#it can get better

[furiousgoldfish]

Abuse is so over-stimulating for the brain, after you've been thru it long term, small stimulation that would usually change someone's mood or at least peak their interest, just doesn't feel like anything. Your brain keeps inventing extreme things like it wants them to happen and it's just because it's so used to overstimulation that it's now craving it in order to give you bits of relief and engagement.

It's just so damn draining to live like that. Having to keep ignoring that craving and worrying you'll give into it or feeling bad for the craving in the first place. Having weird impulses or fantasies and having to keep quiet so people don't get freaked out. And it's literally because of nothing you did. It's just because the aftermath of abuse is hell on earth.

#it can get better #but i never managed to figure some things out #and my brain is still running on wanting overstimulation #but its also possibly because i give it no stimulation whatsoever #that its being like this #aftermath of abuse #aftermath of trauma #long term abuse #overstimulation #recovering from abuse #abuse recovery

[blackplaaague]

If you see this on your dash today, this is a sign to stay alive.

I mean it. You all mean so much to me, and I couldn't bear to live in a world without all my amazing friends.

#ily #reblog #self care #self love #stay alive #your life matters #you matter #no matter who you are #or how you feel #I promise you #it can get better #just stay alive for me ok?

[scrumptiousartisanheart]

It's only the first race, it's only the first race! it's ONLY the first race! IT'S ONLY THE FIRST RACE...

(shattering sounds and screams)

#it can get better #for some reason Ferrari looks more competent #Charles will always drive like a beast #at least the Alfas and Albono got a good result #the Astons are officially a problem #charles leclerc #zhou guanyu #valteri bottas #alex albon #scuderia ferrari #f1 #bahrain gp 2023

[ovidiomedes]

also don't even get me started on makoto trying to reform the remnants of despair bc that action ALONE is all the proof i need of makoto's moral compass.

by all means, the remnants of despair deserve to die. they killed countless people, they drove thousands to suicide and helped plunge the world deeper and deeper into that despair junko craved. i would not have blinked twice if the story had just had them all executed.

but that didnt happen. bc makoto believed they could change. they were given a second chance (albeit against the future foundations wishes) bc makoto believed they could be reformed. and that's the core of makoto naegi.

the ideal of change and hope. that people CAN get better if given the chance. that even the most dreadful and bleakest despair, can change to the brightest hope.

#it can get better #danganronpa #makoto naegi #gonna put makoto naegi meta writer on my resume #makotos ideals are those of and goddamn if i don't love it

[themostleastuseful]

Smile through the tame

Hello again citizens of the unfathomably vast sea of words known as the internet, I am back with another review nobody asked for. This one’s kind of heavy, so reader discretion is advised.

(I tried to be a little less spoilery, not sure how well I did.)

This time, I’m talking about something a little more recent: Smile. While leaps and bounds above the floor-level bar that was I Am The Movie With the Overly Long Name, Smile was ultimately so-so. The premise had promise (heh), but the protagonist Rosie Cotter was unsympathetic and surprisingly stupid for someone with a doctorate in psychology. The plot felt rushed, especially Cotter’s descent into madness. There were some genuinely disturbing scenes, but they don’t feel like quite enough to (spoiler) drive someone to kill themselves in a week. The themes of cyclical trauma felt pretty shallow for a psychological horror, and I left the couch mostly just feeling disappointed.

So Smile is based around a curse or monster (never clarified) that thrives on fear and despair. It hijacks a victim’s senses to produce extremely lifelike hallucinations that often include someone smiling creepily until it breaks their will and forces them to gruesomely kill themselves in front of someone else, who will then go on to suffer the same fate. As a non-psychological horror movie that works perfectly fine. As a psychological horror movie, however, it feels like it way oversimplifies trauma.

 Trauma is complicated, and it changes both the way we view the world and how we interact with others. It manifests in different ways, PTSD and depression being common but not the only possible symptoms. All traumatized people do not commit or attempt suicide, nor are all people traumatized by the same things. In the movie we see a chain of deaths in a linear order, but real suicides hurt a lot more than just one person. They hurt witnesses, yes, but they also hurt loved ones, friends, neighbors, even fellow sufferers of trauma who wonder “If he couldn’t take it, what hope do I have?” It’s not unbeatable, though. Therapy and medication can help, as can just talking to someone. Rosie Cotter doesn’t do any of that despite being a therapist herself, which is a bit infuriating, but I think it holds some hidden potential.

By itself, I think Smile sends a bad message about the hopelessness of mental illness. No matter what, the situation could only end badly. If they were to make a sequel, though, there could be a fix. Have a new protagonist become afflicted with the curse, but instead of denying it for half the movie, have them acknowledge it but try to solve it on their own. When that fails, have them discover that telling people about the hallucinations in detail reduces their severity. They struggle with the idea that they are burdening others with their own private suffering, but eventually realize that being cursed/mentally ill is not their fault. Everyone has burdens to bear, but there are people willing to share the weight if one simply asks. The movie ends with them in a mental hospital still seeing things but refusing to give in and ruin someone else’s life. It will never go away entirely, but with enough hard work, the protagonist may be able to live a somewhat normal life.

#spoilers #horror #smile #horror movies #movie review #suicide #it can get better

[bunnyseahorse-blog]

I was today years old when I...

realized that my anger comes from a nervous place, and not an angry place. I learned in DBT that anger is usually a secondary emotion. People don’t generally feel angry as a primary emotion unless they are ready to fight for their lives, or have truly been wronged. I am angry a lot... and tonight my argument turned into a huge panic attack. Like a full body shaking thing where i almost threw up, and my mom had to come talk me down, and I had to take my emergency meds. I didn’t see it coming, i thought I was mad, and I was, but the anxiety in the mix was a really big surprise.

I know now that I am not an angry person. i am a person who happens to be an incredibly anxious person who uses anger as an ineffective coping skill. 

Something about realizing this was freeing. Now I can work on my anxiety more. maybe that is a more direct way of handling things. Prevent anger instead of shaming myself for it. Maybe this is an angle that I can work more easily

#Personal post #anger management #anxiety #tw anxiety attack #mental health #positivity #it can get better

[p0ssywhippedcream]

honestly tbh you should leave him he's kind like, mistreating you ._.

like not even I would do the shit that he does to my beloved, especially w/ the tumblr thing, like I found their tumblr and left it (oh my God respecting privacy 😳)

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i always imagined myself leaving if i was ever in a relationship that hurt me constantly but now i know exactly how hard it is to, i realize why my mom put up with those guys and i realize why i keep putting up with people who hurt me. because i still remember times when they weren’t hurting me and i think it’s going to change. i’m not saying he’s toxic but he just takes jokes too far sometimes and he doesn’t know how to compliment or communicate. it is his first relationship. i just wish he listened to me more.

#oph.thoughts #n anon #oph.pain #oph.stupidity #i’m totally being an idiot rn #i can see that clearly #but still #it can get better #oph.bf.rants #oph.bf

[andhumanslovedstories]

#hey look at me. we’re not gonna get better at budgeting or going to the gym. #we can do a one time burst of joyful bullshit

[corviiids]

my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog

#rookposting #the little 'oh!' followed by a big grin is now my highlight in every interaction i have with a stranger #you can always spot the things people hope will be noticed and you have no idea how happy it makes people when it gets noticed #i find it's always better to compliment things they did deliberately vs complimenting stuff like their voice or their face or other things #that are inherent or they cant change because that can make people uncomfortable for one thing to hear that from a stranger #but it's also just less meaningful imo because they didnt do that on purpose

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[lgbtlunaverse]

Nothing will dispell the "the curtains were just blue" myth faster than writing something yourself, because the amount of pretentious symbolism i am putting in my silly little fanfics is ridiculous. I mean SO much with these words, literally every single one of them. This fic has twenty five typos and zero correct uses of punctuation but if there's curtains you bet your ass I put thought into what colour they were.

#writing #fic writing #like this is stuff i'm doing for fun with my perfectionism meter turned down as far as i can get it #and i am still thinking about it A LOT #talk to me about how in red string fic jgy perceives the memory block both as syrup and as mud but nmj thinks it feels like blood #it's just a thing in their heads that mentally feels kind of thick and sticky but they both made something different of it #it's about issues with cleanliness / lies as a way to craft an illusion of a better lopking world vs the constant violence nmj lives in

[tee-dohrnii]

Based off of this post

#gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 gale #bg3 tav #gale x tav #galetav #stormweave #baldur's gate fanart #bg3 fanart #they're my sillies #i'm too obsessed with them actually #just doodling on my phone when i can #i got ibispaint just to make better doodles of them #this is getting ridiculous

[sincerelynotserious]

When you get what you’ve been meaning to get done done and then you eat good food

#it can get better

[bloodandichorandmemes]

I thought I knew what bad depression felt like and how to get out of it but I was so wrong. I apologize to anyone I said wasn't trying, and for not always understanding. It feels like every bit of emotion and drive and humanity was sucked out of me leaving me to limp forward. It's finally lifting (thanks to my friends, medicine, my pets, my family) but it was so rough to just ...rot without knowing how to get up. But I'm slowly returning to myself and if anyone relates it can definitely get better.

#depression #recovery #putting it on my main because if anyone else feels this way #it can get better

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them! #i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all.. #...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in... #...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air... #...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life... #...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with... #...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it... #...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

[heritageposts]

large zionist blocklist below

i've compiled a list of all the blogs positively interacting with the @/israel-palestine-bingo blog

there's more info about how the names were complied under the read more, but just to get an idea of how vile the blog is, i just want to quickly mention that the first prize offered in their pinned post, "eight hours of memi mamtera," is the song used in the viral israeli tiktok trend of kidnapping, humiliating, and torturing palestinians in the west bank.

and the "grand prize," which needs no explanation, is "all of palestine! for free!"

some quick info: all the names here have either approvingly replied to, reblogged from, or liked one or more of @/israel-palestine-bingo's posts. for likes, i've only gathered names that appear under their original posts; mostly ones that have not been reblogged, and some with 2-3 reblogs that have not left the immediate sphere of zionists. i've also made sure that these are blogs who have either liked more than one posts from them, or who frequently reblogs from other zionists.

you can also quickly look through the blog yourself (it doesn't have that many posts), or check out any of the names on the list with a quick 'israel' or 'palestine' in the search bar or their blogs.

there are more screenshots at the end of the posts, including ones showing who made the blog (ani-lo-daredevil / katenotbishop), and the bingo board itself (ashenpumpkin).

blocking tip: fastest way to mass block users (on desktop) is to go to settings -> the blog your blocking them from -> scroll all the way down to 'blocked tumblrs,' and then copy-paste the name your blocking

names listed below in alphabetical order reminder again, block don't engage

2peachy acleverforgery ani-lo-daredevil apollo-enthusiast ashenpumpkin <- credited for making the bingo board, reblogged/liked almost all of their posts. aureatecorvid avi-on-jumblr (main @/clear-what-i-was-seeing) awstheticshit bambahalva bleepiesheepie bluenorther blueredfetch bones-and-crows britneysmeanshirt cannibalism-is-my-love-language captain-navii casavanse celepito chubbybubba ciitrus--fruitz coffeelovinggayidiot da-socks davos-is-the-one-true-king dchan87 disregardenedgnostic elder-millennial-of-zion faggotry-enjoyer fdelopera flowercrownsandfairylights fluffel677 fluffy-art-moss george-lucas-is-god got-chavi icereader12 illegitimatetenenbaum inklingm8 its-hila jewishlivesmatter just-illegal karinhasdacookie

katenotbishop <- the main account of the person running the blog. her sideblog is @/ani-lo-daredevil

kelluinox kingofslush letaot-ze-magniv lingonberryjamistakenwhat lovelyhairedpianist magic-coffee marrymepadfoot marvel-ous-posts masters-puddle <- pornblog mixmangosmangoverse morganas-simp mossadspydolphin multifandermissesanakin nameless370 namiko026 nevleg32 notcrazyiswear oakstar519 perfectlynormalperson psychologeek queerius randomname3 redvodyanoi rhysaka sally006 sbinklebooper scp-1296 shinekocreator <- commented, 'but is this the 8 hour version?' on a post where someone ''won'' the song used in the tiktok torture videos. snakelung sort-of-a-demon soxiyy stuffandatherstuff tearsandice tedious-waffle thebejeweledwatercat the-library-alcove thirdmagic thisgingerhasnosoul timegirl tolaat-bli-toelet <- the person running the bingo blog. mainblog is @/katenotbishop transmascpetewentz tribulation-of-somnolence unexistencerpg viktorrotkiv wanderingmadscientist whiterose-blackrose whitesunlars why5x5

note: @/tolaat-bli-toelet changed her username to @/ani-lo-daredevil (her main is still @/katenotbishop)

and from the same post,

the last post was also reblogged by the creator of the israel-palestine-bingo blog

#zionist blocklist #block don't engage #after looking through the blog i began recognizing so many names from it among the liberal crypto-zionist crowd #which is part of why i decided to make this list to begin with #and again - if you're worried about the way i've compiled the names you can look through the blog yourself #it doesn't have that many posts and you'll get a better sense of why i'm singling out this blog and the people who interact with it #their latest bingo post rn is one where they've attached their meme game to a news article about that school-room massacre #where civilians were - including young children - were shot and murdered at point-blank by IOF soliders