#for my own health

[oifaaa]

Like obviously there's a ton of reasons why jason just didnt kill joker in utrh or in any subsequent comics after, first and foremost being that he's dc's little cash cow, but I always did like the in universe explanation being that Jason himself doesn't want the joker to die

Not bc the joker is important to Jason in anyway shape or form quite the opposite in fact, joker dying wouldn't benefit Jason bc the joker doesnt matter to him outside of being a living constant reminder of Bruce's failure that can be used to hurt both himself and bruce, if jokers dead then the healing process can start and Jason doesn't want that he wants to be angry and hurt

So Jason doesn't go kill Joker to get revenge bc he already got his revenge when he beat Joker with a crowbar in utrh and killing the Joker himself wouldn't bring him any more catharsis since he doesn't really care about the clown outside of using him as a prop in his ongoing feud with Bruce

#dc #jason todd #joker #bruce wayne #once again and always the joker as an individual should not matter to jason #and jason definitely shouldn't currently be a side character in a joker comic #ignore me tho #it just annoys me #that like obviously jokers not gonna die anytime soon #so when you refocus jasons anger onto joker #instead of Bruce #and have jason have all this energy into killing a character that for outside reasons is unkillable #you make jason look stupider less skilled and trap him into a never ending cycle #just let him be free #joker has enough people who wants him dead #i need jason to never be near joker again #for my own health

[valerico]

The Waitress is a trans man to me. The Waitress tries to come out and every mention of his new name is clear as a bell, like no comedic noise cutting him off, no interruption, he's just like "My name is Troy now, I know that's going to be hard to change for you guys since it's not at all like my other name, but this is who I am" and they're like "Wait say that again?" "Troy." And everyone is losing their shit inside because they can finally hear his name, but just kinda goes "Oh yeah for sure, no problem" on the outside. They still find themselves calling him Troy shockingly easily because there just wasn't a name in that mental slot before but now they have no clue what his deadname is and they're going to lose that chance to find out soon since he's getting his ID changed that day, finding out his deadname so they can avoid it of course, out of respect. Cue them trying to get ahold of his wallet for an episode, and not finding the ID because it wasnt just getting the name changed he had lost it.

#op #iasip #im making good on my new years resolution to be more up front about my trans man headcanons #i need to #for my own health

[s0upl0ver]

day 18 avoiding last 3 episodes of bcs

#i Do Not need to know #for my own health

[lemon-wedges]

...

#i think i need to draw ryuu tomorrow #for my own health

[discluded]

Actual photo of a creature who has done nothing wrong in her life, ever, and will continue to remain perfect

Parasocial relationship applications for Boba the moo cat open 😘 But you will have to be approved by @freilie first as her fan club president

#i'm very tired #not mad not leaving just need a break #for my own health #i have had a shitty week health wise #anon off for now because i love y'all but i need my peace #boba the moo cat #personal #i haven't figured out how i feel yet and tbh i'm not gonna waste energy on it #my brain will decide when ti does

[brewdarrymore]

max is gonna drop an i love you to both of them this season

#i feel it in my bones #NOT listening to the triad haters or the rumors !! #for my own health #gossip girl hbo #max x aki x audrey #makidrey

[scorndotexe]

haunted by cabinet witch house

#i'm not going to write another 1.5k words complaining about cabinet witch house i'm not i'm not #i need to start being positive. did you guys know i love actual dreams in the witch house #(if someone asks though. i will probably write another 1.5k words complaining about cabinet witch house. sorry. there's a lot to say.) #i had to CONDENSE what i was saying in that other post. #there's multiple points where i said ''we'll get to that'' and didn't get to it because i got too mad hfgjdhg #but also i need to start thinking about other things there is too much anger in my heart #so if you wanna hear me complain about cabinet. ask me about something i'll like as well please #for my own health #for my own health........ #persimmon's rambles

[zizzlekwum]

Brb, going on a hunger strike until Adam admits his love for me

#hehehe he'll have to admit his love now #for my own health #wayhaven #adam du mortain #a du mortain #the wayhaven chronicles #checkmate bitch

[im-tempted]

Hey coworker please stop asking me how lesbians have sex

#i have GOT to gtf out of here #for my own health #adam fucking around

[duckdotimg]

Got tired of seeing moeblob young catgirls. Give me butch and GNC catladies in their 40s and 50s (more will be drawn)

#please dont be facking weird about them having facial hair theyre all butch and women of varied flavors!!!!!!!!!!! #more to come btw :3 #duck.png #uhhhh #catgirls #idk how to tag this #gijinka #i guess #too late now to really make it important to people but #these are all supposed to be lesbians #edit: disabled reblogs for my own mental health lol

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them! #i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all.. #...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in... #...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air... #...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life... #...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with... #...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it... #...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

[thesaurus]

// lol forgot how terribly I sleep when left to my own devices

// like if I don’t have ~5 social activities l/other general life requirement stuff going on I will not fall nor stay asleep come hell or high water

// I went two whole days of endless engagements and managed to sleep ~normally ish and last night I just wanted to set shit on fire or whatever

#back on my edible bullshit #for my own health

[beehop]

these smoke conditions right now are rather scary and with band rehearsal tonight being an audition for new conductors i need them to cancel so i can not have to battle with myself about whether or not to go

#if it was a normal audition i’d already have submitted my absence form #but our current band director has stressed its important to not skip this one #but we are in very unhealthy air quality conditions and it smells like smoke and its hard to breath like i feel like i should stay home #for my own health #one of my band friends reached out to our personnel manager and she was reaching out to the team #i hope they make the call soon #even inside my apartment i can smell the smoke now #we are extremely close to hazardous conditions rn its 270 #eek it is hazardous in brooklyn where rehearsal is 😵‍💫 #i…should probably just not go huh

[vunoirien]

Gonna put extra effort into not thinking about work once my shift is over.

#for my own health

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[slfcare]

after it has been new, scary and uncomfortable, it’s going to be okay. isn’t that what we’re doing it for?

#me trying to hype myself up about going to the gym for the first time #on my own #with a disability #yikes #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #comfort kindness family #self validation #positive #positivity #self love #self care #positive mental attitude #mental health