#you kids are lucky

[brightlotusmoon]

Natalie Morales would like you to know nothing about her, except for one thing…

"I know in a lot of places, things are different these days. Schools openly display pride posters and have LGBT clubs. Gay marriage is legal nationwide, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” has been repealed and LGBTQ rights are front and center in our national discussion. It’s getting easier and easier for kids to come out. Not everywhere, not all the time, but we’re getting somewhere.

That wasn’t the case not that long ago. Katy and I had to hide. We shared a notebook we’d write notes to each other in and exchange it by putting it in our lockers during the day to communicate back and forth. Her name in that notebook was “Jorgie” in case my mom or anyone found it. We created a whole backstory. Jorgie was a football player, and in hindsight, Jorgie was maybe not the most masculine name we could have come up with? I told one friend about it; a gay goth guy I knew who was so sweet and understanding and constantly getting beat up for being all of those things. Katy and I would go to her house during lunch and make out and talk and be in love and then go back to school and never touch in front of anyone.

Understandably, Katy eventually got a little frustrated with that. Once, Katy and I were watching a movie at my house and we were under the covers on my bed. My mom walked by, saw us, and asked what we were doing. I said “We’re cold.” When Katy left, my mom said, “You need to be careful around that girl. She’s not like you.”

We broke up in a dramatic fashion while I operated a spotlight during a pep rally. She ripped up our notebook and threw it at me, along with a note she’d found where I told my goth friend she was being “clingy and weird” just because she had the desire to show any kind of affection towards me when we weren’t in hiding.

The ripped pages of all of my secrets rained down on the population of the school in the auditorium below us, and I thought, for sure, my life was over forever."

#queer history #this was very common back then #you had to hide #the 1990s and 2000s were weird #you kids are lucky #i sound like my mother

[chinelacanta]

i like to think that ever since they met it was mutually ON SIGHT bullying <3

they’re both losers (said with love)

#firm believer of shanks being the last to genuinely warm up to luffy but the one who loves him the most #its a dad and the cat situation #also luffy befriend ALL the other akagamis before shanks is so funny #shanks being like: this pint sized toddler is stealing my crew <:((( #thus the bullying instincts kick off #also also imagine like #shanks laughing and going :its ok they’re just entertaining a kid #and the akagamis are like: we’d trade you for him without second thought #their beloathed high maintenance captain who they unfortunately love #oughghhh i love the red hair pirates being luffys family hold on i need to have a quick cry abt it #monkey d luffy #red haired shanks #benn beckman #yasopp #lucky roux #red hair pirates #one piece #my art!!

[inkskinned]

you were raised in comparison.

it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.

you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.

you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.

what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.

it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.

you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.

you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?

a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.

you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.

it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.

something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.

#writeblr #warm up #my dad was actively doing bad shit to us and we STILL were told we were lucky . and to a point i do think im lucky #i just think also there's somethin to be said about like. how about we stop using comparison to dismiss ppls individual struggles #yes there are people who have no perspective. for the reference tho having perspective actually made me really unwilling to get help #for what was a serious and debilitating mental health issue. bc i thought i didnt DESERVE IT #and i would rather have 600 ppl who aren't THAT bad get help and get heard and get seen #than make any 1 kid. do the math that i did: look at the world that is dying and the people who are hurting and say #''oh. okay. others have it worse. they are probably better people than i am. i am being unreasonable. i cannot ask for help #i am not good. i am taking too much space. i am not worth saving.'' #bc our WHOLE lives we are taught a scarcity mindset - that you can 'steal' from someone. so that instead of changing a system that doesn't #actually offer fair support to everyone #we put the impetus on the individual to just... demand less. #and here's something - there are probably ppl who think i DIDNT deserve to get help #bc i DID have it better than other people #and something about that is ... so sickening. bc i think all of us in some way at some point WILL need help. #we were supposed to make communities. we were supposed to offer our hands. we were supposed to raise the barn #instead we said: it could be worse. now handle it yourself

[antitheticaldrmgirl]

In case anyone still needs them, here are the new unreleased 2003 Taylor Swift songs that just surfaced. Genius and other lyric sites aren't allowing the lyrics to be uploaded yet, so I included lyrics too.

Same Girl (previously leaked)

Baby Blue (not previously leaked)

Never Fade (previously leaked)

Fire (not previously leaked)

Mary Jo (not previously leaked)

My Turn To Be Me (previously leaked)

Kid In The Crowd (not previously leaked)

I Used To Fly (previously leaked)

Lucky You - acoustic version (not previously available)

Point Of View (previously leaked)

Why Do You Tell Me? (not previously leaked)

Houston Rodeo (not previously leaked)

A Little More Like You (not previously leaked)

One-Sided Goodbye (not previously leaked)

Ride On (not previously leaked)

Smokey Black Nights - acoustic version (not previously available)

Half-Way To Texas (not previously leaked)

Beautiful Days (not previously leaked)

Your Heart's Somewhere Else (not previously leaked)

Lucky You - Mix (previously leaked)

Smokey Black Nights - Mix (previously leaked)

#taylor swift #taylor swift unreleased #same girl #baby blue #never fade #fire #mary jo #my turn to be me #kid in the crowd #i used to fly #lucky you #lucky you acoustic #point of view #why do you tell me #houston rodeo #a little more like you #one sided goodbye #ride on #smokey black nights #smokey black nights acoustic #halfway to texas #beautiful days #your heart's somewhere else #lucky you mix #smokey black nights mix

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Due to that post I made re: why it's hard for aros/aces to imagine a future for themselves because society tells you a romantic partner will always take priority, a lot of people (aros/aces and allos alike) are sharing stories about how they have been discarded by their close friends and it's breaking my heart. But allos and aspecs coming in and sharing how they have the same amount of love for their partners and their best friends/siblings is healing it.

Still, there are people in the tags saying that aros/aces can "never offer their partners the kind of intimacy they need" and so they shouldn't be "surprised" when they feel closer to partners than their friends. You guys are missing the point.

The point is that we should NOT be ranking our relationships. People aren't there to be ranked on a scale of "This person is my number one and this person comes after that." The point is that you need multiple people in your life. One person cannot - and should not - be responsible for giving you everything you need. Different people will give you different things that you need in life and you should value all of them.

The idea that a romantic partner will give you every single thing you need in life is a toxic idea in itself and puts undue pressure on said partner and the relationship as a whole. A best friend won't give you everything either. You NEED multiple people in your life and they will all give you a part of what you need, but there is no one perfect person out there who perfectly gives you exactly what you want. We need multiple people and they should all be valued by you. Love is not limited.

#aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #aro #ace #aromanticism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace #This idea that a romantic partner comes before everything and everyone else is a very Western idea too #I'm grateful that I live in a culture where family and community are important parts of life. #I'm lucky that my best friend considers me as important as her husband #i'm lucky that I'm close to my family and have unconditional love from them #why do I have to rank the relationships in my life #a mother with two kids can love and prioritise them equally #as my own mother does #why is it impossible for some of you to imagine doing that with other relationships in your life? #(i wrote this when I was sleepy and wrote unrequited love instead of unconditional love i'm so dumb lol #i do return my family's love)

[timelessbian]

poseidon being so whipped for sally that he lets her keep him on magical speed dial this is literally the funniest change the show could possibly have made

#pjo spoilers #pjotv #i mean bitch me too the fuck!! #you cannot tell me he didn't think he was about to get lucky #and instead he had to play therapist and willingly neglect his kid on the other side of the room i'm dhbvhfbfjndfnv #sally jackson #poseidon #i mean i know he canonically wanted to build her an undersea palace but a godly batsignal?? he's sooo down bad for her

[strummerjoe]

Is it just me, or is the writing of the new Percy Jackson show kind of brilliant? Especially when you compare it to the original books.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the books a lot, and I'm not trying to tear them down. But the actual structure of the books involves a lot of the kids just sort of bumbling from one greek myth to another.

As you get Percy's POV a lot of the fun of those scenes is figuring out which greek myth is playing out - but in the show they recognise this right off the bat, which allows them to dive a little deeper.

So instead of spending time figuring out that Aunty Em is Medusa, they immediately make the connection and instead the story focuses on whether or not Medusa is actually a villain.

And the amount of characterization they've built into each monster encounter is *chefs kiss* they've made them all so personal to our trio of heroes.

I've rarely seen a book-to-screen adaption that succeeded in adding to the depth of the original story like this and I'm so here for it!

#Also seeing Grover take on Ares was soooo good #Or watching Percy and Annabeths growing trust in how they handled the chair-trap #Like these kids are not just stumbling around and getting lucky they're MAKING CHOICES and I'm here for it #Also very glad to see that Rick Riordan is so involved with the writing of the show #And I get that there are some changes and if you wanted a 1:1 adaption you might be dissatisfied #but personally I think trying to adapt book to screen as a 1:1 never works and the screen version always suffers. #pjo #percy jackson #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson series

[wantbytaemin]

it’s whatever you say gorgeous

#we’re so lucky i didn’t call him a pretty pretty princess btw i mean HUH where’s that loud train when you need it smh !!! #his big brown eyes and swagless demeanour.. #stray kids #medvjedić lino #x

[mrtequilasunset]

I imagine a day off is very precious to an officer of the RCM.

#best to spend it with someone you love #domesticity is good for the soul #kim and harry purposefully cut his hair near the radio so harry can fidget with it while he sits still #also i imagine it took SO much convincing to get jules to play cards #theyre lucky he was bored #also something something mack is the pitcher chester is the catcher if you get me #judits kid is a lil sick #and alice is on the phone with apricot pidieu theyre best friends #harry du bois #kim kitsuragi #judit minot #trant heidelstam #disco elysium #disco elysium art #jean vicquemare #jules pidieu #mack torson #chester mclaine #alice demettrie #harrykim #kimharry #precinct 41

[chrisbangs]

231003 ♡ Happy Birthday Bang Chan!

#chan #bang chan #stray kids #cb97net #createskz #*gfx #*m #long post #all the stars in the sky couldnt compare to how much i love you... thank you forever and for always... #i will be by your side till the sun sets okay? #together always... im happy here with you #you changed my life and made me into a warmer person... #i think im so lucky that the universe led me to you... im so grateful that you exist here with me... #my everything... you are always my brightest sun and i hope to continue to be your moon #how many times can i say thank you till my tongue grows numb it still wouldnt be enough... to say thank you to you #because of you i am here still today... because of your kind words i was able to hold onto who i was that night #im never truly alone because you're always a part of my heart and who i am now.. you exist inside my very heart #you are so truly and deeply a soulmate to me... #i love you... so much..

[tapefish]

dont worry about me, got all the luck I need

#id in alt #my art #kobra kid #yes it took a while to build that collection yes it acts as an impromptu flail #something something stealing good luck charms from other racers (sometimes corpses sometimes not) #he'll take a racers lucky charms for losing over carbons/supplies (everyone hates that). he makes it personal lol #kobra voice: well CLEARLY it wasnt working for them #cherri voice: when you get jumped for this. I'll help #boy doesnt care if its good or bad luck hell take everything he can get #does it work? probably not. has he lost yet? probably not #also to list all the charms I added :] acorn bat cherries rabbits foot mustard seed ace of spades clover ladybug fish bell horseshoe #triple sevens snake eyes rosary/bad luck beads!! #also kobras knuckle tats say lucky yyou and the back of their hands are just. littered with stick and pokes of other luck symbols #way to tkake a motif and beat it into the ground

[seo-changbinnies]

countdown to @exocean​‘s bday: d-0: glasses!

#stray kids #changbin #seochangbinet #createskz #bystay #staysource #jypartists #malegroupsnet #seo changbin #stray kids gifs #stray kids changbin #skz #my.gifs #mobday2023 #IDK WHY THIS DIDNT POST I HAD IT QUEUED UP BUT TUNBLR ATE THE WHOLE POST #anyways HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE #i hope this year has been good to you and i hope next year is even better <333 #thank you for being my best friend and for putting up with me ladfjkald #thank you for always being so kind and loving and warm with not just me but everyone you interact with #so lucky to be ur avi twin <3 i love you!

[vse-kar-vem]

everybody's waiting at the ball 👁️🪩💡🌟🕯️

#FOR YOU TO SHINEEE LIKE A LIGHTHOUSE AFTER ALLLLLL~~~ #joker out #bojan cvjetićanin #kris guštin #jan peteh #jure maček #nace jordan #thank you to eryka c28hunter for helping w my chronic inability to draw jan peteh !!!! 🥰🥰 #sorry this design is so cliched and overdone #whatever #THE NEW SONG???? OH MY GOD? they weren't kidding about it being different and its grown on me so much #i've been looping it on and off over the past two days and OUGh the vocals at the end always hit i dunno #hope that guessing at their outfits paid off btw some (kris & nace) were easy some (jan and bojan) i had to spot in the background #AND JURE'S i had to base off a single dim bts photo WHERE HIS BACK IS FACING THE CAMERA 😭 #anywayz ..... half term hw am i right ! have to get started on that #joker out fandom is sooo lucky i am in school otherwise it would be over for everyone 100% #my art

[20dollarlolita]

Quick reminder that you're allowed to have fun.

Back when I cosplayed, I put a ton of effort into cosplays. I did a ton of research, fabric sourcing, learning new construction techniques, trying to get everything to look good and be the perfect thing that I wanted it to be. I wanted to win awards. I wanted to be the very best, like no one ever was.

I got into cosplay because I was in a Twilight cosplay group. We would get together, to go Ross Dress for Less, buy new outfits, get together, go to the park or to the mall, and pretend to be vampires. One of the people in the group had a camera and took pictures, and that was what we did. We didn't make any really good cosplays or any really good photos, but I had so much fun going into the park in the rain wearing a sleeveless dress and pretending that I wasn't freezing, while our Bella cosplayer got to be the only person in a jacket and had to pretend she was miserable.

We weren't a good cosplay group, objectively speaking. We never won awards. We weren't interviewed by blogs. We weren't ever the group that everyone wanted to take pictures of at the convention. I got into doing more cosplay, but a lot of people in that group didn't cosplay outside of that group. A lot of them never cosplayed again, once we all went to college and stopped going to the mall and taking tons of pictures in the food court.

(For everyone who wants to imagine this, this was 2008 and cell phones didn't have cameras that could be dumped onto your computer, so there was several high schoolers pretending to be vampires and one person with a full DSLR with a 300mm zoom lens following them around like the whole grous wasn't a total ball of chaos).

And, you know what? We had fun. It's okay to do things just because it's fun.

With so many professionals posting information on the internet about how they do their craft, it's an amazing time to get into a lot of hobbies. Instead of hoarding information, a ton of hobbyists and professionals alike share their work and techniques and tools freely online. Anyone who wants to can learn how to use the same tools and do the same techniques. I applaud every professional who is taking the time to make resources so that new people can learn how to do things and join in their profession or hobby. Everyone who makes a roller skate tutorial on instagram, everyone who makes an instructable on using a soldering iron, everyone who posted a tiktok about the best way to melt cheese over rice, all those long and pretentious youtube videos about picking the best whiskey to go with the best cigars, videos explaining the bizarreness of Edwardian table manners, you all are amazing. You're sharing this information and enabling new people to learn about something that's important to you. This is really cool. I love you.

But, to everyone who is consuming this media that has been created, and find it intimidating, you're not alone. Someone with a functioning studio who is doing a makeup tutorial in a 4K camera with a high quality ring light and a $89 foundation brush, even sharing their technique freely, can make you feel like you won't have good makeup skills until you also have a ring light and a nice brush. You wanted to build a model of an airplane and looked up a tutorial, and this guy makes it look really easy but he has a double-action airbrush and a fume hood, so you feel like you're not ready to make this model because you don't have the right gear.

I know that this intimidation factor is not something that content creators making tutorials want to be there. I make tutorials and I don't want to intimidate people with a big list of tools and techniques, but I'm sure there's people who wanted to get into lolita fashion and found that my blog was more intimidating than helpful.

So I'm not here to tell content creators to stop making tutorials. The open sharing of information is one of the coolest things about the internet, and I don't want that to change.

But I do want to say something to the person who has watched 160 cake decorating videos in the past week and wanting to try it themselves. I want to say that to someone who has gone through 18 years of jfashion blog archives and wants to build an EGL coordinate. I want to say something to people who've built up an elaborate fictional world and amazing characters in their heads and who wants to share it with someone.

It's okay to do a thing without getting into the hobby. You're allowed to make one cake and decide that it's not for you. You're allowed to take the face off a Monster High doll and not like the process of putting on a new one. You're allowed to assemble one EGL outfit and not want to make a full closet of pieces. You're allowed to write down your story and give it to a friend without ever submitting it to a publisher. You're allowed to paint your DND minis with Apple Barrel acrylics and toothpicks. You're allowed to put on your eyeshadow with the little sponge stick that comes with the $9 palette you got at CVS.

Getting into wood carving is cool, but carving one spoon and then never picking it back up again isn't a failure at getting into a hobby. You made a spoon! That's so cool! You didn't fail to make a spoon just because you didn't make a second one. Building one coordinate and wearing it over and over for conventions and photoshoots isn't a failure to wear the fashion, even if you don't make a whole wardrobe with multiple looks. You can buy a $12 guitar at a yard sale and just play Wonderwall on it on Omegle and have more fun than someone who is dedicated to learning a full set and play professionally in front of people. You can knit a single scarf, hammer together a single planter box, DM a single session of D&D, and then not do it ever again. That's creation, not failure.

And you don't need to research everything and follow tutorials and get it right. You're allowed to experiment and have fun and do it wrong, and you're allowed to guess about the right way to do something. You're allowed to bring your outside perspective into something and try a technique. You're allowed to take experience you have from something and try to cross-apply it to something else. That's two of the ways that new techniques are made! And you're allowed to do something and not like it! You're allowed to do it wrong! You're allowed to give up halfway through and say you'll finish it later, and then never finish it later! You're allowed to bullshit your way through things.

You're allowed to not be serious about things. Throwing a Bridgerton party is probably really fun, but so it putting on cardboard top hats from the dollar store while holding shot glasses over your eyes like monocles and shouting "GOOOOOOOD HEEAAAAAVENS, LAAAAARYYYY," in an exaggerated tone while everyone drinks Old Crow and vows to never buy Swisher Sweets ever again. You're allowed to do things that objectively aren't good, don't showcase skills, don't create something impressive. You're allowed to do these things because they're fun, or because you think they might be fun.

Maybe you like it. Maybe you don't. But you don't need to commit to doing things like the professionals in order to find legitimacy in a thing you attempt. Your attempt is legitimate. Go try the thing.

And if you don't like it, your attempt was still legitimate. Good job trying the thing.

#for those of you who were too young to remember #there was a period of time where cell phones had cameras but you couldn't get the pictures off the phone and onto your computer #verizon would charge you 25 cents per picture to email a picture to your computer #kids these days don't know how lucky they are #also don't start smoking cigars just because it looks cool on youtube #haven't you all seen pinochio and shit? #alcohol cw #tobacco cw #20dollarlolita pep talks

[kaylas-world-0]

Seeing Rayman angry(upset but not sad) while he normally is so cheeriful is something

#rayman #rayman x reader #I write this as I listen him sing sexbomb #all this new info about him confusing me to collect who he actually is ffff #who am I gonna believe #games? #series? #loves kids. check #happy go lucky attiud. check #knows when to act. check #knows humor. check #having some kind of sense of responsibilities? check #all those alcohol and stuff? you lost me #everyone says itso in character (it's a bit like that in the games too) #so i guess that's cool now dkjdkd

[serenashido]

:0 look who's with sunny in whitespace

#omori #sunny omori #omori omori #basil omori #sunflower omori #omorigame #omori sunflower #basil x sunny #sunny x basil #them #this is gonna flop innit #well #for the 3 ppl that see this i hope you like it #and if youre a lucky fourth person i hope u like it too #kidding only god knows how this will turn out #i have more doodles #theyre of heromari #excited to share them #okay bye