#vent asks

[inchidentally]

(accidentally like an idiot didn't censor the ask at first so reposted)

yeaaahhhh so this is proving every one of my points in here about what’s been worsening in this ship’s fandom

and like even as the larry level of delusion about carlando starts making you feel nauseous they gotta follow up with the heinous misogyny of viewing the women that Carlos and Lando actually were/are actually dating as disposable and worthless

oh and to “congratulate” themselves like that about Luisinha not being in Lando’s life anymore… Luisinha who these fans literally flooded with hate and death threats to the point that she couldn’t take it anymore !! is so fucking unhinged and cruel

and they wonder why Carlos doesn’t put Rebecca on his own socials when he literally already knows what these clowns are saying about her elsewhere

(as a fun side note I do get some enjoyment that the reality of Carlos voluntarily choosing to leave McLaren well before his one season with Lando was even done (to team up with Charles who Carlos is infinitely more sexually suggestive and flirty and coupley with than Lando) and that Lando and Oscar both signed up to three more years together is making these women-hating shits absolutely rage spiral within their own crazed reality)

again, I know that most of us still shipping carlando are not in the larry delusion group but honestly for me it’s got to take a backseat for a while. Liberty media etc have realized that crazed rpf fans make bank and unlike the yukierre and Danny Ric content the carlando stuff is potentially encouraging harassment of the people involved.

and if anyone wonders why I talk about Lily (Oscar’s long time gf) so often you’ve probably understood by now that it’s because we do NOT want these types of people deciding to make landoscar rpf their next home. they’re going to eventually get bored of carlando not releasing a sex tape or marrying or whatever they’re hoping for from two dudes who don’t even hang outside the F1 season - and I don’t want them breathing anywhere near Lando and Oscar content or the women in their lives. (can’t stop them from rage posting landoscar stuff but that’s at least ignorable lol)

if these types see the girlfriends being not only accepted but respected they will move on to the next ship.

#inchreplies #vent asks #landoscar #heads up for that tag about this #sorry for two posts lol

[newnitz]

"antisemitism is one of Christianity's foundations"

Considering that Jesus was a Jew, all the Apostles were Jews, and almost every prominent figure in the Old Testament were Jews, I'm going to assume that you are letting the rampant rise in antisemitism by American leftists get to you and are unintentionally arguing in bad faith.

Sincerely, a Roman Catholic who has a Jewish half sister and nephew and does not appreciate being called a bigot strictly on the basis of my religion.

Christianity started after all these people were dead. Christianity as we know it started when the Roman Empire decided "if you can't beat them join them" on the Messianics and made it their state religion, introducing pagan elements to make it more palatable for the masses.

You're not necessarily a bigot because you're Christian, you just need to be mindful of antisemitic tropes that have historically been part of Christianity(like deicide). Having a Jewish half-sister should make you more empathetic and vigilant towards those tropes.

My point is that leftist Americans were raised Christian and rebel against Christianity without guilt deconstructing many of what it taught them - Original Sin, Fire and Brimstone punitive justice and, of course, antisemitism.

#ask nitz #vent asks

[our-sapphic-experience]

not to vent/ramble a bit but uh

im a questioning queer and i am fairly sure i like girls because. pretty. etc etc heart emoji

but the lack of certainty i feel... i constantly wonder if i'm actually attracted to women and would actually be able to have a relationship with one or even a proper crush, whatever a proper crush is

i wish i could just. like. make a wish on a genie to be completely panromantic/pansexual or something and not have to keep second guessing myself

that’s rough anon i’m sorry 🫂

#our sapphic experience #vent asks

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

For the vent thing

I’ve started getting into hair as a way of self expression years ago and I’ve recently branched out to fashion (and a little bit of make up on some occasions)

Ever since I’ve felt a great euphoria looking into the mirror and realized how miserable I was before I started doing so. Like my dad combed my hair into braids recently and I started crying because it felt so horrible to take a step back into an attire that made me close myself in. And when I looked in the mirror I’ve never felt so ugly and out of place. Fortunately (or unfortunately) my brain has learned to take all those terrible feelings and put them on the baseline in a way you don’t notice until it is finally alleviated from said baseline.

Now I want to dye my hair. I think what I’m doing is quite subtle. I’m not dying my full hair it’s more of a peekaboo style but my sister is telling me “no you can’t think of our dad he’ll be so pissed and won’t let you do things”

But like I’ve been dreaming of dying my hair fake years. I know if I just do it I’ll be so happy like. When I look at myself in the mirror I’m so happy I cut my hair short and I know if I look with my dyed hair I’ll have stars in my eyes. I don’t care what my dad thinks. He’s called me ugly to my face before I think his opinion means nothing. Just annoying my sister cares so much. Not her head that’d be on the metaphorical chopping block.

Hi anon, im so so so sorry this got lost in my inbox.

this is a hard read, but anon the best thing for you to do is get the hell out the second you can. and be true to yourself but put your safety first

stay safe and we are all rooting for you and are proud of you <3

#asks #ask #vent #vent asks

[ykthatfeeling]

yk that feeling when you're the friend that listens to people when they infodump about experiences, interests, trauma, everything, and sometimes you just want to talk as well but it feels annoying to talk because listening is your thing and talking is their thing, and you've got so many interests and painful things you need to talk about but you never do. yk that feeling when people hide things from you then say they tell you everything?

yeah, I do. I think the healthy thing to do is mention this, but naturally that’s just something you can’t do sometimes

#thanks for the ask! #mental health #vent asks #anon #yk that feeling

[roxannarambles]

the anti-lunter lumity shippers actually scared me away from liking lumity-or participating in TOH fandom at all. i saw the "hunting palismen" episode right around when it first aired, thought "oh those two characters (luz and hunter) would make such a cute couple" and started poking my nose around the fifty different pairing tags lunter has just to see what was up-the level of absolutely off-the-charts biphobia abt lunter from lumity shippers and viciousness towards anyone who DARED to ship them (p*dophilia? really? over a TWO YEAR age gap? and incest? off of nothing more than vibes and headcanons?) made me, a bisexual woman, back away, and then turn around and SPRINT away from this fandom. I'm *just now* daring to look back around the tags, and even then i'll only ever "like" work other people have done-i'm sorry, but i just can't bring myself to reblog any of the gorgeous art or writing i see, or interact with this pairing in any way that has my name attached-even this ask is on anon, not after seeing the harrassment that's handed out over it.

Yeah, it can be pretty discouraging when you keep running into crappy people in a fandom. I used to be a big Lumity fan. But the more I interacted with mainstream TOH fandom, the more unwelcome I felt there. For example, I'm (mostly) straight, but I found in the discord servers and twitter that a large portion of folks were expressing open disgust and intense hatred towards anyone straight and said nobody straight should enjoy a LGBT ship. (???) It really soured my enjoyment of Lumity.

And yes, the claims that fans make to justify their Lunter hate are always utterly absurd. Sadly, it seems that petty bickering and bullying is just part and parcel of any online community. The only consistent solution I've found to all this is simply to be very particular about who you interact with. Poke around in fandom long enough to find particular people who are chill and not jerks. Maybe also look for sub-groups within the larger group. Sub-groups or sub-fandoms make it a lot easier to find cool people. And then once you've found some neat people you click with, hang out with those and ignore everything else, because there will always be some drama happening, but that shit's boring and not worth wasting any time on.

I completely understand if you choose to never interact directly with Lunter content, though. For what it's worth, I've seen a lot of folks create 'throwaway' accounts just for Lunter, so it's not connected with their main online identity; that's always an option if you felt like going that route. Or you could choose just to interact in the ship's discord server but not social media. Even a simple 'like' or silent enjoyment is still appreciated, though.

#asks #anon #lunter #goldenlight #you are correct our ship has like 50 different names and we really need to choose just one or two #lol #I want to also note despite everything I still don't hate lumity or lumity fans #I know there still are good lumity fans out there #vent #vent asks

[nothorses]

So in order to stay safe from my abusive parents and maybe win some amount of their trust back so I can, I don’t know, get a job and earn money to buy a service dog and leave, I have to detransition and act like a ciswoman. Nothing wrong with being a woman at all, but I am a man or a nonbinary so this just does…it’s not going to be fun. Wish me luck, hopefully this only takes a year and not three cause this is going to SUCK

I'm so sorry, that is honestly awful. I hope you get through it & get out okay- and quickly!!

#also you do not need to qualify this with like 'nothing wrong with being a woman' anon #nobody thinks that. you're trans. that's not a misogynistic act. #best of luck bro you got this #vent asks #old asks

[owl-house-incorrectly]

Phones are expensive. The sucky part is that it didn’t just crack. It actually didn’t crack at all, there’s just that glitch thing. Ugh.

I’m sorry, that sucks. And I am well aware of how much phones are, just bought one myself recently. I hope things get better for you.

#vent asks

[lastoneout]

Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

Edit: If everyone could please take a minute and think about what it must feel like to be struggling and then have multiple strangers say to your face that they find the prospect of going through what you're going through so horrifying that they'd rather kill themselves and then stop leaving comments like that I would greatly appreciate it.

#hply fuck y'all I haven't felt like this?? ever??? #tryinf to be gentle with myself #but I truly feel like I'm made of glass #personal #negative #vent #cw suicide mention #ask to tag

[inchidentally]

some of my trickier asks or things I want to keep out of the tags

[link was a twitter post saying they wanted to get rid of Oscar to have car|ando back together at McLaren]

AFASFGHLASHFL babe even as a car|ando person I have to let you vent that out because that is possibly the most cringe thing I have seen since maybe 2016. I am fully expecting DTS to do another segment on car|ando and frame it so that McLaren and Lando want Oscar to leave because he doesn't touch Lando enough on camera or use nonstop gay innuendo. forget teammates valuing respect for each other and piling up McLaren's hardware cabinet, why oh why won't Oscar tackle Lando to the ground or talk about dicks and balls with him for fancams 😭

sorry anon I'm just cutting off that last part bc I don't want to attract any discourse about it to my blog <3 but yeah I honestly find it baffling that car|ando ended up being the larry ship for F1 fandom when Carlos of his own volition chose to leave after one season?? if they were real life a couple and wanting sex all the time surely staying on the same team would make sense and that he wouldn't go to Ferrari and immediately start acting more like a besotted, handsy husband with Charles than he ever did with Lando yet no one thinks they're secretly married. why didn't he do like Daniel and stick it out with McLaren even during bad times to stay with Lando if real life couple

and straight up they're not only disregarding everything that Oscar has brought to McLaren and promises for the future ! they're deciding that Pato is disposable too. I say this as a semi fake fan but even I wouldn't base my predictions about contract negotiations on rpf.

<3 thankfully it isn't all of us car|ando people who go too far but it feels like the other side are getting louder and louder

honestly I can boil my two main issues with the car|andoisreal brigade to three points:

misogyny and publicly targeted hate toward their real life girlfriends who they actually do have sex with/have romantic feelings for and who they openly choose to be around at the exclusion of their sports bromance friend

this particular brand of car|ando revolving entirely around Lando being conveniently stripped of a personality apart from giggling so he can be handy insert for women desperate to have Carlos for themselves

bringing 1D shipping into yet another new fandom and basically rinse and repeat with Carlos and Lando's names inserted in the [namexname] box

I know that a lot of us car|ando folks are nothing to do w this garbage and the good thing is that usually these people take themselves out either by pissing off the men involved in the ship or getting bored waiting for their fake ship to "become canon" finding a new rpf ship to latch onto.

oh and I do know that the person who made the office meme about Lando saying the podium thing intended it solely as a joke but it found the Other Side real fast and they genuinely put it in their dossiers of car|ando vs |andoscar. which I don't get for many reasons but also if they think Carlos and Lando are in a secret gay relationship and Lando doesn't even like Oscar then why the need to keep going seeee seeeeee he loves Carlos not Oscarrrrr aslfhsalfhslahf jesus christ why am I even trying to rationalize this

thing is I don't want any more of this on my blog or in our part of fandom so I'm going to limit how much of any asks I'll answer about it. I don't at all mind if people need to vent but jsyk I might not always post it publicly.

I'd recommend blocking and not engaging with it to everyone else too. I might curb how much car|ando is on my blog for a while just because it's so embarrassing to be associated with the grown ass women stalking Rebecca/Carlos content and flooding it with car|ando comments.

#inchreplies #vent asks

[kuchipatch1]

yall have got to be more normal about Southern people and I'm not kidding. enough of the Sweet Home Alabama incest jokes, enough of the idea that all Southerners are bigots and rednecks, and enough of the idea that the South has bad food. shut up about "trailer trash" and our accents and our hobbies!

do yall know how fucking nauseating it is to hear people only bring up my state to make jokes about people in poverty and incestuous relationships? how much shame I feel that I wasn't born up north like the Good Queers and Good Leftists with all the Civilised Folk with actual houses instead of small cramped trailers that have paper thin walls that I know won't protect me in a bad enough storm?

do yall know how frustrating it is to be trans in a place that wants to kill you and whenever you bring it up to people they say "well just move out" instead of sympathizing with you or offering help?

do yall understand how alienating it is to see huge masterposts of queer and mental health resources but none of them are in your state because theyre all up north? and nobody seems to want to fix this glaring issue because "they're all hicks anyways"

Southern people deserve better. we deserve to be taken seriously and given a voice in the queer community and the mental health space and leftist talks in general.

#this is kind of a vent honestly but ive been thinking abt it a lot #ask to tag #ok to reblog #southerners #queer #lgbt #neurodivergent #alabama #georgia #tennessee #texas #discourse #? #poverty #southern queer

[newnitz]

As a non-Jew the past few months have been eye-opening. I hang out on a forum that has some Israeli posters who for years have brought up left wing antisemitism. I used to think "Maybe there's some truth here, but isn't this a little hyperbolic?". Everything they ever said has been brutally vindicated. It's made me seriously reevaluate the media I consume. I can't look at fucking breadtube the same way now, after seeing the sociopathic responses from figures like Vaush, Shaun, and Jessie Gender.

I'm just glad someone else is noticing this. Thank you for not looking away.

#ask nitz #good faith asks #vent asks

[cupcakeshakesnake]

It took me too long to realize that not all the world is my enemy

[ID: A comic done mostly in black and white. A hound with a broken chain around its neck flees a cage and runs into two reaching hands. The hound bites one hand, drawing blood. Narration says, "When I fled my cage / I bit the hands that took me in / Because the only hand I'd ever known / was a bad one."

The hands, now with fresh bite marks, still reach out gently to the hound. ""We're not him." they said / and I knew what they meant / but I didn't understand."

Floating in white space: "Now I understand / but the damage is done."

A person enters a door, rolling a suitcase, saying "Hi" to two people on a couch, who look up from their newspapers and phones to say "Hey" and "Hi" back. The shadow of the person who entered the room stretches out before them-- a hound's, not a person's. Narration: "I'm so sorry / I couldn't help it / I couldn't help myself."

We see the hands of the people on the couch. Both have faded bite marks on them. "I was so blind, I forgot / that not all hands are made of iron." End ID]

(ID by @princess-of-purple-prose)

#comic #original art #blood tw #ask to tag #digital art #comic strip #life #trauma #vent art #snake's art

[ykthatfeeling]

Do you ever see posts about for example "don't take x, y, z pills together for certain amount of time it could be fatal" or anything along the lines of "don't do this, you could accidentally kill yourself"

I see those psots a lot, and I'm always happy people might not accidentally kill themselves due to be uneducated about the matter

But I'm always way more scared by the this thought I have about those posts "how many people have seen this and now has a new suicide method they could try" "how many people have seen this,done this and then died cause they knew doing that could kill them"

Like I know sometimes I do that, I sometimes see it as a new suicide method and I'm scared about how many other people see it as such too and how many of them have died cause of it

Christ, just another example of where I'm scared for other people instead of for myself even when other people are in the same situation as me

absolutely, it terrifies me.

I always think the same, that I could try it.

but hey, if you’re looking for a sign not to, this is it! If you think no one’s cares, I will. I do.

#thanks for the ask! #mental health #vent asks #anon #tw sui mention #yk that feeling

[emsleyanbluejay]

“forcing people to use the restroom of the sex they were assigned at birth is stupid because it’s going to force trans men into women’s restrooms where they’ll make cis women feel unsafe because they look like men” fucking shut up.

i don’t care. i don’t care about cis women feeling uncomfortable with trans men in “women’s spaces.” i could not care less about cis women’s feelings on the matter.

i care about the transmascs at risk of abuse and assault because of being forced into women’s restrooms. i care about the transmascs and butches and intersex people being put in danger because of these bills. i care about the fact that people who supposedly care about me and my transmasc and butch and intersex siblings are glossing over that cis women are just as capable of violence as anyone else, that we can, and have been, and will be assaulted by them because we’re “stepping out of line.”

i don’t want to hear about us being “safer.” i don’t want to hear about the poor cis women’s feelings, and i especially don’t want to hear it from other transmascs.

you don’t know what you’re talking about. do us both a favor and shut. up.

#Blue Jay Chirps #venting #transandrophobia #ask to tag #eta: containment breached