#use your privilege for good

[ghcstvalleychief]

I think it's a bit of generalization no? To dismiss all those who salivate over crappy bls? Sure there is fetishism, and those who fetishize ( i mean look at how many fanboys salivate over the slave!leia costume). But I don't think they are as unaware...I used to think that. But the more I go through their personal blogs, I feel like I had projected whatever negative things I had heard on all of them.

I don't know who shits on kp or what is their reason, but many fans of bl have their own reasons for liking the " less polished" stories. We all come from different places all over the world. We all have different experiences and sometimes we will take any lgbtq media no matter how cringey it is. That's our only release. Yes perhaps most times it is just about watching two guys rubbing it off...maybe that's wrong, I don't know. But maybe it's also something personal? I don't know.

In what world is that scenario any better? That's just like saying that people who are aware of their racism is better for it because they know they're racist. Honestly, that's even worse. You know you're a bigot and you're okay with that? Wow! I've been fetishized for a number of reasons and I guarantee it does not feel good. You're not treated like a real person. You're treated like an animal in a zoo; you're not treated like a human being who's more than just this thing a bigot can use to Other you.

How about you confront your bigotry and unlearn it? Now, that's a novel idea. That's what I really want. I don't care if you're well aware of being racist or aware of the fact that you fetishize people, how about you unlearn it? How about you examine why people feel uncomfortable about the fact that you engage in this behavior to begin with? Listen to the people affected by it and learn something from it. There's a privilege in being able to fetishize the 'abnormal' and the 'exotic', isn't there? Fanboys fetishized and sexualized Slave!Leia, and Carrie Fisher coming out and emphasizing that Leia was forced to wear that costume and the character didn't choose to wear it; she was a prisoner. There's a privilege in seeing that costume as a sexual thing when the context of it has far more troubling consequences because everyone internalizes the media they consume.

If you're not an individual who is apart of the LGBT+ community, you must ask yourself why you find your 'freedom' in this community that you shunned and forced into the closet for centuries. Apo was essentially chased out of the country and the industry because they didn't think he was 'masculine' enough and you guys really don't believe this sightseeing expedition in the LGBT+ community has any negative real world consequences whatsoever. I'm not assuming anything about his sexuality or gender expression, but I am emphasizing how people treat individuals in the real world who don't fit the stereotypical role based on what society deems as 'normal.' The fetishization isn't doing anyone any favors if the privileged people engaging in it aren't using their privilege to change the way these people are being treated. Straight women who enjoy getting their rocks off to this type of thing while not using their privilege to change how these people are being treated in the real world will never fail to annoy me. You're having fun enjoying these attractive men simulate sex on TV but you're also laughing when your boyfriend refuses to leave these people alone in real life because he's too busy harassing them for who they are. Or worse, you don't say anything at all and he takes your silence as acceptance.

#anonymous #answered asks #use your privilege for good #but that may be asking for too much for the privileged #it's amazing #I've had horrible experiences with people who fetishized me #so yes; I do have negative opinions about these people #sorry not sorry

[bruciemilf]

One of my biggest pet peeves is the justice league being labelled as " The Avengers of DC" and its like. No? The avengers are law enforcement. The Justice League are volunteers

#its like -- captain america is the staple of US military and Superman is a public servant #the one avenger member who has no bounds or legal obligation is tony and its bc hes rich. you could argue that he actually lost #autonomy when shield recruited him because like. protection isn't necessary tied to 'good.' the avengers protect the planet bc sure #its what they believe in and feel like its their duty and yada yada but ultimately they're self serving and most of their #help is accidental. i say most of bc we've seen they abstain from getting involved unless they have a common interest #with dc its like. you have these people in a position of privilege (having superpowers -- which gives them a spot of advantage to ppl who #dont have it) who do the right thing because they WANT TO. and they can stop at any time because nothing stops them. #they COULD say 'yeah you're on your own. we don't really care anymore. duces!' but they Dont. #because through its many flaws dc realizes that goodness isn't only a choice -- its a responsibility #theres probably better ways to say this but. alas #batman #superman #wonder woman #green arrow #aquaman #the justice league #tjl #justice league #dc #dc comics #text #text post

[virtualcarrot]

[DE] musing abt the limits of superficial acab discourse and the way fandom deals with moral discomfort, I guess

“ACAB”, “the only happy ending should be leaving the RCM”, “you’re a terrible person if you draw/write these characters enjoying the sort of corrupt cop stuff that they canonically do in-game” discourse is killing meeee

God forbid you don’t performatively remind everyone that you do hate cops, actually; and god forbid that you don’t find that True Healing and Happiness for Disco Elysium’s characters can only be achieved by leaving the force.

Metas could be written about how Kim and Harry are actually deeply flawed people who enjoy wielding some form of authority in a way that they actually feel best working as cops

(is it healthy? no. is it Good™? no. Is it true to their character? this is where media interpretation comes in)

Metas could be written about how that doesn’t mean ACAB isn’t real, that just means they’re the kind of shitheads (that we, the players, still love) who enjoy being cops

Metas could be written questioning the amount they’d have to change to adapt to a life as civilians, how much and what kind of a push they’d need to go for it,  if it’s change they could even manage, if they could financially survive it, if they could find fulfillment in any other career, at their age

But no. Why waste time on that instead of easy slogans. I mean, we like them, these characters, and we don’t want to feel guilty for liking them, because what does it say about us, then, that we like flawed cops?

(nothing it says nothing it says we played a good nuanced extremely well-written game that skillfully made us like the sort of character whose past actions include sequestering some woman and beating a dude into disability. that’s what it says. i’d even argue that discomfort is part of the point)

#fandom #disco elysium #spoilers #meta : disco elysium #And hey! #I'm not saying that there aren't people out there writing corrupt cop content without realizing just how disturbing those behaviors are #either because of normalization #copaganda #privilege #or just deciding that they don't care enough to over analyze amateur works of fiction #(which while not ideal an argument can be made for to some extent) #what I'm saying is that the vast majority of ACAB discussion/content I've seen in this fandom is based on morality #and the search for an ideal more hopeful solution #more than character psychology #and while the hope for better is perfectly understandable and A-ok #and is where everyone should find a place to pitch their headcanons #the use of morality and politics as a blunt weapon to bludgeon people with and beat them into silence is exhausting #in general not even in this specific situation/fandom #especially since usually it amounts to: this UPSET ME (maybe even for good reason) so I'm going to make it YOUR PROBLEM #and RESPONSIBILITY

[uncanny-tranny]

I think as we grow up, we have to be really conscious of romanticizing the world we grew up in in order to scorn how the next generations are growing up.

Nostalgia isn't inherently bad, but especially in political spaces, be very wary of this idea that there is an Ideal Past we must Harken Back To.

It sucks to feel left behind, but such is the human condition. It isn't bad to feel nostalgic, but that doesn't mean that these new generations are inherently "lost" and "need to be saved (by you)", and I think that is very important to remember and try to be conscious of.

#politics #'the world you grew up in no longer exists' frankly... GOOD! #the world i personally grew up in was scary and lonely and traumatizing. no kid today should STILL be growing up like that #the whole 'nostalgia as a poltical means' is rooted in this idea that... #1) we all grew up in a hegemony 2) we all turned out the same 3) the way we grew up had more privileges afforded to us #and i personally like nostalgia! i like watching videocamera videos from 2005 and looking up super specific shit #but nostalgia does not a good world make #INSERT UMBERTO ECO'S FOURTEEN POINTS ON FASCISM #(though i don't always think nostalgia can lead to this in a political sense there is a fine line) #be very mindful of what motivates nostalgiaposting #is it because people miss childhood and how 'simple' it felt? or is there a different reason that motivates this type of posting? #are you romanticizing childhood to the point you are not remembering your childhood /at all/ but the *idea* of it? #and honestly it is SO jarring when my peers are nostalgic because it's like... we aren't even that old!! #it comes across like... the world is hard and it's getting harder and so we cannot chnage and must wistfully think of the past... #...and to me it comes across as almost... doomerist in how end-stage feelings of nostalgia and hopelessness seen #i feel compassion for the impulse to feel like your old life is over and you need to grieve it... #...but certainly that isn't the younger generations fault? especially because WE are now the ones rasing them and we still yet live #(even at our completely decrepit age of not even close to a mid-life crisis (sarcasm and lighthearted))

[ineffableaddiction]

I find it amusing that the only time Aziraphale or Crowley are shown paying for anything is during the ice cream scene at the end of season one and the magic shop in season two.

The rest of the time, it’s all like “Hey, ya. I’m taking your coffee and alcohol and meals at the Ritz and random dinnerware and you won’t notice. Ever.”

I really want that super(natural) power.

We mere humans just get arrested.

#good omens #crowley #aziraphale #ineffable husbands #it is your privilege to allow us to be your guest #money? what’s money? #i like wine #excuse me while I take random dinnerware from your establishment

[tibby]

truly exhausted of “”feminist”” films that don’t even really say anything revolutionary or even explore basic issues in depth and instead rely on 2013 tumblr esque dialogue to make a movie that feels hollow and removed from any subtlety or nuance because it’s too busy throwing basic statements at you like a hand grenade and almost play into these ideas of strawmen and make characters feel less like people and more like caricatures. but then because the film is so heavily based on this idea of being “”feminist”” any criticism is written off as just “hating women” because apparently film criticism dies whenever the movie is supposedly some feminist piece of art. a movie being by women and about women doesn’t inherently make it good and if all you’re doing is providing a more sanitised version of a movie that was made ten, twenty, fifty years ago then your stories are not only bland but also unoriginal.

#anyway i watched black christmas 2019 and. lmao. #also not for nothing but surely it undoes the entire point of your film #the point being Men Are Evil And Use Their Power And Privilege To Abuse Women #to then make the actions of the men in the movie the result of some fucking curse???? #because a guy 200 years ago did pagan rituals???? #disappointing because the idea of it sounds so good on paper. women murder evil rapist fratboys <3 #but instead we got terminally online dialogue and some stupid supernatural plot and like. terrible filmmaking. #also they did themselves no favours by marketing it as a black christmas remake #like what did it have in common besides sorority girls being murdered and being set at christmas #also original black christmas was arguably more feminist despite being made by a man in the 1970s but whatever #at least cary elwes had fun

[wishitweresummer]

The pretties

#they both have pretty privilege #but sylvee uses it for good and George for evil #like the two angels on your shoulder #I’m tired but look at them #I love beauty #georgenotfound #sylvee #sylveenotfound #snf if you will LOL

[onlyfangz]

it's so wild to me that there's really people out there who make up this hypothetical trans man in their heads that swans through life completely stealth. before t youre just seen as a regular woman or young boy and after t youre immediately a big strong man that 100% fits the rigid conformity men have to hit in order to be considered truly "men". fuck gnc people. fuck poc. fuck disabled men. fuck the dudes who just dont pass and never will.

but the REASON this made up trans man is so wild to me is because... i am a trans man that's been harassed about my gender! in public! by complete strangers! i am not on t. and i do not mean i was mistaken for a butch lesbian. i mean i have been clocked by several people, hurling abuse at me specifically because im a trans man. i mean i have been called faggot, tranny, asked incessantly what my gender is, backed into corners, shoved, spat at, had shit thrown at me, again, not because these people thought i was a lesbian or trans woman, but because they knew i was a trans man.

so it's insane to me youve made up this dude in your head that represents all trans men and then just... plug your ears and go LALALALALA when literally everybody in this fucking community tells you that that's not what it's like. but oh, im sorry, i forgot you watched a youtube interview with middle class passing trans male influencers and they said they get paid more, no you're right, they're just like me fr.

#charlie.txt #i have a beard and my voice does not match that #again im not on t this is just my natural body #if you tell me i have male privilege im going to laugh at you bc youre acting like a fucking clown #also! these dudes that theyre talking abt that are supposedly the paragon of trans malehood are always like. doctors. microbiologists. #surgeons. computer programmers. lawyers. #and its like. wow. yeah. youre doing gender theory so good right now buddy. no yeah youre absolutely right this dude making 6 figures SHOULD #be the poster boy that you base all of your thoughts and opinions on. #we live in 2024 not only do people know who tf trans men are but they also know what to look for to clock us #invisibility in trans men hasnt been relevant for fucking years now

[cpunkhobie]

white middle class to wealthy people are so crazy to me like. How are you so alienated from the system you live under

#jonah with a megaphone #Ik why it’s because of the racial and class hierarchy and how the system is built to support certain people and harms others etc etc etc. #ik why #But like. On a personal level howd u lack just that much critical thinking. Why dont you get that we hate the system but still live under #It. This is mostly about that post that got mad at people for hiring cleaners and then tried to say like. The people who did were lazy #Etc. but then the conversation devolved into how it was actually racist to hire undocumented people as cleaners or anything and like. #You understand conceptually that undocumented people deserve the same rights and privileges and protections as documented citizens but you #Don’t. Get structurally. and realistically. That we are still living under a system where those rights aren’t available to them #So you’re saying that they just. Shouldn’t be fucking hired??? That people shouldn’t fucking pay them for their goods and services??? #im not talking about like. Walmart which is a megacorp where the morals and standards we view them are completely different #im talking about immigrants running their own businesses and people saying people using those services are exploitative like. Do you hear #yourself. You’re saying they shouldn’t be fucking paid. You’re saying they shouldn’t be getting their own work. Do you hear yourself #your ideas of race and class is so alienated from actual reality it’s baffling. How do you live like that #mixed kid rage

[bijoumikhawal]

"Biden is the best choice and he's actually really empathetic and reasonable but also you can't wait for a candidate that won't do genocide and war crimes because to become a presidential candidate you have to be willing to do that" see what you fundamentally don't understand is I'm not waiting for a candidate that won't do war crimes, because I know that. I cannot morally stomach this system, it's a joke to claim its democratic, and AMERICA DELENDA EST. this country is a plague on this Earth

#cipher talk #It's baffling because okay so you know how fucked up this is but you're behaving in a way that clearly indicates you want that this shambli #Disgusting empire to cling to life until after you're dead because it'd make /you/ uncomfortable and inconvenienced #To live through its destruction (the wealthier classes and more privileged experience lesser material changes in state collapse so long as #They aren't too highly ranked/involved in politics. A Sri Lankan wrote an article specifically addressing Americans about this) #It's so dehumanizing! People's blood is so cheap to you! You've just accepted its inevitable that genocide will happen! #Because of how the US operates! You can see no other future! It hardly matters to you! #You say this like the death of Palestinians of Yemenis of Syrians is someone else's dropped ice cream cone #You understand why people hate this country and you understand we deserve it but it just. Hardly matters to you #It feels like madness to watch this. It's disgusting #I keep thinking- it'd be so easy for you to justify my people being killed if violence broke out and it was in your favor #It's unlikely because. Well. America loves 'the church of the martyrs' #But you'd do it if that was favorable. You wouldn't think twice. You might feel a twinge in your heart but that's all #Because we aren't people to you! #We aren't all that important! Not important enough for you do anything more than 'well let's vote a blue in and do some protests' #What's a protest worth if you perpetuate the system and can't see a way out and don't try for a way out? #That's killing a man then putting flowers on his casket. It's /perverse/. #You get used to the idea that Africans die that West Asians die and that's just the way of the world. My g-d do you understand anything?? #I watch necrosis take hold my parts of my culture and I watch every good person I know be ground to dust under a military regime #I talk to my friend who got drafted and is trans and may never come out because if they do they can get arrested as a 'prostitute' #I watch the wild hope for the future I was introduced to over radio at 9 years old wither #I watch people risk it anyway because just past the fence they can see they know there are people there #I watch my neighbor to the south crumble and weep because our hands are bloody and it's in part because we bloodied them for the west #And you just think that's how things are. #Fascist white death cult mindset

[derpinette]

i have a weird relationship with weight because i hated eating more than anything the moment i was ready for solids ( i hate chewing with my entire life always have & will ) which made me underweight for most of my life ( to this day ) & during late primary-middle school this made me actively suicidal because i felt like something was wrong with my sex because i just was not developing whatsoever prompting me to have a years long phase of trying to gain weight in any way i could ( #EPICFAIL by the way ) & i was already insecure but i felt seriously so unforgivably ugly after bullying not just at school but by adults of my entourage. but then i did in my late 15s which prompted the pendulum to swing in the other direction & suddenly i FREAKED OUT & thought well being skinny is pretty much all i have & know myself to be & clearly it is not going to last forever so i Better preserve it i was delusional about how skinny i thought i was actually i look stumpy & weird i have to prove myself. But now i am normal again kind of

#also i used to get beaten to finish my food nearly daily & it would take me forever to do that like literally hours with no exaggeration #just made me hate eating even more. now my technique is eating as fast as possible before i even realize how overwhelming #the sensory experience is & i can just be done with it VS the pain&dread of eating slowly -> disgust of Everything+hyperawareness #eating tightens my muscles like i hate it so fucking much catching the food putting it in my mouth CHEWING swallowing #what a damn chore #so i always liked cheese it was my “safe food” pretty much the only thing i liked #i even hated the foods autists usually like like fries & fried chicken meatballs ETC. HATED. #i was/am more of a soup & turning all my food into varieties of Slop kind of girl nothing hard for me please... #i experienced middle school during the like ♯Thick era of the world which was honestly a good thing like for The Populace #but i felt like killing myself because i felt like an unforgivable fugly genetic failure & people did not hesitate to let me know #anyway either way i would be unhappy caus if i did gain weight during puberty i would have a meltdown about all the Changes #so i feel content for the time being about only losing the fat in my face & getting age appropriate wrinkles really #trying to enjoy the privilege of thinness while i have it because it will not last forever 0_0 but that should not matter anyway... #the privilege of thinness: being way uglier than others & constantly looking like a gibbon dying of disease + no energy or strength ever #JK people are much MUCH nicer to thin people & they do things for me on account of looking physically incapable so um yay i guess #light at the end of the tunnel that is very significant in the grand scheme of things socially. ♯CountingMyBlessings #also i was raised on ♯HAES tumblr from 2014-2018 i truly believed in that & was so damn envious i was not curvy & beautiful LOL #so i never hated overweight people really i think for the most part the SJW tumblr values stuck with me #but now i know it depends on your base frame & genetics & there is no guarantee to what you choose to do (naturally) acceptance is peace #sorry for the gigantic Arse post i just needed to get that off my chest for a long time. not on here specifically just in general #oh & i am a ♯Grignoteuse but grignoter (grazing) is different from eating in my mind&body #& my insecurity was not a result of wanting to fit in really but kind of in the sense that i wanted people to stop berating me for my looks #like body wise only & also not understanding why every other girl looked like a girl blossoming into a woman #& i looked like i was transitioning to Malnourished (unsexed) Ape made worse by bein GNC.& like the need for control later on & erthang ETC

[foxgirlmoth]

Imagine being one of the most well known trans streamers (at least that I've ever heard), being allowed to afford for pretty much whatever affirming care you want, and then making fun of another trans women for.... Being a trans woman. And then you throw a hissy fit when people say you're shitty for that. Like damn you have so many people going to bat for you for being a piece of shit to someone else in your own community, you can afford to do this, and then you just say you're not 'quirky' enough to fit in with us. You're just being an asshole. Trying to say 'normal' trans women don't exist is pretty fucking disgusting.

#I went and looked through the blog cause I was real curious #And just holy shit #They're throwing around 'awww people on tumblr have piss poor reading comprehension 🥺' and while that is often true #I feel like that phrase needs to be taken away sometimes because if 90% of the people who saw your post went #'WOW what an asshole!' #I think you may be a piece of shit #Like damn I wish I was quirky enough to get a good enough following on Twitch I could sustain myself and also get surgery! #That'd sure be great! #I'm glad she got that opportunity but I think she doesn't realize that is EXTREMELY fortunate #She is one of the most privileged trans women I've seen on here and she uses that to be an ass half the time

[yourcalamity]

does anyone else ever think how crazy it was when that “privilege quiz” thing was making the rounds on here like almost a decade ago now and people were genuinely up in arms that they werent as victimized as they presumed instead of recognizing and feeling immense gratitude that they have a place in life where they can actually help themselves and others

#like its only an insult to be called privileged if youre using it for evil… #if you use your privilege for good its literally a super power sometimes… #in that case its bad if you use it for nothing too but like its the same as inaction becoming violence really

[talentforlying]

tbh i think the coldest and most shocking thing that can happen in an argument with this man is if you call him "john" and he corrects you to "constantine". biggest red flag you can find on the play. sounds pretentious when you're not experiencing it. means he's absolutely fucking furious with you.

#like here's the thing: he's not going to correct you if he doesn't know you or like you. he won't give anyone that power over him #he won't ever let some random jackass know they've gotten under his skin. it's just not worth the effort to him. #so if he's correcting you? it means you know him on a personal level. it means you're at Bare Minimum good friends #and it means he's so fucking angry that he's rescinding your place in his life until the argument is resolved. the castle gates are closed #you are now on professional speaking terms until this is resolved and the professional constantine is a real nasty piece of work #who will not spare your feelings or try to salvage whatever you've built with him. professional constantine wants the job Done #i've talked before about how little effort his father put into naming him after his mum died and how unemotional john's been about it since #and how unique it must feel when someone says 'john' to him with love or care or compassion after a lifetime of hearing it in anything but #like his first name doesn't usually mean a lot to him! its use is not a closely guarded privilege! #but if he cares about you then calling him 'john' can feel as intimate to him as a kiss #and if you burn him he will snatch that level of access away from you for Months. sometimes Years. #so! yeah!! if he ever corrects your name choice in an argument then you've Really Fucked Up Buddy!!!! #( also. hypocrite that he is. if you're on 'john' terms and you call him 'constantine' in an argument FIRST he will be absolutely WOUNDED ) #( and he will cover with that professional veneer. that cold uncaring mask of anger. but it's trapped-cornered-animal anger ) #( it's let-me-cover-this-injury-before-you-can-really-get-your-fingers-in-it defensiveness. and he will be cautiously distant afterwards ) #( headcanons. ) I'M JUST LIKE THE BASTARDS I'VE HATED ALL ME LIFE.

[malewifeph1lza]

been a while since I’ve drawn them

#qsmp self insert #qsmpsona #my art #the binary says ‘I feel like I used to be someone’ :) #I think I’m gonna revoke their speaking privileges. you communicate through your screen only like a good computer #and with books #colts queue

[snekdood]

Some of yall deeply underestimate how much some cis men are threatened by trans men and our masculinity. How theres so many cis dudes out there that want to rape us, thinking that will make us detransition. How many incels out there are mad at us for betraying womanhood and not sucking their dick. How much they want to force us to detransition, how much they want to kill us and force us into hiding which, to me, minus well be killing us since theyre smothering who we are for the sake of a status quo. We shake their fundamental understanding of the world. Its one thing for a GIRL to be a tomboy to them. They think its cute, like a baby pretending to be an adult. Its a whole other thing for someone percieved as a woman to try to actually be a man to them. They think thw fact we have the gal to assume we can escape their grasp, to escape the kitchen or whatever tf, means we're disrespecting them and trying to "destroy" them, rather than what it really is, us trying to be independent. We're the exact thing these types of cis men hate. Sometimes they tolerate (emphasis here bc im not saying they accept yall. Dont twist my words)trans women bc they fetishize them but they want to completely eradicate us becayse we threaten the patriarchy by virtue of deciding we dont need a man to take care of us, we want to be the man that takes care of ourselves.

#and bc ik how some of yall are on this site and how uncharitable you are let me be clear: just because they TOLERATE trans women/fems #sometimes. doesnt mean i think they actually respect you or see you as you. im not abot to say you somehow have it easier. they want to use #you and then dump your body somewhere. im well aware of that. but they *also* want to entirely entrap us and our identities and keep us #smothered with no escape. its why were seeing child marriage laws. its why were seeing anti abortion laws. its why we're seeing rights #stripped away from ppl wrongly percieved as women becayse theyre so threatened by us and how we think we can be on our own #that they have to try more extreme measures ro control us our bodies and self expression. its why candace owens goes on saying #'does women voting actually do any good for anyone??' #and no. entrapment isnt them somehow caring about us mlre than you. thats their alternative to killing us but its not an alternative bc it #fundamentally strips us of our rights and autonomy. and also. entrapping us and forcing us out of our gender. like i said. minus well be #killing us. its not likely we'll just get to run away free from these men if they get this type of power. its more likely they kill us for #even daring to betray them their values and words. #so how tf is anyone more privileged in this situation? in trans spaces? can we really fucking say someone has it worse rn. #is it really worth it to try to divide and weigh who has it worse. bc they want both os us dead for being who we are. #and its not like they dont offer yall an out to. its just their out is ALSO basically killing yourself bc they want you to conform to #cishet white manhood. #also it goes both ways. cis women are like this towards trans women. its the proximity effect. #where you get more upset with different people who are also more like you than other ppl #the difference i'd argue though is cis men- at least the ones in power- have more of an ability to remove us than cis women #like its easier for them to do.