#aro positvity

[romance-evil-aro]

reblog if you think romance neutral aros and romance ambivalent aros and romance indifferent aros and romance unsure aros are important and valued members of the aro community

#aro #aromantic #aro positvity

[its-kayyyy]

You are valid (:

#lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #lgbt+ #aro positvity #aromantic #aromantism #aromanitc #demiromantic #cupioromantic #bellusromantic #aegoromantic #lithoromantic #apothiromantic #aroflux #autoromantic #grayromantic #frayromantic #desinoromantic #recipromantic #arospec

[spookychicken22]

*me hearing the most romantic song ever* -but what if it's queerplatonic

#queerplatonic #qpr positivity #aro positvity #ace positivity #aroace

[jelly-o630]

You’d think that the best aro rep I’ve ever seen would be in some book or comic with an aro character that slowly figures their identity cause like 99% of all aro rep (what little we have of it at least) is someone figuring out their identity and basically teaching the audience what aromanticism is while giving aros a trip down memory lane of what it was like when they were first figuring out their identity but it was in all honestly in a smut comic I read YEARS ago that I cannot remember for the life of me what the name of it was where the main character who was not aspec was hooking up with an allosexual aromantic person in a purely sexual relationship and the main character asked them something like “do you ever wish that you had a real partner rather than some stranger you hooked with every once in while- like wouldn’t a “real” relationship be fulfilling to you” and WITHOUT HESITATION the other person was like “no I don’t actually” and gave this beautiful monologue of all the other parts of his life that gave it meaning beyond romantic relationships and how their sexual wants were such a second thought to him that if they never met again it wouldn’t effect his life the slightest and that despite the fact that these two characters very regularly hookup was it actually a very low priority for him and giving more depth to his relationship with the main character would actually be more of a detriment to his life rather than a merit simply because they are Aromantic and he just wouldn’t be happy if his sex partner was a romantic partner. And that character was so content with their life and platonic/familial relationships (and their choice to have shallow sexual relationships) that it actually made the main character reevaluate the weight and priority they gave to romantic relationships in their life

This fucking two chapter (from what I remember) porn comic had more to say about amatonormativity and aromanticism in general than literally every piece of aspec media I’ve ever consumed AND I CAN’T REMEMBER THE NAME OF THE COMIC

#aromaticism #aromantic #Aromantic allosexual rep just hits different #the other best piece of aro rep I’ve ever read is ALSO about an aromantic allosexual character #that was in a fanfiction I read at like 15 that was also smut that I do remember the name of #is anyone asks for it I’ll share it but not now #the fandom is a little embarrassing lol #aro #aro positvity #arospec

[strawberrymilksystem]

Bad opinion time

If you really wanna be an ally to fat people stop saying ‘fat people are beautiful’ and start saying ‘fat people deserve/have the right to exist’

I would like to be able to talk about being fat and having eating disorders while being fat without people going “being fat is so beautiful!!” Or telling us they’d fuck us, please. Literally so worried about that happening.

I would like the most common thing for allies to say to be that they think we’re people not that they think we’re hot.

-Pearl

#fatphobia #fat positive #fat positvity #I’m loveless aro I hate being called hot or beautiful #fat positivity

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

It's your choice if you want to come out or not. If you do choose to, it's your choice who you come out to, when and how.

#ace positvity #aro positivity #asexual #aromantic #actually asexual

[arosexpositivity]

Et tu, aro blog? skeletalroses [dot] tumblr [dot] com/post/692970874729545728 (I hate that I have to vet every single individual reblog of this post but come on)

Link. Archival link.

Yes, et moi.

Your chosen examples of horror fandom aphobia were:

Reducing horniness is swagless

Disagreeing with the underlying sexual connotations of a myth is homophobic

Horror is about love

It's obvious to me that with the first and second, your intent was to communicate, "demanding sexual content and mocking people who do not produce sexual content for you is acephobic."

That it's the act of bullying that is the problem.

I agree completely.

But the delivery, especially later in the thread, contributes to the overall effect of saying it's the sex that's bad, not the cruelty.

For all that I am aro too, I am also a sex positvity blog. That means walking the line of BOTH making it very clear that anyone who harasses, insults or denigrates others for a disinterest in sex is an fucking asshole with no respect for consent, and making it clear that horniness is not actually a bad thing.

The profusion of "sexy queer monster stuff" in recent years does not even manage to overtake the mainstream fact of horror being a pathos driven genre dominated primarily by violence.

I am unbelievably sickened by violence, btw. I throw up watching marvel movies. My delusions are often triggered by psychological and fantastic horror, too. Horror's content is pretty fundamentally inaccessible to me.

I do not then turn around and make a whole thread about how that inaccessibility is an act of insidious anti-psychotic bigotry, rather than just a natural consequence of genre convention.

Instead, I go find the horror fans who make non-violent content, engaging with the genre through reviews, meta analyses, and fandom. Because not everything that makes me feel alienated is the result of bigotry. Sometimes, it's just a matter of having to say, "this space is not good for me, I'm out" and making your own or picking a new hobby.

Someone being horny over horror in public is not an attack on you.

Someone being insulting absolutely is, but... well, like I said. I am a fan of horror, an aromantic, and a relatively well studied queer theorist to boot. And I haven't seen nearly as much of those insults, as I have seen aggressive pushback against them.

This is not to say they aren't out there. Of course they are! This isn't the kind of commentary one makes up on a whim. That would be as absurd as you saying "I've never seen someone use 'horny' to mean big and sweaty" and thinking that means it doesn't happen.

But it does mean you can avoid them.

Honestly, though, the real issue I have with that thread stems from the last bullet point. "Horror is about love."

This is a notion I've seen circulate occasionally for years, but never dominate, and I haven't seen it dominate right now either. Maybe it is! Maybe my curation and avoidance have gotten so good that I'm echo chambering myself away from all that nonsense.

But even so, even so?

This recent fixation on "love" as being an axis of oppression makes me fucking insane. Absolutely frothing at the mouth with outrage.

It so obsessively and gleefully centers romantic love as the highest form of human interaction. Which, given that it's supposed to be describing my experiences as an aromantic, aplatonic, anarchic person, makes me want to strangle myself.

If you declare all "love" to be outside yourself, you aren't just furthering the association of "love" with "romance," you're actively trying to separate yourself from the rest of humanity. Not because "(romantic) love is what makes us human."

But because "love" is an umbrella term that contains many of the specific things that make us human: compassion, trust, forethought, passion for ourselves, each other, our arts, our world, the desire to know and care for something whether it is ourself or outside ourself.

And I'm sorry, but as someone who has spent their entire life being called a violent monster by my family for being aro and pscyhotic, pre-emptively attacked for my lack of Human Qualities Like """""love""""" because everyone knows Brown People Aren't Capable Of Higher Emotions?

I'm not fucking interested in people telling me how "love" is beyond my ability to fathom and that I cannot be interested in exploring the ways love interacts with horror.

I'm just not fucking interested in being told that for my own good, I need to sit quietly and stay chill when someone is shit talking everything from horniness to love in the name of "protecting me" from one of my own hobbies.

#ask responses #skeletalroses

[ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (Feb 16 2020 - Feb 22nd 2020) !

Here are a few things to keep in mind!

Aromantic is both an orientation and an umbrella term for those who fall on the Aromantic Spectrum

There are multiple arospec identities and all of them are important and worth celebrating

Being Aromantic or Arospec does not mean you’re broken and does not mean something is wrong with you.

It can be hard for some people to accept their Aro identity but that doesn’t mean they aren’t deserving of positivity

Aromanticism and Asexuality are two different things

Aromantic means someone experiences little to no romantic attraction

Aromantic people are allowed to want and be in romantic relationships

Aromantic people are allowed to not want any type of relationship

Platonic relationships are no less important than romantic ones

Lesser known arospec identities are no less deserving of recognition and celebration

Aromantic POC exist

Mentally ill Aromantic people exist

Young Aromantic people exist

Adult Aromantic people exist

Religious Aromantic people exist

You can identify as Aromantic regardless of race, gender identity, age, religion, etc.

It’s okay if you don’t know where you fall on the Aromantic Spectrum

It’s okay if it takes time to realize that you are Aromantic or Arospec

Being Aromantic does not make you a bad person

Aromantic people who also identify as another orientation exist

Aromantic people are allowed to love their identity

Not every Aro experience is the same

Don’t assume that every Aromantic person is the same

You’re allowed to use Aromantic as an umbrella term

Whether you want to use the Split Attraction Model is your choice, but don’t look down on those who choose differently. Someone who only identifies as Aromantic is just as valid and important as someone who identifies as Aromantic and another orientation.

Regardless of where you fall on the Aro Spectrum, you have a right to celebrate this week (and in general!)

Aromantics and Arospecs are allowed to choose to not celebrate if they don’t want to

You’re allowed to love your Aro identity

You’re allowed to struggle with your Aro identity

You’re allowed to have good days and bad days

You’re allowed to talk about your experiences

Aromantic people and Arospec people are part of the LGBT+ community

Aromantic people deserve love in whatever form they want that love

Feel free to add on!

#mod elle #aromantic #aromantic spectrum awareness week #aromantic awareness week #aromantic week #aromantic positivity #aro positvity #aromanticism #actually arospec #actually aromantic #actually aro #aromantic tag #aro tag

[aromagni]

ASAW Embroidery: Day 1

This is a yellow rose patch I embroidered; I like yellow roses as an aro symbol because they symbolize friendship and I think that’s neat.

#asaw #asaw 2021 #actually aromantic #aromantic #aro embroidery #embroidery #aro pride #my embroidery #yellow roses #aro positvity #aro art #I was wanting to post this Sunday and had especially thought of this one for that day bc on twitter aro week's prompt was nature #it is now tuesday but I am retroactively posting them bc I feel weird having a thing for posting every day of week if don't actually have 7 #but yeah wanted to post some embroidery especially ones I haven't really highlighted before #my post #magni's thoughts

[astralaspecs]

REBLOG IF YOU'RE A PAN ASPEC, SUPPORT PAN ASPEC, OR HAVE PLANS FOR WORLD DOMINATION

#pan positivity #pan pride #pansexual #ace positvity #aro positvity #mod imani

[musicmaniac94]

Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!!!

#ArosAndArrows

Day 3: Awareness

I know it's late but here's my post for today

Here's what I want other people to know about Aromantism:

Aros are not heartless

Aros are not robots

Not all aros want relationships, but some do

Some aros experience other attractions

Some aros experience no attractions at all

[image description: the aromantic flag overlayed with criss-crossing light green and dark grey arrows. Each stripe has words Over them. Over the dark green stripe "Aros are not heartless". Over the light green stripe "Aros are not robots". Over the white stripe "Not all aros want relationships, but some do". Over the grey stripe "Some aros experience other attractions". Over the black stripe "Some aros experience no attractions at all". End description]

#aromantic #aromantic pride #aromantic positivity #aromanticism #aromantic spectrum awareness week #aro #arospec #aro positvity #aro pride #arosandarrows #aros and arrows #awareness #asaw #asaw 2020 #asaw day 3 #asaw 2020 day 3

[wish-ful-thinking513]

Arospecs with depression are incredible.

#chris rambles #aromantic #aromantic positivity #aro #aro positvity #arospec #arospec positivity #aspec #aspec positivity #mental illness #mental illness positivity #depression #depression positivity #intersectionality

[dadstielkline]

I only ship Jughead Jones with hamburgers because they’re his one true love

#jughead jones #jughead #archie comics #riverdale #ace #asexual #asexuality #aro #aromantic #aromantism #ace positivity #aro positvity #aroace

[barley-and-rye]

I genuinely really support aro people I hope all my aro followers have a god damned wonderful day

#i love you guys #youre valid af #AS FUCK #aro positvity #aromantic #greyromantic #demiromantic #arospec

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Aroace can be single identity just like gay, straight, bi, etc. You don't have to see it as two different identities put together.

#ace positivity #aro positvity #asexual #aromantic #actually asexual

[aroacearborvitae]

if you’re an attractive aro, it’s not “a waste of your good looks” to stay single. it’s not selfish. it’s not possessive. you’re not throwing it away. you’re using your trait in the way you want, and that’s better than using it solely for the sake or pleasure of others. if you’ve got good genes in the looks department it’s not some societal “duty” to date others, no matter what they tell you. in just the same way a person who can write well or draw well or sing well or dance gracefully doesn’t become a writer or artist or millionaire singer or tour the world, you are not a waste of your traits if you don’t yield to other people’s expectations, and instead do what you want to, prioritizing your happiness.

#aro positvity #aromantic positivity #aro pos #aromantic #mine #oops this has been in my drafts for a while #my words #the hits