theres a few possibilities on whos in the bottle or if theres a bottle at all #this would take place in a timeline where clay or bruce is in the bottle #but like heres the thing any of the brothers could be bottled and itd make for a good story #i drift more towards clay only for the irony of finding out your brothers alive but its a race against time cuz hes literally dying #so it adds to the urgency but then its not much adventure cuz they just gotta get bruce and go #cuz we have 3/5 brozone here already #same goes for if its bruce #so like for story purposes that means it would be most likely JD or Floyd which is just most aus and canon #cuz after world tour Floyd would travel with JD on their own tour Floyd going solo with JD as his manager #and in this scenario they came back to tell Branch about finding whoever is in the bottle #but the story of these guys could also work without any bottle so idk we'll just have to see what i decide to do later #also im slowly coming up with a name for this #very slowly but it'll happen #i actually have a google doc that has a name so i may just use that

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt in Memes 5

Once more, have a prompt entirely in memes because I'm too lazy to properly write one right now lol.

#dcxdp #dpxdc #prompts #De aged dan #de aged ellie #dad danny #mom danny #Fuck it make this a Hazmat Au too with a hint of eldritch Phantom form #Hence why no one realizes Danny Fenton & Phantom Dark are different people #No Danny is not ghost king he's just a little shit #Jazz is in Metropolis & Danny is around depending on where the “field trips” are #Sometimes he's in Gotham because Scarecrow or Ivy offers a lecture #Most of the time they're in Central though because it's safest for the baby villains in the making lol #Danny is taking classes for both medical stuff (thx Frostbite) and engineering #A couple of time travelling villains ADORE him and his kids lol #“So u a monsterfucker?” “What” “I mean I saw that ghost hero & I'm just sayin that's not human y'know-” #Tucker stop laughing at him #Tucker and Sam and Val are also in the same villain school but taking different classes #Save for Tucker also being in an engineering class #Sam is fighting for that Ivy internship #Val is in the specialized Anti-Hero course that focuses on teen heroes who are done with that bs #She got in by telling them (not lying) that she's going to take down a branch of government even if she has to blow the whole thing up #Evil College Au #Danny made a mistake & now everyone thinks that he Val Sam AND Tuck were in a relationship with Phantom at some point #Eveery other student now refers to them as the Petty Exes #memes #meme

[ewwww-what]

You guys don’t get it, they used to be the high 5 heroes. They used to be the high 5 heroes guys. They used to. They used to be starry eyed freshmen. They had to choose each other. They had to have awkward introductions. They had to pick that name together. I’m never okay ever.

#I’m a firm believer in the idea that the rat grinders care about each other as people #not bad kids level obviously. they haven’t had the same experiences that led the bad kids to be so close to one another. #but man. three hours a day in those woods? they’re teenagers. I promise they aren’t all business out there. #like maybe they arent soulmates but they have to be friends to some extent #(I have latched onto the scene of Ivy and Oisin playing beer pong like my life depends on it) #(please it makes me so sad to think about them) #oisin hakinvar #ivy embra #kipperlilly copperkettle #mary ann skuttle #ruben hopclap #lucy frostblade #buddy dawn #fantasy high #d20 #d20 fantasy high #dimension 20 #the high 5 heroes #the rat grinders #txt post

[flame-shadow]

As a commissioner, I love seeing how artists interpret and stylize my characters, but as an artist, I often agonize over if I should try to match the style of the provided reference or lean into my own style.

#flame polls #sometimes people specifically say which style they want which is super helpful #sometimes people don't know which is when i usually stick closer to the reference style. idk if that's for the best tho. like- #im being commissioned because they like how i draw right? so i should draw in the way i usually do? but that doesn't always seem to #be the case idk #i don't wanna bash people for having preferences tho. this isn't meant to be judgemental one way or the other #i was just contemplating how i approach various commissions depending on how the client asks for what they want #and also because im doing some design exploration right now so i'm pushing at certain aspects of my style. makes me think!

[randomminty]

Caitlin…..

#pokemon #art tag #elite four caitlin #unova elite four beloveds #ive been having caitlin hcs all day #i think when she first moves to unova to join the e4 shes p young and gets a little darach plush for homesickness #then ends up collecting some of the rest of the league …….. #i almost forgot alder. i was so upset w myself. poor alder #iris isnt there in my mind i drew the first pic like before champion iris. if it was after she would be !!!!!!!!!!!! #show me any group of pokemon characters i will turn them into found family like my life depends on it #maybe not found family exactly but. ill make them care abt each other. have some sort of dynamic im on it

[pigeon-noises]

"I look forward to the day we meet again."

Once again inspired by @isnt-it-pretty's FtCoR fic

#genshin impact #cyno #hermanubis #genshin fanart #digital art #this is the other scene I adore the imagery in #got a lil too excited with a new texture brush in this one perhaps #as a fun art thing I tried to make the focal point of this pic change depending on whether you view this in color or not #myart #fanart #cw blood

[kuruk]

I dint know how to say this but women who wear men's clothes make me feel like I'm a fan of them like I feel like a young girl with a crush on a celebrity like fangirling but for masc women

[aletterinthenameofsanity]

Does it ever hit you that Martha sat down in New New York and told the Doctor that she needed his honesty more than she needed to go home and that religious music played in the background at that scene and it was almost framed as a confession, in the most religious sense, and go a little bit feral? That as early as her third episode, she was framed as his equal, equally divine, equally a doctor, able to confront him, able to make him honest, able to sympathize with him, able to abide with him? That so few companions have ever spent so much time in one time period with the Doctor (1969/1913, for example), being with him/her, not running, just staying? That for every fucking thing Ten did wrong as John Smith/after coming back to himself in Human Nature/Family of Blood, he trusted her enough to leave himself vulnerable and human in her care, because he trusted her as a Doctor, because she was just as much a Doctor as he was? That Martha was, more than any other companion of the Tenth Doctor's, his equal, that her final speech about not being second was not just talking about her not being second best to Rose but about being second best to him? That she finally understood what had been true from the moment that they met and she closed Stoker's eyes and the Doctor realized that she had not just bravery and cleverness but a kindness that he had forgotten, that Martha Jones, more than anything else, has been and always will be The Doctor?

#meta #martha jones #tenmartha #tenth doctor #tenth doctor x martha jones #ten #put some respect on her name #martha jones deserved better #listen tenmartha were made for each other the same way that ninerose 11amy twelveclara were made for each other #they were made to change each other to depend on each other to have faith in each other to make each other their religion #we're always talking about the religious implications of ninerose 11amy twelveclara on this site as we should but the religion of tenmartha #unparalleled #they get outright religious music #they get hymns to frame their scenes #abide with me #AND SHE GODDAMN ABIDES #listen i'm pissed with what rtd gave martha post-s3 #especially post journey's end #no mention of her in the 60th anniversary specials & throwing her together with mickey in end of time #the last glimpse we have of her has nothing to do with her arc #gridlock #human nature #family of blood #last of the time lords #the doctorification of martha jones

[umblrspectrum]

got carried away practicing in preparation to make something else

#yeah i stole this general format from some blog here that i can no longer find but it was cool #and i like the idea of having refs to make sure i stay as close to my stylized on-model as i can #that fucking part of the mantis arm was giving me a headache though #you change the angle even slightly and it looks like a whole new limb #its so complex and so hard to portray in 2d #the others are fine though except for my wrongness with the camera limb #i guess its technically not upside down depending on what angle its coming from but bite me #little stain there to fill space #might not even get to what i actually wanted to draw today. tired #art #absolutesolver #murder drones absolutesolver #murder drones absolute solver #murder drones #but i will make it eventually. you will see

[masonjarart]

I also think the eggs having this much sense of self and acting like kids forming relationships that sort of thing was not something the fed planned and was firmly the Islanders doing like they could have just taken them in as what they originally where am event to be rewarded at the end but instead they said no these are our kids and so that's what the eggs became not experiments or an event that can be over in a couple weeks but kids with emotions and personalities all their own and I think the feds didn't expect that and doesn't really understand it

#idk this stream left me with a suprising number of thoughts #i also think this varies depending on level of fed worker maybe?? #cause cellbit and bagis parents would have understood these types of things and other workers weve seen display emotion #but also some of that is through learning from the islanders like fred has talked about not understanding that kind of thing #idk it makes me wonder alot more abt the fed than i have before #good stream #qsmp #qsmp spoilers

[beanghostprincess]

Luffy not knowing about Zoro promising Sanji to kill him if he ever ends up losing himself makes me go feral because that's something they can only know about. Because Zoro's respect for life and death goes beyond anything, and Sanji knows he understands. Sanji knows that if somebody has to kill him, it's him.

And I don't even think it's because Sanji assumes Zoro's opinion of him is hatred and it would hurt less for him to do this, but because Sanji knows only Zoro would be able to treat the promise as it is. Because he would put Sanji's wishes before any feelings he has for him. It's not that Zoro doesn't care, but I think he respects people's ideals and decisions to the extent of being able to kill Sanji if he so desires.

That being said, he'd do it if there's no other way to fix it. If it's either dying or living as an emotionless machine, which is the same as dying for Sanji, Zoro would fulfill his promise. And there is just... Something about Luffy not knowing. Their captain. The man they're devoted to the most as if he were their God. Luffy doesn't know. It's something only the captain's wings are aware of and the thought of these two keeping this from Luffy until the end is just insane. Not even trying to make it romantic here, but the bond and respect these two have for each other is crazy.

Maybe it's the poetry of it all, too. Somebody like Zoro, who has looked at Death in her face multiple times and said "no", ending Sanji's life, who wants to give in to death to not experience a fate worse than death for him.

#bean posting zosan this is so rare and weird don't get used to it sweeties #kind of tired of people jumping to extremes with these two btw like- #they don't hate each others but they're also not best friends-- respect is something they value even more than those things #they're not good for my mental health they make me go insane #this wasn't meant to be in a shippy way but idk if you wanna see it as romantic you do you bc it could def be #it depends on my mood #i consider myself a zosan shippers on random days #you could also say sanji thinks zoro doesn't give a fuck about him and that's why he tells him bc we know this guy's self-worth is awful #but i also like to think it's because zoro's views on life and death are exactly what sanji needs #luffy would try to look for a way to fix this and they others wouldn't be able to do it tbh #i mean if it ever got too serious i think luffy could do it but do you really think sanji's gonna make him go through that #if zoro has to die he wants to die by luffy's hand but if sanji has to die he wants to die without involving their captain #idk if that makes sense okay i haven't slept at all tbf #one piece #black leg sanji #roronoa zoro #zosan

[mixedbag-o-beans]

dan and phil and the queer joy that is radiating from this new era on the gaming channel is my roman empire. the older i get the more i realize how important it is to see older queer people that are happy

#dan and phil #dan and phil games #it’s so nice #i’m like an ‘old gay’ now #(comparatively lil 13 year old me did not expect to live this long) #i didn’t know any old gays then #it was just me and gaggle of other mentally ill gay children #who were grasping at straws for representation #clinging to ruby rose and laverne cox like our lives depended on it #it just makes my inner child happy #maybe i’m assigning meaning where it doesn’t belong #but it means something to me #dan howell #phil lester #queer joy

[shima-draws]

Currently in the middle of reading a Lawlu soulmate fic and it’s SUPER cute so far but the best thing is that Law is also Cora’s (platonic) soulmate, and Cora’s got the ‘You won’t see in color until you meet your soulmate’ kind of bond. Except it fluctuates depending on Law’s health, and Law runs purely on caffeine and spite, so Cora will text him being like “Hey. For some strange reason I currently cannot see the color red. Would you happen to know anything about that” and Law is just like “Uhhh. No??” and Cora’s like “Law I swear to GOD you’d better stop pulling all nighters do not make me come over there” LMAO

#I LOVE this concept so much oh my godddd #Cora’s ability to see in color all dependent on Law #So he’s got a RADAR. He KNOWS when Law isn’t treating himself well #Cora: Can currently only see in pastels. Law. #Law; sweating: In my defense I HAD to be up all night. Okay?? #Cora: EXCUSES!! GO TO BED!!!!!! #FNNSNFNS #It’s called ‘Not a Ball or a Chain’ btw!! #I really love the concept they’re exploring too of like. Not WANTING a soulmate. Not wanting that bond to be romantic #Bc I know a lot of people’s gripes with soulmate AUs revolves around forced destiny and characters HAVING to end up with each other #Idk I just like it 👉👈 #One Piece #Lawlu #Also the idea of platonic soulmates makes me soooo happy #Law and Cora are absolutely platonic soulmates 🥺 #Shima speaks