#aro senses you know?

[neurovarious]

love the concept of <2 as an aromantic symbol/emoticon because not only is it a spin on the <3 heart (typically romantic) symbol, but it literally is written "less than 2" and idk as a non-partnering aroace that just speaks to me

#&c. #chatter chatter #aromantic #aro #aroace #non partnering #nonamorous #🐛🍎 #doesnt make as much sense as a plural system #but you know what i mean <2

[glitterghost]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I feel like there is a particular kind of sadness (or loneliness, if you will) that ace/aro folk feel.

#asexual #asexuality #aspec #aromantic #aro #arospec #lgbtqia #am I wrong or no? #its like a sorrow on a frequency only other ace folk can detect #or say ah ha yes i feel this #this makes sense #i can incoherently ramble a feeling or a thought and others who identifying *get* it like it's a language we both speak #fluent in a common wave of ace-solation if you will #anyway just wanting to throw this out there again #i know i had a vague post similar to this that blew up but its always so hard to articulate the feeling #and maybe this will reach others that relate and agree to this that will make them feel less alone #wow these tags are messy and full of typos #lots of love to my loney ace and aro specs buddies #💜💚💜💚💜

[redysetdare]

I think there's a genuine conversation to be had about how aro spaces have begun pushing QPRs in a similar way that amatonormativity pushes romantic relationships onto people but a majority of aros just refuse to engage in the discussion because they see it as an attack on QPRs or people saying QPRs are romantic relationships lite instead of actually looking at the fact it's critiquing how some Aros have begun pushing it almost like an alternative to romance and something all Aro's want.

No one is saying QPRs are bad but rather that there is too much push that the idea of a QPR will fix people's problems. "oh you're lonely? just find a QPR!" "You dont have to be in a romantic relationship you can be in a QPR!" "QPR is MORE than friendship" etc etc.

There's a genuine critique here of QPRs being used to continue to push amatonormativity by again assuming that every aro wants a partner - even if not romantic - and I think we can have a genuine conversation about this rather than going at each other throats over a fake argument of "QPRs bad"

#text #aro #aromantic #non-partnering #QPR #queer-platonic relationships #Queerplatonic relationships #non partnering #nonpartnering aro #non-partnering aro #nonamorous #partnering aro #if you havent seen this side of the community good for you but also kindly do not respond to this #because i genuinely do not think you can add worth while commentary on something you have no experience with seeing #also if you are not an aro who pushes QPRs on ppl then great! this post isn't about you so don't leave a comment abt how ur not like that #i on the other hand along with others have found ourselves having negative experiences with how the community is pushing QPRs #i understand QPRs used to and in some cases still are not acknowledged - especially by wider society #but this isn't about wider society it is about aromantic communities #and i know it was just excitement that got being excited to find that they could still partner with people in a non-romantic sense #it made parterning aros feel like they wouldn't end up being alone #but for many people like myself the communities laser focus on QPRs makes it difficult as non-partnering aros to navigate our identity #by society we are told we have to be in a romantic relationship #then in aro spaces we are told we don't have to be in a romantic relationship but instead we can be in a QPR #but no one ever says 'you dont have to be in a relationship' period. end of sentence. #aro spaces have shifted focus on partnering aros and any time non-partnering aros speak up we are shut down #it's 'oh not all aro's are non-partnering' or 'some aros are in qprs' #i know this only comes from the fact there was heavy gatekeeping at one point to only allow aros who didn't date at all #but the response to that shouldnt of been to shut down any and all non-partnering aros in the community #the point is we need to allow options. if the community is only focusing on QPRs then how are non-partnering aros supposed to realize that #not being in any relationship is an option. we cannot let amatonormativity take over a space that is explicitly supposed to be against it

[maerhiya]

in regards to the constant dismissal of his aroace identity, i hate it when alastor 'fans' say and use the excuse: "he's fictional, he won't get offended."

like, you're right, but it can and will offend us.

when you see yourself being represented on screen, of course you'd feel enthusiastic about it — representation allows individuals to see themselves reflected in the media they consume, validating their identities and experiences. but when so many people take that representation and decide to disregard and discard it, it is so fucking frustrating. we finally have another character to be part of the tiny amount of representation we have, but then people don't even care about how much it means to us? like yeah, alastor won't get offended because he's not real, but it frustrates and annoys us. do you realize that it's also technically invalidating the aroace community? that you're invalidating our feelings? imagine feeling like you're finally being seen because your orientation is finally being represented in media, and people just decide to blatantly ignore, discard, and invalidate it.

media has such a powerful influence on real life, representation being a prevalent factor of it. there are numerous posts that dictate how people went to watch a movie/show or read a book just because a character depicts their identity in it — obviously, being represented is an incredibly uplifting and validating experience.

which is why seeing an aroace character in a popular show is so meaningful to us because we live in a world where romance and sex are literally everywhere and prioritized above all else. (and it's pretty obvious that alastor's on the repulsed end of the spectrum, but even if he wasn't, at least make an effort to acknowledge his sexuality instead of continuing to portray him as allo; aroace folks can be in relationships but it's not going to be the same thing with allos' experiences.)

any and every representation matters, but why does that seem to stop at people under the aroace spectrum? like y'all can't even let us appreciate the scraps of representation we have. we barely have any, so are we really that dramatic for being upset at how people easily disregard and dismiss our identities that are being depicted on screen just like that? is it truly wrong of us to want to defend and maintain the little representation we have?

#like imagine if i asked you ab your fav character and then i said i hated them and proceeded to insult them #wouldn't that irritate you even just a bit and maybe even come to their defense? #like why would you be offended when they're not even real lmaoo #they're fictional and won't get offended but if you love that character then YOU might feel offended and maybe even defend them #ok now take that situation and put it into this context #except it's much more meaningful bc it's about representation #just a random thought #i'm not against shipping him or finding him attractive (bc same LMAO) or the fanart btw #i just hate it when people use bs excuses to justify their obvious dismissal & indifference towards aro/ace rep #like at least acknowledge his identity :(( #sorry for the long ass rant and if some parts don't make sense i'm not in the best mood rn lol #and i've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while #didn't know double standards were a thing when it came to representation.... #but here we are #alastor #aroace alastor #aroace #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #alastor hazbin hotel #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel alastor #aroacespec #queer

[turtleblogatlast]

Don’t think I ever quite said what my LGBTQ+ headcanons are for the boys, so these are my current thoughts! Always changing of course but this is what I feel most strongly right now.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt headcanons #rise donnie #rise leo #rise mikey #rise raph #donnie and leo’s sexualities being practically swapped was unintentional but it works way too well #same with mikey and raph tbh it was a happy accident #anyway I kinda hc raph as the type who doesn’t care about physical appearance just if you fight lol #Mikey’s more than happy with friends and family #Donnie is a BIG romantic but he needs time to sus a person out fully before he gets the hots for them #leo meanwhile isn’t keen on romance unless it’s with someone he grows to really really REALLY trust #I could go on and probably will later (knowing me) but it is late and I am tired haha #turtle art tag #curious as to what everyone else headcanons #the only one of these I’ll defend forever is Bi (female-leaning) donnie and trans leo #all the others can change over time but I really like where they’re sitting right now #I hope these are the right flags too because it was kinda hard to find them #went looking for transmasc flag in particular but I couldn’t find a solid agreed upon version 😭 #ngl a big part of why I hc mikey as aro is because of a pun #my phone often misspells aromantic as aromatic and- and you get it- because aromatic herbs and- and Mikey is a chef do YOU GET IT #note that while I hc leo as bisexual (male-leaning) I still think he’s prob closer to demi in that as well just not as far into the spectrum #if that makes sense #headcanons are fun and hard to narrow down at the same time alas #I made this in like an hour can you tell djjdjd #I drew them all from memory so if there’s anything wrong…shhh #and if you’re wondering for April and Splinter #Both are Bisexual (female-leaning) but April is also Panromantic #I almost wanna make Splinter demiromantic too so Big Mama’s betrayal hits just a bit harder

[eclaire-went-bam]

although i think it's important to acknowledge the complexities of aro & ace identities, & to be welcoming of aroace identities that may be sex/romance favourable/hypersexual & seek those relationships, i think it's still important to acknowledge that completely romance/sex repulsed aroaces are still a minority in the ace community despite being the stereotype. & we should still listen to those voices,

#i don't have like. Aro Ace Spectrum Demographics but i definitely notice the grand majority of users i (Personally) see are acespec #but a very Few amount of people are the stereotypical romance-repulsed sex-repulsed aroace #& although it's a good thing that those on other parts of the spectrum are recognising their identity & learning more abt themselves #we should still recognise that's a majority in the ace community & should still strive to make apothi aroace ppl feel welcome in spaces #maybe it's just been my experience with the h4zbin h0tel fandom (censoring bcs i don't want drama) but #i Definitely see a lotta people taking apothi aroace ppl expressing discomfort w/ al4stor being shown in ship art (by allos) #& turning it into “you guys know there are OTHER ace identities right 🙄🙄” or “that's just how the internet is !” #which yes i think almost all of us are Well aware of other ace identities. espec if we're active in ace communities #& no the internet doesn't Have to be that way. just like how the internet is a whole lot less homophobic than how it used to be #instead of actually ??? listening to our points ? a lot of people only seem to listen to us when we absolutely hamfist the whole “it's ok to #be x y or z too!“ into every single message #just so people don't immediately antagonise us for raining on their fictional ship or sumn #this make sense ? #aromantic #asexual #aroace #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #lgbtqia #idk if this comes off as whiney since it's from said apothi aroace individual. “listen to me NOW !!!” but uhhm if so ? idgaf whatever

[romance-evil-aro]

petition for the 🫀 emoji to belong solely to aromantics

#it's like. taking love and its symbols and being removed from it #seeing it in a purely objective and clinical sense #you know? #i just think it's very aro vibes #🫀🫀🫀🫀

[iloveonionsverymuch]

Hey can we as a community stop combining ace and aro and aroace by default?

I love being ace. I love aro and aroace people (yall are cool). But i hate not having anything to relate to because im still romantic despite a lack of sexual attraction.

Idk just thinkin

#asexual #ace #ace experience #word vomit #i dont think i conveyed what i meant very well #but like #you know how all ace humor is like “haha im never gonna be with anyone” #like #i still love people #im a romantic individual #i just dont want to have sex #idk #its not just humor #but like allosexual people will just lump all aro or ace people into an aroace pile #and dont get me wrong aroasexuality is beautiful #but im not that #just like not all aro people are either #we're a beautiful and varied community and we're not all the same #sorry #this made no sense #side account because this felt too off topic #not fandom

[yume-fanfare]

a thing with torikasa is that they as they are could never make it work by themselves. like in ship content it's not uncommon for it to focus on the characters directly involved alone but those two are Not getting anywhere on their own without any outside push and it's key for them to go on their own separate self-discovery journeys with their own friends before they get to understand each other

#imo it's key to take into account for aus and such like pre-knights tsukasa isn't getting anywhere with tori #and it Has to be knights you know it's not tori's job #same goes the other way around #they Have to be separated for a bit and learn from other people #not that they've ever been very far away but that's half the charm of childhood friends #similarly how much to separate them is up to you there is a lot of Potential there #←scenarios i make up in my mind often #it leaves room for fun exploration #mar's midnight rambles #torikasa #this is also kinda my own aro approach i need things to make sense

[shine-reblogs]

So, I always found the 'soulmates always find each other and fall in love' trope kinda... lame?

Now, soulmates that always find each other because their souls are tied together but form a variety of relationsips? Soulmates that can be lovers, but also besties, and enemies, and mentor and student, and mother and daughter, and siblings, and... fuck, I don't know, someone needing a transplant and their donor? Now THAT'S my shit!

Ironically, I also find the second one to be a far more romantic idea than the 'always fall in love' one xD

#I don't know if it's me maybe falling somewhere in the grey area of the aro spectrum #or me being too neurodivergent to conform to or even really understand amatonormativity most times #but I've always said I'm not romantic in a socially expected way but I am romantic in my own idea of romance #and apparently my idea of romance is that something can actually be more romantic when it isn't always romantic #make of that what you will I have long given up on trying to make sense of it with words #shine posts #shine is random #meme #shitpost #soulmates #tropes

[prowerprojects]

It's interesting to see that people think that Amy had given up on Sonic, or even stopped having such strong feelings for for Sonic at all, but I actually have a completely opposite view on this. (Especially since rewatching that Sonic Station Live bit with Amy and after seeing something that made me recontextualize her (Japanese) arc in Frontiers. And I have to stress that it's about the way her arc plays out, not the way she and Sonic interact)

I actually think nowadays Amy acts as if she and Sonic are already together. She's more chill not because she's given up, but because she's already got what she wanted, and now she's content. (Maybe what she wanted changed overtime though, I'll give that) There's always been this bit of mystery in Sonic and Amy's relationship – does Sonic like Amy back? It's always written deliberately in a way that Sonic doesn't give a straight answer when confronted with it outright, to keep this mystery going. And now it also has a bit of a "What are they already together or something?" on top of it.

I actually enjoy this kind of dynamic a lot. And I think it's especially interesting with Sonic and Amy being (in canon) a mlw couple. Because usually this type of dynamic I associate with same gender relationships that are only coded as romantic, and the writers wanted to write them this way (romantically, I mean), but couldn't due to censorship.

Though I will admit it's not like this dynamic doesn't exist in mlw relationships (and it's probably more prominent in shonen too), but it is more likely that they will eventually end up together and go full romo with all the kisses and dates and possible plans for a white picket fence, and lose their interesting dynamic to "well they're dating now". And even with a same gender relationship you know writers would make them outright romantic if they only could. (Which is great, it's always nice to have more open and undeniable representation) But also it lowkey makes me feel weird for enjoying this type of dynamic with those, because I know this is not the kind of relationship the writers wanted to portray, they just didn't have a lot of alternatives.

Which is why I really like the fact that Sonic and Amy's relationship is written this way deliberately, this tethering on the verge of romantic and non-romantic is very appealing to me.

#I'm aro btw if you couldn't tell #I wouldn't call this an analysis though it's more of a personal opinion piece #now if I started explaining why I think she acts as if they're already together that would probably be an analysis #and pls don't come at me with 'this idiot hasn't seen x-files' or something #I did already say that this dynamic does exist but I always love to see more of it is all #amy rose #blue blur #sonic #project.txt #sonic the hedgehog #sonamy #also the difference with sonamy is that even if they did get together (and they might already be together I don't know) #I don't think their dynamic would change drastically from what they already have (which is what lets me theorize that they might #already be together) #it's gonna stay this feather-light tightrope balance thing because this is what makes sense for the characters AND for the game they're in

[imabiscuitinthousandworlds]

i'm here for MURDER not wistful staring at the memory of a pretty lady!! why is the romance so fucking inescapable!! it's not NECESSARY it adds NOTHING honestly a childhood best friend instead of first love or something would be infinitely more interesting and would have so much more narrative weight if done properly!

#a biscuit's rambles #aro struggles #no but genuinely #returning to home town and running into first love you never got over/didnt take the chance with: old boring overdone usually comes with th #damsel in distress bullshit feels really pulled outta ur ass. also do people genuinely keep crushes that long #returning to your hometown and running into your childhood best friend: you both want to reconnect but are different people #the struggle of if you really still know the other person #friendship isnt as fleeting as a single childhood crush or something presumably idk im aro #AND IT MAKES SO MUCH MORE SENSE TO HANG AROUND TOGETHER TO PULL EMOTIONAL STRINGS AND STUFF FOR PLOT REASONS

[aroacettorney]

"You remember well. So, I suppose you also know why I called you here?" "Are you planning to arrest me? Right here, right now?" In response to her words, Ludger simply smiled. The moment we meet after a long time, the first thing I hear is about arresting. Quite a bold young lady, isn't she? But when you think about it, the two of them were never on good terms to exchange pleasantries. No matter what anyone says, in the Delica Kingdom, their relationship was one of chasing and being chased. Of course, Casey was more inclined to harbour hostility towards Ludger, albeit unilaterally.

so if i read this right, ludgers first thought was lowkey hoping that casey would at least greet him before coldly going straight for his arrest lmfao

#whose fault was that i wonder #and why are you getting so excited at the idea of being arrested by ur nemesis #(jk i think i know why) #ludger was glad to confirm that caseys stance on justice has yet changed #he thought she chased after him bc of her sense of justice #which was why he got so surprised that she didnt name drop james moriarty on the news the next day #and it was also why he expressed disappointment and scolded her for clearly slacking off at her job as a detective in c203 #but ludger at the time did not know that the main reason casey was pursuing him was to confirm his innocence #he just knew that it was highly personal and he assumed it was solely about her pride (for losing against him) #well tbf hes right in a sense. casey does have competitive streak #but more importantly any detective would hurt their pride if they learnt they got the wrong person as the culprit #academy's undercover professor #academy's undercover professor spoilers #aro ludgercasey propaganda #selmore's undercover husband

[welcometogrouchland]

crying thinking about demiromantic willow park. what if she was just like me for real???

#ramblings of a lunatic #the owl house #idk if i would specifically identify as demi but it's close enough to my personal feelings that it still hits the same #LISTEN i don't. have coherent thoughts on WHY i hc willow as demiro #the fact that shes green and her being aro is a semi-popular hc. #the fact that her being in a romantic relationship w/ hunter is bananas important to me for Reasons #(not in the sense that they're literally together at this point i know they're not. but you get what i mean) #the fact that she doesn't do the usual toh romance tropes of being a blushing mess around him #and she's very lowkey about her feelings for the most part but it's definitely there imo #the fact that hunters into her as early as labyrinth runners but the first time we see her get flirty is TTT #the idea that hunters always been important to her but it took consistent interaction w/ him over the timeskip for her to get the- #-courage/motivation to flirt w/ him #none of what im saying makes sense but it does make sense to Me

[fvedyetor]

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#BRO THE WAY THAT I AM IN LOVE /ARO WITH THIS GIRL?? AUGH OMG #i was gonna cut my hair. like at our showcase i was so worried i hated how my hair looked bc i hadnt washed it in a couple days #BUT THEN SHE TELLS ME ITS GORGEOUS?? #AUGH IM NEVER CHANGING MY HAIR #her sister was at our showcase too and she said her sister said to her 'i know why ur in love with that guy hes got great hair' #GUYS DONT LET ME EVER CHANGE MY HAIR #no bc genuinely. the way shes the person i feel the most comfortable to be me around irl. and she said the same is true for her #like #i want to spend every waking hour with her #this is what people mean when aro people can date #IM ARO LET ME DATE HER PLEASEEEEEE #whatever author is writing my story rn please let us kiss #delete later #this is so embarrassing #BUT AUGH I LOVE HER #GWIDHWOWVHSQKAANBSJAKAALEBQ #i am away from her and i dont like it. i worry too much without her #and then i am with her and i am so happy #SHE LETS ME BE SO WEIRD AND SHE STILL LIKES TO HANG OUT WITH MEEEEEEE #SHES SO AMAZING #I LOVE HER #/aro this is all aromantic fuck off aphobes let me be in love /aro #it wont make sense to anybody but me AND MAYBE HER PLEASEEEEE #I NEED HER PLEASE < its been 5 min since i saw her last #anways #delete later for sure omg sorry tumblr void for chucking this mess into you

[seariii]

Wait what do you mean people don't normally talk to themselves and give themselves therapy-

#what do you mean thats actually self awareness and isn't a common trait #talking to the bestie. he spoke to his mom about his friend's problem that is extremely similar to my friend's problem from yesterday #and what his mother told him helped me as well and now we are like #so we reacted like that because of this and that and im like oh makes sense also probably because idolizing love since aro spec #and hes like yes yes and my mom looked at me like poor little boy he doesnt know and im like whaaaat #so yeah we got external input and now understand a bit better our friends and their problems #and im still surprised by that part that people dont normally sit down with themselves and talk about what's wrong give therapy to themselve #how impressive... anyways im eating now ill probably go back to my normal programing a bit later and will start to annoy everyone #seari talks