#May Allah give peace to everyone affected

[notetaeker]

Regarding the shift of focus of your blog, I just wanted to thank you for doing that.

Your posts were the first to introduce me to the other side of the story, and make me aware of the horrific and indescribable violence inflicted upon the Palestinian people by the Zionists. I’m ashamed to admit that up until that point I was blind to all of it, from start to finish. The mainstream media had a firm grip on me with regards to this issue, even though I tend to read multiple news sources and generally consider myself media-literate. Clearly, media literacy isn’t enough, if 95% of the media is supporting genocide and spreading lies.

That is to say, what you’re doing here is important. If it weren’t for you, I probably would’ve carried on in ignorance. Thanks to liking your posts the algorithm has now suggested me a few other related posts from creators I never would’ve found otherwise, since they exist outside of my narrow areas of interest (studyblr, notebooks, stationary, art).

I am so sorry for what you’re going through. My heart goes out to you and everyone affected.

No omg don’t feel ashamed! As you said it is the tight grip of the media. Especially if you don’t have exposure to the communities that are talking about the other side not mentioned by the news. It’s so deeply ingrained in us that news is supposed to be unbiased and include both sides of the story that we don’t notice when it’s not (we automatically assume it is true because that is what we expect of news)

As for me, my palestinian friends would tell me stories of their families, how houses of people they knew were crushed by the colonizers bulldozers, humiliation they themselves experienced at Isr*eli checkpoints and the fear. Oh God the fear of making a mistake. And I was in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL hearing all of this so it has always stayed with me.

I think this issue is crystal clear for anyone who looks up the information. Even just looking at things like accounts from people who live on each side it becomes so clear. But that’s the thing they add labels and bad words so that you don’t want to support them. Like who wants to support terrorists? barbarians? antisem*tics? No one.

But if you go deeper than labels, for example for anti-semitism, you see that many diaspora Jews condemn Israel. Some Isr*eli citizens themselves don’t agree with the violent settler colonialism of the Isr*eli government. Many Isr*elis aren’t even practicing Jews- it’s not Judaism that is the problem- it never was. It’s not even a Muslim-Jewish “religious” conflict- Isr*el has displaced half the Christian Palestinian population of West Jerusalem as well. Muslims don’t hate Jews, in fact, a quick check into history reveals that Jews have always thrived under Muslim rule and often sought to live under Muslim rule themselves because of the violent history of antisemitism from christians!

And all of that is needed JUST to dismantle the way a single word is used to label the issue. So who would go out of their way to do that research? That’s what the oppressors are banking on.

Don’t be ashamed at all, I applaud you actually. It takes actual concern for your fellow humans to look past those labels and find out what’s really going on. I do always say that it’s the least we can do, and that we owe it to the civilians suffering on both sides to find the truth, but in reality no one does it, so it is a very commendable task that you have actually done. I applaud you for having the courage to question what you believe. It is a powerful thing 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

#replies #anon #May Allah give peace to everyone affected #Palestine genocide

[ama-zilna]

Salam,

Allahumma barik! I can always see the maturity and wisdom through your responds and writings. I can see how you go deep and reflect your own situations, which not many people can do. It is a blessing to reach that far within yourself and realise, like for example when you mentioned: "The fact that I got hurt due to the change in circumstances hurts me more than the circumstance itself. It's like I am lacking in tawakkul." This is only one of many examples I have read from your previous posts. And you also have a beautiful way of writing things down. Every time I read one of your posts, I think about how well that field would suit you. You are very good at it, Allahumma barik!

I couldn't agree more with your response to question 36. Often, people confuse their feelings, thinking it's romantic when it's not. People get comfortable way too easily because they want to get to know someone, believing that this is the only way to find the "right" person. So dangerous and irresponsible like you said. If it doesn't work, what are you left with? Broken, empty, emotionally unstable, regretful and the list continues. It´s not worth it and you will lose Allah's blessings when getting to know someone in the wrong circumstances. Everyone's rizq is already written and we should do our part to come closer to Allah and have sabr and Allah will do the rest.

Ameen to your duaa. May Allah bless you for your sincerity and for striving to do right. And may He grant you what is best for you at the right time. Ameen.

وَعَلَيْكُمُ ٱلسَّلَامُ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّٰهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Dear anon, first of all I am just grateful that there are people who would sit and read anything I have to say and on top of that they would take the time to write a response to that. Really, thank you very much.

Ameen to your duas, and I pray the same for you and more. May Allah give you what's best for you.

As for your praise, I am not sure if I am good enough of a writer, but I try to relay whatever is in my heart. I pray that Allah blesses us with wisdom that's beneficial.

As for falling for someone whom you shouldn't even get involved with in the first place, it is a sort of pandemic that the Muslim Ummah is facing (may Allah forgive us all and guide us, ameen). We have over-romanticised things to an extent that our normal thoughts might have been affected by the things we choose to expose ourselves with. Our hearts tend to be homesick, but I pray that the home we seek is the right place to be in. Sometimes I read about the people of the past (the prophets and the righteous people), and I just wonder if I could ever reach such a state of iman in my lifetime. It wouldn't hurt me as much to die knowing that I couldn't achieve a certain career goal or attain a certain amount of wealth as compared to realizing that I didn't do enough to have a peaceful time in the grave. Anyway, I might just be rambling about random things, while the question might have been simple.

Keep me in your duas, anon. None of us are out of the woods, and whatever remains of our lives, I pray that we could live them with sincerity.

[yukheilarious]

My poor mom she has no one to rant and vent with but I share her anger and pain, and her siblings are such snitches too like sigh. She’s so lonely, I know she needs help. I hope atleast she can find peace. InshaAllah she will. I just want her to be healthy so her and I can live a better life. It’s so sad that ppl like us also have to be concerned about our health but our situations brought us stress, how can we not let it affect us. May Allah keep us healthy and give us a better life because we fought for it.

Talking to her also brought me back to my reality like why am I jealous of my friends when my life is so different. I’m at war and they’re at peace, we’re at two different places. It makes me realize how focused I was when I was trying so hard to make it while fighting my demons. I can’t believe admist of all of that I did everything and I do things to make my dreams come true Mia, if you ever look at others and think you’re less like GURL, you’ve come so so far. Allah DOESNT build everyone to be a soldier for peace, but you, MashaAllah, if I ever doubt myself again I am doubting how He built me and He is never wrong. He built me to be a warrior and I am walking on His path, stronger than ever. I am so proud of myself for who Allah made me. And InshaAllah, soon everything will be better and all my dreams will come true.

[muhtesemz]

Why is it so hard for man to lower his gaze?

And why is it so hard for woman to hide her beauty?

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (125):

There are a number of benefits in lowering the gaze:

1. It is obedience to the command of Allaah, which brings happiness to man in this world and in the next. There is nothing more beneficial to a person in this world and in the next than obeying the commands of his Lord, may He be blessed and exalted, and those who are happy in this world and the next can only attain that happiness by obeying His commands, and those who are doomed in this world and in the next are only doomed because they ignore His commands.

2. It prevents the poisoned arrows (of the shaytaan), which may lead to his doom, from reaching his heart.

3. It creates a heart that is devoted to and focused on Allaah. Letting the gaze wander distracts the heart and keeps it far from Allaah. There is nothing more harmful to a person than letting his gaze wander, as it creates alienation between a person and his Lord.

4. It strengthens the heart and brings it peace, just as letting the gaze wander weakens it and makes it sad.

5. It brings light to the heart, just as letting the gaze wander brings darkness to it. Hence Allaah mentioned the verse of light immediately after the command to lower the gaze, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

'Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts…' [al-Noor 24:30]

Then straight after that He says (interpretation of the meaning):

'Allaah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The parable of His Light is as (if there were) a niche and within it a lamp'. [al-Noor 24:35]

i.e., the likeness of His light in the heart of His believing slave who obeys His commands and heeds His prohibitions. If the heart is enlightened blessings will come to it from all sides, but if it is darkened, calamity and evil will come to it from all places. Whatever exists of innovation, misguidance, following whims and desires, avoiding true guidance and turning away from the means of happiness and focusing on the means that lead to doom, that will be recognizable by means of the light that is in the heart. If that light is lost then one will left like a blind man stumbling in the darkness.

6. It generates true insight which can distinguish between truth and falsehood, sincerity and lies. Allaah rewards His slave for his good deeds with something similar and if he gives up something for the sake of Allaah, He will compensate him with something better than it. So if he lowers his gaze and refrains from looking at things that Allaah has forbidden, Allaah will compensate him with enlightenment; he will compensate him for restraining his gaze for the sake of Allaah, and will open to him the doors of knowledge, faith and true insight which he only attained by means of the light in his heart. The opposite of that is the blindness which Allaah attributed to the homosexuals, which is the opposite of insight. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

'Verily, by your life (O Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering blindly.' [al-Hijr 15:72]

7. It creates a heart that is steadfast, brave and strong. Allaah will give him both insight and power and strength, as it says in the report:

'The one who goes against his whims and desires, the shaytaan flees from his shadow.'

On the other hand, the one who follows his whims and desires will feel a sense of humiliation, indignity, worthlessness and insignificance, which is the punishment which Allaah has decreed for those who disobey Him as al-Hasan said: 'Even if they ride the finest of mounts, the effect of sin will never depart from them. Allaah insists that the one who disobeys Him will be humiliated.'

Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, has connected strength to obedience to Him, and humiliation to disobedience to Him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

'But honour, power and glory belong to Allaah, and to His Messenger (Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and to the believers.' [al-Munaafiqoon 63:8]

'So do not become weak (against your enemy), nor be sad, and you will be superior (in victory) if you are indeed (true) believers.' [Aal ‘Imraan 3:139].

Faith is both words and deeds, inward and outward. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

'Whosoever desires honour, power and glory then to Allaah belong all honour, power and glory [and one can get honour, power and glory only by obeying and worshipping Allaah (Alone)]. To Him ascend (all) the goodly words, and the righteous deeds exalt it (i.e. the goodly words are not accepted by Allaah unless and until they are followed by good deeds)'. [Faatir 35:10]

i.e., whoever desires power, let him seek it by means of obedience to Allaah and remembrance of Him, by speaking good words and doing good deeds. In Du’aa’ al-Qunoot it says: 'he is not humiliated whom You have befriended, nor is he honoured who You take as an enemy.' Whoever obeys Allaah is His friend in as much as he obeys Him, and he will have support and honour from Him commensurate with his obedience towards Him. Whoever disobeys Him is His enemy in as much as he disobeys Him, and he will have humiliation from Him commensurate with his disobedience towards Him.

8. It blocks the shaytaan from a means of entering his heart, for he may enter with looking, and penetrate the heart faster than the wind blowing through an empty space, and he may present to him the image that he looked at and make it attractive, like an idol to which his heart becomes devoted, then he encourages him and gives him hopes, and fans the flames of desire in his heart, adding the fuel of sin which could not have reached his heart without looking at that image. So his heart becomes inflamed and surrounded with fire on all sides, resulting in infatuation and frustration, and he is in the midst of it like a lamb in the oven. Hence the punishment for those whose desires were fuelled by haraam looking is that in al-Barzakh they are placed in an oven of fire.

9. It distracts one from thinking of what is in one’s best interests, so his affairs become neglected and he follows his whims and desires and neglects to remember his Lord. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

'and let not your eyes overlook them, desiring the pomp and glitter of the life of the world; and obey not him whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance, and who follows his own lusts, and whose affair (deeds) has been lost.' [al-Kahf 18:28]

10. Between the eyes and the heart there is a connection which means that the one is affected by the other, and if one of them becomes good, the other will also become good, and if one becomes corrupt the other will become corrupt. If the heart becomes corrupt the gaze will become corrupt, and if the gaze become corrupt the heart will become corrupt, and similarly if one is sound the other will also be sound.

These are just a few benefits of lowering gaze and hiding beauty for women. Immense reward in the Hereafter and the social impact are yet to mention. So it is hard, in fact almost impossible as Shaytan is always around us, trying to mislead us. But the reward is also huge, right? InshaAllah if we keep it in mind, it'll be easier for us to obey. May Allah make this easy for everyone of us.

#anon #ask

[flowersofjannah]

As-salamu 'aleykum sister

I'm quite "fresh" in Islam, I'm kind of a revert. I love this religion as it gives meaning to this world, gives us a purpose and can heal our hearts. But there is one thing I struggle with it's the relationship between muslims and the kuffar. I know they're the worst on earth as they rejected Allah. But the fact is, I struggle to stop loving and have affection for them. And this is materialized in the concept of military expedition in Islam which one of the command I struggle with even though I'll never reject it bi idnilah. How do you personnally deal with ?

Wa 'alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Congratulations on bringing your heart to this religion! ^.^

“Allah does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion and did not drive you out of your homes. Verily, Allah loves those who deal with equity.”

—Quran, 60:8

The Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ treated everyone with kindness be it a believer or disbeliever, that was the way he captured most hearts to accept islam. Allah does not tell us to harbor hate for disbelievers who do not harm us.

"Then perhaps you would kill yourself through grief over them, [O Muhammad], if they do not believe in this message, [and] out of sorrow."

— Quran, 18:6

The above verse shows how much concern the Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ had for the disbelievers.

When the Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ made hijrah to Madina, he صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ made peace treaties with the Jewish communities and they lived peacefully and in harmony with each other (until the treaties were violated by some of the Jewish tribes).

Islam teaches us to be kind to our neighbors, be they Muslim or non-Muslim.

The Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ showed mercy even after the battle of Uhud, he was harmed and he صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ bled but still he responded with mercy:

Ibn Mas`ud (may Allah be pleased with him), who states, “It is as if I am looking upon the Messenger of Allah describing one of the prophets — Allah’s blessings and peace be upon them all — whose people struck him and caused him to bleed, yet he wipes the blood off his face, saying, ‘O Allah! Forgive my people, for they know not what they are doing.'” [Bukhari, Muslim]

We should hate the act of disbelieving, we should hate the sins. We don't show hate towards a specific individual. That's not the way of our Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ at all.

Yes, there were times it was commanded to be harsh but you must understand the circumstances on why it was commanded. Generally, the Prophet صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ was not harsh to the disbelievers but he صَلَّى ٱللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ was lenient. I suggest you study the seerah, you will have a better understanding on loving/hating for the sake of Allah in regards to the disbelievers and when and why it was commanded to be harsh.

I suggest to start with the Qalam Podcast Heartwork - The Messenger. It's very easy to follow, well executed, and relatable. You can find it on Apple Podcast or even here: http://www.qalaminstitute.org/ (click Filter -> The Messenger). Then build your knowledge from there in sha Allah.

[alovevigilante]

In this world of vying for attention, and being recognized and known, I am beginning to appreciate my anonymity. But it wasn’t always by deliberate choice…

For years I wanted to be famous. When I was a kid I dreamed of being known, and revered by everyone. I watched tv, and saw celebrities being celebrated and adored. It seemed like a brilliant, utopian life. Be special, be one of the chosen few, be singled out above the crowd, you’re IT, kid! Those were the kinds of thoughts I hinged my happiness on. And those were also the kinds of thoughts that eventually made me extremely miserable, when they didn’t come to fruition.

I write a lot about my process of becoming who I am. And fortunately or unfortunately depending on the subject matter, the process of becoming can reignite old energy of the past. Fame, to me, can be a touchy subject, because I was a working entertainer for 20 plus years who stopped to be a mom, but to also figure out where I belonged in the world. I was never chosen by the outside world as anything to write home about, and I’m sensitive to that fact due to my filter and personal experiences that have colored my perception. In the entertainment industry you are constantly having to prove yourself as better than the rest time and time again, and that just wasn’t for me. Energy, and the attention to it, is.

When I was a working actor there were a lot of projects that I didn’t get, and a lot of people I didn’t know. I also wasn’t a close knit member of any peer group. I found that to be a hindrance to my desire to fit in. I also wasn’t the star that outshined the rest in other’s opinions, nor was I always outwardly accepted by my peers or revered on a grand scale, and that fact is considered by many to be a failure in the industry. I used to internalize that definition of myself for years.

So, with that in mind, and moving forward, in writing the rest of my process from here on out, I’m going to try to be cognizant of the fact that that was then, and this is my new “now”, and avoid reactivating the energy that I don’t wish to re-experience in my head. Because when I re-think it, I re-feel it. Being mindful of my feelings on certain subjects, allows me to be able to trust myself more, to have my own back. To me, being able to rely on me, is the very best way to support my future. It brings me a sense of security knowing that no matter what, I can rely, on me. I only mention this, because I am the only one in charge of my feelings and my thoughts. If I can get on board with the support of me instead of my detrimental thoughts that I have about my so called “external limitations” that life has shown me due to my lack of self worth, then I have a better chance at changing my foundation by choosing better thoughts that actually aid in assisting me to more desirable outcomes and experiences in my life.

All that said, let’s continue with the word, anonymity in a more general context. If you’re alive, you’re not anonymous. If you’re living, you’re a part of the whole of humanity, and in just “being” you affect everything in the three dimensional world around you. You’re a living, breathing extension of life. And you can be the most famous, well known person born of privilege and prestige, or live relatively quietly in the mountains on your own, regardless you are still the same in the eyes of the universe. Our world view is actually very hyper focused. And we can easily get lost in it. If you back it all the way up to us humans being a microcosm compared to the vast universe, then things start becoming very clear. Our focus, is the way we experience and perceive life. And what we value, can be affected by how big or small, we decide to make it.

Is one human being really more important than another? It depends on your beliefs. To you personally, they may be depending on what you value, and your attachments to what you value. Who you know, what you wear, who you sleep with, who you’re seen with, how much money you make, how big of a following you have, all have nothing to do with being you. But I’m just here, in my relative anonymity to point out, that we all start off as a sperm and an egg creating alchemy to produce a complete single celled organism that multiplies and becomes what we are born into in the world, and we perceive from that filter. Depending on your beliefs, you may argue this point, but I’m not speaking from any religious reference right now, just basic science fact. We are all born into the world, as what we are. What we choose to value, stems from our own individual feelings and environment. We experience from that filter. So, what is deemed more valuable to some, may not be the universal definition. It may be society’s majority of accepted interest, but it’s not the whole’s. The whole of us, as a universe, does not discriminate. The whole of us, could give a rip about what you’ve done, or where you come from to become accepted and validated in a very superficial way. The whole of us, is really actually all the same; we crave belonging, and love. We all base our minds, and live our lives, according to how much of both we perceived we’ve experienced.

So, if you have settled for what you’ve seen from your life so far, I am also here to tell you that you can change it, if you aren’t satisfied. We are living, thinking creators. The ideas come first, and then the reality comes next. If you think you are only good as what you’ve been deemed by others, and you are waiting to be picked out of a crowd and elevated to the next level, you may be waiting forever. You are the only one that has the power to level up, whatever that definition means to you, by the power within you to create it. That’s life. What you believe, you see. And you can start today, seeing your existing life, your current three dimensional reality differently than before. You can start appreciating the things you enjoy about yourself and your life, more. You can focus, on the love that is currently available to you. All of the beauty that surrounds you can be compounded and multiplied exponentially, just by your attention to it. And you don’t need to be born with a silver spoon in your mouth, to do it.

Creating your life, being the intentional artist of your human experience, is freedom. And it’s the freedom that we all seek, and money can’t buy it. Creating is free, and it’s just a feeling and a corresponding thought away. Being anonymous or appreciating your anonymity is great, because it includes less judgement while you shift to the “you” you want to be. The reinvention that you desire. The more evolved you, that you always knew you had the potential to be. All it takes, is your attention to it.

Aligning yourself with you, is the way to your every desire, and the you you are currently may not even be able to dream as high as that new and higher vibrational reality, meaning, you may not get what you wish for now, but when you become happier more often with your focus, what you wish for from that happier state, may be different, and better than what you want feeling the lack of it.

The universe, God, Jesus, Buddha, Allah, Muhammad, Rah, Jaweh, no matter how you define your source that works with you to help you achieve peace is conspiring only to love and aid in your happiness. You are not anonymous to them. So let love in. ☀️ 💕

#choose love #love matters #love manifestation #self reflection #self love #self esteem #self improvement #selfworth #self care #self development #love #feelings #nothing more than feelings #a love vigilante #anonymous

[b-lessings]

Salaam. Sister just a quick question I'm really struggling with this issue as it affects me mentally. How does one cope when a family member is envious of the blessings Allah has bless us with meaning a child and a good marriage? And makes it's obvious and complains about it to others. Also blaming it on us saying that we're the cause of them not being blessed?!

Jazakillah khayr for taking your time reading this I hope I do get a reply from you. I don't know who to seek help from is there anyone I can speak to like a sheikh or sheikha?

Wallahi I need help.

Wa Alaikum Assalam wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu sis 🤍

I don't know where to start wallahi as your issue is something that I deal with personally. Except that I go to therapy rather than to a sheikh or sheikha 😅 (well because seeking the help of a sheikh is not in my culture but that's another topic). But what I meant to say is that maybe my reply wouldn't built on strong religious basis as you expect. Thus, I am seeking the help of my sisters @heruwrittencanvas and @3ayyn InshaAllah they will find some good words to help you.

Anyways, let me start by saying I FEEL YOU sister. And maybe I don't know exactly what you're going thru but I do have an idea. And I am so sorry you are going thru this, but hey you are not alone, I promise. We can virtually stick together 🙈💕

Now, let's get serious. Be it a family member, a close relative, a neighbor, a friend or a stranger, people will ALWAYS be jealous, envious of you for one way or the other. Because a) that's who they are as a person b) that's because of their low iman and c) that's the devil's promise to Allah, so technically comparison, hasad, envy and jealousy will always be there until the end of time. So here's what I need you to do. I know how bad this is affecting you and being exhausting for you (and the worst part is that you can't actually confront that person for one reason or the other). So first of all, know that it is not about you personally. If it were anyone else in your position, they'd still feel jealous and envious and they'd still act the exact same way. The problem is in them. They are not satisfied with their lives, they are not satisfied with what Allah swt gave them, they are not grateful, AstaghfiruAllah, so it's really not purposefully targeted to you, so please please please don't take it personally. At least this way, it will lighten the weight on your chest. So when you hear them say something like that again first tell yourself, let your mind know that " no it's not really about us, they are just projecting their issues " and that would InshaAllah absorb the intensity and the negativity of the situation.

Also, I promise you, it's not even about having a good marriage (may Allah bless your family and your union) or good children, they'd always find something to hate on and be jealous about. It's a disease in their hearts SubhanAllah so please please I know this is a lot that I am asking but try making duaa for them (even to their face), say Allah yahdeek/i ( May Allah swt guide you), and say May Allah swt give you so many blessings, give you everything you want. There is one duaa that I love that we say in my culture that is " May Allah swt reward you as much as (what / how much ) your heart can hold. " Which is very powerful, because if their heart is holding on evil then their reward will be accordingly as Allah swt is the most fair the most just!

Also, you know the saying " Kill them with kindness "? Try that. Just be EXTRA nice to them and their kids and InshaAllah it will count as good deeds for you. Do it for Allah's sake. He knows what's in the hearts.

One more tip, please please do " tahseen " that is say the daily remembrance and duaas to protect your family and your children before you leave your house, before you meet this person, read surah al falaq , surah al nas, ayat al Kursi, and say " bismillahi allahi la yadhuru ma'a ismihi shayun fil ardhi wa la fel samaa wa huwa as-samee' al-aleem " x3 times in the morning and in the evening and InshaAllah Allah swt will protect you of all that is evil 🤍🤍

Then, the MOST important thing you can do is be a little discreet about your life. Protect your family by keeping your affairs to yourself. Be careful who to share your news with because not everyone wants the best for you. Prophet Yusuf's brothers plotted to kill him and get rid of him because they were jealous of their father's love for him.

And about the last part, I honestly have no idea who you could reach out to some scholars or people of knowledge (on instagram) or on their Facebook pages. It depends on your entourage, where you live, etc. There are a lot of good people, speakers who always go live on their pages or give their followers a space to ask questions then they answer them. You can give me more details like whether you speak Arabic or English and I will recommend some instagram pages for you.

Anyways, I feel like I talked too much, InshaAllah I was able to bring you a bit of peace and some help. I will leave some room for my sisters, InshaAllah they can help too 🌸🌸

May Allah swt give you strength and patience. And remember, always always always rely on Allah swt to protect you and your family. And always be grateful to him for what he has blessed you with Allahuma barik 🤍🌸

Assalamu Alaikom.

[islamicrays]

Salām alaikum sister. Does 'nazar' in Islam exist? And if so, what can we do abou it? How can we protect ourselves from it; is there any dua one should read on a daily basis?

Walaikum Assalaam,

Yes, evil eye do exist.

“Whoever among you sees something in himself or in his possessions or in his brother that he likes, let him pray for blessing for it, because the evil eye is real.” Narrated by Ibn al-Sunni in ‘Aml al-Yawm wa’l-Laylah, p. 168; and by al-Haakim, 4/216. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Kalim al-Tayyib, 243.

If ever one fears any evil from any quarter, the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) dictates that one recite the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas), seeking refuge and putting their complete trust and faith in the Power and Strength and Protection of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala Alone; it is expected that their Lord Most High will protect them from any and all evil, and no evil or harm will be able to approach them from any quarter.

Narrated by Abu Sa’id al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him)

Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) used to seek refuge in Allah from jinn and the evil eye in men till the Mu’awwidhatan (Surah 113 Al-Falaq and Surah 114 An-Naas) were revealed, after which he (peace be upon him) made use of them and abandoned everything else.

(Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4563)

The practice of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was to recite the Surah Al-Ikhlas, Surah Al-Falaq, and Surah An-Naas at least three times in the mornings and the evenings, and also when he (peace be upon him) retired for the night to sleep…..

Abdallah b. Habib reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Speak.” I asked, “O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), what should I say?” He (peace be upon him) replied, “Recite Surat Al-Ikhlas, and the two last Surahs (i.e. Surah al-Falaq and Surah an-Nas) in the morning and evening three times, and it will suffice you for everything.”

Read these quotes; it will help you in shaa Allah

“How many times do we hear cases of people complaining about life suddenly becoming bad, evil eye and many spiritual illnesses. However, my question is how are we using social media? You’re looking extra good, you put upload it on Facebook. A new house, your wedding photos, that expensive dress, the delicious food, the latest car, the new suit, the coolest phone- you put it on social media. You bought a new headscarf or thobe and it matches your shoes - boom put it on social media. Your smile looks extra nice today, so the world has to see it. You been banging weights and all your mates have to see the 6 pack or the new vein in the bicep so upload it for all to see. That new make up has made you look extra pretty so your friends must see it. You prayed, fasted, cried and gave charity, so your 5,000 friends have to know. Be careful of how you’re exposing your blessings to the world. Not everyone possesses what you do and not every person wants to see you happy. Make sure you pray, recite verses of protection daily and before you sleep. Not everything has to be for social media.”

-Shaykh Mohammed Aslam

"Majority of the evil eye a person receives is not from a bad person or someone intending to do you harm, its just that they see you expose the blessings Allah has given you. You or they fail to say MashaAllah!"

-Shaykh Ibrahim Osi-Efa

"People are complaining that things are going wrong in their lives and they fear they are affected by evil eye or black magic. We are living in a world where updating facebook statuses is trending. Everyone wants to show their friends their new clothes, their hairstyles, the latest hijab style, the fancy dress they are wearing and their cute smile. We give no importance to the fact that hundreds will look at us; some who love us and some who despise us. Next time you think of loading a photo of yourself, just be conscious that not everyone has what you may have and not everyone will really “like” your photo. Evil eye is a truth in Islam and we are told to safeguard ourselves from it. Recite ta'awudh (aoodhu billah) when wearing clothes and also ayatul kursi among other duas and use social media responsibly and cautiously."

-Shaykh Monawwar Ateeq

May Allah guide us to the straight path and protect us from all evil.

Allahumma Ameen

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I have a constant feeling of exhaustion and boredom. This situation affects my prayers negatively. What could be the reason or reasons for them and what would you advise me to do as a solution?

Unlike bodily disorders, the causes of spiritual distress may not be the same in everyone. They can be different for each person; it can vary from person to person.

For example, the cause of diseases such as diabetes, kidney failure and cancer can be the same or similar for everyone in general while boredom, “world-weariness” and depression, etc. can vary from person to person. For, any spiritual distress is closely related to the person's age, gender, profession, marital status, personality structure, education, financial condition, faith, childhood, traumatic events he underwent and family structure.

In addition, whether this feeling, which you describe as "boredom" and "exhaustion”, occurs all the time or from time to time changes many things in terms of diagnosis.

Therefore, it is not possible to tell the exact cause of this state of boredom that you feel without knowing you closely. In this case, it is also difficult to give a specific prescription.

However, we will focus on possible general causes and suggestions for solutions to the feelings of boredom and exhaustion that people can sometimes feel. Insallah, it will be useful to you as well.

The main causes of boredom

By nature, man is a being equipped with very sensitive faculties and emotions.

Also “By nature man is extremely weak, yet everything touches him, and saddens and grieves him. Also he is utterly lacking in power, yet the calamities and enemies that afflict him are extremely numerous. Also he is extremely wanting, yet his needs are indeed many. Also he is lazy and incapable, yet life’s responsibilities are most burdensome. Also his humanity has connected him to the rest of the universe, yet the decline and disappearance of the things he loves and with which he is familiar continually pains him. Also his reason shows him exalted aims and lasting fruits, yet his hand is short, his life brief, his power slight, and his patience little.”

Thus, the struggle of a weak human being with the life of the world sometimes consumes his energy in terms of spirit and physique. The person feels emotionally and physically that he or she is experiencing a burnout syndrome; his or her interest in working, traveling and other blessings of life diminishes, and he or she loses his or her motivation.

Along with his weakness, man is also a very sensitive being.

Because of this sensitivity, man is very concerned with his environment and events; and this can cause him to feel spiritually tired and exhausted. People who are particularly sensitive and compassionate sometimes feel compelled to grapple with material and spiritual problems more than usual or try to help everyone's problems. During this process, they naturally become tired and exhausted.

In addition, man is a social being.

His creator coded him in a way to live with someone from the opposite gender in the community, to share life and every beauty together. Therefore, people who are single, divorced or separated, or those whose spouses have died may also experience boredom and inability to enjoy life.

For people who do not believe in Allah and the Day of Judgement or who have a weak faith, life and living are meaningless. For them, life has no meaning after a certain point of satisfaction. Thus, life that is meaningless gives people boredom and exhaustion.

For these reasons and similar ones, if no solution to the problem of boredom and exhaustion is found, emotions become chronic and permanent. In this case, indifference to events, boredom and escaping from people begin. It also becomes difficult for a person to act to change their condition. The person who is in this mood becomes skeptical of himself and assumes attitudes and thoughts that will evaluate him negatively.

Remedies and solutions

For the solution, first of all, it is important for the person to make sense of the spiritual situation in a spiritual point of view and to look at life through a new perspective.

In addition, it is beneficial for him to be included in religious, cultural and social activities that will add meaning to his life as they add new excitements and color to life.

In addition, he or she needs to rest a bit and get rid of her responsibilities and spiritual burdens.

To give emotions and thoughts a suitable direction appropriate for creation and to eb able transforming the distress into an opportunity for the purpose of life

As long as it is not continuous, the state of boredom experienced in a certain period of life is actually something that can happen to everybody. For, a person has a very rich treasure of feelings but Allah has not limited these feelings. Since man is not a robot, he cannot fix his emotions. Besides, since he is in the world of testing, he can be blown to the left and right with the whispers of the soul and the devil.

Whatever the reason, when feelings are experienced at the extreme level, it can also cause a variety of spiritual problems by capturing the mind from time to time and enslaving the person. However, Allah has drawn the framework of being a peaceful person by introducing certain measures about how much to be happy and sad or to love, and to get angry for what. The way to achieve this is to train the feelings as He showed them and turn them into behavior in a nice way.

In the same way, man, who is created to maintain the moderate way in everything, finds peace by directing his thoughts and feelings in the face of events and phenomena that seem negative about him and his environment.

To do this, it is necessary to look at the misfortunes and troubles through the window of destiny. For, as the world is not unattended, the events that happen to man and his close environment are not the events that happen without wisdom, without reason, and by chance. The duty of a believer is to see the trace, mercy, affection, compassion and justice of fate behind the events and to show patience.

A calamity that happens to a person is to make him think and repent of his own mistake and sin, and to try to be closer to Allah, his Creator.

For this reason, even if some problems seemingly aggravate the burden of life, it is actually an opportunity to gain eternal life, to be closer to Him, and to gain his consent. For, in such times, the desire of man toward the pleasures and sins of the world decreases; thus, he remains in a purer state spiritually. That makes him close to Allah.

The story of Prophet Yunus (peace be upon him) is a good example of it. The people of Nineveh did not obey him and left him alone; those on the ship that he embarked regarded him as sinful and threw him into the sea, and the fish swallowed him. In other words, he was both abandoned, thrown and swallowed, just as the events swallow us in our lives, people leave us alone, and our soul throws us into the sea of sin. However, this event is also the salvation of Prophet Yunus (Jonah). He prayed to Allah with complete surrender because he felt his incapability, weakness and impotence. Allah accepted his prayer and took him to the shore safely, and gave mercy and faith to the hearts of the people of Nineveh and guided them.

As it is seen, although the story of Yunus seems like a distressing and boring event at first glance, it turns into beauties about him, leading to mercy and compassion. Our task is to make an effort to use this opportunity as a better occasion through prayers and taking refuge in Allah.

The remorse that is felt after sins and big mistakes should not turn into a punishment for the person.

Another point to note here is as follows:

People feel severely guilty when they commit a sin or make a big mistake. They want to relax their conscience by punishing themselves with the guidance of the subconscious. This punishment can sometimes be in the form of condemning themselves to unhappiness, sometimes in the form of turning away from the blessings of life.

In short, the boredom that one feels may also be a punishment that he or she has inflicted on himself or herself.

However, the punishment that the person will impose on himself will not cause his sin to be forgiven in any way because it is only Allah who forgives sins. The feeling of regret and conscientious discomfort given to man in the face of sins is an invitation sent by Allah to the servants, an invitation to be close to him and take refuge in Him. After seeing his own fault and deficiency related to sins and mistakes, that is, after taking some responsibility, looking at the share of fate for the rest and trying to be closer to Allah will comfort the person much better.

Carl Gustav Jung, who is a healthy and religious psychiatrist, says: “The happiest moments in my life are the moments of contact with my inner world.” That is, my penitence, my repentance and seeking refuge in Allah.

It is normal and perhaps good that the pleasures taken from worship are reduced at this stage.

It is normal that the pleasures taken from worship are reduced at this stage because there is a freezing of emotions here; they need time to open up and warm up.

In addition, it should not be forgotten that not takin pleasure from worship, even if it is spiritual, is more suitable for sincerity because the pleasures of worship serve as encouragement for the soul. Therefore, some Islamic scholars considered the pleasures taken from worship as risky.

The important thing is that you do not allow Satan to take advantage of this situation and to make you suffer from delusions. Indeed, some of the saints of Allah experienced the state of freezing of these feelings called “spiritual constipation” from time to time, and patiently sought refuge in Allah much more.

To make our life meaningful by thinking of the purpose of life and turning every situation we encounter into profit.

One reason that bothers modern man and makes him feel tired of life is that he cannot fully realize the meaning of life. According to him, the purpose of being in this world is only to enjoy the beauties and pleasures of world life. It makes no sense to live when the person cannot have them for various reasons because if he is here to enjoy and have fun, there is no point in living without them. This thought makes him feel tired of life.

What a believer has to do about it is to question the purpose of his life again.

This purpose is doing things that will gain man the consent of Allah and to strive to be a perfect person as the Qur'an shows. The state of boredom and exhaustion is a test suitable for this purpose and is an occasion to gain His consent.

If the person is fully aware of this purpose, no hardness in the world will break his enthusiasm; on the contrary, he will endeavor to earn his eternal life with greater effort.

Such a person knows that nothing he has done will be wasted, and he will receive the reward in the hereafter. When life becomes a field of the hereafter for him then, he will look for ways to turn every form into an opportunity and send more supplies to his or her hereafter.

That is when life, its misfortunes, beauties, in short, everything will be more meaningful. What is meaningful does not make people bored ...

In this context, if your work seems monotonous or boring, it is normal to give you boredom because they do not mean much to you. To overcome this, if it is not possible to change your job, it is possible to solve this problem with manual skills, new professions and occupations by participating in various personal development courses that will make sense to you.

Again, in this context, you can make your life even more meaningful by working with social aid organizations, helping students and the poor, giving people good and useful information, and focusing on your prayers.

When you turn back and look back on such a day, it will make you more peaceful to see your mortal life pass in a profitable way for the Hereafter.

During the day, do your best to have friendly chats and conversations with family members or friends. Chatting with close friends is among the things that relax the soul and gives dynamism.

Play sports. What people give up first when they are busy is sports whereas regular sports make it easier to deal with stress. Even when you take a short walk, you will immediately see the benefits; the next day your body will be more fit and your soul will relax.

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WHERE is Gulberg Greens Islamabad.

Whom to trust whom not to?. Especially when it comes to investments, I think making decisions in this regard are harder than that lifetime effort made to earn that heavy amount. For instance me, who had been saving up for a decade now but took me more than three years to gain confidence enough to buy land. The money lying in the bank was only losing its worth . So, I knew I had to make a decision soon for my future security.  Now the question rises whom to trust, rather how to? . Commercial Projects  in Gulberg Islamabad

As we all know how fraud is common in this market. I can’t forget the first time I visited a real estate agent, the land that cost 15lac he was selling for 20 lac. And when I made a decision to buy it, it turned out to be a non-progressing land and probably have no worth howsoever. Now I knew this time is the right time to invest especially in the vicinity of Islamabad, my tension turned into frustration as I had never felt so helpless before. I was desperate for help YES… but was there anyone to guide me… unfortunately NO! One day while I was surfing Facebook, I came across Gulberg Islamabad’s post. The image was visually pleasing . Later ,when I dig down more to the content of their posts and website, the features seemed interesting too. Flat for sale in Gulberg islamabad

On top of all that, the name of Gulberg was quite promising itself. It suddenly clicked me to visit that place and visit their sales office rather than random property dealers. I entered Gulberg Greens and I was stunned by its beauty and grand look. I was overwhelmed by the hospitality of the Sales team that involved educated men and women as well. A lady helped me out with all the queries and procedure. For the first time I felt relieved to be in the right place and right away… yes right away I signed a cheque and booked an apartment in Gulberg Heights. The Roman architecture and amazing features and facilities that this place is offering was worth relying. So now I own my property and I surely believe that where there is a will there is a way! Commercial Plots in Gulberg Islamabad

My New Year Resolution

New Year Resolution: Enough of struggles… now it’s time to do more with my life! This is what I said to myself in the beginning of 2019 and changed my perspective about life. Life as we all know tests us in every way but it’s us who decide whether to become a victim of it or have control over it by learning from our mistakes and experiences… We can surely make it better by becoming stronger, by expecting less and giving more, by focusing on our dear ones rather than those who hurt us and most of us by analyzing what we want from life and how to get it! Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds and not a work of day or two.

With time I realized that though we are always trying to comprehend everything around us, the most difficult thing to understand is what lies within us. Literally sometimes it takes years to figure out something as little as what is best for us and what isn’t. If I sound silly just try convincing yourself to do something against your will… My time for the last 4 years didn’t seem to be in my favor . But I simply accepted my fate till I couldn’t bear more, as not just my personal and professional life but also the lives attached to me were getting unbearably affected. I for once realized the cost of shattering my confidence and blaming myself.

No one was going to offer me solutions… I had to be my own master. I started off by taking care of myself, making my faith in Allah stronger . Also in any type of  circumstance I didn’t let anything get me down. All this seemed impossible initially, but today I am where I am because of this. My relationships got better and I showed good progress at work. Along with work I started a new online business of mobile accessories in collaboration with my cosine. In just one year I have earned enough to make an investment. For 2020 I can proudly say that this year I will start a new better life at my favorite place in Islamabad, The Gulberg Islamabad.

I have already booked a plots in Gulberg Residencia and now I can’t wait to see my home being built where I will have everything I wish for, a place rather than a house will be my home. I will finally be able to make my family happy with this beautiful gift. As no doubt there is no place like Gulberg Islamabad.

Everyone wants to eat fresh fruits and vegetables. Don’t you???

In the serene and green Gulberg Residencia, is my beautiful home which means the world to me. And in that 7 marla home is my small lawn which is undoubtedly my favorite spot, my peace place. I can spend hours in my garden without getting bored since it makes me come alive from inside and I just love that feeling.

My mother, my favorite person is another person who loves this spot equally. Gardening is her hobby and more than me she the one who takes good care of this garden. My garden may be tiny, but its is filled with numerous colors of nature. Here you will see a huge and unique variety of flowers, fruits and vegetables. Roses are my all time fave. In addition to which we keep growing seasonal flowers and vegetables in the garden . Plots in Gulberg Green Islamabad.

The feeling is indescribable when you see the buds blooming, vegetable growing and new leaves sprouting… its like a new beginning of joy, hope and success. Plants are not just growing stem, they have a life. I often talk to them, while I water them, i pour my love and and when i hoe the soil, i know this care I put in them will in return bring more freshness to my life. Usually my day starts in my garden. It is a positive way to begin a day with the peace of mind. I practice deep breathing for around 20 minutes and then look at all the plants that I have.

I love spending the evening hours in my garden if I have time. Best are the days when my friends come over for evening tea. We chat and enjoy the beauty that surrounds us. My pretty little garden is surely an integral part of my life. This place vanishes all the negativeness and makes me happy in seconds.

THE BIG REAL ESTATE QUESTION

Isn’t it hell of a confusion to decide which society is the best! These days too many new residence societies are emerging and everyone claims to be the best.

Other than few famous names such as Bahria Town and GULBERG, we can’t really rely on anyone… can we? So many fraud examples are there to scare us from making an investment. Also when it comes to business, we are either putting all our money in the drain or luck has knocked our door.

I wonder how many people get looted just because they trust the decent looking humans who convince them with their words. With the out of the world promises imagine how lifetime savings are blown away with just a signature. Though we can’t blindly trust any agent few things must be considered before making any decision.

They have been working in Real Estate for a quite a long time.

Check out the successful transactions and the feedbacks of their previous clients.

Their contact details, be it online or offline should always be available and so should be the responsive rate.

They should definitely be affiliated with a registered office or should be registered by themselves.

They should have in-depth information of the real estate industry.

Must supply your real estate needs as their utmost priority.

They should guide properly for your transaction

My Encounter with a Real Estate Agent

Today, thanks to the education and awareness, women believe there is nothing on earth they can’t do, well… try dealing with an ignorant person without him staring at you top to bottom, as if you are sitting naked just for his entertainment.

Seems relatable doesn’t it? That’s not it, my encounter with the goof I’m referring to kept getting more and more interesting. He was none other but a real estate agent. My colleague told me about good investment opportunities at societies near new airport so I took some time off to visit a real estate office for a better understanding.

I entered a small office with few people all in white kameez shalwar, which till this day I don’t get why they only where white… is it their dress code? Or do they try to portray decency through their look. Well if so it didn’t really work on me. Instead of gaining interest all I wanted was to get away from the creepy looks.  I asked him straight about the rates and the best offers they had within the budget I had. And after this long question he asked … “Madam Ji, what would you like to have chai or thunda (cold drink)” ? Confused I simply said, “NO, I don’t have time, please come straight to the point”… “Madam, how can we let our guest go unserved? Please feel comfortable.

So I ended up with a glass of juice which turned out to be much needed to clear my throat. Every time I asked a questioned, his eyes became wider and he bent towards me more… I thought he was going to sit on the table on some point. Well long story short, I changed my mind, received a fake call and escaped. It was till few months back when I went to the sales office of Gulberg Islamabad where I realized that decent dealing is possible in this profession.

I went with my colleague expecting disaster but she came out satisfied with all her quires answered. Now I too have made up my mind to invest only in Gulberg Green Islamabad because it’s not just serene and green, it has the best offers according to your requirements.

Life at Gulberg Residencia

Indeed, it was one of the best decisions of my life… we can’t regret the fact that our environment has a great influence on us. In other words, if we can’t adjust in our surrounding, nothing else can make us happy, neither money nor luxury. On the other hand, peace of mind in this fast moving era is not that easy to find. Cities are getting more and more crowded and so when I was capable of making an investment, all I could think was… PEACE! My residence  was living in central area of Rawalpindi.

The daily traffic block added extra half an hour to my office distance which was only 10 km away. And not just travelling, I was sick of the noises, pollution and altogether, I was unhappy with my lifestyle… even going for outing was not a fun thing for me. I know many people are happy the way they are but not me and I couldn’t help it. I had imagined a better life for my wife and my two kids who meant the world to me.

One day I crossed a newly emerging society, the Gulberg Islamabad and I felt the urge to visit it. Though the elegant entrance with wide roads and amazing farmhouses, I thought this place is only for the elite class.  Out of curiosity I asked a shopkeeper who showed me the way to the Gulberg Customer Dealing office. Again I was impressed but hopeless for I knew my savings were not enough.

Gathering up my confidence, I told the Sales Executive guy Mr. Mohsin about my total saving. Of course his response surprised me with a proposal not just for a living opportunity, but it offered an exceptional lifestyle, beyond my expectations at Gulberg Green Residencia. Though I could only afford a 5 marla plot, it was more than enough for me and my family. I thought it was the best gift I could give to my family and so it was.

When I brought my wife my kids and my parents to show them my plot, my wife was in tears of happiness and my mother couldn’t be more proud of me. I can’t wait for the time when I will move in to spend my dream life with my family. At Gulberg Islamabad, live your DREAM with SERENE AND GREEN LIFESTYLE!

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Can you Give Peace To A Person that Caused You Pain?

I think that once you fully heal & find peace you may can give peace back to a person that hurt you but you have to fully let go of all the pain, hurt, anger and all in order to have peace.

What made me write this was my personal experience. I have some days that I’m over things and then I have days where I’m mad af and want to fight everyone that caused me pain especially “Him”. I met “Him” when I was in broken place my boyfriend had just died . I loved the new attention and I got to comfortable too fast that the next thing you know 6 months into it, I’m praying for a baby by him and my prayers were answered. I knew he was unfaithful because of coming home late, not coming at all, not wanting to spend time, the blocking me on Social Media but I was in love and I was blind. I held on to words and totally brushed away the actions giving him time to “grow up”.

That’s my first mistake waiting for a MAN to become one. I can’t expect a boy transitioning into becoming a man to understand all my wants and needs. He grew frustrated of me trying to change him and I grew tired of waiting on him to change. Our worlds collided and he found himself running into the arms of the next woman and I found myself running for my life.

Was I so blind that now I have a baby growing inside of me that the father has told me to kill repeatedly after begging me to have a baby and be a family? I fucking lost it. Why the sudden change? Your scared shitless dude well so the the fuck am I. He folded. The words now mean shit and the actions are dead as well.

As a Woman, A mother a now single mother I fell into depression. Not only did I lose the father of my son I felt so alone. I didn’t wait 32 years for this goofy shit. Where are my friends? Where are the people I’ve been there for their babies and pregnancies? Everyone seemed to had disappeared. Allah then sent new people and old people into my life (my sons god mother) and I was able to finally feel a little better. I went to work and I cried in my alone time but I kept pushing. You would have never know I was sad but deep down I was. I was hurt. What about my family? My American dream? My son needs his father! I was an emotionally fucking wreck and no one knew it.

I heard learn to take it to the chin but this hurt hit me differently. The loneliness, the pregnancy experience I missed, no one to rub my feet or go get my cravings. We didn’t find out the gender together, no baby shower or gender reveal my experience was robbed from me.

Fast Forward: Baby is Born and Him was there for the birth. I decided to name my son a 3rd because he looked just like Him. I thought he would come around and try to make the family work but my hope got more and more hopeless as time went on. The depression was real, the anger was real, the begging was constant, the texts were long, the arguments were bad. I wanted to throw in the towel. I asked him several times sign your rights over so I can make you distant memory. I wanted him to be nonexistent, I wanted the pain to end but guess what it never did.

Present Day: Him was arrested 3 months before our sons 2nd birthday and I didn’t feel sadness I felt relief. I don’t mean happy relief but stress relief. I don’t have to worry about why he isn’t there, why he won’t show up, why won’t he help, why doesn’t he want to be a part of his sons life & he can’t help me now because he really can’t not because he chose not to. I was also sad because how do I tell my son that his father is in jail, how will his father being in jail affect him, how will his father being in jail affect me? So many questions and not enough answers...

So I ask now that he is at his lowest point in his life “Can I Be His Peace” I’m sorry but I can’t. As much as I thought that I had moved past it all and accepted life as a single parent the more I communicate with “Him” the more I’m reminded that I can’t give peace to the person that cause me unexplainable pain that I still haven’t healed from. I am willing to be cordial as a our sons parents but the peace, love and compassion he needs for his situation I can’t give him. My heart can’t beat the same beat or feel the same compassion I once felt because it was taken for granted. So that poses my question again...

Can you be someone’s peace that caused you pain? Let’s talk about!

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[littledreamybeth]

Everyone...

Before I start, I sincerly appologize for any grammar and spelling mistakes :) I And I want to use my plattform to raise awareness.

Here we go..

Since last weeks has been a terrible to me, especially with Fizzy’s death and the mass murder of my dear brothers and sisters in New Zealand, there are a few points that I want to get rid off. 

Some of you may know or not that I’m a muslim myself and it hurts me to know how my religion is portrayed by the media and how hateful some people react to Islam. Whereas Islam is a peaceful religion such as Christainty, Judaism and any other religion. Islam stands for peace. 

I sometimes read on social media that Islam oppresses its believers, especially the women with hijab, which I’m going to mention later on, but I can tell you that it’s bullshit. In Islam, everyone is equal, no matter if you’re rich or poor, everyone is ending up in the same place- the grave. You won’t be able to take your belongings with you. You’ll only take your good deeds and sins with you. Depending on these you will either be granted with paradise or end up being punished with hell fire. But for some people with minor sins, hell will not be a temporary place to stay. You will pay for your sins, and then hopefully, you will be able to enter paradise. However, there will be a mark on your body, that will that you come from hell. May Allah save us from hell fire.

Talking about hijab- I know that many of you ask yourselves why women wear the hijab, burqa, niqab etc. I’ll try to give you an example to explain. Roses are beautiful flowers, am I right? Everyone loves them and admires them. But roses have also thorns, haven’t they? And why? To protect themselves. That’s what the hijab means to us muslims women. Hijab is no oppression but protection against lustful glances and evil eyes. I can tell you that muslim women do not attract that much attention as a young woman who wears hot pants and tops, or have you ever seen a guy looking at a muslim women while she passes by, probably thinking how hot she is? I doubt it. Besides, why do people think that we are oppressed just because we wear the hijab? Why do yo even care  and why does it bother you so much? It is just a piece of material. If you are allowed to reaveal yourself to the world, then I’m allowed to cover myself. It is MY BUSINESS and no one elses. My hijab does NO harm to anyone, does it? And another question that I have is why can nuns cover themselves and it’s called worshipping their religion but when a muslim woman wears the hijab it’s called oppression? Can anyone tell me? Because I don’t understand...

Another thing that freaking bothers me is how some hateful people and racists claim that all muslims were terrorists. Dude, you can’t compare religion with terrorism. Islam has nothing to do with it. If the KKK does not represent Christainty, then Isis does not represent Islam. But this is what manipulative media, especially CNN and BBC try to tell you. I, as a muslim girl myself, despise terror groups such as Isis- I really hope these people, who kill innocent human beings in the name of Allah will rot in hell for the rest of their lives. ISIS are NOT muslims.They are monsters. Our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has also metioned that  if a human kills another human, it feels like as if he has killed the entire humanity. Islam prohibits the killing of innocent people. But Allah is generous, my friends. Everyone will get their punishment either on this earth or in afterlife. 

What I also do not understand is, why people fear Islam so much? Are you afraid that we are going to take over the world? If that’s the case, don’t you think that Allah would’ve created a world in which only muslim people live in if he wanted them to dominate the earth? But he has created other religions too. Think about it. We must learn to respect and love each other regardless of our backgrounds, traditions and languages. 

I hope that the New Zealand incident has opened eyes and has shown that muslims can also be victims of terrorism. The media still tries to sugarcoat the incident and never mentions the word TERRORISM in any of their reports, but murder instead. And do you know why? Because the terror act was commited by a WHITE individual. If an Arab or foreigners would have done this, it would’ve been considered as terrorism. 

Something else that makes me wonder is, WHERE ARE YOU WORLD?!! When Paris was attacked back in 2015, the entire population sent the victims and families their condolences, even politicians came together, but because muslims were affected this time, the majority shuts up and says nothing. Are muslim lives less worth than any other? EVERY LIFE MATTERS IN THIS WORLD!! I’m glad that New Zealand’s PM takes responsibility, she earns my respect, because if that happened in some other countries, no politician would even care. I’m happy New Zealanders support and protect each other.

My advice for anyone who doubts Islam: Do your own researches. Don’t judge a book by its cover. And especially don’t let media control your mind! Don’t even watch the news! Give muslim people the chance to prove themselves, especially those in America. Talk to muslims people about Islam, ask everything that you want and I promise you they will be glad to answer your questions :) We are happy to talk about our religion and we are happy about every question that we get. You can also read the quran, there are translations existing. Maybe it’ll change your view on Islam.

We are going through hard times at the moment, especially with Trump as USA’s president. You may think that his actions does not influence the world but it does. We need to stand up for each other and fight Trump’s hate with love. We need to support and protect each other, living as friends in this cruel world.  

We need to fight against hate crimes, Islamophobia, racism and apartheid and try to fight for a better world, full of love, friendship, respect, and kindness. 

I really hope that I could knock some sense in some people’s mind. In I whole-heartedly appreciate that you’ve taken your time to read this post. I would be happy, if my little rant could be spreaded around because it is very important to me. You don’t have to be a muslim to stand against injustice, you have to be a human, remember this.

I love and respect all of you as long as you do the same. I don’t tolerate discrimination. 

Stay safe, every single one of you and please think about my words...

May Allah keep you safe, healthy and happy. 

Appreciate what you have because many people do not own what you own. Thank Allah for everything that you have. Allhamdulillah, we have everything that we need, don’t we?

Take care of yourselves, my friends. I’ll keep you in my heart.

Assalamu alaikum 🧡

#islam #muslim #personal post

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Salam Julaibib For a while now I have been very anxious. I think about death all the time, because I have been very sick (I’m much better alhamdullilah) and also because someone I know passed away at a very young age. I know it is good to be wary of death, but it has reached a point where I get anxiety attakcs, that physically and mentally hurts. I can’t sleep at night either and it is affecting me very much overall. Is there a good way to handle anxiety and the thoughts:( I’d take any advice

The believer cannot do without his Lord. He is the only One Who can bring benefits or ward off harm. By turning to Allah you did the right thing.

Death is a reality, and Allaah has decreed it for every soul, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): “Everyone shall taste death”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:185]

No matter how hard a person tries, he can never ward off that which Allaah has willed and decreed for him, namely death.

But fear should not prevent a person from worshipping and obeying Allah, rather it should do the opposite. Fear should motivate one to worship and obey Allaah. Fear – as Ibn Qudaamah said – is the whip of Allah with which He drives His slaves to persist in seeking knowledge and acting upon it, so that they may attain the status of being close to Allah.

Fear may cause a person to become worried, anxious or ill, which may in turn cause him to despair of the mercy of Allaah; in this case his fear is not something good, it is bad.

It should be noted that a lot of worry and psychological stress is caused by not being content (with the will and decree of Allaah). We may not get what we want, and even if we do get what we want that may not make us feel content as we had hoped; the idea that we had in our minds before getting it was better than the reality.

You have to have faith and fear Allah; always recite dhikr and wirds that are prescribed in sharee’ah, because this is one of the greatest remedies that will get rid of the thoughts that are going around in your mind and the things that hearts grieve over.

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“If a person who is afflicted by anxiety or sorrow says:

‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka wa ibnu ‘abdika wa ibn ammatika naasiyati bi yadika maadin fiyya hukmuka ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw asta’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’a qalbi wa nooar sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi

(O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You with which You have named Yourself, or, or You have taught to any of Your creation, or You have revealed in Your Book, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)’, then Allaah will take away his anxiety and sorrow, and will replace it with joy.”  

It was said: “O Messenger of Allaah, should we not learn it?” He said: “Yes, whoever hears it should learn it.”

Silsilah al-Saheehah, 199.

Another thing that may ward off worry and anxiety is focusing all one’s thoughts on the present day, and not worrying about the future or grieving about the past. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sought refuge with Allah from worry and regret, from regret for things in the past which cannot be put right or changed, and worry which may come because of fear for the future. So one should focus only on the present day, and focus one's efforts on getting things right today. If a person is focused on the present, he will do things properly and forget about worry and regret.

Steadfastness of heart and not being disturbed about the imaginary things that bad thoughts may bring to mind. For when a person gives in to his imagination and lets his mind be disturbed by these thoughts, such as fear of disease and the like, or anger and confusion stirred up by some grievous matter, or the expectation of bad things and the loss of good things, it will fill him with worries, distress, mental and physical illness and nervous breakdowns, which will have a bad effect on him and which causes a great deal of harm, as many people have seen. But when a person depends on Allah and puts his trust in Him, and does not give in to his imagination or let bad thoughts overwhelm him, and he relies on Allah and has hope of His bounty, this wards off his worries and distress, and relieves him of a great deal of mental and physical sickness. It gives indescribable strength, comfort and happiness to the heart. How many hospitals are filled with the mentally sick victims of illusions and harmful imagination; how often have these things had an effect upon the hearts of many strong people, let alone the weak ones; how often have they led to foolishness and insanity.

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Dealing with Toxic People, Islamically ♥

We all have intentions, emotions and sentiments. Mostly we think our intentions are good and right, so we act upon them. Why is it sometimes then, that things go so astray?

Why do we get into fights with people we didn’t mean to offend, sometimes us simply appearing in a room sets someone’s emotions alight, and no matter how hard we try, Grandma will just never stop being grumpy around us? These things are among many other examples (some extremely underrated) which can be seriously hurtful... They can cause us to feel rejected and irrelevant, and when we feel this way much of our energy is spent in self-condolement where we become motionless in trying to fix ourselves.

Although self-care is necessary to pick ourselves up again, depending on our environment, we could be staying in that state for much more time than needed! This is honestly draining, and when it comes down to praising Allah, we end up too tired to do it. This horrible cycle of emotions can render any human frozen and could lead to depression. 

Can we break the cycle? Let’s try!

Here are some psychology, rules and ideas that may apply to you and generally how to fix them. When reading these, be honest with yourself, and select the ones which apply to you in a complimenting or constructive way. It’s ok to be wrong sometimes, especially when we learn from it and improve! When we improve we become better people than before ♥

It’s not you, it’s them.

This isn’t a statement meant to remove responsibility from you, rather it adds a harder and more selfless task, and that is empathy and sympathy.When you know you did not do anything wrong, but someone is rude, aggressive or dismissive towards you, what does that mean? Well, for one it means it is not your fault and cleary this person either has something bothering them that they can’t deal with properly, or has a personality problem. What has that got to do with you though? Nothing, other than that you are in the same environment with them, and it is affecting you.

What does the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) say about this?

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Part of the perfection of one's Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him." (Tirmidhi)

Anas reported Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) as saying: “Nurse no grudge, nurse no aversion and do not sever ties of kinship and live like fellow-brothers as servants of Allah.” This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Shu'ba with the same chain of transmitters but with this addition:" As Allah has commanded you." (Sahih Muslim)

What does Allah SWT say about this in the Quran?

"The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better, then verily! He between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend." Quran (41:34)

When someone is being abrupt, abusive or uncouth, move on and do not dwell on it. What is the psychology behind that? Let’s look at the great behavioral psychologist Skinner and his theory of Operant Conditioning.

According to Skinner people can either aggravate or diminish behavior depending on whether they are rewarded for it or not. Here is the funny part though, rewards are different to everyone. If someone wants to see you upset, they will behave in a way to upset you and if you BECOME upset that means they have achieved their goals! They are rewarded by you becoming upset! People love rewards, it makes them feel better about themselves. When someone likes the feeling of something, chances are they are going to keep attempting at it to achieve the same feeling; ie: they will continue to try and upset you! This behavior is seen in bullying.

So now that you understand the theory behind it, what do you do? EASY! Don’t give them what they are looking for and don’t show them that they are making you upset or sad. They will realise what they are doing is wrong (if they are good enough to see their faults), realise you are a strong person and stop, in shaa Allah ♥

But what if they don’t change and are truly horrible to you regardless of your pure intent and behaviours?

A man came to the Prophet (pbuh) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off; I treat them well, but they treat me badly; I try to be kind to them, but they are cruel to me." He said: "If you are as you say, it is as if you are putting hot ashes in their mouths. You will continue to have support from Allah against them so long as you continue doing that." (Muslim)

Self-Care

Taking care of yourself is more than just isolating yourself and dwelling on your hurts and pains, it has to do with actively doing the things which make you happy and feel better about yourself.

What are your favorite things to do, or what have you been putting off which you want to succeed in? When you do things which you wanted to and succeed, you raise dopamine and serotonin levels in your body, causing you to feel happier. If you leave doing thing which make you happy or forsake your goals, your serotonin and dopamine levels drop. If these endorphin levels drop below the ‘safe-zone’,it can cause depression. Depression is very hard to come out and may need medication which has side-effects on your body and emotions.

What does the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) say about this?

Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Take advantage of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death.” (Sahih Al-Albani)

The Prophet (pbuh) used to say: "O Allah! I seek refuge with You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men." (Sahih al-Bukhari)

It’s difficult and it takes alot of strength, but to be better you just have to be better. That means picking yourself up and doing what you want and need to do. The beginning will be hard, but the end will be so rewarding, in shaa Allah ♥

Introspection

This means to think about your own thinking, rather than the thinking of others. It means to look at your objectively, critically and really suss out what your flaws are and if you are the one causing the dismay of people around you.

Is your mom being dismissive of you because you can’t do the small requests she has been asking of you? Do you ignore her when she is doing painstaking work in the house and /or other times and not offer your help? Do you take her for granted?

Think about the times one of your friends or someone you really cared about ignored you, did not offer you their help, did not take a hint or took you for granted? That didn’t feel so great. Think about if you are causing these emotions to other people because of your own issues, rather than theirs.

Perhaps you think doing the dishes is not important at a certain time, or doing some other mundane activity which you think could wait. That is your perception, but maybe not that of your moms (for example), and she will feel as though you don’t care for her (which is another way of saying ‘respect her’), making her want to show you her displeasure hoping you will improve.

It may not be your mom, it might be your friend, husband, siblings, cousins or anyone that is emotionally dependant on you in some way. They are also human at the end of the day.

Introspection (being aware of oneself) is critical to being a good Muslim. We are aware when we are going to do something wrong, or have done something wrong and can adapt ourselves. Adapting and changing ourselves for the better in Islam is called ‘tawba’ or ‘asking forgiveness of Allah’.

What does Allah SWT say about this in the Quran?

“When any evil suggestion from Satan touches those who fear God, they are instantly alerted and become watchful.” Quran (7: 201)

What does the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) say about this in the Hadith?

The Prophet (pbuh) said; “All of the children of Adam make mistakes, and the best of those who make mistakes are the ones who repent.” (Tirmidhi)

How will we know if we made a mistake if we do not reflect and introspect?

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This is Part One of this write-up on some Islamic Manners ♥ I hope it was useful to you, in shaa Allah ♥

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Delusions, psychotic disorders, and other mental illnesses in the light of Islam

Assalamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatuLlah, bismiLlah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem. All praise is to Allah, everything good comes from Him and every error of mine comes from me alone. So may Allah forgive me for such mistakes.

Disclaimer - I am not a professional nor a scholar: I limit myself to sharing from those who are, and putting information together. None of this content should be taken as a replacement for spiritual counselling or actual mental health support. I am simply your sister fiLlah.

According to WebMD, “Psychotic disorders are a group of serious illnesses that affect the mind. They make it hard for someone to think clearly, make good judgments, respond emotionally, communicate effectively, understand reality, and behave appropriately.”

There are many different psychotic disorders, including schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, and delusional disorder. Other disorders, such as some personality disorders (like borderline personality disorder) or mood disorders (like bipolar disorders), may also feature psychotic symptoms. Moreover, psychotic disorders may be co-morbid with other mental illnesses, such as post-traumatic disorders, personality disorders, and more.

Symptoms may include:

difficulty concentrating

depressive episodes and anxiety

problems sleeping a healthy amount of time

delusions

hallucinations with one or more of the five senses

disorganized speech

suicidal tendencies and/or self-harm

Is it my fault if I have a psychotic disorder? Do I deserve to suffer because I am a “bad muslim” even though I strive to be better?

Being mentally ill, having a psychotic disorder, or suffering from delusions does not have to do with how religious or righteous one is. Dr. Abu’l Mundhir Khaleel ibn Ibraaheem Ameen, in his book “The Jinn & Human Sickness”, states: “Even those who are righteous and upright in their religious commitment are not free from the problems of delusions.” In fact, it is clear that Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala sends tests to all of His believers, including prophets, messengers, and other people who were extremely close to Allah ta’ala.

Allah says:

   Every soul will taste death. And We test you with evil and with good as trial; and to Us you will be returned.

   Qur’an, 21:35

And He also says:

   And fear the trial which will not strike in particular (only) those who have wronged among you...

   Qur’an, 8:25

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah loves a people He tests them. Whoever accepts that wins His pleasure but whoever is discontent with that earns His wrath.”

Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2396) and Ibn Majah (4031). Classed as saheeh by al-Albani.

Depending on the situation, a calamity that befalls an individual may be a test for those around them, and a blessing for them.

Shaykh Al-Munajjid said on this topic:

   Not every sickness or handicap is necessarily a punishment; rather it may be a test for the child’s parents, by which Allaah will expiate for their bad deeds, or raise their status in Paradise if they bear this trial with patience.  Then if the child grows up, the test will also include him, and if he bears it with patience and faith, then Allaah has prepared for the patient a reward that cannot be enumerated.

That said, it is also plausible that one’s suffering is a means for them to get closer to Allah, or to be purified from their sins.

It was narrated that Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

«The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:“If Allah wills good for His slave, He hastens his punishment in this world, and if He wills bad for His slave, He withholds from him (the punishment for) his sin, until He requites him for it on the Day of Resurrection.”»

Narrated and classed as hasan by at-Tirmidhi (2396); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi.

This shows that when Allah loves his believers, He tests them so that their sins may be expiated quickly and more easily.

Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported:

«The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no Muslim who is afflicted with pain as much as the prick of a thorn or more but that Allah will expiate his sins just as leaves fall from a tree.”»

Narrated in Saheeh Bukhari (5324), Saheeh Muslim (2571).

Alhamdulillah, every little pain we suffer in this Dunya will earn us expiations from sins. So what about serious illnesses and long-lasting emotional pain?

Every person’s situation will be different, some will be tested to have their status elevated, some will be tested for expiation, some will be tested because of Allah’s mercy, some will be test for all of the aforementioned reasons, and so forth. Many times, individuals’ lives may be full of obstacles and tests because of reasons that are unclear to us, and only known to Allah.

Moreover, everyone sins, and everyone needs more and more guidance, for man is imperfect, and only prophets were most perfect in matters that regard religion! Do not despair of Allah’s mercy and forgiveness, and rest assured His plan is the best plan of all.

Will I be punished if I sin in times where I am unable to reason clearly or understand what I am doing?

Whenever a Muslim who suffers from hallucinations hears or sees something terrible, such as something that undermines Islam or which places doubts in his mind about Allah, or similar things, they will not be held accountable for it.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

«The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah has forgiven my ummah for whatever whispers [waswasah] cross their minds so long as they do not act upon it or speak of it.”»

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2391) and Muslim (127).

Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Fath al-Baari (5/161):

   What we may understand is that there is no blame for what crosses a person’s mind, unless it is translated into actions or words as a result of that thought. What is meant by whispers [waswasah] is when a thought resides in a person’s mind without him feeling happy with it, or it takes root in his mind.

Moreover, Shaykh al-Munajjid states,

   If we assume that this sick person uttered what was on his mind under the pressure of his illness or of the whispers in his heart in the sense that he was overcome and could not help it, and these words came out of him without him intending that, then he will not be brought to account for that, because he did not intend to say it out loud. (..) If he says something when he is compelled, without intending or wanting to, then he will not be brought to account for it.

What is the cause and cure of such disorders?

Verily every sickness has a cure that Allah has sent. Any physical and psychological disease may be caused by a problem which resides in one’s body or brain, or alternatively, by jinn, devilish whispers, going astray from the right path of Islam, and so forth; or even both.

The cure may be found in the deen (religion) as well as meds or other therapies.

For more information, please read the book “The Jinn & Human Sickness” by Dr. Abu’l Mundhir Khaleel ibn Ibraaheem Ameen.

Shaykh al-Munajjid says on this matter:

   The depression that people feel may be a sickness that needs to be treated and needs referral to specialists; or it may be feelings of distress that may be relieved by doing a lot of acts of worship, remembering Allah, keeping company with good and righteous friends, and keeping busy with beneficial actions. (...) Whatever the case, Allah has not sent down any disease but He has sent down a cure for it, and there is a remedy for this depression no matter what type it is. The believer should adorn himself with patience and certainty of faith, and he should turn to Allah a great deal and ask of Him, because the keys to goodness are in His hand.

In any case, it will certainly not cause harm if one who suffers from a psychotic disorder starts reading more Qur’an, reciting adhkar, and surrounding yourself with righteous people who are understanding and supportive and will remind you of Allah, and to be patient in a beautiful way. Even if such a person’s disorder is not caused by jinn, being closer to Allah will undoubtedly give them a powerful weapon against impatience, despair, or their condition becoming worse due to devilish whispers.

Am I allowed to see a psychologist or psychiatrist, and take anti-psychotic medication or other types of medication?

Yes, upon scholarly consensus, finding a cure to your diseases is permitted or encouraged. It is not reprehensible, and one should take care of one’s body, mind and soul as best as possible, as long as the means of doing that are halal.

It was narrated that Abu’l-Dardaa’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

«The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah created the disease and the cure, so treat disease but do not treat it with anything that is haraam.”»

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Mu’jam al-Kabeer, 24/254. Classed as saheeh by al-Albani.

Ibn al-Qayyim said on the matter:

   In the saheeh ahaadeeth there is the command to use medicine, and these ahaadeeth state that this does not contradict the idea of putting one’s trust in Allaah, just as warding off hunger, thirst, heat and cold by means of their opposites does not contradict it. Rather the reality of Tawheed cannot be perfected without following the means which Allaah has created in order to reach ends, both by His universal will and in His laws that He has prescribed. Ignoring this matter undermines the very essence of putting one’s trust in Allaah, just as it undermines the concept of Allaah’s command and wisdom, and weakens it so that the one who does not use the means to an end thinks that not using them is a stronger form of putting one’s trust in Allah. But not using the means to an end is a sign of weakness which contradict the idea of putting one’s trust in Allaah, the essence of which is the reliance of the heart on Allaah to provide that which will benefit a person in this world and in the Hereafter, and to ward off that which will harm him in this world and in the Hereafter. But it is essential to depend on use of the means, otherwise one is denying the wisdom of Allaah and the laws which He has prescribed. So the slave of Allaah should not call his helplessness dependence on Allaah, or call his dependence on Allaah helplessness.

(Zaad al-Ma’aad, 4/15)

It is true that sometimes, medication may contain dubious ingredients, or may have enormous side effects which makes one wonder whether it is worth taking such medication. In such cases, one should ask (or look for) a specific fatwa on the matter. Keep in mind there is some disagreement among scholars on some matters, such as the use of gelatin in some pills.

I pray that Allah aids every person suffering from mental illness in the best way possible, and hope everyone who reads this can find some comfort and guidance, in sha’ Allah. May Allah reward you greatly. And if you find I have committed an error, remind me gently, and correct me without hesitation. And finally, verily Allah knows best.

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Thy Lord knows that thou keepest vigil nearly two-thirds of the night, or a half of it, or a third of it, and a party of those with thee; and God determines the night and the day. He knows that you will not number it, and He has turned towards you. Therefore recite of the Koran so much as is feasible. He knows that some of you are sick, and others journeying in the land, seeking the bounty of God, and others fighting in the way of God. So recite of it so much as is feasible. And perform the prayer, and pay the alms, and lend to God a good loan. Whatever good you shall forward to your souls´ account, you shall find it with God as better, and mightier a wage. And ask God´s forgiveness; God is All-forgiving, All-compassionate.

{Cf., lxxiii. 24. The Prophet [peace and blessings be upon him], and a zealous band of his disciples, were often up, two-thirds of the night, or a half, or a third, rejecting sleep and giving themselves up to Prayer and Praise and the reading of the Qur-an. They are told that this was too severe a tax on them, especially if their health was affected, or they were on a journey, or they were striving, with might and main, in other ways, for the cause of Allah (God). See die fines following.

The usual meaning taken is that the counting of the exact hours of night and day may not be possible for ordinary people, in order to determine exactly the half, or the third, or the two-thirds of a night. The length of the night and the day varies every day of the solar year, and the precise hour of midnight can only be determined by exact observation in clear skies or by chronometers, which is not possible for everyone. But I understand it in a wider meaning. Allah (God) fixes night and day in due proportions; for rest and work, and according to seasonal variations. For prayer and praise no meticulous observations of that kind are necessary or possible. Allah's (God’s) service can be done in many ways as detailed. But we must give some time to devotion, as may be most easy and convenient to us, in various circumstances of health, travel, and the performance of various duties.

The reading of the Qur’an here is a part of Prayer and religious devotion. This is not to be made into an obsession or a burden. Cf. xx. 2: "We have not sent down the Qur’an to thee to be an occasion for thy distress." We must do it whole-mindedly, but not by formal mechanical computations.

This refers to Jihad. The better opinion is that this particular verse was revealed in Madinah, long after the greater part of the Sura. The reference, further on, to canonical Prayers and regular Charity (Zakat), points to the same conclusion.

Cf. ii. 2456, and n. 276, where the meaning of "a Beautiful Loan" is explained. See also lvii. 18. The "Beautiful Loan" should be that of our own souls. We should expect no retums in kind, for that is not possible. But the reward we shall find with Allah (God) will be infinitely greater and nobler. Cf. the biblical phrase, "Lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven" (Matt. vi. 20).

Any good that we do raises our own spiritual status and dignity. We must not think that when we speak of Allah's (God’s) service or Allah's (God’s) Cause, we are doing anything for His benefit: He is independent of all needs whatsoever.

This emphasizes the need of Allah's (God’s) Grace. Whatever good we do, our own merits are comparatively small. Allah's (God’s) Grace must lift us up and blot out our shortcomings. Even in piety there may be an arrogance which may become a sin. We should always seek Allah's (God’s) Mercy in all humility.}

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