#if people are anti comprehensive sex ed

[tazzy-zooming]

Advocacy work is fun because it means getting emails from groups claiming to fight child abuse/sexual violence being like "whee! we do stuff you care about! let's work together" and then sixteen google searches, hours of reading, an way too much time later it turns out they're actually some far-right group that rebranded themselves but is still on their anti-sex ed, anti-lgbtq rights grind.

By this being fun I mean super annoying and I'm peeved.

#if people are anti comprehensive sex ed #they do not care about child safety #I will die on this hill #tw csa

[localtoothfairy]

Ok I feel like we don’t really get into what sex-repulsion can look like when discussing aspec experiences.

For a long time I thought sex-repulsed was the stereotypical “ew sex is gross” stuff that gets perpetuated. For years I struggled. I called myself sex-favorable because I was all for being sex positive, offering comprehensive sex ed, discussing sex, viewing erotica, etc. At this time I got into relationships with allo people and there were intense feelings gnawing out. I didn’t mind talking about sex as a concept or between other people but the minute I was placed in a sexual context I would get the ick.

It took me so long to realize that this was sex repulsion, because I thought it needed to be grandiose and intense. I still feel weird identifying myself as sex-repulsed because I don’t want people to assume I was against sexual freedom. I feel like we need to do more to challenge the notion that being sex repulsed is inherently anti-sex and let know people know that’s being sex repulsed isn’t a shameful thing, it’s just a piece of you.

#asexual #ace week #sex repulsed

[antiterf]

You know how adults go "oh no one came out as trans or gay when I was a kid. Must be all social!"

I graduated high school in 2019. So many people in that school only came out after they graduated because it's in such a conservative evangelical area.

Many of the teachers and stuff were commuting from Chicago because Illinois public school system sucks for anyone who's not in an upper middle class area and were supportive.

The issue was mainly being afraid of parental backlash. The GSA tried to get more comprehensive sex ed (we didn't even learn about mouth guards, all we learned about was condoms with a huge push on abstinence), and immediantly got a no because it can come off as "encouraging" that behavior. The school counselors tried to keep the GSA from inviting older queer people to speak because then they may be forced to allow anti gay speakers in.

The Day of Silence got so many students picked on and for a video about it the club got in trouble for showing two boys kissing. It was rebranded by students as "for kids who committed suicide from bullying" without the LGBTQ part. The Day of Silence.

That was the club that allowed me to come out and accept myself by the way. It wasn't all negative but it was beyond limited and filled with the reminder that we were not welcome like cishet students were.

I came out in that school because I didn't have any other choice. My mental health was life risking at the time. When I did I got a bit more popular, but that's because I never talked or hung out with anyone before. I had to constantly be on guard though and did get harassed. There were students that actively avoided me too.

Of course I met trans people in the school, but usually they came out to me because I was the out trans person. They too avoided being too out.

ROGD was published in 2018. The year that I finally got the ability to socially transition in school. And it's so, so ignorant to what many of us outside of big cities and liberal areas go through. What people say about how it's so better now and for *my* generation are right in many ways, but also dismiss what me and many of my classmates went through. It took so much bravery to come out at that school and we were all kids.

And I know that I still had it much better than students in middle and high school right now in other schools in America.

Point is, I wish those people would shut up. Not only because their scare tactics are hurting the rights of queer kids, but because their attitudes of them are so dismissive to what they go through every day.

#I changed in the nurses supply closet #I was scared of using the bathrooms and got multiple utis #I hated that I was trans and the school was only okay to me because I did #trans students were kept from giving blood #the gsa homecoming poster was ripped down #kids were too afraid to be seen at the gsa #notaterftip #not sarcasm #when sylvia rivera talked about how trans people were at the front of the movement I related #because my gender identity had to be exposed to my world #and it ended up with me being one of the loudest people in the school about it #I should reach out to some staff and see if I can come in and see how its going #maybe theyll let me speak without allowing a homophobe to

[wreckitremy]

The Political Platform of the Democratic Socialists of America:

Abolition of the Carceral State

Abolition of White Supremacy

A Powerful Labor Movement

Economic Justice

Gender and Sexuality Justice

Green New Deal

Health Justice

Housing for All

International Solidarity,

Anti-Imperialism, and Anti-Militarism

DSA' Political Platform on

Gender and Sexuality Justice

DSA is a socialist feminist organization. We organize people of all genders to fight against systems of oppression and exploitation, including patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy.

Liberal representation feminism is content with increasing the number of female faces in oppressive structures. A few women in positions of power, however, is not liberation. Liberation means all genders having freedom and control over their own lives and bodies through ending exploitation.

DSA fights to build a feminism for and by the working class and all oppressed people. Capitalism specifically impacts women workers through devaluing of feminized labor, sexual violence in the workplace, unpaid housework, and the expectation of emotional labor.

DSA fights for the democratization of domestic and care work, political and social liberation for all genders, full bodily autonomy for all, and the end of state recognition of the gender binary.

We stand in solidarity with grassroots feminist movements around the world in their fight against capitalist oppression and exploitation.

We organize for the liberation of queer people, understanding that liberation – having the power to define our life choices, and fulfill our greatest potential — depends on achieving economic justice for the multiracial working class, and all oppressed people.

We fight against violence against black transgender women, federal and state discrimination, and all political and social barriers to full control over ourbodies and sexualities. We seek equity so that queer people, subject to discrimination and violence, have the means to livea liberated, fulfilling life.

We strongly oppose “rainbow capitalism,” in which banks, police, andcorporations wrap themselves in Pride flags during June in order to make profit, all while exploiting queer workers.

We likewise reject “homonationalism,” the process of using superficial support of LGBTQ+ people, such as US military propaganda featuring gay couples, to provide cover for the brutalities of the American empire. Companies in the military-industrial complex may march in corporate Pride parades, but we recognize them for what they are: enemies of the global working class, and of the international queer liberation movement.

We seek nothing less than liberation.

OUR DEMANDS:

Reproductive Justice for All

Free contraception and birth control for all who want it, provided by the state

Free fertility treatment for all

Free abortion on demand

Repeal of the Hyde Amendment and all legal restrictions on abortion access

Reparations for all those impacted by reproductive and sexual violence committed by the state, such as those forced to undergo hysterectomies in ICE detension

An immediate end to forced sterilization of disabled people

Affordable representation of disabled people within family courts

Protection and expansion of the legal rights of disabled parents regarding guardianship

Paid parental leave for all people

Universal child care, elder care, and pre-kindergarten

Quality, age appropriate, and comprehensive sex-ed taught in schools

End Employment and Housing Discrimination Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity and Expression

Enact federal and state anti-discrimination laws, including passage of ENDA and the Equality Act, as well as the addition of “sexual orientation, gender identity and expression” as a protected category in all human rights laws

Require “just cause” for evicting someone from housing or terminating employment

Enhance and strengthen equal pay guarantees, including by requiring the EEOC to resume collecting pay data from large employers, forbidding prior salary from being considered in setting pay rates, and increasing transparency and protections for workers discussing their own pay

Housing for all and a universal ban on housing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity

End Anti-Queer Violence

The establishment of community-based response systems to transphobic and homophobic violence, especially violence targeting black trans women, that is entirely separated from the police and criminal law system

Put in place greater protections for survivors of sexual assault and abolition of the requirement that survivors file a police report to access funds

Allow transgender prisoners to be housed in facilities reflecting their gender identities

Guarantee Queer-Friendly and Gender Affirming Healthcare

Enact a single-payer Medicare for All system that provides free queer sexual health and gender affirming healthcare, including HIV care, PrEP, fertilty treatments, birth control, abortion care, mental health care, hormone replacement therapy, and gender-affirming surgeries

Allow trans minors to access gender affirming care without parental consent

Prioritize funding for health centers that provide transgender healthcare, especially in rural and conservative areas, on reservations, and in underserved urban areas

Guarantee that transition-related healthcare, including HRT and surgery, to all incarcerated people who request it

End gender restrictions in insurance coverage, such as the practice of only covering contraceptive costs for women, and demand healthcare tailored to our actual bodies rather than our ID cards

End gendered restrictions on medical care, including but not limited to services available to sexual assault survivors

End the Repression of Sex Workers and Fully Decriminalize Sex Work Nationwide

Repeal FOSTA/SESTA

Increase consideration of the intersection of disability and sex work and provision of specific resources for disabled sex workers

Dignity for domestic and care workers

Increased wages for domestic labor and care work, including through a $15 minimum wage indexed to inflation

Require domestic laborers and home health aides to be paid for all hours worked

The end of mandated 24-hour workdays

End the State Recognition of the Gender Binary and Enforcement of Heteronormativity

Remove all barriers and requirements to changing one’s ID gender marker and legal name

End all laws prohibiting cohabitation of unrelated people, which exist only to privilege the heterosexual nuclear family over nontraditional and chosen family

End conversion therapy and provide stronger supportive care for minors whose families abandon them

Grant all privileges afforded to married couples to all consenting partnerships

Eliminate the financial and healthcare barriers for disabled people to marry freely

This pamphlet contains an excerpt from the Political Platform of the Democratic Socialists of America, ratified at the organization’s 2021 National Convention. The platform is a living document, up for amendment by our highest deliberative body, the national convention, every other year. You can read the current version of the full platform at ntdsa.org/nationaldsaplatform

Read the latest version of DSA’s full platform at

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#us politics #democratic socalists of america #late stage capitalism #mutual aid #community organizing #trans rights #abortion rights #activism #political activist #political action #intersectional feminism #eat the rich #leftism #february 2024

[varii-corvid]

I'm thinking about starting a radqueer-aligned anarchist ecovillage commune, but I'd want there to be some infrastructure in place to create a healthy environment. I'm thinking comprehensive sex ed courses, anti-abuse and anti-grooming training, nonviolent conflict resolution courses and some minimum requirements such as avoiding harmful contact and making sure to self govern. I want people to be honest about their boundaries and to create a culture of consent. I think the government structure could be a form of modified consensus. I'd love to have a permaculture farm integrated into the ecosystem as well. I'd definitely need more people to help organize the commune but I want it to be non-hierarchical. it would also be cool to integrate solarpunk infrastructure, praxis, and aesthetics into the design of the community.

I don't have any income or resources at the moment so getting a community started would take some help from others, but honestly that may be for the better since it could create healthy lasting bonds from the start.

#radqueer #rq 🌈🍓 #anarchism #solarpunk #anarchocommunism #intentional community #commune #eco anarchism

[dynamoe]

If you're a US Citizen over 18, remember to VOTE in the midterms. Irritate everyone you know into voting. Even if the candidates are blah. Even if you're burnt out. Let's get this the fuck over with!

*Feel free to use any of my graphics on your social media. Please do.

As bad as things are, a Republican congress is going to make it a million times worse.

If the GOP gain control of #Congress, in addition to stopping the investigation into January 6 and gumming up the process of getting bills that HELP PEOPLE passed in favor of performative "anti-woke" "anti-CRT" and anti-Biden measures, they promise to pursue a NATIONAL ABORTION BAN.

No ban will end abortion. It will end legal, safe abortion. The rich will get them anyway from private doctors who lie for them. The poor and desperate will do it to themselves and die in the process.

The American Health Care system is already terrible when just money is corrupting it. Adding in confusing "only if the life of the mother is in danger" rulings make it even worse. Women will die… Have died. You are punishing not just people seeking to terminate a pregnancy but couples getting fertility treatments, incest/rape victims, and ovary-havers facing an unexpected medical crisis. You are in favor of unnecessary, pointless death.

If you personally believe abortion is amoral, don't get one. Work to prevent the need for abortion with comprehensive sex ed and contraception. Crusade for maternity leave and make American society more welcoming to mothers.

If you want abortion banned to "punish sluts" who get an abortion the day before their due date on a whim, get in a trash can. You're not pro-life, you're pro-forced birth.

Democrats must keep the House and Senate and hopefully increase their numbers to make Manchin/ Sinema irrelevant as they should be.

#abortion #midterms #illustration #illustrator #lettering #US politics #US election #senate #congress

[noonesgaylikegatson]

You asked me to remind you about this on friday- little late, but!

I would like to hear your thoughts n perspective as a black gay man on the 'conservative v liberal gays' vid by jubilee. or the 'why trans is a lie' vid by kai decadence

I watched it! I liked it! I thought it would be bad, or have a conservative lean. But honestly, a lot of people had good points that you can take and discus.

-Gay community is oversexualized

I would have to agree, but like, more into, that there are a lot of places to express your sexuality. And there are places to express other parts of your sexuality that aren't related to sex, and those places aren't given enough shine or credence. And it's not the community's fault, its the fault of individuals. We have the power to choose what we advertise and big up.

-Pride is still necessary

Absolutely. Pride isn't just America. It's worldwide. The majority of lgbt people in the world are not living free or in countries with at least neutral laws. They need pride. Also in america, we are seeing an uptick of anti-lgbt laws, of hatecrimes, and children being bullied and commiting suicide. Pride is important more than ever. we cannot be complacent.

-LGB should be separated from TQIA

Absolutely not. If you wanted to separate the two, it should have been done long time ago in the 1970s. It's too late to do that now. We are a sociological group and a political group. Also it's just not useful to separate us. There are lots of trans people who are bisexual, gay, and lesbian. Too much overlap, you can't have an LGB space without including trans, intersex, asexual etc. Also Queer is ambiguous and LGB people identify as queer as well.

And I think that man made a good point that the Q is important to fit all those people who don't identify as LGB or don't want to identify as LGB. We can't just pretend they don't exist cause they don't fit nicely.

-Drag Shows are too sexual for minors

Most drag shows that are done, are done for adults and not appropriate for kids. However, the drag shows being done for kids, are age appropriates. Hateful people pick out extreme examples, or lie about examples, to try to attack the community. Drag Story hour is appropriate. Seeing a drag queen at pride is appropriate. And again, it's always parents choice! parents right! but not when Susan wants little Timmy to get his life at drag brunch

-I would date a transman

I would. I never have because I haven't met a trans man who've I've been intimate with but I am not against the idea. Trans people are people who are experiencing the world just like we are and they are not waiting with baited breath to see who whose gonna to love to them, because they are already being loved and cherished by the people they do. These debates are silly and dehumanizing.

I also think people need to get over the fact that some people's sexuality is based on sex, some are based on gender, some are based on both sex and gender. They're all valid. It's all about being respectful to people.

-LGBTQ topic should be taught in the school

Absolutely. It should be taught, celebrated. Not just during in sex ed. (We need comprehensive sex ed for all genders and sexuality). We should also mention the sexuality of prominent lgbtq historic figures.

And let's not remember the anti-gay propaganda laws are also attacking the personal rights of teachers and students. Teachers can't mention their queer families in passing, as well as students. It's stopping expression of the individual.

-Monogamous relationships are hard to find in the community

Not true. They're easy to find. Of course, if you're looking on grindr and sex clubs you're not going to find it. But you still can. There are other places.

The problem is that people such at relationships. They don't know how to set boundaries and rules and have conversations and cannot accept the fact that people change and what they want change. They don't want to be honest and vulnerable. This isn't a gay thing. This is a human thing.

#gmadi #ask #anon

[leaves-lilies-and-esther]

About Me

Hi! I'm leaves-lilies-and-esther, this is just a random post I made to summarize the blog.

I mostly post about feminism here, though occasionally I may veer into other topics that I'm interested in. I enjoy cooking, old music, reading, and creative writing. My favorite animals are easily cats, though I can't adopt one at the moment. INFP.

In the future I want to study some combination of literature, history/social sciences, or international relations. Ideally I would love to be a published author, anthropologist, social worker, etc. Currently learning the Spanish language!

Politically left-leaning by USAmerican standards. If you disagree with me you're welcome here- I like to (respectfully) debate! I wouldn’t be considered a true radical feminist because I am not "gender critical", but I agree with their analysis on other topics.

Reblogging is not an endorsement of their entire blog

My feminist beliefs are:

The beauty industry is destructive and predatory to women and girls. An ideal situation is one in which women feel comfortable going out in public without an altered version of their faces, cosmetic surgeries, unhealthy weight-loss regimens, and perfectly hairless legs. Body neutrality is healthy and should be promoted.

The sex industry is likewise degrading. Porn tends to be very violent and misogynistic, and is associated with increased domestic violence etc. To paraphrase Catherine MacKinnon: sex work is usually neither sex nor work, but coercion.

Pro-choice is best for women's health. It is not ethical to force anyone to undergo pregnancy due to the physical and mental toll that it requires. Anti-abortion laws typically have casualties- ie, Savita Halappanavar and Olga Reyes. Most late term abortions are fetuses that were wanted (until new circumstances) or cases where women could not have access in time. Therefore, improving access is critical. Reproductive autonomy extends to procedures like getting tubes tied etc.

The government should have policies which help mothers, and women with reproductive autonomy overall. While abortion should be legal, the widespread necessity of it is symptomatic of other structural problems. Ie, we need paid parental leave, larger tax breaks to low-income families with children, crisis pregnancy centers, educational opportunities designed for teen parents, to fix our foster care and adoption systems, comprehensive sex ed, etc. Being pro-choice means that women should have the true choice to keep their baby if they wish.

We should be trans inclusive. Regardless of your beliefs about gender, trans people would probably exist either way (even if you successfully abolish gender, people will still experience dysphoria with their bodies). Transition can be the best informed decision. Statistically, trans inclusion in bathrooms etc make no difference in sexual assault rates. Denying these rights exposes trans people to assault and polices the appearance of cis women- enforcing gender even more strictly.

Traditional gender roles put women at the disadvantage. While there is inherent value in traditional "women's work", gender roles play out to put women in a position of insecurity and dependence (ie, if you want money, then you are the mercy of your husband to give it to you. And if he loses his job or dies, then you're broke). This is only one example.

#FAQ #feminism #liberal feminism #radical feminst leaning

[steveneiman]

If you really want to understand what conservative leaders want from abortion bans, all you really need to do is look at how they respond to other measures which would be much more effective for reducing the total number of abortions that happen. The  obvious ones being comprehensive sex ed, convenient free access to contraceptives, family planning services, and strong, consistently enforced consent laws. All of these measures would drastically reduce the number of pregnancies among people who are not interested in or ready for parenthood. However, conservatives fight such measures tooth and nail because they would give women power over their own bodies, while enthusiastically supporting literally the only anti-abortion measure which has ever been proposed that strips women of rights.

#politics #abortion

[catgirl-catboy]

Do you think antis have repressed kinks of fantasies and they're lashing out at proshippers as harshly and obsessively as they do bc of some internalized shame? Not excusing them ofc, bc antis'words and actions go beyond the pale, but i wonder if that's one of the reasons why they consume problematic media yet hurt others for bullying the same.

I wouldn't say thats true 100% of the case, but sometimes they will infer something... disturbingly specific about my sexual fantasies.

I'd say that a lack of comprehensive sex ed is a problem. At least, when I was younger, I was confused/grossed out by stuff I didn't understand and nobody bothered to explain to me. If you don't understand why people do what they do, you tend to assume the worst motive possible.

Of course, this isn't letting them off the hook. Google is still a thing, and other options exist if your parents go through your search history. (though it would be a weird parent okay with suicide baiting and not sex.)

#how to tag this conversation? #proship #anti anti #pro ship #proshipper #pro fiction #pro shippers #pro ship safe #proshippers please interact

[finagled]

trying to figure out a way to say what i want to say without it getting lengthy but

if you know me, you know i gave up on my bachelor's in psych earlier in my 20's when i had to move coasts, and instead switched to an associates in programming

its hard dreaming big when mental health is so terrible but my mental health is finally to a point where i believe in myself again and theres a much more stable foundation under me now

im going back to school, hopefully this spring, to finish my bachelor's in psychology, then to finish my associates in programming. im really excited about this. i feel like the two belong together, especially in an age where A. our mental healths are so bad and B. the internet and technology at large is increasingly insidious and creates this endless feedback loop that feeds on anti-social behavior

my goal is to make a website (or a series of sites) that is a comprehensive stop for educational resources, information, and research on subjects that are vital learning for navigating ourselves within the world around us

im not sure if that makes sense!! but basically information on proper sex ed (including reproductive information, information on gender and sexuality), information on healthy relationships and how to spot unhealthy ones, as well as a more organized and cohesive directory of global, national, and local resources and programs.

im very very excited to announce this, it seems to have gotten good feedback whenever i mention it to people. im not sure how exactly im going to do this, or which information im going to start with, but im going to try! i may start a sideblog to document my progress and save related information for the site

#radcurio

[uncloseted]

really? you don't think that in a few years being a man or woman will feel like an outdated thing? because i think it's very likely

There's no way, at least, not in the US, where I live. We don't even have comprehensive sex-ed, and there's a huge debate here about whether or not it's "appropriate" to teach children that LGBT people exist. This is the current state of the US with regard to gender and LGBT issues:

Only 58% of Republicans and Republican leaners in the US think that homosexuality should be accepted. Same-sex marriage has only been allowed in all 50 states since 2015. Only about four-in-ten U.S. adults (38%) say that greater acceptance of people who are transgender is generally good for our society, while 32% say it is bad and 29% say it is neither good nor bad.  65% of conservative Republicans say acceptance of trans people has been bad for society. One study found that most participants (73%) were taught traditional gender roles in their childhood home, and 89% had heard negative opinions about non-conformity. That same study found that 13.6% of heterosexual participants reported they had been bullied for gender non-conformity as did 42.7% of LGBTQ-identified individuals. Nearly 1-in-4 (23.6%) participants believed that male cross-dressing is wrong.

Plus, opinions on issues of gender aren't really changing. Half of Americans say they would feel very or somewhat comfortable using a gender-neutral pronoun to refer to someone if they were asked to do so, but 48% say they would feel very or somewhat uncomfortable doing so. These numbers are virtually unchanged since 2018. A majority of U.S. adults (56%) believe that whether someone is a man or a woman is determined by the sex they were assigned at birth, with 41% saying that a person’s gender can be different from the sex they were assigned at birth. These numbers are unchanged since 2017.

On a policy level, Montana, Tennessee, and Arkansas all passed laws last year that require schools to give families advance notice of lessons on gender identity and sexual orientation and allow parents to opt their children out. 

Just two months ago, Alabama's governor Kay Ivey signed two anti-LGBT bills into law. One criminalizes gender-affirming surgeries for trans youth, and the other is a ‘Don’t Say Gay’ bill that prevents teachers from teaching "divisive concepts" in schools and only allows people in schools to use the bathroom of the gender listed on their birth certificate. There's just no way that in 2030, Kay Ivey is suddenly going to be like, "actually, I feel like being a man is outdated, let's just get rid of gender in Alabama and call it a day."

People are terrified of gender norms being broken. I know some people who are okay with binary trans people but not with nonbinary people because they're that uncomfortable with people who are gender non-conforming. It's going to be a real uphill battle to get those people to let go of their misogynistic views, much less to get them to accept the existence of trans and nonbinary people, to get them to break down their own preconceived notions about what gender means, to become comfortable with gender non-conformity in others, and finally to become comfortable with gender being "outdated" and falling by the wayside on a societal level, meaning that they will also lose their personal relationship to it. Even in big cities that are liberal, that's a huge ask. It's definitely not going to happen in Montana or Tennessee or Arkansas or Alabama or Florida. But those are the steps it would take to get to the point where we can just "get rid of gender".

Certainly, I think there's a growing acceptance for gender non-conformity and people who feel like gender is outdated, particularly among Gen Z, where about 5% of them identify as transgender or nonbinary. But that's certainly not a representative population for the rest of the US or even the rest of Gen Z, and it's definitely not a representative population for the rest of the world.

[salsa-and-light]

Why do you invest so much time ranting at people you don’t even know or care about? You have no intention of opening your mind. You don’t care about what they think. So why keep coming back to them?

What an unusual and strangely combative ask.

The truth of the matter is that I often don't even have to look for conflict, this is tumblr, people with no reading comprehension often create the fights for me.

In that case I suppose it's my instincts from being a teacher that take over.

But I do criticize homophobia and transphobia where I see it, I doubt that I'm actually changing many minds but if I'm able to unsettle some homophobes in their prejudice.. I see no reason not to.

Prejudice survives by isolation and it is propagated by repeating it. So maybe I can't actually get a dyed-in-the-wool bigot to come to a nuanced understanding of why anti-Queer prejudice is immoral; but if I can inspire a little bit of shame or paranoia I might be able to reduce the chances of them actively spreading those prejudices around in front of vulnerable or impressionable people.

Part of why I like discussing the Bible in relation to homophobia is so that a lesser-known perspective can be seen. It can be quite impactful if all you've ever known in the church is hatred and disgust. And I've already done all this legwork to learn all this information about translation and semantics.. so I might as well share it.

I think it's generally healthy for these conversations to be happening, many people lack the adult capacity to have a disagreement while understanding that their "opposition" are still thinking breathing people with functioning minds.

I'm generally a pretty amicable person and, while I don't consider an openness to learning bigotry to be a virtue, I'm very convincible. I've had my mind changed many times and sometimes I even tell detractors what would convince me(not that they usuall care to listen but that's another matter).

But I also won't pretend that I don't find these sorts of discussions fun, I like talking about complex ideas, especially with my friends.

Like I said I think that this is a healthy thing for all people to do, I do think that there are benefits to it, but I also consider the language and the presentation of ideas to be potentially fun creative endeavor.

I also learn a ton.

Gosh you'll never learn so much as you do while trying to answer other people's questions.

I know so much more about history, linguistics, sex-ed, biology, statistics, just because I was trying to verify the ideas that other people said.

So in that sense my mind is changing all the time.

I just like to talk and think and learn, if I can help out a bit too all the better.

If nothing else, my words per minutes is very good.

#asks #discourse #homophobia

[olderthannetfic]

What I'm getting is that most people get their kinks not from running across actual fetish content (like how a lot of antis like to frame it) but from totally SFW content ranging from the weird to the totally mundane to even just playing pretend as a child. And there's a good debate to be had there about if that stuff causes the kink or merely awakens what was already there or a mixture of both. A better solution would be comprehensive sex ed that includes discussion of kink, not trying to prevent teens and kids from ever getting contaminated by icky kink stuff.

--

Yup.

[thethiefandtheairbender]

exclusionists: you can’t be asexual bc that means ur sexualizing everyone else!! like minors!! they don’t need comprehensive sex ed or have any sexual thoughts, ur just projecting it onto them, you dirty sinner. ur just lying that you’re 16 and ace, or a gross adult trying to force sexuality onto kids, eww! all people who aren’t us are predators! 

terfs: you can’t support teens exploring their gender identity!! ur going to trick young girls into hating their bodies and let grown men into our spaces!! trans adults are just predators!! sex work and porn is also Bad bc uhh trans women do them insert something about q-slur here! i know hating trans ppl seems really extreme but it’s just like how aspec people invade lg+ spaces!! all people who aren’t us are predators! 

antis: you can’t write teenaged characters having loving relationships that include sex, no matter how much you age them up to their 20s or 30s!! they’re frozen at that age silly, teens don’t have any sexual thoughts, ur just projecting it onto them, you dirty sinner. no you can’t hc teenagers or early 20 somethings as asexual either. ur just lying that you’re 16 and ace, or a gross adult trying to force sexuality onto kids, eww! all people who aren’t us are predators! 

me, a trans ace nb who just wants to ship and post my appropriately tagged shit peacefully, and has held my “not an anti” stance since i was 13: 

#dragons gets salty #i am tired #tw acephobia #tw transphobia #anti purity culture #literally 999/1000 antis i have come across are terfs exclusionists or some combination of either #or they're 13 and think being gay is a personality trait #like jc i Wonder what the Commonality is

[keenmarvellover]

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Mental Health

Do you need a Hug?

Maybe you’re having a stressful day. Maybe you just need a deep breath. Maybe you just didn’t realize how stressed you are. You can get your comfort here.

Some stuff to help you sleep

This is definitely not a google drive full of the sleep stuff from the Headspace app, including sleepcasts, music, and wind down meditation, that normally costs 17.99 a month, no siree and you definitely shouldnt share this with people

Anti-Anxiety Tools

Some tools to help you before, during or after an anxiety attack

100 Reasons NOT To Kill Yourself

READ IT. SHARE IT. REBLOG IT. Save a Life.

HOBBIES MASTERPOST!!!!!!!!

A really excellent way to reduce anxiety is to pick up a new hobby. Find something you’re interested in, learn it, then use it as a healthy and productive way to cope.

Health

Some very Important Lists for Rating PAIN, FATIQUE AND MENTAL HEALTH

It is MUST share

PSA Rregarding Hospital bills

Also how to pay hospital bills when you are broke.

How to differentiate between COVID-19, FLU AND COMMON COLD

Anyway, as we enter cold & flu season in the YEAR of corona, this will come in very handy.

Treatment for HIV

VERY IMPORTANT. Please Read and Share.

What does the Color of your Period mean?

A must read for individuals who get periods.

How to differentiate between Period Cramps and Appendicitis

A MUST READ

From a Person who is Hard of Hearing

Types and levels of deafness

General Tips for Vagina Health

Some stuff they don't teach in sex-ed.

Undo the damage of Sitting

Are you always sitting down? Then these are some exercise you should probably try out for better health.

Guide to Proper Bra Fitting

Guide to Proper Bra Fit and Measuring. Please Read and Share.

Washable, Reusable Menstrual Pads

(Part II)

Reusable menstrual hygiene product, and are an alternative to disposable sanitary napkins or to menstrual cups.

Artists

Art Masterpost

How to draw *insert whatever you want, its there in the list*?

Book Binding

Some video links to different types of DIY Bookbinding

For Artists who Need Photoshop

If youre an artist who cant afford photoshop, definitely DO NOT go to this google drive to pirate the program, that would be so bad!!!

Do’s and Don'ts of Designing for Accessibility

Please consider this when designing for ANYTHING. For BUSINESSES and ARTISTS.

Writers

Color Synonyms

For both ARTISTS and WRITERS

How to make a Masterlist

Simple but efficient instructions to make a masterlist

ULTIMATE NOVEL WRITING RESOURCE MASTERLIST

This is an ultimate masterlist of many resources that could be helpful for writers.

List of AUs and Ship Tropes

For when you run out of ideas.

AUs

Ship Tropes

Legal sites to get some much needed Info

If there was only a way to find out all of this rather edgy information without getting yourself in trouble…

Resources for Describing Characters

For writing about physical appearances, character traits, talents,and skills and other related stuff of your characters, here is a comprehensive list.

Resources for Describing Emotions

Having trouble writing jealousy, happiness, motivation. Here you go!!

Some Resources for your Writing

Body Language

Reverse Dictionary

Character Traits

Things to Keep in mind when naming Characters

Valuable advice. Trust me

Words to Use when Writing Smut/Romance

This is for smut/romance writers. Kinda like a thesaurus.

Tips to write Pain

How are you supposed to write about pain you’ve never experienced before?

References for Greek Mythology Characters

Link to an extensive site every single detail of Greek Mythology from Gods to Family Trees.

Tips to write Blind Characters

Some tips that might be invaluable when writing character that are near-blind or blind

Things to Remember when writing a Highly Emotional Scene

Just small things that could make a great difference

How to write with Multiple POVs

Tips on how to write multiple POVs with diverse characters

Synonyms and Antonyms

The person who made this list is a blessing to writers. Just saying.

Good Qualities for Female Characters

Females don't always need to be protected and be weak. Make them more realistic.

Words to Use instead of ‘Said’

Every single situation is listed. Check it out.

Limits of the Human Body

All extremities listed

Readers

Legal Sites to Download Literature

From children’s books to rare books, from philosophy and religion to nonfiction. I guess you can find anything here.

The Rights of the Reader

And some (lots of) bashing of Helicopter Parents.(You want to read only the rights. Here it is)

Wet Book Rescue : Steps to save a Wet Book

Valuable information if some of your prized books were affected by recent flooding. The video even shows you what to do if you can’t dry the book out right away.

Cheatsheet to Navigate AO3

Makes your time on AO3 a little more easier and interesting

How to trick Writers into giving you More Fanfic to read

Works for Comics and Art as well.

Get a Book Suggestion

This book website gives you the first page of a random book without the title or author so that you can read it with no preconceptions

Books written by POC Writers

Only POC authors included in the list.

Students

Basic ASL (American Sign Language) Movements

ASL Hand Movements for beginners.

Tips for studying with ADHD/a>

Made by a person with ADHD themself.

Resources to Learn New Languages

Ten fairly useful general language resources

How to properly take notes

It helps. It really helps.

FREE ONLINE LANGUAGE COURSES

Here is a masterpost of MOOCs (massive open online courses) that are available, archived, or starting soon. I think they will help those that like to learn with a teacher or with videos.

A Thread of Tips

A thread of tips to help High School and College students academically

LEARN THINGS FOR FREE

FREE ONLINE COURSES (here are listed websites that provide huge variety of courses)

Google like a BOSS

Some life hacks which make student's lives easier.

625 words to know in your Target Language

If your learning a new language, these words will help you build a strong foundation.(Some tips and sites are include too)

Miscellaneous/Life Hacks

How to add music to your Blog

How to add your very own, custom homemade playlist to your blog?

How to Walk with Purpose?

Some tips on how to hold yourself in public and why.

Cheatsheet for Laundry Rooms

Saves a lot of money in the Laundry Room

How to Gird up your Loins?

A lesson in how to gird your loins.

How to Disappear Online

Please read and spread for the sake of abuse victims or stalker victims.

What to do during a Nuclear Attack

I hope you never have to use it but here are some guidelines to follow in the event of a nuclear attack

How to pull an All-Nighter.

A to-do list

Write a Thank You letter after your Interview

It leaves a good impression on your interviewer and increase your chances of passing the interview.

Laundry Tags: Meanings

A life hack that you’ll definitely need at some point.

Where to find free Movies and Series Online

Lots of sites. Lots and Lots of sites. I am not Kidding. Now go and chill without netflix. (Part II)

How to get a Refund?

Get your stuff or a refund.

HOW TO DO EVERYTHING FROM SCRATCH

This starts at the most absolute basics of gardening and planting, provides definitions, and hopefully is easily understandable. This is a MUST-READ. (Farming)

Discuss your wages

It’s your right to share your salary, not doing so could be holding you back.

Youtube Tutorials for Basically EVERYTHING

This is a big, giant list of Youtube tutorials that will teach you all the basic life skills you need to know in order to be a functional adult.

Safety

Emergency Evacuation - Items to Gather

A text list of suggested items to acquire in the event of an emergency.

If someone you know is in an abusive relationship

AN ABBREVIATED GUIDE TO ‘Holy shit!!! My friend is in an abusive relationship what do I do’ and what not to do.

Defense Tips for Women

Defense and Safety tips a woman MUST know. (Part II)

An app that informs your Emergency contacts if you are inactive in a set period of time.(Could prevent rape attempts if used correctly)

If a Man gets Physical

How to check if a mirror is one way or two-way

If you are trapped in a smoke-filled apartment: What to Do

How to get out of Hand-binds

How to get out of the bunker of a Car

How to track Anonymous asks.

How to pick a Lock

Traits and Warning signs of an Abuser

What to do if a bigot pulls your Hijab (from behind)

What to do if someone pulls of a Muslim Woman's Hijab? (To do List for both Men and Women)

#safety #health #mental health #writers #readers #micellaneous