#tw abusive relationships

[stiffyck]

hi i heard we were shitting on double life and gotta say some of the fanon interpretations were untagged and traumatizing. grians not a shitty abusive cheater stop writing torture porn and make an oc

What gets me the most is how a lot of people don't even seem to realise they're writing an abusive relationship.

They go "haha yea desert duo is so funny they're both fucked up <3" but then it's just. Abuse.

If you're writing a desert duo or a scarian fic and Grian is hurting Scar over and over again and Scar then goes on to forgive him AND GIVE HIM COMFORT AFTER GRIAN REPEATEDLY HURT HIM BECAUSE HE LOVES HIM I'm sorry to say but that is borderline abuse.

Doesn't matter if grian is traumatized, that's still abuse.

I know people who have been in abusive relationships. They might refuse to leave their abuser because "I love them tho." and because their abuser is sometimes nice to them.

Maybe if you're writing scarian like this you should realise that Grian hurting Scar over and over again is not healthy and not good and it definitely shouldn't be portrayed as anything else besides an abusive or a toxic relationship.

Because you never know who will read it. Is it someone young who might get into a relationship like this in the future? Is it someone currently in an abusive relationship that will read this and think it's "okay" and a normal relationship??

If you're writing angst like this I'm begging you to think about what you're actually writing to and TAG IT PROPERLY.

Not asking you to stop writing this, just asking you to tag it properly

I'm sorry this got so heavy but good lord it seriously fucks me up HOW MANY PEOPLE don't even seem to realise they're glorifying a borderline abusive relationship.

#stiff talk #asks #cw abuse #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships #i dont know what yo tag this #ask to tag

[inkblot22]

Idia and the expression of displeasure

Uh, shoutout to that guy who I thought was my friend, asked me if I wanted to hook up despite being over 1000 some-odd miles away, despite me being very openly not that into men and, more importantly, telling him very clearly that I have no interest in dating him specifically. You're so cool for that, man. I just love to feel like an object. The "something about me" is the crippling c-PTSD, anxiety, and possible psychotic illness rotting my brain and your reading of me as a "Creepy Goth Chick", thank you.

Anyway, I hope I was able to direct that shitty man behavior onto our beloved Idia. I did tag you, it's later on and if you'd like me to remove it, I can absolutely do so, just let me know. Also all I can think about is this vine.

Dividers by @/cafekitsune

TW for verbal abuse, manipulation, emotional abuse, captivity, use of a shock collar, mention of physical abuse, Idia is an asshole, abusive relationship dynamics, lack of communication.

Idia is the type of person to believe he is pragmatic, when, in reality, he is rather mercurial. He will fly off the handle at the smallest thing but be completely unbothered by larger issues.

I imagine this could lead to a few problems for his dear, sweet partner. (By the way, I refer to Idia’s darling as his partner because that is what they have rationalized their situation to be, currently: they are Idia's captive partner. Idia doesn’t label them very often, and although he does call them his partner, he definitely sees them as an endearing pest, kind of. Despite them being there because of him, he often acts like they're a mouse or roach that popped up one day and he grew attached to.)

Idia is not the type to like striking or physically harming his partner. He’s the type to get rude and nasty, and play victim. This does not mean he doesn’t ever physically harm his partner.

See, that shock collar around their neck? We have previously established that this is connected to his technomantic energy, and his technomantic energy is connected to his inherent magic ability.

The collar is set up with a warning system. If Idia’s partner does anything he remotely dislikes or any set of pre-established actions that they are not made aware of, they will receive three low-voltage, quick-tap jolts of electricity right against the column of their pretty throat.

These actions include, but are not limited to: acting in any way to harm Ortho or Idia, attempting to harm themselves (this one had to be added after the hanger incident), walking too close to the door or the covered-up window, touching any of Idia’s current or past projects without permission, touching Idia’s gaming setup, ignoring Ortho (this only is put in place if Idia’s partner is hostile towards Ortho at any point, even just once) and refusing any food or drink given to them by Idia specifically. It's important to reiterate that Idia has not told his partner literally any of these rules. Much like the ways that some people train a dog, they have to learn the hard way.

After the three taps, Idia’s emotions and/or intentions dictate how intense the next shock is. Sometimes it’s a bored little zap, like a fourth warning to cut it out before he gets mad, sometimes it’s a rolling pulse that pulls them away from whatever they’re doing, sometimes it’s a tidal wave that literally brings them to their knees and makes them throw up. It really depends on the most annoying kidnapper in the world. 

Idia is very aware that holding this person hostage because of his own predilections and perversions is a wildly morally incorrect thing to do, but Idia also doesn’t give a steaming shit. He’s been given what he wants, having grown up as a member of the upper crust, and if he doesn’t get it given to him, he finds a way to get it.

This means that, as much as we all love him, Idia is a whiny pisslord. The second his partner doesn’t do what he wants, he’s grumbling about it, he’s whining, playing victim, getting huffy.

While that might not sound bad, please remember that Idia’s partner has a bunch of exposed wires situated with the intent of shocking them around their neck at all times, and the shock collar is connected to Idia’s emotions. While getting shocked in a more violent manner isn’t very common for them, it can still happen, and therefore it's possibly best to do a little eggshell walking.

Besides that, it’s not very pleasant to be around someone who is so volatile, even if at their most disappointed they just complain for a few hours or days. Having to deal with someone else’s displeasure in life while being more or less unable to discuss your own does not do wonders for your mental health.

Let’s go over some scenarios and the punishments connected to them.

Idia has been playing some online fighting game all day, pretty much ignoring his partner. He hears them move during a cooldown between matches, turns around in his chair, and asks demands that they come over and let him kiss them a little. Of course, Idia’s partner declines. In this situation, Idia would usually get upset and complain about it for a while, name calling included. His words and mood definitely have the vibe of, “How dare you breathe around me and then not let me touch and kiss you. That’s just leading me on, breathing around me.”

Idia’s partner made some cup noodles while Idia was taking a nap after he raged all night and well into the afternoon. He wakes up and sees them sitting in his gaming chair, facing away from his computer and eating. In this situation, Idia would straight up zap them for two reasons. Number one, they didn’t make him anything to eat, and number two, they’re not supposed to be sitting in his chair or at his desk. Anywhere near his computer/anything that could possibly be used to contact someone on the outside without supervision is a huge issue. Keep in mind that he never deigned to share this rather important rule with his partner.

Idia’s partner has a bad day and snaps at Ortho, shoving him away very, very gently. It almost goes without saying; they’re getting zapped to the point of unconsciousness, because Idia panics and then gets mad, in that order and in rapid succession. The emotions blend together for a moment which makes the jolt stronger. This is when the “no ignoring Ortho” rule would be implemented, because they’d better be really nice to Ortho for the next few months before Idia decides he can trust the two of them to interact without his watchful eye. He trusts his little brother, but he doesn’t trust his partner.

In honor of a certain discussion I had with @tht0nesimp (thank you so much, you're very insightful,) Idia’s partner has a meltdown (understandably) and starts throwing things, including a glass of water that was brought to them after they had a bit of a cry in the shower (stay hydrated, everyone.) The glass, still with the water in it, sails across the room and clocks Idia right in his pretty face, ideally breaking his nose. While it’d be understandable to assume that Idia would be mad enough to hit his partner with a jolt of electricity that would bring them to their knees, Idia is sensible enough to understand that this is a display of some form of hysterical emotions that his partner has been bottling up until this point. Therefore, instead of electrocuting his partner, he just starts complaining, more loudly than usual. It is not peculiar for his voice to rise in volume but not in inflection, we hear this in game, but imagine that just a bit louder and more whiny.

“Wow, and here I thought you were an adult. I can’t believe you can’t even control your emotions.”

“My nose hurts. No, don’t apologize. It’s your fault anyway. I don’t even want to know what you’d do if you were really mad.”

“If you want to make it up to me, you could- don’t make that face. Whatever, I knew you weren’t being serious. Whatever. Just ask Ortho to get me an ice pack and go sit somewhere away from me. It's fine. It's fine!”

#twisted wonderland #tw: dark content #disney twst #tw: dark themes #tw: yandere #yandere #twst #tw captivity #tw shock collar #tw: emotional abuse #tw abuse #tw manipulation #tw verbal abuse #the blot gets personal??? #the blot talks! #yandere idia x reader #yandere idia shroud #yandere idia shroud x reader #yandere male #tw yandere #tw abusive relationships

[orchidzflagz]

Tw: implied in sys abusive relationships and pseudo memories. Also mentions of paraphiliac disorders, intrusive thoughts, and implied forms of abuse

Theatre System/Alters

Name comes from the theatre masks (comedy and tragedy) I used in the flag.

Theatre alters are alters that, due to intrusive thoughts, paraphiliac disorders, or the abuse the system experience(s/d), are formed with or later gain abusive in sys relationships, and possibly related source memories. This alters nearly always come in pairs.

These relations can include but are not limited to: chiId/parent or general ince/stous relationships, physically abusive relationships, ped0philiac relationships, etc.

This alters can be split by Abuser and Abused (Cject and Tject based also on Comedy and Tragedy (though not implying the abuser is comedy, just associated with the smiling mask for differentiation).

Cjects can be repulsed by the pseudomemories or formed relationships and attempt to distance themselves, and Tjects can seek out the relationship and their Cjects. It honestly depends on the system.

All parties need help.

#tw abusive relationships #tw abuse #cdid system #traumagenic system #cdid #complex dissociative disorder

[chaosdisorganized]

I'm so so so tired of people stealing language from abuse victims and changing the meaning to something different.

Love bombing happens in abusive relationships, it's a term used to describe an abuser using grand gestures after an incident to keep their victim hooked. It's not a term to be used in regular healthy normal relationships.

Trauma bonding happens in abusive relationships, trauma bonding happens when after an incident, the abuser comforts the victim. In abusive relationships the victim is isolated from outside support, so their abuser becomes their only means of support, thus creating a trauma bond. Trauma bonding IS NOT bonding over trauma. It's not a term to be used in regular normal healthy relationships.

Red flags is a term to describe certain behaviors or patterns to look for in suspected abusers/abusive relationships. It is not personal preferences, it is not triggers, and it is not something to be watered down into whatever tf people are using it for nowadays.

Stop stealing terminology from abuse victims. When terminology like this is watered down the way its being watered down, you're helping abusers, not victims.

#vent #actually traumatized #actually abused #love bombing #trauma bonding #red flags #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships

[hopalongfairywrens]

It is 2023 I don’t know what to say to you at this point if you think c!pumpkinduos relationship isn’t abusive or you hate people adding canon material evidence to why it is abusive accept for please unlearn your abuse apologism you nasty piece of shit.

“It woobifies the character.” Shut the fuck up forever actually in what world is any of the shit c!schlatt does okay?

#dsmp discourse #dsmp lore #dsmp lore discourse #dream smp #dsmp #dsmpblr #c!schlatt #c!quackity #c!schlackity #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships

[haruhar-u]

I wish people would stop believing what my ex says about me because I never did any of that. I’m not a villain she is. She’s the one playing the victim because she’s too full of herself to admit she did anything wrong

#She fucking lied to me during our whole relationship #And then said I was the abuser???? #I did nothing wrong #i even offered her a second chabce #Which she pretended to take #Then backstabbed me again #tw manipulation #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships

[thorniest-rose]

Something told me to wait awhile before reading Prism, so I did. But, I have since read it in its entirety four times. This version of Eddie is so shockingly similar to my ex who I’ve been in a relationship off and on (and been in love with) for over the course of 15 years. It’s been oddly comforting while also being a bit cathartic to read. So thank you to you both for writing. I’m excited and nervous to see how it all ends.

That is so touching, thank you so much for telling me 💖 It means so much to me that the relationships we've created feel authentic and feel close to people's real experiences in abusive and toxic relationships. wow, and having read it four times!!! Az and I actually think tomorrow's chapter is the best one so far, so I hope you love it 💗💗💗

#asks #prism fic #tw abusive relationships

[wildestdreamcatcher]

what's have summer's past relationship looked like? i think they were kind of short lived tbh

TW: Mentions of abusive relationships

Her past relationships before she got with Jude never really that good. Because of what happened with Jake, she kind of ended up in really bad and borderline abusive relationships. They never really lasted longer than 9 months which is longer than they should've. She was kind of used to that because she felt that was what a normal relationship was.

@bfluva @sadlonelyyogurt

#summer curtis #ceanna's ocs #cece's ocs #tw abusive relationships

[wandering-woods-official-v2]

Welcome to the wandering woods

This is my AU/rewrite it will contain dark themes such as canniblism, abuse, abusive relationships, child abandonment, angst, murder, child murder, gore, horror, and other themes, if those things trigger you PLEASE DON'T READ

This au was inspired by bonefall, Shattard paths, ailurocide, strelles-universe and fatal-rewrites-warriors they are big inspos of mine and I adore their stories/aus/rewrites go check them out, I am also inspired by skyrim culture and the world building

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important docs

The bone/teeth issues doc

The feather Issue doc

Warrior cat and anti-indigenous writing

Hello, my name(s) are zero/moth/Lucifer/leviathan, I'm 19 I use they/it/he/bun, and I have been working on this au since I was 14, I have ADHD so I will forget stuff and possible retcon myself, if that happened please let me know

Main blog: @zeromothman

Ask blog: @ask-rustflame-blog

Discord user: zeromothman

SpaceHey: Zeromothman

[divders are by @cafekitsune]

Proshipers dni, zoos dni, homophobes dni, transphobe dni, BURNING THISTLE FANS DNI, etc

#warriors rewrite #warrior cat au #warrior cats au #warriors au #wandering woods au #eldritchbeing ravenpaw au #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships #tw child abandonment #tw angst #tw murder #tw child murder #tw gore #tw horror #wandering woods rewrite #tw cannibalism

[akindplace]

It sounds like you’re enduring a breakup. And I’m sorry you didn’t have a better man. Worst then not being loved is being loved poorly or falsely.

Me and this person have been apart for a while now. I had a nightmare about them and it reminded me of all the toxic stuff that happened and I got so anxious. I wrote about it. It was a traumatic situation. The person still reaches out sometimes, but they reach out only when they need me to either fix things or for sex. My love life used to be very chaotic. To say the very least. I think I am finally finishing processing that trauma now, but it took time.

#tw abusive relationships #tw trauma

[silentfoxproductions]

Me: Hey so you have been like suicide baiting me and threatening to like shoot up a school AND use Slurs against people of color. I don't think we should be together anymore now that I've discovered these things that are very much red flags.

Him: FUCKING (insert slur here x3)

Me:

#suicide tw #tw slurs #tw abusive relationships #me when #rip #not the first time Ive been called slurs #probably wont be the last

[msfbgraves]

I think that one of the hardest aspects to deal with when processing a love that's 'got teeth' is, where do you leave the love?

If your lover abused you, in a myriad of ways, maybe, the abuse, well, that can be picked apart. But this person loved you. And you loved them, and that sears. That is what binds, after all. "That is not love", bitch, if that isn't love, you are robbing me of my powers of recognising love in nonabusive settings. No. No, given that it was not wrong, you were loved, genuinely loved, by someone who would hurt you... again where do you put that, what does it mean?

Because there was no moustache curling. They genuinely cared. They chose to act on other feelings than that care too often and without apology and you said, if only in your heart, no, not like this, I won't let myself be hurt, and then you stop it, or they or others, and then you see them later, and your heart says, there was love there, and their gaze tells you the same, and either you avoid each other too hard to be casual, or they reach out somehow, and you feel, there is love there... where do you put that, what do you do with that, a love that wasn't safe?

#tw abusive relationships #tw toxic relationship

[absurdthirst]

You seem to be very good at advice, so I want your opinion on something. If you decide not to answer, that is fine. I just need some unbiased advice.

A few months ago, I noticed an individual making some very cryptic posts on a social media site that seemed self-harming in nature. Having been in a similar mindset before, I reached out to them in hopes of giving them a reason to hold on. I spoke to them via DM on several occasions, and gave them my phone number hoping that what I was doing was being helpful.

Before I knew it, this person was constantly making veiled threats about self-harm in private messages to me, and telling me how bad their life was and how they just wanted to end it all. When I would call them on it (veiled self-harm threats) they would deny it and/or beg me not to contact anyone on their behalf. When I would make suggestions on how to work through some things (based on my past experiences with dark thoughts), they would just scoff at me and say they couldn’t do that.

It got to the point that they were causing me major anxiety because it would be late at night when they would message me and I didn’t answer back because I was sleeping (we were on different coasts.) They wouldn’t answer my replies until 4-5 days after, making me worry about their well-being. They even attempted to make me feel bad for speaking to other friends either on the platform/IRL/via text, and would send me passive aggressive messages stating how “they were sorry they weren’t enough for me” and “maybe they’d just disappear”.

I didn’t want anyone to harm themselves, but in the long run he was harming my mental health by manipulating my feelings in the way he was. Eventually I ended up blocking the person’s number. They got a new number and continued to text me. I blocked that number plus their social media account as well. They created a new account on which to message me. I finally had to change my phone number and delete/restart my accounts under a different pseudonym so that he would not be able to contact me anymore.

It has made me very leery of messaging someone now - worried that I will get roped into another toxic *friendship* where I am expected to be at their beckon call and always dumped upon.

Am I an asshole for doing this?

No you are not an asshole for this. While I understand wanting to help someone, you are not a licensed professional for mental health (I'm assuming) and you should not be used as someone's emotional punching bag.

Your own mental health was being severely affected and having lived with a ex who was exactly what you are describing, I'm going to say you did the right thing.

At the end of the day, you are not responsible for anyone's mental wellbeing but your own. And for them to try to put this on you is incredibly toxic and manipulative. They need the help of a professional mental health worker rather than emotionally abusing you.

The fact that you set a boundary and cut contact and they essentially stalked you in order to continue says a lot about them.

There are people who truly want help and need friends, and then there are people who weaponize their mental health against others. It seems like this person is the latter.

#real talk #tw mental health #tw abusive relationships

[kriskalutz]

28 Bloody Nights CAS Challenge #17 - Almost Human

*Warning: We do talk a bit about a past abusive relationship in this one.*

Daniel: How come you've never talked about being a Vampire before?

Edna: Mom doesn't really like me talking about it, especially online. She's worried my dad might come and find us, but its been years since we moved to Henford-on-Bagley. I doubt he really cares about either of us at this point.

Daniel: ...Your dad's that bad huh?

Edna: You have no idea.

"Today we have yet another suspected victim of the Britechester Butcher, this time in San Myshuno. Police responders in the area-"

...Its all my fault.

Jessie Baker wasn't really popular or liked in Britechester High School. She was mocked for her Vampirism and even had garlic stuffed into her clothes and backpack. But in her junior year of high school, the most popular boy in school admitted he had a crush on her and the two started dating. They stayed together for 5 years, got married and even had a little girl, Edna.

That guy was Thomas Bentley, now known as the Britechester Butcher. In public he was nice and respectable. In private he was angry. He screamed. He threw things. But he never went as far as to hurt Jessie or Edna. He assured her that it was just 'stress'. He'd get help. He was working on it. He'd make it up to her.

Thomas managed to convince Jessie into turning him into a Vampire. He claimed if he was a Vampire it would make things easier for him. He wouldn't be so tired as often. He'd have more time to work on things. And he didn't want to die and leave Jessie and Edna on their own. She really thought it would help. She loved him and wanted to see him do better.

And now he's the Britechester Butcher. He hadn't even fully turned before Jessie had to flee the house with her daughter. Things got so bad her family helped her move to Henford-on-Bagley to escape him. She's still terrified that he'll one day make the jump across the pond and find them. Her daughter keeps reassuring her that there's no way she could have known this is what would have happened, but she just can't stop blaming herself.

Jessie Baker - Young Adult, She/Her, Download Here

Paranoid, Gloomy, Geek - Nerd Brain Aspiration

Likes: Blue Color / White Color / Retro Music / Baking Skill / Cooking Skill / Gardening Skill / Knitting Skill / Video Gaming Skill / Writing Skill

Hates: Mischief Skill

Want Thomas, Jessie and Edna all together? Download Here

Edna is Thomas and Jessie's daughter, but the pair are seperated (most likely from an emergency divorce filing or something similar on Jessie's part). They're listed as Edna's parents but aren't married.

#sims 4 #the sims 4 #28 bloody nights cas challenge #28 bloody nights #28bloodynightscas #tw abusive relationships #my sims #sims 4 sims

[chaosdisorganized]

Omg my abusive ex has been talking to my friend trying to get ahold of me. She asked him why he wants to talk to me so badly and he said to apologize and I guess he's in therapy now? I guess his counselor told him to apologize to people for his past actions and he's trying to reconcile. I'm all good on that honestly like good for him for getting help, he needed it, but he needs to learn his victims aren't going to just let him back into their lives because he said sorry. I don't forgive him, he's the reason I was homeless, he ain't getting a damn thing from me. Fuck that bitch.

#vent #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships

[everyothermouse]

Bonus vanilla since i didnt like the first drawing that much!

#artinevee #art #oc #artists on tumblr #original character #digital drawing #digital doodles #cute art #my art #tw knife #tw injury #tw abuse #tw abusive relationships #The first drawing was very fun to draw tho! #boiling over #vanilla