#this woman raised me

[section-69]

I have this cousin, sweet kid, last time I met him he was trying to stick peas up his nose so he could eat them without tasting them. He just turned six.

"Six already! Wow!" I said, when my grandmother told me the news.

"Yes," she replied, "But not very bright."

Obviously, that scene from 'Doctor Bashir, I Presume?' was very much on my mind, and I kind of just stalled and went "... He's six."

My grandmother laughed, knowingly. She was a learning support teacher before she retired. "You can tell by the time they're three."

Luckily, this kid lives in a world without the possibility of genetic resequencing, and has multiple older cousins (I think all of us, actually) who know what autism is and where to go to get help. But I just... you can tell by the time they're three...

How old was Julian when his parents decided they'd seen enough experts, that he wasn't getting "better" fast enough? How long did it take them to decide on Adigeon Prime? Did they also look at a three year old and think "this is as good as he's ever going to get unless something fundamentally changes about him?"

By the time a five year old Julian was sewing arms back onto his teddy bear out of fear it would get thrown away otherwise, had his parents already convinced themselves he'd amount to nothing?

#this woman raised me #and every day I thank God that she was wrong #and that people are capable of growth #if they choose to grow #anyway I'm sorry Julian you deserved better parents #star trek #ds9 #julian bashir #my posts

[thedevilsfamiliar]

You ever have a massive break down and it’s head ache inducing and you’re silently screaming

And then your emotions switch off and now you’re just scrolling through tumblr giggling at some person who can’t park

#I was literally gasping for air and on the verge on having a panic attack #and then I stopped and went ‘tumblr it is’ #context: the doctors want to pull the plug on my grandmother but it’s on my mom and aunts shoulders #this woman raised me #losing her I can’t even bare it

[fictionadventurer]

Maybe the problem with Christian fiction is that it's non-denominational. People are just "Christian", with no effort put into showing what practicing that religion looks like for them specifically. No indication that there are other Christians who could have different beliefs. No wrestling with differing ideas and the struggle of how one should live out their Christian faith. And that makes it unrealistic and unrelatable.

#me reading any christian historical fiction set in england: why are none of these gentry anglican?? #they ARE all anglican and if they are not it is extremely plot and character relevant you can't just have them using evangelical buzzwords #but i'm also thinking of this because i started another charlotte yonge book #that is by far my favorite of the things of hers that i've read #because it has characters who have different upbringings and religious opinions #instead of just 'here's a bunch of high church anglicans judging people who don't live up to their victorian standard' #you have the very high church anglican rector whose wife is worldly but still a very good person #the girl raised in a very strict protestant family who is more scrupulous than the anglicans but is still recognized as a good person #you have people who are trying to work out the nuances of different issues #and that makes it so much more realistic and so much easier to integrate into the story #(the politics though are hilarious) #(most of the classics that survive are the ones that were 'ahead of their time' in politics) #(so it's equally fascinating and refreshing and a bit infuriating to see one that is very very of its time with regards to women's rights) #('why did this woman get up at the meeting and explain her very good ideas for rebuilding after the fire? she should have had a man do it') #(meanwhile i'm just screaming 'why on earth SHOULDN'T she???') #(it's almost enough to make a feminist of me)

[somethingaboutmint]

Quick ugly doodle of cassidy contemplating her sexuality at some dump somewhere

#fallout #fallout new vegas #fnv #rose of sharon cassidy #fallout cass #veronica santangelo #yeah sure ill tag her too #art'd #LISTEN. IF I DONT TALK ABOUT MY CASS/VERONICA IDEA I WILL EXOLODE #basically they meet thru stim and like veronicas interested but gives up the idea pretty quick cuz cass is “straight” #and cassidys like omg finally a woman around here LETS HANG OUT GIRL BEST FRIENDDD and veronica goes along with it #but after cass tries to get her to oogle at dudes with her one too many times as a bonding activity veronicas like #cass im so sorry i cant do this im gay and cass is like (brain fart) um font worry im a hashtag ALLY. #and then she mentions she also sleeps with women and veronicas like ????? that does not sound straight to me #cue cass being like pshhh whatever and then having a multi long sexuality crisis #and also becoming obsessed with veronica in a very gay way for some reason #sorry my demons took hold of me #i love dumbass bisexual cassidy you guys dont get it......or do you (eyebrow raise)

[transsongtaewon]

I don't think Yoohyun is agender I think he's gender apathetic. No he doesn't have a gender and no he doesn't really care. He's a guy by virtue of people calling him that so he just goes with it because it's not like he cares.

One time he walks in on Yerim doing her e-shot and asks her what she's doing and she says "I'm trans? You didn't know that???" and he say "no what do you mean"

And Yerim sits there for a second and contemplates if she wants to Explain Trans to Yoohyun of all people but they literally live together so maybe he should get the basics so she says "you know, because when I was born they said I was a boy but I'm actually a girl?"

And Yoohyun is like "what"

And Yerim is like "cause I feel like a girl"

And Yoohyun is like "what does that even mean"

And Yerim in her endless grace tries to explain "you know how when you were born they thought you're a boy and you feel good as a boy and if everyone suddenly started calling you a girl and treating you like a woman you'd feel really bad"

To which Yoohyun says "no, not really, why would I care what other people call me"

And then they stare at each other for a few seconds and Yerim decides that explaining "non-binary" or even "agender" to Yoohyun sounds like the stuff of nightmares so she just doesn't cause he seems happy enough as is anyway.

(also if she pursued this to the end they may get to a point where Yoohyun realises he's not actually Yoojin's younger brother so he couldn't call him hyung anymore and she thinks if that happened Yoohyun would probably spontaneously implode)

#sctir #tsctir #the s classes that i raised #s classes that i raised #my s class hunters #han yoohyun #bak yerim #this got away from me. #but I stand by it #vitally important that all of my faves are trans in some way #even if they don't know it #also I think Yoohyun is lying a little when he says he wouldn't care if everyone suddenly started calling him a woman because #it'd be an unexpected change that he doesn't understand and he's already only mostly passing as normal #so if someone went against the script it'd be really stressful #bonus autism moment for tag readers <3 #also trans girl Yerim by beloved she deserves the world

[jopzer]

#keeley jones #ted lasso #i a) have very little evidence for this. b) am objectively correct. #both of these statements are true. trust. #real recognizes real #keeley and i have the same mommy issues. trust. #jamie voice sorry if i ever act weird i was raised by an insane woman who loves me #roy voice not sorry if i ever act weird. i was raised by a regular woman who i don't really have a relationship with #perfect trifecta of mommy issues<3 #also i fucking love her mouth in this pic. she's so cute

[hawnks]

this still makes me insane btw…..

#raise wa tanin ga ii #me in ozs dms talking abt the blatant misogyny in this manga that somehow doesn’t ruin it and in fact…. #well #😳😔 #the ‘shut up woman’ extra page …….. #mixed feelings #I think it’s because they all say (and demonstrate) that they would literally die for her and she is their priority #but they’re still like. bad people #KSKKSKSKD #idk #Shouma and Kirishima both sleeping with other women and thinking about yoshino in the afterglow #it’s just #they don’t know how to love in a way that isn’t awful #but they want it #they crave it instinctually #squawk tag

[courtofterrasen]

I’m just about done with finals, so I decided to gather up a quick list of over 50+ different POC women characters with actual good stories and character development as well as what they’re in, since you guys seem to be complacent in accepting mediocrity🥰

I know there are A LOT more REALLY GOOD characters out there, like Firebird from Marvel for example, but these are all characters from media that I either have personally consumed or know a lot about that I can think about off the top of my head. So if anyone wants to keep the list going in the comments, please feel free to add on

Charlotte- Queen Charlotte: A Bridgerton Story

Shuri- Black Panther (MY LOVE😭❤️)

Okoye- Black Panther

Nakia- Black Panther

Queen Ramonda- Black Panther

Katara- ATLA

Korra- LoK

Toph- ATLA

Azula- ATLA

Beauregard- Critical Role: Campaign 2

Fy’ra Rai- Critical Role: Exandria Unlimited

Opal- Critical Role: Exandria Unlimited

Deni$e- Critical Role: Campaign 3

Deanna- Critical Role: Campaign 3

Lady Kima: Critical Role: Campaign 1/ Legends of Vox Machina

Laerryn: Critical Role: Exandria Unlimited: Calamity

Veth Brenatto- Critical Role: Campaign 2

Mirko- My Hero Academia

Ahsoka (people refer to her as a POC character even though she’s a Togruta)

Moana

Mulan

Tiana- Princess and the Frog

Esmeralda- The Hunchback of Notre Dame

Nani- Lilo and Stitch

Raya- Raya and the Last Dragon

Mel- Arcane

Ambessa Medara- Arcane

Sevika- Arcane

(Special shout out to Ekko from Arcane because he’s SUCH A GOOD CHARACTER)

Storm- Marvel comics

Wonder Woman- DC comics (she is Mediterranean, which is located in the North Africa/ Europe/ West Asia region, for the incels who are going to try to fight me on that. Just because your skin has less melanin than people “think you should have” does not invalidate you being a POC)

Nubia- DC comics

Special shoutout to General Nanisca in The Woman King. I have not watched it yet, but I’ve heard a lot of great things

Valkyrie- Thor Ragnarok

Gamora: Guardians of the Galaxy (though, she’s not human, she’s a Zen-Whoberis, but her actress is Dominican and Puerto Rican)

Ava Silva- Warrior Nun

Sister Beatrice- Warrior Nun

Sister Lilith- Warrior Nun

Deyha- Genshin Impact

Candace- Genshin Impact

Xinyan- Genshin Impact

Janai- The Dragon Prince

Ursula- Once Upon A Time

Mulan- Once Upon a Time

Lucyna “Lucy” Kushinada- Cyberpunk: Edgerunners

Mermista- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Catra- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Lonnie- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Netossa- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Entrapta- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Perfuma- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Mara- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Frosta- She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

(All of whom are Etherian’s, not Terran’s, which would equivalate people from earth)

Mazikeen- Lucifer

Wednesday Addams- The Addam’s Family/ Wednesday

Calliope “Cal” Burns- First Kill

Talia Burns- First Kill

Yennefer- The Witcher (actress is of Indian descent.)

Triss- The Witcher (some debate can be had about this due to her character in the games being white and her actress in the show having South African heritage. I enjoy them both equally)

I would add Pocahontas to this list, but the Disney recreation of her story is an extremely incorrect and awful retelling, so I implore you to go and look up the story of Amonute/ Matoaka, which is the true name of Pocahontas. It’s not an easy story to hear, but I feel as though people need to know her true story instead of Disney’s romanticized one.

Also, if you guys REALLY want a good female POC pirate story, check out the story of the most successful pirate in the world named Ching Shih, aka Cheng I Sao. She was a woman born in Guangdong, China in the late 18th century and worked as a prostitute until she caught the eye of Cheng I, the notorious Commander of the Red Flag Fleet. After buying and marrying her, he noticed her intelligence, leadership skills, and determination, so he began to teach her about life in the high seas. She quickly adapted and helped him lead his fleet, and when he died she assumed full control over his fleet and amassed 1,800 ships and 80,000 pirates under her control and became the most feared pirate leader of her time. It’s a VERY cool story

#notice how they’re all GOOD COMPLEX CHARACTERS #and how Phee is not😮 #you all need to raise your standards #phee is a bad character #and surface level at best #criticizing a character who just so happens to be poc for their bad writing is not racist #but criticizing a character BECAUSE they’re poc is a completely different story #want to talk about a strong black woman #here you go #I really do love shuri #I adore her #she’s so cool #and so smart #and she’s such a badass #and she’s so pretty😭 #anyone on this list could demolish Phee #tech and phee #tech x phee #the bad batch phee #tbb phee #phee genoa #star wars #the bad batch #tbb #bad batch #your idiotic comments fuel me

[her-midas-touch]

marylily coming back to their apartment after parties stumbling to the door just full on making out, smiling against messy kisses with their hands all over each other while one of them uselessly fumbles with opening the door and they stumble into the hallway not breaking apart, nearly tripping over themselves with just this giddy wanting to be so torturously close to each other like it’ll never truly be close enough.

#this is totally not me thinking about giddy schoolgirls marylily #like they are a great team but then they have these moments where it feels like a guilty pleasure kind of rush #also this makes me think of them sneaking away to kiss in corners at hogwarts and they’re careful to not get caught #but then there’s knowing smiles exchanged at all the times they both happen to mysteriously disappear at the same times #and little comments about “mary corrupting the head girl” (which lily denies) #(but ofc no one believes her because the flush gives her away when the grin that threatens to break her face doesn’t) #(that woman does not hide it please she will be trying to bite back a grin and it’ll still show) #her walking in to the dorm with her tie crooked (hmm I wonder why) and marlene will raise her eyebrows with a smirk #asking her precisely what head girl duties she’s been out so late performing #and lily just mouths “not one more word out of you” #and refuses to elaborate but she’s making not so subtle heart eyes at mary at the table the next day lmaoo #marylily #mary macdonald #lily evans #the marauders #marauders era #marauders fandom #marauders

[cinamun]

My spotify wrapped just proved that I am the Blackest person to have ever existed.

Good morning.

#spotify wrapped #soul music raised me #its also extremely meditative #like y'all don't understand the healing qualities in Woman's Gotta Have it #its called soul music for a reason #love y'all!

[gxlden-angels]

I don't know if it's the religious trauma or the dead mom trauma but the conservative christian insistence on not teaching children about their bodies in school and insistence that this knowledge should be private in all circumstances with no exceptions should be seen as suspicious at best and criminally malicious at worst

#but wait there's more #I know this isn't a new hot take or anything #but I have 'periods' without blood cause of medical reasons and every time I get them #I think about my great aunt scoffing at me for admitting Im on birth control before she told me #how until she was maybe 16-18 y/o she thought holding hands with boys she liked would get her pregnant #and I think about being 9 y/o and just losing my mom only to be told a few months later that Im a woman now #I was barely sentient let alone a woman #and with the recent period talk ban in florida #where you can't even discuss periods without getting in trouble before 6th grade #how scared and alone I already was being raised in this cult where everything was hush hush #My dad couldn't teach me about them and my extended family didn't tell me about all of the reproductive conditions we have running thru us #so I barely talked to anyone until I was like 13-14 and so anemic I was blacking out and sleeping 14 hours a day #and no one told me it wasnt normal until then #it's dangerous at best and deadly at worst

[grayintogreen]

The organ music playing in the bg when Bobby Dawn talks deserves its own trigger warning because of the VISCERAL RAGE that overwhelmed me

#Brennan BRENNAN you were raised by a woman who studies PAGANISM #YOU ARE FROM NEW YORK #HOW CAN YOU KEEP TRIGGERING ME A DISGRACED SOUTHERN BAPTIST #god I have never felt such anger so fast #good job BRENNAN #dimension 20 #fantasy high #d20 spoilers #anyway Gertie bladeshield is amazing and I hope she and Kristen become dumbass for dumbass

[the-hawkeyes]

#a little makeup never hurt #god she is so fucking pretty y'all #it's the softness of a woman who know longer needs her strength to keep herself sage #safe #im high excuse me #gone through the death of her husband at Cartenaeu #raising her son by herself #meeting a woman and falling in love and getting married again #liberating her homeland #realize that her fight is over #adopts a daughter #live a peaceful life #but always shaped by her past

[bumblingbabooshka]

Tuvok & Seven of Nine should have been overbearing co-parents to the borg children

#non romantic co-parents and they won't even admit they're friends (they don't have* friends! they don't need friends!) #star trek voyager #they are organizing a joint schedule they have a shared space google doc #Seven of Nine #Tuvok #They are both overbearing in different ways <3 #I think Tuvok is an excellent father and also that he would not be able to parent every child effectively - especially non Vulcans #Meanwhile Seven is like 'Children are basically little employees I have to train yes?' #Chakotay: You're not going to be raising this children...alone. will you?? #Seven: Of course not. / Chakotay: Thank G- / Seven: Commander Tuvok will assist me. #Chakotay: -the most forced smile ever- o h h........ #*spoiler: They're very good friends #I think Tuvok would want them to be better behaved than they are but know that children are unpredictable to a degree and they've #been through a lot meanwhile Seven really has no reference for what children are supposed to be do and act like #besides. Seven doesn't need to be a mother. She's like twenty something and newly independent - she should have been at the club instead of #performing femininity so she could be a ''''''real woman'''''' #Stop making female characters mothers.......its enough. #None of the VOY women should have been mothers. Maybe Kes - she seemed like she maybe wanted kids. I could see Kes being a good mom #down the line (not in Elogium I liked that episode and its ending) but none of the rest of them needed #or seemed to particularly want that

[uncanny-tranny]

Sometimes, when people try to invoke "trans-inclusive" bioessentialism in their arguments, I want to ask exactly what about our assigned sex says about our place in society, and ask how they've worked that into their worldview in a way that somehow simultaneously doesn't deny who we are and includes the fact that a trans experience will mean that we navigate the world in often very different ways than our cis peers, and often bucks the trends of what is commonly experienced by cis people

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #biological essentialism #bioessentialism #(mentions of SA and transmisogyny after this tag) #saw somebody saying that 'AMABs' essentially don't have to worry about SA... #...but 'AFABs' do because 'that's what they were raised in'... #...ignoring 1.) trans people AMAB are disproportionately aware of SA and its affects and... #...2.) nowhere in 'AFAB' biology dictates that they have a sixth sense surrounding anything adjacent to SA #i only started being terrified of being targeted AFTER i came out as a trans man and AFTER i started presenting male #where does that put me? how am i 'more aware' than a trans woman who is deeply aware of what SA is and looks like because of *experience* #this is why incorporating bioessentialism and thinking you can revive it but make it better by being trans-inclusive will NEVER work #you are operating on a FUNDAMENTALLY patriarchal understanding of human experiences/development/societal placement #you are still upholding the exact same tennents of patriarchy and who it protects and subjugates #(not only that but in they took to attention directly away from an artist with trauma about SA and made it about sex) #(like great... glad we're *still* treating survivors like shit by ignoring their stories/art/messages/experiences (sarcasm))