#that my crushes on men were crushes

[canichangemyblogname]

Hot take? A show with queer people in it from the beginning was never queerbaiting and— very literally and technically— never could. In the first episode, a gay man comes out to his family. And he doesn’t stop being gay after that; it’s a major plot point and part of his character going forward. You’ve had a married lesbian couple from the jump who are proud and unapologetic about their love for each other. The story has also portrayed several queer couples and stories in episodic plots, including featuring queer weddings.

Buck didn’t suddenly “become” bi. Queerness is not when straight people “turn” queer. He has been attracted to men the entire time; he has always been bi. Understanding yourself and your sexuality as a queer person is often so difficult under heteronormativity. Sometimes, it takes time.

Hell— Buck checking a guy out some time in season 3 or getting flustered by the idea he might like a guy, etc, etc, are not even examples “queerbaiting,” nevermind how the show already features queer stories.

I genuinely think some of y’all are just mad that he’s not sucking face with the man you want him to, and are being weirdly homophobic about it. “Buck kissing this man is kinda off-putting, lmao.” “Buck and his bf’s relationship is awkward. IDK, but it weirds me out.” “There’s something so cringe about Buck’s relationship—” “Who dates someone they haven’t been friends with for years first? It’s kinda creepy…” “I think their relationship is a weird mess. It’s not as meaningful as a slow burn.”

Life isn’t fanfiction and fanfiction tropes don’t make good writing. Most relationships start out with a “hey, I’m interested in you, let’s get to know each other.” You’re just transparently uncomfortable with two men expressing that interest in each other outside the arbitrary rules you’ve established to make a mlm relationship “legitimate” or “meaningful.”

[Fanfiction] tropes— from “there’s only one bed” to “we’re forced together, but fall in love anyway”— are responses to the sex-negativity and purity culture norms forced upon gender and sexual minorities. They provide a workaround for these norms but never a direct challenge. It’s like the Family Guy episode “Prick Up Your Ears,” where conservative Christian abstinence-only sex education leads to kids having ear sex. Ear sex is the workaround to the abstinence and purity rules they’d been taught, not the challenge. We still have stringent rules around who can touch whom and under what circumstances. Tropes reflect this. So, a trope like “there’s only one bed” provides the characters with a justification for their intimacy without directly challenging why it is taboo.

You’ve convinced yourself that shipping— and thus the tropes it employs— is more subversive than actual representation, and the people caught in the crossfire are actual queer people.

Also— for the love of fuck— stop comparing every mlm relationship to RW&RB.

#911 ABC #911 Fox #do you know how long it took me to understand #that my crushes on men were crushes #and not just ‘Wow. He’s neat. I really wanna be friends.’ #‘Wow. I like his vibe and style. I wanna… be friends? Be— hold up.’ #I thought I was asexual #‘Well. I have no interest in dating a girl. But I also just really wanna be really very good friends with guys. So I must be ace!’ #No. Wrong. I was very mistaken #I also very much hate what RW&RB has encouraged in cis het ppl #evan buckley #tommy kinard

[chloeseyeliner]

when the fictional man is a brilliant, genuinely and effortlessly funny (canon or headcanon) bisexual disaster, insecure of their height, with (possible or canon) adhd, who loves their partner more than anything>>>>>>>>>

#i am talking about alex claremont-diaz and jake peralta here yes #the only fictional men crushes ever #if i had a nickel type of situation lol #i love them so so so much you have no idea #and of course not only because if they were real i would develop a huge crush on them #i have talked about alex especially so much he is literally one of my favourite characters ever in general so #they have so much depth #alex claremont diaz #red white and royal blue #jake peralta #brooklyn 99 #b99 #fictional men #anyway

[depressedstressedlemonzest]

Had to put in the "answer it simply" part. She KNOWS like lawyers and genies you have to be fucking specific.

The way he SAYS IT fucking hot.

Regina I'm sure you've heard of the og rumplestiltskin, you have to catch him dancing around a fire singing about how great he is and how no one knows his name.

It's a tennis match of wits, and they keep hitting birdies.

Love the repartee.

That's a dangerous grin regina.

#literally all my celeb crushes are total dilfs #double my age and hot #if my husband were to see my camera roll or tiktok saves hed be like.... whats with all these old men? #a grin thatd knock a girl up if he magnified it to another 20 watts #mr. gold #regina mills #ouat #ouat rumple #rumplestiltskin #1x12 #skin deep #once upon a time #robert carlyle

[anytimebitchess]

Y’all remember this?

Now it’s this:

#moments that altered my brain chemistry 😵‍💫 #all these men were (or are) my crushes at some point #tom holland #neymar jr #kylian mbappé #kylian mbappe #f1 #monaco gp 2023

[strawberrybabydog]

realizing im a lesbian has genuinely been one of the most life-ruining things ive experienced so far :0(

i dont think i know any other lesbians

i am a baby dyke. who likes a baby dyke? apparently nobody. i dont seem to fit into ANY lesbian spaces because i'm green but how do i become not green without experience? apparently i need 10 years experience for an entry-level job :0(??

how... do i even find other lesbians irl? "gay bar" ok first off why would i ever go to a bar. also im pretty sure those dont exist where i live

do i love lesbians because i hate and am traumatized by men or do i love lesbians because im normal. only one answer actually makes me a lesbian

if im not lesbian what am i? :0( i dont want to Just be asexual, that doesnt Mean anything

lesbians are fucking scary. i used to follow 10 sapphic-centric blogs but.... theyre always talking about how horrible/annoying other lesbians are over discourse ive never heard of, meaning, im probably participating in it without knowing

oh yeah. that too. i know nothing about lesbians. and being a lesbian. apparently when you're a lesbian you have to know every single piece of sapphic literature and every lesbian of history or you're bad and stupid and dont deserve to be talked to

it really feels like being hetero is free and easy, like you dont have to think about it you just Love Someone, but being queer is hard and energy-consuming and you have no choice but to dedicate the rest of your life to learning and knowing every single piece of sapphic-centered discourse. it seems like being a lesbian has more to do with knowing facts about historic lesbianism than it has to do with loving another lesbian and i'm sooooo not interested in being queer for the sake of discourse i just want to kiss a lady or whatever but thats not allowed until i pass my lesbian exam that every other lesbian passed 20 years ago

idk. maybe all of this confusion means im not a lesbian. i think if i really was sapphic i'd know the answers to this stuff already, researching would be easy and enjoyable..... but the master lesbian google doc..... idk... it seems like being sapphic requires more than just "Girls Kinda Pretty" and that is awful to me. i dont want to spend 4 years in lesbian university studying lesbianism just to get my lesbian degree so i can kiss a girl. i want to just kiss a girl Now why do i need a masters degree?? why do i have to study and earn and prove my place in a society where i thought the bottom line was Kiss Girls And Chill

"community history is important" i agree but why do i need to know all of this shit First, Before i am a lesbian. why cant i kiss ladies and research at the same time. idfk. idk anymore. i just want to love my gf. why am i 22 trying to figure out my sexuality when everyone i know did it when we were 14, how is that fair to me?? im sorry for being a late bloomer i dont know what you want from me

#i think to other lesbians im always going to be That Bisexual who only dates men but never shuts up about loving women #but its deeper than that. those were longterm relationships. nobody i know irl was ever queer in a way where we could have a relationship #i dont know if im a lesbian but i know how nervous i get around a hot butch or a hot femme #i dont know if im a lesbian but i can describe to you every butch ive ever had a crush on #i dont know if im a lesbian but i think in grade 3 i was trying to impress that pretty girl for reasons beyond wanting to be friends #i dont know if im a lesbian but i am head over heels in love with my gf #i dont know i just dont know anymore i feel like a failure #everyone else had their sexyality figured out at 14 and im 22 #i hated going to the gaystraight alliance at my high school because they would buly me for not being gay enough when the teacher wasnt there #maybe its true maybe they knew better than me that im faking it or something #but on more than one occassion in hs i had classmates beefing about my sexuality i wish i was making this up #ive been told i have a lesbian voice i have lesbian vibes but i dont know if thats true especially if my actual queer friends didnt see it #i feel like im failing myself and every queer person ever i feel like every other lesbian just hates me so much and im so sorry #not dog #personal #big feelings

[lonesomedreamer]

@death-by-mercury

Ethan Peck, grandson of...

...the incomparable Gregory Peck.

#both of these were kind of journeys for me #growing up I only knew GP as Atticus from TKAM and so he was very much Dad (On-Screen Version) in my head #and at some point in the last ten-ish years I went “wait...he's PRETTY?” #(he is. extremely. “devastatingly handsome” indeed.) #and Ethan: I am not...a huge fan either of the Star Trek show(s) he's in or of the way his version of Spock has been written #and at first (long before I watched SNW) I was salty bc I thought he looked nothing like Nimoy (he really doesn't) OR like GP #(which...he definitely does? there is a strong resemblance?? lol I don't have eyeballs ig) #anyway: in SNW he has a MUCH better hairstyle than the utterly abysmal things they were doing with his hair and facial hair in Discovery #and he won me over with his charm and his gorgeous smile and his adorable collection of Trek shirts #also he strips in his second scene in SNW which helped lol #so...here I am: crushing on Peck men

[gottagobackintime]

The “hear me out” trend needs to stop because no one knows what the fuck “hear me out” means. No, but seriously. I just saw a video where the “hear me out” was… Colin Firth… COLIN FUCKING FIRTH. Mr Darcy x2, yeah, that guy.

Colin Firth is not and will never be a “hear me out” man.

#I’ve seen Jack Davenport as Norrington in POTC #I’ve seen Michael J Fox as Marty McFly.. #and like a million conventional attractive men #like don’t get me wrong I find a lot of them attractive #like when everyone my age were obsessed with Orlando Bloom as Will I sat there alone with my crush on Norrington #but Jack Davenport is just an attractive man #some are doing it right but most are just using it to show their celebrity crushes #great scott my life is heavy #Nicole watches stuff

[tomwambsgans]

tom's straightguysona was constructed by looking to the emphasis of exclusive heterosexuality without necessarily macho masculinity in 40s-modern middle america as well as academia, particularly the excusable effeminacy granted to men in the upper classes due to it simply being a mark of man being civilized, which is perfectly fine so long as you openly lament the loss of true masculinity. and greg's straightguysona was constructed by listening to weezer in middle and high school

#tom wambsgans #greg hirsch #tomgreg #do NOT take this as an admonishment of weezer either they're def one of my fav bands #i just think that greg has lowkey weezer masculinity whenever he does attempt to perform it #like i imagine him languishing over pink triangle in hs as an excuse for having no gf #like 'oh what a tragedy every girl i like is a lesbian' #and then later he realizes that he was purposefully having crushes on unattainable girls bc it was safe #anyway back to tom. i've been reading this book called Gay New York and it's gay history from 1890 to 1940 #and it's got a lot of insights on how homosexuality and gender were constructed specifically through class #and how that intersects #fun example is that middle class men - as opposed to working and high class men - are the least likely to tolerate homosexuality #BUT middle class men who ARE gay are more likely than working and high class gays to be versatile #like both in the sense of top and bottom and also in just accepting both the masculine and feminine in yourself rather than going hard in #either direction #mine #gay tom #gay greg

[theeverythingfanofeverything]

Chat, i made..uh thing 0///0

soooooooo, don't ask why i'm drawing my old and current fictional crushes at 6am with no sleep.... I'm insane

ALSO i drew Hunter in his possesed by belos form cause

s m a s h

#fanart #fictional crushes #6am go brrr #no thoughts just hunter #hunter toh #toh fanart #toh #owl house #lou uglydolls #chat do i have decent taste in men 😭😭😭 #trust me my 2020 crushes were WAY worst #random #shitpost #theeverythingfanofeverything

[kindheart525]

Pinkie Pie has the best taste in stallions out of all her friends, she hit the jackpot with Weird Al’s ponysona while the rest of her friends’ guy crushes include

Flash Sentry

Prince Blueblood

Trenderhoof

Wind Rider

Discord

#no hate to flash sentry #he’s just boring at worst #and I know discord isn’t a canon crush #fluttercord was just debatably implied #and he has good traits #but the rest of these guys SUCK #wtf were these girls thinking #mostly rarity and rainbow dash #gushing over shitty celebrity men #KindsThoughts #my little pony #mlp fim #mlp g4

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i think a lot of the really far-gone transfemme vs transmasc people who still play by the 6th grade milquetoast "trans women are targeted way more than trans men cause femininity is bad and masculinity is good In Our Society, so trans men get free acceptability passes" feminism forget that trans men/transmascs started life. as. little girls. we were mistaken, from birth, for baby girls. and we were raised by our parents to believe that we were little girls.

a lot of trans men and transmascs then grew up to be teenaged girls

a lot of trans men and transmascs were adult women too

and for a while we *believed* we were girls and women. some of us even WISHED we were girls and women (points at myself). and much more importantly, we were continually seen as girls and women. a lot of the time, we are STILL seen as girls and women, even with full fuckin beards and baritone voices. especially if we need to go to any kind of medical professional. this is what our free acceptability pass looks like?

its just so much more nuanced than these 'boys vs girls' people ever seem to care to think about. even binary trans folks dont have the same sense of cisgendered binary that cis people do. we literally cross from one fake end of the fake-binary to the other. thats where the trans in transgender comes from. i dont know how some other trans folks seem to forget that?? i don't know how, somewhere along the line, we forgot that trans men and transmascs also directly suffer under misogyny?

#my t #sorry for more gender based griping i saw smth on twitter that reminded me of this. #the bright spots of Little Girl euphoria i had in my childhood were rare and beautiful. i refuse to forget them. #my perception of myself i had as a child is important to me. #possibly in a different way to others because. yknow. i am plural. #and plural folks have a different brain and sense of understanding of themselves that singlets wont have. its just a neurological differenc #but my little girl self is an important part of my present day adult man self. #and looking at the adult trans men in my system who are still under my care today- #the little girls they were - however fucking briefly - are still important to me and to them too. #and i fully understand that a lot of other trans folks cannot think of themselves this way #but trans mens experiences of being mistaken for little girls are as important as trans womens experiences being mistaken for little boys #we are all trapped in the same systemic cycle of gender-based abusive conditioning. #really we just have to do away with assigning gender to baby bits completely. its weird. #trans men are either eternally confused women or just invisible #and crushed under the weight of maintaining a cis-man image. #i mean for fucks sake #my partner system and us have been talking about having a kid for ages #if i were to get pregnant i'd just have to accept the fact that i have to masquerade around as a woman for 9 months. #because there is NOTHING for pregnant transmascs. #nothing. #there aren't even a lot of gender neutral options for maternity clothing. #even the term 'maternity' denotes femininity and motherhood. #paternity clothing isn't a thing that exists for me for look forward to or even mildly worry about. #and i'm just talking about a *planned* pregnancy involving a trans man. what do yall think happens to transmascs with unwanted pregnancies. #what a privileged life i lead as a no-op no-hrt trans man. big cishet loves me because i am obviously exactly like a cis man now #just want people to stop infighting and being stupid tbh. #breaking: bro strider fictive gets really fuckin pressed about gender and systemic abuse again!

[maemil]

Did a little women of the clone wars sketchbook page. My ten year old ass was in love with all of these ladies when I first watched the show.

[ID: A photo of a sketchbook page. Star Wars characters Luminara Unduli, Aayla Secura, Ahsoka Tano and Barriss Offee are all drawn from the shoulders up in pencil. Aayla and Ahsoka are colored in fully with pencil, but only Barriss and Luminara's eyes have color]

#luminara unduli #aayla secura #ahsoka tano #barriss offee #star wars the clone wars #star wars #sw clone wars #the clone wars #sw art #my art #happy international women's day to these completely fictional women #doing feminism by filling this page entirely and still wishing I had more space for the other blorbos I wanna draw #vs the page after this which is technically a men of tcw one but it is not finished because i simply do not care about as many of them #Truly I would be drawing the same face 4 times if i stuck with favs only but clones felt like cheating #not lying when I said I was in love with them. I continue to be obsessed with aayla mostly because of my gay little childhood crush on her #and I *was* shipping barrissoka before I even knew what lesbians were #star wars is just about queer women kicking ass I think

[payidaresque]

Share 9 of your fictional crushes and let everyone guess your type! i was tagged by @possession & @jyncas thank u darlings <3

tagging: @burningblake @apothecarys @elena-gilbert @lordjohnwgrey @afalsegcd @blackfyredaemon @sylvies-casey @claire-randall @wandasmaximofffs @wandamaximoffs @ginaricky @shane-west and everyone else who wants to do it. No pressure! <3

#WHY ONLY NINE #these were the first ones i could think of #EVERYONE PRETEND YOU'RE SHOCKED lmao #i think it's safe to say my crushes are badass women and insane men LMAO #tagged ♡ #about me #this says a lot about me me huh

[lesbianjodie]

Straight Jodie truthers are the funniest thing to me. Like say what you will about she and Akai or whatever but no heterosexual American woman looks like she does. She's literally named after gay ass Jodie Foster and her ex is a pretty, pretty boy who wears eyeliner every day... girl if you think that is a heterosexual you are out of your mind

#jodie starling #detective conan #I haven't even seen anyone actually call jodie straight yet but you know #I'm just like. stating facts here #even her thing with akai makes sense if she were gay. the man is every bi woman's type and every lesbian w comphet's acceptable crush man. #like come the fuck on #jodie clinging to akai because she's gotten used to him and if she lets him go now she'll have to accept the fact that #she actually doesn't like men at all #you know????? #at my least eloquent rn I picked a bad day to write this post #gay jodie agenda

[airbenderedacted]

deathstar shippers stop going out of ur way to tell me you hate dominator being a lesbian and that you’re homophobic asf challenge (impossible, apparently)

#(cw: put under a read more for homophobia & transphobia 😬) #LITERALLY went ''lemme say the quiet part out loud'' BRO THIS IS LIKE THE 6TH(????) TIME I'VE HAD SUCH AN ENCOUNTER #except i will say that this is the first time it wasn't unprovoked. i did @ them first to ask why they were leaving replies on my posts- #-saying hater's crush on dominator is creepy bc they 'look like they have an age gap' meanwhile they've liked AND MADE #-comments elsewhere shipping her with men that are way WAY older than her and sometimes visibly so like. hater and her are the same agegroup #so i was like. what is going on here huh??? ANFD THEN THEY JUST SAY THIS SHIT why am i ever surprised anymore lmao #shout out to this person for adding transphobia to their shittiness for Spice ig /s 🙄 eugh... #i should've seen it coming bc they were referencing a page on the woy wiki THAT USES STEVENSON'S CORRECT NAME & PRONOUNDS #AND YET THEY WERE ADAMANT ON USING HIS DEADNAME AND SHE/HER PRONOUNS LIKE.. I SHOULD'VE EXPECTED THIS I SHOULD'VE EXPECTED THIS but still 🤢 #i dont ever wanna stop giving ppl the benefit of the doubt but oh my god do These people test me. every time. goes like this Every Single T- #on god only like twice or smthn have i seen [REDACTED] shippers be like.. very decent to me and literally just ignorant #and they were from here and i just ask them to not interact bc it makes me uncomfortable and they're like i dont get it but ofc #and i never see them again #AND THEN EVERY OTHER PERSON WHO IS INTO THIS SHIT I HAVE *EVER* COME ACROSS #FUCKING JUST... JUMPS INTO MY MENTIONS OUT OF NOWHERE. LITERALLY I DONT EVEN?? DO ANYTHING I DONT GO NEAR THEM BRO #THEY FUCKING SNIFF ME OUT OR SOME SHIT FOR HAVING A DNI ON OTHER SITES AND GO #''OH SO YOU THINK I'M WRONG FOR HAVING TO REIMAGINE GAY/LESBIAN CHARACTERS AS STRAIGHT SO I CAN ENJOY THEM?'' LIKE- WTF? YES? IT IS #also i kid you not this is an actual thing someone has gone out of their way to look me up and yell at me over for like an hour straiught #on twitter. it was unhinged. like they were convinced straight ppl are oppressed any time gay characters exist #bc gay characters existing makes them unlikable and unrelatable and unconsumable to straights like damn ok if u feel that way die abt it? #it's just so unhinged like bruh GO AWAY LMAO??? SHUT UP! I DONT CARE LITERALLY JUST KEEP UR FREAK BIGOT SHIT TO URSELF GET OUT #again that specifically doesn't apply to this person who technically WAS @ by me first bc i was like.. hey... hey what's going on here HUH #but oh my god they turn out to be vocally homophobic every single time. i was always hoping i was like... #over generalizing these people as being fucking homophobic just bc 1) the vibes r always like that 2) it's faster to say #BUT OH MY GOD THEY REALLY ARE HOMOPHOBIC AS A WHOLE WHAT THE FUCK I LITERALLY ALWAYS WENT OUT OF THE WAY TO BE LIKE aint no way ahah BUT NO? #BRO???? GET OUT OF HERE THIS SHOW IS NOT FOR YOU Y'ALL ARE CREEPS #THEY FEEL SO EMBOLDED TO SAY THE QUIET PART OUT LOUD EVERY SINGLE TIME WITHOUT PROMPTING. I ALWAYS MAKE FUCKING SURE TO NOT ACCUSE BIGOTRY #AT MOST I'LL JUST BE LIKE yeah so straightwashing is a thing that's homophobic so don't do that IF ANYTHING. I NEVER CALL THE PERSON THAT #AND EVERY TIMEEEE THEY JUST GO MASK OFF WITH ''BTW I DONT LIKE THE GAYS'' I OEIUFKGEJRHGUKJDFS EVERY TIME EVERY TIME WTFFFFF #usually being right about things is epic. not this THIS IS JUST.. GWORLS WHAT HE FUCK

[yvesbuprofen]

lmao idk why did I come out as lesbian to my friends, now if I say idk maybe I'm ace everyone will hate me

#not true #but my lesbian friends will not feel the same comraderie towards me #which is worse than death #aughh I really truly don't know though #because I think I had a crush on many girls #but it's really unusual #now I just feel friendship #whay if it was just teenage hormones #I haven't had a serious crush since I was like 17 #I had crushes in men but they were like omg he is so pretty and nice (I have weird taste in men) (I didn't know them) (when I talked to them #the crush vanished)