#Death doulas

[lazyydaisyyy]

‘Death Doulas’ Provide Aid at the End of Life, The New York Times

#‘Death Doulas’ Provide Aid at the End of Life #new york times #quote #excerpt #death doulas #grief

[whoneedssexed]

#death doula #doula #doulas #death doulas #death #death positivity #death positive #covid #covid 19 #death acceptance #found out that using this archive let's you read articles for free lol

[qcsupermom]

You may have heard of a birth doula – someone who provides non-medical support and advocacy throughout pregnancy, birth and after the baby has been born. More recently, so-called death doulas have became more popular. We are people who assist at the other end of the lifespan . We support good deaths. Death doulas can play a pivotal role in supporting a dying person and those around them. Their support can be emotional and practical.

We do many things. We can help develop a plan around the wishes and values of the dying person, advocate on behalf of the patient, attend to and manage their symptoms, conduct life reviews, and help to resolve unresolved issues for starters. “When you change the way you view birth, the way you death will change.” What I’ve observed as a death doula is most individuals have thee common…

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#EndOfLifeCare ShareYourStory DyingWish CompassionInCare EndOfLifeJourney gdesurvey gdeplan #EndOfLifeDoula DeathDoula MyTurn NewsweekFeature HonorFinalWishes TheGoodDeathExperience #death coach #Death doulas #death midwife and palliative care doula #dying guide #end-of-life doula #soul midwife

[academyoftheheartandmind]

Death Doulas and Other Poems

By Sharon Scholl Death Doulas Years ago it was young Father Brown old Bishop O’Leary priests at the raw edge of faith with eyes that were too innocent or too full of suffering. Emissaries from that ancient certainty of heaven with rites in secret language chanted to secure safety from the nether regions. Their bedside visit would obtain confession of matters better left unsaid, or hang the…

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#academy of the heart and mind #academyoftheheartandmind #Death Doulas #Journals #Poem #poems #poet #Poetry #Sharon Scholl #Swallowed by Van Gogh

[makorragal-312]

Not Natalia being interested in Buck because of his DEATH...

But then immediately losing interest because he assisted in creating LIFE.

I’M DEAD XD

#911 #911 fox #911 on fox #911 abc #911 on abc #911 season 6 #911 6b #911 love is in the air #911 6b spoilers #evan buckley #911 buck #911 natalia #buddie #buddie 911 #this isn't me trying to read into things btw #i just thought it was pretty funny #i mean think about it #a death doula #dumping someone over the fact that they helped a couple conceive life #i don't know why that makes me laugh but it does #but anyway #hopefully that's the last we see of natalia #no hate to her btw #I just don't like how she thought our golden retriever dying was cool #but anyway can buddie become canon now #like this is really getting ridiculous

[evankinard]

Buck showed an astronomical amount of growth in this episode, from his leadership skills (601) to his professionalism when delivering a baby (season 1) to his ability to separate himself and give the baby away to his real parents despite his own feelings (the entire donor arc). to say he hasn't shown any growth because he stayed in a relationship that, up until this point, and despite the audience being able to see thematic clues that it won't last in the long run, is very new and despite the one hiccup that got resolved with a genuine apology he has not had any reason to turn away from, is a disservice to his character and also just. unfair

#HES NOT GONNA SEE THAT SHES A DEATH DOULA AND BE LIKE. oooh this must be foreshadowing #she's nice and pretty and genuinely apologized. why should he give it a go?? the alternative is stay single which. #why would he if he likes her? even looking through a buddie lens at this point 1. either he knows he loves eddie or 2. he doesn't yet #option 1 its not like eddie's getting down on one knee rn and he's rejecting him what's he gonna do pine away while eddie calls marisol? #and option 2 he doesn't know he loves eddie he doesn't know that's an option so. nice pretty woman? why the fuck not #and frankly if this was the series finale I would have killed myself if everyone was happy and moving on and all buck got #was giving away the donor baby and learning to have peace in solitude fuck that put him with a shallow love interest #911 spoilers #911 fox #911 abc #evan buckley

[stagefoureddiediaz]

How is it I've ended up in a situation where i end up writing two costume metas a week now 🤔😂😳 We are sneak peek meta'ing as there is some juicy stuff in the sneak peaks we've had!! First up,

Madney!!

Lots of check - sooooo much check going on here!! the interesting thing about having both of them in check is how they contrast each other - I think we'll see that Maddie is more confused about things than Chimney is as the episode unfolds. Maddies jacket being a variety of check hints at confusion and danger on multiple fronts - I'd be prepared to put money down on Maddie not only reckoning with the Doug of the equation, but also there being further things for her in relation to her parents and some things around Jee-Yun as well. How exactly we'll see all that play out and how much detail they'll go into over it I have no idea, but I can see 2 possibly 3 different tweed chcks on her jacket, so there are likely to be 2 or 3 things that she has to face up to.

Chimneys Check has however been lurking there below the surface all season long and that very much plays into the longer arc we've seen for him this season. I would've loved to have actually seen the joint therapy session we were supposed to get at the start of the season because I'm sure it would've played into this underlying foreshadowing of danger we have for him, but I have a theory about why we didn't end up seeing it. Chimney's check has nearly always been close to his skin - by that I mean shirts rather than jumpers or jackets - and we've seen a lot of times where it is hidden under a plain jumper or jacket. I don't want to jump the gun too much by making crazy predictions, but as well as foreshadowing his season finale injury, I think we might be seeing some foreshadowing for Chimney keeping some stuff close to his chest that we will get to see play out in season 7 - its feeling very much like this season is setting up some sort of Chimney trauma healing arc that is bigger than the smallish stuff we've been given so far - it has always felt a little off that we never really got to dig into the stuff with Chimneys father more than we did and then with the Kevin stuff we got in the last episode, it feels like the show building towards something bigger for him and the costumes are aiding this subtext.

Eddie and Chris

there are all of the things going on here in this scene!! firstly as has already been mentioned - it is the same knit hoodie that Eddie was wearing in 5x14. We'll come back to Eddie though - I want to start with Chris!

This is the first time we've ever seen Chris in a denim jacket, in fact we've never actually seen him in a jacket at all, we've only seen him in hoodies up to this point. there is something about this being the first time we see him wear one - at Shannons grave side. Denim jackets are culturally tied to westerns, cowboys and to Texas. Christopher wearing one here would appear to be a visual way of tying him to the childhood he had with his mother - backing up the conversation about making s'mores with her when he was younger.

We can't not talk about the striped hoodie Stripes according to my theory are all about change incoming - the theory hasn't yet been disproven by the wardrobe department and I get the feeling that here is no different. The idea that a change is coming in Christophers life is one that has been hovering around for a little while and the narrowing of the stripes would suggest that change is getting closer. I can't not mention the fact that the hoodie is also white and grey striped - the horizontal version of Buck shirt from the shooting. this is suggesting two things to me - one it is connecting Chris directly to the fact he nearly lost both parents - sitting at the grave of one parent while wearing something that echoes an outfit from the moment he could've lost a second parent. I also think there is something in the connection to Buck specifically in this - its directly connected to the will and that Chris has a third parent - I can't wait to see if I'm just clowning hard, or if the change the stripes Chris is wearing are foreshadowing some connetion to the will!

I do want to touch on the fact that he has short trousers on here - I'm fascinated by them as a choice because again, they're not something we've seen Chris wearing before and my brain automatically went to Buck and the short trousers he has been wearing a lot of. The ones we see Chris in here are a bit shorter than the ones Buck wears but I do think it was an interesting choice - I hope we get to see Chris moving in them so I can see exactly how short they actually are, because if they are meant to mimic Bucks then that is very much a choice by the costume department - to connect Christophers past with his present and future!

Back to Eddies greenish black hoodie. while there is very much the connection to Buck misunderstanding the assignment and the heart metaphors at play, there is another aspect to this outfit being worn again and that is his therapy session with Frank

You get some weird screenshots from this scene from me because I want you to look at Eddies arm (this is literally the only vaguely decent shot of it I can get from the sneak peek!) and notice how Eddie is very much not wearing his watch - there is no watch to be seen work or home or fancy watch!!! this is very much saying that Eddie isn't racing against time here or any of the other time metaphors that are in play - other than Eddie has time, that Eddie has moved on and is at peace with Shannon now - something also supported by the choice of flowers at the grave.

I love flower meanings (if you hadn't already figured that out) and the bouquet of roses with some goldenrods is interesting! Goldenrods represent happiness and sincerity and are also associated with new beginnings. The roses are in dark red, coral orange, pale yellow and white. Roses are all generally associated with love, but each colour represents a different aspects or types of love. they do also have some other meanings attached to them. Yellow roses are symbols of friendship and they are connected with Dia de Muertos - the day of the dead, where they are a symbol of remembrance. The white roses are a symbol of innocence and purity, but also represent new beginnings (which is why they're often seen at weddings). the red roses are romantic love and the orange ones bridge the gap between romantic love and friendship - interesting that there is the most of these ones - suggesting that Eddies feelings towards Shannon sit more in the fond friendship and remembrance zone rather than the romantic zone - its saying that Eddie has and is moving on from her - that he will always think of her with love and affection, but that those feelings have subsided into something more like friendship. This is a clear symbol of Eddie being ready to move on fro her.

Natalia

Oh there is so much going on here that I can't even begin to tell you!!!

first up - her hand is bound in a handkerchief with what appear to be blue roses.

Roses in general terms mean love - red for romantic, yellow for friendship etc. Blue roses mean unattainable love (because they do not occur naturally - only through artificial means) - so that would suggest that both love is unattainable for both Natalia and Buck in this direction but also that any feelings etc are not real - they can only be achieved through synthetic or artificial means - suggesting that any attempt at a relationship is going to be forced. Blue roses can also mean (especially the lighter shades of blue) emotions - specifically the finding of hope peace and tranquility. So with all of this in mind we end up with the concept of Buck finding what he’s looking for and that Natalia will help him get there, but that it isn't love, its the peace, tranquility and happiness that he's been seeking.

Natalia wearing a black velvet blazer is also a telling choice - here we have a connection to Bucks date not date outfit from 6x13. Not only does this jacket therefore tie into the idea of dates not actually being dates, that one of them may think that a potential date is a date, when it is in fact not one, but it also plays into the mixed feelings title from that episode as well. overall the jacket is playing into the idea of misunderstandings on some level (Buck continuing to misunderstand the assignment!)

I know you're all staring at how pretty she is, but I want you to look at that necklace!! We have seen that necklace before!!

Sorry for the jump scare, but here it is;

Now why on earth would you put Natalia in the very same necklace as Taylor Kelly unless it means something?!!! I wrote this in my 5x16 costume meta about that necklace and its meaning;

The chain she was wearing however - very interesting - well to me at least!! (you might have already read this part if you read my answer to an ask!!) So chains that look like actual chains (as this one does) are usually representative of bondage or incarceration - such as the chains of slavery or the chains worn by prisoners or the idea of chattel - the concept of possession - belonging to someone or something -such as historically when women became the property of men upon the event of their marriage (the ball and chain). non of the associations with chains are positive ones! There is also the location around her neck - its not worn loose or lower down it is literally like a chain collar around her neck - a noose like position. 

Basically all of this adds up to Taylor signalling that she is essentially making her self a chattel - staking her claim on Buck through the concept of her being the woman in possession. The thing is though that idea is outdated - Taylor herself is outdated (as in to be history soon) and there are so many quotes about breaking free from chains that bind you and that love frees you from your chains. So if Taylor is putting herself into the idea of being a chain - a noose about Bucks neck - the symbolism becomes as much about Taylors attempts to chattel herself as it is about the concept of Buck freeing himself of the chains binding him and the idea that Love will free him from those chains. Now because this is film/tv - the director will use that chain symbolism to point out the love - the audience knows Taylor is in a relationship with Buck so they will subconsciously connect that chain to him. But where Buck is located - that is where the love is and the audiences eye will be draw to that location - in placing Buck with Eddie and not having him come over to the conversation and therefore standing next to Lucy in any way - it is all done to show where the love that will set Buck free is - and that is with Eddie!!

I stand by all I said in that meta - it is all still relevant. However, the fact they’ve chosen to have Natalia wear the necklace we saw Tay Kay in in 5x16 for that very key scene (when Buck was off flirting with Eddie in the background) is less about Natalia herself trying to stake a claim on Buck and much more about what she represents as a death doula. She is a representation of death and this necklace is playing into the idea of death having a claim over Buck - of Buck feeling like death has a claim over him. It continues to play into the theme of Orpheus and Eurydice's that we saw at play through Carla in 6x11. the concept of Buck still wanting to look back rather than forward and the act of looking back pulling you back to the underworld. 

This is telling me that Buck is still drawn by death, that he is attracted to and and chateled or attached to death because he hasn’t yet dealt with any of his route trauma. 

The fact that we see the necklace on Tay Kay at the moment she has to reckon with who she thinks is the wedge in her relationship with Buck, may also be telling because reusing it here potentially has a similar theme at play - there is a third person/thing in any relationship they attempt to create - death that Natalia may end up feeling the same way as Tay Kay - not saying she’s going to be petty and weird like TK was, it is more likely she will recognise the wedge is bucks relationship with death - and it will be a catalyst to Bucks healing making progressI standby.

there is another connection that @theladyyavilee 's eagle eyes spotted - the necklace is also the same as a bracelet that Ana is wearing when Eddie comes across her in Jinx

the meanings are similar to those I've already written about - with Ana the other more subtle connection is the reason Eddie bumps into her at all is because of Izzy Chainz - stuck up on his billboard.

The fact that we have Natalia connected to both Taylor and Ana in this way is in and of itself very telling - the connections to them is telling us that things with Natalia and Buck won't work out - as if we needed any further confirmation, the wardrobe department as always have our backs and just add their weight to all the other indicators. There is also the meaning behind Natalias name - birthday - specifically in connection with Christmas day and the birth of Christ - further tying into the theory that Natalia is going to help Buck move on from his death in some way and this will very likely also have some connection with the route of Bucks trauma - Daniel and the reaso he was born and allow him to get ever closer to finding happiness - it just won't be with her

Right that is quite enough going feral over the sneak peeks - hopefully it will tide you over until the episode airs and I can write my full normal meta!!!

#911 costume department i adore you #sneak peek metas #911 costume meta #kym costume meta #911 costumes #flower meanings #911 spoilers #911 on fox #eddie diaz #christopher diaz #maddie Buckley #chimney han #Natalia the death doula #911 fox

[chronicowboy]

what if chris is struggling with shannon's death more than usual but he doesn't want to worry his dad so he goes to buck who's just had the wisdom of the death doula and in much the same way buck uses taylor to find charlie in eddie's moment of need, buck uses natalia to help chris in his moment of need, comforts chris as best he can with the new understanding of death he's gained and in doing so actually helps himself come to terms with his own death, and then he gets a text from natalia asking him out on a date but he glances over at eddie and chris with one of his soft Looks and sends back a polite refusal before going and sitting with his boys

#sami rambles #idk i just have a gut feeling that the death doula and buck's storyline is going to have something to do with eddie chris and shannon #911 spoilers #911 show #911 fox #evan buckley #eddie diaz #buddie #buck x eddie #911 spec #christopher diaz #buck and christopher #buckley diaz family

[myreigndeer]

#edmundo diaz #eddie diaz #eddie x buck #buck and eddie #buckley #buck 911 #evan buckley #buck buckley #buddie #evan buck buckely #9 1 1 buddie #9 1 1 #9 1 1 fandom #911 abc #911 fandom #911 on fox #death doula

[meep-meep-richie]

Eddie going to Bobby for advice; I see…

#what kind of advice will that be #advice about how do i get my bf so far to dump that death doula? #bobby being a buddie stan since forever #buddie spoilers #911 spoilers #9–1-1 spoilers #911 on fox #9-1-1 fox #911 fox #911 fandom #911 buddie #buddie 911 #evan buckley #eddie diaz #buck x eddie #911 speculation #buddie supremacy #buddie speculation #eddie x buck #911 eddie #911 buck #911 bobby #eddie #buck

[4utubing]

So when s7 arrives—we should see a new couch in Buck’s loft (not the grandmotherly one his mother got for him) since he asked Natalia to help him go pick out a couch.

#911 on fox #911 fox #911 on abc #911 abc #evan buckley #oliver stark #edmundo diaz #ryan guzman #buddie #buck & eddie #christopher diaz #gavin mchugh #911 couch theory #couch theory #Natalia #death doula

[strawberryspence]

i can't believe they made buck's newest girlfriend a death doula. like what was in the air in that writers room?

#this is crazy #theyre so crazy #like yeah lets almost kill buck and then get her gf to be a death doula #thats funny right???? #ill smack yall #buddie rants #buddie #evan buckley #eddie diaz

[wanderingwomanwondering]

A good friend of mine happens to be a certified death doula in Illinois. So just FYI death/end of life doulas are cool and do important work to help a person and their loved ones prepare for death emotionally, spiritually (if that’s a part of their identity/worldview), and practically. They are knowledgeable about death-related laws and practices in their location. Basically death doulas are dope and don’t get enough recognition because they deal in something inherently anxiety provoking. I think it’s amazing that 911’s death and taxes ep will introduce more people to death doulas. I hope they do them justice!

Also, I can’t stress enough how meaningful it is to buck’s story that he’s facing his own death and processing that epic event with a qualified professional. The doula can help him make sense of it for himself and maybe offer some insight into how his literal 3 mins and 17 sec of being gone impacted those who love him in a profound way.

Buck may also be able to bring some of what he learns from the death doula back to the diazes to help them process the old grief of shannon’s death in a new way. Honestly I think it could be amazing to see buck talk to chris in particular, helping chris through this round of processing (because it’s an iterative thing!) and solidifying buck’s parental role more deeply within the narrative. With eddie, buck could offer a listening ear as usual and normalize the fact that eddie is allowed to BOTH miss shannon AND be ready to move forward with his own life. In the same vein, chris can miss his mom AND be able to slowly accept another person entering the diaz household.

#buddie #buckley diaz family #death doula #end of life doula #911 6x15 #911 fox

[hirakiyois]

the 911 writers are smart because the only thing that could validate a non-eddie romance for buck in my eyes is the fact that it's a non-skinny woc. like they got me there. this will tide me over spectacularly.

#911 fox #911 #buddie #evan buckley #eddie diaz #natalia death doula is her official name till now so I'll just stick with that #im still a buddie warrior i fear #but it's so damn rewarding to a see non-skinny love interest #first karen and now natalia #i used to pray for days like this #and my prayers have been answered

[matan4il]

I saw your response to the anon ask about Buck and Natalia. I like to think that Natalia's purpose is twofold. Natalia is obviously interested in talking about Buck's death/coma dream, and while she doesn't have the most sensitive approach, we're shown that Buck needs to talk about his death without worrying over the judgement and trauma of others. Secondly Buck now knows how to walk away from someone that isn't good for him. Walking away without dragging it out would show his growth

Hi Nonnie! Well, TBH there were quite a few asks on that, so I'm not sure which one you're referring to, but if people are confused, it's always possible to scroll back and find all replies in my ask tag or to look at another specific tag, like one for the death doula.

As for Natalia's purpose, I'm sure that just like with Taylor, we'd be better able to judge it once her arc is completed. I did hope Taylor's purpose would be to help Buck choose to be the one who walks away for once, and that was exactly what we got. So I'm good with waiting to see what they have in mind for her that would make this different to what we saw with Taylor (because so far, the throwing himself in too deep, too quickly, is kind of standard Buck. But as we sad, healing is not linear, and sometimes you have to regress in order to be able to take two steps forward in a healthier direction).

Have a good day! Not repeating the ask tag, 'coz it's up there. xoxox

#buddie #911meta #buddie meta #911 meta #9-1-1 #evan buckley #eddie diaz #edmundo diaz #evan buck buckley #911 #the death doula #anti bucknatalia #anti bucktaylor #ask #anon ask #911onabc #911 on abc #911abc #911 abc

[stagefoureddiediaz]

Currently feeling a bit feral over the fact that Natalia means Christmas Day - as in the birth of Jesus Christ and Bucks story is so heavily leaning into the birth death and resurrection of Christ - the saviour - as a central part of his narrative arc. Her presence is literally about the birth of buck - as in processing his grief about why he was born - as a saviour baby.

#Buck hasn’t processed that trauma that dates back to his birth #he was never allowed to grieve the brother he didn’t know he had #and then he was in a coma where he created this version of Daniel - a deep rooted trauma response in itself #but that’s brought the Daniel of it all closer to the surface of his concious #and he needs to process and grieve and allow himself to move on from that #and I think Natalia the death doula is a key part of this - because she is ideally situated to help him process that specific trauma #this isn’t so much about his own recent brush with death (although it’s part of it) it’s about going back to the beginning and processing #he needs to deal with the Daniel of it all before he can deal with everything else #in the same way we had Eddie going back to his own root trauma - with his father - and processing and dealing with things #via frank. this is just Buck taking a different path which will have a similar outcome #yes Buck May date her as he goes through this process but ultimately he’s attracted to her metaphysically - because she can help him #not because he’s actually attracted to her romantically #also the show has doesn’t too much time recently showing us the buddifer family - to ensure we can see where things are heading #before it continues to process their trauma #thinky thoughts #911 spoilers #911 on fox #911 fox #911onfox #evan buckley