#hyposexual

[gayer-than-a-bag-of-clowns]

this is an appreciation post for

boys with acne/acne scaring

boys with stretch marks

boys who are very thin

boys who are fat

boys who have a lot of body hair

boys with physical/facial differences

boys with scars from self inflicted injuries that are very noticeable

boys with mastectomy scaring (whether it’s because your trans or you had gynocemastia, same scaring)

boys who are very short

boys who are very tall

boys who are very feminine

boys who are poc

boys who are trans and don’t wanna medically transition (me frfr)

boys who are hypersexual

boys who are hyposexual

boys who have a personality disorder

boys who are neurodivergent, such as being autistic, having adhd, etc

boys who are intersex

boys who are aligned with masculinity/have boy as one of their list of genders they are or can swap between

boys who don’t like themselves

boys who are part of a system

boys who fill two or more of these

i love and appreciate y’all’s existence. even if yall don’t like yourselves, i think your very nice and lovely (unless proven otherwise but every group has assholes) and i hope yall find your soulmate(s) whether platonic or romantic or a secret 3rd thing i cannot comprehend (only if you want one tho, if not live your best life without it my man). i found the person of my dreams while filling a few things on this list, you could fill all but one and have some traits i forgot to list and find the person of your dreams (if you want one) whether platonic, romantic or otherwise.

#trans #gay #gay mlm #transgender #mlm thoughts #mlm #transmasc #i’m so gay #plural system #hypersexual #hyposexual #appreciation post #i fucking love men

[bullet-ant]

"Before she even touched me, I realized what would happen. It was as if I'd known this for years, that I knew the secret to the reason I'd never approached anything remotely resembling sex: it would take me back to something I didn't want, a memory that had hovered for years, hidden, in my head."

Scott Heim, Mysterious Skin

#reading mysterious skin finally #this was a brian lackey quote that shattered me #how fucking relatable he is to me is insane #mysterious skin #brian lackey #book quote #csa vent #csa survivor #hyposexual #sex repulsed #csa tw #csa tag

[iidle2oul]

HYPOSEXUAL / HSDD FLAG

[pt: hyposexual / HSDD flag] a flag for those who are hyposexual / have HSDD! (hypoactive sexual desire disorder) [ID: a flag with 5 equally sized stripes, that are in the order of: very dark purple, sky blue, dark azure blue, midnight blue, and a very dark purple again. in the middle of the flag is a symbol of a split, upside down white heart with an arrow going through it. end of ID]

#hyposexual #HSDD #HSDD awareness #awareness flag #hyposexuality awareness #mogai safe #liom safe

[kunikloj]

Shout-out to my traumagenic hyposexuals.

(TWs in tags, but just in case: Sex mention, CSA mention, trauma mention, SA mention, mentions of hyposexual microaggressions)

Shout-out to all of us who get left out of conversations surrounding PTSD accommodation.

Shout-out to everyone who is told to manage their triggers despite rarely receiving warnings for sexual content.

Shout-out to anyone who is affected by random sexual content from accounts they don't follow appearing on their dash, especially those which tie into their specific traumatic experiences.

Shout-out to those of us who have been in therapy for our trauma for years, yet still get treated as though we aren't working hard enough to "grow out" of our difficulties surrounding sex.

Shout-out to those of us who have been on the road to recovery long enough that we know we won't ever be fully "cured."

Shout-out to people who have lost relationships and marriages due to being hyposexual.

Shout-out to everyone who has felt pain from microaggressive labels being incorrectly applied to them, such as "incel" or "virgin", and who still feel anger seeing those labels thrown at people who simply can't engage in sexual topics like everyone else. (And a double shout-out to anyone who recognizes how messed up it is to use "virgin" as an insult!)

Shout-out to all my hyposexual aces.

Shout-out to all hyposexuals who don't identify as ace because they feel left out of the community.

Shout-out to all hyposexuals who were told they weren't "really" ace because they weren't born that way, and by extension, are able to somehow rid themselves of their asexuality.

Shout-out to all hyposexuals who never had the luxury of knowing whether they were "truly" ace because their trauma occurred before puberty, and will never know the answer.

Shout-out to people who want to identify as ace but feel they don't count because they lost their sexuality after their trauma occurred.

Shout-out to hyposexual systems across the dissociative spectrum.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who are not systems, but still suffer from a dissociative disorder.

Shout-out to everyone who has to vet popular music, TV shows, and movies to avoid triggers.

Shout-out to anyone who forced themselves to be sexual in a relationship in hopes to "get over" their hyposexuality, but only suffered more for it.

Shout-out to every hyposexual over 30 who still feels doubted, belittled, and condescended by online discourse. (And everyone younger, of course!)

Shout-out to hyposexual survivors who understand that they are only one half of the survivor coin, and who do not judge hypersexuals for their experiences, yet are assumed to be judgmental regardless.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who truly want legalization, regulation, and protection for sex workers, but have to avoid those discussions for their own mental well-being.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who aren't at a place where they can even talk about it yet.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who are treated with pity, even if they feel like they aren't missing out on anything.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who feel rejected from queer spaces, and even progressive spaces in general, because they aren't given the space to be understood.

Shout-out to hyposexuals who need Pride, but can't go due to their triggers.

I could go on, but I think my message is clear:

I see you. I hear you. I love you. We are not alone, no matter how lonely it may feel. You will always belong in my eyes.

#dm me if i missed any tw tags #hyposexual #hyposexuality #traumagenic asexuality #traumagenic did #traumagenic system #traumagenic osdd #tw csa #tw sa mention #tw csa mention #asexual microaggressions #tw trauma #tw sex mention #tw sex

[yobi-bubble]

am I asexual panromantic or hyposexual we may never know

#asexual #asexual panromantic #hyposexual #pride i guess

[fuck-you-icons]

Pizza Plex pride icons pt 34

Hai/Hais × Transfem cishet man × Lung/lungs

Hyposexual × Hep/heps × Transmasc het woman

Bronco/broncos × Transfem cis man × Gik/giks

Free to use with credit

#pride icons #five nights at freddy's #five nights at freddy's security breach #fnaf #fnaf pride icons #fnaf sb #fnaf icons #security breach #hai/hais #transfem cishet man #lung/lungs #hyposexual #hep/heps #transmasc het woman #bronco/broncos #transfem cis man #gik/giks

[sunflowersbloominthewinter]

people don't talk about how isolating it is to be hypersexual in trauma survivor spaces

#ptsd #trauma survivor #maybe this is just me #but all the people im closest with are hyposexual #and it makes me feel like a freak #or like i wanted / deserved what happened to me #hypersexual

[pataliemortman]

am I asexual or do I have c-ptsd and experience random bouts of sex repulsion/disinterest

#or am i hyposexual #help #text

[flittermousemoth]

Yes, I am bi(annually)sexual.

#ace spike #hypersexuality #hyposexuality #bpd #aceflux #aromantic #cupioromantic #arospike #frayromantic #bisexual #lgbt #actually bpd #borderline personality disorder #cluster b #me #aromantic asexual #aromantic spectrum #asexual #acespec #arospec #aroace #aroacespec #asexual spectrum #aroallo #aspec #too real #ace pride #ace problems #aro ace

[bullet-ant]

#this ones tailored very specifically #this is for all my traumatized and/or sex repulsed girlies (gender neutral) #csa survivor #csa tw #csa vent #hyposexual #its the fact that im so traumatized even the word sex makes me start trembling🤖 #me standing there muttering it's not real its not real its not real #oh it is very real #top post

[doomed-jester]

Sometimes I think maybe I *am* asexual then I hear a woman with a gravelly voice and I turn to soup

#I'm maybe like hyposexual or something #bisexual #wlw #gay #lgbt #queer

[mtsainthelens]

niche post but im interested in talking to people who had delayed sexual awakenings and didnt really feel sexual attraction until later in life. i was literally a saint in high school i didnt think about sex at ALL which lead to me misreading a lot of situations and not getting a lot of experience w it. now im about to hit 20 and it hits me all at once and idk what to do w all of this energy. i feel like im in a romcom.

#im really. jealous. of people whos response to fucked up events or mental illness was to become hypersexual #if i had the choice i would have chosen that #but maybe they would choose hyposexuality so who knows

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

hi! tw for sexuality confusion?

I realize that sexuality is a spectrum and majority of my life I've considered myself ace or demisexual but now I'm not so sure. I think I can live just fine not having sex since I don't really see it as a necessity, but lately I keep thinking about it.

I'm not able to imagine myself with a person physically, but rather just touching. I imagine myself hugging someone tightly, and this person is larger than me as almost everyone is, and they're hugging me just as tightly back. I think about getting cramped in an elevator and them doing kabedon since it's so crowded, but this person has no face or head. I can't imagine who or what this person could even look like.

I don't think I can be fully naked or have sex, the idea of it is a bit unrealistic to me, but I'd like to hug this person, to sleep and cuddle with them, and to have them just physically with me. I've also started feeling aroused or I guess horny for the first time in a year but I don't want to have sex. I don't know how to handle it really

sex curiosity anon! just realized I may be hyposexual. I had only been aware of hypersexuality up until now, but I think hyposexuality explains what I experience much more accurately. I feel little to no sexual desire except maybe for a week or two every year or year and a half.

Hi anon,

I want to start by saying that there is no pressure to label yourself and your sexuality, as it can often be a very complex and fluid concept that may be hard to put any one label on, and that's okay. It's also important to consider that identity, including sexuality, can change over time, and that's okay too. Just because you no longer resonate with being ace or demi doesn't necessarily mean you were never either of these things. Discovering ourselves is an ongoing process. However, it's also perfectly valid to find comfort in labeling or naming your own experiences, and if this resonates with you, then I am happy to help you find a label that you are most comfortable with.

Especially when it comes to exploring the ace spectrum, I personally find it helpful to think of attraction in terms of the SAM, the Split Attraction Model (I also want to acknowledge that I think there is some controversy around this model but I'm not sure why). I find that this model helps distinguish some of the different kinds of attraction, such as platonic, romantic, and sexual.

It sounds like you've been able to identify a predominantly romantic attraction, and that while you seem to experience sexual arousal, the idea of sex doesn't interest you. I found a comprehensive list of identities within the asexual umbrella, and found a few things that you may resonate with, such as aceflux, apothisexual, and quoisexual. However, if hyposexuality is a term you resonate with then that is up to you to claim, as you know yourself much better than I do.

If anyone has any comments or suggestions, feel free to add on. Otherwise, I hope that I could help shed some insight into your identity, and please know that we're here if you want to follow up or if you need anything else.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks #asexuality #hyposexuality

[fairyneko]

8:10am

While I’m trying to convince myself I’m not “not normal,” I do recognize that I am in the minority here.. I wanna learn how to better approach the topic of sexuality/sensuality with people who think I’m more sexual than I am. Recently, the topic came up in playful conversation with my friends (regarding my beloved) and I just like “haha totally” went along with it but then I felt like such a fucking loser cause they had no idea that I’m on some kind of ace spectrum… and that I’m actually so uncomfortable even talking about sex. But I don’t wanna seem like the square that is drastically less interested in sex than the general population so I lie to my friends’ faces and go along with jokes and remarks that really just make me really sad and angry at myself for being so atypical.

#personal #i really am trying to tell myself im not abnormal #but its so hard when the whole world has always told me im hyposexual and its a problem and why dont i try this and that to help it along #im struggling so hard!!!! #im like really frustrated rn lmao

[year2007]

honestly my libido is pissing me off.. she got up and walked away, havent seen her in days

#this is the worst timing for it too #i think im going from hypersexual to hyposexual