A very Happy Valentine's Day to any ace, aro, aroace, gray, demi, cupio, abro, quio, placio, akoi, fray and everyone else on the asexual/aromantic spectrum reading this!
Maybe we don't love in the "normal" way, but we're not lonely or broken or cold unfeeling robots. We still love in our own way and are worthy of love!
Saying an abro person who switches between a set of orientations (such as bi and lesbian) isn't actually those orientations and their orientation is just "abro" is like saying a genderfluid person isn't actually the genders they experience and their gender is just "genderfluid"
I think I like the umbrella terms better than specific labels. With umbrella terms, I can be whatever I want, but with specific terms, I have to stay that label definition forever. I know I could change my labels, and my feelings do change almost daily, but I feel pressured to stay the same.
I like aromantic, bisexual, genderfluid the best.
Then some labels are more specific, but I like aro, bi, and genderfluid more. It's easy. (Almost) Everyone knows what it means so it's a simple “I'm a romantic, bisexual, and genderfluid.” I wouldn't have to explain every single label this way.
Here's a abroromantic flag I made a few years back (colours taken from the abrosexual and asexual flags) !! Feel free to use it without credit, it's for a community after all
[Image ID: a five striped flag horiented diagonally from the top left corner to the bottom right corner over a red and green backround. The colors of the stripes are, from top to bottom, green, light green, white, pink and red stripe. All together they are forming the abro pride flag.]
Please tell me if the flag isn't accessible. I've tried to make it non aggressive but I'm not sure if the size of the stripes are good or if there is enough contrast, etc. Let me know please! /genuine
A aromantic orientation for people with uncontrollable anger that some part or the whole romance repulsion isn’t feeling disgust or discomfort like gender dysphoria, but stress or hate in some romantic scenes, although the individuals of this orientation can feel nauseous and disgusted in romantic scenes as well.
This can be due trauma, neurodivergence’s or persodivergence’s that causes more negative or stressful emotions in general too, but doesn’t have too.
Ódio in the name, means hate in portuguese.
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[IMAGE ID: On the right the image depicts a flag with five horizontal stripes, consisting of shades of red to dark red at the top, dark brown in the middle, and dark green to green shades at the bottom. At the center of the flag, there is a notable black 'X' symbol. /END ID]
lately ive discovered i much prefer calling my identity a "complex identity" or "complex labels" rather than a "contradictory identity" or "contradictory labels" because to me, being bi and a lesbian doesn't contradict each-other because im abro and i switch between the two, im not both at the same time but i identify with both labels, and me being a boy and a lesbian doesnt contradict each other either because im still also a girl, so yeah, no worries if you like "contradictory identity" but i just wanted to put it out there that there are other terms for this experience, in case "complex identity" resonates with some people more