#aromantic writing romance

[ihhfhonao3]

You know that smut you like? Y’know, the really, REALLY good one? You know that one? Yeah?

An asexual wrote that.

And that really good romantic fluff you like? The really cute one, the domestic fluff? Y’know that one?

An aromantic wrote that.

So before you go to sleep reading fanfiction tonight, be sure to thank all the asexuals and aromantics that are writing your favorite fics!

Because no, we are not the pure little children you think we are.

Everybody say thank you a-specs!

Thank you a-specs!

Alright, I’ll let you go now :3

#asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #aegosexual #aegoromantic #aroace #aroallo #alloace #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #fanfic #fanfiction #ao3 #shoutout to all the aces who write smut and all the aros that write romance #y’all are the best

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

#obviously there are a ton of circumstances where the qpr and sex/romance favourable is completely fine #but when characters explicity say they dont have sex or dont want relationships it feels so hollow #fandom is fandom and there is nothing i can do to stop you shipping or writing smut or headcanoning or whatever #but please just think it through. the characters aren't real but there are so many geniunely harmful ideas doing stuff like this reinforces #rhi rambles #aroace #aromantic #asexual #a-spec #a spec #aspec #aro #ace #aspec representation #asexual representation #aromantic representation #lgbtq+ #queer

[stil-lindigo]

an aro-ace's love letter to love.

(the title "Laozi's bowl" is in reference to the famous quote by Chinese philosopher Laozi who said "It is the empty space which makes the bowl useful.")

#it can be lonely sometimes being aroace. but ive somehow made a career out of writing romance stories #ive made peace with myself #and what my identity likely means for my future #im fine with it but i cant help poke fun at the irony #to be a hopeless romantic and also aroace is a fun cocktail #aromantic #asexual #stillindigo art

[genderqueerdykes]

here's to the romance repulsed aromantics. not wanting to date or have a marriage or partnership is okay. it's not unhealthy, shameful or bad to enjoy being single and wanting to stay that way. not wanting to be involved in discussions about romance or other peoples' romantic lives is not a personal attack against the people who have them. not wanting to be touched, called pet names or shown affection is a proper boundary to establish if that's how you feel. not having an interest in fictional romances (romantic comedies, shipping, etc.). is not a moral failing. not wanting to be near or witnessing romantic displays, fictional or real does not make you an asshole.

you are allowed to assert what oversteps your boundaries. you are allowed to curate your experience online and have conversations with those you interact with in real life about your boundaries. you do not owe the world romance or time and attention for it when your needs aren't being met. your experience as an aromantic person deserves to be positive when and where possible, just like anyone else's- you do not deserve to be uncomfortable

#aromantic #aro #arospectrum #arospec #aromanticism #demiromantic #aegoromantic #cupioromantic #aspec #aspectrum #aroace #our writing #romance repulsed #aromantic positivity #aro pride #aro spectrum #lgbt #lgbtq #queer

[viviennevermillion]

Seeing people only use "but some asexuals have sex!!!" and "some aromantics are in romantic relationships!!!" so they can sexualize & ship the little representation we get makes me hope someone explicitly establishes a popular character as sex-repulsed so we can see the shippers get cooked online for it

#i'm not even complaining if someone specifically writes an asexual character as a sex-favorable ace #or puts the aros in qprs or writes a romantic relationship exploring how a character who doesn't experience romantic attraction navigates i #but if all you do is discard their asexuality & use the existence of sex-favorable and romance-favorable aces as a gotcha #to hide the fact that you're just portraying this character as allo anyway #we all know what you're doing #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #sex repulsed

[aromantic-diaries]

Yknow maybe I did genuinely want a romantic relationship back in the day and it's not contradictory of the fact that I've been stone cold aromantic since day one. Sometimes you want something you can't have and sometimes if you do get it it's not so great anymore. It's not that I have never wanted a romantic relationship in my entire life because at some point I very much did but there wasn't anyone I actually liked in that way

So like. When it comes to questioning whether you're aro or not the question you should ask yourself isn't "do I wanna be in a romantic relationship" but rather "is there anyone I'm actually attracted to"

#aro #aromantic #arospec #writing this down i now have better understanding of romance favorable aros #like i totally get it. sure i ended up feeling weird when i got into a romantic relationship but that's just me #at least ya can't say i never tried

[blackplaaague]

If anyone's wondering why I write lots of romance but am aro it's because my technical orientation is aegosexual/aegoromantic! I can explore the concept of love without repulsion in fiction. In my head, it's fine, but in real life it creeps me out.

#bp rambles #writing #romance #romance writing #fiction #aegosexual #aegoromantic #arospec #acespec #aromantic #asexual #aroace

[arodabi]

Shoutout to romance oblivious aros

Not realizing when ppl flirt with you, not being able to tell when people are attracted to each other or dating, not realizing romantic attraction was even a thing

Y’all are great <2

#I’m also romance oblivious #it’s so bad it’s hilarious #I’m like hmmm idk why this character did this #it seems like bad writing #and then everyone’s just like THEYRE IN LOVE #haha okay didn’t even consider that #aromantic #aro

[frickityfrackityfuckingshit]

Sometimes fictional romance is fun!

Sometimes you see every single relevant character get paired off into a perfect relationship just because, and you get pissed off.

#aspec #fictional romance #aromantic #asexual #abrosexual #abroromantic #reading #bad writing #lazy writing

[https-hunter]

aromanticism be damned my girl can write the sweetest, most earth-shattering romantic fics

#it's me. i'm my girl #i did have to look up tips on writing kissing once #i just think it's funny that i'll write so much tooth-rotting fluff and i actually don't know how irl romance works #aromantic #aromanticism #aro #arospec #aspec #writer #writing #writeblr

[phantomrose96]

is a Riteru read of ABoT the intended one?

It can be if you want it to be buddy. Go enjoy the world!

More genuine answer: I'm an aro-ace writer with a long long streak of gen-fic. Shipping doesn't interest me. I don't hate it; it just doesn't click for me at all. I joke that the only way romance ends up in the story is if it's a plot-necessity (Tetsuo and Jun are there because 'married man suspected of having an affair' is what pulls Reigen into the entire Mogami-possession plot. The Kageyama parents are married because they're, well, the parents. Teru and Mei's relationship is a joke until it's plot-relevant.)

So to me, I'm not writing Ritsu and Teru's relationship as a ship. But also? This is all pretend. It's all transformative. This is for fun. I absolutely know that if I were a ship-writer, Riteru would be the obvious choice. I know they're one angry-kiss away from being someone's enemies to lovers fic. So if you look at Ritsu and Teru in ABoT and say "they're holding hands, to me", go right ahead, go hog-wild, come play Barbies with me.

#my aromantic-agenda is to write fic that spotlights the power importance and intricacies of all kinds of platonic love #and ive done that in SPADES in ABoT #a Riteru read doesn't ruin any of that #so it's whatever you want #in my pocket. i like an aroace Ritsu and pan Teru read #but the aforementioned 'this is for fun pretend. go wild' trumps that totally #we're only alive a short time. go have some Riteru if you want #oh also my OTHER joke is that 'all romance drama in ABoT is actually just bait-and-switch nefarious spirit possession' #Tetsuo is having an affair? Nope! Spirit possession #Teru is cheating on Mei with Ichi? Nope! Saving Ichi from possession #Ichi is interested in Ritsu? Nope! Looking for dirt on spirit possession #my other other joke is that our name-combinations aren't ships. theyre possession dynamics #Tetsugami. not to be mistaken for Tetsuo x Mogami. is the spirit dynamic of Mogami possessing Tetsuo #We got Reigami #We got Slipzato #We got Gimrits #Slipakane Sliphisao #Sorry fresh out of romance but we DO have a 13 year old losing his soul to the corruption of being a spirit-powered-mecha-suit if you want

[ngtskynebula]

Getting to know asexual 'n aromantic visions of sex and love enriches us as ppl so much it escapes through art, and ficwriting!!!! Many possibilities!!!! So many!! Many diverse dynamics to explore, even if you're a shipper!!!!!

#asexual #aromantic #lgbt #fandom #fanfic #I Know the a-spec is rightfully known for its party of NoRomo fans and that's okay!!! #i love my sex/romance repulsed aroaces buddies!!! #but this post is for the shippers 🫵 #i keep seeing posts posing such interesting topics regarding a-spec experience... #it's so interesting to reflect on how i could write and study that in my fics 🫰🫂

[that-disabled-princess]

I've been afraid to talk about this for fear of backlash, but fuck it. Do other romance-repulsed aros recoil at even queer kisses?

Like I'm romance-repulsed and loveless, and most, if not all, romance makes me cringe or groan or gag depending on the scenario. Straight romance, queer romance, anything. Kisses gross me out, no matter what the couple looks like.

I can acknowledge queer people being allowed to kiss is good and progress, it's just... not my thing. I'm probably going to lose followers over this.

And it feels like a homophobic thought, but in reality, I'm romance-repulsed. I love queer people! Queer people are great! Queer people should be allowed to kiss!

But I'm romance-repulsed. I'll never view queer romance the way alloros do. And the internalized arophobia tells me that's wrong.

#think part of the feeling of this being homophobic comes from *being* called homophobic for writing aro rep #sigh. arophobes are so stupid. #watch me get self-conscious and delete this later #aromantic #aro things #romance repulsed

[genderqueerdykes]

while we are definitely happy for everyone celebrating, as a romance repulsed aromantic, we will not be reblogging/posting any Valentine's Day content due to always having felt alienated from and disgusted by the holiday

instead, i'd like to say that i hope that every aromantic, demiromantic, greyromantic, cupioromantic, allo aros, and every other arospectrum person, especially those of us who are romance repulsed has a great day, and that they care of themselves and prioritize their own needs for at least today. i'd also like to remind you that it's okay to dislike this holiday and want to avoid it.

it is not for us, even a partnering aromantic like myself has never enjoyed or celebrated it. i've always been forced and obligated to by past partners, and it's always been a tiring, uncomfortable, expensive slog. you should never feel obligated to spend money on something you do not wish to participate in, remember that.

take care of yourselves today, fellow aromantic spectrum people. of course it's okay if you celebrate, but if you don't, do what you want to do, fill your space and time with what you want today. feel no obligation to participate in activities that don't benefit you, spend your money how you please. keep showing people that humanity is full of diverse experiences, and don't force yourself to bend to things that do not suit you. have a great day, fellow aros

#aromantic #demiromantic #greyromantic #aromantic spectrum #arospec #aspectrum #aspec #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #allo aro #alloaro #aroace #aromantic asexual #aro ace #cupioromantic #greyro #romance repulsed #our writing #about us

[ineffable-doll]

Every time I see arophobia I want to write another fic where Aziraphale and Crowley are aromantic. So I do. I just did it again. Might do this forever actually. Aroace A&C make me very happy.

#i always write them ace but the aromanticism is hella attractive these days #somehow them kissing in canon has made me more interested in them being aro than ever before #(tho I've always liked it) #anyway I'm tired of conventional romance so yall are gonna get a lot of qpr and ambiguous stuff from me in the foreseeable future #not that you're complaining. judging by the comments yall are right here with me #good omens #good omens 2 #also about the post itself what i actually did was turn a previous romantic fic (finished and unposted) into an aro one #edited it JUST out of aro spite. #i aspire to my own levels of petty. #aromantic #asexual #queer

[uncanny-tranny]

The stereotype that aces/aros are like... unfeeling robots is probably amatonormative and maybe even acephobic/aphobic, and it isn't universal whatsoever but also... I can't beat those allegations, that's absolutely me lmao

#ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #there is something freeing about going 'oh so being ace/aro means i'm Fundamentally Not Human? guess i'm just not human then lol' #like when i was writing and forced romance into it because i felt pressured to you could TELL how robotic it was #you could tell i didn't gove a fuck about those scenes but i just wanted to pander to others #anyway i do think it's funny and i also won't be trying to prove i'm just as human #like if humanity is so fragile that *not falling in love* is what crumbles it then... no thank you actually #i'll just be a robot that does literally anything else lmao