#aego

[antikosm]

Aro/Ace Terms Masterlist

Please let me know if I forgot anything

NOTE: There is a distinct difference between someone's personal orientation versus how they feel about sexuality/romanticism as a whole. Someone who's sex/romance repulsed may be in favour of open sexual/romantic expression or even vice versa (shoutout to @sowearecleariamhere for informing me of this!)

Types of attraction

Sexual - I wanna have sex with that

Romantic - I want to date that

Sensual - I want to hug that

Platonic - I want to be friends with that

Platonic crushes do exist. They are called “squishes”. You go through the same process of having a romantic or sexual crush but instead of landing them in bed, you’re on the floor at 2am with pizza rolls, Shrek in the background, talking about eldritch monstrosities (or whatever your shared interest is)

Aesthetic - that looks so heckin’ cool/pretty I love it

Intellectual - the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, i.e. having a conversation, picking their brain, and finding out how they think

Terms describing degree of attraction

Aromantic - lack of romantic attraction

Asexual - lack of sexual attraction

Aplatonic - lack of platonic attraction

Aroace - lack of both sexual and romantic attraction

Demi - attraction only forms once a strong emotional bond has been formed

Grey/gray - rarely/seldom experiences attraction

Allosexual - someone who experiences sexual attraction

I think I’ve also heard/seen it referred to as ‘arosexual’ but that’s honestly a bit confusing

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction

I personally shorten both of those to “allo” (pronounced ‘aloe’)

Apothiosexual - sex-repulsed

Apothioromantic - romance-repulsed

Apothiaroace - often shortened to just ‘apothi’. In addition to being aroace, apothis are repulsed by romantic/sexual scenes, items, displays, etc. to varying degrees

Sex-neutral and sex-positive/favourable aces exist as well

Not all of us have the same level of comfort with sexual and romantic activities so please check. I mean that applies to everyone anyway, but please check and don’t assume that just because someone is aro/ace, that doesn’t mean they are sex/romance repulsed

Queerplatonic - Queerplatonic typically refers to a relationship that bends the lines between a romantic relationship and a non-romantic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) often goes beyond what is socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but does not fit the typical notion of a romantic relationship.

Alterous attraction - a type of emotional attraction to someone that isn’t entirely romantic or platonic.

Chastity - actively refraining from sexual activities. This is NOT part of the ace/aro spectrum, though it is a common assumption when someone says they are ace/aro. Thankfully we’re getting a bit more representation in media now so it’s not as common of an assumption as it used to be, but it’s still there, especially in those communities.

An absolute FANTASTIC addition by @heyftinally in case anyone doesn't see the repost

Gonna expand on sex favorable/neutral/repulsed, since this is a masterlist after all: - Sex favorable - regardless of your sexual orientation, you personally want to engage in sexual activity with someone (significant other, one night stand, friends with benefits, etc) - Sex neutral - if you're with someone who wants to engage in sexual activities then you may or may not, depending on a variety of factors, but you have no strong inclinations for or against engaging in sex itself as an activity. Basically it's "alright" Sex repulsed/averse - the idea of personally engaging in sexual activities makes you want to hurl/cry/claw your skin off/spontaneously combust. If someone suggested doing sexual activities together, you would probably vehemently say "No!" before they even finished the question. You would rather do anything else - Sex positive - refers to your attitudes about sex in general. Regardless of where you fall in the above three terms, you recognize that other people want to, and should have the freedom and right to, engage in consensual sexual activities, even if you personally don't like or want those activities. Essentially shorthand for "I respect the right of other adults to have gay sex, have gender-weird sex, have sex with multiple people in and out of monogamous relationships/marriages, and have weird, wild, freaky kinky sex, so long as all participants and consenting adults". You can still personally want zero sex for yourself or think a particular kink is weird/ick, but you can, in tumblr speak, be normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult stuff - Sex negative - conservative purity culture, basically. You think nobody should have sex ever, or at least not until marriage, and when they do it should only be the "right" or "good" kind, as arbitrarily decided by you/society/some collective. You think badly of, look down on, and may even treat badly anyone who doesn't have the "right" kind of sex in your opinion. You are not normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult activities (even though they don't involve you in any way)

A wonderful addition from @overlord-of-chaos Sex aversion is not the same thing as sex repulsed.

If you are sex adverse, you personally have no desire to partake in any of those actions but seeing or knowing other people partake in that doesn't bother you.

Sex repulsion is when you can't stand doing it yourself, seeing/hearing about/knowing that others partake in it, or even just the idea of it.

Microlabels/Terms describing flavour of attraction

Note: -sexual is used for many of these so we don't have to deal with duplicates confusing things. All of these prefixes can be used with -romantic, -sexual, -platonic, and I imagine -alterous as well

Abrosexual - orientation fluctuates between a variety of orientations

Aceflux - similar to abrosexual, but orientation is contained to asexual spectrum

Acespike - someone who is asexual but may experience intense, brief, and random bouts of sexual attraction

Aegosexual - disconnect between oneself and the target of arousal

Amicusromantic/sexual - only experiences romantic attraction to those who they have formed a platonic relationship with (subset of demi)

Angled aroace - the same as oriented, but for those who are demi, grey, flux, etc.

Anthrosexual - someone who is attracted to humans and alterhumans regardless of gender identity/expression

Bellussexual - has interest in the aesthetic/aspects/certain sexual actions, but does not experience sexual attraction or want a sexual relationship

Caedsexual - previously allo, but now ace due to past trauma

Cupiosexual - wanting a sexual relationship but not experiencing sexual attraction

Finsexual/gynesexual - attraction to femininity

Fraysexual - opposite of demi. Attraction dissipates once an emotional connection has been formed

Linsexual - attraction to androgyny

Lithosexual - experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated

Loveless Romantic/Lovelessromantic - those who cannot feel love or feel disconnected from love but can feel romantic attraction/don't feel disconnected from the concept of romance

Minsexual/androsexual - attraction to masculinity

Orchid - the opposite of cupio; experiences ____ attraction but has no desire for a relationship of that type

Placiosexual - not wanting to be on the receiving end of sexual activities but wishing to perform them on others

Quiosexual - unable to distinguish between sexual attraction and other forms of attraction

Qui(r)oromantic - inability to distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction

Reciprosexual - not experiencing sexual attraction towards someone until you discover they experience sexual attraction towards you

Requiessexual - similar to caedsexual, but rather than trauma, ace identity originates from a state of emotional exhaustion, usually from a past sexual experience

Oriented aroace -  an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. (i.e. gay aroace, bi aroace)

Angled aroace - someone who is on the aroace spectrum (grey, demi, fray, etc) who experiences a type of attraction significant enough to stand alongside their aroace orientation

Examples of mixed orientations

Heteroromantic asexual biplatonic

Poly greyromantic pansexual

Apothi abroplatonic

Placiosexual aromantic finplatonic

Aroace cupioplatonic

Pan lithioromantic

Fraysexual biromantic aplatonic

You can get WAY more specific than what these cover, but just to give a general idea

Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (2011).

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #microlabels #apothi #litho #cupio #demi #recipro #aego #autochorissexual #greyromantic #greysexual #platonic intimacy #platonic crush #squish #alterous attraction #amatonormativity #anthrosexual #ace spectrum #aro spectrum #acespec #arospec

[gray-ace-space]

interested in sex the same way you can be a sports fan without ever playing a single sport

*reading absolute filth and humming thoughtfully* fascinating.

#og post #asks #humor #ace #acespec #gray ace #aego #asexual #graysexual #gray asexual #aegosexual

[aego-weaver]

Surprise face reveal, just for the joke.

A blank version can be found below the fold.

Go ahead, be funnier than me on my own post.

#asexual #ace #acespec #asexuality #lgbtqia #aspec #aego #aegosexual #aegosexual memes

[acespec-ed]

I made a couple of flow charts for the ace and aro spectrums! Not meant to be taken 100% factual- you know yourself better than a basic flowchart. They’re mainly just for fun, though they can also be a good start for anyone questioning!

(Free to use as long as you keep my url on them and aren’t making money off it!)

#asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec #graysexual #grayromantic #acespike #arospike #aroflux #aceflux #demi #fray #lith #cupio #orchid #apothi #aego #gray #original posts

[drachoemaloy]

Recently found out aegosexual literally means sexuality without self and this is why etymology is one of the coolest things out there

#asexual #acespec #aegosexual #aego #etymology

[cherrytea556]

Shoutout to all the aroace latins out there, especially aroace latinas - sincerely, an aroace latina

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #asexual spectrum #aego #aegosexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #latina #latino #latins

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

me when my favorite aroace posters are both aego like me (it’s you two, thank you)

<3 we’re both Aego in some way I’m pretty sure!!!

#asks #ask #aromantic #aroace #asexual #aego #aegoromantic #aegosexual

[aromanticaro]

Went to a Maskqueerade at my community college with my friends and had so much fun! I even got to make an Aego Aro/Ace mask! I'm now in the school's GSA Discord. I hope I can make it to an irl meeting some day :)

(Sorry for blurry pic, my phone camera is broken)

#aegoromantic #aegosexual #aego #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #mask

[gummy-axolotl]

Aego Gang!!

@unfunnyaceartist @tailsbot98761

#gummyart💜 #moots #aegosexual #aego #asexual #asexual spectrum #lgbtq

[pride-hearts]

Aegosexual Hearts

#aego #aegosexual #aegoace #pride hearts

[batri-jopa]

Aego culture be like...

[Who Framed Roger Rabbit (1988)]

#it's not voyeurism when you're just a silly creature from a different dimention #aegoromantic #aegosexual #aego #asexual #ace #acespec #aromantic #aroace #arospec #who framed roger rabbit #roger rabbit

[fleabittenflags]

[Image Description: Three pride flags of identical structure, each with six stripes. The four outer stripes of each flag are the same size, and the two middle stripes are half the width of the outer stripes. The colors of the innermost stripes are identical for each flag, being white, grey, black, and white. Each flag has a different color of outermost stripes, deep purple on the left flag, green on the center flag, and navy blue on the right flag. End ID.]

Aegosexual (left) | Aegoromantic (center) | Aego Aroace (right)

Some aego- flag designs I made since I couldn’t find any striped versions of them which used their original colors!

#aego #aegosexual #aegoromantic #aegoaroace #aego aroace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #aromantic spectrum #acespec #asexual spectrum #aroacespec #aspec #aroace spectrum #mogai #mogai community #mogai flag #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #liomogai #liom #liom flag #liom community #flag design #fleabittenflags

[gray-ace-space]

no judgements here these are all completely morally neutral ways of experiencing it!

@newpath3432 because you suggested the poll

@aegosexual-moments @cat-flavored @apples9 @arlyiahshay @limetimo because you might also be interested

rb for sample size

(especially curious to hear the allos' perspectives)

#og post #community #acespec #ace #gray ace #demi ace #aceflux #aego #cupio #orchid #poll #survey #queer #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #inclusionist #rad inclus #mogai #asexual #gray asexual #graysexual #asexual spectrum #demisexual #aegosexual #cupiosexual #orchidsexual #aspec #questioning

[palatteflags]

Aegosexual, Cupioromantic, and Girlflux/Girlfluid combo flag! ^^ I tried a few different ways! For an anon~ Hope you like these a bunch!

Want one? Send an ask! -mod Jay

#edits #pride #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtqa #flag edit #edit #pride flag edit #pride flag edits #flag edits #aego #aego pride #aegosexual #aegosexual pride #cupio #cupio pride #cupioromantic #cupioromantic pride #girlflux #girlflux pride #girlfluid #girlfluid pride #combo #combos #combination #combinations #combo flag #combo flags #combos flag

[aego-weaver]

Who am I

Hi, I'm Aego Weaver. Let's break down who I am and why I'm here.

I am an aromantic asexual (i.e. aroace). More specifically, I identify as aegosexual, meaning I enjoy sexual content and the idea of sex, but not the idea of getting involved myself.

At time of writing, I have no practical experience with sex. I am rather curious about it, but without any attraction involved, it's not something I expect to happen any time soon.

I'm a cis guy, for all that matters. I ascribe about as much importance to my gender as I do to my hair color; it doesn't really define me or matter. For this reason, I quite like the label of cassgender.

I was born sometime in the 1990's and live somewhere in the state of Ohio. Further information is not available here.

I am interested in the very narrow space of asexual characters in erotic material. Specifically, any such material that actually respects their identity along the way... I'm not currently aware of any such material, but if I find any, I will recommend it here.

The Essays

Because I am a massive nerd, I'm going to write essays about stuff. I'll link them here once completed. If there's no link, it's an essay I plan to write later.

Asexual Characters Getting Laid

Through the Mirror: Aegosexuality as I see it

What is Gender Anyway?

#aegosexual #asexual #ace #acespec #asexuality #aromantic #aroace #lgbtqia #aego

[shortcakeem0ji]

Blinkie Request:

Aegosexual themed ones. I haven't been able to find any somehow. Would be cool.

ON IT!

EDIT: HERE U GO!

#ask.exe #anon.exe #blinkie request #blinkies #blinkers #web graphics #old internet #webcore #old web #aegosexual #aego #art.exe