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raichukfm · 4 years

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To a confused anon: I’m here to offer my assistance, as best I can. As a fair warning, I have a bad habit of shoving my foot right in my mouth and coming off as an ass, but I promise that’s not what’s intended here. Also, I spent a lot of words on all this. If you don’t want to read a lot of words, scroll down past the break a bit and read the bolded bit, because that’s the most important part, I think. Also, anybody seeing this because they’re following me, this is here to show somebody else, so you can read it if you want but keep that in mind I guess.

Step one, as I am a real trans woman who happens to be gay, I can speak pretty authoritatively that this is gay. Because I’m a woman, and I like women. So it’s gay when I like cis women, and equally as gay as when I like trans women. If I hypothetically liked a cis man or a trans man, that wouldn’t be gay, and also I’d find out I was bi I suppose. If I liked someone that wasn’t a man or a woman I’m not really sure what word I’d use for that, but that’s not really the point. Sexuality, sexual orientation, and sexuality are complicated things. But, generally, what you are attracted to is someone’s gender. You may also be attracted to their sex, or you might not. It’s possible to be attracted to someone’s sex and not their gender. It’s possible to be attracted to someone because of an incorrect perception of their gender. It can be messy; real life is messy. Generally, people will define their own sexual identity in regards to their gender, because that’s what most people care more about in their identity. Usually, that aligns with sex, which is pretty cool, but when it doesn’t for someone, the person generally thinks of themselves as that gender that they are. That’s... kinda the point. So, if you were exclusively attracted to women, you would think yourself straight if you’re a man, and lesbian if you’re a woman, regardless of if you were cis or trans. Similarly, most people are attracted to gender; specifically, gender presentation. It’s by definition more visible than gender identity or sex, and also coincides with both, most of the time, though it can coincide with only one or neither, in other cases. You sort of have to learn or infer those. However, people don’t only care about gender presentation. (Okay, some people probably do.) Which has two major components: 1. People almost always care about a potential partner’s gender identity. It’s just a basic interpersonal thing, even if it doesn’t impact one’s preferences. And if there is a preference, it’s not necessarily a dealbreaker, but... If you like men, then finding out someone you find attractive is actually a woman would probably tamp that down a bit. For one, they are likely (although not necessarily) going to adapt their presentation to be less masculine in the future, but even beyond that... They’re a woman. That in itself can put you off. It’s also possible for that to interface with romantic attraction more than sexual attraction. And that’s okay. A good thing to keep in mind is that your feelings are just feelings. It’s possible for them to go against your self-concept, or have unfortunate implications. Feelings aren’t conscious beliefs. So if you’re attracted to someone for their sex, but aren’t attracted to their gender identity, that’s just an awkward coincidence. No more, no less. Don’t let it get to you, and don’t be a creep or jerk about it. If someone’s gender identity changes, or they come out to you as a different identity than you had previously thought, and that’s not congruent with your sexual or romantic orientation, that’s okay. It can definitely be worthwhile to stick together and see if it works out, because it genuinely might. But it’s also entirely legitimate to split up because of it. The thing is, if this was someone who you cared about, that shouldn’t go away even if your attraction does, so be kind and supportive. They might need distance, or you might, I’m no relationship expert, but do your best to help both of you through something like that. 2. People often care about a potential partner’s sex. This is not a controversy-free take, but it is entirely legitimate to be attracted or not attracted to a sex regardless of gender. That’s fine. Feelings are feelings. There is however, as in all things, an onus not to be a jackass about it. If you are attracted to cis women, but not attracted to trans women, just treat them decently, and turn them down nicely when you must. If you’re attracted to cis men, but not attracted to trans men, just treat them decently and turn them down nicely when you must. If you have a strong preference for or against a certain kind of genitalia or other sexual characteristic, that’s legitimate. But if you’re together with someone and then find out they’re not what you’re attracted to in some respect, you still have to be a good person about it. You don’t owe anybody affection, romance, or sex, but you have to be decent. That goes for physical features the same way it goes for habits, beliefs, anything else. I think what leaf brought up with the fetishizing thing is that a lot of the time the people who (loudly) care about a trans person’s sex treat this as, well, a fetish. And while I think it’s fine to fetishize whatever, a lot of the time that fetishization of a concept involves treating real, actual people shittily, reducing them to objects or . It’s not an inherent quality to caring about someone’s sex I use “care about” a bit broadly there, such that it doesn’t necessarily mean “have a preference about”, because some people genuinely don’t have preferences about gender identity, or about sex, or about either, but still wouldn’t really disregard those. This is maybe muddying the water a tad, but oh well. This is mostly focused on binary gender identities, because the whole straight/gay etc. terminology is mostly focused on those, but the general principles also include nonbinary people. I’d elaborate, but I think it’s pretty straightforward how they fit in. The short of it: If you’re attracted to someone, whether that attraction would be classified as “straight” or “gay” is most respectfully contingent on your respective gender identities. It may be useful to understand your own sexual attraction as contingent on the other person’s gender presentation or sex instead, when it’s not congruent with their gender identity, but I’d stress that’s only for understanding your own feelings. Whatever horny part of your brain might not get the relevant nuance, but you’re a whole intellect, so you don’t get that excuse. If you’re romantically/sexually attracted to somebody you intellectually wouldn’t consider a romantic/sexual partner, that doesn’t invalidate your orientation, but it doesn’t invalidate their identity, either. That’s a bit long for something I’m calling “the short of it” but brevity has never been among my skills. As for another point that apparently came up in asks, about the very nature of gender identity as a thing, I’m going to do my best to crack that nut. I think there is a very simple case to be made: Gender identities exist. If you ask someone, there’s a likely chance they’ll feel pretty strongly that they have one. They might tell you they’re a man, or a woman, or something else. People who don’t believe they have a gender will probably feel fairly strongly that they don’t have one. Even people who don’t believe in transgender or nonbinary people almost always believe in this, even if they want to call it something else. Your gender identity is the gender, if any, that you identify as. We’re just defining the term as that. It turns out, people generally tend to identify with genders (or at least sexes), so we have a term that refers to an idea and correlates with observed reality, so... We have a real thing! Score! I belabored the point a bit, but that’s just the thing. The argument against transgender or nonbinary people tends to be that gender identity isn’t a real thing, that it’s denying reality, or that it’s . But... You can verify it exists. It has to. And it doesn’t obey any restriction to only being two genders, because you can see a sizeable amount of people whose stated identities don’t obey that restriction. I mean, you can disbelieve this, you can think essentially everyone is lying, but that’s a bit of a reality denial position. So the question isn’t “Does gender identity exist?”, because that question has an answer you can’t actually reasonably deny. The question is “Does gender identity matter?” and, um... Again, I’ll invoke the argument that most people care about it. Cisgender people usually care about their gender identity, including those that think it inextricably linked to their sex. Transgender people certainly care about it. What grounds is there to think it doesn’t matter? The arguments I see all tend to rest on this assumption that this is a made up thing, but... It’s not, as earlier stated. It’s based on thinking gender identity must necessarily align with sex, but; you have to just arbitrarily assume that; there’s no justification for this other than it appears to be obviously true to some people. But “It’s obvious, duh” isn’t really an argument. “It’s basic biology” also isn’t an argument. Sex is a fairly basic biological idea, although it’s itself considerably more complicated than just XX chromosomes = biologically female and XY chromosomes = biologically male. But gender identity is a thing to do with your mind. Ergo, it’s your brain, and as it happens, that’s considerably more advanced biology. There’s no obvious reason why a mental self-conception should necessarily correlate with biological sex, and the observable evidence doesn’t point to such a necessary correlation, since transgender and nonbinary people exist. Given that gender identity exists and people care about it, I think there’s a pretty clear case to make that you should respect other people’s gender identities: They want you to. It’s kind. It’s at best rude not to do it, and being rude is one of those things generally agreed to be bad. It’s a whole archetypical way for things to be considered bad, in fact. Any argument in good faith based on psychology will pretty easily come to the conclusion that it should be respected, because that’s the field consensus. The studies show it helps people deal with gender dysphoria to be treated as the gender they identify as. All the anecdotal evidence in the world is there to show you people overwhelming prefer to be treated as the gender they identify as. And the utilitarian counterarguments are... that it poses logistical issues? That’s okay, those can be addressed. That it makes some people uncomfortable or annoyed? It’ll probably be easier for them to get over that and adjust to the way things are. That accepting it will lead to some disastrous consequences? Well that’s... I mean it’s already largely accepted. Last I heard, there hasn’t been any disastrous wave of disastrous consequences here to foreshadow the coming storm. So, to put this aside, if you don’t understand gender identity: That’s okay. It’s messy, but relatively simple. People feel like they are a certain gender, and want to be accepted and treated as that gender. (Or feel they have no gender and want to be accepted and treated accordingly.) That’s the same for cis and trans people. Whether or not that gender correlates to any physical or biological feature in them isn’t really the point of it, because it’s a mental thing. No physical part of you directly correlates to what your name is, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t important to you, for instance. (And, as a last note, if you’ve seen a statistic that the rate of suicide attempts don’t fall after one transitions, it’s being grossly misrepresented. Every time I have seen that with its actual source given, if you follow said source, you find the statistic is from a question being asked about whether the person ever attempted suicide in their life. So, someone who was suicidal pre-transition who lost those suicidal tendencies after transitioning would still answer “yes”, and thus be marked down as such and post-transition. Therefore, the fact that the percentage was roughly the same for pre- and post-transition people says exactly jack shit about the effectiveness or lackthereof of transitioning for suicidal ideation. Every other piece of evidence I’ve seen points to transitioning, and more generally affirming someone’s gender, helps with the negative effects of gender dysphoria. Of course, don’t listen to me. Look it up. But I implore you, basically never trust someone’s summary of the research, at least not totally; the media all too often sucks at summarizing science, and average people are often worse, and that’s without an ideological axe to grind. Find the source if you can. You don’t necessarily have to read the whole thing, but check the abstract or such. As an example, I had a college textbook claim that “Women use their whole brain during conversations, while men use only half”, with a citation to an I think Wired article that restated a BBC website article that incredibly poorly reported on a paper that was actually about putting people in MRI machines listen to books on tape. Women had more activity across both hemispheres of the brain while men had activity more centered around one. It was about strokes and how signals travel across the brain, not communication. Professionals can cock stuff up bad. I’m not saying “Don’t trust the news” or “Don’t trust anybody”, but it doesn’t hurt to check into things as much as you can, and that goes doubly so for research and science.)

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wedontcareaboutyourbinary · 7 years

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hey so this is kinda complicated for me... but i dont feel like im male or female, agender, or anywhere on the spectrum and i feel like a whole other gender entirely! I go as transmasc w he/him pronouns thou bcus i find thats what it feels closest to. I dont want to use 'third gender' either bcus ik thats a cultural thing (im white) and i wouldnt want to appropriate at all, but there doesnt seem to be any other word for it. Im tempted to make my own term but i know nobody will use/understand it

There are a few things that could work for you!

Proxvir is a gender related to masculinity, but is something separate and entirely on its own.

Maverique is a gender characterized by autonomy and inner conviction** regarding a sense of self that is entirely independent of male/masculinity, female/femininity or anything which derives from the two while still being neither without gender nor of a neutral gender.

Neutrosis is a gender identity that feels neutral, null, or genderless. Sometimes used interchangeably with agender, as the two definitions overlap.

Abinary is a term for anyone whose gender is completely unrelated to the gender binary (such as agender, quoigender, maverique or most xenogenders).

Altegender (Pronounced “alt-eh-gender”) is derived from shortening the phrase “alternate existence.” It is a xenogender that feels as though it’s in a parallel dimension, on a different plane, in a mirror universe, or just in an alternate existence.

Anonbinary is a gender that definitely isn’t binary, but is still even outside of nonbinary. Hence using the ‘a’ like in agender.

Anongender is a gender that is unknown to both yourself and others.

Apogender is a gender identity in which one feels not only genderless, but separate from the entire concept of gender.

Aporagender is a gender separate from man/boy, woman/girl, and anything in between while still having a gendered feeling.

Arigender is a complicated gender identity that you cannot explain or is very hard to explain. A gender that does not fit under any labels. An unfathomable gender.

Pomogender is short for “postmodern”, a way for a person to say that they believe the current vocabulary is not quite complex enough (or diverse enough) to accurately describe their own sense of gender identity.

Ectogender is a gender identity that is elusive, constantly out of one's grasp, and/or hard to pin down.

Epicene is an adjective (sometimes substantive) that indicates a lack of gender distinction. The Order of the Epicene website includes a definition of epicene that they credit to the Oxford English Dictionary; ‘that which exhibits characteristics of both (binary) genders, yet is neither’. In linguistics, the adjective “epicene” is used to describe a word that has only one form for both male and female referents. Epicene may also be a non-binary gender identity.

Exgender or Egender is a genderless feeling that is stronger than agender. It is a refusal of the concept of gender, and of any gendered identity.

Existgender is a gender that simply exists.

Gender- or Gender(minus) is a gender which can only be closely described by a certain gender descriptor but doesn't quite fit every aspect of that label. Example: Xe identifies as maverique more than any other gender, but xe does not feel entirely independent of masculinity/femininity, and therefore isn't quite maverique. Xe is maverique-.

Gendereaux is a feeling of being detached from the concept of gender, but simultaneously identifying with or encompassing many nonbinary experiences or identities.

Genderlike is a gender identity that feels similar to, but not precisely, another gender. Can be combined with relevant genders.

Gendernull/Nullgender is being without gender, but it is not agender or neutrois, a term for those to give a “tangibility” to the intangible thing that is their gender. Described by a nullgender individual as thus:"Undefinable, intangible, the uncreation of gender. It's taking everything everyone throws at you, saying male, female, pick one, pick this, pick that, and taking it in, only to expel it, poisonous crystals erupting from your skin, armor against those who don't listen. A 'I don't want a label because labels don't fit but they help shut people up sometimes, so here have a label' gender label. A fall-back plan, a red herring to give people who can't conceptualize the absence, void, nullification of gender. It is, and is not. All and none. Nonexistant but present."

Genderunique is a gender that cannot be described by existing terms, it is very unique and personal. It is more up to interpretation by the individual that identifies with it than anyone else.

Gendervacuous or Vacugender is from the word “vacuum,” to describe the feeling of existing in a space without gender. Similar to egender and quoigender, but not quite the same. The feeling that gender as a concept does not apply to you, or does not fully apply to you. Someone who is vacugender can present in any way that person chooses, and may be okay with being viewed as any gender.

Genderweird is a term used to describe those whose gender cannot be described by any existing label, or cannot be pinned down as such.

Homproche ("om–PROESH"): Near or Approaching Male,” From French homme ‘man’ and proche ‘near.’ A gender expression that is Masculine, despite a gender identity that is not. An identity where one’s gender expression is an integral part of one’s queer experience.Can also be used, in some cases, as a synonym for Proxvir: A gender that is close to or resembles Male but is separate from it. This gender is not inherently Male-Aligned / Solarian, an Homproche can have any alignment.

Ilyagender: Having a tangible presence of gender, one which is not man, woman, neutral, or agender in any way, nor between or a combination or derivation. related: aliagender, aporagender, maverique.

Ningender: Umbrella term for all genders neutral in nature. Not synonymous with nb, because, for example, juxera is nonbinary but it is feminine in nature, not neutral. May simply be used as "nin", ie. "my gender is nin".

Nonpuer/Nonvir: Someone who is not male at all in any way, shape, or form, but feels a strong connection to masculinity within their gender. Nonpuer is the young form and Nonvir is the older form, as, similarly to the term "enby", many find "boy" (puer means boy in Latin) infantilizing.

Novigender: A gender experience too hard to read/process/understand or too complex to pin down to one word.

Preterbinary: Beyond the the gender binary/spectrum of male and female.

Transneutral:A term used to describe transgender people who were assigned male or female at birth, but identify with neutral gendered feelings to a greater extent than with femininity or masculinity. They usually are nonbinary but could be trans men or trans women.

Vexegender/Vexgender: When one’s gender is in the non-binary/agender spectrum, but pinpointing it beyond that is impossible because the individual does not understand the concept of gender.Not to be confused with Gendervex.

Xenogender: A nonbinary gender identity that cannot be contained by human understandings of gender; more concerned with crafting other methods of gender categorization and hierarchy such as those relating to animals, plants, or other creatures/things. It’s mainly an umbrella term for genders with themes such as nouns, archetypes, synesthetic experiences, neurodivergences.

All of the above definitions were taken from here and here unless otherwise noted. If none of these feel right I would recommend checking those links as well! They’ve got a ton of stuff.

#identities #terminology #asks #mod oliver #Anonymous

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rotationalsymmetry · 4 years

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One of the really important things to remember about being transgender* and gender non-conformity is they are not in opposition to each other. Some women prefer a more masculine presentation, while still being women -- and that includes trans women. Some women prefer a masculine presentation but feel pressured into more femininity than they want -- and that includes trans women. Some trans women do want to present femininely, but don’t have the stuff for that or don’t like the way it looks on their body or they can’t find women’s shoes that fit their feet or are concerned about harassment and/or violence, and that doesn’t invalidate their gender. Some men like presenting in a more feminine way, and do; some like presenting in a more feminine way, but feel pressured not to. And that includes trans men. And some trans men don’t have the stuff to convincingly present masculine, or don’t like the way it looks on their body, etc and so forth. And nonbinary people can be pretty much anywhere in terms of preferred and/or actual presentation, what their bodies look like, what clothes they can find that fit their bodies, how they navigate moving through a world where most people expect you to be clearly male or clearly female, etc. Which means a couple things: that what someone “looks like” is never more relevant than their stated identity, but also that it’s not some competition where either transness or gender non-conformity can win but they can’t both coexist. The more welcoming the world is to trans people, the more welcoming it is to gnc people as well. I think sometimes even well-intentioned people get a bit confused by this. And certainly people who aren’t well-intentioned will use the supposed conflict against trans people (”what’s wrong with just being a tomboy?”) So, it’s important to push back against that. People who identify as a gender other than the one that was written on their birth certificate, and people who do identify as that gender but dress, act, etc in ways that aren’t typical of that gender, are natural allies. *I mean, transgender is often understood as an umbrella term that includes gnc people. But I think in practice, usually people don’t mean it that way? So here I’m using it in the somewhat narrower sense of “people who’s gender identity is different from their assigned gender at birth,” including but not limited to people who have undergone some form of medical transition or want to.

#lgbtq+#discourse #trans #transgender #gnc #gender nonconforming #gender binary #off the gender binary #you know sometimes it's not really about labels so much as it is giving a big fuck you to the labels #so sometimes it's kind of nice to just go well I'm something and not get too attached to what exactly that thing that you are actually is #cw transphobia

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ask-pride-color-schemes · 7 years

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I think I'm a trans boy but I don't really identify with masculinity or boyhood particularly? I feel like almost the opposite of Proxvir? Like instead of being a masculine person close to being a boy but being on a different plane of masculinity, I feel like a boy who's gender isn't connected masculinity at all? Like a genderless boy. I think I only present masculinely because of dysphoria. If I was dmab I'd probably be more fluid with my gender presentation... Anyway, is there a word for this?

I’m not sure if I understand what you mean, because even if you can be a boy and not be masculine at all, I’m not sure if I get being a boy but not identifying with boyhood. But hey, let’s see what we’ve got.

Agender boy: “Agender individuals find that they have no gender identity, however, an agender girl/boy has some connection to girlhood/femininity or boyhood/masculinity. Other people might feel comfortable with feminine/masculine pronouns and a feminine/masculine presentation, and therefore call themselves a girl/boy because of that association and because calling themselves a girl/boy helps express that association, but they're still agender.”

Nonbinary Boy: “Nonbinary means not a binary gender. a Nonbinary person might call themselves a boy because they might feel associated with that gender, but be, for instance, a demiboy, which is a non binary gender. Other people might feel comfortable with masculine pronouns and a masculine presentation, and therefore call themselves a boy because of that association and because calling themselves a boy helps express that association, but they may still have a nonbinary identity like agender. Both these people might therefore be a non binary boy. These are just examples, but there are reasons someone might call themselves a non binary boy/girl.“

Xoy: ‘Someone who identifies in some way as a nonbinary boy or nonbinary boy-adjacent. Someone who identifies with some part of man/boyhood but who wants a more nonbinary and neutral sounding word because they aren’t entirely boys or don't want to be associated with the typical ideas brought up by the word “boy”.’

Transneutral: A term used to describe transgender people who were assigned male or female at birth, but identify with neutral gendered feelings to a greater extent than with femininity or masculinity. They usually are nonbinary but could be trans men or trans women.

Schrodigender/Schrodingender: "A gender which you can both feel and not feel."Or: "A single gender that exists as if it were many genders at once."

Altegender: “Derived from shortening the phrase “alternate existence.” It is a xenogender that feels as though it’s in a parallel dimension, on a different plane, in a mirror universe, or just in an alternate existence.“ It can be used as altexoy, alteboy, alteproxvir, etc.

Paragender: “A gender identity that is close to, but not exactly, a gender. For instance, someone who is a paraboy may feel that their gender is near to, but not quite male/masculine.”

Offgender: “A gender that closely represents/is most closely represented by another gender, but is not that gender. Can be likened to what the color off-white is to white for descriptive purposes. Similar in definition to paragender."

Contragender: “Someone who deeply defies and identifies opposite or against everything or most things that they associate with their assigned gender.Can be combined with relevant genders. For use by trans people only.“

Antigender or Ungender: “A gender identity that can only be understood as the opposite of another gender – for example, an antiboy would be the opposite of male.”Suggestion: You could be the opposite of nonpuer/nonvir, which is a gender defined by being masculine but not male at all. Keep in mind “antimasculine” doesn’t necessarily is a feminine gender, and “antigirl” is not necessarily a boy-like gender.

Also, I feel like I should point out that, while our definitions include masculinity for some reason (they were probably copied from somewhere else), the original definition of proxvir is not necessarily related to masculinity:

Proxvir– a gender relative to male, but is something separate and entirely on it’s own. it is not outside the gender spectrum. [prox from “proximus”, latin adjective for near, “vir” from masculine latin noun] (source)

Hope that helped!

~ Tath

#agender boy #boyprox #nonbinary boy #xoy #schrodigender #altegender #paragender #offgender #contragender #antigender #ungender #proxvir #Tath #Anonymous

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segadores-y-soldados · 7 years

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Dear segadores-y-soldados, I'm a young adult that is trying to be more socially conscious and respectful of LGBTIQA, and I get most info primarily from the web and similarly conscientious PDHPE teachers. However, I've been stumped on the idea of gender as a concept; if gender isn't determined by gentalia, or performance actions ( e.g. wearing dresses isn't = female), what is it? As a transman, how do you personally define gender? Feel free not to answer if you feel its intrusive in any way.

I forgot that I put that question thing on the queue, haha.

This is a very interesting question.

The simple answer is that I perceive gender as a gradient spectrum, or even a “grid” - at the ends we have non-visible “segments” that are different for every single person that define the boundaries of a person’s internal beliefs on “masculinity” and “femininity.” Because it is a spectrum, these boundaries are often ill-defined, even internally, and where a person “places” themselves on a spectrum is up to them, and up to their internal sense of self and identity.

I put it like this because I have often moved my own “internal boundaries,” considering myself nonbinary for several years before I recognized that I fell within my own internal category of “masculine” instead.But even then I worry that is too restrictive. Maybe gender is less like a linear spectrum and more like a circular one that wraps back to itself. Maybe it’s even more like a sphere - somehow both large and “all-encompassing” and yet because we are positioned somewhere inside it, we can’t actually see everything about it.

And there’s something to be said about the concept of gender being “fluid” instead of being a line or a solid shape. That gender “fills to fit a mold,” so to speak - and intersectionality is hugely important. The crucibles of our experiences that come to shape us are all different - cross-sections between gender, ethnicity, cultural heritages, economic class, physical and mental health, job history, your “relevant skills,” your personal interests, even whatever we might consider some sort of “personality core.”

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Full-disclosure: I come from a background of a combined Materialism (historical materialism) and Performance Theory. Materialism describes that you are affected by the world around you - no person is born in a social, political, or economic vacuum. You are born into a position that already has history attached to it - your family, your parents, your living situation, your actual physical location in the world - and from the moment you are…well, I guess, conceived, this history will be engrained in you before you ever have the ability to decide things for yourself.

You are a product of a history you inherited without you ever getting a say in the matter.

It sucks.

I’m not saying it doesn’t. Life is not fair. There is literally nothing but sheer luck separating me from someone who may have almost exactly the same circumstances as me, except maybe we differ in eye color. Or hair color. Or my parents buy one book and their parents buy a different book. Your physical world will shape you, and this is why extending better social supports to everyone of all backgrounds and circumstances is so important. We will never be exactly the same and that is not the point. The point is that we should all have the same opportunities presented to us regardless of our spectrum of minute (or large) differences that we inherit (physical, mental, emotional, social, political, economic, personal, etc).

In my personal experience - mine and mine alone, I do not speak for any other trans or non-binary individuals - I’ve found that being transgender (or non-binary, back when I considered myself like that) is that you often find yourself at internal odds with the external history and life “product” you are given as you grow up. When you start getting a mental, emotional, and social grasp on your internal consciousness and your external appearance, you begin to feel…funny. You don’t know how, but you’re suddenly 12 or 13 and you don’t fully remember how you got to this point, but wearing dresses makes you feel…uncomfortable. You don’t really know why. You look back and try to find a point where this feeling started. You cannot fully pin it down. When did your internal, personal story begin to be at odds with the external physicality you’re engaging with?

And it’s not like your realization about being uncomfortable with certain clothes suddenly makes you “less of a girl.” There are other girls around you who don’t wear dresses. Dresses make them uncomfortable too! But when you start asking about other questions, their answers don’t perfectly align with yours. You’re like 15 or 16. You’re confused. If no one particular “femininity” is the same, then what defines it at all? And “masculinity?” You are internally drawn to intangible things about masculinity. It’s not the stuff that people who stereotype transgender individuals think: you don’t sit there and make a laundry list of “the manly things I like” and the “womanly things I dislike.” You are drawn to…how the boys around you act. Their “style.” Their ability to talk a certain way.

Their performances of themselves, or rather, apsects of themselves.

But even then, that’s just one set of cross-sections in the “liquid matrix” of your internal, personal story. A ciswoman can engage in performance styles that are “traditionally masculine” (by Western standards) and still be…well, a woman. A ciswoman can present herself in any way she wants to, and she completely has that right. Remember, the point isn’t to make us all fit into neat boxes, but to engage in ourselves and each other reflexively. We are liquid, fluid, freeform existences that are given slightly different molded shapes from the histories we inherit, and these shapes can be changed or restructured with our different, lived experiences.

So you start asking yourself why certain points for you are different from the friends you have. I have literally asked cisgender female friends if they are comfortable with being considered “a woman,” and when their answers - regardless of all their other cross-sections of personal identity - were “yes” without hesistation, I knew, personally, that I needed to ask myself why my answer was different. Why did it make me uncomfortable? If I wasn’t “okay” with being “a woman,” then what was I okay with?

…Again, full disclosure, one of the most difficult, excruciating questions I had to ask myself was if I was a misogynist. It physically pained me to think that I might hate women, girls, and femininity on an irrational level, but it was a discussion I had to have with myself. But I am glad I did it, because it forced me to understand that I DO like certain aspects of “feminine performances” (aka things Western culture considers “feminine”). I loved, and still love, many things that are considered “feminine” - high heels, jewelry, flowers, pop music, etc. I loved - and still love - many of the women who have been strong, inspiring presences in my life. My mother, grandmothers, sister, and several friends in particular will be lifelong role models to me. And whether I like it or not, my actual physical existence will inevitably be tied to how women and girls are treated in my country. Even though I will eventually need a separate, specialized care, my rights to healthcare are permanently tied to how women, girls, and feminine individuals (including transwomen and non-binary feminine individuals) are treated in this country. And that goes for all of us - men, boys, and masculine individuals too.

What I came to realize is that I was deeply and personally uncomfortable with apsects of myself that (I thought) I had no control over - cross-sections of my existence that were integrated into me long before I even had the ability to “cogito ergo sum.” I was so deeply uncomfortable with these aspects that I frequently mentally detached my internal, personal self from the external physical self. I often felt like I was a brain stuck in a body I did not choose to have. I was on reddit some random day several years ago when I came across a comment expressing the above situation - “I feel frequently detached from my body. I don’t like it. I feel isolated inside myself.”

And the response someone else gave back was, “You may want to check if you have gender or body dysphoria.”

I literally cannot describe the intensity of relief I felt to finally have a term to describe this feeling.

Gender dysphoria.

What a relief to learn it has a name.

Gender dysphoria sucks.

…And that’s putting it mildly.

Life is not fair. There is literally nothing but incredibly minute, incredibly small differences that separate me from my cisgender sister - theories range from hormones in the womb, to exposure in the first few years of life, to “brain chemistry,” or whatever. I don’t know the answer. I don’t have a theory I favor over others, because many of them do not include the experiences of my non-binary “siblings.” I gave up trying to find a “scientific answer” for my situation because so many of them wanted my fluid, liquid, freeform “self” to fit in a box that I didn’t actually care about. I don’t really need or crave a “scientific answer.” As far as I can tell, the most “common solutions” for transmen and transmasculine individuals have already been found and, frankly, been in place for hundreds of years (even if they weren’t all recorded). They are simple things - engaging in “masculine performances,” getting specialized healthcare (in the form of surgeries and hormones), changing your name and pronouns to the ones that suit your liquid, fluid self best.

Incredibly minute, incredibly small differences

That can finally - finally - help me bridge my internal, personal story with the external physicality and the product of a history I inherited.

My shape will never be “perfect.”

But no one’s is.

We are all products of histories we inherited without ever getting a say in the matter.

But that does not mean we are solely defined by them.

Nor that we cannot reshape them ourselves.

Gender is a social construct you inherited without you ever getting a say in the matter. It intersects and makes cross-sections with other aspects of identity and history that you, unfortunately, did not get a say in choosing. But because it is merely a construct, you can, with time and effort, push back against it. The liquid and fluid aspects of who you are - your personal identity - do not have to be defined by it. The mold of your shape can be hammered out however you want it to be, however you feel it should be. The crux of the issue is that we also live in a material, physical, real world that will push back, and this material, physical, real world has certain expectations about who it thinks you are and who it believes you should be. It will try to construct you. You and I and everyone are shapes being put under constant pressure by inherited histories, cross-sections of social, political, and economic spheres, and constantly changing situations. We make progress not to make everyone the same, but to understand, learn about, celebrate, and reshape our differences.I choose to define myself as a transman because I believe that the experiences and situations of other transmen mirror mine. There are differences between us, certainly, and I will never fully understand another transman’s situation or his life or his experiences, but many of our internal, personal stories and our cross-sections of identity align. I have chosen, like many transmen, to engage in “masculine performances” that make me feel more comfortable with the story I am telling about myself, to myself.

In the end, the only story that matters is the one you tell yourself.

Apologies for the long post. I hope this helped answer some of your questions. And thank you for asking all this stuff! I can really only speak to my own personal experiences and what educational frameworks I can utilize.

#not overwatch #personal #transgender #transman #transmasculinity #long post #the freaking ask box won't let me insert a cut #I might try to edit it after?#thanks for the thought-provoking question anon #I haven't written my thoughts down about this for awhile #Anonymous

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my essay for LGBTQ rights

Abby Brewer Mrs. Amick English III January 23, 2017

You Give Love a Bad Name Why do people always use the “Adam and Eve” argument when they are trying to justify being prejudice to gays? Obviously, Adam and Eve committed the first sin and caused the downfall of all of mankind; they’re not exactly what anyone would call role models. The church has always been viewed as the enemy towards all lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and generally queer people, and for good reason. LGBTQ people have been attacked by these “Christians” that believe they can pass judgment and decide for God, who has the right to enter the gates of Heaven. Many LGBTQ people have questions because of all the abusive judgments passed onto them. Such as, does God really love me? Am I damned for Hell because of who I love and who I am? Why doesn’t God want us to love unconditionally like he does? Why is the Christian idea of love only about genitals, and not what that person has in their soul? LGBTQ people have and are currently being treated unfairly and nonjudicially by Christians and other lifestyle groups. Although, there have been the select fewer number of God’s followers who have been accepting and loving towards LGBTQ people, the ones that have not are the reason “Christianity” has a bad name. Yes, people have the right to their own views and opinions, but that does NOT give them the right to force their views onto other people. Personal opinions, questions, and physical evidence have been compiled and collected and proven to support the unofficial case for the LGBTQ community. Gender dysphoria- the condition of feeling one's emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one's biological sex. “Gender dysphoria”. People that are transgender are not confused and are not attention-seekers. If a person makes a claim, for example, ‘‘he is saying that God made a mistake with making him, because his gender is not the same as his sex,’’ then this person has no defending argument as support. If a child is born with a cleft pallet, deaf, or even blind, does that mean that God made a mistake with them? Numerous persons have stated that gender and sex are the same thing. This is completely incorrect; although, it is easily mistaken as a truth. Gender- the state of being male or female (typically used regarding social and cultural differences rather than biological ones). (Google definition search engine) “Gender” Sex- either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and many other living things are divided based on their reproductive functions. (Google definition search engine) “Sex” Sex is clearly provided by chromosomes and gender is a title. Boy, girl, man, woman; these are nothing more than titles; God doesn’t care what title a person may choose to identify as. This does NOT make these people abnormal, it makes them secure with who they are. Transgender, cisgender, nonbinary, etc. people, are people too. Drake at the age of thirteen realized that he wasn’t a girl, although his natural sex said otherwise. Abby had the privilege of speaking with him through an app that allows conversation between LGBTQ identifying people. “I feel like I’m a guy trapped inside a girl’s body. I feel like I should’ve been a guy more than a girl.” – Drake. Drake’s birth name is Kassie and is “out” to his parents about his true gender. His parents replied instead of love and acceptance with stating that they didn’t know how God would judge him, but that they fear that he will go to Hell if he doesn’t change. (interview through Amino, LGBT app). How would a person change his/her/their gender? That would be like telling a dog to fly or a bird to bark. It’s impossible. No one can change who they really are, even if others don’t approve. Although Drake’s parents have every right to their opinions and Christian views, this is a perfect example of showing how transgender people are often treated by people that are simply unaware to the issues some are facing. On a blog post on BuzzFeed labeled Trans Teens Are Sharing Their Inspiring Personal Stories In Hopes Others Will Do The Same, a non-binary fifteen-year-old teen named Danny shared their story explaining who they are and how they wish non-cisgender people are viewed. “What I really want is for all the people of the world, both transgender and not transgender, to be open and willing to accept and learn about new possibilities. Many of the people I’ve met who reacted with anger, disbelief, or hostility upon hearing me speak openly about my gender identity seemed to be merely unsure of how to wrap their heads around a very new concept.” (Danny, BuzzFeed.com, Trans Teens Are Sharing Their Inspiring Personal Stories In Hopes Others Will Do The Same) Of course, people have been raised on the social norm that is the possibility of only two genders and only being identified as the gender that complies with their natural sex. There are a couple scriptures that have been used to prosecute non-cisgender people. “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28-29 NKJV). In these scriptures, it is shown that gender has no relevance to salvation, because we are all a part of the body of Christ. “Women must not wear men’s clothes, and men must not wear women’s clothes. Everyone who does such things is detestable to the Lord your God.” (Deuteronomy 22:5 CEB). What exactly are women and men’s clothing? If a person identifies as a man wouldn’t it be morally right for them to dress in masculine clothing? Or if a man wears a specific item of clothing wouldn’t that make it men’s clothes? How many homophobes does it take to change a light bulb? None they’re afraid of change, even if it would make the world a brighter place. (Tumblr, BriBry). A couple of the largest groups that have been verbally and sometimes physically attacked has been the gays and the lesbians. The scripture describing that being homosexual is an abomination, has repeatedly used against these two groups of people. Gays and lesbians are people that are attracted to the same gender that they identify as. The only obvious difference between the two, is gender. Gay (men attracted to men). Lesbian (women that are attracted to women). These two groups are a couple of the most widespread through today’s modern times, many people don’t know that there are other existing sexualities. Many people use “there are no gay people in the Bible”, as an opposing argument for being gay/lesbian. Yes, this is partially true. It was illegal in those times to have any kind of relationship other than a heterosexual one; and, it was very common for types of homosexual behavior to be between a man and a young boy used as a sex slave. Granting there are other examples of homosexual relations in the Bible, some were shown as incest. “Noah, who was a farmer, was the first man to plant a vineyard. After he drank some of the wine, he became drunk, took off his clothes, and lay naked in his tent. When Ham, the father of Canaan, saw that his father was naked, he went out and told his two brothers. Then Shem and Japheth took a robe and held it behind them on their shoulders. They walked backward into the tent and covered their father, keeping their faces turned away so as not to see him naked. When Noah sobered up and learned what his youngest son had done to him, he said, “A curse on Canaan! He will be a slave to his brothers. Give praise to the Lord, the God of Shem! Canaan will be the slave of Shem.” (Genesis 9:20-26 NJKV). Other examples are shown as being unfaithful to a spouse with homosexual acts with other partners and some as rape. The example of Noah and his son Canaan was incest and rape; although, the Bible does not go into much detail of what Canaan did to his father it is very clear that it was nonconsensual incest. People often use the Adam and Eve argument when explaining why they are against gays; their explanation is that God made a man and a woman for each other not a woman and a woman or a man and a man. If he had made them a homosexual couple, then they wouldn’t have been able to have reproduced and multiply as God wished them to. The first ever flavor of ice-cream may have been vanilla, but does that make it an abomination to enjoy other flavors such as chocolate or strawberry? “For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life.” (John 3:16 NKJV). Even if a person is queer in any way, and they believe in God they will have eternal life; not if they are people that judge others on whom they choose to love then they are the ones that are damned for hell. Do not criticize one another, my friends. If you criticize or judge another Christian, you criticize and judge the Law. If you judge the Law, then you are no longer one who obeys the Law, but one who judges it. (James 4:11 NKJV). Why should anyone be hated or judged for being gay when no one is ever judged for being straight? People that identify as LGBTQ are often told to be careful because it’s just a phase. If a child or teenager says that he/she/they are a part of this community often he/she/they are told that “they are too young to know or understand the concepts of such a thing” No one EVER tells the heterosexual child/teenager, they are too young to know when it is acceptable to know what he/she/they identify as. Being LGBTQ is NOT a trend and it is NOT a phase. Do some people later realize that they are in a different placement on the LGBTQ spectrum? Sure. That doesn’t make it a phase; it doesn’t make them flakey. It means that they are finding themselves for who they are. With how our times have changed, people are becoming more comfortable with being open about who they are and who they love. Bisexual (sexually attracted to both men and women). (Google definition search engine). Frequently, people that identify as bisexual are discriminated by even people in the LGBTQ community. Bi’s are sometimes viewed as greedy and unsure. Many people say that bisexuals are flaky and more likely to cheat, this is very untrue. It cannot be stressed enough that bisexuals are normal people who just have a very special preference as to who they are attracted to. A bird may love to fly high up in the sky above the trees, but sometimes a bird also just wants to poke around on the ground too. Bi or even pan people (pansexual- not limited in sexual choice regarding biological sex, gender, or gender identity.) (Google definition search engine) are beautiful, because they are more open to love than some people may understand. On a post on BuzzFeed post labeled as Why It’s Hard To Talk About My Bisexuality Catie Disabato quotes “I’m bisexual,” I said. Paul smiled warmly at me and asked, “How old are you?” “23,” I said. “You’re young,” he said. “You’ll get over it.” A lot of the time when someone says that they are bisexual they are judged and told to make up their minds, because they can’t have both. Who made up that rule? “Okay, you’re bisexual, but who have you dated more of?” Meaning that which one should I think of you as, straight or gay?” – Catie Disabato. Bisexuals are neither gay or straight; they aren’t half gay or half straight either. Bisexuals are their own category; they are a group all on their own. The bisexual flag is pink and blue with a purple strip in the middle. These colors represent that bisexuals are neither straight or gay and they are what is known as purple. Being a bisexual and a Christian or any part of the LGBTQ community does not take away from the fact that everyone has been given a job from God that he has given to everyone, to spread his love and his word. Elyaness is a twelve-year-old girl that identifies herself as a bisexual Christian. Elyaness lives in a conservative home where gays and such are accepted, but that they don’t believe that it is morally acceptable. She said that she was worried how her parents would see her when and if she tells them that she is bi. When Elyaness was asked if she had told any of her friends, she said “My friend is bi too so yea, but my BFF is straight and she told me that lesbians weird her out. I’m afraid to tell her considering she might only think of the lesbian side of me forever. And if I tell anyone, I’m afraid my life might change completely.” (interview through Amino, LGBT app). Jack is a bisexual Catholic. “To Bigotry no Sanction, to Persecution no Assistance.” This is the Catholic motto that Jack has said he lives by. When he was asked how is church views his lifestyle he said that no one in his church or community shames him or judges him. He attends Catholic school and enjoys studying Political Science. When Jack was asked how his church explained the scriptures used against gays he said, “Oh they just point out that it was never a commandment by any figure in the Bible for it to be only a man and a woman who should love together. It is used as an example, because that applies to over 90% of the population, and because at the time the Bible was written, it was illegal to be into people of the same sex.” (interview through Amino, LGBT app). Many people argue with the scriptures that state a man shall not lie with another man; that it’s an abomination. Although, his argument is so clear, their argument is invalid. Shouldn’t we love by heart not by genitals: isn’t this what would please God? Later, in the conversation Jake said, “Well, we certainly must respect the beliefs of others, and their right to be open about it without censorship. Super nationalist conservative to radical Marxist communist, everyone has a right to be open about what they believe in their own accord. But at the same time, everyone’s beliefs should be challenged and debated in the hopes of gaining new insight… to put it like a graded term paper.” (interview through Amino, LGBT app). Everyone can believe what they want; everyone has the right to live the way that they want. Although some Christians may believe that it is wrong for two people of the same sex to get married, they have no right to interfere on this act, because it is the couple’s right to live as they wish as well. Abby is a sixteen-year-old girl with the life goal of becoming a high school English teacher. Abby is bisexual and has gradually became public about the fact of her sexuality. Her friends have been very accepting and encouraging with her sexuality; although, there have been current issues concerning her sexuality. She grew up as a pastor’s daughter in a small church located in Arkansas; she was told gays were going to hell, but she never understood why. “Why would God condemn me or anyone for who we choose to love?” Later, in her life she left the church she attended and realized that she didn’t agree with the way she had been taught her entire life. When she understood these things, she wondered if maybe it was true that it wasn’t a sin to be who she was. For months, she prayed and searched the Bible for the truth and finally came to the realization that God loves her unconditionally. Abby has proven to be a normal girl with a special heart with the ability to love no regardless of gender. Jeff is a 23-year-old man from Florida and he attends Florida gulf coast university. Jeff is bisexual and has currently been out for about five months. He has been a believer of Christ for about five years now and he said “When I first became a believer I struggled with that in church, especially when they talked about how marriage was supposed to be between a man and a woman. Overtime, I realized that God loved me for who I am, and it doesn’t matter that I’m bisexual. His love knows no bounds.” (interview through Amino, LGBT app). He attends and worships at a church called Thrive, located in Fort Myers, FL, although he did change churches because his past church did not believe as he did such as: they believed in the use of conversion therapy and for also other unknown reasons. When he first visited Thrive he told the pastor that he was bisexual, and the pastor replied that he was still a child of God and he has been going there ever since. Jeff is just like any other young person, he has goals; he dreams of becoming an elementary school teacher and a youth pastor. Jeff came out publicly in a beautifully composed and worded post on Facebook, “We must start to love one another again no matter what our differences are. It doesn’t matter if you’re Lesbian, Gay, Straight, Bisexual, Transgender, African American, White, Hispanic, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Atheist, Republican, or Democrat. We are all humans and we need to stand up and stand together and stop the hate in this country and around the world. To do this we must stand up and not hide who we are, I am proud to say I am a bisexual Christian and a democrat. 1st Corinthians 13:8 Lover never Fails.” (interview through Amino, LGBT app). Conversion therapy has been a popular method to “change” LGBTQ people and turn them into “normal” people and away from the “evil” things they are involved in. Although what some people may not know is that conversion therapy is nothing but torture for the people that are being victimized. Conversion therapy, also known as reparative therapy can lead to dangerous paths for the victim. It is also such a harsh treatment that conversion therapy has been illegalized because of what it truly is, torture. This type of treatment has proven to be so severe that California, Illinois, New Jersey, Oregon, Vermont and the District of Columbia have all outlawed the practice of conversion therapy on minors; more than twenty other states have passed similar laws. Oklahoma has made it completely illegal to perform conversion therapy in any form on anyone, of any age. During a court case, New Jersey Superior Court judge ordered that the misrepresentation of homosexuality as a disorder a violation of the state’s consumer laws. “The Lies and Dangers of Efforts to Change Sexual Orientation or Gender Identity” Conversion therapy is the exact opposite of being “foolproof”. Section five of the Federal Trade Commission Act was violated by the People Can Change’s advertisements and business practices for being deceiving and disingenuously false. Advertisements stating, they can change a person’s sexuality or gender identity has been confirmed as false and hazardous information to the consumer. Therefore, verifying that conversion therapy does not work and is only a way of torture to punish the people, breaking the rules of “God’s code”. Some religious groups and churches teach and believe that conversion therapy is required for a person to be accepted as a Christian, and into the grace of God, if they are of any part of the LGBTQ community. This has been recognized as wrong, as has also been stressed how excruciatingly insufferable on the person’s health it is. Psychiatrist Dr. L. Spitzer has deplored his study on conversion therapy and apologized for ratifying the practice. This is proof of how malicious this malpractice is; harsh enough that a person that supported it, suddenly apologized for even endorsing it. It has been proven by hard cold evidence that conversion therapy does not work and is harmful to anyone who has received these harsh treatments. Through a comparison study, it has been shown that a LGBTQ person that has been rejected by even a smaller bit is eight times more likely to, or to have attempted suicide, six times more likely to report high levels of depression, three times more likely to illegally use drugs, and to be three times more likely to be at risk for HIV and STDs. Being homosexual or LGBTQ in any way is not a disease, although the attempt of prevention or to change a person with these types of mannerisms can cause mental diseases for instance depression and PTSD. “The Lies and Dangers of Efforts to Change Sexual Orientation or Gender Identity” Through conversion therapy, lies and threats are often used as an aid to change people. A victim admitted that they were told during the time of their therapy that homosexuals are lonely and no one loves them; and, that they have no happiness in life whatsoever. “#BornPerfect: Survivor Stories & Survivor Network” Deb Cuny, as a teenager was forced to be involved with Crossover Ministries trying to turn her from her sins by making her straight. She said she remembered going to a youth conference and thousands of people her age praising that God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. “My family, in their own attempt to seek help and support, became involved in the ex-gay ministry Exodus International, and eventually began volunteering regularly at a local ex-gay organization called Crossover Ministries. Embroiled in my own struggle to maintain a relationship with my family and with God, I agreed to meet with people who were undergoing treatment for their sexuality. I began regularly engaging in conversations with communities who reinforced my own fear that I had chosen my own self-interests over the love of God. I believed I was irrevocably broken, which made me try even harder to find the root of my illness so I could heal and regain God’s love.” “#BornPerfect: Survivor Stories & Survivor Network” She fell into a deep depression and later found a church that accepted her and told her that God loves her regardless of sexual orientation. This was when her healing finally began. Sam Brinton formed a crush on his friend when he was seven years old. When his family and church realized that beating would not “heal” his sickness, his family admitted him to conversion therapy, something that would scar him for life. His abusers convinced him that the government was hunting down gays and that they were looking for him; he was terrified, but it did not change who he was. They told him he had gotten AIDS from being gay. Eventually the mental abuse was not enough to break him and they started to physically abuse him. They tied his hands down and plunged them into ice while he was shown pictures of men; an attempt at setting his mind to view men as pain. Sometimes, he reported that they would use hot coils, electric shock, and needles forced into his fingertips for his “treatment”. “By the end, even hugging my father brought on flashbacks.”- Sam Brinton. “#BornPerfect: Survivor Stories & Survivor Network” Being LGBTQ, (although as believed by many Christian groups) is NOT a sin. So many ways have been used for the attempt of changing a person through intimidation, mental and physical abuse, family abandonment, and even exorcisms. People are beautiful and wonderful just the way they are, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc. God loves His children and He has a plan for each one of them. This is not an illness and it’s not confusion; it’s not the devil whispering in anyone’s ears and it’s not for attention. This is simply nothing different from the color of a person’s hair. Many people call homosexuality “unnatural”, although it is a proven fact that it is found in over 1,500 living species. How would this be unnatural when it is accepted by so many others, except humans?

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