How do I know if I'm bi?
So this might not be a helpful answer, but it is my genuine thought, and I want to be honest: You know you're bi if you find comfort, or happiness, or understanding of yourself in that label. It's not necessarily about split attraction to multiple genders.
Yes, bisexual people will often be attracted to more than one gender (not just man and woman, either! Many bisexual people aren't attracted to both binary genders because bisexuality is yet another complex and nuanced component of human sexuality, which in itself is inherently complex). Yes, many bisexual people express those attractions, and yes, many bisexual people share things in common. But frankly, not every bisexual is going to have similar experiences or thoughts or expressions of sexuality. My bisexuality is going to look different than yours might because I am a different human being. As such, I think it's less helpful to say "to be bisexual, you need to have these experiences," but it's more helpful to say, "if you find comfort in the bisexual label, use it"
The worst that happens with sexuality labels is you find one that matches better. I used to use the label pansexual when I was younger - the worst thing that happened was I stopped using it a year later when I felt it didn't accurately describe my feelings anymore.
If you suspect you're bi, there's likely a reason for that, and there's nothing wrong with you investigating that further. However, I don't want you to feel like you need to Prove Yourself to even use language that accurately describes your sexuality or sense of sexuality - no matter if that language is as simple as saying you're bisexual or not. Sexuality is an important aspect of identity for many folks, and you deserve the opportunity to make it as important or inconsequential as you want. Nobody is going to throw you in jail for not being bisexual or queer "enough." There's no law that says you have to have a 50/50 split attraction to binary men and women only to be bi. There's no bisexual card we hand out to you, saying you've been vetted as Bi Enough.
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Ur Ukrainian!!! Omg, are u making perogis for Christmas too?? If so, which ones are u making?
no i don’t celebrate orthodox christmas. my moms side of the family is very ukrainian (my great aunt and grandpa immigrated to the us after ww2 and my other grandma was born here at the beginning of ww2 to a ukrainian ambassador) and my great aunt does the whole traditional christmas eve dinner so that’s what we celebrate.
tho it’s not like all the dishes, she’s scaled it down over the years so we do the borscht with ushka, fried flounder, baked salmon with dill sauce, holupchi (sorry for the spelling) with mushroom sauce, regular potato pierogis and sauerkraut pierogis and a fuck ton of dessert. but there used to be i think like 2 more fish dishes.
my earliest memory is actually spitting out an ushka when i was 2 on christmas eve and my uncle making the most outraged face at me from across the table. baby saph didn’t like mushrooms aparently.
but merry christmas!! i’ll eat some of my pierogis on orthodox christmas in honor of all my fellow ukrainians out there :) if i can fucking make dough that cooperates
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365 Days of Writing Prompts: Day 273
Adjective: Sleepy
Noun: Bear
Definitions for those who need/want them:
Sleepy: needing or ready for sleep; showing the effects of sleep; inducing sleep, or soporific; (of a place) without much activity; (of a business, organization, or industry) lacking the ability or will to respond to change, or not dynamic
Bear: a large, heavy mammal that walks on the soles of its feet, having thick fur and a very short tail, and bears are related to the dog family but most species are omnivorous; (informal) a name for Russia; the constellation Ursa Major or Ursa Minor; a large, heavy, cumbersome man; (informal) a gay or bisexual man with a burly physique and a large amount of body hair; (dated) (informal) a rough, bad-mannered, or uncouth person; (informal) (US) something that is very difficult or unpleasant to deal with; (stock market) a person who forecasts that prices of stocks or commodities will fall, especially a person who sells shares hoping to buy them back later at a lower price
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Idk if this has been talked abt in here before but.. what kind of wedding would you think bakugou would like to have🤔? A lavish one? Or simple and sweet ceremony? Or somewhere in between....or something else entirely.? I think he wouldn't want a very grand wedding but if his s/o insisted then maybe.. but what do you think? (you don't have to agree with me you can completely disagree if you want)..And also, what kind of wedding would you like to have with bakugou💕😍 or maybe any of yr favs??
Hm, good question and thank you sm for asking me!!!🙏🏻❤️
I think... Bakugo would be some sort of combination of all of the above. I definitely see him as having a few ideas of his own about what he wants in a wedding, but it's all majorly swayed by your own thoughts/plans, and how involved you actually want to be in the whole thing.
If you want full control of things... he's probably putting in a little bit of input here and there, but if you just want to spout off ideas, he's fine making the arrangements, too. That sounds a little... wishy-washy, I'm sure, but given you talk about it a lot wayyy beforehand, he ends up pretty prepared for either thing, either way (plus his mom would definitely want to help, so it wouldn't all be on him).
Personally, I believe he'd want extravagant, but wouldn't care for that many guests. Expensive, but low-key and classy. And probably would aim for something a little more modern if you were comparing to someone like... Todoroki, for example (in style, decor, ceremony, the works).
I also think... LOL I actually think a wedding out in nature would really be in his wheelhouse, too. Maybe not if you wanted guests (cuz he wouldn't want to deal with his mom complaining about dirty outfits and/or Denki about the walk to the location), but a vow exchange/ceremony/pictures of only you two up in the mountains? Yeah, absolutely him. Then, if you wanted, some sort of celebration with your friends and family afterwards.
That's probably what I'd go with. Maybe not... anywhere outdoors where I could get ticks (I'm scared of ticks and would def look nervous in all the pictures LMAO)... but doing vows alone and then having a big reception w/ everyone later honestly sounds perfect. That way there'd be intimacy but all the fun of a party, too🥰
I loved this question so much though hehehe, what would you go with, if something different than your descriptions? Mwah!
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